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@saritakamel2497

4 жыл бұрын

I have a problem with my voice It is high.. Always under criticism Sometimes it is annoying to other.. I want change him 😢

@brandonjimenez902

4 жыл бұрын

Communication Coach Alex Lyon any tips on if your told your tone sound like if I’m on coke you don’t know how Frustrating this is especially since I just started a new job and everyone perceives me already asked this I would appreciate if you got any tips

@siddhantnaik7232

3 жыл бұрын

It's great to listen you sir but if we have to contact you ,what we should do can you give us your email id or anything something? It might helpful for your followers , they goona share your problems with you.

Love how you link tone and mindset together, that's incredibly true and valuable

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Oh, thanks. It's an important conversation to have and it connects to so much of our growth and maturity.

I am trying to sound warm and gentle, people think that I am sick or tired ))) LOL

@alexandraade576

3 жыл бұрын

same hahaha

@jackievang1906

3 жыл бұрын

Lol tell me about it I got a deep voice which sound like I tired too 😭

@dhatchayanim

2 жыл бұрын

For me ppl think I'm arrogant and rude 😭 no where it's working and only hatred

@Blessedibe86

2 жыл бұрын

😂

@Cocoginger100

2 жыл бұрын

😁😁😁

LMAO i thought “everyone around me is stupid” “the world is stupid”

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Revealing! Thanks for sharing, Sax and Relax.

@lexgervin6880

3 жыл бұрын

😭 Glad I’m not alone... Explains why my tone is such 🤣🤣 This is an awesome video

@whatsgoingon6256

3 жыл бұрын

I think the same (most people are stupid),... but my tone is respectful to people I value Anything less is EMOTIONAL ABUSE

@IdontWatchIsee

3 жыл бұрын

Omg, now i realize why some people have that arrogant tone i hate :)

@morgantownkiosk

3 жыл бұрын

The people around me are ignorant the world is full of lies. The truth is out there it is something you must seek. I really need this video because now that I know this I have to change the way I feel about it.

Wow! I wasn’t expecting this when I clicked on this. This was great. I sound just like my mother and I hate it. Because she always spoke in a negative, judgmental, Debbie downer type of way. I’ve picked up poor social skills and it makes it hard for people to understand where I am coming from. I’ve been since trying to consciously be aware of how I’m talking or expressing my feelings to people without coming off “fake”. Thank you.

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad the video was helpful. Good luck with it!

@rhrhdrhrehehh9006

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@jayanthr8762

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@peanutbutterpancakes7

3 жыл бұрын

Omg I thought I was the only one who struggled with this

@freethinker3083

Жыл бұрын

@@peanutbutterpancakes7 You are not alone!

I’ve been struggling to change my tone of voice, but watching your video makes me believe it’s still possible to change my tone of voice. This was such great self help video! I’ll do my best to follow your 3 steps. Really glad I stumbled upon this.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Great. I hope it helps.

It’s a conscious choice. Tone can be either a reflection of your true emotions or a projection of a vision and mission. I’m a bilingual speaker. Tone varies depending if you speak your own mother tongue or secondary language, for work or social, under pressure/urgent situation etc. Tone carries your attitude. Be mindful especially now we work from home and engage more virtually.

This is so true and useful. I've been noticing over the years that my tone comes from my mindset, and I've been trying to be conscious of attitudes and habits that I carry with me in orden to try to change the way I talk. This video is so true.

I have some mental issues and often I hear that I sound like a robot or flat, and I am so thankful I found your channel! This will help me so much!

This topic has been formulated with great mindset and great habit. More power to you Coach Alex

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Paul. Glad it was helpful.

Wow..!! Lessons for lifetime. And these points are applicable to everything whether you are a leader, speaker, actor, singer. Thanks for this amazing video.

This is interesting. I am generally anxious and excited and my voice is high and unsteady. I know my breath will help I need to take my meditation presence into social situations. This isn’t going to be easy but it’s time. Thanks 🙏🏽

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you have a direction to go in now. It's not easy. You're right about that. It's darn hard, in fact. But, over time, we can make improvements.

I work in sales and my coworkers have told me that I sound like I’m a cold/mean person. Sometimes I’ll sound sad/depressed, but the truth is I’m actually a really nice guy and I’m very positive. Thank you for this content 🙏, it helped me with my tone, I sound more confident, my words are strong and I sound like an expert.

@KomotsukiDZoro

Жыл бұрын

I used to have the same problem too! When I was younger I came across as tooooo intense, even though I was just trying to be normal. I resolved the issue by consciously speaking softer, and I've never received that critique since. The solution is always conscious actions : )

I've been looking for this all my life! Thank you very much!

