How to break social media addiction and actually start living

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00:00 We're addicted to our phones
01:10 Figuring out whether you have a phone addiction
03:53 The reason you’re addicted to your phone
05:42 day 1- bringing awareness
06:00 day2-swapping old habits
08:59 day3-environmental change
10:42 day4- turn off notifications
11:31 day5- try mindfulness
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  • @markmushyguy
    @markmushyguy Жыл бұрын

    Y'all it's 2023. I'm addicted to my phone and I honestly feel like I'm missing out on life. We gotta get our lives back. Let's get our lives back

  • @arabaricann

    @arabaricann

    Жыл бұрын

    agree

  • @thomasmaherault4156

    @thomasmaherault4156

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes!

  • @eliskadvorakova1717

    @eliskadvorakova1717

    Жыл бұрын

    I am with u on this one... had a huge realization about today ago :D. I think I knew for a while, it just didn't dawn on me how bit of an issue this is.

  • @GloriousGrunt

    @GloriousGrunt

    Жыл бұрын

    you are missing out, throw it in a lake and go camping for a week

  • @markmushyguy

    @markmushyguy

    Жыл бұрын

    @@eliskadvorakova1717 I'm 25 in America with no friends. I use my phone and video games electronics in a way to hide or numb the pain of loneliness. But being addicted to rhese devices aren't making it any better

  • @seabbird
    @seabbird Жыл бұрын

    I love how honest you are. you aren’t trying to demean others like some KZreadrs do. instead of shaming people for being on their phones, you say like “hell yeah, I do it too!” and I love that.

  • @toonyandfriends1915

    @toonyandfriends1915

    Жыл бұрын

    @Barthoven lmfao

  • @dookey6099

    @dookey6099

    Жыл бұрын

    Hamza has entered the chat

  • @Stella-cf4cl

    @Stella-cf4cl

    Жыл бұрын

    what youtubers are you talking about? most of them doing these videos are struggling with the same issue, hence why they do the video.

  • @okami425

    @okami425

    Жыл бұрын

    shame isn't a bad thing. Its a tool, to my knowledge, used to help society. It's a bad thing the only shameful thing nowadays is to shame someone else. Not all behaviors, actions, habits, or beliefs are good or should be done and being social creatures some of us won't change those without society doing something like shaming us for it. We don't like the shame and embarrassment from our community so we go and change said behavior hopefully for a more healthy behavior or habit that is more accepted amongst our peers and community.

  • @satellitestar6734

    @satellitestar6734

    Жыл бұрын

    @@okami425 yeah I can see what you’re coming from and sometimes it works, but other times people see being shamed as an attack in a way and it just makes them conform to their bad behaviors more

  • @lizibeff
    @lizibeff Жыл бұрын

    I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳

  • @riaa_xi

    @riaa_xi

    Жыл бұрын

    Good luck in trying to battle a reading addiction in the new year 2024 lol. - A humble reader

  • @lastseenontuesday6040

    @lastseenontuesday6040

    Жыл бұрын

    @@riaa_xi lol but i would prefer a reading addiction to a social media app addiction.

  • @thomasmaherault4156

    @thomasmaherault4156

    Жыл бұрын

    I am using an app called Jomo to do just this! It blocks KZread on my phone until I manually complete an habit (right now, it's "reading something" but i change it from time to time). Ofc, I can have cheat days but the most important is that the app always brings me back to my commitment day after day 🤣

  • @chocoholicbeverage

    @chocoholicbeverage

    Жыл бұрын

    yoooo same! i've been doing the same recently

  • @sukmibools

    @sukmibools

    Жыл бұрын

    i am doing it since one year, enjoyyy

  • @miaangeline9526
    @miaangeline9526 Жыл бұрын

    Personally I think it can just be the phone itself and not even social media. I deleted socials, all of them, and found myself scrolling on news sites, the weather, music, my notes, pictures, etc. As soon as I deleted a problem app I’d have another problem app without even realizing until I checked my weekly screentime. Worst part is, I’m very antisocial. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls, for near weeks at a time. I just, get stuck in the comfort of doing nothing. Phone addiction is something that for people like me, a very serious problem that can only be fixed by completely removing the phone. Unfortunately that causes issues like not being able to bank, check in at the gym, clock in at work, etc. They’re just everything nowadays. I wish that employers and other people were more open to those who want to use flip phones but that’s just not an option for me. Hopefully with the help of therapy and treating some of my other mental health issues, my phone addiction will improve but damn, it is an awful thing humanity has created.

