agree with some aspects of this.. but there are also some deliberately obnoxious spiteful people who go out of their way to be frustrating no matter how much we have helped them cos they r harbouring some resentment toward us.

@STMARTIN009

3 жыл бұрын

Best Comment.

@coffeebean3958

2 жыл бұрын

Dont even worry what undercover haters have to say, they will try to press every single one of your buttons to get you to do what they want. Let them fall out with you, let them go!

@cherylschumaker1366

2 жыл бұрын

Ya my step daughter is harbouring resentment towards me she is 23 and causing me heartache ...My son at 37 can also be a know it all and carries a sense of superiority it really frustrates me but I bite my tongue more than I say something but when I say something I usually say too much it's hurtful all the way around ...I'm pretty good natured and have a good sense of humor ...but lately I am feeling down and been dealing with this for awhile now if I remove them out of my life I will be so Loney as I'm sure they will go to the extreme and cut me out completely....it's a dam if you do and dam if you don't ...hard to let go and walk around avoiding and make yourself not noticed ....really is hurtful....

cant help but i think this message is kinda dangerous - because it basically invites people to emotionally abuse and use you while you say yourself: "UNDERSTAND THEM". i did this as good as i could for years and it left my mind pretty bruised...

@MrRK9295

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Are you supposed to stand there while they verbally punch you in the face and think to yourself, "It's OK, maybe they're just having a bad day?" Never worked for me until I started fighting back.

@mstickle89

4 жыл бұрын

Actually i think what he meant was first communicate your intentions clearly...patiently tell the people who frustrate you that it is not the right thing to do...if they are not ready to listen,then yes its time to fight back or cut loose...i am an introvert myself so i know its really tough to communicate but somehow thats what u gotta do

@10010011001100110101

4 жыл бұрын

I came to the same conclusion

@redruby747

2 жыл бұрын

Yea its bs

@redruby747

2 жыл бұрын

@••• melodic ••• yes

I don't believe in always appealing to a person's better nature because they might not have one. I carry myself with basic positivity but if someone is a dangerous amoral adversary, I'm not above giving them a taste of their own medicine in spades. "We sleep soundly in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm." It's not nice but that's the way a lot of the world is. You have to be tough as well as kind and sometimes that means you have to end up dealing with some nasty stuff. That's life.

@wchampton7112

2 жыл бұрын

REAL TALK!

@kdrogo7933

2 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said

I've been in therapy for 6 months and this video gave me better advice than I got in all that wasted time with a certified counselor.

I admire your trust in humanity, but in my experience I found that at work some people are just deeply dishonest and greed and they don't give a fig to run over other people and ruin other people's careers if this can help them to get ahead and make more money. And they have a perfectly smoot life at home. I am sorry to say that, but some people are just really ugly, and that is the reality in which we live.

@jenniferpiro8975

7 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I am seeing right now

@happytobeme5324

7 жыл бұрын

I think he knows but if u are capable be better when u can.

@tongsesangtam7170

6 жыл бұрын

Alisa S I strongly agree

@riadechahbouni

4 жыл бұрын

Ahhh...so negative....be positive....do you understand?...BE POSITIVE!!!

@thenarcissistsenemy29

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Well sort of. Match this message with knowledge of narcissistic abuse vs self love deficit and you should find a better view. ✌😎

The thinly veiled accusation that I am the frustrating person at the beginning IS VERY FRUSTRATING.... :)

I've seen like 10 of your videos. I literally think this channel was made for me and I found it at a perfect time. Thank's Brendon.

@CanalDoNuki

6 жыл бұрын

Film Magician I swear that i had never seen someone like him, i think he makes a incredible life change at people

brilliant spin...dealing with frustrating people is about re-aligning YOUR OWN perspective and acknowledge, atone and deal with your own "frustrating" traits. Sometimes WE are the issue not other people.

I really appreciate the fact that Brendon's videos dont have ads at the beginning... that shows true class when it comes to online video IMO. Thank you for setting the example with that Brendon, advertising is the biggest threat to the material on youtube.

@ABo-jr8pg

6 жыл бұрын

Joseph James I think content like his would deserve a little as revenue

@JoseSanchez-bp7xz

5 жыл бұрын

Joseph James I don’t think he has anything to do with the ads that aren’t on any videos. I think youtube decides whether to put them on certain videos.

