For those impatient like me, here’s the 2 questions: Are these thoughts useful? How do they behave?

@doreenpoehling1167

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. There’s no way I could have made it all the way through this.

@thirstykayak246

2 жыл бұрын

@@doreenpoehling1167 I actually didn’t either- just lots of scrolling for content 😂

@Tziguene

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you. This actually helps me pay attention enough to hear his delivery through. Thanks.

@micheleconley1581

2 жыл бұрын

Third time listening, because I keep forgetting the two damn questions. THANK YOU!

@pvmoore1154

2 жыл бұрын

@@micheleconley1581 😂🤣😂

To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)

@shortymcfly3110

2 жыл бұрын

💖

@mimitaylor1465

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto

@philipb

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Michael

@mystica3894

2 жыл бұрын

Made me start tearing up, thank you Michael.

@1stanzione

2 жыл бұрын

❤

The more attention you give something, the more power it gets. Same thing goes for fear and negative thoughts.

1. Have Daily Negative Thought Time 2. Replace the Negative Thoughts 3. Be Your Own Best Friend 4. Write Instead Of Think 5. Make A Conscious Effort To Find Things To Love, Like And Appreciate 6. Establish New Habits 7. Use Affirmations 8. Develop Your Success Routine 9. Channel Those Thoughts Into Something Constructive

@bensquires2819

Жыл бұрын

How can you be your own best friend or love yourself? It’s easy to say these things but not so easy to do.

@scoutmiller7734

Жыл бұрын

@@bensquires2819 the only being capable of knowing you and loving you deeply, is your own self. You have to be gentle and compassionate to the source where your negativity comes from. Just wants to be heard, and loved with the love only you hold.

@adrianmonk4440

Жыл бұрын

@@bensquires2819 // WAYS TO BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND: * BECOME IN TUNE WITH YOURSELF. Know yourself & needs. * FOLLOW YOUR HEALTHY PREFERENCES (so don't eat a 7 pound steak). The Golden Mean: All Things in Moderation. * What activities, personalities, environments, home decore, etc. agitate you; or, calm & please you ?? * VOTE with Selection, & your feet (change location). In general, do not impart your opinion on others. If so, do so diplomatically. * Drink when you thirst. * Eat a reasonable portion of healthy food when hungry. Cheat on your diet occasionally. * Rest when you are tired. Sleep or take a break as needed. * Develop interests that appeal to you. Learn to share some of them for mutual enjoyment; &, not to better someone. * Live within your means. * Accept the situation OF YOURSELF. (What U r is God's gift to U. What U become is ur gift to God.) * Try to accept & come to terms with the fact U (any of us) r not the most amazing person that ever lived. * Seek the positive without strife or striving.

@christophkaesmayr2654

9 ай бұрын

​@@scoutmiller7734Thank you for sharing this.

@berndtherrenvolk1951

8 ай бұрын

Type Things On The Internet

save you 13 min the 2 questions 13:04 "Are my thoughts useful? How do they behave?" Confront your thoughts and think for yourself

@aVersCloudSolution

3 жыл бұрын

and never stop confronting your thoughts :-)

@walkingman8943

3 жыл бұрын

You’ve done us all a great service sir. 🙏🏻

@musiccomment

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@KingDavidTBE

3 жыл бұрын

Lol The Power of Now

@allanv2497

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

I suffer with depression, anxiety and OCD. The biggest tool ive tried to develop is mindfulness. Asking yourself if your thoughts are useful is a simple and clever technique, I will add this to my tool belt

@ishanfepl

3 жыл бұрын

Hi finlay, i have gone through thrugh ocd, anxiety and depression for years and have found that practicing Gratitude has helped me overcome them a lot recently like magic, wish u all d best and with these remember, to be happy in the now see how u can practice gratitude truthfully for whatever u feel and then ask these questions, a happy mind is more capable of responding positively

@user-co2kt8dk7o

3 жыл бұрын

@@ishanfepl thank you for your message. I wish you all the happiness.

@mal9369

3 жыл бұрын

Mindfulness is one of the most powerful tools we as people can cultivate. Best of luck on your journey

@user-co2kt8dk7o

3 жыл бұрын

@@mal9369 thank you. I wish you all the happiness

@jamescorcoran8577

3 жыл бұрын

Finlay, all the best with your healing journey. My thoughts are with you today.

For those of you who come to the comment section for support, just know we’re all rooting for you. You can’t see us but we’re all here cheering you and your mental health on. You got this, don’t give up

@raginirawat1915

14 күн бұрын

Aw such a cute comment. God bless you!

@DarkFay

5 күн бұрын

Cringe

@brettmartin400

5 күн бұрын

@@DarkFay rooting for you too @Dark

The ancient Stoics really pound on this topic. Marcus Aurelius especially would write to himself as a reminder that he takes the shape of the quality of his thoughts. So, it's important to examine your thoughts constantly to see which ones are dragging you down and discard them. It's not easy and takes time but the point is that you're worth the effort and work and time. Demand better for yourself. Your mind takes the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, wouldn't you want those thoughts to be of good things? Positive things? Happy things? You are worthy of such things.

@WorkerBeesUnite

3 жыл бұрын

This was so perfectly written that i went back, looking for quotation marks. If u originated this, u have a way with words and a profound understanding of this process. You def got the message across.

@edyrayfield1797

3 жыл бұрын

There a million ways. His worked for him. Big deal.

@msgr9499

3 жыл бұрын

@@edyrayfield1797 wow, negative thoughts much?

@joeking6972

3 жыл бұрын

Meditations is one of the greatest books ever written.

@ashotofmercury

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I really needed this today. Thank you. ☺️🤗🥰

"We can extract value from the things we don't like." I like that!

@dianeyoung8068

3 жыл бұрын

There would not be spiritual growth without challenge.

@uwlimesub6945

3 жыл бұрын

@Janice Brown I don't know much about art but l know what I like.😁

@uwlimesub6945

3 жыл бұрын

@keecefly Chocolates can be risky, but we've learned to accept the risk.

@e1ghtSpace

3 жыл бұрын

I don't. :p

@zegwaypop111

3 жыл бұрын

Totally!