  • @Lol-tr6cu

    @Lol-tr6cu

    Жыл бұрын

    im sure theres apps where you can limit time on your phone in general, maybe try that ❤️ and find something a lot more exciting than scrolling through news articles

  • @miaangeline9526

    @miaangeline9526

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Lol-tr6cu yes! I have used a few apps, and gone away from the news. 😂 I went from 5 hours a day to 1.5 , but I still feel like that’s just too much now that I’ve realized how awful it is. Thank you for the tips! Haha

  • @ABC-gt4rd

    @ABC-gt4rd

    Жыл бұрын

    @@miaangeline9526 Wow. That's great!

  • @someundeadtalent2016

    @someundeadtalent2016

    Жыл бұрын

    Omg I relate so much to this. I deleted Instagramme because I was going through reels hours at a time. Then started that same thing with KZread (I hate shorts with a passion). I stopped doing that and instead at least consumed Essay videos that are interesting, and podcasts to inform myself while doing something else in the mean time. At least I’m sort of productive now. But at work I read news when at break or rearrange my to dos…it’s so odd, I’d love a flip phone but I just know a lot of people hate SMS and calling, and I still need maps and safari on the go ://

  • @someundeadtalent2016

    @someundeadtalent2016

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Lol-tr6cu the thing is..when you got mental health issues it can cause you losing interest in your hobbies and what you would usually like to do. It’s so annoying.

  • @AnikiXoXo
    @AnikiXoXo Жыл бұрын

    I think phones aren't addictive i think the apps which are in it are addictive if you agree....

  • @user-yk6dt6gt2n

    @user-yk6dt6gt2n

    Жыл бұрын

    What is the difference? The phone is about Apps :)

  • @user-vh6te

    @user-vh6te

    Жыл бұрын

    KZread , games , Instagram

  • @AnikiXoXo

    @AnikiXoXo

    Жыл бұрын

    @@user-yk6dt6gt2n Not much difference i jst wanted to highlight the root cause....

  • @ELCNUmorFnaMehT

    @ELCNUmorFnaMehT

    Жыл бұрын

    Same difference

  • @Proxz

    @Proxz

    Жыл бұрын

    @@user-yk6dt6gt2n a phone isnt an app

  • @TheGabygael
    @TheGabygael Жыл бұрын

    I've gotten to the point where I hate being on KZread because I see nothing that interests me, everything bored me but I stay there because I feel obliged to do so because it's what I'm used/supposed to (be) doing at this point of the day. And that feeling gets mixed up with the whole "I'm too tired to do anything right now so I'll just binge watch KZread ad nauseam until I go to bed early and tomorrow I'll be more rested" spoiler alert: I never feel rested the day after because I couldn't sleep until 3am

  • @76kalsangybhutia99

    @76kalsangybhutia99

    Жыл бұрын

    I relate to this so much. I’ve been going through this too.

  • @benicetopeople246

    @benicetopeople246

    Жыл бұрын

    @ Gabriel Hanssens I have the same problem. Most of my days i spend on KZread. Maybe we can be accountability Partners?

  • @blueclouds5509

    @blueclouds5509

    Жыл бұрын

    So relatable and honestly it’s a really vicious cycle.

  • @user-zx7jt8wo1m

    @user-zx7jt8wo1m

    Жыл бұрын

    but you can also use KZread study🥰

  • @levart97

    @levart97

    Жыл бұрын

    Tutorial videos is good.

  • @yatsumura7
    @yatsumura7 Жыл бұрын

    I love the fact that you recognize, that people not only want to break their phone addiction to be more productive and do work. Sometimes what we miss because of shitty scrolling entertainment is actually good entertainment such as books or movies

  • @youdontknowwhoiam1243

    @youdontknowwhoiam1243

    Жыл бұрын

    Hei i wanted to ask you something. This is my day 1 no phone. But why im still depressed?

  • @Levi-7777

    @Levi-7777

    Жыл бұрын

    @@youdontknowwhoiam1243 You cannot expect Your brain to recover from years of addictions in just one day

  • @iluvcatz6905

    @iluvcatz6905

    Жыл бұрын

    @@youdontknowwhoiam1243 it will take a lot longer than that love 😭give it a few months and you'll feel a lot better

  • @dereidgenosse7273
    @dereidgenosse7273 Жыл бұрын

    1. bring awareness (knowing how much screen time etc.) 2. swapping old habits (for example change your lock screen to remind you of your goals + read more books) 3. environmental change (not charging your phone in your bedroom, don't have it next to your bed) 4. turn off notifications 5. try mindfulness

  • @urhotmom186

    @urhotmom186

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @0nowyousawmyusername.348

    @0nowyousawmyusername.348

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @wisperiahysteria
    @wisperiahysteria Жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.

