How To Manage Your Anger With Your Child

Raising a child takes a lot of patience, many emotions arise too and one of them is anger. I'm all about positive parenting and in this video, I'm sharing with you 10 ways to manage your anger towards your child so you can build a better parenting relationship.
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  • @qlili303
    @qlili3033 жыл бұрын

    I need to watch this at least once a week to not blow up on my kids . It’s so hard and I do loose focus with other responsibilities. When I have large projects to complete or too much work I tend to end up taking it out on my kids because they’re not “behaving “ and I can’t do what I need to. My kids are 2 and 3.5 . It’s irrational I expect anything other than exactly what they are but in those moments I forget :(

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Liliana Quintero, find some ways to remind yourself when you begin to feel you are losing control. You can do this and we are here for you.

  • @maimorgan22

    @maimorgan22

    Жыл бұрын

    me too!! need to watch few times a day! lol

  • @danielseverson2515

    @danielseverson2515

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your honesty! I struggle too, especially raising my kids alone and trying to multitask

  • @brandonohara4122

    @brandonohara4122

    11 ай бұрын

    It's also easier to get mad at your child when everything's not status quo in one's life.I can relate exactly to how you feel and it hurts me so much because I love my son more than life itself so the guilt builds up and I feel myself imploding as I beat myself up over it.

  • @ChurchofCaboose

    @ChurchofCaboose

    10 ай бұрын

    You have no idea how relieved I am to see your comment. I'm a new dad with a 4/7 yr old's (they're technically my step kids, but I'm trying to adopt) and this is my first summer being a full time parent. It's been so much harder than I thought it would be. Controlling my emotions, especially when the kids are behaving horribly, is getting harder.

  • @angelonicassio7131
    @angelonicassio71313 жыл бұрын

    Whew, I think I am going to watch this again and again.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Angelo Nicassio, that is why I love KZread for dispensing the information, we get to watch when we want again and again. Please share with others you think it could help.

  • @noraboone2465

    @noraboone2465

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tap on a clip to paste it in the text box.Use the edit icon to pin, add or delete clips. Hi

  • @KarmaCame

    @KarmaCame

    2 жыл бұрын

    Try it at 1.25 speed

  • @KarmaCame

    @KarmaCame

    2 жыл бұрын

    Try it at 1.5 speed

  • @beatrizsandoval4395
    @beatrizsandoval43954 жыл бұрын

    I definitely need to lower my expectations with my little boy. I get mad every time he does or doesn’t the thing I want. Sometimes is something so simple like saying hi or bye. It bothers me because it’s something so basic and I feel like he does it in purpose to get me mad. Perhaps I should start thinking like you said here doctor “things are the way they should be” and be happy no matter what. I love him. He is perfect and I stress daily for no valid reason.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Beatriz Sandoval, I think you will be much happier in the long-run with changing your expectations.

  • @cyberbink

    @cyberbink

    3 жыл бұрын

    I do the same thing and after I get mad and yell I feel like complete garbage afterwards :( it’s good to know I’m not alone

  • @camisnyder3460

    @camisnyder3460

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same 😕

  • @sindhumenon6675

    @sindhumenon6675

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@camisnyder3460 yes exactly. But they know what they are expected to do. But don't want to obey. That makes us mad

  • @sekimasumi4092

    @sekimasumi4092

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@cyberbink same with my little sister.

  • @HarrietFitzgerald580
    @HarrietFitzgerald5804 жыл бұрын

    I cried. Difficult week and feeling extremely low. Top 3 are really good.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Natural Vegan Mom, sorry you are having a tough week, glad the video helps, please watch a few others on the playlists, We are here for you.

  • @HarrietFitzgerald580

    @HarrietFitzgerald580

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the nice message. I was raised in a very abusive family and having children has proven to be a very triggering and life altering event. Trying to do differently than what I was taught, but it is very difficult to break out of the cycle. I guess I didn't realize how ingrained some of those thought patterns and behaviours were until I had children of my own.

  • @danibel85

    @danibel85

    3 жыл бұрын

    Replying to your second comment, I too was raised in a very abusive environment and it's a daily challenge to try to be better than what was. I often find myself depleted, completely exhausted, but I know that I was placed on this earth to learn from my experiences and to try to be better for myself and for my family. Sending positive vibes your way 💞

  • @damladamla5554

    @damladamla5554

    3 жыл бұрын

    i m crying now too. i think i need help but who will help me? me??

