The main message from this: - Suffering is caused by attributing meaning to the things people do or say. Dissolve the meaning to stop your suffering. - Use the following exercise: - Recall the negative feeling. - What happened before the emotion? - Identify the event before the negative event. - What was the meaning that you gave the event? - Make a clear distinction between the event and the meaning. - Find alternative meanings behind the event. - Meanings can cause emotions only because we think it’s a part of reality. Remember it’s only in your mind. - Think of the event and notice the feeling has disappeared. This talk is brilliant. Such an awesome human being!

@graciborski

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the recap!

@doloreswoodrum9184

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for writing this summary! ♥

@candykandy

2 жыл бұрын

@@doloreswoodrum9184 You are most welcome!

@gitanodel69

9 ай бұрын

"Identify the event before the negative event" I think you meant the negative feeling/emotion

A legend and grandfather to removing limiting beliefs RIP

Morty Lefkoe method changed my life. 📈

I have developed several processes for change, including one that permanently eliminates beliefs (like I'm not good enough and Life is difficult) in about 15-20 minutes (150,000 have tried that one), one that de-conditions the triggers for emotional eating and other addictions, and one that de-conditions the events that cause negative feelings. Those processes and the Lefkoe Occurring Process, which dissolves meaning (and the feelings it causes) in seconds, comprise The Lefkoe Method.

@angalmeida29

5 жыл бұрын

Morty Lefkoe Rest In Peace :) senDing love to Shelly

@ulysses_grant

Жыл бұрын

RIP Morty.

"its not the pain that causes us suffering, its the *meaning* we give our pain that causes us suffering"

@DaPoopIsInDaPudding

5 жыл бұрын

That’s a powerful phrase. You should copyright that.

@susydyson1750

3 жыл бұрын

even when purposely chucked at one... with that intention ( of causing pain and suffering) it'll be an interesting and exciting experience watching the effect that this has on me !

@geraldleamon3190

3 жыл бұрын

ĺlllll

A Course in Miracles workbook begin with Lesson 1: "Nothing I see MEANS anything." Lesson 2 is, "I have given everything I see all the MEANING that it has for me." And it continues with lessons about meaning and forgiveness and such. Mr. Lefkoe's exercises are the practical application of those lessons and he has clarified the value of the first lesson to me... "Meaning" - our perception of meaning and meaninglessness - permeates all the rest of the Course, which covers everything we need to know to live a happy, healthy life while on this planet. Thank you, Morty, for this wonderful talk.

Applying this process has increased my self-esteem

@gaurav3290

Жыл бұрын

How ?

It’s always nice to have people like this who spread spiritual concepts under a veil to get through to the more closed minded and/or unaware individuals.

One of the best things about beliefs I have ever seen

@livelovelaugh3311

5 жыл бұрын

This was such an eye opener for me Agnes... I realised how I pushed my sp away with giving so much meaning into little things he did....

@livelovelaugh3311

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Agnes.. I learnt so much from this

@subliminaltester7000

5 жыл бұрын

David Ekstrom I want it! What’s your email ?

@ArletteMaotieBomahou

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Agnes for recommending this video! It helps a lot my journey to self-love

@humprey2

3 жыл бұрын

I keep coming back to it to this day! 😊

There's the event, then there's the story you make it mean and believe is true. I learned this great teaching in the Landmark Forum.

This is probably the best self help video I have ever seen. no religion no weird 'out there' stuff, just plain common sense. in my opinion

I have much respect for Morty, -always have. R.I.P. Morty. ♥

@craiggleeson7335

3 жыл бұрын

this is so sad to hear i came on here and his words were so powerful!

I LOVE THIS< it is so simple, and brilliant, thanks Morty and Shelly for the incredible work you do

@ceraselanicoletamanole4778

5 жыл бұрын

Agnes Vivarelli Thankyou! Helpful! 😘

So empowering. “This is an idea worth spreading” absolutely Morty, thank you for this gift you left us, it keeps on giving 🌈

I had to learn the terminal illness diagnosis the hard way, but my life is so much happier now that I have accepted it and let go of the meaning. I live more now than I did before.

This man was absolutely brilliant in his work, he perfected his craft well and helped so many 👌

Morty past away on 11/11/15. Godspeed.

@gabrielazapata3392

7 жыл бұрын

Very clear talk with great meaning. Thank you so much!

