1. Practice self awareness. 2. Practice positive self-talk : Listen to positive affirmations to expand your vocabulary. 3. Spending time alone. 4. Listening to your intuition. 5. Practice forgiveness ( self & others). 6. Self unconditional love. 7. Celebration of Self.

@nessa5123

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@verreal

Жыл бұрын

So we've got 7 or 8 according to another commenter, but she says she's giving us 12.

Rilke said: "Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror Just keep going No feeling is final" Feel theese words deep inside you, every moment...you need nothing else.

Tips to improve self love 1. Practice self awareness: take responsibility for personal feelings 2. Practice positive self talk: listen to affirmation 3. Spending time alone: 4. Physical exercise: take care of yourself 5. Listen to your intuition 6. Practice forgiveness 7. Don't judge yourself: Love yourself unconditionally 8. Celebrate yourself

Ive always been an empath and a people pleaser. Blessing and curse. Recently i have been involved with a very toxic manipulative person and its been awful. I realised i needed to change my approach to these people and to work on myself its so difficult but i am much more aware now amd im starting to set boundaries and putting myself first and loving myself for once. Its taken me nearly 40 years to realise this! if you loveve yourself know who you are and are comfortable in your skin you'll attract the right people in your life the ones you deserve. Accept yourself first You shouldn't need to have to be accepted by others if they don't they shouldn't be in your life. Life lessons kids should be taught this stuff! Love your channel beautiful lady xx

@iuanejones1638

5 жыл бұрын

Lisa Weaver

@ireneiddy1177

4 жыл бұрын

Lisa Weaver you’re not alone sister

@homenhungry4987

3 жыл бұрын

Malignant Narcissists hunt for, search out, manipulate, and try to destroy empths like us..... I'm 58, have wasted too much time and energy dealing with those types. No more.

@catlikedat8705

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! Nearly 58 here...who knew that self love meant that! Especially if we were never taught if you came from pack of narcs that you love because their family et al (which is the crux of my own hard re-wiring of past 5 decades) BUT their actions and behaviour are painful and damaging and real hell. Not a great role model for foundations to find partner out there.

@gretchenburton7184

3 жыл бұрын

@@homenhungry4987 yes. I am 75 and keep getting ripped off and manipulated. One trauma after another. So am getting better, catching it earlier. Rebounder helps!!!

I love myself so much I am marrying my ownself and getting my own rings!!!! May sound crazy but thats what it is.... 💍💍💍

@rhondanerren4797

5 жыл бұрын

I’ve thought the same thing! lol

@ladennayoung2939

4 жыл бұрын

I do want to buy myself a ring. If it is a ruby ring. It would be nice. Because the Bible says that the price of a virtuous woman cost more than the cost of a ruby. It don't have to be extravagant. I just want that as a reminder to me.

@ajohonly3721

4 жыл бұрын

Coast Crystal always save your money this will set you free when you’re ready be smart and all the best take baby steps.

@brendalagunas7895

3 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing I got a ring for myself and promise myself that it will never happen again how my ex husband treated me🥰

@toddlagerholm2304

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking when next valentines day comes to get flowers delivered to me at work provided we are back in the office in Feb

I died when you talked about forgiveness. For a long time I have held this bitterness against an ex lover, wanting him to ultimately fail. He didnt. He moved on from me and is now happy. I realized that I havent forgiven him for the hurt he caused, nor myself for falling for his crap. But in the midst of it the fear of attaching to another person has also held me back. I decided to forgive both of us for being young and dumb and I feel so much lighter!

This is almost three years old. Yet it is right on time for me. God truly works in mysterious ways, and He truly is an on time God.

@apex11177

9 ай бұрын

Your comment is almost 3 years old and it is right on time for me! 🙏

Self Awarness Self talk is everthing Spending time alone

my birthday is coming up, maybe I'll make myself a cake!

@malcolmglennie8418

6 жыл бұрын

I like that idea

@ellyess7203

6 жыл бұрын

mary wolfe; Happy Birthday! Sorry if I'm late, Hope you had a great time! Love yourself! [flowers]

@appleappl3

5 жыл бұрын

Ok

@LadyofCleves65

5 жыл бұрын

Ya, thats a great idea. What I do from time to time is buy myself flowers.