  • @lizvilla1283

    @lizvilla1283

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@damladamla5554 You help yourself by asking for help, theirs parenting classes, therapy. You are doing it by searching u-tube channels to help you learn and be aware on how to become a better parent. Trust me I've felt low and still do at times thinking am a bad mother, but am not giving up ! You got this Mama show up positive and you will be positive if you show up negative you will be negative. Best wishes, hang in there!

  • @Decemberloving
    @Decemberloving2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so greatful for this video and comments. I felt horrible and started looking up" affirmations on how to not be angry with your children" and found this. I'm supposed to be working but I had to stop, listen, breath. This let's me know I'm not alone. I desperately need a different way of thinking when dealing with my children. I get so frustrated and then feel super low for being frustrated with them. I'm a single mom of two young boys and very little family or support. Thank you making this videos and sharing your expertise and knowledge. And thank you to those who left comments. Sharing your story helps me.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Louise Cousin, I am glad you are a part of our positive parenting community.

  • @thycauldron
    @thycauldron2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! Here's a recap: 1. Understand anger 2. Take care of you 3. Take care of your team 4. Adjust your expectations 5. Try on a new believe, e.g. 'things are exactly as they should be' 6. Enjoy your kids, e.g. change the way you think, like distancing yourself 7. Positivity, e.g. gratitude 8. Remember who they are = we don't own them, they're actual people 9. Remember your job: To love them no matter what and even if.. 10. Remember who you are, and your strengths

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382

    @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for taking such good notes 😀

  • @valerieroberts5482

    @valerieroberts5482

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. Simplified. I know I’m a loving parent, but I know my patience is not always good and is based on anxiety. I really need to work on « expectations » and the rest will flow. When I feel calmer, everything else comes easily, like enjoying them, positivity, gratitude and remembering who they are. It’s when I feel under pressure from the day to day whirlwind that I get frazzled and therefore am more snappy and less patient. My trick is trying to prep as much of the routines, setting up the night before, going to bed early and waking up before them. Gives me a chance to have more peace. But thank you for the reminder. Your way of communicating feels genuine and compassionate.

  • @ayenlual950
    @ayenlual9502 жыл бұрын

    Yep I have expectations a lot, this got me in tears "your job is to love them, no matter what" 😭😭 Got me crying

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    We are honored to be on your team.

  • @babitapaul6427
    @babitapaul64274 жыл бұрын

    I am a mother of 2.5 year old boy. And it’s maddening sometimes.Thank you for this lovely video, it bought tears in my eyes ( in a good way) . Touching & inspiring 🙏🏻

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    I am so glad it helped you, babita paul. Thank you for letting me know! We have more videos like this and a variety of other topics on our Positive Parenting playlist: kzread.info/head/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU

  • @AlphaAchilles
    @AlphaAchilles2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for making this video. I am having a hard time managing my anger with my 5 yr old and I don’t like being the “bad guy” all the time. I feel like my wife always disagrees with me in front of him and now he uses us against one another because he knows how to use the system. I end up getting angry and yelling and I don’t want to be that guy. I love my little buddy more than anything in this world and it breaks me when I know I scared him or I hurt his feeling because I yelled. I’m working on my anger management but it’s so hard when I feel attacked by all sides. It’s too the point my son wants his mom to do everything for him and not me. In fact, he will go to his mom to get around coming to me for something. I get so bogged down in the emotions of it all I forget that he’s just being a 5 yr old. I am trying though, I recognize I have a problem…now it’s all about changing it.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    AlphaAchilles, you can do this. Start by getting on the same page with your wife. Some counseling might help.

  • @RenaeJGray
    @RenaeJGray3 жыл бұрын

    Emotional intelligence, gratitude and perspective are game changers!! Parenting is a gift, try to always remind yourself of the joy and meaning behind it daily.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    renae gray, well said.

