Knowing that you’re worthy of being treated better is half the battle.

@mallorymeyr2249

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@vixenvalenzuela

2 жыл бұрын

🤍

@ThatJew

2 жыл бұрын

No it ain’t

@Caleb0180

Жыл бұрын

Truth

We should focus on more of what we want in life rather than what we don’t want. Instead of saying “I don’t want to be mistreated” opt for “ I want to be treated with respect” ❤️

A tip I got from a book on CPTSD by Pete Walker: To fight those negative voices, give yourself permission to internally be angry at them and cuss them out. A lot of these voices come from abusive people such as our parents pouring this stuff on us when we were small, vulnerable children with no one to stick up for us. As adults to turn this around in our own heads, cussing those voices off has two benefits: 1)It reminds you that those voices are not yours and they're not welcome in your head 2)A deep vulnerable part of you is finally feeling like someone is sticking up for you -- not staying silent, not being some passive, wimpy enabler. Someone is saying how dare you and fuck off. It was a huge relief for me to read that and it makes total sense to me.

@Beautyforashes613_

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely makes sense! Thank you for sharing

@melliecrann-gaoth4789

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for reminding me of Pete Walker’s book. I have it in a heap somewhere.

@shanieceshelby

Жыл бұрын

Love this so much

@terceehunnie8440

10 ай бұрын

Reading this im realizing i did this by instinct. I thought i had a weird coping mechanism but hey it does work!

Your standards create your life ♡ everything in your life starts with you ♡ wonderful video

@beam8250

4 жыл бұрын

💓

@snowjasmine9644

4 жыл бұрын

I see your comment in literally most of the videos I watch lol

Letting go of toxic people & making room for healthy relationships was my start. Small daily steps forward helped a lot too.

I'm recovering from being in a abusive relationship with my mother, God bless you for sharing this advice with us Stephanie God bless you.

@svm13317

5 жыл бұрын

Rachel the booke Same. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.

@nicoleraheem1195

3 жыл бұрын

Me too and I'm tired of being treated like I'm Worthless. I started internalizing it. I really feel lile shit and lost sight of my purpose

@azadbhardwaj2250

2 жыл бұрын

I too Wass treated the same way. I too internalised it. Now i want to get myself back. I want to improve my self worth.

Stephanie, I found you about a year ago, when leaving my marriage of 32 years. I got tired of the narc she had become. As I am going through divorce, and am feeling lost in a desert, I actually check for something new from you daily. Sometimes it’s hard to listen to you, because it hits to close to home. Thank you for doing these videos, you have definitely found your calling.

@iretiolaadeleke219

3 жыл бұрын

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@rachell4417

2 жыл бұрын

I am about to divorce from a nasty Narc. I love her videos

@YOU-niter

Жыл бұрын

32 yrs unhealthy relationship I’m leaving t👀.. I must make a stand now and not let him ‘win me over’ again Never again..

Key is ,not waiting for tragedy in our personal lives to level up.Key is to see the yield and caution sighns first and know it's time for change.A scripture says"As a man thinketh that's what he becomes.Knowong your value eternally was a game changer for me!

Yep, I was in a relationship with someone who was unhealthy, and toxic. My standards for my partner, and for myself have been risen. I’m even getting better with setting boundaries.

@iretiolaadeleke219

3 жыл бұрын

YOU WON'T FIND YOUR WORTH ON INSTAGRAM OR FACEBOOK. Some will argue that the social media empowers… What are your thoughts? WATCH THIS!! kzread.info/dash/bejne/eWiEydeNmqjcm6g.html

The minute your mind set changes, your standards change - so true, Stephanie!!!

I just hit like button before i even hear you. You speak to my heart.

@latrecelockett4930

3 жыл бұрын

Me too she’s a blessing

I don't believe that I'm worthy and I don't believe that I'm enough. But now I'm ready to let go of the fear and anxiety that says I'm not enough. God I really need to embed this in my mind and heart. Thank you💕

self affirmations are very helpful. name your fear/anxiety so its outside yourself, rather than part of your identity. I am learning to set much higher standards. thank you so much for these videos!

I need to listen to this every single day I lose the will to follow through.

Stephanie Lyn, you always prepare your hair clothes impressions background flowers etc. in these discussions in expressing your uncommon wisdom about a breadth of emotional and life circumstances. You are just so good at improving people's lives, thank you for all the goodness you deliver to the world. You are just so easy to watch and listen to, towards personal growth. Thank you.