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad it is helpful for you.

Thanks! I'll practice this advice because, I have a big problem with my family specially with my husband & son they always give me a comment but I know if i'm not a good mood & stress out it comes that voice I'll try to fix it.

Thanks to your videos I just realized that why others have issues with my tone. Whenever I am in a conflict my tone becomes authoritative and sound angry and rude to others. I didn't understand why it was happening when clearly it was not my intention. But now I realised it comes from fear and need to protect myself so no one can overpower me. Thank you so much. I will try to be mindful and try to think before speaking the way I speak.😊

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. Others will benefit from reading your post.

@j.r.nvision-imagination77

2 ай бұрын

I can relate with you on this. Thanks for sharing

This is an amazing video, Alex. Thank you for sharing. It is essentially taking it back to basics and I myself have noticed how mindset can change projection. Your company and environment will literally define who you are... And thank you for noting that it takes time to implement these changes. This helped me a lot. Keep it up!

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

So happy I came across this video. It helped me see I’m on the right track. I looked up the topic as a part of my morning mindfulness practice. It helped me get to the roots of my tone in conversations

Thank you so much sir I consider what is my fault and why am I not speaking English correctly and Now I check what is going on in my mind thank you so much for your videos ❤

I love your channel! I'm a neurolanguage coach for English learning and your videos are very helpful to improve my students' communication in a holistic way.

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome. Pleased to meet you and thanks for the encouragement.

Thank you, coach Alexander.

You are truly God sent. I listened to many on this topic. No one identified the real issue like you did. You hit the nail on the head for me in this vid. Thank you so much.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad it helped!

Thank you for your good counsel wherein you have highlighted some of the basic factors that influence verbal expression; especially appreciated how in your video that you literally practiced your own advice.

Wow, this is deep Alex! So many things that you said made me remember certain situations in my life. For example, I have a friend who takes part in discussions by always asking great questions. Sometimes he even sounds a bit like a psychologist just to give you an idea. I really look up to him in this regards because I am often not calm enough in the inside to hold off my own opinions long enough to have these kinds of conversations as well. After all I really enjoy listening and learning from others this way. :) Cheers, Nico

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Hi, Nico. Great to see your comment on here. Love your Morningfame tools! Just read your reply email, too. Thank you for your encouragement.

@Morningfame

4 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Thanks a lot Alex! Absolutely my pleasure. Your content really intrigued me at first glance so I had to take a closer look. :) Keep up the great work!

This gave me a whole new world of how to socialize. Thanks.

Thanks sir because of you I am helped out I don't know the problem with me but every body told me that you are like this n that I would always be very concerned I thank you from the bottom of my heart may God bless you

I appreciate the way you explained the things that effect the tone of voice. I had been feeling tense from bad memories. Sensations would just come up anytime something reminds of the past. My heart would start beating fast, and I would feel defensive. Before I know it, my tone has changed; I'm still saying the same words that I would normally say... but the tone carried my message in another direction, and I would be perceived as blunt or harsh sometimes. I think I had gotten so used to texting or writing straightforward messages, and maybe I could be partially speaking how I type as well. I was disappointed in the direction some of my conversations would go because I didn't understand what I said wrong. Edit:TONE truly is key, and I realized that my head has to be in the right place for deeper talks so my tone of voices gives the right message. I am very glad to have a new perspective on the mindset I need to be in to carry on a pleasant conversation. Thank you.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so encouraged that the video is helpful for you!

Thank you!! Very helpful.

wow bro i really thank to you a lot. when i'm alone or with my friend i always have sweet kind calm tone. they always saying to me you're kind and wise. but when i;m in home or in community my tone is awful! cause i really don't like my family(their tone, how they are unreasonable, all of them are aggressive with no respect and horribly expecting me love them, saying nothing about their bad treats and how they are bad ) or most of the people. and i knew that is the reason of my bad tone. i'm happy you talked about it.

I have found your videos incredibly useful. Please know your work is appreciated and valued. Thank you!

This is the video exactly I was looking for.

I think this was the video I was looking for. You really honed in on what my problem is. My view of the world around me is impacting my otherwise happy and fulfilling life and marriage.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found it to be helpful. I hope your efforts pay off.

Thank you, god bless

I love this. I needed this a lot. Thank you.

Thanks a lot I never thought that tone can be connected with mindset 🤗🤗

I love this guy. Where have you been all my life

This is a great video! You covered a lot of important points in a few, short minutes. You connected a lot of dots and gave people actionable steps forward.