  • @HopeHouseHealing
    @HopeHouseHealing3 жыл бұрын

    1. Is your child a real threat? 2. Take care of yourself 3. Remember who they are. We don't own them. Sacred stewardship 4. Stay positive. Be grateful about what things are right now. Be intentional in upgrades 5. Choose to enjoy them 6. Try a new belief "Things are exactly as they should be" 7. Adjust your expectations (anger is a secondary emotion) "whatever my kid does is perfect with me" 8. Take care of your parenting team 9. Remember your job is to love them 10. Remember who you are. Loving generous benevolent parent

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Zoe W, great recap.

  • @shay8183

    @shay8183

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! So helpful

  • @brandonpotter3629

    @brandonpotter3629

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank u

  • @dianasnigur2356
    @dianasnigur23565 жыл бұрын

    How to want to control my anger? Because I realized that I myself am like a 3 yo child, and I don't really want to control myself. I want to yell and express my anger. That makes me sad. Because I want to be this wise and calm parent, but at the same time I don't. I am confused. Can you help me? Where to dig to start wanting to control myself?

  • @dianacantillo434

    @dianacantillo434

    5 жыл бұрын

    If you were a 3 years old child, how would you feel if your parents responder like that? That could be a good starting point.

  • @SaraM-wz7zz

    @SaraM-wz7zz

    5 жыл бұрын

    Diana Snigur I was the same way. I had the same question for my anger management coach. She talked about learning to stop getting a kind of high from screaming. It takes time and effort. But it can be done.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Your feelings are never wrong, Diana Snigur. I think that is a trap some people think. Own the feelings, but what you do with them is where we pick something more constructive than yelling. Try journaling your feelings. It won't always happen in the moment, but I have had some success with people with this approach. They can then deal with the feelings. The other thing that has helped is when people have tried to and been able to remain calm, the situation ends up better and they can see controlling their emotions will be more beneficial in the long run.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for being supportive, Sara M.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    It is a great thought to have, Canti TT. I like it because it gets us to think outside of ourselves.

  • @barebow_cercatrova
    @barebow_cercatrova2 жыл бұрын

    The first video that I’ve actually found helpful

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful! Glad we can connect.

  • @haweyorashid9419
    @haweyorashid94195 жыл бұрын

    Your message is the antidote to my frustration with my son. Thanks, Dr. Paul you are such a wonderful person; some of your words pop up in my head when I lose my sanity, and I turn back to a responsible adult.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yay! I love it when I hear about people stopping themselves and using their brain to figure out how to respond, Haweyo Rashid.

  • @gabrieldepallens9914
    @gabrieldepallens99145 жыл бұрын

    Wow. This are the best words I’ve heard about our children. You almost made me cry because it resonated so hard in my mind about the job we have to do as a parent and why we had the chance to be responsible for our kids. Thank you so much for this one!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching and commenting, Gabriel Depallens.

  • @genevawhite6954

    @genevawhite6954

    4 жыл бұрын

    Gabriel Depallens to baby Ashley cry head about our children Nevi have job I have baby called Ashley and seeing people had a chance and kids

  • @WaseemSindhu
    @WaseemSindhu3 ай бұрын

    This presentation style is so perfect that my mind is getting everything so smoothly.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 ай бұрын

    Honored to be on your team, thank you.

  • @queenSummerKeli
    @queenSummerKeli4 жыл бұрын

    I can not say thank you enough!!! I am so glad I found you and have you on my team!! I really needed this reminder today!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    queenSummerKeli, Thank you for being a part of our Live On Purpose Community.

  • @larasatine4013
    @larasatine40134 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for beeing on my team! 💚

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lara Satine, anytime! :)

  • @renyirish
    @renyirish5 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant video! Got me in tears! You are great, and I'm so thankful for your life!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching and commenting, awaken.

  • @ketolifestylekilitinc.5955
    @ketolifestylekilitinc.5955 Жыл бұрын

    I just found your channel. I really get frustrated with my kids and this is so helpful. Please keep doing what you do. You do such a great job

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, honored to be on your team. Please share with anyone who you think could benefit.

  • @alondrasilva1570
    @alondrasilva15702 жыл бұрын

    I so much needed to hear this today after I lost my temper with my kids that they don't listen to me.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Alondra Silva, Glad we could connect.

  • @carissaplustwo
    @carissaplustwo3 ай бұрын

    Thank you ..right away I felt calmer.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 ай бұрын

    Wonderful!

