How to be unhappy | Dr. Matthew Whoolery | TEDxLSRCollege
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. When you are drowned in unhappiness most of the time, it can be a little tough to wake up to the shiny concept of joy. He is here to tell you how to be great at, what you’re already good at. Watch him talk about “How to be Unhappy”.
Dr. Matthew Whoolery is a Professor of Psychology at Brigham Young University. He simplifies psychological concepts to apply them to real life constructs, garnishing them with a little humor before bringing them to his audience.
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Great presentation! Evidence Based. In addition, I will add three other most important skills to learn to be unhappy: 1. Always try to please other people no matter what. 2. Always compare yourself to other people. 3. Alaways seek permission from other peaople to do the things you need to do.
@wzlemma
9 жыл бұрын
Kumbaiah Murthy that's exactly what im doing in the ward!
@nellyeck1972
5 жыл бұрын
Kumbaiah Murthy. Staying in a relationship, you are not happy case you´re scary to hurt them
@karenfoster2394
Жыл бұрын
Excellent addition.😄😄
how to be happy: 1. LEARN TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT 2. stand up and move 3. serve your community 4. spend less time on Facebook 5. think about others and not yourself
@LoveResidentEvil4
7 жыл бұрын
s 😊
@irishprice5152
5 жыл бұрын
Wish I could sincerely believe your comment to be true.
@Kate-qg6yi
3 жыл бұрын
think about others and yourself too
"You did not come to this Planet for yourself" What a great message! Love it. Thank you so much.
The reverse psychology is just perfect!
Such a refreshing perspective! I've had the opportunity to take 2 classes from this man and he's so great!
Great talk. Here's a quote by Albert Einstein I thought went well with what your message: “A person starts to live when he can live outside of himself.”
@Primer595
4 жыл бұрын
The fourth dimension is "other people" .Just like Star Trek" to Boldly go! and make real discoveries!
So grateful that this gift of a human being shared his knowledge with us...such a beautiful human is he!
Great advice, and refreshing perspective! Dr. Whoolery, you are the best!
This is the best TED Talk for me. Really unique way of delivery. And maybe because this matches my current situation.
Genius.
Dissolution of the self/identity
Very good speech. One of thé best
Made me laugh and I whole- heartedly agree with what you are saying. What a great way to get your message across Dr. Matthew Whoolery. Thank you!
Impressive talk Dr. Whoolery. Interesting take on an important current challenge many people face today.
great speech..i love all his speeches. amazing and very different but everything he says is true...
Honestly guys, I've tried his method and it really works ! I was very unhappy, thank you Doc.
If you want to be really UNHAPPY, worry about what others might think of you.
@ThomasJDavis
5 жыл бұрын
Right, which is ultimately thinking about yourself. You're not concerned with what they care about, you're concerned with what you care about, your own social approval.
@sleepsmartsmashstress740
3 жыл бұрын
Or just keep thinking how UNHAPPY & MISERABLE you are and lose sleep over it
Everybody's different. What makes one happy is misery for another.
This talk deserve much more
Brilliant talk! Thank you 😊
For some vulnerable kids or adults with self esteem or self confidence issues due to abuse or trauma needs to hear ‘Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all’ Of course, if you are a selfish person, you will take it the wrong way If you never been loved, it’s difficult to love yourself and if you don’t love yourself it’s more difficult to love others because you don’t know what true love is
I love it!! Thank you!
Great perspective. really enjoyed this one.
Excellent Talk!!!
SO GOOD!!!!!
great speech !
Brilliant! I really enjoyed this talk.
Amazing talk
Love this
So good!
Great talk... indirectly he is asking us to be happy but telling that little upside down kind of.....
Phenomenal professor.
that's why i love working in a nursery home
Amazing 🤩
Great job
I enjoyed this, it made me smile and laugh. Usually when I watch things to improve myself, there is a brief flare of inspiration then poof it's gone and I feel down. What's great about this talk is it doesn't make me feel a failure, so instead of feeling guilty about thoughts and actions. It's more a light-hearted haha that's weird let's do something different.
What a great speaker! Such an important topic made so enjoyable and interesting. I now have plenty of food for thought to get me through the day. Thanks Matt.
> all of the suffering in the world comes from a desire for one's own happiness
He said Live in the present Exercise Spend less time on FB Think about others not yourself What wrong with thinking primarily about yourself as if you don’t no one else will do it as no one else cares ?
Louder pleaseeeee!!!
Genius
This reminds me of the guy who explained why most of us would fail to have great careers . I nailed totally it . and I'm making great headway on this one to .
@NeluMbingu
8 жыл бұрын
Daulton Baird Oh yeah! That was an awesome talk too lol :)
@1BenDoverWilson
8 жыл бұрын
+Nelu Mbingu do you know what talk that is?
@NeluMbingu
8 жыл бұрын
Ben Wilson Search for "Why you will fail to have a great career" by Larry Smith. I think that's the one the OP was referring to.
When do English people stop eating? >When the're full When do French people stop eating? >When the're saturated When do Americans stop eating? >When the tv- show ends
Looks like there's no hope for me: I actually found myself laughing and smiling at how you brought home your points ... and I really enjoyed your little jabs at psychology and Christianity! Carry on, Matt! And be sure not to let anyone sit on your lap ever again!!!
@wgs8175
9 жыл бұрын
Funandconsciousness But so interesting that he omits to mention anything about Judaism
@elsagrace3893
6 жыл бұрын
Wend Stern ever heard of Judeo-Christian?
Hmmm... got me thinking
lol he totally had issues keeping it in the right negative perspective :) thanks ted and matt
Nice job Brother Whoolery you did great!! :-)
I do all of this on a daily basis, but I'm still not unhappy... Maybe, it's just my lack of expectations!
Guilty!! This made me laugh.
Does he have books?
not loud enough!
@berendwesterhof7794
9 жыл бұрын
@VarunPrasadoneplusone
8 жыл бұрын
+vin cass no captions too :/
@MR-bq6xu
6 жыл бұрын
!!!!!!!!!
"...If something strikes/afflicts you, don't say 'If (only I had done) such and such', but rather say 'It is the decree of Allah, and He does whatever he feels like..." The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
@tomdewilde1
3 жыл бұрын
that's probably the worst advice i ever read/heard
He sound like Seth Meyer. ...though..
This is copy/paste of Paul Watzlawick's book the pursuit of unhappiness.... no credit given ?
Yes also from my own experience: do a PhD!!!
why is this such a good talk??? what's the science behind this? brain malfunction.....
@rosepetalblooms
3 жыл бұрын
Reverse psychology and humor
Motivation is too vast a subject area, isn’t it?
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Misleading title! Very unhappy
8:42 no porn ?
@isak098
7 жыл бұрын
"internet stuff"
This poor guy is sweating so hard throughout his talk, turn your heat lamps down ted, that shit is distracting for the viewer.
@divyanshichugh4741
9 жыл бұрын
Not every place gets enough funding so as to afford air-conditioner in the heat.