Strange times when a divorce lawyer is the best marriage counselor you've ever seen.

@robnasty6835

8 ай бұрын

Seriously

@Chowerman

8 ай бұрын

makes sense though as he's seen everything people shouldn't do

@ypanso

8 ай бұрын

Best comment

@HonestTherapist

8 ай бұрын

As a licensed therapist myself, I couldn’t agree more.

@rosemaroon6407

8 ай бұрын

It is not strange at all. It’s honestly the most obvious thing. You only understand the concept of things when you have seen the worst. You then begin to understand the underlying fundamentals to get through it.

"If you can't talk about hard things you have no business getting married" Wise words to be married by.

@hbennett5640

9 ай бұрын

So true!

@deirdremorris9234

9 ай бұрын

Truth

@dana102083

9 ай бұрын

I say that about ALL relationships..friends, boyfriends and absolutely marriage.

@cjaxn9502

9 ай бұрын

Yes!! That part!

@LSBUFU

9 ай бұрын

There's most definitely some underlying misogyny that influenced this conversation.

"Tiptoeing through life so you can arrive safely at death." - brilliant!!! Love this guy!!

@Mrimperfectt

Ай бұрын

0:15 0:16

@youdontmatter2737

Ай бұрын

​@@Mrimperfectt😂 you f'n got me 😂

"the skill set for a father is completely different to the skill set of a husband" this man nailed it

@carlcampbell6827

Күн бұрын

In my opinion, America has produced and is in the process of producing abject losers as fathers.

This guy was born to be attorney. The right amount of mental fortitude, grace and harsh truth in a human

@ww3032

8 ай бұрын

It feels like he has been through a lot of shit to grow into what he is today.

@heronn4las

8 ай бұрын

@@ww3032no shit sherlock

@kalicperry6940

8 ай бұрын

Or maybe he's been an attorney for 20 years lmao

@robt3407

8 ай бұрын

​@@kalicperry6940or he's been watching MGTOW and manosphere videos

@kyoko703

8 ай бұрын

Facts!!!

"people will lie to their therapist but they won't lie to their divorce lawyer", one of like 40 gems in this video

@GrubKiller436

4 ай бұрын

Depending on what it is, you can still get into serious trouble if you reveal certain things to your therapist. You hypothetically have more legal safety with your lawyer than your therapist.

@brianstonesthrow2727

4 ай бұрын

@@GrubKiller436 Yes, you need to lie to your therapist until you know you can trust them. And that may be never. They will take what you say and report you and it could be groundless.

@tonyale749

4 ай бұрын

My ex is still not honest to his lawyer, doubt he is honest to his therapist.

@romans52345-cy3tq

4 ай бұрын

I'm making that my Facebook headline

@Thrusthamster

3 ай бұрын

That's funny, the longer I work as a lawyer the more I get surprised how stupid people are with withholding essential information from me when all I do is try to help them

¨Whoever discovered water, wasn´t a fish. When we are in a thing, we don´t see it¨. Damn, incredibly profound statement.

Love his take on social media causing general unhappiness in comparing yourself to others... "you're looking at everyone's greatest hits while you're living your gag reel."

@joanarc7963

Ай бұрын

😂

@sarahfranco6802

Ай бұрын

59:00

I NEVER thought I'd listen to a divorce attorney for an hour, but Jim's societal insights are fascinating! Great interview, please have him back.

@isacece1334

9 ай бұрын

Agree!

@runningkirkwa2934

9 ай бұрын

Jim is a very smart, cool dude. My dad was a divorce lawyer for 30 years. Its a tough job

@marianaruiz213

9 ай бұрын

Totally agree 😂❤

@stacystoneberger9817

9 ай бұрын

I like this guy! He’s super real. Thanks Mark!

@dov111

9 ай бұрын

Same here

“Falling feels like flying for a little while until you hit the ground” ONE OF THE RAWEST INTERVIEWS IVE SEEN

@alisterfolson

2 ай бұрын

'Falling isn't bad. It's that sudden stop at the end." - Indiana Jones

@NotSuperwoman

Ай бұрын

No fr! I replayed that back like 4 more times😂

@ibewcountry

25 күн бұрын

Rawfully true, I might add.

@ibewcountry

25 күн бұрын

@@NotSuperwomannice username.

@aj_himm

24 күн бұрын

frr

please give this man a TED talk, so much wisdom

@goblinsRule

Ай бұрын

Feminists hates this one trick!

@joannadonaghue308

Ай бұрын

OMG please

@somerando5613

25 күн бұрын

this guy is SUCH a loser! why do men who don’t understand women worship the LOSERS???

@DownHillgamer

23 күн бұрын

​@@goblinsRule feminists just hate in general lol

These topics are often overlooked but are essential for understanding each other. Kudos to the interviewer for addressing all the real issues from social media to finance nothing was left un-turned.

@MikeDavis-zg2ud

10 күн бұрын

Many people find themselves re-evaluating their financial priorities after a divorce. mine ended leaving me with minimal retirement savings and health issues limited my ability to work. This prompted me to start investing. Now, two years later, I've managed to save over $2 million, edging closer to my $3 million goal by age 60

@Joe900-px3nt

10 күн бұрын

You're lucky to have made such a turnaround

@MikeDavis-zg2ud

10 күн бұрын

I'll attribute that to my research that led me to Emily ava milligan, a top fund manager, not luck. going from only 300 grand to this was certainly not

@MaxWell-pp9zs

10 күн бұрын

My journey resonates with yours. After a divorce settlement left me with just $700k, I turned to investments. Thanks to my savvy fund manager, I've grown that to $2.5 million in just two years. Now, I'm considering buying some countryside properties for retirement. The peace and quiet seem just right for me

@AlexMorgan-ti6nv

10 күн бұрын

your experiences really shine as highlights of hope in every situation

This is the EXACT guy you want to be drinking whiskey with in a dark quiet bar. I could listen to his stories for days.

