The heart wants what it cannot Have… Disappear and shatter their ego…..

@SiriAngelica

Жыл бұрын

This resonates 😂

@basicinfo2022

6 ай бұрын

Yes going no contact is powerful.

Just because he's "hooked" to you emotionally, It doesn't mean you're going to be together, sadly 😭

@roser8911

Жыл бұрын

I know right 😂

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

They just thrive on how you make them feel without having to commit or do any work emotionally or physically! 😮

@SxyGrl44

15 күн бұрын

Not necessarily sadly. There’s more men/women out there.

She came back. I am wiser for listening to you. Thank you.

@mkwhole

Жыл бұрын

After how longM

I'm doing No contact for myself,bettering myself,..I loved her but she's just not worth it.i think she still needs to grow..nd I accept that.i can't wait for one person...there's just too many opportunities out there..

Thank YOU! Omg I have been trying to make a point to my friends and even my ex that we need to not be friends let alone no contact. That’s the healthiest thing for us to move on for each other ❤ I love him to death but I have to chose myself until he can figure himself out

@Usernameblankslate

Жыл бұрын

Good luck moving on. I loved my ex so much… it would hurt to be friends. I had to cut him off completely. I even had to unfollow him on my language app 😂 Zero contact! I still think about him a lot. However, I don’t regret moving on. I’m learning a lot about myself and I’m open to new experiences and opportunities that probably wouldn’t have been an option had I still been with him. So good luck you will be better for it .

One of the things I LOVE about these videos is the Hope you give for winning them back (and good reminders, such as give it space and time: more than 30 days). Also, as I am on this journey, I am starting to build more security in myself and wondering "Do I even WANT them back?" I'm reading "Letting Go", per your recommendation and am trying to marry that philosophy with these videos. So far, the take away is: Let go of the attachment to the person and work on YOU!

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

You have a great point. I am over the missing and thinking of them. Now the Bitterness has set in. Trying to get over that.

@chrisphillips9800

Жыл бұрын

@@shawny979 Yeah, I hear that. In that book "Letting Go", he talks about how life crises present us with polar opposites: do we choose to hate or forgive that person? Do we accept or hold on? Do we learn and grow or do we rent and become bitter? It's not necessarily easy to let go, so I hear you. Right now, I'm just sitting still and absorbing as much positive, affirming and introspective materials as I can.

The more I watch, the more I don't know if I want her back. The videos are really helpful 🙂

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

I know huh? I’m thinking the same way about my person. I’m thinking of finding a new love interest. 🥳

You're the best!! Everything you say is all facts!! Keep putting out these videos!! One love homie ❤️

I clicked on this video because I was curious to see what you had to say and it turns out I did everything right from the start as much as it hurt I had to do no contact for awhile and like you said focus being a better me because self love is very important in matters like this . Everything takes time . God bless you thanks again 🙏

You are Gem !! Your videos keeps me going and makes me a strong person day on day...Stay blessed

Damn, coach Blac - spot on as usual. I just wish i would've found you three years ago. All the same, great job and keep up the good work!

Excellent advice as always 💪🏻✨🙏

All the words coming from.your mouth is giving Positive vibe to us

Great way of explaining things!

I love this video. Thank you so much for these pieces of advice. I am on the right track.

Thank you so much Coach! I am so grateful! I am going to apply all of your teachings to my situation! :)

Thanks coach. Videos like these are great

One of your top vids hands down

I love your videos they have helped me so much

Thanks coach.... your videos are very useful

Thanks brother for everything i have been following you man

Great advice.

Loved this

Truth every word 💯

He's correct it took me 2 yrs to learn this lesson

Thank god i listened to this!!! 🙏

Thank you coach blac

Thank you for this!

Great video

This is true silence changes everything you might not see it that your silence touches their emotions but it does have a strong impact on them.

You are worth listening to

Very helpfull More Coach give us more

I was no joke talking to one on my friends about my ex telling him how I didn’t know what to do with him and if he even loves me anymore and how i was soo scared to even reach out then this video popped up imma take it as fate❤

@giovannimorgan8728

Жыл бұрын

Update??

@Mr_Crypt

Жыл бұрын

Update?

I listen to all your videos I love your advice and I have a quick question. Does this no contact work in a new relationship that went bad ? I've been in no contact for almost 3 weeks!!

Thank you!

Can you do a video on if you still live with your ex but they dumped u and they have moved on to someone else while your still living together please 🙏🏽 😢

I knew some of this already, but this was very good. Subscribed.

hi Mr black my situation is much different i was in a very long relationship she had an affair on me and is in a relationship with this new flop has nothing and is going no were, i now have realized that i am guilty of trying to call and text , after watching some of your content it has helped me understand that over 50%of long term relationships do get back together and just because they are with someone new doesn't mean they don't come back as you say it takes time, can you do a clip on sometimes it takes 6 to 12 months for some women to realize what they had and miss.

