How to Know When to End a Relationship

Make up or break up? Knowing when to call it quits.
If you’ve ever been through a rough patch, you know this is a painful question to answer. Do you stick it out? Do you cut the cord and run? Do you sacrifice more to make it work? Do you demand your partner give up everything and run away to Fiji and live happily ever after?
These are the hard questions we answer in this episode.
To help us figure this out, I’m going to be roasting viewers’ relationships with their partners. I’m going to go over five real-world examples sent in from you, fans struggling with relationships, and in the process I’m going to share the three questions we must all ask ourselves to figure out if it’s time to break up.
So get your hot sauce ready, because shit’s about to get spicy. Maybe even have your partner join you for this one. It could be fun… or it could ruin your marriage. Let me know.
00:00 Introduction
02:12 Reader question #1: Do I leave my wife who appears to hate me?
08:27 Reader question #2: Should I leave my husband of 19 years with whom I feel entirely incompatible?
15:33 Reader question #3: My husband’s dream is ruining our marriage. What do I do?
23:28 Reader question #4: I’m in an amazing relationship but I’m uncertain about our future. Should I end it?
29:16 Reader question #5: I broke up with my girlfriend who has many issues and I’m regretting it. Am I abandoning her?
35:35 Summary: three questions to decide whether to break up
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  • @Healing70x7
    @Healing70x75 ай бұрын

    "A lot of people, they don't love who their partner is. They love who their partner could be or they love who their partner used to be".

  • @steelearmstrong9616

    @steelearmstrong9616

    5 ай бұрын

    Wrong. They stay for financial and convenient reasons. No true love. Relationships are two insecure individuals using and tolerating each other for their own selfish needs and wants for the fear of being alone. Relationships are full of manipulative manipulation and lies due to hate which is bought on by fear. If everyone new what everyone was truly thinking, then no one would have any friends and relationships would not exist

  • @13thbornpr

    @13thbornpr

    4 ай бұрын

    This

  • @skaziblu

    @skaziblu

    4 ай бұрын

    It's communication, built up unsolved issues, lack of effort.

  • @biancabie6905

    @biancabie6905

    4 ай бұрын

    Why i feel this so bad…?

  • @MikkoRantalainen

    @MikkoRantalainen

    4 ай бұрын

    @@skaziblu I agree that the communication is often the issue but it might be that regardless the communication, you may find out that the relationship that you begin with was okay for both but you have since developed in such a different directions that your relationship is not going to work in long term. It might be that neither partner is willing to let go of his or her long term goals and the changes needed to actually reach those goals is not compatible with the ongoing relationship. If this happens, one party must let go of their long term goals or the relationship should end. Often, the people are so afraid to stop the relationship that they try to force the relationship to work even though it is *not possible* to make it work with the goals that both partners have, assuming both partners want to achieve their future goals. And since nobody is going to know their full future, you may been in a long relationship before figuring out that the goals are incompatible with the relationship. And this situation may slowly grow up because you'll be figuring out the long term goals over your whole life. In that case, if neither partner is willing to sacrifice their own long term personal goal, the only thing that can be sacrificed is the relationship. Trying to force your partner to drop their goals to keep the relationship running is not a good option because it will simply make he or she miserable in long term. And the same applies to your own goals. You cannot choose to have future goals for both partners and a working relationship; you can only pick two out of (a) your goal, (b) your partner's goal and (c) working relationship.

  • @tbonemalone392
    @tbonemalone3924 ай бұрын

    “Compromise isn’t trying to make sure everyone is happy. It’s making sure no one is miserable.” 🔥🔥🔥

  • @trenchrock
    @trenchrock6 ай бұрын

    I ended my 10 year marriage and got divorced a year ago now and this just helped reiterate that i made the right decision. This is such great advice.

  • @orion4329

    @orion4329

    2 ай бұрын

    That is very strong of you. Obviously i don't know you but i am proud of u for taking action in something u believed in ! Keep on keeping on my friend :)

  • @wildebeestwright
    @wildebeestwright6 ай бұрын

    For those wondering, here are the three questions: 1. Are both people in the relationship making a good faith effort to improve it? 2. Are the compromises being made making the relationship better or worse? 3. Are you only compromising hoping your partner will change? Summary and wrap up at 35:36

  • @elenaa9157

    @elenaa9157

    6 ай бұрын

    ty love you

  • @annamanansala2773

    @annamanansala2773

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you legend

  • @teacherfromthejungles6671

    @teacherfromthejungles6671

    6 ай бұрын

    why spoiling the podcast?

  • @billallen6109

    @billallen6109

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@teacherfromthejungles6671for the same reason someone would go to the comments section before the video ended

  • @soonsuicidal

    @soonsuicidal

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you sooo much! ❤

  • @rachelreii5952
    @rachelreii59524 ай бұрын

    I realized I was happier single. That's when I knew it was over. After not talking for awhile.