To all who read this: You are *more* than enough. 💖

This talk really changed my life. Strangely enough, esspecially the second question "how do they behave?" has worked for me. Images started to appear in my mind of how my thoughts did behave each time I asked myself that question: like raging gremlins, frustrated soldiers, prisoners, anxious bees or nagging neighbours. These pictures were very powerful, as they put me right in the viewer seat, and immediately distanced those thoughts from me. I could then decide whether to "watch on" oder turn my attention to something else. Thank you so much!

@breannebrooks8475

Жыл бұрын

Very well said here

@crystal6381

Жыл бұрын

i like your visualization of your thoughts, im going to try that :)

@maelmare9280

Жыл бұрын

Marion, WOW. What a GREAT comparison!! Thanks for your help. God Bless You.

@UnicornUniverse333

2 ай бұрын

Wow I'm trying this out right now thank you

@dianepines9014

Ай бұрын

Very helpful! Thank you!

“Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

@Icanfigureitoutintime

3 жыл бұрын

I loved him as the Karate Kid!

@trishaspencer9956

2 жыл бұрын

If you plant ice your gonna harvest wind

@brandonbauder3440

2 жыл бұрын

Yea this guy talked about nothing. What works is listening to your intuition, having the courage to make a change, the confidence to see it through to the end and faith in yourself that you will make the best effort.

@pachengchang

2 жыл бұрын

I wish it was that easy ...

@RLWarrior

2 жыл бұрын

Sow what?

I used something similar to this to quit drinking alcohol. What I would do is try to find the motivation behind my thoughts, what were they trying to get me to do. I realized most of the chatter in my head was wrapped around planning to drink. Once I was able to separate the chatter that dealt with my alcoholism, I was able to dismiss those thoughts as my addiction and then think about something else. This was not easy and only one part of dealing with addiction. I hope this can help someone else, and forgive yourself and others you blame.

@stephanieleon5970

2 жыл бұрын

I have these same feelings, but about food. The psychiatrist I used to see for my antidepressants always asked if I used any illegal drugs. And I would always say, “Food is my drug, obviously,” and wave my hand over my body, and laugh. And he never laughed. And I have thought about that a lot. I’m always thinking about what good food I can have next, and it’s what motivates me to get out of bed in the morning, or leave the house to run errands, etc. And I think that’s actually a problem.

@anothermike4825

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephanieleon5970 I was in the men's room at a gym and had a similar conversation with a big guy about how his food addiction. He said it made it easier for him to understand alcoholism. When he talked about food similar to the way you do and the way I talked about alcohol, I understood him. I believe you too. Maybe make a conscious effort to start thinking and then doing things that don't involve food. I also believe sugar is a drug it is addictive. So if you can cut one thing out, cut out added sugars. I had to keep my days full when I was quiting alcohol, it helped keep me from thinking about getting a drink.

@stephanieleon5970

2 жыл бұрын

@@anothermike4825 - Thank you. Currently having to work two jobs to make ends meet and one of them is grocery shopping for other people, which keeps me too busy to think about eating anything, myself. When I am done and headed home, I always try to remind myself I have food at home, just like these people making these healthy decisions for grocery items, lol. I am also finding a lot of cool healthier items at stores I have never shopped at, like Sprouts. So I think it’s helping.

@anothermike4825

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephanieleon5970 good luck and be kind to yourself.

@aseelal5338

Жыл бұрын

Trying that now to stop my negative thoughts but they tend to stuck in my head.

Those who keep saying, skip the video and get to the point by watching the end of it. Well, I'm afraid I have to disagree. The point is not about hearing two words or two phrases or any random quote. We, humans, tend to understand things a lot better when we relate them to the context where events take place. It helps us click with their stories, know what they have been through and the lessons they have learned, which in turn invite us to embody these valuable insights instead of just keeping them stored in our heads.

@rorytennes8576

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. We respond to stories. We are story oriented.

@deefee701

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@uwlimesub6945

3 жыл бұрын

I'm having trouble understanding you after- "when we relate them to the context..." . If you broke that second part into three or four sentences, it may become clearer. I agree that there's no need to skip the beginning of this Ted talk. It's valuable to know who is giving the talk and how they made their way there. Thanks.

@PCWorld2ady

3 жыл бұрын

@@uwlimesub6945 thanks for pointing that out, I had the same impression but I just didn't take time to rephrase that part, but now I did, hopefully you get the message.

@kmm4499

3 жыл бұрын

Rory Tennes storiented

I love how he stands straight in front of the letter that totally can change the towns name.

@highdownmartin

2 жыл бұрын

The town full of ducks Or Ducklands. Well spotted

@gaawn

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@lbrikmanis

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing! Ha

@lonniesponsler5072

2 жыл бұрын

😂👍.

@virgilcaine3762

2 жыл бұрын

i donr know who is right..i fugured it said deckhands..but the L got jealous and murdered the h and slipped into his place. His neighbors K and M were shocked to hesr of the crime. He seemed like a nice guy. Maybe he lost his mind. I believe letters can and do make up lies as well as truth. To murder a letter..you conclude that perhaps L just had no consenence. Didnt bother him one bit. Excuse me please i used too much prepositon h and i think its causing a vowell bstructn

Another tip I learned when dealing with automatic negative thoughts (ANT's), not only question whether it is helpful, but question whether you would say the things you say to yourself to a loved one.

This sounds similar to Byron Katie’s method of inquiry that she calls, “The Work” to invalidate negative thinking. You isolate the particular thought by repeating the original negative through and then asking, “Is it true?”, “Can I absolutely know its true”, “How do I react or what happens when I believe the thought?,” and “Who would you be without that thought?”. Then you turn around the thought to possibly understand if your thought is a projection of something else. This stuff is not second nature to me, so this type of advice is always a good refresher when I’m on a downward spiral.