  • @Classy_Lady23
    @Classy_Lady235 жыл бұрын

    I notice there was a couple of reasons that you spoke of that I was not doing that has helped me alot I was not managing my anger with my son that has ADHD and I didnt know. I didnt adjust my expectations with him not knowing about ADHD and I was expecting him to do things that his ADHD will affect. I didnt use my team which is my sis and mom afraid of his impulses they wont be able to watch out for and he get hurt. I was not taking care of myself there was times I was so tired I pass out. I am a single parent so I was overwhelm and was taking it out on him by getting angry when he didnt do what kids his age should be able to do. I realized about the ADHD and felt so bad and told him I am sorry . He looked at me and smiled mommy its ok we all make mistakes and gave me a hug. After listen to you I notice I was not handling things in a effective manner. I have to take care of myself so I can be a good mom for him.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    What a powerful post, Foxy Lady. Honored to be on your team.

  • @chanle7221

    @chanle7221

    4 жыл бұрын

    The best of us make mistakes but as long as we correct them and better ourselves, we all win! And it can be hard to be honest but when we are absolutely honest we can prevail! Be the best momma you can xoxo

  • @ManFat-ir7tn
    @ManFat-ir7tn5 ай бұрын

    bro I am a teenager and he just blew my mind about what he said at the end

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching.

  • @user-fq2zl3ns7q
    @user-fq2zl3ns7q3 ай бұрын

    Things are exactly the way they’re supposed to be. WOW!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 ай бұрын

    It is a game changer and can lead to some great changes for the future.

  • @saramichael3837
    @saramichael38374 жыл бұрын

    I watch a few of your videos every day to transform my parenting style. Thank you for the rich content!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    It is such an honor to be on your team, Sara Michael. Glad the videos are helping. Thanks for being a part of the Live On Purpose family!

  • @TK-ep6qg
    @TK-ep6qg3 жыл бұрын

    The world needs more people like you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    TK, thanks.

  • @beckerhambabe
    @beckerhambabe3 жыл бұрын

    You are a gift to us all and help us be our best for our kids! Thank you so very much!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are so kind

  • @emmaflower9144
    @emmaflower91449 ай бұрын

    Beautiful!!! Thank you! 🥹🥺❤️

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    9 ай бұрын

    You’re welcome 😊

  • @myopinion4377
    @myopinion43775 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video! I want you to know that you've saved me from loosing my sanity. First time parent and the advices helped me a lot. Thank you!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Glad to have you at Live On Purpose, My Opinion. Honored to be on your team.

  • @daniellaperez6740
    @daniellaperez67402 жыл бұрын

    #2 has me crying so much.. thank you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Daniella Perez, you are welcome.

  • @neo_7864
    @neo_7864 Жыл бұрын

    I don't know if it is a reason. But I always think that my anger will shape my children, as you said, I'm the steward for them before they became full-grown people. But, I saved your video as my watch list because the many points you list, give me a reason to reduce my anger to a T. Thank you.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    neo7864, I am glad we have this platform where you can return to a video again and again. You are the mother your children need.

  • @neo_7864

    @neo_7864

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LiveOnPurposeTV I'm the father my children need, or so I thought. IDK.

  • @mrprocrastination25
    @mrprocrastination253 жыл бұрын

    I'm not a parent (I'm actually just a teenager) but I have a 4 year old cousin who likes to be very naughty when he doesn't get his way. He says he will do violent things when he's having a tantrum and just stares off into the distance when I ask him to do things like "Please come back inside it's cold." or "Don't play in the kitchen, there's a hot pan." He likes to hit us and say swear words. My aunt bribes him to behave like giving him the phone to watch videos or giving him candy and snacks. But I find that's just teaching him that if he misbehaves, instead of being disciplined he gets rewarded. The other members of my family living in my house right now aren't exactly as strict as the other aunt I was living with before as she always believed in putting her foot down the second you meet a child. Did I like the strictness? No! But it taught me how to not be irritating towards the people around me and still allowed me to have fun. How can I let my little cousin know he needs to respect me just like the other adults in the house while not being too hard on him? How do I encourage him to follow the rules without bribing him?

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Mr Procrastination, (nice screen name), I applaud you trying to help your cousin. It would work best if everyone were on the same page and did the same thing. Get the adults together and explain why it is important. Spend time with him showing him the way to play and how to behave. When he misbehaves, don't give him any attention. He is probably acting out for the attention it gets him. Good luck.