  • @randomstuff463

    @randomstuff463

    Ай бұрын

    I feel I would be a lot happier single. But the girl I have is good and as the video says. “If it’s good don’t fuck it up” Thoughts?

  • @bangbangcabrera

    @bangbangcabrera

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@randomstuff463 Probably terrible advice, but maybe try it out? Try out a period of time so you know what it would be like to be single. Maybe a breakup, maybe a break. Then reassess if you are actually happier single vs being with your partner

  • @cinorom3803
    @cinorom38036 ай бұрын

    "If it's good, don't fuck it up." Epic, simple. Giving you full credit, Mr. Manson. Thank you

  • @Mr_Mist_teller_of_tales

    @Mr_Mist_teller_of_tales

    27 күн бұрын

    This gives me "You gotta do better Senator" vibes

  • @danireese7813
    @danireese78132 ай бұрын

    i got the most advice out of the red flag lockdown boy. healthy relationships are about values and behaviors. unhealthy relationships are about feelings. THANK. YOU.

  • @fatnurseslim

    @fatnurseslim

    25 күн бұрын

    YES!! Feelings are so subjective, whereas values and behaviours are objective.

  • @cecedabro9699
    @cecedabro96994 ай бұрын

    Who else is here after breaking up to check if it’s certified

  • @monkiesbanana321

    @monkiesbanana321

    Ай бұрын

    Validated

  • @trevorperrigo5270

    @trevorperrigo5270

    Ай бұрын

    Hahahhahaha

  • @acessassin2179

    @acessassin2179

    25 күн бұрын

    just ended a 5 year relationship rn

  • @colegracia2740

    @colegracia2740

    4 күн бұрын

    Yup... I done fucked up

  • @Tiosh
    @Tiosh3 ай бұрын

    I think we conflate relationship incompatibility with "well no one is perfect so just deal with it" way too often.

  • @_adityaketkar
    @_adityaketkar6 ай бұрын

    Drew is such a great host, pitches in with mindful questions; some subtle humor here and there when things get too serious. I'm loving this style of podcasting!

  • @OtabekRozmetov-bz8bz

    @OtabekRozmetov-bz8bz

    6 ай бұрын

    Why do you not include Models in the list of books you've written

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    @charlesmougin884

    6 ай бұрын

    That’s really interesting! I’ve been thinking about investing in digital currencies lately but wondering how to do it. Do anyone have any thought on that?

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    @CarlosLocke

    6 ай бұрын

    After I got upto 900k trading with expert Jennifer Fan ,I bought a new House and I'm now able to send my kids to a better school in the states When someone is straight forward with what he or she is doing people will always speak up for them.

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    @drantoniojohn8168

    6 ай бұрын

    "Hey everyone! 👋 Just starting my investment journey in crypto and stocks. 🚀 Learning the ropes and excited about the possibilities. Any tips or or info on how I’ll reach out to Jennifer fan Let's grow together! 🌱💡

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    @burrinch5142

    6 ай бұрын

    I’ve heard a lot about trading with her but how competent and trustworthy is she?

  • @TheDutchOracle
    @TheDutchOracle6 ай бұрын

    What I especially love about this video, is that it's very straightforward and to the point. As a woman growing up in an environment that women are doing all of the emotional heavy lifting in a relationship, I'm used to overthink and analyze myself all the time. Trying to figure out how I could do better. No need to explain how that leads to toxic relationships 😅 And even when I explain to my family why I broke up my relationship, men and women alike ask me what I could have done better. It's time people see that a relationship is a two way street, shared effort and shared responsibilities. And no one should be responsible for carrying anyone's bagage along the road.

  • @JSiracusan

    @JSiracusan

    4 ай бұрын

    what I find interesting about emotional labor for women... is that it's created for them by them... They expect their men to do it the same as them. I read an entire post on reddit about womens emotional labors. While I can certainly empathize with some of the posts... a lot of it was just victim mode. I'm not saying this is you. I'm glad you got out if it didn't fit you. I guess what I'm saying is we have to ask ourselves whether what we expect is realistic and accept when our partners don't always hit the mark. To me there is such a thing as a minimum viable relationship that everyone gets to define for themselves... past that there will be ups and downs. if they don't hit the MVR any longer then that's clarity. One coach I read said the longer a relationship goes on the higher the chance of an incompatibility rearing it's head. people change.

  • @LCarefortheworld

    @LCarefortheworld

    4 ай бұрын

    I like Mark Manson’s book too, However, it's important to note that he is not a licensed relationship therapist, unlike the world-renowned licensed relationship therapist kzread.infoIrkjMgAlnVk?si=PZh0Wd3c7U5RPtUG kzread.info/dash/bejne/gmZ1t8OtaZbHaLQ.htmlsi=E_Gx29-npQGUOJM6 We need to be careful about whose advice we listen to. It’s our life we are dealing with.