@miss.bossross2363

5 жыл бұрын

Jeffrey Wolf oh wow. That's sad to hear. May he rest in peace🙏

@mariannefabri774

5 жыл бұрын

May his memory be a blessing

Watch the video again, the guy never said that people should be satisfied with everything that is in their live. He just shows how to stop the suffering. You still can strive for better, not because you think you do a shitty job, but because you want to become a doctor and do whatever you like to do.

Morty has a golden heart and lives his truth.

morty was a real one. R. I. P.

I could not have imagined but know, I'm going to stop my suffering!

This is helpful. Meanings/beliefs are ways we pretend to know things we do not know.

Oh wow....I have been watching ted talks looking for different ideas to help my loved ones go through healing and acceptance of 2 loved ones passing. Just realized reading the comments some speakers have passed away....its still sinking in and I don't know how to feel about this.

Incredible process! We choose from an inifinite number of meanings about an event, that meaning (or story) determines how we feel and our response. If we choose that the event has no meaning, then there is no feelings attached to it and hence no response. We have the ability as creative beings to disolve the meaning and our suffering.

I was just emphasising that doing the work you suggest is harder when the person has a lot of difficulties in their life. And I also know how it is to find alternative meanings for huge events, Mine was deportation, losing husband, doggies, land, the life. We had to decide that it was because my voice needed to go back to the UK and reach more people in our return to earth mission.

Thank you for this message of enlightenment! So helpful.

Even better I think is to give GOOD meanings to events. In his example about his wife leaving glasses all over the place by the end of the day, he does give GOOD meanings to that.

Brilliant...I'm so thankful that I'm studying with you!

Absolutely Incredible!!!

i love this.very great message there

This is an excellent talk. Thank you.

I dont think he means dissolving meaning would stop progress, but rather to progress without the suffering

great advice, approach to dealing with life's event

The only truth is the event, not the meanings we give to events. Whenever there's more than one possible interpretation, yours can't be THE truth. Just realizing that, dissolves meaning and suffering. Can you really conclude 100% she's a bad person because of her behaviour or even that you are a bad mother because of how your daughter treats you? No, you can not..

Thank you

Thank you so much

Felicidades ! Gracias por explicarlo tan claramente

that was great. Very powerful idea.

To me, a lot of what he is saying is helpful if you unnecessarily interpret events or ideas as negative that don't have to be (things that are rather trivial)...But what about events that are inherently negative from someone or something such as bullying, sexism, brutality, racism, crime, victimization, environmental degradation, injustice, etc We use critical thinking to assign meaning to events or ideas and then use our free will to respond. This leads to a more positive world in many ways! We have to allow for negative emotions and have those emotions empower us to help create a better world.

@ltaditya1

8 жыл бұрын

Read his book "recreate you life" - he's explained it in great detail how even slightest of negative beliefs eventually snowball themselves in something you call "serious". Remove the belief and those experiences are also reversed. It sure did turned my life around in a very short time. I highly recommend his book. Recreate your life By Morty Lefkoe, ladies and gentlemen

@ggg148g

7 жыл бұрын

Kate Kollman , we should not conclude from this talk that everything is OK. Being aware of meanings and not attached to them, gives you much more resilience to overcome injustice when you suffer it and therefore makes you more able to prevent it or stop it when you are not involved.

@JLKeener77

7 жыл бұрын

From reading his blog, Morty claims that no single event is inherently or intrinsically morally right or wrong. I don't agree with Morty on this part of his system. Morty claims that even a terrible thing like racism is not necessarily evil because the existence of racism could quite possibly result in more people being aware of the evils of racism in the future, etc. It is true that racism in the present might help to effect some positive change in the future, but that doesn't mean, to me, that racism in the present has no inherent meaning or moral character. Racism is always evil because it degrades a person's human value because of their skin color.

@ArickC

7 жыл бұрын

Hey Kate, so I've read his work and can tell you this. These events or others have consequences, they can hurt or kill you and are sometimes a direct affect on your survival. From Lefkoe standpoint, there's a difference between meaning and consequences. Consequences are awful at some events, but the meaning you give them will determine your action and the way you feel about them. So, if you seen someone being bullied, you may give it a meaning that "if I try to interrupt this, I may be in danger myself"; well this is right, you might and then you may pass by without doing anything. But once you give it another meaning "This is dangerous, I better call the police or someone else to help" and you are not scared to call for help - you will design a better environment for yourself and others. From that example what you saw is: someone being bullied The meaning you gave it is: "This is dangerous, I may get hurt myself. I better not interrupt this so that they won't notice me" The meaning you can shape/give that event is as you choose, for example: "This is dangerous, I better call for help quickly." and go get that help.