Thank you for your honesty and articulate, well informed presentation. I need to raise the bar in so many ways. The only thing I would add is the negative internal thoughts come from wounded parts, see IFS therapy for how to embrace all parts of your self 🙏💙

Im in a relationship with a class 8 narcissist. Im at the end i feel it so badly. he has pushed me so deep into depression i can barely breathe or want too...i cant take it anymore. My standers must be so low atm.but your right, once you go through hell and almost feel like you cant take one more breath.......boom god hits you and says get up,and starts helping you to want higher standards within in yourself then from others in any relationship.....thank you so much for this video ,every video of yours helps me take one more breath to take one more step. ❤🙏

@lydiaolamibo7643

4 жыл бұрын

Veronica Barnhardt please just get out of there.. Trying to raise standards when still with a narcissist is setting oneself up for greater frustration and exhaustion. Please. Please. Please get out... You sound so very tired already

@lydiaolamibo7643

4 жыл бұрын

Or. If you are indeed able to raise them, prepare yourself for a discard. See it as a being set free. I wish you the best from the bottom of my heart. Stay safe and stay sane haha. Truly tho.. I'm just sorta concerned that you're already depressed and still in it... Take care. 👋 muah!

Hi Stephanie - I’ve been a subscriber for about a year and you have changed my life for the better! Your videos helped educate me on narcissism and recovery, I was emotionally and physically abused during an 8 year marriage. I’m raising 2 kids on my own with no support whatsoever, it’s hard but you have taught me strategies to get through and discover my past wounds and I feel so much stronger. I’m interested in a free coaching session, it’s been 10 months since my separation and I’d be interested in hearing how I can ease into dating and attract a loving, healthy relationship into my life!

Thanks for the video! I broke the narcissist abuse pattern in my family, and I feel like I'm being called to help others with this cycle. I would love to speak with you!

@kaheaisaac1

Жыл бұрын

That's awesome!!

Half of my chance I listened to Laura Eisenhower last night. She talked a lot of about this. Just how programmed we truly are. Thank you Stephanie,

Thank you for your videos. I just recently got out of a 22 year relationship (married 19 years) with someone that I now believe is a narcissist. I am interested in entering to win the 1 hr free coaching session. Thanks again for all you do.

@aishaclark5763

5 жыл бұрын

Michele Clark Burns Good luck!!! 🍀👍🏽

@liad5172

5 жыл бұрын

Me too but 24 and trying to get out also. I can relate and I also love her videos

Handling low self esteem and low expectations from the people I deal with has really warped how I interact with my day to day. It’s an issue and I acknowledge it. Thanks for this. I want to be happy and confident and I will work on it.

❤ My aunt sent me to your channel. I was in a marriage for nine years with a malignant narcissist and I am codependent . I have been divorced for almost four years and after what your videos have taught me my perception and understanding of everything has changed. I did not know I was with a malignant narcissist or that I also was codependent I thought I was just married to a bipolar man. I wish I could get a free coaching session with you. Thank you for all of your hard work I think you are changing the world you are such an inspiration. ❤

@iretiolaadeleke219

3 жыл бұрын

YOU WON'T FIND YOUR WORTH ON INSTAGRAM OR FACEBOOK. Some will argue that the social media empowers… What are your thoughts? WATCH THIS!! kzread.info/dash/bejne/eWiEydeNmqjcm6g.html

So glad I found your channel!! Your videos are so helpful to me! I’m recovering from a 17 year marriage to someone with NPD. I’ve done all the research I’m going to do with that crazy world and am now strictly focusing on ME!!!

@marsharowaihy6725

3 жыл бұрын

One of the best Codependency experts is Ross Rosenberg, He talks a lot being victim Narcissist.

@arleeng.daniels3091

3 жыл бұрын

@@marsharowaihy6725 thank you! I’ll take a look at it!

You are such a great coach, I relate with the Heartache part. I went thru the most excruciating painful heartbreak for me to raise my standards and it is working for me, even if I know I risk losing the person I create a bond with, I just know that I want to be loved in a way that is going to make me happy if not then that person is not for me. 😊

‘Standards become habits ‘Thanku Stephanie this is so applicable for me right nw bless u 😘

Thank you! I was having a rough couple of days and I've haven't been too kind to myself. Your input is very helpful. This is something I struggle with consistently.

This is so helpful, especially for people with depression. Thank you!

Thank you for all you do, Stephanie. You will never know how big a help you've been!

Thank you, Stephenie! I like your videos and it helped me through my darkest days. I am so grateful that I found you in KZread. Yes, being aware of our own life and setting standards and boundaries are so important for mental wellness.

Stephanie, I went through abuse in 2020 and since then I have not felt like myself. That was until I found your channel last week. I wish I found you earlier, you are like an elder sister to me, a guide. You’ve single handedly helped me to come out of my misery. Loads of thanks and good wishes for you from my side. If you ever have issues with something in your life, feel free to seek out my help. :)

This is soooo helpful, Ive been practicing this in past few months. the self talk helps when I feel anxious about everyday situations.

