This couldn't have came at a better time. But the thing with empathising is this negative person in my life is negative 24/7. There's not a day were they don't complain. I've tried empathising and understanding them but you can only help those who want to be helped.

@MsInteresting

7 жыл бұрын

I agree. And you clearly have those peeps out there who don't want to be helped and actually want to stay in their dark hole of negativity.

@FloppyWafflezGaming

7 жыл бұрын

+MsInteresting I completely understand this. I feel like at that point the best thing to do is to make it apparent how much better it is on the sunnier side of life rather than the darker side, so they can WANT to make that change and make it to that side instead of thinking their comfort zone they've developed within their negativity is "good enough" or "fine"

@taez516

6 жыл бұрын

Amina K I'm in the same boat from. I'm woke up from the negativity in the morning till I close my eyes its nonstop ..its rubbing off on me at times and I'm bothered by it

@pennyssweetadventuretime3137

5 жыл бұрын

Amina K I agree! You can’t help people that doesn’t need your help. Although I try to offer some solutions but at the end it is up to them if they want to take it or not.

@AirMarshal1989

5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it gets so worse that It's affecting my way of consuming food. Most of the time I eat once a day. Which I notice that I am starting to lose weight :( but I see the light on this dark path.

This is a life skill i am determined to master. My environment is so negative sometimes, i feel like i have to reprogram my mind out of all the negative conditioning it's had over the years. Great video, really needed to hear this

@samantarizzi248

7 жыл бұрын

KadClem same here to be honest :(

@jamesanthony7008

7 жыл бұрын

hate to get off subject but you are truly beautiful!

@kadclem5314

7 жыл бұрын

James Anthony thank you

@jamesanthony7008

7 жыл бұрын

The pleasure was mine! And I am also sorry that I didn't compliment you beautiful words too. I am in the same boat!

@kadclem5314

7 жыл бұрын

James Anthony i wrote that comment a few months ago and although my immediate environment hasn't changed, my outlook on life has. I gave my life to Christ, baptised on the 29th January 2017 🙌🏽❤ best decision i ever made. I've learned so much, prayed, read uplifting books ect. It really helped

I'm surrounded by negative people at work. I put on my headphones and try ignore them.

@iwillnotbesilent

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@prachi3919

4 жыл бұрын

I do the same..put on som relaxing music nd stay busy in my work

@ltm28

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely.. I am home every day and get bombarded with it. I keep my headphones in. But it has stopped me from doing anything really .. it is absolutely torn me apart and I have heard I’m going to be sick so much that it has happened lol I’m glad I found this

@ltm28

4 жыл бұрын

I won’t speak about it I will just practice centeredness .. and look at this as a learning experience and challenge .. everything we encounter is for our own good

@Earthdestroyers99

4 жыл бұрын

Do that to the wrong person and they might hurt you out of fear of abandonment or insecurity, it sucks but its true

Every positive person needs to hear this

@akashkatoch7088

4 жыл бұрын

this video filled me with again energy , made my day....!!

@nut4288

3 жыл бұрын

And IAM one of them

@adefloralojado473

Жыл бұрын

that's why im here😊

@aayatsadventures8347

Жыл бұрын

@@akashkatoch7088 nonono Nononononono

“ Use that challenge as your own character development “ yes!

It's true that your family, co-workers, etc. may be negative. And yes, empathy and compassion go a long way. However, if certain people are chronically negative you have to ask yourself if you want to do be around them all of the time. How does this serve you? What are you getting out of it? Are you addicted to drama? Let's look at this further using co-workers as an example. These are people who are most likely not showing up (unless you're good friends with them) to your holiday dinners, weddings, BBQs, etc. Don't get sucked into their drama. Send them lots of love and wish them well. You can try to help them shift their energy as was suggested, but keep in mind that everyone has FREE WILL. They may not be open to change. If you're married to someone who's negative all of the time, you may want to ask yourself what you're getting out of the relationship. You may want to also ask how you may be contributing to the negativity. Maybe you expect too much. Perhaps you don't say "I love you" enough. Maybe your partner feels you take him/her for granted. You need to communicate and get to the bottom of the issue. Relationships aren't one sided. If you are rude or have a bad day, be aware of your reaction and 'check' yourself to find out 'why'. It's easy to blame others, i.e., someone cut you off in traffic. However, when you go deep and get to the 'root' of why you reacted, you may discover that you're unhappy with your life. Maybe you're ready to move on from a relationship and don't know how to do it. Perhaps you're ready to move away and your family is trying to talk you out of it. Get to the bottom of what's bugging you. A little emotional maturity can go a long way. But you have to be ready to take responsibility for your life and recognize that you do have control over how you react to situations, the words you speak, the thoughts you think, etc. P.S. Keep in mind that some people may not be open to playing a game of trying to attend to their energy. Listen to your gut instinct on this one. Don't force people to do something they don't want to do.