  • @mrbard1

    @mrbard1

    Жыл бұрын

    Youre young. You will have many addictions growing older, and you will have to break your heart limiting them. We all go through it.

  • @wisperiahysteria

    @wisperiahysteria

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mrbard1 thank you that's insightful

  • @spygoth6442

    @spygoth6442

    Жыл бұрын

    You can do it! I believe in you! Now don't reply to my comment and go do something that makes you happy. 😌 All jokes aside, you aren't at fault for being addicted. Many apps were literally designed to be addictive, a lot of the content on them - to be addictive especially to children. You shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead the makers of the content & apps who are even willing to stoop so low to target kids. They designed the apps to have this effect on you, you weren't "weak" or "stupid" to get addicted to them. Most people would get addicted. Maybe the only ones that wouldn't are old people who aren't willing to use phones. But even then I know elderly people who use phones a lot. So you shouldn't be blaming yourself, but instead you should be the one to help yourself get rid of that addiction. As I said earlier, I know you can do it and I believe in you! It might take time, but do it to make yourself happier. I know this is a random comment & it might seem so strange that it's so personal, but I hope I can help. :c

  • @khalilahd.
    @khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

    This is definitely something I want to change next year I absolutely hate how much time I spend on my phone and will definitely be using these tips to improve my addiction 🙏🏽

  • @ElClipster

    @ElClipster

    Жыл бұрын

    Why next year, just start now

  • @iamajustababa2000s

    @iamajustababa2000s

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ElClipster true

  • @odysseasenespanol

    @odysseasenespanol

    Жыл бұрын

    I think one of my problems is I don't hate it I enjoy watching tiktoks, it's a way for me to get a laugh turn my brain off and stay up to date with the latest slang/trends Will definitely swap that for reading a book before bed, just gotta find a book lol

  • @unsigned_var

    @unsigned_var

    Жыл бұрын

    @@odysseasenespanol It's fine if it's an hour ever now and then, but if you're spending 7-8 hours/day brainlessly scrolling on tik-tok, that's when it has become a problem. I am kind of in this situation right now, but I am starting to recover from it.

  • @odysseasenespanol

    @odysseasenespanol

    Жыл бұрын

    @@unsigned_var ​ It's about 1-3 hours right now which honestly i was surprised it's this low... I've been going through a really rough time lately and it helps a lot to keep the dark thoughts away

  • @tamocrimp
    @tamocrimp10 ай бұрын

    anyone else been trying to stop for YEARS. i’ve been successful for weeks and months, but it slowly creeps back in.

  • @wockyslush666

    @wockyslush666

    3 ай бұрын

    Same here. I used to smoke cigarettes and this is WAY harder to quit. I always redownload. It’s making me depressed.

  • @paigerawlinson
    @paigerawlinson Жыл бұрын

    I was so addicted to twitter, until I decided waking up with anxiety over an app is just not worth it. You really don't realize how much time you have to do better things until you distance yourself from social media. I hope to stick to it with other social medias!

  • @Serotonin22003

    @Serotonin22003

    9 ай бұрын

    Twitter is the most toxic thing ,it can lead anyone to depression and anxiety 😢

  • @starpaw2000
    @starpaw2000 Жыл бұрын

    A tip for people, if you like art or writing, carry a sketchbook around with you. Instead of going on your phone, draw something. If you still want to go on social media, find things you actually enjoy and give yourself 30 mins-1hr of it a day, (you can use screen time on your phone).

  • @BlaxicanBeautyTV333

    @BlaxicanBeautyTV333

    Жыл бұрын

    I really like this idea

  • @nevel-luna5070

    @nevel-luna5070

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this

  • @mckenzieeliza

    @mckenzieeliza

    Жыл бұрын

    I have an Instagram addiction. I don’t mind going on my iPad to read, to write or draw, but the endless Instagram consumption is driving me mad. Any advice on what to do? Aside from just deleting the app altogether? I think the only things keeping me on there is wanting to get news on things I'm interested in (so for example, Disney, what movies they're bringing out, what new products they have) also sometimes I get inspiration for things, but honestly that is RARE, and lastly there are maybe like 2 or 3 online friends I speak to, one of whom I'd like to be sure I stay in touch with.

  • @starpaw2000

    @starpaw2000

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mckenzieeliza You could give yourself 30 mins a day and put a screen time limit on it? You can also pick a time (lets say after work/school) and then go on it for 20-30 minutes, and be like "hey! That's enough for today". I'm not sure if this is helpful, but good luck!