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

You have really provided some great insights that are really helpful for more effective and postive communication.

the first point is so accurate

No matter when, I must locate the velvety deep relaxed vocal tone I had when I was nine. I founded Geffen Records through my beautiful voice, back then, Dave was in love with my voice. I want it back. And enriching those higher abilities to be non-shrill ever, yet crystalline with the shimmer of bells in the fog!

Great Content Thank You Coach Habits Mindset

This was a whole life coaching session in the framework of tone and communication. Lol. Laughing, but I'm serious! God bless you!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it, Sheena. I would say that you are not wrong. Most tutorials I've seen treat tone a bit superficially but there are some deeper things going on that drive it all.

The Problem here in this video is "Self-awareness". And that's my problem. Im just not aware of what i actually doing while people around me aware of it. - My emotion: when im not angry but my face looks like im angry. sometimes people say why im smiling when i dont really smile. - My voice: sometimes i raise my voice in the middle of conversation without knowing it myself. These things become somewhat i cannot control. what a shame!

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Self awareness is the key. I hope you are able to reflect on what exactly is going on in your mindset in those moments. It might be just a slight change in how you feel that is leading to those nonverbals you describe.

Thanks for the great videos Alex. Very helpful.

So Helpful, that’s an issue I have constantly

Thank you Coach Alex, I really need this. At work my tone seems to come off as irreverent and I have been trying to fix it. I really hope this helps

Thank you for this! I think it is also useful to have someone specific to model yourself on. Any suggestions/examples from our culture, past or present, whose tone of voice is worth striving for?

Thank you so much for this video Coach Alex. Currently in college what I have realized after many years is that my tone of voice comes off angry and upset all the time. I was super outgoing and friendly but would always find myself being labeled as rude or mean even though I didn’t say things that were such. People would tell me to relax even though I was or would be coming at me when I was just trying to have regular convo. I would be so confused, fell into depression and it’s affected me deeply. I guess what I’m trying to ask is with depression it is very hard to change my mindset, so how can I work more on my tone if my mindset will be changing at a slower pace?

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Most mental health counseling helps if people stick with it. I obviously am not a medical professional but I have read that depression is not a life-long sentence and therapy works. If I were in your situation, I'd start by talking to a therapist.

@farwajaved6814

Жыл бұрын

I am also tired... I become rude when am stressed and I even don't say things that could hurt but my accent is rude unknowingly..what to do

Great psychological tonal expression & observation noticed

Struggling a lot about the way I speak more specifically tone of my voice. 100% of the time I don’t mean to be rude or disrespectful but it’s just my voice people always misunderstood me. Gotta work it. This is really helpful Alex!

How insightful...... but probably emotionally deeper than many individuals want to go to make this change. Not what I was expecting, but exactly what I needed. Thank you!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Happy it was helpful, Terry.

Excellent information, thank you! I definitely need to be more mindful of my tone and attitude. I often find myself myself apologizing to people saying, "I didn't mean that the way it sounded..." I know that being more mindful will help dial down my big emotional responses. (Fingers crossed!!)

Amazing video with eye-opening insights! I realized what I need to change thanks to you

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful so quickly. I hope it goes well.

Never thought about habits but wow... so true actually!! Thank you so much for affirming that Alex.

This is so valuable, thank you!

This make sense, thank you!

Love this. Very important for anyone wishing to become a journalist.

Thanks Mr. Lyon, you are a Lion

Mind blown ! Thanks so much for this video . I’ve been told numerous times about my tone until now the pieces of the puzzles are connecting . Appreciate your work .

@alexanderlyon

6 ай бұрын

Glad it helped.

I can relate to what you are saying. In order words, one has to do a lot of thinking before speaking. I grew up with a quarrelling aunt. I feel some of it has affected me in the anger department.

Thank you sir

thanks a million!!

I can't believe I hadn't found THIS one by now, brother. Awesome advice. Real-world application. Very usable. God bless!!

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I appreciate that. And I'm glad it's practical for you.

And this advice is free! Wow bless you!

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Massa. Bless you, too!

I have gotten into the habit of saying everything with a subtle insinuation of irony so much so that I have unintentionally offended people while trying to complement them. It’s not a problem when someone knows me and learns I’m a generally kind caring person. But with insecure strangers it can cause conflicts to erupt out of nowhere.

Yes a lot of people misunderstand me saying things and think I am mean when I say it. Or when I ask them a question.

This was super helpful man, thank you! God Bless your soul.

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Raul. God bless you too.

Really much helpful on how we can fix our communication issues.its not really easy it's very challenging as Weare trying to change our regular habit and what this coach said are the helping aid on how we can change ourselves that's what I see.

LOVE YOU YOU HELPEDME!!!

Great explanation, smart man 👨 🙋‍♀️

This is very enlightening. Thank you. I needed that. 🙌🏼

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

very valuable insights, thank you

Fantastic video! Useful both for understanding myself and others. Thank you, Alex!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Its true! Really works.