Wow. Brendon really put me in perspective with this one.. I've been thinking so much of myself with what I'm doing and how I want to be "different" that I've been creating a bad and un-relatable gap between me and others. Time for some change!

@HenryDiesel23

9 жыл бұрын

I See You !! Kyle Gillis

I'm a person who frustrates people mostly because I over-explain. You just clarified why I always feel the need to explain my thought sequence. I always just want people to understand. The people that get frustrated with me about it are the people who just don't want to understand, they just want things to go the way they want them to go. Thank you for another great point, as always. I've yet to hear one "speech" that I don't agree with.

Partly true. I often run into hypocrite junior co- workers, commenting on me now and then as I go about my work. I can't see how to put up with such people by being more patient or in some other passive way.

I told her many times what I needed from her when I shared my day story at work, with people etc was to listen without rescuing, judgements, opinions; just listen. I even had to break down into small bits for her to understand my need but she continued to struggle to listen and reflect without rescuing. We went couple counselling and still didn't work. I left after 9 years!

this was so accurate it brought me tears

this man is absolutely superb. he has reminded me to care. and help people. and brought home some home truths. we all need to be told it straight sometimes. he will and has changed me for now and for rest of my life. such a honest man

Hey man. I'm literally what you described. I have an IQ of 140, and lately I've denounced my friends for doing things that I would never do. I've become more anti-social than ever because I get frustrated with people I used to be around. Your videos help me keep my ego in check.

@rainergeis

8 жыл бұрын

what made you announce your IQ? lmao

@08Stella

8 жыл бұрын

+namdar bleh (namnam528) Wow.. keeping ego in check... someone who is aware of that, is already not operating from the (mindless) Ego Self. Being aware is a great progress. :D Good one! The word is 'asocial' though. It suggests indifference to or separation from society. xxx

@thelastofyou

7 жыл бұрын

namdar bleh Dude, exactly the same here.

Thank you for this. I must admit, I'm usually patient and understanding, but some people seem to operate on a different level and stubbornly don't want to be helped and that tests the patience of a saint. There's caring and then there's tolerating someone at the cost of one's own sanity.

Brendon- Thank you for the reminder that we need to practice humanity. We usually expect the same level of performance from other people, without realizing that their situation might be different from ours. All we need to deal with is with ourselves. Our attitude and expectations. I love all your videos Keep up the great work.

You gave me a lot of good pointers. I wish I had someone give me such good advise a long time ago. Very wise man

i love his expression when he says lets assume you are not the frustrating person !

Wow 😳..! This is an eye opener for especially easily frustrated, hot tempered young woman like me. Man! It's so tough to be constantly frustrated.. I just want peace ✌️ but I think all the worries that built up because of what I've been through from young age of my life lead me get frustrated a lot in many situations. Yes, we all making the best we can... thank you 😊

My current manager has this mentality, where he considers this. I feel so lucky. Normally I get people who don't just forget but don't care. But not my current manager, and it's amazing

I work collections and this opened my eyes not only with coworkers and management but also in my personal life. Thank you

Once again Brendon great advice at the right moment!

Excellent content. You are so right, patience (an attribute of love) is the key to being less frustrated.

Very glad to have found out about you Brendon ! I listen to you everyone morning before planning my day. I deal with people daily and present classes so sometimes you do need to direction. I look forward working on my newest projects for 2016 and continue listening !

Brendon, thank you!

Clarity and guidance is important. All my past managers before this one only ever addressed things once a mistake affects them.

Brandon a personal thank you for this messages. Today I praised God to give me back my good will to do things, in the latest days I was getting idle. For some reason, and I don't know how, I found your video about "successfull people thoughts", I really felt what you said so I opened your profile and clicked on this video, I felt it directed to me. So a deep, deep thank you for doing this for us humanity, we really need someone to remember us certain things which are stored in our heart, but we like to bypass them somehow. Today I finally finished the lyrics of my first song, which maybe I will put on youtube one day. This is what I will do. Music, I am a piano player and composer, and I will to everything it's needed to fullfil my dreams. Thank you so much for your speech, I subscribed, you deserve attention because you really carry the power of Love and Unity, and it's extremely important during this time of passage of human consciousness. If you will need original musics made with heart for your videos, or anything in your life... you know there is a young soul in Rome, Italy, who would be honored to cooperate with you, brother. I wish you the best in your life, much Love and deep Thanks !!! Mario.