  • @333.artemis
    @333.artemis Жыл бұрын

    Deleting tiktok was the best decision I’ve made in 2022, maybe even the best decision ever

  • @RobotDude375

    @RobotDude375

    6 күн бұрын

    I thought it was for me too. And then every other form of social media added short form content.

  • @333.artemis

    @333.artemis

    6 күн бұрын

    @@RobotDude375 yeah I completely relate :(

  • @David-hf2pf
    @David-hf2pf Жыл бұрын

    Something that I think might also be useful is to have a "commonplace notebook". I always find myself opening my phone and either forgetting what I was supposed to do or getting distracted just like the spotify example you gave lol. Using a commonplace notebook helped me a lot because there's nothing that could possibly distract me if all I needed to do is capture a thought or list something down. I think debloating my phone and switching to browser versions of apps also helped because I only check when I think I need to instead of whenever a notification pops up.

  • @hnnhml

    @hnnhml

    Жыл бұрын

    Thats a really smart idea!

  • @selina8435

    @selina8435

    Жыл бұрын

    what do you fill your notebook with? i feel like this is a simple solution but i just wouldn’t know what to write in it

  • @David-hf2pf

    @David-hf2pf

    Жыл бұрын

    @@selina8435 I pretty much use it as a notebook, sketchbook, bullet journal, scratch paper all in one place haha. you could put a to-do list, write down all the things you are grateful for, write a journal entry, draw something, list down the songs you want to learn on guitar, your goals for the day, take note of some motivational quote that you heard recently, grocery list, write down the things you need to for the character you're levelling up, anything really. Also my common place notebook has removeable pages so I can easily remove the pages I used as scratch paper, rearrange pages however I like, and refill it with newer pages. I hope this helps :)

  • @raph2061

    @raph2061

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh yes i have a notebook since 3 months now and it really helped me a lot ! I write whatever goes through my head in it, like vacations plans, chores for the next day, but i also really like to take notes from interesting videos like this one. It helped me a lot to be more aware of what I'm doing and what i want to do.

  • @tydejakemp309
    @tydejakemp309 Жыл бұрын

    i’m still working on my phone addiction. my first step was deleting tik tok and HOLY SHIT i feel so much better already.

  • @mocolaj
    @mocolaj Жыл бұрын

    my phone addiction has made my attention span so short. i literally can't focus on stuff for long and i literally get so bored easily. i feel like i don't have any real interests anymore cause of the overindulgence of media i take in daily. last week i literally had a total of 65 hours per week. i need to change.

  • @madmafia8242
    @madmafia8242 Жыл бұрын

    "you're connected but alone" Hits hard

  • @thetorontogirl
    @thetorontogirl Жыл бұрын

    I'm working on my addiction. It's not the phone but it's definitely the apps that are at fault. They are literally designed to have our attention. I quit Instagram earlee this year but youtube has definitely been pretty hard. I think because of the pandemic people have become less social for obvious reasons but it would be something easier to overcome if EVERYONE as a collective would work on their addictions. You might be working hard to change but when you start seeing those around you are actually where you were a month ago, it's hard to make new friends or have a genuine conversation now. Everyone is in their phones. I remember a time when there were no apps. It was indeed an amazing time.

  • @middsummer

    @middsummer

    Жыл бұрын

    Damn john chill- though you 100% have a point here, both of you do. Social media IS designed to be addictive (like how tf is short form scrollable content about mind less things that dont even 'exist' or function the same in the real world healthy ؟؟؟؟) BUT at the same time any app can be used for good ex: yt i mean theres so many stuff you can learn here lol from cooking to making a car engine from houshold stuff haha. I think ya really need to look a little further into how drugs affect the brain and addiction develope, you will see that it is pretty similar to drugs in a way, but obviously not something like meth lamo more like vapes ect they are still shit for you but not impossible to quit if you put your mind to it! Anyways happy new year!

  • @thetorontogirl

    @thetorontogirl

    Жыл бұрын

    @John Klein Okay Karen. kzread.info/dash/bejne/m4Coj9umiLHMXdo.html

  • @Lol-tr6cu

    @Lol-tr6cu

    Жыл бұрын

    @John Klein i can tell youre some millennial who thinks they know everything 🤮

  • @belf16

    @belf16

    Жыл бұрын

    I don’t agree with the person above basically placing 100% of the blame on you since apps *are* designed to be addictive and we’ve also been conditioned to spend lots of time in our phones. However, I don’t understand why that would inhibit you from making friends. People aren’t always on their phone and everyone (or pretty much everyone) actually has hobbies and real life interests too, so you should be able to connect with people regardless, even if you can’t post them on your Instagram stories. I think you’re blaming social media for something that you actually do have control over.