@KatesTeaTime09

5 жыл бұрын

:D

I'm only recently learning to love and prioritize myself after ending a narcissistic relationship- journaling,exercising,taking myself out for coffee,being mindful of my thoughts,skincare,investing in good clothes or shoes just for my sake,reconnecting with friends and playing with my dog. Sometimes I just want to reinstate my own thoughts as to why it is so important to do this to heal me. That's when I come to your channel Stephanie,its inspiring how clear your thought process is and I aim to reach that someday. Sending love from India💜

@anandalawrence6203

3 жыл бұрын

Hi, how's it going, you've inspired me too as well as Stephanie xx

@aasthabattu

3 жыл бұрын

@@anandalawrence6203 Hey Amanda, so far it's going well for me, though I lost my dog in August 2020,so that's been hard but im actually enjoying loving myself!

@anandalawrence6203

3 жыл бұрын

Awww so sorry about you dog😢😓 they are so loyal aren't they!! I came out of a toxic relationship and he owned to 2 dogs which I miss everyday . I'm starting to love my self buy doing doing things you have done and I'm starting to fall in love with me!! I'm excited about the future now . Sending you love and hugs from England xxx

@aasthabattu

3 жыл бұрын

@@anandalawrence6203 All the best on your journey, I hope it's the most fruitful one 🤗

@RedRooster123

3 жыл бұрын

So the same with me. Literally all of this.. and I just bought a house, turning one of the rooms into my own walk in closet! Seriously one of the most awesome things I'm doing for myself.

i just realized i'm a codependent with childhood trauma. I enmeshed with a borderline about 4 years ago. I just summoned up the courage 6 weeks ago to go no contact. I blocked all phone,e mail and SM contact. I'm still dwelling on the illusion of what i thought i had but i know over time this too shall pass. i just wanted to write this out so i can read it and accept it. Thank you for all your advice.

Self aware take control of thoughts check in with urself positive talk yes love affirmation yes for sleep

So I only caught 8 bullet point I am working an I missing something . This video is great btw. Self awareness Practice self talk Spend time alone Take responsibility for your own happiness Listen to your intuition Practice forgiveness Love yourself unconditionally Celebrate yourself

@funnygirlever

5 жыл бұрын

❤

@rosegarcia2371

5 жыл бұрын

Me too! I took notes and had only 8. I guess they are in there somewhere.

@rachelarmel7547

5 жыл бұрын

I also took notes and only got 8. This video got cut off abruptly at the end so I hope she can add on the last 4 in a part 2 of this!

@emmalarsson1141

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@zabdy_love

4 жыл бұрын

Listen to Positive Affirmations while you sleep & Take care of your Health

You have explained self love in a uncomplicated way. Thanks for sharing.

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! It is so important! 💗

Forgive to be ready for the future !!!!😃👏🏼🌟

Please keep doing coach sessions it's very helpful we are struggling with self esteem issues☹️😁

Self love is the meds ever self care self acceptance self value self worth self respect self help self discipline self challenges self happiness self knowledge self education self control self believe self belief self like self awareness self defense self stand up for myself self qualified self trust self involved self worksachoic self guided self spiritual self understanding self expression self optimist self confidence woman.

I’m going through a self healing journey but the hardest thing about it is not knowing what healthy thoughts/emotions/actions etc actually are. It makes me doubt or question myself when it comes to standing up for myself or putting myself first around the people I know. Sometimes I feel like I’m a bad person for trying to get my needs met. I was brought up in a very unhealthy environment and was never taught what you are teaching the world. If it wasn’t for videos like these and people like you on KZread I wouldn’t know there was another way to live and continued my life in a environment that was unsafe/unhealthy for me but also my comfort zone because that’s all I’ve known. Thank you for showing me there is another way and because of that I feel more at peace in my inner self.

This is truly eye opening. Please don't ever stop doing what you do. Again and Again and Again. -Thank you Always💙

Yes, listening to our intuition and trusting ourselves is proof of self-love and healing.

1. Practice self awareness to monitor your thoughts and feelings. Reminder to check in with yourself on feelings. 2. Replace -ve with +ve thoughts by listening to positive self affirmation/talk. Can do +ve affirmation before going to bed. Supportive thoughts come from yourself whereas negative thoughts come from the wounds and detach from those. 3. Spending time alone. Be happy with yourself now. 4. Listening to intuition. 5. Practice forgiveness for yourself. 6. Love yourself unconditionally..flaws, good stuff. 8. Celebrate and take care yourself. The wins, achievement, goals. To motivate yourself.