@iu.5146

4 ай бұрын

But you would never have him as opposing council in your divorce 😂😂😂

@marydecouvertes3789

4 ай бұрын

Paul Auster? 😏

@dukedenile4871

4 ай бұрын

This is one of the best interviews I have even watched.

@aimfuldrifter

4 ай бұрын

He would probably start talking sh*t after a couple shots. :P

@JohnBoyed-fo6fm

3 ай бұрын

The valuable knowledge that he has will save a lot of men

This divorce attorney needs his own KZread channel or podcast, his personality had me glued to the screen, what a real dude

@tootstoyou1

9 ай бұрын

Yep. Agreed. He was hypnotic to listen to!! And not hard on the eyes either 😂

@greenIMONSTER008

9 ай бұрын

He has a IG acc But I can't remember the @

@greenIMONSTER008

9 ай бұрын

Found it! It's @nycdivorcelawyer

@mackpeter6591

9 ай бұрын

I thought so too. You can't make these things up

@emilykozel5087

9 ай бұрын

He does

Just Wow, I'm 34 and have never been married and never plan to be. I have gone so many years of my life letting society make me feel like the outcast for not wanting this and I truly believed in my heart of hearts that theres definitely something wrong with me. This interview has completely healed me and I will continue to look for love in life but I'll walk through my life with so much more respect and confidence in who I am because of my choices. Thank you for this interview.

@joanarc7963

Ай бұрын

You only need to look at youtube and social media and see all the garbage stories of people who married and got burnt. It's enough for me to say that my decision to be celibate for the rest of my life I'd the best decision I will ever make in my life. Of course men will disagree with me because they want to use a women's body and get her knocked up for their own selfish reasons and that right there is there answer as to why a women should never get married.

@miamiflorida6965

Ай бұрын

Never got married, and I am 54 🎉🎉🎉 best decision.

@willinMix2843

Ай бұрын

You dodged a bullet

@amberchiasson

Ай бұрын

Not everyone is called to be married, ya know? Boo on society for making people feel that way. Singlehood is amazing in its own right!

@vivianamartinez9355

Ай бұрын

I wish somebody would have told me this when I was young ... FOLLOW YOUR HEART.

I've been married 38 years, not without ups and downs but still happy and committed. The more I watch YT vids about the current state of relationships the luckier I feel.

@valeriapazmino338

20 күн бұрын

This gives me hope :)))

@patrickmccutcheon8860

18 күн бұрын

My girlfriend and I have been through some tough shit together, and we always come out the other side more in love with each other than before. So I completely agree. I feel so lucky to have her.

@rustynails8756

8 күн бұрын

My husband and I are 50 yrs married and certainly went through hard times but more good than bad and our relationship just gets better and better. Hope you too enjoy many more years together

@MLHunt

6 күн бұрын

@@rustynails8756 Thanks. You too.

Incredible conversation. We all just got $500-1000/hr. worth of advice for free. One of the best things you can do for marital health is listen to guys like this. It’s just as important to know how marriages turn bad as how they stay strong.

@RedsBigRig

8 ай бұрын

💯 You broke that down nicely 100%. Made me realize it that was as well thank you. This is truly a gem here..

@oktaxi4503

8 ай бұрын

Well said bro. Priceless experience here

@realjcoop182

8 ай бұрын

This was an hour consultation for free 🔥

@glorias.2930

8 ай бұрын

Seriously! Where's the "Buy Me a Coffee" link? 😁

@bigjuni2102

8 ай бұрын

Sadly its a price on everything

Felt like every other sentence was worth writing down… incredible interview!!

@BeEazy1992

8 ай бұрын

You're speaking the truth im on my 5Th playback

@johnb6850

8 ай бұрын

Does every stock lose value if you hold it too long ? No

@alexperez706

8 ай бұрын

lol, that's what you got from this?!?!? hahahahah....@@johnb6850

@nathalieruiz3817

8 ай бұрын

Yes, so much so that I actually paused the video to get a pen and paper! Ha!

@MrSuperultramegaguy

8 ай бұрын

​@johnb6850 yeah. Not every stock loses value if you hold it too long. And?

I feel like I won the lottery in finding my husband. I got teary eyed listening to him describe the miracle couple that has been married for over 20 years. Great interview.

I love this guy. 100% on point. Married once, divorced 9 years, have a beautiful 7yo daughter, and I'm never getting married again.

@rangaprasad951

Ай бұрын

Divorced for 9 years and have a 7 yr old daughter..and married only once...,🤔 Who did you have your daughter with?

@baublesanddolls

Ай бұрын

Many couples have sex after they split up or divorce. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Kriistall7

23 күн бұрын

Same. Never again

The “I’m not happy why should you be happy” was powerful. The entire interview was phenomenal

@lilyann168

8 ай бұрын

I literally watch this dynamic play out with my brother and his wife almost every time I visit. It's wild.

@stella-vu8vh

8 ай бұрын

that's such a sad way to live and i don't understand why people act that way. my ex wife was that way and it made things so hard

@-._.-KRiS-._.-

8 ай бұрын

@@stella-vu8vh Because there's no one else to talk to. In marriage, you're expected to bring all your vents and frustrations to your significant other but when you do, they take it personally even though you were just trying to work through your emotions to figure out where they were coming from and how to move past them. This is why he's spot on that no single other person can be the 'everything' to another. Sometimes, you just need to vent in order to figure out how you truly feel about something but if you only have the subject of the venting to vent to, too many negative emotions start to entangle into everything and it can become near impossible to disentangle.