@jjfad8311

6 жыл бұрын

I agree

@montyderhak

5 жыл бұрын

agree.....get away RUN from these negative folks....they are trouble .. life is too short to be around losers.....

@silouanelm

4 жыл бұрын

👌

@MyCurls_MyCrown

3 жыл бұрын

True! There’s a distinction between encouraging hopeful outlooks/outcomes and martyrdom. We may add value to others’ happiness; however, we are not responsible for it.

@surat8591

3 жыл бұрын

That's how someone in my family is. I've tried everything to deal with her incessant negativity, but she keeps on talking about how bad everything is around her. In reality, she's fine, healthy, has no debt, has several properties, a pension, and successful children. But she doesn't think so.. and, instead, she's always complaining about how miserable the country she lives in is, how there's no money for her to move to a better place..etc. I'm sometimes afraid of looking at her messages because I feel she's going to say something terrible happened. She leaves me EXTREMELY EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED, and DEPRESSED after I talk to her. I'm at the point where I want to cut her off my life for my own sake. The problem is that she's a very close family member...

Powerful the dark side is. Easy it is to fall into its grip. Difficult it is and effort it takes to get up from the shadows and stand in the light. Worth it it is to find balance in love and understanding. Wise Brendon is. Listen to him we must.

I was around negativity at work. My manager was the most emotionally unstable person. She would yell and scream and talk badly about others. In an otherwise professional environment, she certainly didn't fit the company culture. Nonetheless, I was miserable every day. I decided to leave after 7 months. I never left a company earlier than 4 years. My longest tenure was 9 years. I never had issues working with others until them. It's not always about sympathizing. Some people are just negative. Good video though.

@cclearyt

Жыл бұрын

The way that Brendon describes some examples is with the people who "snap", but are not necessarily negative always. As he said, more or less all of us have negative moments in our lives, right? Sometimes we are that negative person for an hour, two, maybe a day. The difference is that when people are momentarily negative, you hang on with them (especially if they're important to you, close to you or in general bears some significant impact to your life), try to use sympathy/empathy until they get over it and move on. But there are some people who are negative SO OFTEN (to the point where they are negative (according to your standards) every single day and that just drains the energy and brings you down), and for those people this training may not be needed. These kinds of people should probably simply be removed from your life or at least limit the exposure to them and their vibes.

Hi Brendon, I'm Isaac and I'm 16 yrs old from California. I found you on KZread and fell in love with your messages😁. I recently bought the motivation manifesto and the charge and they have opened my eyes to new understandings. Keep doing what your doing😁👍hope all is well

I listen to this every week just as a reminder so I can be a better coworker! Too much negativity at work and it has a tendency to suck me in if I'm not mindful of my purpose! Thanks for a great way to start the day!!

@pei3010

6 жыл бұрын

Jody Gatlin i might need it now

Be Kind; Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle - Plato A rule to live with. Makes you so much more compassionate.

Important to tell the difference between negative people and abusive people. Compassion and curiosity are useful with negative folks but abusive people are best avoided or their power over others limited, called-out and challenged.

I always try to remember that I dont know what has happened in their day or their life and perhaps they have reason to feel that way but that doesnt mean that I allow their attitude to affect my day. But sometimes understanding is the first step to changing something.

Use their energy, so good. Stay present and use it. You don't know what they are going through. Always observe and understand the other person's point of view. I think the really negative people that we run into are people that are just lost and don't know there way. Always take a step back and spread positive energy. Most of the time things are really not as bad as they seem. Perhaps we make things harder than they really are. I love when he says to use it to develop something as your strengths, and allows you to serve people =) so great

I would empathize, but I also have bad days and I don't take it out on people, so I don't see why they have to.