  • @miaranee
    @miaranee6 ай бұрын

    I love how balanced Mark's advice is

  • @MiroslavWD

    @MiroslavWD

    6 ай бұрын

    Yep, balanced but does give the suggested choice.

  • @lucaslouzada44
    @lucaslouzada446 ай бұрын

    “You create the World around you”. Yes. Including when you leave a relationship.

  • @elonever.2.071

    @elonever.2.071

    6 ай бұрын

    If you keep drawing the wrong people into your life it is time to take a good look at yourself and what you are doing.

  • @nakiflo
    @nakiflo6 ай бұрын

    after 8 years of torture. and no compromises and nobody are willing to improve the relationship. on the end of 8th year. I cut the cord and run! your life is so much much much better after THAT!

  • @thecommonsensecapricorn
    @thecommonsensecapricorn6 ай бұрын

    Such an important video! I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago and I feel amazing. The biggest thing for me was kind of the first situation - Once I realized I was the only one actually willing to work on the relationship, I had to leave. Of course after I left he bombarded me with text messages and letters at my door saying he’s seen the light and he’s ready to work on himself, but at that point it was too late. As someone who’s been working on my trauma and my healing painstakingly for years, I know his come to Jesus moment wouldn’t be enough for me to get back together with him. Especially cause I’m 25, we were only together a year, and there were other fundamental incompatibilities between us.

  • @andreicocor4383

    @andreicocor4383

    6 ай бұрын

    What other incompatibilities?

  • @ProEray

    @ProEray

    6 ай бұрын

    @thecommonsensecapricorn why do you think it's too late? It seems to me you can give him a chance since he is more than willing to work on himself which is the thing you wanted to happen in the first place. If he starts going back to his old behaviour, you can then break it off. You may feel good now, but you may also regret giving no chances in the future as well.

  • @elonever.2.071

    @elonever.2.071

    6 ай бұрын

    @@ProEray He only said he would work on himself after she left. Typical narcissist move. If anyone doesnt care to improve while they are still in the relationship they have no interest. It is my firm belief that if a relationship is a lot of work there is something wrong and it is time to move on. If it doesnt feel right it isnt.

  • @CordeliaWagner

    @CordeliaWagner

    6 ай бұрын

    He won't work pn himself. He just wants to keep the conveniences he could get from her. He will fall back into old patterns and maybe even get worse. It's never worth it. She is getting better so no need for slacking back into old habits that caused her problems. If he really improves he will find someone new.

  • @ProEray

    @ProEray

    6 ай бұрын

    @@CordeliaWagner wow I cant tell all that just from this text, I think you guys are projecting a little bit. Firstly, only a certified psychiatrist can diagnose his behaviours, don't play shrink here, we all have narcissistic tendencies and it is easy to judge others. Only her and him can know their intentions, and not even they can always understand each other's or even themselves intentions. Maybe he didn't realize he needed to change while he was in the relationship, and then after the break up he realized he had to put some work. Look, I know it is difficult to try to get back together and all, but it is also difficult to find somebody to really love and be loved by.

  • @polo9427
    @polo94275 ай бұрын

    The first question really hit home for me. Just ended a 7 year relationship over something so trivial that I had to blame myself and apologize for. Despite apologizing and trying to appease, was cursed out all the way. Situations like this kept repeating throughout the relationship, sometimes would turn to physical abuse on me. I'd keep trying to explain that getting cursed is not the way, we need to maintain respect to be able to get through things, but was stonewalled for a month until we finally decided to call it quits. She's with another guy now (not even a week after the breakup) and I'm just feeling relieved and sorry for the dude.

  • @LuigiDellessio

    @LuigiDellessio

    3 ай бұрын

    You’re a god, remember!

  • @florintanase-vo6mv

    @florintanase-vo6mv

    Ай бұрын

    She was with another guy already. You just didn't know it.

  • @leoparedes9681

    @leoparedes9681

    Ай бұрын

    time to level up my dude. this'll pass. dont let it define you

  • @rickhoward1516

    @rickhoward1516

    15 күн бұрын

    Sounds very similar to my situation.

  • @DJSeeker67
    @DJSeeker676 ай бұрын

    I read the second letter differently than Mark did. She wrote that she wanted “space and autonomy” and “peace and quiet.” Mark rephrased her statement that she wanted to be alone constantly. NOT THE SAME. The letter writer used statements that sounded like she was just setting boundaries that she constantly had to defend. Mark didn’t really go into codependency here, which surprised me. This dynamic usually means one partner tolerates mistreatment and/or makes most of the sacrifices. Although I can see waiting a little longer if progress is being made, Mark suggested “putting in a few years” which is far longer than I would recommend. Just my two cents.