Stephanie you are awsome . I cry when you said love unconditional and not to judge myself. I do not know about love. I think I did before. And I got hurt and became numb. And walk in anger bitterness and I judge myself all the time. Thank you so much. I am still crying. You really help me.

I've recently summoned up the energy to walk away from a narcissistic man that was causing me a lot of emotional distress; whenever we talk about things, not only would he not take a stance from my perspective to see things, but he would also say hurtful things to me in "retaliation" because his ego was affected. Your videos really helped me see the true light. Thank you :)

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Yay!! Good for you! You must feel so proud of yourself. All the best to you and thank you for watching!

@heidiooohs276

4 жыл бұрын

Same

Stephanie Lyn Coaching Thank you again, for so much! I was scared when you started to say "people who spend time alone.." because I spend most - almost all - of my time alone - well, with my rescued little dogs that is.! So I was so glad to know I am healthy on my own, so long as I love myself! Just recently I was attacked by a neighbour (I was trying to help her) and it has had a very bad effect on me, but just afterwards, on my YT page, was your video about Projection and it described exactly what she did in anger ! Now I am learning from you with this video. I am so grateful to you Stephanie, you are a truly good person. I send my Granny-love from here in the UK, to you and your family. (P.S. the photo isn't me! it's an actress I admired, now deceased, who played Agatha Christi's "Miss Marple" the quaint and very clever old lady detective. I wish I could be like her!)

@ellyess7203

6 жыл бұрын

P.S. The "Get lost" on your Tee Shirt could say "Get Lost in Unconditional Self-Love" or "Get Lost in happy thoughts" or "... in a lovely place" etc.

@jackiefrances3272

4 жыл бұрын

Good advice

I make myself meals almost daily. I love good food. If I make dinner for my girlfriend or mother (she lives with us) they don’t eat it but go out to eat. I could only help myself.

@leximakeupful

3 жыл бұрын

I bet your meals are delicious!

This is enlightening, I could listen to this all day.

Stephanie, this is one of my favorite videos you've made. I smiled when you talk about celebrating yourself and you get goose bumps "hairs are up!" 18:37. So cute, genuine, and you. You're doing Gods work here. You're healing people. You can celebrate that! Thanks for all you've taught me the last couple years.

Stephanie ! you are amazing and you have helped me more than any therapist! I am greatful for your information and it is totally incredible that you put these videos out to the public. I am very thankful, you have helped me through the turmoil, pain and confusion I have been feeling after leaving a 25 year marriage to a full blown narcissist. I have come to realize that I am a highly sensitive person and an empath and I am building strength everyday because of YOU !! Thank you Thank you Thank you !!!!! God bless you girl !

I try my best to meditate and bring in positive thoughts all the time. The real challenge to this is when you’re surrounded by people who try and tear it down.

Forgiveness has helped me tremendously. It has allowed me release from all toxicity from that relationship. I needed to feel it, mourn it and forgive in order to be free because forgiveness isn’t about him. It is about me. He probably doesn’t accept accountability but that’s not business. He’s no longer in my life. I’m focusing on me. Unconditionally loving myself is a journey I’m continuing to work on.

positive self talk is not too hard to do, I have noticed that as soon as I feel some anxiety or feeling low, I try to do something to change it, I will listen to positive videos, or play some good music or just get up and walk around.

I saved this particular video and will listen to it over and over and over again until it gets into my brain and stays there💞

Literally just discovered your channel today and I thank GOD that I did. I love the way you explain things and it's refreshing that you focus on how to heal during our journey of recovery. You're awesome. Thank you so much for this. Subscribed! 😊

Sometimes all I need is to know that i am there for myself and give myself accolades when I deserve it

Wow....This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life. I've been going through a really dark time & this video really hit home for me. I wrote down all of these points & I will read them every day to remind myself of self-love & how truly exquisite & important I am. Thank you so very much for taking your time in making all of these amazing videos, Stephanie. You are incredible! 💞

@Snappinbeauty

6 жыл бұрын

Jacinta I'm in a really really dark place also. I'm not sure how to get out I'm stuck I feel like. My partner makes my life hell which has made me get this way and I feel stuck I don't know how to get out.

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Jacinta I’m so glad you’re loving the videos! This stuff is so important to learn and it shocking that we can go majority of her life and not know these things. It is all about standing up for yourself taking time for yourself putting yourself first learning how to have positive healthy self talk! So so important!