  • @thetorontogirl

    @thetorontogirl

    Жыл бұрын

    @@belf16 Because how are you supposed to start a conversation when people have their noses buried in their phones? As a mom, it's even harder because I know why they do it so it's virtually impossible to make friends these days.

  • @user-qz3xv7hn5t
    @user-qz3xv7hn5t Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video! I'm a 19 years old guy from Kazakhstan (near with Russia), and I have a phone addiction too. It's so bad, cause last 2 years I feel how my life pointless passes. It was a 2 week since I deleted most of my social network apps, unless messengers for a talking with my homies and family. Also, I've finally started learn english language with serials and videos like this, so sorry if I writed something wrong or not correct. Hope all of us can deal with this addiction together!

  • @minanasimi7513

    @minanasimi7513

    Жыл бұрын

    Удачи! Я верю в тебя

  • @AWESOME-fj5os

    @AWESOME-fj5os

    Жыл бұрын

    That's so inspiring! Your English is really good

  • @caramelese8520

    @caramelese8520

    Жыл бұрын

    Your English is good 👍👍. The only mistake you made is past of write is "wrote" and you typed "writed"

  • @human_70

    @human_70

    Жыл бұрын

    Сериалы на английском будут series, а не serials, buddy. :)

  • @imbeinganerd

    @imbeinganerd

    Жыл бұрын

    cool keep it up 🇹🇷❤️🇰🇿

  • @myysoul
    @myysoul Жыл бұрын

    Thank you. I recently realized that all my problems I have (Sleep problems, School problems , emotional problems etc.). That all comes from social media. I always thought that social media would help me out and it only satisfied me, it made me feel like im in a different world. But actually all this started because of social media. I don't have many online friends (2) , I have more rl friends and I'm proud of that. But still hearing how one of my friend is on her phone for only 1 hour a day makes me think if I should try that too. And I will. I want to. I want to make my dreams come true. I only played them in my head and I always said to my self "I'm going to start tomorrow" and did I do it ? No. I was on social media. I want to change that. I have a love for books and I have soooo many that I want to read but I always get distracted by my phone. I want to make my dreams come true. I want to be proud of myself and even (maybe) cure my problems! Cause also because of social media I had to fight through some deep depression last year that I luckily managed to control a little bit. I just want to say that it is never late to start and if you think of starting it.. then do it now..in the future you will regret not doing it earlier. Like me I want to be a dancer , a pro handball player and an artist! All this ! But have I started practicing? No. That's why I will start now. Start my dream. I wish everyone a happy new year and stay healthy ^^

  • @tima1639

    @tima1639

    Жыл бұрын

    I believe in you!

  • @HighDragon604
    @HighDragon604 Жыл бұрын

    Love the way you present this problem. No shaming, just understanding

  • @cosmetolog__d
    @cosmetolog__d Жыл бұрын

    It's really important to have a goad, or a point of doing something. You will spend much less energy doing something with goal, rather than menaninglessly. Make/create a goal, and will have much mmore energy left to do other things. Thank you, Ruri!

  • @asunayuuki3055
    @asunayuuki3055 Жыл бұрын

    You're so motivating ! You push us to be better persons and that's really cool. Let's all become better versions of ourselves together

  • @iangallacher6442
    @iangallacher6442 Жыл бұрын

    Good on you for bringing this up! The little kids with phones will have the hardest time.

  • @Favvolleyballplayer
    @Favvolleyballplayer Жыл бұрын

    I deleted all social media’s 3 weeks ago and I feel so much better. I know it’s hard to just delete it but just do it it’s better. Good luck if your trying to have a break from social media

  • @lianasobczak6749

    @lianasobczak6749

    11 ай бұрын

    Yepp this was the only way for me, I was struggling with the self control of not opening the app now I have to go to my computer which makes it more of an obstacle

  • @dylan4331
    @dylan4331 Жыл бұрын

    The things I have keep in my routine is mindfulness , reading book and association The things I trouble with is digital distractions I spend over time than I aspect for my day and night. Crazy helpful , thanks so much Ruri Ohama I just follow you . Can’t wait to watch your next video !!

  • @gabrielpacana8596
    @gabrielpacana8596 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent video Ruri! The things you talk about goes beyond phone addiction.

  • @user-ug2jp4zv2s
    @user-ug2jp4zv2s Жыл бұрын

    I'm in middle school and I already really struggle with putting my phone down. I always say that I'll do something tomorrow, but it never happens. Thank you for the tips. It really helps!