@sunkith5047

6 жыл бұрын

JLKeener77 You could give positive meaning even to an Racism act. How? It is good because it gives your the opportunity to work to end it. It is all about perspective.

Thank you so much for this video Morty :)

Very simple and effective

Great man

Amazing method

Very powerful

This is the exact 'lesson' I'm learning to understand. I've had quite a hard time being able to 'see' it happening in the moment, probably due to my Aries Moon. But I've glimpsed some clarity as of late. Definitely an idea worth spreading/teaching/shining light on. Thank you.

@1998londoner

4 жыл бұрын

Jay Dooley yeah... try a Capricorn Sun/Cancer moon. ..it’s horrendous how my thoughts turn into overwhelming feelings... but I’m leaning to re-programme myself

simple , although it takes lots of practice !! glad i know now it's up to me ...( which won't mean that the event will not be repeated..!)

Must amazing perspective of thinking , thats true , we have to give a positive meNings for events

Very awesome

It's such an amazing video!!

The only reason that you suffer is because you are trying to manifest every single desire at the same time, and the only reason for time is so that you can manifest every single desire one moment at a time. When you put your faith in time and start to believe that with time everything that you want will happen, with time everything that you want starts happening.

Thank you, Morty :-)

Beautiful video 🤩

If it can help suffering people, so far, so good. What surprises me about addictions is how they come and go in life without clear reasons : Coca-Cola, chocolate, Gini, coffee after lunch, I saw all of them, and many others, affecting me at one time or another and then vanishing some months later almost without I noticed anything. Strange :-/

Must watch

Aw sorry to hear he passed.

what a distinction to distinguish a meaning from event and emotion ans suffering , this man is so clear , thank u raja hirekar who shared this video, i learnt it to dissolve my meanings , ashok narayan

I also returned with no money at all other than the $2 given to me by a fellow deportee through the bars in the cage of the van that took us to the plane. I spent five months in jail. All of this I have changed the meaning of and knew I had to do it very quickly. Losing my best friend and my animals was the worst capped by returning here to find my dad had terminal cancer and my mum dementia. Now I live with them helping out. Every day I have to exchange meanings!

@miguelzorro7631

3 жыл бұрын

I hope everything it's great for today

I like this a lot. And one comment - Valerie Harper dealt positively with terminal cancer. However, I assume [!!] she has it fairly comfortable in terms of providing for the necessities - a nice home, etc. Someone diagnosed with terminal cancer who has not the means 2 make their life comfortable might find it a lot harder if they don't have the means 2 be in a nice hospital or have home care or is homeless I think this works for not so deep stresses that make up most of our suffering.

Great talk, but it's important to realize that often times it's not an event that triggers the process (event, meaning, feeling) but thought, and it gets trickier.

Wonderful in that the message of this TED talk is ultimately helpful in life...however as much as I, to some extent, understand its effects in lessening the suffering process, I am rather confused. I know it could be due to the fact that in my mind there might not be a clear distinction between different concepts such as fear, pain, sadness, hopelessness, judgement, and etc. I remember just one of the many reasons that made me suffer in a partnership that broke down was this exact method. Instead of associating the correct meaning, I would use alternative ones which made my angst go away. This came at the price of me not figuring out the red flags earlier on. Yes, paradoxically, the meaning I associate with the failed partnership is NOW stopping me from suffering; however, at that time in the context that I was in and with my overly optimistic personality and naivety in believing everything, this method wasn't useful.

Briliant

Brilliant Event and experiences are neutral They happen out there The meaning we give it, happens in the mind, only internally By changing the meaning to a neutral or positive feeling The bad feeling and suffering is permanently dissolved

Very good! Although I am still irritated by my neighbors little dog barking for every breeze of air that passes lol.

@itzakpoelzig330

Жыл бұрын

That irritating little dog may have prevented your house from being robbed multiple times already. Burglars actively avoid yappy dog situations.

And we thanks to Anges Vivarelli!

R.I.P Morty

I get it!

This just left me more angry than before. Yeah, I get that my thoughts are different from actions in reality, but that doesn't mean they're not linked. This just made me focus on how upset I am and made me feel justified in my anger.

@macrons593

3 жыл бұрын

So you would rather keep being pissed than try to change it? That's about the most illogical thing I've ever heard. This process completely changed me like nothing else

Removing meanings we become depressed

What do you do if the "meaning" DOES actually exist in the world? Say for example, your daughter mouths off at you because she disrespects you. She has admitted that she doesn't respect you, so that meaning IS in the world. Every time she mouths off, you know from experience (and what she's told you) that it is because she doesn't respect you. How do you dissolve the meaning for something you know is true? There seem to be levels to wade through with this.