@miimonalisa

6 ай бұрын

@@KetoFattywhat does that mean

@ruthrose1000

6 ай бұрын

Not every woman is like tjis just so you know. I continued to do sweet things for him.. small gifts, notes, kindness.. as he did less and less. It broke my heart. It was not even about material things.. just sleep next to me or hold my hand, but no. He slept on the couch, would not hold my hand.. oh well

At 21 years of marriage, my wife inherited a substantial amount of money and within a month left me for a guy she met at the gym. We avoided a divorce attorney because I wanted to spare our children a nasty divorce. She was at least reasonable in the divorce, mostly because she knew she was stabbing me in the back. Being tossed aside like that was the most painful experience of my life. To this day, if something reminds me of that time, I feel it all over again. I've moved past my ex, but the pain is there, always waiting to pop its ugly head out.

@markj.stovall4969

9 ай бұрын

Lesson of the day: Hit the gym more often.

@TheAverageSavage1021

9 ай бұрын

Is she still with him? How long ago was this? I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through, and I hope your life is going better now, and that you meet your person when you are ready

@Sadness57

9 ай бұрын

She was banging him all along dude

@VortexDBD

9 ай бұрын

Shoulda sued her

@matzohgirl

9 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your upset. hitting the gym is a symptom she's going to be single.

the thing he is saying also with all he is saying: falling in love/ getting married is not the purpose of life, neither the 1st prize. i needed that.

This arguably the best interview I have ever heard or seen. As a recently divorced man with a kid. This touched my soul.

Man that first story about the 92 year old man leaving his wife after 60 plus years of marriage is actually heartbreaking I actually got upset 😔

@lucianaromulus1408

9 ай бұрын

Just goes to show he was always trash.

@timhensley3695

9 ай бұрын

One where I used to live shot his wife same age 😔

@paintingwithrosev741

9 ай бұрын

@@timhensley3695 Thank you for sharing. I think we all need a reality check. My eyes have been wide open since I was six years old when I saw what marriage meant. The best thing I ever decided was to stay single.

@timhensley3695

9 ай бұрын

@@paintingwithrosev741 I agree unless you win the lottery. It does exist.

@vstpierre7

9 ай бұрын

Ugh that man’s poor wife. She shared her life with the man she thought would be there for her always. Oh that breaks my heart to pieces. He’ll regret it when he realizes he threw away the best thing in his life. Loyalty and Love. 😢 This is why I hesitate to fully love. I’m better off riding the line rather than making the step over and risking my heart. I’m such a romantic but it’s hard to believe in true love anymore. I’ll stick to my rescue dogs. Always loyal and unconditional love.

“I don’t envy people being married for a long time because that’s not the goal. The goal is to be HAPPILY married.” So true. I wasn’t expecting to listen for an entire hour but he is charismatic, informative, and honest ❤

@getmoneychill6462

8 ай бұрын

To me it’s no way in hell any man who’s married is happy.Having sex with the same woman year after year is atrocious.

@loridean.5986

8 ай бұрын

@@getmoneychill6462 and the same for goes for her having the same man, such is life…

@kaylasheppard7746

8 ай бұрын

​@getmoneychill6462 I'm sorry you feel that way. You're probably trolling, but hopefully you find true love someday.

@srm0520

8 ай бұрын

I completely agree. Whenever people just blindly applaud couples who have been married forever, I kinda don’t get it. They could be in a horrible relationship. It’s really not the quantity of years but the quality

@amalksuresh286

8 ай бұрын

​@@srm0520but isn't Married like a wave of happiness and sad,just like any other things in life.

I just watched the video again. PLEASE interview him again, because he has so much more wisdom to share. I missed the statement he said at the end last time “They said “for better or worse” they didn’t say “for lunch””, that one made me chuckle because he has a point.

This is probably one of the most important videos on KZread.

“Falling feels like flying…until you hit the ground.” Fabulous quote!

@deadbutworking

5 ай бұрын

"falling feels like flying until bones crush" ~ Taylor Swift

@natest.the.greatest

4 ай бұрын

Have you seen Crazy Heart yet?

@cici3505

4 ай бұрын

Not sure if I agree with that. Flying is against gravity and failing is the opposite

@carolinereidartist

4 ай бұрын

100%

@darkylinky288

4 ай бұрын

it's been quoted by other people and in songs before, he's not the original source

I don't know when was the last time I saw such a vibrant and energetic combination of teaching, consulting, coaching and stand-up comedy. Thanks Mark for this one. This man got me back on my feet after so many sex offenders and victims, addicts, prostitutes and all the other poor and broken people I met through your videos. A necessary counterbalance. Excellent!

@Tammy-jl2io

9 ай бұрын

This descriptive is ON POINT! Excellent!

@froufou100

9 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I waa thinking!

@zeezeezee3110

9 ай бұрын

I had to click right away when i saw how different the one getting interviewed in the video. such a fresh story, something different but still hits home

@sweetteagrits3822

9 ай бұрын

Agreed!! I was going down the dark rabbit hole too much!

@vedranromac1046

9 ай бұрын

@@TheRoseAnthology I agree completely. Most of Mark's videos are like training for empathy with the working title "Faith - saddle on the horse of life between good and evil". This video is like a bottle of cold clear water handed to you by a nice waiter while saying "Brain!...come on!...turn your head on!"

So sharp, intelligent, and witty. This guy is a dot connector, and a damn good story teller.

I sent this to most of my married friends both male/female and most of them said they started it but “had to turn it off” because they were afraid to face the truth regarding marriage. That tells you so much abt marriage…..

@InteractiveIdea

23 күн бұрын

I am married and actually loved the interview and it's because I am of that opinion about almost all his points. But I don't think like most people. Like I am married, but also polyamorous and got other partners.

As a fellow divorce attorney, his statements are 100% accurate! Loved listening to him.

@KD400_

9 ай бұрын

Then u know y most men r walking away from marriage

@FreeSpirit47

9 ай бұрын

@@KD400_ Women are walking away from marriage, also. Whether guy or girl, treat them well or they will find someone who will.

@KD400_

9 ай бұрын

@@FreeSpirit47 judging by ur profile picture I'm sure u had tons of offers but u chose to walk away. It's not positive btw.