  • @the.archxrcc
    @the.archxrcc Жыл бұрын

    My 2023 New Year's Resolution was to stop being on my phone and work on myself. I just didn't know how to start. You don't know how thankful I am for you to make this video. Thank you, have a good day! :)

  • @worldforu_BRAZIL
    @worldforu_BRAZIL Жыл бұрын

    Wow, I loved this video, really, you inspire me with those phrases, our actual society is so lost, that's why it's so important has people as you. Thank you, and never stop those videos.

  • @sophiemercer3173
    @sophiemercer3173 Жыл бұрын

    I try to trick myself into thinking time on social media is productive… getting rid of notifications, catching up, gathering inspiration. But, I then spend too much time ‘consuming’ and not creating and doing. Sometimes it’s easier to live our lives through others… watching through screens and not ‘experiencing’ life. I really want to get better at lowering my screen time. Good luck to everyone trying this too 💜

  • @immkk1125
    @immkk1125 Жыл бұрын

    the addiction is really hard to overcome. i have stopped all social media usage for a little over 3 weeks now i still check my DMs once every week so i don’t accidentally ignore my friends that i can’t contact elsewhere. i’m pretty happy with my self control so far, i don’t feel any « withdrawal » symptoms or urges to check tiktok even tho i have it on my phone. unfortunately i think i may have compensated with youtube…i’m pretty sure the time i spend on yt skyrocketed since i like listening to videos as background noise. it’d be good if there was a platform with random documentaries or just gibberish that sounds like a very boring presentation just so i can focus on my tasks while still feeling like i’m procrastinating i found that reading books helped me regulate my sleep schedule a lot better…it depends on the book but the physical aspect of holding a book, no matter how interesting it is, will always get me tired from holding it, changing positions so i can be comfortable, adapting to the dim light in my room etc so 100% of the time i’ll end up sleeping earlier than i would’ve if i was using my phone to anyone struggling with the addiction, good luck! you can start by reducing your screen time every day or try finding something more interesting. try not using it outside or while in the public transport, it do be boring sometimes but being bored isn’t a bad thing and far from abnormal, being overstimulated and constantly producing dopamine on the other hand is what’s abnormal. i’m not gonna lie, it IS hard but the more you resist it the easier it gets.

  • @mallory9289

    @mallory9289

    Жыл бұрын

    there’s an app called musi i think, that’s basically youtube, like it had all the videos that are posted to youtube but it can play with your ohone off

  • @ShervinShares
    @ShervinShares Жыл бұрын

    I love this video. Currently trying to cure my social media addiction

  • @spacemono5419
    @spacemono5419 Жыл бұрын

    I really llike this and i like how u distinguished mindless scrolling and social media usage vs. intentionally using technology, i really hope to improve this next year, not just with my phone but also my computer.

  • @minsunqs2517
    @minsunqs2517 Жыл бұрын

    my screen time is 10 hours even on a school day where phones are taken away. i’m so addicted, i really wish to begin my reading journey again

  • @toastbrot1576
    @toastbrot1576 Жыл бұрын

    i always wanted to spend less time on my phone, but i always didn't have enough motivation to do something instead. but this video really motivates me to do something about my addiction. thank you :)

  • @tala5511
    @tala5511 Жыл бұрын

    making your screen black and white definitely effects the attractiveness of your phone. you know when you look at those bright colors the dopamine hits way harder. ive just started using my phone that way myself and my screentime decreased automatically. everyone should give it a try

  • @vivienbereczki7156
    @vivienbereczki7156 Жыл бұрын

    Hi, Ruri I just wanna say thank you because you changed my life completely. I applied your tips and it worked. My days are so balanced I'm thankful for all your advice. I used to hate studying I was depressed and I successfully recovered from most of my mental illnesses and now I enjoy studying. I stopped procrastination and I started to read again. So yeah that you for everything and keep going I hope the best for you.❤️ (Sorry if I wrote something incorrectly English is not my first language).

  • @usernamee7504

    @usernamee7504

    Жыл бұрын

    ahh i’m so happy for u i hope i will be able to do it too! how many days ago did you start this ?

  • @vivienbereczki7156

    @vivienbereczki7156

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@Usernamee I started on January 15th

  • @vivienbereczki7156

    @vivienbereczki7156

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@usernamee7504 I'm cheering for you good luck 🎉

  • @christopherbarros6197
    @christopherbarros6197 Жыл бұрын

    Love this! Great content and ideas! I definitely am way more mindful these days with my phone. I don't look at my phone before bed, after I get out of bed, and when I am with other people. Just minor changes like that have made a huge difference in my life and my relationship with others.