  • @mirha6294

    @mirha6294

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same I'm not a parent just a teenager and I have a baby sister, only 2 years old (however quite active and smart for her age) and I often get angry at her for the way she behaves or let's say, treats me. She often hits me, pulls my hair to the point that some fall off meanwhile my fam in distance try to just hold their laugh about it and then act like scolding her once I acknowledge. This has happened so many times that I've had breakdowns because of it and I even hit her back many times and she starts crying and I am left with nothing but guilt because I know well that SHE CANT UNDERSTAND how to behave YET because she is just a baby but what do I do I'm annoyed. She doesn't let me work, draw, learn new things, study, watch a movie, or do anything peacefully that now I seek for times when she's not awake to get my work done to simply sometimes TO GET SOME PEACE or alone time. And if I do try to provide myself a peaceful environment who's dealing with her most of the time, my mom only ( another guilt reason). Now I just a person who is annoyed most of the times and explodes once in a while (at her sister) and the cycle goes on. Each time I promise myself to never yell at her again or never hit her . But here I am breaking that promise once again cuz I couldn't control myself. Making me family kind of hate me for being so I harsh ...I didn't want this. I'm the eldest sibling In the house my feelings are often neglected but that doesn't make up the excuse for hitting her. I never wanted to hit children I've never hit my cousins or yelled at them cuz they're not here with me 24/7 but she is and I can't bear to be with anyone at this point just want to distant myself I hate myself for that it's not like I enjoy yelling at a baby but what about me . All this is just making me do things I don't like it's making me the bad guy which I never wanted to be guilt , anger , regret everyday it's just giving me a reason to hate myself everyday

  • @ThessidenThess87
    @ThessidenThess874 ай бұрын

    This was soooo helpful and beautiful. And I was all over internet without feeling I hear something workable. I really think I can work with these approaches. THANK YOU!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 ай бұрын

    Glad it was helpful!

  • @JessicaTang9202019
    @JessicaTang92020195 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much again Dr.Paul,i always need this kind of video,really helps me a lot.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Glad the message is getting out, Jessica Ilano. Have a great day.

  • @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382
    @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 Жыл бұрын

    I like the “parenting team”

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @vitaminhead1465
    @vitaminhead1465 Жыл бұрын

    This is amazing, I’m trying to manage my anger with my pet rabbit when he chews on the baseboards…it’s what rabbits do but I get angry because I think he knows he’s not supposed to

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Vitamin Head, time to come up with a fix, cover them, or find something that makes him stay away. I hope other people who have had this problem chime in, I have not had a pet rabbit indoors before.

  • @peridotmstorm
    @peridotmstorm5 жыл бұрын

    Very encouraging! Thank you 😊

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    I am glad you felt encouraged. We can do this! Thanks, Amy Bishop.

  • @PurpleMeerkat4
    @PurpleMeerkat4 Жыл бұрын

    I'm crying because a have a beautiful, thoughtful, and supremely empathetic child but I'm so angry around her ALL THE TIME. I've gotten so frustrated and agitated by her that I've even sworn at her a few times. I apologise afterwards but it's so not good enough. We have a lot of drama/tension in our extended family that I would usually lean on a lot for support so I've been looking after her mostly alone. Time is passing so quick and I know I'm going to lose her eventually but it's been irrationally hard. I'm so over being a monster mother.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Consider some therapy for you to work through your feelings. It can help your relationship.

  • @sacralgoddess9132

    @sacralgoddess9132

    3 ай бұрын

    Oh my god watching this I was already in tears then I read your comment and cried so hard I feel the same wayyy I call my self a toxic mom I’m in therapy and slowly getting better but I’m a mom of three two girls and boy ages 10,7, and 5 the girls are the oldest and it’s so hard smh this video really got to me I’m going to work on all of this 🥹😩 I’m praying for you as well we got this ❤

  • @sunshineb1778
    @sunshineb17784 жыл бұрын

    This really made me cry!!! Thank you!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well thank YOU for watching Live On Purpose TV. It's an honor to have you here.

  • @ALLYRTV
    @ALLYRTV3 жыл бұрын

    Wow this was so powerful. #1 hit home....thank you.🙏🏽❤️

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Alyssia Razor, you are welcome.