It looks like this video is a bit older, and I'm disappointed I didn't find it earlier. I think a lot of us try to remind ourselves that we may have disconnected from others, but we don't do it often enough. This video reminded me at a time when I really needed to find the patience and humility to help others, and do so most productively. Thank you for making this video, and reminding me about perspectives.

So comforting to watch this. I LOVE YOU!

I am so happy that i have time to improve myself by listening to you. Thank you Brandon 😊

Brendon thank you for reminding me what humanity is.i started reading books on these topics and ur videos are definitely a big help for learning to be a better human being and to be the best you can ever be in each moment of your life. And I am learning from all your videos how genuine you are in your words and advise you are giving. Thank you for posting this here and giving everyone the opportunity to gain from your knowledge and to hear what you are saying because I think you are changing not only mine but many peoples lives

I can be calm, cool and collected and toxicity comes my way depending on their aura is how I react as a self defense to protect my own energy. I cleanse because I get drained easily yet proud of my accomplishment of standing up for myself! Proud and dignified not arrogance as IAM kind overall.

@remindernotetoself6382

2 жыл бұрын

12:34

This was amazing, I am speechless. What a beautiful, meaningful talk you've shared in this video, thank you for sharing your insight it really puts things into perspective. God bless

This really hit home. I have to be more understanding & consider other points of view rather than my own. The truth sometimes hurt but is necessary for growth. Thank you for this!🌟

Thanks so much. I learn so much about myself and how to be a better person watching these.

I love it when you say "The charged life" at the end of your videos.

I come from VietNam, my English not good now, but I can understand what you talk... Thank you so much!...I get a lot of useful things! Thanks again!

Again, thank you. In that space where I was brought to learn so much.

I am so grateful for your points in this video. Thank you!

Thank you for the wonderful reminder to simmer down, get centered and be the light. I really appreciate your positive intention and articulate message. Keep up the great work!

You've made me feel happy about being a garbage person as ridiculous as that sounds.. This video has shed a lot of positive light on my outlook and gave me a chance to be able to look at myself reflect, and see that many of the problems I blame on others comes from within. Thank you. Very good stuff

Brendon, Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.

Thanks for the video Brendon this will definitely change the way I deal with people I find frustrating!

Patience and willingness to help. Wonderful! If we would only remember these two things during our day, how different our reality would be.

You just hit the nail on the head,thats sweet Brendon.

Thanks. I needed to hear this because it's all so true.

Thanks Brendon! You made my day! God bless!

You just inspired me on so many levels, I'm nose diving into a frustrating situation and I feel like I can make it through now. This video will be in mind on repeat as I sit in a cell for a number of days. I was recommended to your channel, specifically this video. Brendon I really thank you seriously.

@whitetiger5181

7 жыл бұрын

Marshall Jackson what happened man ?

@marshalljackson3461

7 жыл бұрын

White Tiger I got into legal trouble back 2014, been on probation and I violated it. Now I may goto jail for a few days unless I cough up the money I owe them. It's aggravating, I'm not jail material

Ty! I needed this. I came here dealing with someone who takes things out on me when things aren't going well for them. I'm trying not to take it personal and be supportive. It's a difficult spot to be in and challenging to navigate. 😬🤔😒

Such a powerful message. Thank you!

You are awesome. Thank you for that!

Very clear msg man! The value of what you say can't be missed by people who really have GOOD intentions towards other (and not just them selves.) Good gets paid with good; bad with bad, no matter the reasons.

Amazing!!! And, what about the EGO? is our ego, that is touched by those frustrating( or just complicated) people. When we reach to leave our EGO outside, we keep our connection with humanity, it´s my "I AM" walking with theirs.

One of your best videos, thanks.

your communication is next level

Thank you, I will definitely repeat this video many times, and subscribe!

Thanks so much Brendon, you are so gifted, person.

awesom video...you jst make it so easy to accept the situation and give the inspiration to handle it very confidently and to win it

This is advise that’s slightly off centre, never ever let someone abuse you,or allow them too much room for them to go on destroying you. The best way to help them is walk away and say this isn’t right. Plus you can often tell someone the truth but are they ready to here it. These are the profound questions that this guy is overlooking. It’s not for you to fix people it’s for people to realise all by them selves opps! I need to fix myself.

I enjoy everything you share with us! Thank you!

Interesting concept of putting on "humanity's hat", thanks Brendon! Much love from Bali ❤️

Thanks for THE positive message!