I am confused. He tells us to dissolve meaning rather than change it but I would have thought the example of the photocopier was an example of changing the meaning of an otherwise boring task into something challenging and even exciting.

If you have any questions, this man goes more into detail in his book called "Re-Create Your Life"

Omg I am like your wife. Drove my dad crazy, when 8 cups were sitting on the windowsill in my bedroom, and now drives my husband crazy. I gotta play this for him lol

But what if the meaning you give to a behavior of a person towards you is congruent with what the person meant by doing so? We always talk about: there are so many different possibilities this or that could have been the reason, you don't know. But what if you were right and not just clinging to a self-constructed illusion in your mind?

@kenilsejani3043

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same question

You're still giving meaning to that event. Your meaning is a variation of: "my daughter MUST respect me, I'm her mother, she OWES me respect and because she doesn't she's a bad person." Though that meaning seems to be THE truth, it's not. Imagine several people watching your daughter disrespecting you. One might think: "she's deeply hurt inside", another: "she needs help to deal with the anger" and another: "that mother didn't teach her daughter how to be respectful". None is THE truth.

The problem I have with this is it doesn’t address the core beliefs that are the cause of the meaning we attribute to any event. The core beliefs can’t be changed through reasoning and logic. You can gloss over them with intellect but they’ll still be there filtering your perceptions and will ultimately win out. How does one truly change core beliefs? I don’t know yet.

@Insouciant9

4 жыл бұрын

Tara Mickey Mickeranno omg, thank you! Let me know if you find an answer.

@Bbhjdidbsbaut

4 жыл бұрын

Well said. You change your core beliefs through the subconscious (subliminals, hypnosis, eft, etc)

@norbidrake

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree with his statement, that events have no inherent meaning, because there are events, that are inherently bad ... but about beliefs, actually this guy has hands down the best approach for quickly changing beliefs and it's pretty similiar to what he talks here. Let's say that someone has core belief - "I'm not good enough". It was formed in childhood. Child concluded it from parents behaviours and reactions, therefore gave a meaning of "I'm not good enough", so steps are: 1.go back in time and remember those situations, 2.write down situations that led to that conclusion eg. "I was never appreciated for my achievements", "I was criticied for a slightest mistakes", give more specific examples if you can rememeber 3.create different meanings, that some neutral person who watch those situations could create like "parents are not patient enough", "parents have bad parenting skills", "parent's are toxic, can't handle their imperfections", "although I couldn't do this thing, it doesn't mean I'm inherently not good enough". If you could create different meanings, that would mean, that meaning "I'm not good enough", was only one of many possible interpretations, not the core truth 4.visualize again those situations and acknowledge that you never SAW "I'm not good enough" in those situations, you saw only reactions of your parents to your behaviours and now you can gave different meanings to those situations, making that core belief invalid.

So pain can mean strength and endurance if we give suffering positive meaning it almost disappears.

R.I.P Morty.

Meaning in an event can also be a good thing, like when we derive a great positive emotion from it. Any comments anyone?

@earthwielder

8 жыл бұрын

I think meaning is the stuff we make stories out of, neither good nor bad. I agree with the speaker's point that we can have a lot more peace when we realize that meaning comes from ourselves. This ties in a lot with the facets of "Giraffe"/ Nonviolent Communication, as I see it.

@darlenelaski9716

7 жыл бұрын

Kavitha M Kanniah I used do this a lot; when I started seeing someone and he didn't call again after the 2nd or third date, that event made me feel rejection, which affected my self-esteem. In reality, he was rejecting me, but the event and my self-esteem have no relationship. Right?

@ggg148g

7 жыл бұрын

Kavitha M Kanniah , I think that the main point os to be aware of them and not attached to them, which on overall os very healthy. But there are many details that cannot fit in 20 minutes talk. Meaning can be positive, or can be even not so internal to our mind and arbitrary as in the examples given.