@nataliaturner4845

3 жыл бұрын

I came to an awareness a few months ago that I very likely have adhd & rsd (rejection sensitive dysphoria). It's been worse lately, I think because of getting older, but I'm not able to get help yet, so I've been looking for any kind of advice that could help until I can actually see someone. This video & your comment (and lots of others too) are immensely helpful! Thank you 🌞👍💖

@editelh

3 жыл бұрын

I also thought of Byron Katie. But I never liked the woman. And these questions here are a lot more viable and immediate for me.

@nataliaturner4845

3 жыл бұрын

@@editelh Yeah, I haven't checked out BK yet, but I love the simplicity of Metivier's method.

@anarchowombat5309

3 жыл бұрын

It would be nice if Byron Katie would acknowledge that she stole the whole idea from Albert Ellies. Her behaviour shows so much powermongering fraud.

@thecrazyandthewild

3 жыл бұрын

Byron Katie's work is transformative. The turn around is so powerful! And Byron is wonderful. Her method is simple so anyone can benefit from it. She meets people where they are. But if anyone wants hardcore stuff, listen to her audiobook "A Thousand Words For Joy". Have a great day!

This is what I'm getting from reading and mediating on the bible. Stillness from the rattling of unnecessary brain clatter. Knowing more peace and calm then I believed possible

@deepeshdhakal7476

3 жыл бұрын

Bible doesn't teach you how to mediate. Study Hindusim or Buddhism.

I love that he says “I don’t know, but I don’t think so”. Such an honest answer

I have a variation of the exercise that can help smoothen the process. Include an opening question and a closing question: 1) What will my next thought be? [This switches you to looking inwards] 2) Is it useful? 3) How does it behave? 4) Should I pause thinking? [This directly silences your thoughts]

@orbalturner6747

3 жыл бұрын

Nice One

@friarjeff1602

3 жыл бұрын

And perhaps one more in the middle, "Did "I" cause this to be thought, or did it just appear.

@andrewwalker1377

3 жыл бұрын

@@friarjeff1602 That sounds to me like a thought generator not a thought silencer

@clareharrison3585

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Tony for the tip 🤗

@opencurtin

2 жыл бұрын

You should be doing the Ted Talk lol

If he is talking about internet trolls, they are not keyboard warriors. Warriors have courage. It doesn’t take courage to spew negativity at people with no accountability. “Energy doesn’t die, it just changes form”, was a great reminder. 👍

When almost all of self help and motivation experts are all about telling us how flawed we are and we have to be sucked in their network to get better, this is one of the most self empowering talk I have ever heard. Thank you.

With practice, one can simply cease thinking, or move attention to something else. I've used this countless times when awake in the middle of the night to get back to sleep, even when having an anxiety episode. It's your brain- you control what you think.

@Dack.howaboutyou

Жыл бұрын

Much easier said than done. I trained myself to do this by accident; probably as survival mechanism growing up, but i've given this advice to others and most of them are extremely skeptical about their own ability to just "not think", or "stop thinking", or even to have much control over their own thinking at all. Smart, wise, good friends have responded to my "it is possible to just not think" by which i basically meant to say that they could "control their stressful over-thinking to such an extent that it would be helpful to them".

Thoughts: Are they useful? How do they behave? Great lesson, thank you!

I watched this video almost a year ago today and when I saw it pop up in my suggested today I got very happy! I have a post it note on my wall that says. " Keep thoughts positive. Are they Useful? How do they behave? Negative thoughts are someone else NOT ME" Since about a year ago my wife and I have been all over the mental health and growth journey but I find myself happier than ever and the negative thoughts don't control me anymore. You may not ever fully get rid of them but you learn to live with them and eventually they don't hold so much weight. Keep going. You're on the right track.

@robbieanderson227

Жыл бұрын

Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)

@robbieanderson227

Жыл бұрын

Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)

@robbieanderson227

Жыл бұрын

Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)

@robbieanderson227

Жыл бұрын

Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)

Another good one I heard from Eckhart Tolle that I use that helps pull me out of a thought spiral and into the role of observer: "I wonder what my next thought will be."

Busted out laughing at "of course I still have thoughts, I got myself here today" I am so happy you've had this experience, beautiful story. Great speech!

I just awoke to a new day after hitting a new low last night and this is exactly what I needed to hear so thank you!

Excerpt from a book: 'Nurturing the Soul' written by B. K. Mohini from Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University. Raja Yoga Meditation teaches that we have 4 types of thoughts: 1. Functional or necessary thoughts 2. Wasteful thoughts 3. Negative thoughts 4. Positive thoughts We don't need to silence the mind but decrease the quantity and increase the quality of our thoughts.

@j3ffn4v4rr0

3 жыл бұрын

You make a really great point, which echoes nicely what this speaker implies....that some thoughts might be useful and helpful.

@fangsofmay

3 жыл бұрын

So helpful! Thank you. This clicked for me. I have too many negative/wasteful thoughts. That is changing today. 🙏💛

@kafkapie

3 жыл бұрын

my problem with these questions... whats wrong with day dreams? how does one obtain new ideas or grow as an individual?

@andrewwalker1377

3 жыл бұрын

@@kafkapie There is a time for day dreams best not while clearing your mind. But then again reciting those two questions as a mantra may be the perfect daydream. Ive never had success with meditation,. This seems to be worth a try.

@kafkapie

3 жыл бұрын

@@andrewwalker1377 maybe I'm afraid of silencing my mind... " If I exorcise my devils. Well my angels may leave too."

Observing one's thoughts is a useful thing to do. Allows one to throw out useless and outdated thoughts.

@rokyericksonroks

3 жыл бұрын

Far out! I’m using that to inspire my team during a timeout in a closely contested basketball game. Thank-you.

Negative thoughts like a storm in my head criticizing me. But when I say my mantra "when I don't care anymore I am free" and I imagine this rain of mud pouring down from my head to toes and I just let it be.. Then I start to feel better afterwards.. I don't know if it work for everyone but it works for me...

Great talk. I learned about analyzing my negative thoughts through my Buddhist practice. These two questions allow the sane part of your psyche to gently challenge the out of control parts and bring order to your mind. I'd like to add that antidepressant and antianxiety medications do not muddle your thoughts if taken correctly (i.e. as prescribed and NEVER with alcohol). Many people find them very helpful because they can reduce symptoms enough to allow them to start using psychological tools such as the one in this video.