  • @allisonhogan7443
    @allisonhogan74432 жыл бұрын

    One of your best videos Dr. Paul - thank you 💙

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @xp10290
    @xp10290 Жыл бұрын

    This was life changing thank you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Xavier, you are welcome.

  • @ChurchofCaboose
    @ChurchofCaboose10 ай бұрын

    My lord lol "you are a benevolent, generous and loving parent". I immediately thought "i try, but idk i am" then he says "if you don't believe that in yourself, we've got some work to do (paraphrase)". Read my mind doc 😅

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    10 ай бұрын

    Sounds like you are on the right track. You got this!

  • @mingyunweng4563
    @mingyunweng45633 жыл бұрын

    Thanks a million . Just what I need right now .

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    mingyun weng, that is great!

  • @Sababear
    @Sababear2 жыл бұрын

    literally just cried watching this. needed this after a bad couple of days

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    So glad we could connect.

  • @demaris2810
    @demaris2810 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful! Thank you. That landed in my psyche.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome

  • @ROSIE112109
    @ROSIE1121095 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Paul I absolutely believe that God put u in my path. I thank you from the bottom of my heart because I need it these tips soooooo much! Keep it up please, I am listening 🙏🙏🙏 💙

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    ROSIE112109 I plan to keep it up for a long time, keep watching.

  • @bmacleans
    @bmacleans5 жыл бұрын

    Great video well needed..

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed the video, Coach Brian Macleans Otieno. Thanks for watching.

  • @lauramarcinkiw984
    @lauramarcinkiw9842 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! Needed to hear this

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome!

  • @qasemibaa
    @qasemibaa4 жыл бұрын

    A lot of wisdom in your words reminds me so much of my parents 😍

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ibaa Qasem, honored to be on your team.

  • @irismiddaugh9868
    @irismiddaugh98684 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful advice. I'm sure you are making a big difference in humanity. Thank you.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bilingual Channel, I hope I am helping parents make a difference in this world. :)

  • @ivannagradinar4857
    @ivannagradinar48575 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!! Thank you!!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome, Ivanna Gradinar.

  • @0judi0bartel74
    @0judi0bartel743 жыл бұрын

    This is gold.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, 0Judio) Bartel.

  • @dannykraeger1602
    @dannykraeger1602 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much this is powerful stuff that I am definitely going to use

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Danny Kraeger, honored to be on your team.

  • @tigrottomiciato
    @tigrottomiciato5 жыл бұрын

    Thank so much, I've seen my self in every single counts. I'll allways keep in mind "No matter what and even if ". Great video.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    tigrottomiciato, you are on your way to calmer days. Thanks for watching.

  • @shaimaaaly6438

    @shaimaaaly6438

    3 жыл бұрын

    We yolwklpqpwqqqqp0wqq

  • @biancamacias7476
    @biancamacias74763 ай бұрын

    Thank you, I watched this after I felt very angry due to my toddler always throwing tantrums at the worst times and feeling angry and embarrassed..this helped bring me down from hulk mode back to human mode. 😅

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes! That is where your child needs you I am glad you are back to human.

  • @lukeleonardrasmussen3550
    @lukeleonardrasmussen355011 ай бұрын

    I needed to see this. Thank you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    11 ай бұрын

    You are welcome. Glad we can connect.

  • @khaleesidelrey8215
    @khaleesidelrey8215 Жыл бұрын

    This video helped me come face to face with my own ego. Uncomfortable but I felt some real growth thank you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Honored to be on your team.

  • @heartsmilegold2668
    @heartsmilegold266810 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. Tips 1,2 and 3 made me tear up, well needed messages❤

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    10 ай бұрын

    You are so welcome

  • @hasa08ab
    @hasa08ab3 жыл бұрын

    Helped a lot, thank you!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome!

  • @aishahussein4376
    @aishahussein4376 Жыл бұрын

    I just got so emotional as I watch this video....thank you very much

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Aisha Hussein, honored to be on your team.

  • @UnfilteredHues
    @UnfilteredHues Жыл бұрын

    As a full time stay at home Dad I often times lose sight of who I am and what that means to my son. I tend to beat myself up and hold myself to high standards I feel like society has set for me. I am glad to have the support regularly to help keep my head screwed on straight and my compass always pointed in the right direction. I'd be lost without all the help. Thanks for these videos and sharing them with the world.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Honored to be on your team, UnfilteredHues.