@Dewane1511

9 ай бұрын

@@FreeSpirit47 WHY is it always tit for tat wit women

@FreeSpirit47

9 ай бұрын

@@Dewane1511 Nothing is always anything. Tit for tat is an aspect of life. Cause & effect. Light & dark. It's a balance present all through life.

Crazy that this interview is free tbh. This is pure gold

@IARRCSim

2 ай бұрын

yeah. People might pay his hourly rate as a lawyer just to hear him do standup comedy or do a TED-style talk one on one in his office.

@AyeBeeG

2 ай бұрын

Stop watching cable/tik tok

@elleaprilterrell

2 ай бұрын

Yup

@GamingAndChill

2 ай бұрын

Every interview is free lol

@ronmass969

2 ай бұрын

You’re the person that fucks it up for all of us

Probably the most insightful human I’ve ever heard.

This is GOLD life advice every engaged couple should see. The longer I'm alive the more I see such disjointed expectations in people's view of their partners & what marriage means, makes me so pleased to be happily & consciously solo.

"Whoever came up with the word Soulmate, we divorce lawyers should be paying that person dividends." Pure Gold!!!

@ClarisNdoroRealEstate

7 ай бұрын

Some people do find Soul mates but it 1percent.

@remoevans7847

7 ай бұрын

@@ClarisNdoroRealEstateWrong. Given the total number of people in the world, the chances your soulmate happens to live in the same city or work at the same company are zero. It’s a nonsensical term invented for romance novels and movies.

@lillianjaimez7294

7 ай бұрын

Off topic ... he resembles Robert Dinero.

@brek5

7 ай бұрын

Yes, 100%. And later, he expands on that point a little bit, and it totally is that idea that one person is going to be EVERYTHING for you. It's ridiculous. I am married to a woman from a more "traditional" culture, let's say, and the most remarkable difference is the expectations. I'm not expected to want to go dress up in pink and watch the Barbie movie, and she's not expected to be interested in my sports. We're allowed to be our own people, unapologetically.

@imechko_familia

7 ай бұрын

I believe soulmates are made, not born. I know my best friend for 14 years, good times and troubles, we share the exact same brain at this point. That's what I call a soulmate.

Give this man a show! His way of expressing himself is captivating.

@ibrahimalharbi3358

3 ай бұрын

Why white rich men are so ignorant about other people culture and religion? In Saudi, we have high increase divorce last ten years! In Islam we don't have this nonsense about marriage like Catholic marriage or Alimony!

@Hardawayfits

3 ай бұрын

Foreal he is entertaining 😅 He said I'll f*** that guy for 200 million dollars 😂

@IARRCSim

2 ай бұрын

yeah. He's hilarious.

@dougb4956

2 ай бұрын

Yes, he is. But most intelligent, educated, successful and thoughtful people are similar in my experience.

@FrankskinOrweed-ep4ij

2 ай бұрын

@dougb4956 Those 4 qualities are very different though&often mutually exclusive tbh. Educated and successful do not even sit in the same category as intelligence, which largely refers to emotional and social intelligence, which is often ironically lacking amongst those in highest levels of education or ‘success’. Success through money doesn’t lead to buying class, personality emotional intelligence or what i would consider the true things that make u rich- loved ones who care about u and good health! Just my random thoughts

I think this is the best interview I’ve ever came across on KZread. There are sooooo many gems in this video it’s unreal

There’s so much honesty, insightfulness, and wisdom in this. Our relationships with ourselves and with social constructs makes these conversations so difficult to have with each other, seemingly due to the insecurity of feeling vulnerable. It’s a shame, because there is so much to be gained from transcending those factors.

“Marriage is an inherently negligent activity. It’s like owning a lion.” This man picked the right career. It’s like working in the funeral or the liquor business. It will go on.

@icysnow57cold64

8 ай бұрын

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse. Romantic relationships are pointless, while platonic relationships are not.

@calistathompson5538

8 ай бұрын

@@icysnow57cold64 you make a fine point. I really appreciate this perspective.

@econgator6153

8 ай бұрын

It's hard to remember to not bang your friends

@calistathompson5538

8 ай бұрын

Whatever works.

@enermaxstephens1051

8 ай бұрын

That's where you're wrong, marriage is coming to an end. Marriage rates are declining rapidly. In 10 years, he may have to switch his legal focus to something else.

This man just outclassed every relationship counselor, clergy, psychologist out there. Wow. Amazing stuff. I feel privileged to have listened. Thank you for this one!

@Idiopathogen

9 ай бұрын

Really? Nihilism is clever? It’s not, and it’s not new.

@lauracornell4629

9 ай бұрын

Decorate this house?

@g.m.5395

9 ай бұрын

*YES* !!!!!!!!👏👍👏👍👏👍

@stellak4734

9 ай бұрын

I agree.

@jtjones4081

9 ай бұрын

He's a lawyer. Many underestimate the financial pressure on today's middle classes ability to afford kids. Kids were an aspiration that helped keep families together, right or wrong. I'm afraid that won't improve.

What an intelligent, articulate, informative, entertaining captivating speaker this dude is (and whatever other adjectives). So much to learn here. Tremendous video, thanks for sharing it. I really like fast-talking and fast-thinking way he ran us through all this.

Such a fantastic interview. This guy needs a podcast. His way of explaining things, telling stories and just plain expressing himself is amazing. He has a lot of knowledge and wisdom and a captivating way of sharing that wisdom and knowledge, sprinkled with humor.

This man needs to 1000% write literature on marriage. He is so brutally honest and open. Got me sitting here single feeling lucky lol

@josiahmcclanahan

4 ай бұрын

I believe he's written a couple books! The descriptions mentions some of his work :)

@itskeagan3004

4 ай бұрын

Lucky? That’s dark. I’m sorry you haven’t found someone to share in the amazing milestones and challenges throughout life.