  • @gracep2910

    @gracep2910

    3 ай бұрын

    Mark can’t hide his misogyny.

  • @gavinbrooke

    @gavinbrooke

    2 ай бұрын

    No, that's something my wife would have written, but she also avoids doing anything to nurture the marriage, is extremely defensive, refuses to communicate, express needs, but holds me accountable for unmet needs that were never expressed. She ignores all good traits, yet holds a magnifying glass on all.of my shortcomings as a tool for creating emotional distance, and views any effort to work on the marriage or bring us closer as being suffocated or controlled. I'm in the process of divorcing now. Some people who need space and autonomy are incapable of functioning in a relationship.

  • @armyparrot9353

    @armyparrot9353

    2 ай бұрын

    Agree my second relationship was like this I ( the man) was the anxiously attached) and her the avoidant. That was the main struggle until we split up. I split after I could not take it anymore. Now Today I'm living the same think again with another. So this is a big issue. It is not fun to have a person be Ll over you and the pull away after you are emotionally invested. Avoidant trap.

  • @paulathistleton1339

    @paulathistleton1339

    21 күн бұрын

    Also the husband has quit his job to train for a marathon.... what the?

  • @nakiflo
    @nakiflo6 ай бұрын

    Dang. I met my ex boyfriend who we really shared the same dreams. But I found out however he is just more of a future fake talker. I think the universe has something else for me. 🙏

  • @catherinecurtis9275
    @catherinecurtis92756 ай бұрын

    great subject, loved the dialogue. I've lived with a partner for decades; the kids we raised are awesome. I've always appreciated our family dynamic of - having each others back, while giving each other lots of space. it does become its own little dance of balance. we've mostly always had our own work, bank accounts, hobbies while also being on the same team. Your point about being responsible for your own happiness is important. good stuff!

  • @Nico-jt4jd

    @Nico-jt4jd

    6 ай бұрын

    🎯 Bingo.

  • @maggiehaines2203

    @maggiehaines2203

    5 ай бұрын

    Opposites attract Yet Non Committal men never attach Years of Investing Will Never Change Leave

  • @drebugsita
    @drebugsita6 ай бұрын

    Sure what matters is how we react/respond when we make mistakes...to some extent. My ex would always just blurt out "I'm sorry" after yelling at me, etc but only after I brought it up and without any reflection on his part and, not surprisingly, steps to address the problem and change. I felt completely unheard/seen. Couples counseling didn't help. He had to do the work on himself, but he dropped out of his own therapy after only a month. So, if someone isn't really owning their mistakes, but just giving lip service it feels more like manipulation than anything else.

  • @CBusCP
    @CBusCP6 ай бұрын

    I'm so glad that content like this exists now! I'm certain I'm not the only one who needed it years ago. Knowing how much pain this info could prevent is heartening ❤

  • @ogvelociraptor205

    @ogvelociraptor205

    5 ай бұрын

    I wish I had this type of information in My 20's and 30's

  • @user-lu2ms4dm2s

    @user-lu2ms4dm2s

    4 ай бұрын

    I absolutely agree! I really needed this advice in the mid 90's. Sadly, I finally ended my 28 yr marriage in 2009.

  • @zolabison2744

    @zolabison2744

    Ай бұрын

    So sorry ​@@user-lu2ms4dm2s

  • @DewyTrent
    @DewyTrent6 ай бұрын

    The timing on this is perfect, I’ve been with this girl since sophomore year in high school and now I’m a 19 year old who is now a sophomore in college. To be completely honest I’m in an unhealthy relationship its, I kinda knew before but would always tell myself that things would work out, even tho my brain was telling me another. And quite frankly I’m tired of comprising hoping she would change. It’s especially hard because its long distance cause I’m away for college, but when a person doesn’t seem to give a fuck about the relationship it makes it real hard to stay in it. Let alone not think about other options at college. So I think when I go home for thanksgiving break, I’ll break it off, even though it will hurt. I gotta do whats best for me, because I deserve to have a partner thats willing to put in the same effort and work as me.

  • @joao3547

    @joao3547

    6 ай бұрын

    Bruh just enjoy college, she clearly doesn't deserve you

  • @user-mm7sr9er8d
    @user-mm7sr9er8d4 ай бұрын

    Now I am planning how to end our relationship in a way that I can surely ensure to my kids the feeling of a beautiful home without their father. I endure too much.