  • @hahahaahhahhaha3932
    @hahahaahhahhaha3932 Жыл бұрын

    I love the kindle idea it’s so smart, we are so used to our phone and how easy it is to transport its a great replacement

  • @synchia
    @synchia Жыл бұрын

    This video came at the right time as I was starting my detox, in social media, I just consume videos from now on.

  • @RT-hv7yl
    @RT-hv7yl Жыл бұрын

    I was planning to stop my social media or phone addiction, but I saw your channel and here I am again watching and watching your videos lol. Btw, you really have a great content

  • @anonymousplayer8174

    @anonymousplayer8174

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm addicted to using the comments section on KZread. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me

  • @turboff1590
    @turboff1590 Жыл бұрын

    Ruri your content is superb! They're so knowledgeable and by watching them people learn and be motivate. 😍😍

  • @loadstar4055
    @loadstar4055 Жыл бұрын

    I watched this video a couple of days ago, and I’ve just gotta say turning off the notifications social media (in my case youtube) has helped me a ton! I’ve been trying to get off of it for a while now and its really helped and I just wanted to come back and say thank you!

  • @cosmicdioxide
    @cosmicdioxide Жыл бұрын

    i really need this rn. my social media addiction is at the point where i'm constantly procrastinating on my real life work. i often don't work at all when i'm supposed to be working from home. the lockscreen idea is great and i'll try it first

  • @droiedlux
    @droiedlux Жыл бұрын

    This video really helped me to find out that I’m too much addicted on my phone. Now that I accept it… I’ll try my best to get over it so I deleted all of my social media accounts for 2 weeks so let’s try it !

  • @Stay.positive.or.f_off
    @Stay.positive.or.f_off Жыл бұрын

    Guys we have to realise that social media is like that ex toxic lover who we have to get rid of but couldn't becuz we loved that toxic person so much. We know about that he or she is a toxic person when they physically and mentally hurt us very badly but still stick to him or her like they are the one and only last person and hope of love on earth and break up only after we are completely broken. So if we don't get rid of our addiction we are definitely going to be that brokiest brokey on earth in future and regret everything we are doing now. So recently I deleted my social media accounts. Trust me I feel very like some burnden had been lifted up from my chest. Before that I used to scroll phone all day and that made me depressed cuz I wasn't able to focus on anything. Though I had time i felt like i didn't have any time. But now I do so much things in just one hour I couldn't spend time on my hobbies. My attention span and concentration were affected very badly. And also I had FOMO so it was difficult to delete social media accounts. But when I felt depressed i decided to delete and deactivated my accounts immediately.. i felt very good after doing that. I don't feel like I miss some trends or jokes on those platforms. But still I need time to heal my attention span and concentration levels now. It's very boring ofc. But as a book lover replaced book in place of phone. And also i started focusing on my hobbies. Still I feel like something is missing. But still Im trying to heal myself from this addiction. But social media is something that i definitely won't be active for the next few years until I achieve my dreams.

  • @Stay.positive.or.f_off

    @Stay.positive.or.f_off

    Жыл бұрын

    To those who took time and read my comment. An advice if you are new to reading books. Start a book which is a love story or comedy genere. That what you can fall in love with books and make them your best friend.

  • @naturefriendllyy

    @naturefriendllyy

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Stay.positive.or.f_offthank you !!!!!

  • @dopamineconsumer3

    @dopamineconsumer3

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Stay.positive.or.f_offThank you

  • @nabilotus8965
    @nabilotus8965 Жыл бұрын

    LOVE ur 5 day challenge. i realized its vague in a good way but effective so i will use it to dettach myself from other harmful habits

  • @SalomeRubashvili-zv3fj
    @SalomeRubashvili-zv3fj10 ай бұрын

    Because of my addiction, I did some stupid things that now I regret. In the past two months, I have realized the true cost of my addiction, and I hope to get my life back. Thank you for this video.

  • @alidk5923
    @alidk5923 Жыл бұрын

    I quit social media about one year ago, and my sense of self-control and happiness really skyrocketed. I remember when I and my wife went to a restaurant where they had a singer event, My wife was so busy taking photos and snapchatting. I was busy enjoying the food and the place vibes. The next day in the morning I still had the happiness of that evening, my wife was trapped in her Snapchat memories and busy answering her friend's direct messages.