  • @ChurchofCaboose

    @ChurchofCaboose

    10 ай бұрын

    Omg, me too! I'm a stay at home dad (this summer at least) with two kids. It's been so much harder than I thought it would be

  • @ariseshinewithchido
    @ariseshinewithchido2 жыл бұрын

    Take care of yourself Take care of your team

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Golden words.

  • @rossmith3379
    @rossmith3379 Жыл бұрын

    Literally, thank you so much for this channel, I always come back to it. Feeling terrible after flipping out this evening at my four year old. No excuse, I'm triggered by mess and too many toys. I can change that. Been a bit misaligned lately but these videos are immense 🌟👌

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Happy to help and honored to be on your team.

  • @cyberbink
    @cyberbink3 жыл бұрын

    Great advice, I think I’m going to have to watch this at least once a day

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    You should, People tell me they start their day with a dose of positivity.

  • @g5f7f
    @g5f7f5 жыл бұрын

    Thank u sooooo much 4 ur great tips.. it is really affected me and it touchs my heart..I have to change with my 3 kids ..and stop yelling on them ..cause it is such an awful way .....ur amazing ..

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    So glad you are willing to try some of the ideas in the video, gufrantulip, Glad to have you at the channel.

  • @addiebabington
    @addiebabington3 жыл бұрын

    You are absolutely AMAZING! I love your channel!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much!

  • @OutkastMAB
    @OutkastMAB8 ай бұрын

    I'm over here finna cry because just yesterday I flipped out and I feel soooo bad idk how to come back from it.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    8 ай бұрын

    Ask for a do over.

  • @OutkastMAB

    @OutkastMAB

    8 ай бұрын

    I did... and I've changed my mindset on everything. Just in this little my relationship with my son and my wife had been better. He even has gotten better potty training. I kept him by myself for a weekend while she was away on a trip and used your techniques. The weekend was smooth sailing and he listened better. Wasn't so emotional. Just everything has been better. You are heaven sent. Thank you sooo much. I'm looking at the fact that it's only been 11 days and for so much to change in that time period let's me know how doing the small things add up quickly. Plus I am more optimistic on how to handle the toucher situations as they come along.

  • @brendamejia3671
    @brendamejia36712 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. 💗 I really learned alot from it

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Brenda Mejia, You are welcome.

  • @meusapatos111
    @meusapatos1115 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome, Calmer days ahead, meysapatos.

  • @lovelove6759
    @lovelove67598 ай бұрын

    Thank you ❤

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    8 ай бұрын

    Our pleasure.

  • @alexdykstra5632
    @alexdykstra56325 ай бұрын

    I love this so much. I agree with all of it and it’s exactly how I feel - my spouse however, is always angry and blows up regularly at me and my child. I try to show her these types of things but I feel like she just doesn’t have a feeling to be good inside and outside unconditionally.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 ай бұрын

    Try some counseling and hopefully she can see the consequences of her behavior and that there is another way.

  • @Chat-P
    @Chat-P9 ай бұрын

    😊 thank you Dr Paul 🙏

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    8 ай бұрын

    You are welcome.

  • @mountainmama22
    @mountainmama223 жыл бұрын

    I watch this every morning. I just want to say... thank you.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    ARIEL PHEARSON, you are welcome.

  • @sumayyashameer4153
    @sumayyashameer41533 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome

  • @anthonyfranklin2556
    @anthonyfranklin25562 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate this video!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Anthony Franklin, thank you for letting me know.

  • @MrQsam
    @MrQsam Жыл бұрын

    bookmarked the video to get back to it from time to time.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Awesome! I love it when people return to videos and share. We all need a refresher.

  • @tash_tash711cr6
    @tash_tash711cr6 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you I needed guidance...I'm struggling

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    I wish you well. I hope the video is helpful for you.

  • @precisionhoops3652
    @precisionhoops36525 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful video!!!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    William Ridley, thank you.

  • @terrimac380
    @terrimac380 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent video!! Thank you, I felt instantly better. Watching your video , completely changed my day for the better. Thank you 🙏

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Terri Mac, honored to be on your team.