@pantherman7619

2 жыл бұрын

Don't take anti depressants and anti anxiety medication unless you are suicidal. These are very destructive and addictive. There are so many natural methods to control this imbalance in brain chemicals and in the mental behaviour that creates that state. I was on everything under the sun and cured myself through Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine, diet, exercise and meditation. The doctors will prescribe you opioids for pain, (destructive and addictive) plenty of natural anti inflammatory and pain relieving plants out there. The doctors tried to make me take ten days worth of antibiotics for an infectious cyst. Antibiotics should only be taken in the most dire circumstances, they destroy your natural microbiome and mitochondria, this can take over four years to redevelop in which time you can get degenerative problems. I cured this in no less than a week using natural antibiotics and oils to draw out. Sorry for the rant I'm just very against SSRI's, benzodiazapines, opioids and other over prescribed medications from a very outdated practice that GPS use. I have lost alot of friend due to the fact doctors don't ask the correct questions about how you live, eat and think. People who are on anti depressants are more likely to take their own lives and I've seen this too much. Wean yourself off and substitute with adapagenic herbs and plants, exercise and meditate. I wish you good health and success.

@patientzero5685

2 жыл бұрын

I want to read a good introductory book about Buddhism with my 16 year old daughter. Do you have any recommendations? I have raised my kids with no spirituality and realize now that it was a mistake. Self empowerment in the absence of “woo woo” seems impossible.

@hyun5269

2 жыл бұрын

@@patientzero5685 Try different (controlled) breathing techniques like: 4seconds inhale 7sec hold 8sec exhale, Another one but careful about this one it can knock you out if forced too much start for : 3sec inhale 2sec hold 3sec exhale rigorous breathing for 2 minutes and then hold breathe 20 sec NOTE: if you are uncomfortable in the mid stop it but slowly ,not to forget sit in a comfortable position so that even if you fall ,you don't get hurt i mastered 2nd technique over a period of week, you can take more but DON'T FORCE YOURSELF , WIM HOFF breathing technique is similar Read some indian meditation techniques Like staring at a far object for prolonged time with normal blinking but in a comfortable position Best one try meditation before going to bed either you'll sleep or get a great mindfull session Simplest Meditation: We have taste ,touch,smell, vision,hearing sense Close most of them except one like if you see ,block ear with monotonous repeating music , don't eat ,for touch stay away from living beings while meditating stuff like that Self hypnosis,if mastered you can have great focus : the thing we experience sometimes while driving on a boring journey sometimes we forget how quick we reached destination and may not remember details of scenery along the way after completing drive To try this lie down on a flat floor facing upwards everything relaxed, roll your eyes upwards such that you can't or barely see anything close eyes in that state Google REM CIRCADIAN SLEEP CYCLE for more info, REM has lot to do with self hypnosis Ask any specific questions would love to answer if i know something about that Lastly google all of this stuff get a concrete knowledge about it and don't hurt yourself by forcing yourself too much, take it slow You might not observe results in first attempts but atleast you'll be safe You don't need no guru ,yoga teacher just google all stuff if you have doubts/ curious about English is my second language pardon for mistakes😊

@patientzero5685

2 жыл бұрын

@@hyun5269 thank you very much. It was incredibly kind of you to write this all out for a stranger. I will try your techniques. It is funny that you mention looking at a far off object and focusing on it. As a young child when trying to fall asleep I would close my eyes and imagine some thing very far off in the horizon and I would focus just on the object until patterns of colors would appear in the darkness and soon those patterns would turn to objects that were familiar and random. I found out in college that this was called Hypnagogia. Using this method has helped me fall asleep my entire life. Again, thank you for your information.

@dadadaddyoo

2 жыл бұрын

@@patientzero5685 There are three prominent teachers of Buddhism in the West today, the Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, and Pema Chödrön. There are many other great teachers out there, but these are the most popular and ones I can personally vouch for. A great book to start with is Thich Nhat Hanh's Peace is Every Step. It is a collection of short essays about informal Buddhist practices like daily meditation, mindfulness and dealing with feelings. Reading is great, but for Buddhism to really change your life you have to practice it and make it a part of your day to day, minute to minute life. When practices like meditation and mindfulness become a daily habit, they can help you heal emotionally and become more grounded in the present. Another great help is to become part of a Buddhist group. I have been a member of several over the years, and the only one I would advise against is Nichren Shōshū (its lay organization is called the Soka Gakkai). I don't wish to be too negative about them -- I met some nice people while I was attending their meetings and never felt pressured to do anything I didn't want to. However,they don't teach meditation or mindfulness which I feel are the heart of the Buddha's teachings. They also put the teachings of their founder, the thirteenth century Japanese monk Nichren Daishonin, above the teachings of the historical Buddha and even claim he is the Buddha of the present age. This belief has let them to consider their school of Buddhism to be "True Buddhism" and all other schools to be outdated. One of the things I really like about Buddhism is that the different schools don't compete and in fact are happy to learn from one another. Check with your local Unitarian Universalist Fellowship -- they may well have a Buddhist group or at least know of one -- and they are pretty trustworthy. You and your daughter are starting on a great adventure. Good luck!

"Are these thoughts useful? How do they behave?" Imagine your thoughts as strangers that approach you from nowhere, trying to influence you and your behaviour. One guy, who's pissed off, approach you and say "You're going to fail". How do you interpret these words? How does this man behave? Are they useful words? Or just nonsense? - This man behaves in a rude way, he is negative, not very useful, why did he say that? I have no clue, so I guess there's no value in it as he doesn't know me at all. The same goes with your negative thoughts, as you can't predict the future, you can't listen to a thought that says "you can't do this".

@uwlimesub6945

3 жыл бұрын

I like that. Thanks! 👍🏽

@charlesbracewell8728

3 жыл бұрын

Great breakdown

@pawewrona3682

3 жыл бұрын

What about the thoughts that blame you for the past rather than deny the good future?