  • @frankwright3789
    @frankwright37896 ай бұрын

    I haven't even watched this yet cause honestly I'm working my way through the years of videos, but since I don't do the social media thing I thought this was a good way to message you. I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart and tell you how fuckin amazing you are TO ME with your advice. My oldest son (21) is going through some stuff that, in return, I'm going through trying to help him figure things out and happened to stumble upon you. I can't tell you that everything is all better cause this situation is very recent but through listening to you, I'm finding better ways to reach the part of his brain that refuses to learn better ways to deal with things. Once again I'm truly grateful there are people like you out there

  • @user-ob8df4so5q
    @user-ob8df4so5q6 ай бұрын

    I love the part about compromise. I struggle with boundaries and this is a healthy way to draw a line.

  • @jmr9856
    @jmr98566 ай бұрын

    20:40 '...they need to take her panic attacks seriously. That's a signal. She is not built for this...she should not be doing it...' I wish there was a Mark in my life who could have said this to me 25 years ago. Man or woman, when you compromise yourself too much it can make you very ill. Mark, what you are putting out here now is an amazing gift. I am grateful to be hearing it now, and happy you are helping people not make the same mistakes I did. Truly wonderful

  • @musicenthusiast96
    @musicenthusiast965 ай бұрын

    you’re gonna be one of your favourite channels!! i always struggle with codependence and getting the short end of the stick, and when you mentioned about story 1, it really hit me. dude doesn’t wanna deal with anything and i kept internalising his remarks and insult. i really can’t do anything if it’s one sided. thank you for reminding me!

  • @giftsofspring
    @giftsofspring6 ай бұрын

    So inspiring!! Love this. It's so terrible, that we don't get to learn relationship advice anywhere when we grow up. And so many people never learn much, growing old in that part...

  • @syx5421

    @syx5421

    6 ай бұрын

    yeah i agree because relationship is so crucial, it's about choosing a partner for the rest of your life and sadly we don't get much advices on that

  • @stevemartin5479

    @stevemartin5479

    6 ай бұрын

    Hello

  • @Aminaber
    @Aminaber6 ай бұрын

    Hahahaha. Omg! It’s so true about the divorcing at 40 and acting like a kid (around the 13 min mark) Trying all the things and then finally embarking on the who are you journey. 💕

  • @voguevines
    @voguevines6 ай бұрын

    really needed this mark, your timing is immaculate 👏🏻💓

  • @jillbrown8555
    @jillbrown85556 ай бұрын

    I’m loving your podcast series so far. I’m just really impressed and feeling so happy for you. I feel like you’ve found your medium. I’m learning so much and enjoying every minute. Keep ‘em rolling. This shit is fire. Also, can I just say, I felt this episode was very balanced. It was so refreshing to hear someone say, in terms of troubled marriages (where appropriate): try sticking it out. Try making it work. We need more of that, and it was amazing to hear your sensible encouragement. Love you, love your work. Don’t stop. Super proud of you, man!

  • @whitenbald
    @whitenbald6 ай бұрын

    31:14 I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT 😂 I hit the table saying "YES YES YES!!!!" because I have just come out of a 3 year relationship and there were some amazing aspects, like our chemistry, and I was in love, but there were some major red flags that we had to address (her sex drive was never close to as high as mine, I want kids and she doesn't), and now we've been "just friends" for 6 months or so. I needed to hear you say it felt like a lifetime, because it really fucking did!! My body was giving me red flags like anxiety, panic attacks, and I was just like "oh it'll get better". It felt like a long fucking time!!!! I think my body is still recovering but I am doing much better.

  • @beldonhuang

    @beldonhuang

    6 ай бұрын

    Glad you're making progress and recovering mate! Good to hear

  • @whitenbald

    @whitenbald

    6 ай бұрын

    @@beldonhuang Thanks man 😊

  • @dawnturitto8442

    @dawnturitto8442

    2 ай бұрын

    I totally relate to this.

  • @rebecca7410
    @rebecca74106 ай бұрын

    Omg I was the committment phobe who lived a nomadic existence all over the world and have been with a homebody partner who is the complete opposite of me for 3 years now...at the beginning I had the same 'imprisonment' worries, but now- I wouldn't change the relationship, as we are so so happy and balance each other out. I am impulsive, head strong and love change; he is steady, considered and more calm. We are planning on doing lots of travel together, and I have gotten him travelling and inspired him to change career by taking a risk. This guy needs to not worry. You were spot on Mark- I was the same committment phobe, always wondering about future possibilities. But I have realised I am happy, and like Bill Burr said about Nia: I just couldn't break up with them.

  • @He1iconia
    @He1iconia5 ай бұрын

    I know relationships aren't your main brand topic, but you're really really great at it! Please do more like this. 🙏

  • @P65
    @P655 ай бұрын

    YES! I've followed you for about 10 yrs. and have seen all the other styles of videos you tried before - hands down, this was the BEST! Your insightful, kind, funny and constructive manner came out brilliantly and the dynamic with this other guy was natural and flowed well! I love how non-gimicky this all was, had your own personal reflection, and still good production!! WELL FUCKING DONE 🎉 hope this podcast soars!