@JLKeener77

7 жыл бұрын

Here is Morty's detailed answer to your question: www.mortylefkoe.com/positive-emotions/

@ArickC

7 жыл бұрын

Meaning can be good and bad. There are meanings that make you feel good, which are bad - like addiction; smoking makes you feel relaxed - that's a bad conditioned state, eating makes you feel good - that's a bad if you overeat...etc Meaning is what you attribute to an event, like: - You've been fired from job: usually you give it a bad meaning because it affects our survival and self-esteem in case you feel that you're not good enough and that's the reason you've been fired. Instead, you can choose another meaning; You can give no meaning to the event, and it won't even bother you - it's like, you've been fired but that doesn't mean anything cause you can get quickly other position for better payment and fun. - You've been interrupted while you did something you like, can mean that "they don't respect me" or "how can't they see that i'm relaxing, am I not meaningful enough" or etc. While that's a meaning you give the event, the other meaning you can give it: * They interrupted me not because they don't respect me, they just have things they think only I can do the best, that means that I'm very important for them" and etc. So, what's beautiful about Morty's work is that you can shape that meaning and that meaning stays. I for example once felt awful when I was yelled at and today that doesn't bothers me. I was afraid to speak in front of my group at work, today that's like speaking to my best friend - you see, the meanings I gave these things in my life are now the way I wanted them always to be, positive and encouraging.

What about reframing the meaning we give an event, rather than dissolving it and making an event "meaningless"?

@dermotosullivan3065

4 жыл бұрын

That is what I would have thought too. I think attributing meaning to events is natural and after all we may often form positive meanings which enhance our self worth and enjoyment.

@affirmware

4 жыл бұрын

@@dermotosullivan3065 See: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. He has you find meaning to your life to motivate you to move forward.

@dermotosullivan3065

4 жыл бұрын

@@affirmware I read that book many years ago and was very influenced by it. Thanks.

@Firefoxy-rz1nw

2 жыл бұрын

That's what Morty is talking about. When we suffer from the past, he suggests that it's the meaning we gave the event (in most cases, unconsciously) that causes the problem. Like in the story he gave about the photocopier, he explains that you can dissolve the meaning and give it a positive one. That's reframing.

But why do we apply meaning to everything outside us? Is it because we believe that we know it all? What does it mean about me if I knew it all? If we just stop applying meaning, life be way a lot easier.

Except everything in life does have meaning, and there's no escaping suffering. The better questions to ask relate to discerning correct meanings whenever possible, and gaining the wisdom to respond best to whatever life throws you.

My simple brain has not grasped this but I wish I could. Anyone?

10:48

He is conflating all meaning with - I’m-a-victim type meanings. There’s no need to dissolve all meaning - that’s pathological. We need all the other ones! Maybe this is why this work is not very well known but may have some very good powerful aspects.

@Firefoxy-rz1nw

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, he works with self-limiting beliefs and specifically how to change them into beliefs which are empowering. That's why at about 13:50 he guides you through the process of giving alternative, less pathological meanings to past events. I think if you do the process, you eventually just begin to automatically experience life with this new meaning: that you are in control of how you interpret your life. That's the opposite of the victim mentality. But I get your point that he's using basically a Buddhist paradigm that one can live your life directly, in the Now, and that's something that takes time to learn. I agree that that could be one reason why this method is not that well known, although another reason could just be that it's competing with about one million other techniques out there! The process of the Lefkoe Method itself is simple to learn though. I've found it helpful.

@Fan4club

2 жыл бұрын

That’s great you have used it for your well-being. I’m curious about the way it plays out when comparing more injustice type upsets - people stonewalling, gaslighting vs the more mundane ones where it is quite reasonable to assume other motives - he uses as examples... like I said - many native meanings that cause us alarm - are important not to dissolve - but yes we ought do some examinations to allow us to check them out, check out others motives of their fixed meanings against us! All the religions and new agers with big followings today- have a lot to answer for by allowing victim blaming to cover up abusers.

@Firefoxy-rz1nw

2 жыл бұрын

@@Fan4club Hi. The Lefkoe Method isn't really about social justice, etc. except insofar as it has been useful for helping me to stand up for myself and to be more assertive. This is because it helps to eliminate those limiting self-beliefs-- I'm not good enough, what i have to say is not important, etc-- that at least in my case undermined my confidence. So in that sense I can see how it would be of some benefit. But in general, it's not about whether a person is 'wrong' or 'right' to get angry or upset in a given context. Lefkoe doesn't say in the training i did that getting angry is a bad thing. It's more about self-beliefs. I agree with you about church's, new agers, cults, etc. and victim blaming. On the other hand, they--and others--also engage in victimization in order to maintain control and power. I'm opening up a can of worms but both the left and right wings of politics seem happy to view themselves as victims. I'm trying to get a friend to go through the same course that I did because he spends a tremendous amount of time seeing himself as a victim of the 'other side'.