@jasoncrandall73

4 ай бұрын

Like this man said 76% of marriages will end before the actual end (of life).

@jelly.212

4 ай бұрын

@@itskeagan3004 haha lol 😂 lmao 🤣 even

@JohnBoyed-fo6fm

3 ай бұрын

His knowledge will save a lot of men from horrible wom3nn

"We are prehistoric creatures living in medieval institutions with God-like technology" Damn, that one floored me. One of the best SWU interviews by far

@stephaniehayesbusiness

8 ай бұрын

I agree. Paraphrased or original, the thinking is solid.

@Skyecaster101

8 ай бұрын

That is the best description for us that I've ever heard.

@mckenziejoseph3505

6 ай бұрын

Profound. Have to remember that.

@house0paine535

12 күн бұрын

@@stephaniehayesbusinessIt is a paraphrased from a quote by Edward O. Wilson, “the problem of humanity is the following: We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.”

I’ve read part of his writings, and hearing him speak is so so much better! He is a really dynamic speaker.

Everything M. Sexton says is so deeply anchored in universal truths that we so easily to forget in this day and age and transparency that it makes the interview so riveting. He is absolutely, completely and entirely right on every single assertion that he makes.

"I wanna see how it looked like when these people loved each other." Genuinely made me tear up, what a beautiful sentiment.

@aceshigh5157

3 ай бұрын

i wonder how many people actually loved each other, or got married for other reasons like societal expectations (have to be married by x age, otherwise people will think i'm x,y,z so i'll just settle down with this person) or finances (if we get married we'll pay less taxes). or how many marriages are actually deeply connected.. most people aren't deep, most people haven't done the internal work to be able to actually connect with their spouse or even themselves.

@kimmyp3407

3 ай бұрын

😅 0:41 😅😅 0:41 😅😅😅 1:06

@GrubKiller436

3 ай бұрын

Their toxic side isn't revealed yet in the honeymoon stage.

Marriage meets the legal standards for negligence. That's pure gold.

@MichaelKoksharov

3 ай бұрын

Indeed.

@asahel980

3 ай бұрын

Its more Insanity actually , because youre in love its messing with your brain.

@AdelineCowgirl

3 ай бұрын

Marriage is not negligence 🙄 The dumb dumbs who never should have gotten married in the first place are the ones being negligent, not the concept of marriage itself. These comments make me feel incredibly lucky to be married to someone who actually loves me. Dang.

@theiconscottsteel

3 ай бұрын

“It’s like owning a lion!”

@mopheousredpill7462

3 ай бұрын

marriage is like owning a lion 🤣😂🤣

"Comparison is the thief of joy." Aint that the truth?

I rewatch this episode. He gives me so much hope and wisdom that's real. I very much appreciate his time to give the true advice to hear

Wow,this guy speaks for about an hour and he is not boring at all

@wiedadewi8575

2 ай бұрын

He's a lawyer, remember? 😊

@mouved1

2 ай бұрын

​@@wiedadewi8575 I heard a lawyer talk for 5 min, 5 minute of boring bs make me want to sleep

This man cut through all of our societal presuppositions and traditions like a hot knife. Extremely insightful.

@lookoutforchris

8 ай бұрын

Our traditions were demolished a long time ago. He’s commenting on the rubble. Marriage is a religious institution older than human history. Maybe if non-believers stopped highjacking a religion they’re not part of it would stop blowing up in their faces.

@lotsofhairbutnomoney3705

8 ай бұрын

@@lookoutforchris Our legal system doesn't reflect what marriage is from a traditional or religious standpoint.

@KINGAMIIAMKING

8 ай бұрын

​@@lookoutforchris Marriage is a government institution and wealth extraction.

@evacope1718

8 ай бұрын

​@@KINGAMIIAMKINGtoday it is but the heart of marriage is god, that's why you get married in a church or a synagogue/mosque etc. People took God out of the equation which makes their vows easier to break.

@cadenhnc

8 ай бұрын

@@KINGAMIIAMKING That doesn't disprove what he said

Omg I love EVERYTHING he’s saying about prenups and talking about having the awkward conversations! LOVE IT!

This man is a legend. Crazy that this information is free. A lot of people don't want to believe all of this, but there is such a hard truth to what this man is saying.

@california214

2 ай бұрын

Why you say that?

This is one of the best episodes produced! Highly insightful from many perspectives. The irony of it is that he gave the literal solutions for a successful marriage: 1) Don't compare. 2) Don't be selfish. 3) Feed the marriage. 4) Keep holding hands 5) Become the best version of yourself. A successful marriage isn't winning the lottery. It's a mutual willingness to do the work necessary to create happiness.

@carlabeavers5837

9 ай бұрын

YES

@Streamcatcher

9 ай бұрын

Yes! I totally agree! This was thr best episode for me so far. This man is just so incredibly on the ball. Amazing stuff, and what you say is true about the points to a successful marriage 💑

@zahrakaled2473

9 ай бұрын

I mean thats what he means i think finding someone with that mutual willingness to make it work is kinda like winning the lottery

@Borat_Kazakh

9 ай бұрын

Most of all historically marriage is covenant to raise children. Or heirs to the farm, cattle, patch of land. It was never intended for mutual Happiness.

@veronicavargas6895

9 ай бұрын

I believe he could write a fantastic book about this subject

“I would love to see what it looked like when these people loved each other” such a heart-trending quote

@dominiquemcclaney128

8 ай бұрын

When he said that I just automatically knew it was the complete opposite going on. It's like they hate each other now. But it's good that even as a divorce attorney he knows that they did love each other at some point.