@ludvig1123

3 жыл бұрын

@@pawewrona3682 Is it useful, how does it behave? You can't change something that happened in the past. You can improve or learn from it, but you can't change it. If we stick to the "failing". When it's out of your control, it is not useful, as you can't control it.

@shrinkdoc49

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent analogy, very helpful. Also consider "Old Aunt Emma", that cranky, old, negative, aunt, sitting next to you, always commenting negatively about you or what you are thinking. Put her "down the hall" in her own room.. Send her away, remove her influence from your present thought process.

My short story: whenever I feel bad thoughts are coming, I think "this won't make me happy nor make me any favor", and after a lot of training, I change to better thoughts, namely holidays, arts and crafts, or I watch videos of pets. And when I start thinking about work on my free time, I think "I'm not being paid, so I better stop now"😂 this works too.

I think maybe this is what all animals have above us. No language to distract from their sense of being.

My parents are both doctors and have always told me the beauty of the human body from a scientific standpoint was the reason they were religious.

The honesty and transparency are endearing. Memorizing the Spiritual ultimate truths in God’s Word is the most transforming ❤️🙏🐛✝️🦋🕊🎶

We don’t want to shut thoughts off but to learn authentic mindfulness that allows us to recognize our thoughts with awareness.

@SimplyHuman186

3 жыл бұрын

@Dalton Speaks there is no such thing as emptiness. We can not empty our mind. We can not experience nothingness for one requires a presence to experience it. The commenter above is correct and so is the speaker. Just different word use, same definition. Much love

@Nexus2UAll

3 жыл бұрын

I thought it was to go beyond the mind.

The first time i watch this i didn't understand it. I watch again and has changed my life.

True message of this talk is how to help and be positive to self and to others.

The two questions make us pause to question our thoughts. This, in fact is, the First Habit "Be Proactive" that Steven Covey talks about in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. First we pause, give ourselves time, take responsibility for what we do next (Habit 1) question the thoughts in our mind for usefulness, put the more important ahead of the less important (Habit 2: Put First Things First) and choose the thoughts that are useful (Habit 3: Begin with the end in mind)

@brianleep.

Жыл бұрын

I like these questions too "Who is the one that knows?" "Who is the one thinking?"

The closer to the Devine, the purer the mantra. This mantra is pure and simple. Bless you. Sweet Mercy, indeed. Peace and deep calm joy love follow. A new wave flows like turning into the ether and becoming part of the universal flow.

It’s so interesting to me that I watched this video, found it very useful and was looking forward to putting this strategy into practice…and then not 5 minutes later, a person in my life appeared and viciously insulted and belittled me out of the blue, as he has done many times before. I was devastated, but after finally calming down, I realized it was the universe telling me I will never truly know peace until I am out of this situation in which I am constantly subjected to verbal abuse. No amount of self-help and positive self-talk will ever make up for being in an ongoing abusive situation.

This is a smart person. You can tell he has a lot of things to say about the world but doesn’t engage in the conversation. As you can see he asks questions instead. Thank you for the powerful video.

@randallee3544

3 жыл бұрын

Question that could be addressed by anyone listening

@flanchocoflan

3 жыл бұрын

Wut

@squirlmy

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not sure what you mean by "doesn't engage in the conversation". He's lecturing a bunch of people, but I'm not sure that is such a good thing.

This is the key to success. This is the key to a psychic revolution in humanity. This would heal the world... if everyone could adopt this way of thinking.

For who ever wants to truly experience the peace and no thought realm, Read the power of now, it literally has the power to plug you off that noisy world

Normally I am happy that someone saved me time by posting the content aimed by the clickbait. But this man is soulful and his thoughts and expressions and intensions earnest. It is a joy to watch the full talk. The people who came up with the clickbait title that sort of ruined the whole talk for a lot of people should be ashamed. I hope more people can watch the whole talk and be present while doing so. FWIW many have posted the questions here. If you just know the questions without knowing how he came upon them, it is probably only 1% as useful.

@darrenwitzaney8549

8 ай бұрын

While I agree that the "Clickbait" is a shortcut, and misses the soul of his talk, I would urge you to reconsider the statement "should be ashamed". I appreciated the summary, but still listened to the whole talk, and recall the speaker saying that we can't change people. If we can't change others, (but only ourselves) then trying to shame others is pointless. You may choose to see those comments as "unhelpful", but if you really want the writer to be ashamed, perhaps you need to reconsider the overall message of the video. I point this out, because in managing anxiety it is so important that we .

Man I just cry when I feel my heart. The beauty of understanding someone's perception of the world from times as long ago as sanskrit must have been interesting 🤔

underrated. I had to find this again to send to a friend - I've employed this little mantra since the day I watched this, and oh how incisive it is. Works every time to foster insight and quietude. I wish everyone could know this beautiful little gateway to a more mindful life.

Mind blown... I will be forever grateful.

' ... we've got to be able to get past this... we can't afford to NOT SEE and NOT EXTRACT THE VALUE from the things we DON'T LIKE, because we are so STUCK on the Things WE DO LIKE..." Brilliant advise Sir. Thank you !

2 Questions to ask when bothered by thoughts & thoughts Q1. Is my thoughts Useful ? Q2. How do they behave ?

I refer to that part of my thought process as “the storyteller “. It’s a part of me and I’ve learned to “communicate” with it in order to have a quieter mind with positive thoughts.

@Zaynea24

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this

@MusicGirl114

2 жыл бұрын

How did you learn this?

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@MusicGirl114 60,000m thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Read about the positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

DG, 60,000m thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Read about the positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search.

@bmfitzgerald3

2 жыл бұрын

what do you call the part of you which communicates with "the storyteller"?

I dont wanna force myself and "act" happy. Just wanna be happy, wealthy ,and free.

Love thy neighbor as thy self.

Thoughts are a life forms trying to create themselves in our dimension -joe rogan and Duncan trussel

Life has no meaning without the ability to share. Thank you.

@aaronafre1920

3 жыл бұрын

Nice one!

Amazing. It's so hard to escape the algorithm and that's not me being negative of social media because it has soo many positives. It's just refreshing to feel human again.