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Casey Jones what is going on that you feel this way? You can send me a private email On my website.

@doladutta7699

3 жыл бұрын

Jacinta ditto

Your hair looks so beautiful and healthy ☺️🙏

The inner work is hard but you are right, it takes practice.

Hi stephanie, I just wanted to thank you for posting all of your videos. I have been in a negative mindset for about 6 months due to life. Ive been trying to practice self love for about 4 months now and in truth it has been very hard. I stumbled on your videos by mistake actually and in truth I am glad I did. Youre videos have been helping me so much and I think it's time I do practice self love using youre techniques. Thank you again so much!

Please keep posting videos. I am binge watching your videos and I love the videos.

Steph the good u do will one day come back to u a hundred fold...you are great mama

I love going out but sometimes I stay home to recharge myself! I love sometimes just chillin out at home by myself!😊

I could listen to you for HOURS I love your whole outlook. It’s always fair and real and makes SENSE. Thank you

I practice this now everyday ever since I found your channel. Thank you for all you do.

6:00 This comment relates to semantics, her core message is on point. But for me, when my inner critic or she says wounded self isn't supportive, my first reaction is anger. I think her language naturally echoes that reaction. But the challenge for me (that she obviously has mastered if her calm, non-hostile tone is any indication) is to forgive the wounded self and NOT just shut it up. There is a good go-to phrase I heard somewhere that is a quick fix to both shut down the negative voice while respectfully acknowledging its purpose, maybe so it won't come back. I forget, something like: "Thanks, I know you mean well, but I -- whatever, actually love my healthy body, or can do this with confidence, or believe that I am no better or worse than anyone else, and I expect a great outcome, or at worst a learning experience that will create great results next time. But thanks for trying to protect me from getting hurt. That was a long time ago, and I got this now" etc.

I love this! ❤️ Best self love pep talk I've ever heard.

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Bea M yay!! I’m so glad!

Thank you for this video. I truly needed to hear this ♥️

you’re amazing, you always make me feel better and keep me on track!

Stephanie, love your channel, as always,.. you are spot-on!

Another video I needed! This stuff is so easy but so hard. Thanks for the encouragement!

Stephanie Lyn this was so Helpful Thankyou for sharing. I've already watched this video twice so that I can start my new Journey of self love 💖🙌🏆

I keep re listening to this! So powerful. Thank you 🙏🏼

Loved this video so much. Resonated with every single word 😍 thank you ❤️

One of the most amazingly important video I ever watched Thank you

first off you are so so beautiful inside and out 😊. I was shattered into what felt like a million pieces so which thoughts are my true self are hard to distinguish. Most are negative and wounded self. It's been a year and I'm finally getting a little better. I want so much to find myself again. I am an Empath male 41 and Divorcing my narcissistic/borderline soon-to-be ex-wife that betrayed and cheated on me very blatantly and traumatically after 13 year marriage (3 kids) which led to drug abuse relapse, stroke and complete self devastation.😔Your videos are so helpful thank you so much you're an angel! Learning to love myself one day at a time😉 11 months clean I Rock!♥️❤️♥️

@Annamelese

5 жыл бұрын

hhosin i hope you doing well!!

@hhosin

5 жыл бұрын

@@Annamelese I'm struggling lately but Thank you.

Listening to ur intuition and forgiveness

These are all good things to keep before our eyes and learn to make them normal. I am writing these down, making a post up, re-reading them and practicing each one a little more as time goes by. It is good to know I can rely on myself! Thank you for sharing these powerful tools!

Really appreciate your help Steph. Great direct, real useful tools for life. I find I need to talk to my younger wounded self, with my caring adult self, sets me right, whenever I have these sometimes negative thoughts creep in. From Australia.

This is a very important video. Everyone should watch this! Thank you Stephanie

Love you Stephanie! Fantastic tips that I feel I can definitely start to implement. I think one point to emphasize is that these things might feel weird or uncomfortable at first, but you get used to it and eventually you start to believe them or do them naturally. That has been the case for me :)

Stephanie you are an amazing women! Thank you for your insightfull video's it helps alot !❤

I’ve listened to a lot of self love videos in the past but I truly love yours. They really speak to me, I’m just so amazed and happy because I know they are really going to help me this time. 😭❤️😭

Stephanie Awesome word .I received everything I been judging myself a lot. I know understand how to love myself. Thank you so much. I am inspired. You are amazing.