Thank you for this video. I love it! And you're right, you can't escape negativity especially if it's eminating from your family. 💜

Thanks for so clearly articulating something I've been working on lately. Love it, very helpful!

Thank you so much, you've helped me with getting out of a horrible disagreement with someone. Have a blessed day.

This is sage advice Brendon. I've been dealing with some energy issues at home, but this idea of 'challenging ourselves' is a great shift of perspective. Thanks for all the work you do. Rock on.

Absolutely love this and needed it today because it is such am important lesson and this is how a leader would behave!!! To raise the energy of a group from negative to positive! Thank you Brendon. Xxx

Brendon, this came at a perfect time :) I didn't want to discard my friend, and just asked her to leave me out of the negative talk. Thinking about asking her was he hardest part! She was understanding and accepting of my request. Thanks! Gave me goosebumps. :)

This is something I have to master....I was going through a tough time lately...This method of dealing with negative people is a timely solution for me ..Thank you Brendon

Brendon - I just saw 2 of your videos and I must say that I'm impressed with your positive energy. Your video can spark the lights in people. I wish all negative people can just start their day by just listening to you and take the benefit of the tips you have provided. Great Job in giving back to the society and taking this step in sending such a simple message so beautifully.

Wow! In a culture where we have learned to "write off" or "get rid of" people we disagree with, this message is so refreshing! Thank you for being an instrument of love and peace.

I felt the same as your are teaching, that those who run from negative people are of a weak sense, we can certainly see the challenge and face it, be empathetic, learn about them, teach them the positive side of all things, wish them the best and let them know

After two years watching your videos, for some reason this one put you in another level Brendon. Thanks!

I am glad I came across your video. I’m dealing with a friend who is constant in a negative mindset - I love this video and your approach. It’s very helpful

You are always the best Brendan ! thanks a lot. I'm going to do that for all the negative people around me ! 💪❤

I live with negative people who are always ready to provoke me with really hurtful words but I don't respond a single word to them and this makes me empowering

Your positivity is contagious.... Thanks for sharing your knowledge and wisdom

Perfect timing just had a talk with someone tonight. just like many other people came at the perfect time! Praise God!

Right what & when I needed to hear! Thank you so much for putting this video up.

Thanks for your valuable, actionable advice! Super food for thought and action.

🦋Amen, be a ray of sunshine in the negativity - given it brings me joy to know my joy irritates the negative

@GuitarMatt

2 ай бұрын

Plus one! I'm not trying to start fires neither. But if they WET THE BLANKET AND BLAME THE BED, that's THEIR problem, not mine nor yours. Stay strong, yet don't stay around too long. Yet if you do (and I used to too), please DON'T EVER beat yourself up about it. You will handle this!! (If that's what's happening right now in your life. Trust your GUT!)

@GuitarMatt

2 ай бұрын

PS--Withstanding my comment that I thought you might be cute, YOU ARE, and I see that you make your own presentations and I'm on KZread too much myself. (Had to click on the ID to magnify the image just to confirm what I saw because my eyes are just not the same at 50, ha ha) My 50-yr old eyes* are proven right clicking on the YT ID here... It looks like you have some titles describing what I've been through and I'll hear what you have to say.. at best it will help me and at worst it will not hurt me. Signing off, a dude who is not into being toxically** neutral to themselves. *I had above average eyesight as a young adult and kid. **Ironically the word toxic is getting ruined by some people who are projecting their own toxicity. I'm not one of those. However, if I supposedly am to a NARC, good! (That's when NO CONTACT without announcement happens from me). I used to stick around for a little too long here and there with people, but I escaped that permanent fate myself

Great video! Every time I get surrounded by negative people I watch this💪😩 to help me deal with them rather than just getting negativity

this short video of yours helped me out a lot, i will watch it a few more times to soak up the message very well. wish i had bumped in to your videos some time ago.

Sir ,Your videos saving my life literally.

Thank you so much. It saved my day! I really love advice no. 2 and I am going to keep practicing taking charge of my emotion to the peaceful state no matter what happens.