Hi Stephanie, I am truely grateful to have found you and your channel. Listening to your videos and advice is part of my daily routine and has been since I found you. You make so much sense and your advice has picked me up, enlightened me and is helping me grow. Thank you xx

Right on time Stephanie. Thank you! 💗🕊💗🕊💗🕊💗

I appreciate your work so much. Thank you for posting all your videos. They have helped me in numerous ways. I would LOVE a free session with you.

I love listening to you....steph ❤ Thank you so much 🙂

Thanks for another supportive video Stephanie! It feels like a nice, safe and reassuring warm hug that turns cats into lions 😊

I appreciate all of the content that you put out! It’s helped me so much! And has caused my growth to sky rocket! I related so much when you mentioned that personal growth becomes an addiction. I would LOVE a free coaching session with you! 😊

Stephanie, you're changing my life! I'm so happy I discovered your channel this week. What a blessing your guidance has been to me, as well as others whom I've shared your videos with. I feel your insight has come into my life at the perfect time. Just wanted to share my appreciation with you. Keep expressing yourself & sharing, you have a true gift!

I would absolutely love a coaching session! Your videos are so helpful, thank you for doing these❤️

Thank you for this video. I need to hear these words right now. Ended a relationship that has left me feeling worthless and very sad. I am having sleepless nights and listening to your messages are helping me cope. Over thinking is killing me. I need to feel better about myself.

I need to listen to and watch this video every month. It sums up most of what I need to know and do.

Thank you so much! I listen to your videos daily. I'm recently going through a breakup of a long term emotionally abusive relationship and you have truly helped me.

DO NOT FEAR !!! BE STRONG !!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR VÍDEOS !!!

I would love a free coaching session - I love your videos, they are wonderful and you are sharing great joy in this world. Thank you x

Just subscribed.... Clicked "All" on the bell..... Years of suffering abuse from a number of narcissists, both covert and malignant, due to my personal lack of self-worth..... My mistake, not theirs, really... I set myself up..... Going to watch all of yours.... Thank you so much, Stephanie Lyn..... Jack, 58, Southern California

Stephanie, I've been watching your videos for over a year now and it's been nice to watch your channel grow. You have offered a lot of practical advice which I continue to put into practice. I like that you offer some of your personal story as perspective, it makes this even more relatable. Free life coach session or not I wanted to personally thank you and say how nice it is how much you have given already for free for so many to access.

Thank you for the opportunity of receiving a free one-hour coaching session! 💕

You have helped me so much! Thank you for your amazing videos! I really appreciate the work you do.

You’re amazing! I don’t know how I haven’t found you before. Love how you get to the point with great explanations and practical examples to overcome obstacles. I can also tell you overcame those yourself. I might see all your videos

Thank you I really appreciate your time in making videos like this one, it’s helping me to build up my confidence and set new standards in my life so, I can also teach my little boy to make good choices in life and achieve a balance. Thank you again.

Such a GREAT message....this the secret to a great life right here! You did an awesome job consolidating a potent message!

The time you devote to making these videos to help people, is invaluable thank you. I would love a free session.

This is so encouraging! I have been a subscriber for about a year and its been so beneficial in my life. Thank you for your help!! As someone who had to deal with narcissists more than I'd like to admit, its empowering to know its something that can be healed from. I can say that I'd rather be the empath and take some blows to my sensitivity than be that which hurts me. My strength is my sensitivity and I embrace that for the first time in my life. Your coaching has helped me see the good in myself and others and speak that out even more.

@ChristianaSenibo

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾

hi Stephanie i would love a free session, I've been listening to you for 1 year now and i think you are very smart, educated and knowledgeable about relationships and so much more! thank for everything and mostly for helping others!

Thats gold, you have the power to change people’s life with your words, thank you so much for sharing this.

Stephanie, thanks for offering the free coaching. Receiving the session would be like the universe giving me a wink and a nod that I am getting this train on the right track. Your videos are so helpful and on point. Thank you for all this great content.

Thank you so much I’ve been watching your videos for several months now and they’re so helpful, I’m incredibly grateful ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I want to say thank you. I have been confronted with past issues and mistakes. I am going through major changes. I am learning about who I am, What I want and where I am going. Your words have helped me articulate some much needed direction and motivation. I needed some empowerment. Thank you.

I been through several toxic relationships, but this last one was the worst which woke me up and I said I had enough of these type of relationships. I am finally taking time to work on myself and have been watching a lot of your videos. Setting my goals, and writing down the characteristics I want in a relationship.

You've helped me so much! I would love a free session :) Good luck to everyone else!

Thank you so much for your words. They’ve been super helpful

Hi Stephanie Lyn, I find your coaching videos very clear and productive- thank you for your generosity!