@bongamnguni3982

8 ай бұрын

He did say that he believes in love, so It makes sense for him to say that.@@dominiquemcclaney128

@jarkachalmovianska7812

8 ай бұрын

​@@dominiquemcclaney128they were in love... maybe not loved each other

@chitlinjuice

8 ай бұрын

​​@@dominiquemcclaney128I'll be the unpopular opinion here and say they never loved each other. They just loved what each other did at one point and got tired of it. True love doesn't dissolve like that. It was mostly lust and a shallow version of happiness that most couples experience.

@taylorspastpresent1014

8 ай бұрын

@@chitlinjuiceI agree. When he said you didn’t sleep with your husband for 6 years. What did you think would happen. There was no conversation over Six years at all about why sex wasn’t occurring. That’s insane. Was she sick, was their sexual assault trauma? Was he a jerk to her emotionally? Was she cheating? Like what in the world. Marriage is complex and not the source of our happiness. Jesus is.

This was so enlightening I've had this in my library for like 5 months and just now gave it a listen and I must say James has opened my eyes to a couple of things thanks 🙏🏾

Dear SWU this interview was such a relief to see as a counterpoint to the three other interviews about love I’ve seen on this channel. Thank you for a variety of perspective.

This guy deserves his own podcast, talk show, or KZread channel. He is infinitely charismatic and entertaining. Most of these interviews are so depressing. It's nice to watch one with a guest who is smart, insightful, interesting, informative and funny as hell. Love this one!

@eugenealymov2723

9 ай бұрын

I agree, more of this is needed. Alcoholics and fentanyl addicts aren't very interesting, on average.

@yanicyoda4762

9 ай бұрын

hell Yeah.a lot more of these types

@jeffcherry1643

9 ай бұрын

@@eugenealymov2723 True. Would have liked to have heard this 36 years ago ! He has a very realistic take on life and marriage

@atlntcostv7293

9 ай бұрын

He sounds like a fake ass mayor carcetti from the wire

@fyingfish9370

9 ай бұрын

He is famous actually! He has been invited by a lot of tv talkshows, podcasts etc. Yea but none of his own show

Love this guy! A divorce lawyer who is a romantic at heart after seeing the worst of people.

@vanillapearl9986

8 ай бұрын

Well said!

@jsanabria

8 ай бұрын

Love this description. Sounds like a good idea for a tv series.

@vanillapearl9986

8 ай бұрын

@@jsanabria yes! I really enjoyed this interview, so many great points he made! Very well done 👍🏻

Absolute amazing interview, one of the best ever. I could listen to this attorney for hours. So insightful and so full of knowledge. Mark you hit a home run with this one

He's so passionate about this topic. And what he learned about love and marriage and divorce over the years, it's so profound. Thank you for sharing this. I learned a lot. I might need to watch this again if I ever have a partner in the future.

Every person on earth needs to watch this interview. Gather in groups. Play it on planes. Show it in theaters. This. Is. Gold.

@BiGAAAAAAAAAALLLLL

6 ай бұрын

guy seems like a total jerkoff

@kipsmithers8816

6 ай бұрын

Well said

@Chrisjonpage

5 ай бұрын

This really should be playing in theaters

@laptop2638

5 ай бұрын

I agree, I will make sure my 21 yr old son watches this too. I can remember "my thing" , she never had a thing, she said she always knew we would divorce...

@BlackSlacksGarage

5 ай бұрын

agree

If you find your soulmate and true love, marriage is Heaven on Earth. My husband and I were blessed with that kind of love for 52 years (married for 51 years 4 months and 21 days,) He's in Heaven now, waiting for me. I miss him beyond measure.

@meredithcoleman446

7 ай бұрын

This is so precious

@jessebaseal6577

7 ай бұрын

I'm really sorry for the loss ❤️

@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY

7 ай бұрын

Wow. It's does exist. Is it possible to find it before divorce?

@tproudboomer5965

7 ай бұрын

@@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY😂😂😂

@TahoeSnowbird

7 ай бұрын

@@jessebaseal6577 Thank you. Whenever I am depressed about being without him, I have to remind myself I was very blessed to have shared his life and love for all those years, and we'll be together again.

This gentleman, James Sexton is absolutely fantastic. Love his direct no holds barred honesty.

I could listen to him all day. His delivery is so good. I am clearly getting the message.

can we have more soft white underbelly interviews like this with super educated people and hear their opinions? I love it so fascinating

@JokerCat9

5 ай бұрын

In a way, the soft white underbelly of marriage is divorce.

I’m so glad he brought up social media. People don’t realize how “dangerous” it can be for relationships. He explained it perfectly, it’s an entry point

@beatewagner7.2934

7 ай бұрын

True! But here he has forgotten to mention the influence of digital p***ography / OF / IG / Dating apps for casual pleasure plus the whole issue of addiction. It's brutally devastating for relationships and society... I guess finding "old friends" on Facebook is here the smallest part.

@TheSpringMood

7 ай бұрын

It's a good idea for married couples to share a joint account instead of having separate accounts on social media.

@kekkic

7 ай бұрын

totally agree, social media is a temptation. @@TheSpringMood

@beatewagner7.2934

7 ай бұрын

@@TheSpringMood What kind of foundation of trust is this for a relationship? 🤔

@TheSpringMood

7 ай бұрын

@@beatewagner7.2934 Nice question. I believe trust is vital in marriage but a healthy married couple should have many of the same friends and share experiences together therefore separate accounts aren't needed unless you have something to hide.

That was probably my favorite interview on this channel. Great insight and life experience

Omg I’m just now seeing this for the first time. I’m cracking up 15 seconds in! 😂 This guy is so interesting! I saw the list of videos and noticed 2 other interviews with people sharing their thoughts on love and marriage. I went straight for this one. I’m looking forward to hearing those too, but I definitely want to hear from a divorce attorney first. Thank you so much for conducting this interview, Mark!

This guy needs to write a book! He's factual, concise and incredibly incisive.