Brother this is a strong psycological kick

My issue I’m alone ! I moved to new country new job ! New challenges ! I’ve never felt insecure 0 friends ! 😢 worst timing for break up ! I cry everyday for 6 months ! Too lonely too busy to socialize ! Too cold to go out ! ( Canada snow )

Thank you sir

Hey here he is the one and only.......... Coach Blac...........

Thank you

I really like this channel. It’s all inclusive, regardless of race. Unlike Kevin Samuels for example. I would love to hear you put some focus on how to deal with the aftermath of divorce, & how to get your ex husband/wife back. Also considering the dynamics with children.

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

You must do whatever it takes and be willing to change for all of them. If you really want your family back. You can’t be proud or stubborn even if you thought you were right. For whatever reason she decided to leave in the first place. Find out if she still loves you or has moved onto greener pastures. 😉 then put your best self into action. 🎉

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

I knew of a relationship where the ex husband wanted chance after chance after divorce. The man never ever said he would change or do whatever it took to be the man she loved. They are still divorced today. He remarried but hasn’t changed. She is living a happy single life and improving herself, her life, & her relationships & living her best life!! 🎉

Any advice on applying this when there is kids involved?

Thankyou

Hi coach, I don't understand if I told my ex that I don't want nothing to do with him and to only message me when it comes to the kids then why is he not following that? He doesn't ask about our kids but has text me when he left the court house (visitation) or that he's moving to AZ.

Thank you so much for your videos! My ex broke up with me right after christmas last year and i keep begging and emailing and calling him to make this work. I feel like if i dont show how much i want him back he wouldnt come back. I am that type of person who doesnt give up or doesnt know how to let go. However, I am now trying to just focus on me. Its very hard and i feel like if i focus on me i am being selfish,

@mottley5216

Жыл бұрын

Same. But please take your power back. You are being ignored because they know they still have you.

@hrhr587

Жыл бұрын

@@mottley5216 yes this is the fourth time he broke up with me

@mottley5216

Жыл бұрын

If you desire different results you have to do differently. Everything will be ok.

@hrhr587

Жыл бұрын

@@mottley5216 thanks so much this really helps.

@mottley5216

Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Dear..

Do a video on an ex and their rebound relationship ended and now the ex is coming back to you. I know you shouldn't take them back right away but interested on your thoughts

@shereenhassan8239

Жыл бұрын

You are not an option or a backup never let them back into your life

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

That is pure Manipulation and Unfair when they do that. Ask yourself if you really want to put in the work of trying to Trust them again?

@geru3003

Жыл бұрын

it is never a rebound relationship my friend, it's the reason why she/he left. they had that person lined up or highly interested before breaking up with you. especially if we talk about women.

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

@@geru3003 Yes, you're spot on. 👏

Do you think if we still live together but he sees me changing up, glowing up,not talking and not showing emotion he's warming up? He tells me things about the flowers I planted on the balconies as if I'll be here to see when they grow more and bloom. He knows I'm looking for a place.... at the beginning i was staying with a fridnd and he wrote me a sad letter saying how its grey without me but now at home hes distant.he's a very avoident man so it's a strange situation.

So does this mean we should never reach out to our ex but wait indefinitely for them to reach out??

@childofgod7455

11 ай бұрын

Nope just focus on you

Coach, I have a question (and it may make a great video topic). What to do when your ex dumps you for their ex? I don't foresee them returning, and I don't care if they did frankly. lol

@qbeauty9291

Жыл бұрын

Lol my ex did that don’t worry it won’t last way if they did no healing that person is just running away from dealing with problems they will be back

What does it mean if we are in no contact but my ex is liking all of my post, the first one to watch all my stories, liking my reposts about relationships on tiktok, but wont reach out to me

Please pray for me and my relationship I left my boyfriend because he does not give me the love and care I need now I ignore him. They say if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be 😢😢😭💔😭😭

Hey man, got a question for you! I was recently in a really good relationship (no toxicity, no abuse) but I was dumped because of long distance. I understand and respect that long distance isn’t for everyone, but I was really enjoying it and I got let down. After getting dumped, I was offered friendship. I said no, then I blocked him off of everything (apart from his number, if he wishes to talk again) and I even deleted all of his friends, not before messaging them to say that I wish them all the best and that I hope our paths cross again in the future. What do you think about this situation? Would you call it dumping the dumper? I’ve not found any content relating to this on KZread so far. I only did it because I really don’t care if I see my ex again 🤷‍♂️

@fiercemillionaireproject3824

Жыл бұрын

I don't know that's a good question. Just commenting so I could follow this thread😂

@rachelledelacruz1688

Жыл бұрын

Wow... exactly d same...he dumped me last wed..

@aveave5643

Жыл бұрын

I’m in this situation with my ex girlfriend

Idk what to think; he reached out after NC of over a year. I didn’t call him back immediately. Of course, he’s asking for a favor. I agreed then he goes ghost. Called a day later. All of a sudden he had to go outta town. Bull.