Ahh, so a disrespecting daughter isn't a meaning, but another "event" or "state of affairs" to which meaning is being applied? I think I get it. I guess a person must keep digging until one finds only a state of being, or event, at the core. Wow, Finding the root and plucking it out could cause a domino effect...

3:18 Consequences aren't the same as meaning

How about creating your own meaning from a place of choice?

@ArickC

7 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what Morty was teaching. I'm one of his student and Peter..I tell you...this guy helped me shape my life, the way I want it to. Feel and define things as I choose to.

@Firefoxy-rz1nw

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I second that comment. Morty is talking about being in charge of the meanings you make in life.

Why are there so few stuff about Morty? In spanish language there's almost no reference

I don’t get it can rick help explain his point

Like him.......some humans just get it.

Where can I find the text of this lecture? Any idea?

@ArickC

7 жыл бұрын

www.mortylefkoe.com/

@amberblake99

4 жыл бұрын

he does have a book which basically sums up everything

"Who said that is "revolutionary"?" The person who posted that video : "Morty Lefkoe is the creator of The Lefkoe Method, revolutionary techniques for change that have helped almost 150,000 people [snip]". How come you ask the question when you have the answer just under your eyes ?

Who said that is "revolutionary"? And even if it was mentioned in a book of anyone 400 years ago, this fact doesn't make the technique less awesome. And the sheer fact, that this technique is not applied by most people, makes it a very big potential to reduce suffering in the world.

No interpretations at all; always giving a meaning to events: both are talebanic aspects of our mind.

"Pain is just the firing of a few neurons, I don't get why people have to associate it with being punished" - unknown

It works on guilt, too?

@ltaditya1

8 жыл бұрын

Yes! Of course it does!

@veramann

8 жыл бұрын

+ltaditya1 I tried. It did not work.

He is not telling us the HOW to do this and that's vipassana meditation! We must do this mental exercise otherwise the mind remains conditioned.

50% brilliant, 50% this method needs additional work. Sorry for the long post, though you may find it useful if you've done work on yourself for some time and have seen little or no results on the long term. 1st you just can't create the habit to dismantle each meaning you give to events that make you suffer or disadvantages you. If you do this you are just cancelling the essence of life, which is to feel good and bad, if good keep doing it, if bad, fix it and re-do it. Ie if your friend yells at you and that upsets you, not a good idea to give it another meaning just so you feel better, but maybe you had offended him with your language and you need to revise your behavior w/ ur friends in the future. Felling bad or pain, in this case emotional, is gold for your improvement. 2nd, this “meaning” think comes from a very important space, and that space is the root cause of your thoughts / feelings. Ie, if you are a positive person, you will be happy that the car that just passed by you very very closely didn’t kill you and you, with gratitude, pray and thank God, but if you are negative, you will swear and blame the driver for trying to kill you. Now, pay attention here, you prayed and thanked God because you were still alive after that car almost killed you because you are a positive person and have faith in life. If you are a grumpy and negative person, yes, you can change the meaning of that event from saying how such a bad driver that person was, how irresponsible he was, into another meaning, whatever make you feel positive. But think about it, you will have to be like a watching dog all your life, continuously monitoring the events that make you feel negative or do not help you. My point is that you need to change you, the way how you see life, the people around you, the world around, your mission on earth. That is the change that last and is effective. All the rest are work arounds. Hope this would help some one out there. Daniel

No don't tell people who are suffering currently to just stop giving meaning to their situation. It's a sure way to make them feel like you don't understand and make them more isolated. "My mom just died and I'm in so much pain" "why? Just stop giving meaning to it and you'll be happy" This is good to teach to those who aren't struggling so bad so they know for the future though.

@user-hi8fz6em9d

4 жыл бұрын

I see you’ve missed his point.

@macrons593

3 жыл бұрын

So how exactly will suffering help your dead mom? You think she wants that if she's watching from up there? How has suffering ever helped anyone? If you gave the method an honest to God try, you'd realize he is right.

So this is "revolutionary" ? Strange. I would swear Alfred Korzybski said the very same thing in a chapter of his book "Science and Sanity", 1933.

@Firefoxy-rz1nw

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think that Korzybski came up with a simple, easy to understand process of how to use these insights to change childhood conditioning though. I may be wrong. I read Korzybski in university and I don't remember him being pragmatic, but more theoretical. But you're right. Korzybski spoke about the map not being the territory, which is similar/the same thing. Korzybski was a few thousand years behind Buddhist thought though!