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome! I'm happy it was helpful, Albert.

Wow, awesome thanks for this teaching

Thank you coach you really helped, bless you!

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Thank you! I am starting to realise why I have a bad tone

The best video, deep, love to hear more on this topic., like right tone for any emotion? Some example maybe

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Great suggestion!

Thanks for the awareness, the first step towards change.

@alexanderlyon

7 ай бұрын

Yes, and then be patient with yourself. Changing our tone is a long-term process.

Great video! Thank you!

Such a helpful video.thank you.

Thank you

I've been valuing your videos and guidance a great deal. Thank you for providing the skills and inviting the introspection...

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad to help, J H.

Alex Lyon! You are Brilliant) Thank you SOOOO MUCH! This video has changed my LIFE!

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome, Muyassar. Happy to help.

I speak softly and people often say I'm very soft spoken. While I was doing practice teaching as an early childhood educator, my mentor mentioned that I have to change my tone by putting energy. I have no idea how to even do that.

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

If I were you, I'd work mostly on speaking a bit more loudly. Usually, an increase in volume will also provide your tone more variety and energy.

Great video! Glad to come across your great advice. I'm going to try this. Thanks so much!

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful, Mary.

@MLQV20

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Thank you so much for such a helpful video

I have a light and calm mindset and it's true my voice is also kinda light but when my mood goes down and my voice gets deeper and indifferent

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Ah, great insight!

Been looking for something like this for ages! Thank you

@alexanderlyon

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help and I'm glad you found the channel.

It's was a nice video. I appreciated ❤

Alex, you are very wise!!!

I am trying to sound gentle and soften my voice but my friends and classmates told me that i was angry😂

@rahulsrivastava3234

3 жыл бұрын

Then I guess you should focus on your melody part

@DWhitney34436

3 жыл бұрын

Same.... And I have resting b**** face so that doesn't help me either 🤦🏻‍♀️

@ms.mayfield3245

3 жыл бұрын

Right? I sound like I am speaking in ALL CAPS. 😅

@Unicorn-up3gn

2 жыл бұрын

@@DWhitney34436 Same! People misunderstood me most of the time

@adithyanramachandran3936

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.. 😢😢

Thanx man!

As a parent I needed this video so much! I have a 10yr old with Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder. It causes a super exaggerated fight or flight response to things that most people would not be affected by. For a very long time she would get more and more upset during situations she was in trouble because she felt I was yelling at her. I wasn’t and as she got older she was able to communicate it’s my tone. More specifically it’s my frustrated tone. Before all the haters start in, her brain is wired in a way that won’t change as quickly as I can change my tone. She is neurodiverse in other aspects too. After this video diving deeper, I think it’s also the way I emphasize my sentences. Can’t wait to watch the next video “How to change tone of voice”

@alexanderlyon

10 ай бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful, Sarah.

Hi Dr. Lyon thank you for these videos as I’ve watched them a few times now and didn’t understand really my tone and what it does and causes during a situation. I personally think for me my tone comes from my parents like you stated some may get theirs from. Especially my mom. And I not saying she was a bad mother she’s the best, but I do know that the way I speak and come off does come from habits of hers. I got into an argument just recently with my gf and we have been having these issues before and she always brings up my tone and how it makes me sound negative or come off as negative and upset. I really don’t know I’m doing it half the time and I don’t always catch it and by the time I do like this time it’s sometimes to late and now we have had an argument or I’ve become to defensive on my own during the convo and I’m not really listening to what she’s saying because now I think she’s being hurtful to me because it’s not how I’m trying to come off but I feel now im already matters worse. Do you have any advice for me on what I can do moving forward with how to recognize triggers and what to do when they arise so that I can better recognize myself to avoid my tone coming off strong or even to have a healthier convo without sounding negative?

Hi Alex, You said such right things about mindset and habits. Congrats from Italy!

@alexanderlyon

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, thank you from New York state.

Just subscribed. I like your videos! It’s actually very very helpful. Your my mentor !!!

@alexanderlyon

4 жыл бұрын

Nice to meet you!

This advise is outstanding! 💯 agree with everything said here and will put it to practice.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Right on!

Thank you so much for the amazing video.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

So nice of you. Thanks!

Very nice and real tips thankyou so much

Now I understand that the reason behind my deep slow heavy and monotonous voice...because that's how I see the world most of the times... I'm positive only when I'm preaching others but somewhere in my heart i don't follow those preaches myself. And trying to talk to someone like honey just for a particular point of time doesn't impress them... I need to change my overall perspective towards people and the world