Will this work if I’m the one that said it won’t work but realized I made a mistake

But if he’s already moved on & has a gf !? - I don’t think he would care !

i agree

Going on week 11... NC 😔

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

Do you and stop counting. If it’s meant for you, it will happen. If not, well just move onto the next best thing for you. Plenty of people in the world! 💁🏽‍♀️

How can I make him feel the loss, when I'm seeing him regularly at work? I try to be distant (still polite) but he doesn't seem to care at all.

@franchescacruz1986

Жыл бұрын

Word of unsolicited advice don’t date people at work or the gym. It never works and makes you feel uncomfortable to have to avoid them on a daily or weekly basis OR worst they start to date another co worker. I know from experience

Good afternoon coach , how I can make that happen when no contact is not working. I don't take her call I don't text her . When she called I don't answer but I do when my daughter does. She now realized that I am not speaking to her and what she does is use my daughter phone to call me . We are married but separated since December. She was cheating

@blacademic

Жыл бұрын

If you want her back, why are you ignoring her?

@dalemyrie8208

Жыл бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 yes I am save and she was also .but she let someone come between us and destroyed our mirage and her Christian life.

@dalemyrie8208

Жыл бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 thank you very much I know he will

Has anyone ever worked n themselves & have a love story successfully work out with their ex after this? Coach could you share some stories on maybe this working out or is it just that you end up moving on bc now you’re not the same and you no longer truly care? Thanks for the help & support

Nothing you can do if they are already dating a past flame

@kellyjford1

Жыл бұрын

That will fall apart. It did once and if they didn’t change anything it will again, most likely.

❤❤

Hi coach, I paid for a question yesterday’s live Q&A. Could you please answer it? Thank you.

@blacademic

Жыл бұрын

What your question?

@Bonita20

Жыл бұрын

@@blacademic Hi coach, why would the indifferent dumper unblock the dumpee on messenger after 2 weeks of being blocked. Still blocked on everything else. 2 weeks ago, I asked my ex 5 times, does he still love me via text, because he ignored the questions and then finally answered in the fifth question by saying no. It’s very confusing! Is he confused or just playing mind games with me?

@Bonita20

Жыл бұрын

Just realised, he blocked me again on messenger but unblocked me on SC…

@369S.I.

Жыл бұрын

@@blacademic ​ I’ve been in no contact with a women I was with for half year. It ended with me cheating and I’ve been no contact for three weeks she text me happy birthday few days ago I responded with thank you and the conversation ended

@blacademic

Жыл бұрын

@@Bonita20 stop contacting him completely. Stop asking if he still loves you. You are not giving him space. The unblocking is breadcrumbs, do not react to that. Wait for him to contact you first

I reached out to her. She didn't ask for a break up so I gave her space for 2 weeks and reached out to her. Its not going too well and I don't know if I should walk away again

@franchescacruz1986

Жыл бұрын

I know it’s tough but you deserve someone that wants you just as bad. It will hurt but someone new will come around and see YOU

@jesussaves4485

Жыл бұрын

@@franchescacruz1986 thank you Franchesca

@franchescacruz1986

Жыл бұрын

@@jesussaves4485 no problem, I am in the same boat but I’m holding on to dear life (no contact) is power. I find it helpful to focus all the love and attention I was giving that person to myself.

@jesussaves4485

Жыл бұрын

@@franchescacruz1986 I was in no contact too but I broke it and I'm regretting doing that. I think I should never have texted her and I don't know how to walk away again. I will say I'm getting used leaving in a toxic love city

@franchescacruz1986

Жыл бұрын

@@jesussaves4485 stay strong and walk away. Matthew hussey always says if they don’t reach out and say they made a mistake and want to work it out, it is a selfish text to cure a moment of sadness for themselves or they just wanna make sure that your still there

He left me over my kids aren't he's he said they was a little bad but i know that's some bs

Do you do phone sessions? $ 50

dude, are you single? asking for a friend

My ex telling me to leave his house after 6 months what can I do please

@franchescacruz1986

Жыл бұрын

I would leave. Never stay where your not wanted it will only get worst. I am so sorry your going thru that it will get better

She told me thst she only interested in being friends.

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

Take the advice and run. To the next best thing for you; girlfriend; gym; travel; any advancement! Pronto! 🏃🏾‍♂️

I just broke up with my ex 11/11/2023

Why would you even come up with such a title? The title doesn't seem good at all. Sure it takes two to tango but that should not be the goal especially when you know things are over and done and it was not a healthy relationship in the first place.

I just pissed her off I blamed her for cheating

@hilo5901

Жыл бұрын

You crossed the line even if it’s true or accusation. Once accusations come into play, any love or relationship is pretty much gone.

You disappear… It’s that simple….

Please breakout and do videos about relationships. I hate that you only do breakup and no contact videos

I wish I had seen This 3 years ago When he Ghosted me After 36 years for a person He knew for only One week She is better More cool She likes meth

These videos are irresponsible...an X is an X for a reason..This is just game playing!! It's dangerous and steals your joy towards moving forward.. I like the guy but do a better Subject that helps promote growth...

Thank you 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍💌💌💌

Thank you