My god I was going through a anxiety attack right now and thinking about the quotes calmed me down ☺️

@martymckerry5444

3 жыл бұрын

You may like Ryan Holiday at Daily Stoic, Samira. ❤️🤘

@samirahaider8457

3 жыл бұрын

Marty McKerry thanks a bunch for your kind recommendation.

@martymckerry5444

3 жыл бұрын

Samira Haider No problem at all. 🤘

When he asks "How do my thoughts behave", I THINK he is referring to what action or behavior do we exhibit from these thoughts (typically). Before you were made aware of whether the thought was useful or not useful, you most likely performed the same physical action that you always have. So, he's merely asking you to be aware of HOW your thoughts guide your life. 1) Is it useful? Once you determine that, you can ask yourself, how does my thoughts behave? Do they make me anxious in a good way because there is a REAL threat or am I overthinking for nothing and I'm about to go binge-eat to cope with this thought....? Does that make sense?

@lucidvizion

3 жыл бұрын

Yep that is exactly how I see it. "Is this thought making me angry for no good reason?"

@sethgilbertson2474

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your understanding and wanted to add my own experience. I’ve been a on/off meditator for years but have found that when I do meditate consistently, it is a powerful opportunity to observe your own thought patterns. As an example, I remember a time when I was meditating and getting caught up in thinking about how I could be a better educator, start my own private school, and at the pinnacle of that flight, I realized what my mind was doing. It was trying to keep me interested in interacting with it. That is the behavior.

@alexinatree2564

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for explaining this! I was confused about this

@P1GEONPOO

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely makes sense. Very well worded, 👍

@lenwelch2195

3 жыл бұрын

Lauren Rivera it’s too late by the time you ask yourself that. My assistant told a patient that she tries to stop smoking but ddoesmt nelieve she can. I said that’s the resson right there. You say on outset you don’t believe you can so you never will as long as you say that to yourself. Tell yourself you can and pick a date 3 months from now but at least ten times a day say out loud I willl stop

Landing on this video at this very moment just sent a chill up my spine.

This video is keeping me from not ending my life, in my mind I wanted to change someone I want to believe someone is like I imagine. Perhaps was my heart as well. I must keep my mind clear and battle with my depression. I understand is part of life. I should accept it and make it through the day by simple. Asking are my thoughts useful how do they behave…… silence

@HighMonkeyMonk.

Жыл бұрын

The fact that you have these inward thoughts show that you’re a strong person who does the hard work. It’s not an easy thing dealing with the darker, heavier parts of ourselves. I hope you don’t feel that you have to do it alone, though. Reach out to someone close to you that you can trust. Good luck

@josstintoledo5080

Жыл бұрын

@@HighMonkeyMonk. thank you, not often I get empathy words

The language sounds like the Tongues that I speak. Holy Spirit gave this gift to me around 2012. Hallelujah

Good advice, and yet our mind is so destructive that we forget them. We forget to remember. We wallow in the negative more than the positive.

I've worked with Anthony for years and all the things I learned from him are life changing! Very good talk!!! Real tedxtalk!

@juliancourt5639

3 жыл бұрын

Who is this chap?..can he be contacted?

Love the authenticity of the talk

@redpillpusher

3 жыл бұрын

hmm ...I listen to this guy and the word "charlatan" comes to mind.

@TheNamami

3 жыл бұрын

@@redpillpusher why on earth do you feel he is a charlatan? He is a memory trainer par excellence.

@redpillpusher

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheNamami ...because underlying the main focus of his talk he expressed a definite opposition to atheism and the sciences to me those are two huge red flags. I guess in all fairness I may be making a hasty judgement from a 13 minute presentation ..I'd love to hear an elaboration based on this talk. he struck me as being very ambiguous and I tend to be more critical when I hear ppl speak too vaguely.

@rahulkahol

2 жыл бұрын

@@redpillpusher Agree - talk was kinda cringey but everyone is all over it. Strange...

@redpillpusher

2 жыл бұрын

@@rahulkahol Yah I've since seen more of his videos solely focused on memory retention ...those seem to more rational in nature. But in this talk he seems to be more deepok chopra-esque ...a little more on the woo woo side ;)

‘Energy doesn’t die it changes form’ science and religious minds agree on this he’s right. I never noticed that before.

@opalessence4818

3 жыл бұрын

Pondering that concept is what launched me into my metaphysical journey and radically changed my views on the greater reality.

It's a nice reminder of how to occupy your busy mind with something mechanical and have a useful filter in your life. Thank you - this reminder came with excellent timing.

@dartgr9835

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks to the Algorithm 😂

I learned from the book, ' Battlefield of the Mind' to think about what you are thinking about. It took practice but it works. Patterns to neutralize patterns. For me, bible scriptures neutralized the negative thoughts. Thank God I no longer have the constant negative tape playing over and over in my mind all day. Ty for this revealing Ted Talk 😃

@dawn8542

3 жыл бұрын

There's horrendous scripture in the bible. You must be cherry picking the few good ones.

@ccgamedes33

3 жыл бұрын

@@dawn8542 He is reading it in sanskrit.

@ChrisBadges

3 жыл бұрын

The Bible actually holds nothing but good promisses for believers, that's why it comforts many. Now since it also contains history and things that happened also include terrible mistakes, not everything makes a happy story. But actually selecting the parts with the promises instead of punishment/mistakes is not picking, but rather knowing your way around a work of 66 books over more than a 1000 years. Starting with the New Testament and especially Jesus' words offers lots of hope.

@GarekGodrik-YAFictionAuthor

2 жыл бұрын

“The message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.” 1 Cor. 1:18

@NukeTenthTheGrand

2 жыл бұрын

@@GarekGodrik-YAFictionAuthor 👏👏👏

Truth & Justice will always prevail. Meantime, make sure you act wisely. Karma is a boomerang. It magnifies and returns more than what was initially launched back to the sender.

John Hudert - Best 13mins invested in listening to the context behind the benefit of why these 2 Qs are worth remembering/utilising. Very worthwhile listening - no waste of time. Even you had to listen to the 13mins before you decided that it was a waste of your time... and then to requote what the 13mins had taught you.