I have an enormous amount of empathy compassion and I am extremely kind person have put up with negative people who do not want to change and it did nothing but drain me as a result I have learned simply not to deal with negative people who are unwilling to put in work to change and I'm finding very few are willing to do so I don't care anymore it's about self-preservation that may sound selfish but to bad I'll help those who want to help themselves bottom line.

this guy really talks sense and his advice is vizable to apply .. Thank you Brendon

Goodness! GOOD LOVING BLESSINGS ! 💯💯

You are so positive, Thank you Brandon!!! Great ideas

thank you so much God bless you..you are the best teacher I'm starting to live my life and enjoy it ... from Iraq

Something different from things I learned from self-development book. It’s refreshing and practical. For a while, I was so discouraged, as my better half constantly bombard me with how things are going to go wrong and how life sucks. At least now I have an idea other than the standard “get rid of negative people” answer.

This is such an important message. People think that getting rid of "negative people" and belittling them is virtuous but it is in fact the complete opposite.

Thank you , a lot of people needs to hear this !!

I love this advice so much. Thank you for this

You sir are a Godsend. Thank you for the vid!

Awesome message! Thanks for putting out there!

Thank you so much for this, this really helped me 💪🏽

Great stuff Brendan. Your videos are so helpful in improving my life.

We have to ask “ what do you mean by negative ?” I remember what a great manager I once worked with said at a company meeting - he said “always listen to negative as well as positive comments at a meeting !” History is full of examples where disasters occurred - later it was found that people had been forewarned but didn't listen ! The insights were offered by negative people and not listened to ! You are so right - use them !

Thank you Brendon, you are doing great things

All solid answers. Thank you Sir!!

Wow really needed this today. Thank you so much!

I love you man, I needed this

THANK YOU!! ive been doing this.. you've given it a label for me....

Great! It's always vital this reminder that leadership is about leadind our own energy and then shift outside energy. thank you!

exactly! this guy is a good man.. if he really follows this, then he is a fighter.

Needed to hear this today !!! Thanks Brendon

Wow. Thank you. I needed that.

your advices are the best. they are extreamly helpful. hope you will do more of these kind of videos. and thanks

Definitely a powerful video! Thank you💕 this helped me and has changed my perspective on a lot of things. I will be applying your tips to my life.

GREAT! Thanks I desperately needing THIS advice for negative co-workers GREAT advice 👍

your videos helped me so much. you are amazing ! thanks for everything :)

Finally someone being REAL- thank you for your perspective- I have so felt that it is not realistic to be able to just do away with all negativity in life, so onboard with not feeling the need to own someone else's negativity...that makes all the difference, seeing them as a teacher of how you don't want to be, and maybe just maybe if you stay positive you will rub off on them. 😉

I heard alot of advices about this topic and i really hated all of the answers who claimed that i should pretend it's not there and i really couldn't achieve that... but ur answer is way different than the others it's the best answer I've ever heard thank you so much ❤

"Shift it... pointing out humor or just leveling up." Every time you share something in the charge life for your viewers I just nod my head in agreement "like hey, that's what I do." Thank you Brendon.

I completely agree with this! Negative people bring other people down and we need to understand if it's worth keeping a ngative person in our life! I mean.. We need to respect ourselves and in order to make that happen we shouldn't allow anyone to bring us down. It comes a point where we need to say "no more" and cut these people out of our lives!

New wisdom New way to act New perspective. Thank you Brandon #SecretsSelfMadeBillionsires

Love these suggestions

i completo agrree, we can not runaway from every negative people, this is naive and not powerful at all. Since now i am gonna practice shifting the energy with compassion, gratitude, ponting out the positive, cheering up, and also understanding that each person is responsable of its own experience. So i can stay at my sweet spot even if the other wants to be in a dark side, i can throw lifesavers but i can not carry them otherwise i will drawn. Its a total character building challenge if you see it this way, and definitely its something i want to master!!! because some of my loved ones are so negative sometimes.