  • @Senad023
    @Senad0236 ай бұрын

    Dude, I finished reading your book "Models" 3 weeks ago. It's one of the best if not the best book on this topic. Changed my perspective on women and got me to question my belief about dating in general. Impressive stuff! 👍💯

  • @tragicangel2005

    @tragicangel2005

    6 ай бұрын

    I love that book too. Models added so much more perspective on how I was moving in the world that did not benefit me

  • @mementomori29231
    @mementomori292316 ай бұрын

    This is an inspirational series of life management videos. So great! Thank you Mark!!

  • @addisonrylee380
    @addisonrylee380Ай бұрын

    Wow. Thank you for this. The last scenario hit home. Eventually it turns into an abusive relationship towards the person trying to help the other. I’m definitely codependent. My current partner has dependent personality disorder. I used to be super involved in the community. Super involved making support groups for those that need it. My partner has consumed every ounce of me with their inability to even make phone calls, pay bills, apply to jobs, or even go on vacation. It has turned me into a shell of the person I used to be with no friends or even purpose anymore. Hearing it said so bluntly is exactly what I needed. Time to heal and rebuild. Love the books btw!!!

  • @ZheniaTulusha
    @ZheniaTulusha6 ай бұрын

    Thanks Mark. This video episode opened my eyes on many aspects of my relationship with my spouse and make me reflect on my current life situation 🙏

  • @nandipenxa3274
    @nandipenxa32746 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂 love this episode. Also enjoying hearing about you and your wife, Mark. My former employer used to say that we should all be sufficiently unhappy at work. Not too much, not too little. Work is work.

  • @alexaeskina9481
    @alexaeskina94814 ай бұрын

    The editor/s did a great job on this video. Thanks for this input on very relatable topics.

  • @pushkin01
    @pushkin016 ай бұрын

    Thank you very much guys for this episode. So many insights and thoughts that were set up in place for me. Great podcast, keep doing your excellent work

  • @clairemoran2566
    @clairemoran25666 ай бұрын

    Maybe a good future episode would be the flip side of this topic- things to work on and consider before entering into a relationship with someone. Your content makes me feel a little less crazy lol, and I appreciate it.

  • @betteludwig2593
    @betteludwig25936 ай бұрын

    Def keep making these podcasts. I like these even more than your videos! it’s interesting to get your perspective and take on these topics in a relatable way!

  • @Notmyrealname099
    @Notmyrealname0996 ай бұрын

    I love the story about the commitmentphob ❤ I am one of those. Thank you for great advice!

  • @davewhitefield1030
    @davewhitefield10306 ай бұрын

    this is an amazing format of videos, more of these please Mark!

  • @loup3118
    @loup31186 ай бұрын

    Awesome broadcast guys! I wish I would've known this stuff years ago when I decided to walk away after 15 years. Keep up the good work!

  • @unknownbrokenlink
    @unknownbrokenlink17 күн бұрын

    Damn, you nailed this! Thank you. Grew up in an abusive home with a narcisstic mother. Prior to that I was in a serious of co-dependant relationships. Left a co-dependant relationship with a partner with narcissistic tendencies two months ago after being together 9 years. Started working on myself three years into the relationship, therapy helped me realize my childhood issues and baggage, did CBT and DBT, self hypnosis, read your book, started working out again and as I did, I began to see I didn't have my own identity. As I developed boundries I realized how unhealthy my long term relationship was. He had his own baggage, including anger issues and alchohol dependency. I gave him a year to seek help and he never took the first step so I left. I stopped trying to see the potential my partner had and saw him for who and where he was in the relationship as it was. It's scary, but it's also very liberating and exciting getting to learn myself and learn more about boundries and my personal resiliancy.

  • @blue_ink2000
    @blue_ink20004 ай бұрын

    Im really glad I watched this. This one gave me hope which I needed rn.

  • @muntashirbinsolaiman9976
    @muntashirbinsolaiman99766 ай бұрын

    The information in this video was very helpful. Thanks you.

  • @TempleofIsis
    @TempleofIsis6 ай бұрын

    Wowza. Great video and advice Mark.

  • @georginenov
    @georginenov6 ай бұрын

    Spectacular value. This will be shared and re-shared, and re-shared all over again to all of my friends and friends of friends.

  • @thisisnotrobi
    @thisisnotrobi3 ай бұрын

    That second one was so good mark. Dangggg I’m subbing! Loved your book too. ❤

  • @QueenGoddessakaBlackBetty
    @QueenGoddessakaBlackBetty4 ай бұрын

    I'm glad I found this channel. Love the advice in this video. 👍🏾

  • @EddieKMusic
    @EddieKMusic6 ай бұрын

    Thanks, man. Helped a lot. I'm the last story you told. It's is very hard, and I kinda understood it myself automatically, but you just helped me to make the final choice. You are seriously the best. Love your personality, have your book, would love to meet you someday. Anyways, thanks again. Appreciate all the effort and help.