TLDR: "Are They useful?" "How do they behave?"

@1912anticamper

3 жыл бұрын

If you don't have time to watch the video, watch it later.

@KateLate____

3 жыл бұрын

Are the thoughts useful? How does who/what behave? It's a wishy washy talk, I don't want to listen to 13 mins even at double speed

@jasond626

3 жыл бұрын

@@KateLate____ I tend to agree. A lot of preamble. Just get to the good stuff already..

@madeirafonseca6383

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saving 13 minutes of my life.

@_carla

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks! after miserably trying to listen to all of that with that terrible audio, I couldn't make out the second one :@

A beautiful Ted Talk. Have listened to it every morning for the past few days and will continue to ... so much to learn from it. Anthony Metivier's voice is so easy to listen to. Thanks.

Your mind is a tool for you to use not the other way around. I need to get out and walk in nature for thought to turn off🌳🌱🌿🍃🌾🍀🦚🦜🐿🦡🌞🦌

I have been in such a deep depression thinking about the past mistakes I have made. Are these thoughts useful? Not on your life! How do they behave? They make me feel horrible. I needed this so badly. Thinking of jumping off a bridge just keeps on ping pinging in my brain because I was told I was a f*ck up. I have cried for days over those two words. I need a hug!

Thinking is overrated. All my thoughts are imagination. I think of them that much it happens. I was once a headteacher for 3 years. Never had a job as a teacher in a school. But because I said I’m going to be a headteacher and imagined it. 16 months later I got head hunted for the job. Love my mind ❤️

@gardenvariety9957

3 жыл бұрын

Can you please visualize Donald Trump not getting re-elected? Thank you!!❤❤

@ketameanii

Жыл бұрын

@@gardenvariety9957 LMAO

I too have been through this. Changing the my negative narrator has been hugely beneficial for me. I sometimes fall backwards but not nearly as much as I used to. 💕 i used to turn to negative things such as booze (10 years), my medications (now 12 years free of all meds), street drugs (almost 7) and self harm (almost 4). It can be done. We can get lifted from the fogg and haze of it. Yes its natural to feel very deep and also really good and I want to feel the all inbetweens. I didn't for years and sometimes struggle with it as I have some "dis"abilities but I wear my heart right on my sleeve and proud of it. We can be there and present. Not saying no medication is for everyone but for me it wasn't beneficial. 💕

Possibly my favorite Ted talk

I am so grateful I came across this. I went in for what was supposed to be a quick doctor's appointment (and which was completely covered by my insurance) two weeks ago and was told I was going to possibly need very invasive surgery but first would need a series of invasive, very uncomfortable, and sometimes painful tests all of which are going to cost me thousands of dollars. I'm 34 and very healthy so this has been very overwhelming and upsetting (to put it lightly). I'm excited to try this out 🙏

@helentatterton1412

Жыл бұрын

All the best ❤

@raes9616

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry! I went through a very painful surgery in my early 30’s. It was very traumatic. I know how you feel! Praying for you to get through this. 🙏🏼

@goldielocks6467

Жыл бұрын

Hoping that all is going well for you, Nicole.

@mikebolger8980

Жыл бұрын

Hope you can find some peace and good luck with the surgery.

Inspiring talk! Amongst the simple but powerful points, "you can change you" resonates with me. With the right tools, we have a lot more power than we realise.

@brynleytalbot778

3 жыл бұрын

It's the opposite of most approaches, in particular positivity, where it's changing others to change your life. The reality is that only you can change. To change others to suit you is narcissistic and highly destructive but very prevalent in our social media addicted youth. When everyone returns to the best of being themselves without undue comparisons to others his simple self questions should be productive. It's quite a leap.

Self-enquiry or "Atma Vicara" Just ask the question. Who am I? And stay with the I. You will enter a relm or substratum of unmanifested I. The true I. OR I-I. It's surreal and incredible.

'Are they helpful? Are they kind? Are they necessary?'' - loose paraphrase of Sri Sathya Sai Kindness requires a bit of judgment and that can be tricky terrain since most of us consistently know the difference betwween judgment and discernment. That said, this is what his message reminds me of and I appreciate his sharing his journey to the destination. Fun 'miss'take in hearing that someone else may appreciate. I have hearing and audio processing challenges so I backed up several times trying to hear what his second qustion was. Ulimately, I found and put on CC and enjoyed discovering that the translator picked up that instance of BEHAVIOR as PAY. I love that as a metaphysical near-equivalent. Being one easily mistaken for a WOO-person, I don't believe in coincidence. I hope you experienced a lovely pay-off from this video like I did.

Sanskrit is a perfect language. When pronounced, verbally or internally, properly or improperly, real change occurs. It is a true blessing to have this gift from above. Use it wisely. Learn all you can. Word is wand!

Excellent talk! MUCH needed right now to calm our thoughts with everything in the media! My mind was BLOWN AWAY when he mentioned about defeating a pattern (negative thoughts) with another pattern😲. I deal with depression and anxiety (and tried MANY medications) and for me the pattern that would still my thoughts was drumming...I would play a simple meditative pattern and this ALWAYS calmed my mind...like a smooth lake at dawn. Anthony helped me realize..I wasn't just doing a hobby and felt good after it...it was a pattern replacing a negative thought pattern...healing my mind!🎇😲🎇

@itscalledlogic7

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if this is the premise behind EFT tapping as well?