I actually watched this because I want to learn how to deal with my own mother, so it's helpful that you started the video with "you know what, sometimes you can't just get rid of everything!" That being said, it's taking my own personal development to new heights to understand why my own mother truly feels she's justified to treat me like she hates me. I won't say she does hate me, despite her telling me she does and having ample evidence, because that would be making assumptions about what's in someone else's mind and heart. But goddamn it if finding compassion for someone who treats their own kid like they're a worthless piece of shit isn't difficult! When it's the hardest, that's where there is most room for growth. I'm slowly beginning to understand that her life has been hard, extremely lonely, and indefinitely disappointing - she needed a scapegoat for it all ("if you hasn't been born when I was 19, I would have been somebody.") It's not necessarily fair to me, but it's reason enough to have compassion for her. She's very unhappy. I'm learning to observe but never absorb her energy, disengaging, not faulting myself. Thank you :)

Seen this at that the right time‼️ recognise it and use it. Don’t run away from it be empathetic.

You are amazing. I had a terrible day and I feel better now :)

Wow... This video really got me, I'll give it a shot. I've gone through pretty dark periods in my life many years ago (I made through though!), and it actually helped me to develop resilience, gratitude and an overall better attitude towards my life and those around me. I'm really satisfied with how far I have come and how far I could still get but it really scares me to be pulled back down by other's negativity, especially when my efforts to lift them up continue to fell over and over. Sometimes I think I have made some significant progress just to find out they are back in their toxic downward spiral. It's become somewhat draining to the point I rather just not get them to vent which made them feel unwelcome and quite honestly they are, not because I don't care about them but because I do and it frustrates me to realise that all of the time I've invested in lifting them up has been waisted and it feels like their negativity has started to lick onto me. Anyway, I'll definitely try that approach of seeing them as a challenge and use them to further develop my skills, and detach myself from their actual struggle and hope they will find a way out of their darkness. At the end, just like Morpheus said in "The Matrix" (Original/1) "... I can only show you the door, you are the one who has to go through it...". Thank you for the video, it has been really helpful.

So incredible at communicating your knowledge. Thank you for your advice. New Sub X

It is really hard to communicate in negative people because they think, they always right. Thank you for this info. It's really help to keep on in my task.❤❤❤

AMAZING TIPS! LOVE IT. THANKS

Really needed this ❤️ Thank you

Great video Brendon . Brilliant guy🙏

Love it !! This is so true

@Logical_Motivation

7 жыл бұрын

Yes! Very true

Very very good point. A very interesting phenomenon is that so many negative people try extremely hard to get rid of other negative people. People rather try hard to be snobbish than try to be really really positive. Thank to Brendon's wise advise. Hope we can all be better people. :)

@hermanman8235

5 жыл бұрын

Chun-Hao Peng it's rather easy to pretend to achieve something big than really doing the grit to achieve greatness and to stay there

I just got a argument with someone,and this pops out... God timing.. thank God and Brendon!!

I have been doing this for last 18 yrs. But frankly, it is not easy all day to keep your calm . Here, negative people take us for granted. Which also needs to be dealt with .

My daughter has paranoid scizophrenia for 20 years .I could handle it before as I let her vent but then she was fun before . Now it’s constant negative and she can’t control it . So I need to hang out with more friends . When I had menopause I prayed I wanted my brain back , funny saying but before I could take people negative talk and let it pass through my brain . It’s hard for me to explain but I bought a book on menopause and really helped me also I took meds which helped . I felt back to myself after 3 years and no meds . So happy about that.I need to focus on self care and self esteem . It really helps your advice thank you .

This is great advice! Thank you =)

Wow man good energy getting from you

This guy is fricken AWESOME !!! Glad I found him.

thank you so much. I really need this.

Really needed this just right now!

Good word man! Very helpful

I am positive....my energy is good and the joy of the Lord ìs my strength... God is good all the time.... Rejoice in the Lord always and again I say rejoice... I agree...... yeheey!!!

So true! I'm working on it so they see it made me better than make me break..

great video.. true :) noones perfect.. ignore, be in control and empathize

This is actually the real solution. Thanks for sharing.

I love Your positivity Brandon .Greatings from POLAND .

Sometimes I have a straight up conversation, help a person to understand where I am coming from, or need from the friendship. Then the person seems to understand but goes on doing the wrong thing, causing hurt and frustration. Maybe this person will not be a good friend, they are not there when I need them, but expect I will be there for them. I understand what you say Brendon, when nice people frustrate us, its best not to get angry, hear the person out and forgive, let things go.

Brendon you r amazing..i cud see ur eyes...u speak direct from your heart..GBU

Thank you I really wanna hear that,I'm working on controlling my Ego.