@fangirlgeek1553

8 ай бұрын

he has written a book! 'If you're in my office it's too late'

@jakejake7289

8 ай бұрын

@fangirlgeek1553 Thanks.. saw that in the description text afterwards 🙂

@jakejake7289

8 ай бұрын

@@Daveunave Thanks.. I saw that in the description after I posted my comment.

@annemariemiguel2541

8 ай бұрын

Or maybe a reality type show

@DanielDickin

8 ай бұрын

"Blowjobs and Granola: The Keys to Marriage Success" would be a great title

This was so incredibly insightful.

@amc5936

9 ай бұрын

he got several videos on youtube and books he written really cool and very smart man, handsome to

@heatman856

9 ай бұрын

It's crazy first thing I posted was how insightful this was

@AliBhai-sl8gc

9 ай бұрын

Hope you guys are well. For a divorce lawyer he is somewhat ignorant. Religious ppl have less divorce and in islam its there, but lower. Hes wrong. women can seek a divorce in islam. And you are not killed for divorce. Go look at the Quran there is an entire chapter call Al-Nisa (women). Divorce is explained in the Quran. The wife is not allowed to take half the mans wealth and cannot stop him from seeing the kids (if he is not a danger/violent etc). Only in Christian Catholic system is marriage for life and no divorce (irony right). Islam is the fastest growing religion in the USA, UK, Canada, Europe and the whole world. So muslim ppl must be getting married and having kids, as sleeping around is a major sin (just like in the bible, remember). UK alone sees every year 5000 ppl revert to islam. Of those 5000 about 3000 are women, mostly white women, who are university educated with an average age of 27. When they come to the dheen (religion) Conservative values follow. And they look to get married and have kids. As muslim women marry Muslim men only. This way we gain an excess demographic of young women.

@aarondavid5866

9 ай бұрын

so the prenup has to literally say everything we acquire personally during the marriage belongs to use individually?

@jtjones4081

9 ай бұрын

Love is mystical marriage is contractual. The most likely ship to sink is a partnership. I agree that facts sound so cynical.

Ok, I’m just halfway through this interview but gotta say this lawyer is absolutely brilliant! Captivating, brutally honest and very inspiring!

One of the best interviews I have ever watched! Thank you.

36:45 - "How are you going to be married to someone, have children with someone, and you can't talk about hard things such as a prenup? How are you going to navigate life together and not be able to talk about hard things? If you can't then don't get married". So very true. Hit the nail on the head.

@Bubbles-od2tv

8 ай бұрын

Prenups should be mandatory, then no difficult conversations will need to be had!

@cuppa_joe

8 ай бұрын

@@Bubbles-od2tv That will most likely never happen unfortunately.

"People lie to their therapist, but they won't lie to their divorce lawyer." Wow! I'm blown away. I want to read Sexton's books.

@ryanhorvath1308

3 ай бұрын

It doesn't benefit you to lie to your lawyer - some form of the truth will eventually come out in the wash. I don't understand why people would want to lie to their therapist if they actually wanted help either but that's another story.

@moviebuff6490

3 ай бұрын

He has published books about marriage? I'm not surprised.

@ireeblount8238

3 ай бұрын

Therapy works when you work it. People don’t want to do the work, which is what he’s saying. The uncomfortable conversations in the beginning for the prenup… if you can’t do that, then you shouldn’t be getting married.

This whole interview was just epic. Word to word.. amazing. Thank you for this !!

Excellent interview! The reality of spending our lives together depends on our ability to communicate well & constructively.

"I don't think I can learn everything about myself from myself, I need someone who can see my blind spots" ❤ I love that!

@subspacescout9951

8 ай бұрын

I concur.

@SuperJJParker

8 ай бұрын

I read this comment the exact moment he said it.

"I don't think I can learn eveything I need to know about myself from myself." - This hit like a truck as I've never heard it verbalized from another person so perfectly. I would kill to go out to dinner with this guy and just talk. What a fascinating human being.

@lavish_1717

8 ай бұрын

So true

@sinverrette9803

8 ай бұрын

Listen.. I felt that 100%.. we tend to get offended and deny when someone tells us about ourselves. Him saying that makes it make sense.

@sinverrette9803

8 ай бұрын

CLEO me too. I bet he could've saved me a whole lot of heartbreak.

This is one of the best interviews of all time

@eldenking2098

Ай бұрын

Moral of the story, western women are poisoned mind controlled femenists and the only option is to go overseas for a good wife like the Passport Bro movement recommends until then remain celibate, no western women respects men so don't give them no seed, no time, no energy, no attention, no social media likes, let the lampreys starve of energy until they they adapt or their gene seed perishes, they wont always be viable for children they know their biological clock is ticking and at some point they will get the hormone to reproduce before their eggs expire. Learn how they operate in mind, body and spirit and you can control the game.

I need more videos from this man, the insights and experiences he shared hit a resounding tone with me. I love how raw and unfiltered the video and his responses are, there's no BS or sugar coating, its reality.

My mother was married and divorced four times before I was 25. I saw what it does to people up close and personal. Before I got married I sat down with future spouse and created a prenup, and 10.5 years later when we decided to call it quits we sat down and split everything just like Jim said, yours, mine and ours. We never fought over anything and 23 years later we're still friends. I 100% agree with Jim's take on marriage. Another outstanding interview Mark!!

@tara34952

9 ай бұрын

This is a fine example of how it should be done. You have my respect.

@jamesc2545

9 ай бұрын

4 times in 7 years… dang man mom was a mess

@daniellebailey6802

9 ай бұрын

Same. I still haven't been married. Lol

@malik_alharb

9 ай бұрын

Do you regret the marriage

@wavybebes6979

8 ай бұрын

@@RetireandGoyou need to think about what it’ll be like for a kid to grow up with older parent(s)

I know a lot of us, sometimes myself included, think that attorneys are scumbags but this guy is spot on! He should be a marriage counselor as well.

@dominiquemcclaney128

8 ай бұрын

True especially the end.