@HaNa-hh8vd

3 жыл бұрын

Check out cbt too! There are cbt workbooks on amazon available to buy

@anitabentata

3 жыл бұрын

Kate EDid it’s not the premise behind tapping, though I guess it could become a replacement pattern if you don’t have other knowledge. I teach an advanced form of tapping. Tapping is more, from my perspective, about allowing and acceptance which dissolves the confusion, emotional pain, shock, judgement, limiting belief which interrupts the flow. It clears the mind body system back into flow at the same time as supporting the meridians, energy and body. For me tapping is a temporary technique. We are not meant to be tapping away all the time. There are many useful ways of stress and trauma being easy to shift and transform. My emPOWER online program is starting soon if you’re interested to know more. 😊

@nataliefisher7961

2 жыл бұрын

@@anitabentata Do you have a link? Best wishes, Natalie

I have a copy of The Victorious Mind. A Must-have !!!! I might get the answer to my question by the time I got through the book...but I honestly can't wait to ask : Gary Weber talks about Sanskrit. I wonder : could I get the same results using Scripture passages ? No doubt about it : the two questions about thoughts have helped me out of trains of annoying thoughts I could not get rid of in another way. The honest answers you give yourself work like " Be gone!!!" And Poooffff ! I find myself out of the loop. No magic, no woo-woo.....it just works. A great continuous and practical everyday help, no less !!! Thanks for this talk Anthony, I hope many people take it to heart and dig further. I can advise The Victorious Mind to everyone. Great work ! Grts from Antwerp Pia

@pounamubts7802

3 жыл бұрын

of course! just try it

@jonathanknight3704

3 жыл бұрын

@@pounamubts7802 where can one find said sanskrits?

@deefee701

3 жыл бұрын

Sanskrit is a language. Yes, people have used the sacred texts of their own culture for centuries. Modern people just don't use it.

Have been practicing "no thoughts" since I was a teenager. Appreciated Eckhart Tollle's advice to be the one listening to my thoughts rather than thinking I am my thoughts. I have found a level of contentment by reducing inner monologues, especially recurring negative memories. Sadly I had no mentors to teach logical thinking to plan my actions effectively. While focused on spiritual pursuits I should have balanced it with the benefits of managing money. Positive thinking I learned is a delusion that doesn't manifest in our material world, but a lot of people made fortunes selling the false idea that is actually synchronicity. Dropping the voice in my head does reduce stress, but it's not enlightenment. Using meditation to have a set time for going deeper into our conciousness is appropriate and the rest of our day use thoughts as the tool they are. Ha! Wish I was good at this idea...

@johntrojan9653

2 жыл бұрын

☕ ☕ 'n 🍺 - Lol *

@randybackgammon890

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like common sense.A little of this, a little of that plus a little luck and you( we) MIGHT just get some measure of peace...But if there was a cast iron method for everyone then surely,the world would have found it by now

Are my thoughts useful and how do they behave... I love this!

I'm astounded to realise how many of my thoughts are so far from useful!! I mostly laugh or shudder at the first question and rarely even feel the need to question their behaviour 🤣🙏💜

@reniemadison1738

2 жыл бұрын

They pretty much go hand in hand. Try backwards then forwards

Are my thoughts useful? How do my thoughts behave? Does the thought help (warning) or hurt me ( fake warning or fear for no reason). This is my take on it.

This information has changed my life, with practice the negative thoughts will just come and go and my mind clutter is clearing everyday, i owe my gratitude to this man and Ted x thank you!

I have listened twice now and the simplicity of the message is what I loved about the speech. Absolutely brilliant, thankyou.

I love this talk for so many reasons. The presenter is an excellent and engaging speaker. And he tells on himself. Vulnerability is so powerful! The first question makes sense to me. Many thoughts drag us down into fear, regret, resentment or just a time waster. I try to catch those thoughts and redirect my mind. However, the second question is very confusing to me. I wish he didn’t just state it but also explained it. What does it mean “how did my thoughts behave?” I would love to hear a clear concise explanation of this concept. It baffles me.

@jiggersotoole7823

2 жыл бұрын

same here

@1sthawkfeathers547

2 жыл бұрын

How do your thoughts create your world ? How do they make you feel about yourself ? Do they create a positive attitude about yourself ? If not, they are not USEFUL thoughts and should not be allowed in your mind. This is only part of what I took from the lecture. Blessings to you. Frances. 🕊❤🇺🇸

Jumped onto this Ted Talk so hard I almost fell over. Very useful information indeed. I give Anthony and A++++for an excellent lecture.

@djmissy1097

3 жыл бұрын

I live in bliss everyday I have gone through childhood trauma and still felt blissed because I felt I am protected. I know people around me are amazed how empty my mind is. For me this has allowed me to be useful. This dude gets it ❤️

I would have liked to hear more about how he decide if thoughts were useful and some further guidance on analyzing how they behave.

Discipline your mind, train it, set rules and obey them. Maybe even set a schedule for thinking about certain topics. Practice and you will get better at it. My busy mind really started becoming a problem during college, trying to figure out the error in my computer programs, coming up with all sorts of scenarios and potential causes and resolutions when I needed to be sleeping. Now, I can control my thoughts, I can stop them, don't focus on that topic right now, now it's time for sleeping, when morning comes it's time to continue to try to solve things. On a more personal and emotional level, I ask myself what other perspective would be more interesting and more healthy and probably more true, which is especially useful when dealing with negative thoughts. This practice, this discipline, this self-control has brought me peace.

I asked Anthony Metivier via Twitter to elaborate on the second question "how does it behave" @AnthonyMetivier Thanks for asking about this. I'm going to create a video to elaborate a.s.a.p. For now, the point is to ask the question and see what answer comes up. It's a means of labeling thoughts so you can contextualize them, i.e. this is a needy thought that behaves from false scarcity

@davidmeagher4909

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for asking that question and posting the reply. That is very helpful👍

@TheEastave

3 жыл бұрын

The general principle is to isolate the thoughts, and the questions are the scalpels. They produce daylight ( impair overidentifying with) between you and the thoughts. The “answer” to the questions are not the point but can be interesting especially if you allow yourself to entertain their changeable nature.

@jamescorcoran8577

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, I was a bit lost on that part too to be honest, thanks for clearing that up! @SMERSH009

@reneesofi1042

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for asking and posting 💙

Very useful information. One more suggestion for overthinking. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing your life with others, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, taking a walk, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

After cutting myself multiple times before realizing what I was doing to myself then getting so scared and breaking down even more cause of fear, I'm glad I came across this. God is good all the time

@mikekeyjr8708

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you’re doing well

@viiix1695

3 жыл бұрын

@@mikekeyjr8708 Getting there. Thank you

This was so incredibly helpful. Cleaning and refreshing. THANK YOU!!! Love and light xx