  • @mabillosa2614
    @mabillosa26146 ай бұрын

    Mark I always love your podcast Think it’s very helpful

  • @adtc
    @adtc5 ай бұрын

    The thing about values vs feelings really hits home!

  • @derblum6276
    @derblum62766 ай бұрын

    Time for a new mark Manson video - I’m hyped 🎉

  • @pavnisairam6420
    @pavnisairam64202 ай бұрын

    Love these podcasts and their format. Please do more of these.

  • @ST-rj8iu
    @ST-rj8iu6 ай бұрын

    This was a great episode and great advice! It made me realize I am happy alone😊

  • @lissagrey112
    @lissagrey1122 ай бұрын

    Absolutely good luck to him and everyone involved. God bless.

  • @sehumi
    @sehumi6 ай бұрын

    Great episode! It helped me today. Thank you to you both.

  • @anndy4420
    @anndy44203 ай бұрын

    Hey. Just came to say thank you. This video helped me a lot right now! ❤

  • @lauriedunn7573
    @lauriedunn75734 ай бұрын

    Great podcast, I'm having relationship issues and helpful to hear how other people handle conflict, I love the compromise concept if the two people can communicate

  • @YouWillSpeak
    @YouWillSpeak6 ай бұрын

    Tremendous value. Thank you

  • @KNuzX
    @KNuzX6 ай бұрын

    Great podcast, first ive watched by you guys! Lots of relevant points made. Thanks

  • @annikamoore4518
    @annikamoore45183 ай бұрын

    Very interesting listen. I sometimes get board listening to long talk shows n i just jump ship. Was totally engaged. Gave me insight into my own relationship.Thanks fella's 🙏🏽🌺

  • @sabrenawright6445
    @sabrenawright64456 ай бұрын

    Straightforward distilled advise. Love it. I’m not in a romantic relationship but I pondered how the 3 concepts might apply, generally, to other relationships like co-workers, neighbors, even non-human relationships like how I relate to food. The concepts still kinda work! Thanks!

  • @TheDutchOracle

    @TheDutchOracle

    6 ай бұрын

    Thanks for the idea 💡

  • @cantwin8105
    @cantwin81056 ай бұрын

    Thank you. I've been thinking about leaving my current relationship but couldn't figure out why, when, or even how without seeming like a dick. I'm not happy rn, and I could absolutely relate to this video! Thank you!

  • @kokoBuSiLiCa
    @kokoBuSiLiCa6 ай бұрын

    Thank you for the amazing content Mark! I think most of these relationships are broken as a result of narcissism, various types of it.

  • @peteruzomba

    @peteruzomba

    6 ай бұрын

    Not everything is narcissism please. Rest with that word already!

  • @ettena93

    @ettena93

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@peteruzombaAgreed. People throw that word around like it's nothing these days. People break up, people are assholes, not everyone are compatible in the long run. Narcissistic abuse is a different beast.

  • @TheDutchOracle
    @TheDutchOracle6 ай бұрын

    I love your clarity 😁

  • @daniel1995ification
    @daniel1995ification6 ай бұрын

    What an episode really !!! No jokes aside dude..congrats on your new podcast 👏Amazing content you and Drew are the best company and the way you humor kind the worst case disaster senarios do not fail to amuse me, some good advices too !! 😂

  • @joryiansmith
    @joryiansmith6 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this 🙏

  • @bernss92
    @bernss926 ай бұрын

    I love your channel and advice man

  • @aaykay1785
    @aaykay17852 ай бұрын

    I needed this, this morning.

  • @algobo
    @algobo6 ай бұрын

    Fantastic advice, thank you so much!

  • @kennethcamilleri6446
    @kennethcamilleri64466 ай бұрын

    Hell yeah! These guys are funny AND also this really opened my eyes. I had no idea that these were thought processes even imaginable! I love how they're giving advice that doesn't make assumptions about people's situations. I find often times, self-help guru type KZreadrs often tend to dole out advice that makes ENORMOUS amounts of assumptions and make sense in a specific situation but not all situations, and that can cause a lot of trouble to people who will take that advice and apply it to their scenario, where important factors in their scenario are completely overlooked. So that leads to a lot of "Technically Good But Practically Bad" advice. So props to these guys for giving advice like this. Doing the world a service by educating people like me. I feel confused and lost and every bit of sense I can make of this world continues to help me, I've seen results personally from accumulating understanding of things and applying them to my life.

  • @moshetzubeli4272

    @moshetzubeli4272

    4 ай бұрын

    Wish youa lot of good luck on your journey!