@Blueblackngold

8 ай бұрын

They’re predatory scumbags the lot of them

@dontbearichard72

8 ай бұрын

He should be a youth counselor.

@zenden6564

8 ай бұрын

In presales...

@anandadaquino3604

8 ай бұрын

at the end I was: "I still wanna play in the lottery" hahahaha

This is by far the most informative video I’ve ever seen on YT. Every man should watch this & take notes 💯

WOW!! So many gems thrown out in that interview. I truly enjoyed James, and everything that he shared.

The purpose of marriage isn't to be happy, it's to grow together. Happiness is a byproduct of a well maintained marriage. Whether you're single or married happiness flows in and out like the tide for all humans.

@vl3525

9 ай бұрын

You phrased this beautiful 🤍

@ladylucile15

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@user-sv8st5md9n

9 ай бұрын

you should be "growing together" even before marriage .. marriage should literally serve no purpose besides being mere celebration of togetherness

@kingdolo23

9 ай бұрын

Well said my friend

@antonyjh1234

9 ай бұрын

No, the purpose of marriage was to tie one man to one woman, who could then support the children that were called urchins or sold at markets, females getting pregnant and all property owned by males makes it hard to support children on your own, an incredibly tough time to be female. Child Support originated from this.

“Falling feels like flying, at least for a little while”. Exceptional interview. This guy needs a publishing deal.Signed, a happily married woman who still gets butterflies after 23 years.

@carriehartman1787

8 ай бұрын

Same! Married 22 years, we are the lucky ones ❤

@corrinnacorrinna5572

8 ай бұрын

29 so far.....❤

@trihnguyen5275

8 ай бұрын

42 years with two wonderful children and three beautiful grandchildren.

@carriehartman1787

8 ай бұрын

We are the 44%💕. While not all of the 44% are happy, the 56% are not all happy as well!

@elijaprice

8 ай бұрын

"It's not how you fall, it's how you land" - French proverb.

I had only seen brief clips of this guy before now - I'm glad I got a whole hour of him here! 😊

Jim, thank you so much for your sharing, your point of view, the stories you've been seen are insightful

I can't begin to express how much I wish I'd seen this 20 years ago. It should be required watching for everyone in today's society.

@jesperburns

9 ай бұрын

Are there some insights coming then? Because 12 minutes in and his demeanour is getting on my nerves.

@1x0x

9 ай бұрын

@@jesperburns cant handle the authenticity or what? this dude is awesome

@brennenbisme

9 ай бұрын

@@jesperburnsHe’s being real. His demeanor presents 0 fakeness. Probably why it gets on your nerves. No catering.

@jesperburns

9 ай бұрын

@@brennenbisme his information is real but there's very few people alive faker than him

@art8kitty482

9 ай бұрын

What have you learned from it? That men think with their di** till late retirement age?

This guy is quick witted, hilarious, and should start his own KZread channel

@leticiabrowne1761

9 ай бұрын

Yes ! He’s a great story teller

@belle2263

9 ай бұрын

Haha yes the do's and don'ts of marriage podcasts 😅

@noraoros9974

9 ай бұрын

Call it “Love Stinks”

@MatthewAndrewDrake

9 ай бұрын

100% or standup comedy

@slick95112

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely

Married couple here…first time @46. #DINKS and very happy. 60 now. . I had great parents who raised me to view marriage and kids as an option but not as a goal or approval from society. Married with kids is a career path. I love how this guy also shows marriages not required. He also calls out pragmatic advice necessary to be married. Marriage is a business. Treat it like one.❤

I didn't think I'd enjoy listening to an attorney but damn this was a good one. Thank you to both of you for getting together for this conversation.

_"Being married is great sometimes, the problem is you're married all the time."_ Great quote. Great interview. So many nuggets of insight. So many relevant analogies on-hand for the scenarios he was discussing. That quote is one of several that I could have listed here.

@cyano741

8 ай бұрын

People make the mistake of going for attraction instead of compatibility. Morals/values/, integrity, politics, kids, marriage, sex, careers, finances, religion, world view, temperament, communication, household, past trauma, personality traits etc. They have to be compatible. Liking each other simply is not enough. Laying it all out on the table. Will it always be 100% perfect? No. But life is a struggle, the rest is teamwork. You better stick with someone who compliments your assets and weak spots. You will come to find, life is much nicer when you have someone by your side who has your best interest at heart.

@musashi542

8 ай бұрын

thats a good thing for me

@GGCandle

8 ай бұрын

This comment is also great sometimes.

@sssuperstacy

8 ай бұрын

There were 4 -6 quotes i wanted to jot down... alas

@heronn4las

8 ай бұрын

@@cyano741religion is something that shouldn’t make you get married. it’s all a lie

This video should be played to every teenager as they leave high school and be used as pre-marriage classes. Absolutely the most valuable video on all of KZread.

@kota9087

8 ай бұрын

I was thinkin the same thing

@mo_bra3340

8 ай бұрын

@@LemonadeLiberal Yes! They should be weary about marriage just like the straight community! ;-D

@mo_bra3340

8 ай бұрын

Agreed! I also think a pre-nup should be a standard part of obtaining a marriage license... or any other legal form process that needs to be filed before 2 people can wed!!!

@nealcollins435

8 ай бұрын

I love the comments!

@kota9087

8 ай бұрын

@@mo_bra3340 it literally makes no sense that its not a part of the process considering how often marriage fails

Of all the stellar interviews I have listened to on this channel (probably a couple hundred) this one is easily the most personally valuable one I have heard. This man had a lot to say, and I felt like every bit of it was worthwhile.

If this guy comes out with a book, im buying it. This was the MOST IMPORTANT, educating, knowledgable information i have ever read/heard/watched in my life.. this video has probably 300 real-life quotes that you wont get any-effin-where... this guy is talking about marriage-love-relationship-man/woman as on point as the law of gravity is defined..