A session with you would be very inspiring. Thank you for your time & efforts to present these videos.

Excellent.presentation and content. Thank you for posting.

Stephanie, thank you so much for the video! Soo a mentor of mine recently told me that yellow and red flags in a relationship turn into black holes in a marriage. I started making exceptions for people around 7 months ago, and thats when my habits started changing. Just wanted to say thanks for giving concrete advice!

I'd love a free session. I've dealt with way too many toxic people in my life and your videos have been so helpful for me as I work on becoming the best version of myself.

Thank you for your knowledge, and videos I needed this video and the support you have to offer others.

Definitely interested in the free coaching session! Thank you for your insightful video💖

Thank you Stephany, you have been so helpful!

Thankyou, u r so on point, i am in my life doing the things u spoke on, and it makes me feel great that i have crossed all these roads in a past bad relationship that woke me up along wth a mild health issue to take better care of my self. I am doing pretty dam good i must say myself. Listening to u just gave me more info to stay on track of how sometimes bad things wake a person up. Thku!!!!

Thanks Stephanie ❤️. This talk really hit the nail on the head for me! I've been procrastinating lately. It feels awful... Sigh.

I would love a free session with you. I love all of your videos. I have learned alot and it's helping me deal with a covert narcissist partner, since I cannot leave the home at this time. Without these videos, I would be pulling my hair out every day. Thank you for everything you do :)

this video is a blessing, thank you so much. i am going through a breakup where he chose hookups over me and he has been all I've known and my best friend. i want to look back on this chapter and find this as a blessing rather than a situation where i was a victim. i will use this to change my life for the better.

Thank you so much coach Stephanie Lyn 🤞🏾💯

wow!. I NEEDED this advice, Thank You!

I would absolutely love a free coaching session ❤I have learned so much from you in the past 6 months helped me finally get out of a 13 year toxic relationship but I still have to (try to) co-parent with him thank you for the opportunity

This video is speaking to me..I’m just gonna keep replaying it over and over!

Love this video so much I'm listening to it for the third time today thank you Stephanie

You’re my life changer! I wish I watched this earlier to win the free coaching session. I love your videos! Thank you!! 💕

You are a fabulous speaker, very insightful. I love how you build on the concept of standards to obtain a higher level of self worth. I wish I had learned this as a child! Thank you for saying that! Awesome, organized, to-the-point speaking style. Please include me in the free session lottery.

Thank you so much for generously offering this! I would love a free coaching session!

Great video. Thank you for all the advice. I would absolutely love a free coaching session 😍

Hi Stephanie, I found your channel about a month ago and realize that I am continuing to think, behave, and make choices In the same unproductive ways that have plagued me my entire life. I have been in cognitive behavioral therapy and haven’t done much growing. I think life coaching is the way I need to go and I’d like to have a session with you to see if is a better way for me to change myself and my life. Thanks for everything that you do - I get hope and strength from your videos.

Thank You Stephanie !

Thank you so very much.... I've attended a church that was good for 21 years, but the last 3 have been hell since a new, malignant narcissist "director" was put in charge, and he's extremely jealous of me. I literally can't take his abuse any more. Thank you for helping me see the light.

This was just what I needed! Thank you! I was feeling so down and negative. If I am not too late I would like a session. Thank you

Really learning from your videos. I'm recovering from a narcissistic boss and lost my self esteem. I would love the hour of coaching. ❤

Wow, this is just everything!

Yes so true. I teach this to my Real Estate Investor Students and it works. Just bought another property today and it felt good. Gotta keep up the Momentum. So this works financially as well. Thanks You!

Thank you for making this empowering content!

Your videos are easy for me to understand and I like that. Thank you so much for all your uploads.

I love your videos! I would love a session to get started! Thank you! And keep making this videos! It helps a lot!

i felt every . word of this video! i have always had high standards in romantic relationships because my dad was a narcissist and it affected my mum and i. what i wasnt conscious of was how toxic FRIENDS can do the same damage or worse. took me really losing myself to raise my standards for all the people i allow into my life whether they are friends or romantic interests. thanks i love your stuff so much!!

It is nice to see a happy person. Being successful!)

Stephanie you are such a delight to listen to. Thank you for sharing all of your knowledge. I wish I could get a free session with you.

Your videos are so uplifting! I would love a session with you! I am going through a break up with a narcissist (4 years, was engaged to be married this August) and the topics you speak about are highly applicable to my situation. Thank you!

Absolutely love this channel your information and videos are so very helpful and to the point. Exteely helpful and thank you for the work you do it definitely resonates💖 I would love a free one hour session. 😊

Thank you for your video!! Exactly what I needed it...

Thank you Stephanie for this video! I would love a free session to learn more about self worth and help me love myself again! :)