  • @danajohnson6273
    @danajohnson62735 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, I needed this today. Can't take their words personally. #7 Bridging the gap of expectations w/homework will involve me helping them bridge a gap to bring them higher and have success- I see that now. "Things are exactly as they should be!" ❤

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes, Dana Johnson, and you are right where you should be.

  • @christinaramlall8191
    @christinaramlall81912 жыл бұрын

    I really enjoys watching your videos and listening to your advises .. great advisers.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. Christina. Honored to be on your team.

  • @annarawlings6841
    @annarawlings68412 жыл бұрын

    Wow this man is very entertaining to watch.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @trumelaku4473
    @trumelaku44733 жыл бұрын

    You are an amazing person thank you so much for this video, it has been a huge encouragement. 💜🙏🏾❤️👍🏾

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad!

  • @nehalirattawa5614
    @nehalirattawa5614 Жыл бұрын

    Wow you are amazing, the way you explain

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @DonnyBoSox
    @DonnyBoSox3 жыл бұрын

    I can't even tell you how helpful this video has been

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Donny, that is great to hear. Thank you for being here.

  • @geraldayaay4982
    @geraldayaay49822 жыл бұрын

    Thank you it's help alot i will watch other video ..

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yay! That is good to hear.

  • @renukasharma6095
    @renukasharma60952 жыл бұрын

    It's such a amazing video.i came to your video as i got tired of yelling at my 7 year-old boy n feeling guilty the next moment.. thanks a ton..you made me feel like you are talking to me..brought smiles n tears at the same time..parenting is tough job n i m glad I found this channel..thanks again

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    It is tough, and you are up for the challenge. Glad to be on your journey with you.

  • @tatanka2392
    @tatanka23926 ай бұрын

    Thanks 🙏🏽

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    6 ай бұрын

    You’re welcome 😊

  • @JesusIsTheGoodSheppard
    @JesusIsTheGoodSheppard3 жыл бұрын

    This helped me a lot!!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    3 жыл бұрын

    Stand Tall, thank you for letting me know. I'm glad.

  • @aprilruiz4127
    @aprilruiz41275 жыл бұрын

    Best talk ever!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, April Sewell. Honored to be on your team.

  • @KKLTTL
    @KKLTTL Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    Жыл бұрын

    Latrese Latrese, you are welcome.

  • @angelaalbano1446
    @angelaalbano14464 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!!!

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome, Angela Albano! Honored to be on your team.

  • @dexterskie4412
    @dexterskie44122 жыл бұрын

    I will repeat this everyday

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    dexter skie, wonderful.

  • @lenbads3039
    @lenbads30394 жыл бұрын

    Good day Dr.Paul. I just purchased your Positive Pathology as well as the Book Bundle. I’m a mother of 3 boys ages 13-12-11 years old. I am excited to receive it so I can be the effective/efficient/empowered mother to my kids and to be a good team to my husband.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    I am so honored to be on your team, Len Bads! Thank you for getting the books. I want to make sure you also know about Live On Purpose Central. To learn more about it, please go here: liveonpurposecentral.com/order-form1590696228507. Have a great week!

  • @neelimajoshi334
    @neelimajoshi3345 жыл бұрын

    Dear Dr. Paul, Your videos are working like a brain food for me. Thanks 👌🏻

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hey, binge away, Neelima Joshi. Thanks for watching.

  • @cjm537
    @cjm5374 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your wonderful insight & wisdom :) I recommend you to my friends & family :) God Bless you & parents & children everywhere :)

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the recommendations, m. It really helps the channel.

  • @emilyeverett1033
    @emilyeverett10335 жыл бұрын

    This was like a HELLO moment for me. I may have to watch this a couple times throughout my kids early childhood shenanigans but all in all .. the kids and I are going to have a great day ♥️. Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    5 жыл бұрын

    Don't you love those moments, Emily Everett. I hope you have a great day and then another, and another...

  • @jessicasibrian5922
    @jessicasibrian59222 жыл бұрын

    Crying as I watch this. I got angry at my 10 year old this morning because he couldn’t swallow a pill. I feel so horrible. He’s at school now & i feel awful. I NEED so much to change w/in me.

  • @LiveOnPurposeTV

    @LiveOnPurposeTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Jessica Sibrian, ask for a do-over, it is very powerful.