Patients, tolerance, faith,caring,loving,understanding, compassion, merciful, I get it now.♥️😃

Thank you! This is really helpful!

Wow, I needed this

Reeled me in with the title, resonated within and changed my life with your message. I just clicked. Thank you... You are brilliant or should I say Charged.

thank your Brendon for advice very helpful

Thank you Brendon. very meaningful!

Wow Sir you have helped me so much already. Someday i Will have the pleasure to say it to you personally. What an inspiring person

He who tastes the pleasure of good health, surely the bitterness of patience will become easy for him.

Thank you for the great advice. Hopefully this works.

You're AMAZING , I L O V E your way of thinking

Right on! Thank you 🙏

This is a good video for October 2020, Thank you 😊

I came by this video by accident, and i'm so glad that i did !

Thanks God for creating a man like you Brendon..you are very amazing person!!! Thank you so much for enlightened people around the world including me.

This is sooo awesome helpful ! Thanks Brendon

awesome advice , thankyou brendon

Such an awesome vedio. I have been trying hard to become a positve and motivating person, but when I face "stupid" people, I just could not control my anger and frustration. So good to watch this vedio, as Brendon said, always remember that you don't know what other people might have been going through their life, just like sometime myself would behave stupid when I was not thinking straight; make sure what you expect from them is clearly understood by them, our words can be so confusing that what you said may mean quite different from other people's perspecitve; altitude is important, we need to help people, upbuilding their confidence and competence, as that is what we would expect from other people too. Always be centered, be present, be more control of our thinking and response to outside rather than the outside world which we cannot control. Love this vedio, need to practise more from now on. Thank you Brendon.

It's more of a case by case basis. I have found that many people will state up front why they are frustrated and they are easier to work with. Communication is key. The ones that do not state why they are frustrated and act like entitled children need to check their attitude at the door if they want the best outcome or solution to the problem.

This has helped me hate my control freak psychotic mother a little less. For that I'm eternally grateful to you Brendan. Thank you.

Thanks Brendon. Very helpful

Oh my god what a heart that you have!!!!

I go crazy when I'm interrupted again and again while I'm working on an urgent project. I'd love to help everybody but I need my work to be done in time. And sometimes I see people prefer asking for somebody's help to doing something themselves just to make their lives easier. Oh, and there is a colleague who I'd say is brilliant in finding questions which can easily frustrate you. So she will ask you the same question day after day and just watch you going mad. I tried to answer her question as I'd normally do to any other person. But the next day she asks the same question. I explain the situation in other words. The next day she greets you with the same question and you ask yourself whether she has a bad memory or is just kidding you. I tried to leave her question without any answer at all but it didn' t help...

@cornelito

9 жыл бұрын

I think the message is not to agree with everbody's bulshit, but just not to loose control everytime.. so probably the best for you would be just to say this person what really you think about him/her, but calmly ... like: hey, I'm glad you always ask for help, but I answered you this question a lot of times. if you cant understand what I'm saying you should probably ask for somebody else, I have a lot of stuff to do myself and I cant waste my time everyday with this shit .. most probably, this person wont speak to you anymore, but, really, why you need such a person anyway

@rubiurrutia7804

8 жыл бұрын

Tough stuff i think you should really take brendons advice and be clear with ppl,, for instance if someone asks you a question try and respond as best to your ability and politely explain your issue in finishing your project on a dead line and they most likely understand and didnt know how much it really bothered you really were in the fisrt place communication usually fixes things without ever being rude,, just think about how those ppl see you as a go to person and look up to you for resolving an issue and youll probly feel a bit better about it:)

Thank you, awesome video!

Lo de this video, so enlightning thank you so much!

Awesome insight and very thought provoking advice Brendon.

this is so helpfull, thanks a lotttt

I love this.plain and simple

Galatians 5:22-23 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

I need you to talk more and record more videos regarding this topic, please, Brendon

Thanks Brendon

I can't believe, every time you talk about subject that i have in my life in the moment you get your video out ...You are fantastic !!! :D and a real Guru of living :)

Brendon. Since I discovered you, I listened only you in my 45 daily commute

Wow I really admire and appreciate about the subject you are talking about. 👍👍👍

I love this.

lol! I sense some sarcasm. I believe everyone is battling something. Sometimes we just don't place compassion first but selfish motives.

Love this! my outlook... I'm gonna show this to my fiancé... I think it will help him alot