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

Norma Deluna yay! I’m so glad! Just remember be gentle with yourself be patient with yourself you’re doing the best you can 💗😉

Good. Nice. Wonderful. Great. Prosperous. Self-love

Thank you kindly for educating us and for helping us to rebuild ourself. 😘

Wow, this video sends a very powerful message, a message that has opened the Door for me to know without reasonable doubt I put me first and more importantly I Love ME, myself and I 100%.

Excellent video. Great practical tips. Thank you.

*huggles from afar* thank you for this sweetheart! I shared this with a few friends that really needed to hear this.

💖💖💖💖I can watch this over and over. Thank you so much. Your video changed my life. 💖💖💖💖💖

Your videos are so helpful. Please keep doing them ! I enjoy them

Thank you for this. Your voice, your logic, your advice is like a warm blanket to hurting spirits.

Had to learn to appreciate time alone

Great stuff!! Thank you Steph.

I love love love your channel!!! Thank you!! 🙏

Poignant, valuable video. I already know I’ll come back to this a few times to remind myself. Thank you!

Thx Coach. Just what I needed this morning. Be blessed 🙏🏽 #loveyourself

I always have a hard time forgiving myself..others I let walk all over me and seem to attract the worst kinds of narcisistic people...I don't understand wanting to knock others down to lift yourself up. Or wanting to take advantage of the weak when they are down....

@pampemberton7450

3 жыл бұрын

What up

I like the wounded self term

Very well put. A nice video with great ideas. Thanks !

Very much in line with "A Course in Miracles" this is great thank you.

Thanks so much to you and your families

These are just the most amazing videos. Stephanie Lyn is such a great speaker and her positive energy comes through the screen. She is so bold and courageous, and is really insightful. I love these videos, she is so smart. There is such great advice. She breaks it down. Worth more than just one listen. Thank you for these empowering videos!

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

James Egan thank you SO much for such a wonderful comment!!

This is great. Setting a reminder to check in with yourself. Sometimes we get so wound up we don’t get to pick that we are thinking negative. Thank you

@elevatet2greatness

6 жыл бұрын

Forgiveness within yourself, unconditional love, celebrate myself and taking care of myself, loving and supportive of myself not lookin for someone else to support me. Do it for myself! And everything in moderation! Another good point.

For most of my life, I’ve always struggled with understanding and/or learning to actually love myself. I can’t explain how grateful I am to discovering your video. I wonder what took me so long. My appreciation for the advice and experience you shared

@StephanieLynCoaching

5 жыл бұрын

They always say “when the students ready the teacher will appear.” I have always found people or coaches at just the right time in my life.

Thank you so much for this video! I've literally been searching for something that explains self-love and this was by far the best and only video I've found that was easy to follow! If you can do another video that dives deeper or gives more concrete examples, that would be great!! x

Thank- you.. loved it.

Thank you Stephanie. Truly appreciate this.❤️

I soooo needed to hear these, thank you so much my dear Stephanie 😊🙏🏻

I think you are a beautiful women inside and out and I thank you for all the video's. I learn more from you then i do from my therapist. God Bless you!

You are the BEST!

Thanks for sharing the Stephanie, self Love is so important,

You are a blessing. So good 👑.

Happy New Year. This is the last video , I’m watching in 2020. I strongly need this for 2021.

All of your videos are amazing! Thank you!

Really great video! The advice is good and I really do love myself

Your videos are really helping. Thank you so much!

Boundaries! Dont give into low engery. Thank you for sharing.Happy New Year's.Blessings🤗🤗😘😘🙏🙏🙏👣👣👣👣

I just remember one statement of yours... ask yourself what feeds the soul... and I have been doing this... I feel good in nature.. so now I go for walks every single day...and it has helped me immensely... two years I had so much pain.. I could not describe it in words... I thank you whole heartedly for your advice...

I'm about to start a new career. I think I'll have a yay me dinner with family!😁 such a blessing!

@StephanieLynCoaching

6 жыл бұрын

B Miles yay! Congrats!

You are Awesome

YOUR CHANNEL IS HELPING MY SOUL CALM, LEARN, GROW, TRULY UNDERSTAND, CHANGE, LIVE FOR MYSELF FOR THE 1st TIME IN MY LIFE! PRAISE THE LORD!!! 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