  • @hammbaby
    @hammbaby6 ай бұрын

    these videos are so amazing thank u mark

  • @jurbua
    @jurbua6 ай бұрын

    You are indeed special and amazing! Thank you

  • @SethNobrega
    @SethNobrega6 ай бұрын

    Mark, your podcast is the absolute shit! Please keep it up brother. Your work has helped me for years and I’m a fan for life. Thank you for all your hard work.

  • @fannihalmy7372
    @fannihalmy73726 ай бұрын

    I loved Throne by BMTH as the intro and outro 🤘🔥

  • @perrydesbien896
    @perrydesbien8966 ай бұрын

    Great information, thanks so much for what you do

  • @startrooper0016
    @startrooper001616 күн бұрын

    Thank you. This video was insightful

  • @keymirrortic
    @keymirrortic6 ай бұрын

    Do more of these! Awesome talk!

  • @PtolemyXVII
    @PtolemyXVII6 ай бұрын

    Pleasantly surprised how good the advice was 😊

  • @biankafucskodancefitness
    @biankafucskodancefitness3 ай бұрын

    thank you number 4 helped me alot :) i find myself in this situation

  • @dharmakaurkhalsa3923
    @dharmakaurkhalsa39236 ай бұрын

    Great points. Thanks 🙏🏽

  • @conniethornbury9464
    @conniethornbury9464Ай бұрын

    Another great episode. Love you guys!

  • @HyperSonicAngel
    @HyperSonicAngelАй бұрын

    YES YES SO MUCH YES OMG @32:40. An unhealthy relationship is all about feelings. Thank you, I knew it wasn't just me that thought that way.

  • @davidp2888
    @davidp28886 ай бұрын

    "What are the rules or guidelines for not giving up on someone that you want to change?" This guy needs to learn that he can't change her, he can only change himself.

  • @spoudaois4535
    @spoudaois45356 ай бұрын

    All this advise sounds really good and well thought out. Rings true with reality.

  • @UjjalDiscussion
    @UjjalDiscussion6 ай бұрын

    You saved my life man. Lots of ❤ man.

  • @peteruzomba
    @peteruzomba6 ай бұрын

    This was a good video with great insights

  • @ecb3067
    @ecb30676 ай бұрын

    The inspirational music underneath the advice is a bold choice.

  • @Scruffmcbufff
    @Scruffmcbufff6 ай бұрын

    My ex refused to see or acknowledge anything from my perspective and it was always along the lines of “how could you …” and “I only did … because you did …” Reactive and ignorant to my feelings. It’s been two months no contact and I’ve been working on myself. I’m sure she’ll take her same issues to her next man, and the next, and the next.

  • @ProdicleSon.

    @ProdicleSon.

    6 ай бұрын

    This is exactly what happened with my last relationship of 9 years. I would always try to see things from her point of view but when I asked the same from her it was always an attack on her character and there was always an excuse from her behaviour because of something I did. Better off being alone than with someone that makes you feel alone.

  • @saacidhussein4655

    @saacidhussein4655

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@ProdicleSon.9 Years? That's a long time.

  • @onethree123d

    @onethree123d

    6 ай бұрын

    A women but same experience pretty sure he his month rebound broke up with him he whined about it like it's women fault but it's him. He doesn't see it.

  • @trenchrock

    @trenchrock

    6 ай бұрын

    That's what my ex did too. I was married for 10 years and he had a new woman moved in within 6 months. Some people don't want you, they just want someone and they really don't care who it is as long as long as they can treat them the same way.

  • @onethree123d

    @onethree123d

    6 ай бұрын

    @@trenchrock Might be narcissistic tbh

  • @nownotlater
    @nownotlater6 ай бұрын

    Mark I love your content, and production values on this new format are top notch. But the music swelling each time you say something important is… a bit over the top? I tune out every time the cheese music kicks in, which is the opposite of the effect intended. Everything else is great, and I love that you’re putting new content out! 😎👍🏼

  • @richmckeemusic
    @richmckeemusic6 ай бұрын

    This was great thank you 🙏

  • @mmm24ist
    @mmm24ist6 ай бұрын

    Awesome video, so well balanced advices. Love it! Year ago I've decided to end my 10yo marriage with kids. For the 1 month after divorce now. For the whole time I was going back and forth -> was it the right decision, should I endure longer (for the kids)? etc. This video gave me some peace of mind. Thanks.

  • @user-qo4cp8jl3w
    @user-qo4cp8jl3w6 ай бұрын

    Thanks for amazing video 🔥

  • @catherinedao1592
    @catherinedao15924 ай бұрын

    Amazing guys. I have just breakup with my partner a week a go. Very clear and straight forward advices helped me feel great and glad that I made the decision.