  • @seasons1146
    @seasons1146 Жыл бұрын

    I failed my uni test because while giving the test i had this constant urge to stop and check my phone there was this constant thought in my subconscious to look for the phone. My addiction is getting really bad 😭💔

  • @YllwHunter
    @YllwHunter6 ай бұрын

    “Active but ineffective” is the best way that I have heard the feeling be describe of how it feels to end a day of using tech. At college, when I had free time, it all went you KZread and video games. Sometimes engulfing entire days if it’s the weekend. And when the day was done, it was depressing even thought I felt like I was having an enjoyable experience throughout the day. That’s how I’m gonna describe it from now on. Thank you so much for this video!

  • @blade7373
    @blade7373 Жыл бұрын

    ive kinda just hit the point where i cant find anything good to watch and im not really following a ton of ppl on social media so i get bored really fast. ive been craving more real life interactions and doing things outside of my phone. i just wish ppl irl were easier and nicer to connect with. everyone is so judgy.

  • @SoumilSahu
    @SoumilSahu Жыл бұрын

    The part towards the end where you discuss the paradox of making small improvements was super interesting, although obvious in hindsight

  • @theivantang
    @theivantang Жыл бұрын

    We're a generation more interested in showing ourselves than knowing ourselves.

  • @Cocozeeeeeee
    @Cocozeeeeeee Жыл бұрын

    This video is really gonna help me because I’ve been glued to my screen constantly seeing everyone happy beautiful and pretty and then I am feel like I must constantly change myself to things that aren’t necessary I see things that aren’t there and I even hate my friends because they show me how much of a failure I am so this is much needed for me because it is my summer break and I am in school still and I really need this I need to change and you just gave it to me thank you❤

  • @Ann.Altini
    @Ann.Altini Жыл бұрын

    Oh my god I am so so so grateful for this video, you finally gave me the inspiration to change❤️❤️

  • @tangbein
    @tangbein Жыл бұрын

    I think one thing that works good is to create a daily life you will be happy with. Because a lot of social media addiction is an escape from diffoculties in life.

  • @Hello_kitty47279
    @Hello_kitty47279 Жыл бұрын

    Online friendships emotionally drained me so I'm here fr help lol ..!!

  • @girlwut

    @girlwut

    Жыл бұрын

    omg same wtf

  • @anahi7632
    @anahi7632 Жыл бұрын

    I needed this video so bad. I found it while I was my KZread rabbit hole while I’m supposed to be doing homework. I’ll definitely look into the 30 day challenge and the boom as well!

  • @rithanyajyothi4916
    @rithanyajyothi4916 Жыл бұрын

    ty for making me understand that reading books is way more interesting than scrolling my phone for hours, i always thought reading books that give u no knowledge is useless but it is honestly better than social media. tysm , take care

  • @Sencho0
    @Sencho0 Жыл бұрын

    I slowly started to lower my social media consumption and i swear i feel so much better after i deleted apps like snap and instagram.Like a refreshed version of my self with less doubt and more confident.It might take long but it‘s definitely worth it trust me

  • @kiwi.kiwi.
    @kiwi.kiwi. Жыл бұрын

    The reason why I use my phone a lot is because everything is in it. My calendar, my notes, my reminders, my tasks, and etc are on it. Even my money managing, Quran and prayer times are in it. I use it as a productivity machine. And I constantly try to find new apps to improve my productivity.

  • @JesusLightsYourPath
    @JesusLightsYourPath Жыл бұрын

    I'm glad you gave us tips, that's what I need. If I just try to stop using my phone without a plan, it doesn't work.

  • @Memethief621
    @Memethief621 Жыл бұрын

    Hi Ruri , im thankfull that i found your video a couple of months ago, i wasnt even thinking of phone addiction back then, but thanks to you i managed to self diagnose and changed my daily habits. I didnt actually quit using my phone because thats just impossible😂, but i managed to limit it significantly, because of that i learned a few skills and now have a new hobby and i consider myself happier than before, thank you for making this video.

  • @seanl6478
    @seanl6478 Жыл бұрын

    I haven't had social media in about 8 years and I have never been less attracted to it. I walk down the street or through the gym and just see people staring down with no attention to their surroundings.

  • @nushaakira6138

    @nushaakira6138

    Жыл бұрын

    If you are young generation so you are wise. It's good that there are people who just enjoy doing things without social media.

  • @TheNinjapancake14
    @TheNinjapancake14 Жыл бұрын

    My screen time used to be 12 hours a day on average. Just being aware of it caused me to lower that. My goal is 4 hours or less!

  • @Vicky-cp8yl

    @Vicky-cp8yl

    Жыл бұрын

    How is it going? Did you reach your goal? xoxo

  • @TheNinjapancake14

    @TheNinjapancake14

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Vicky-cp8yl That's my 2023 goal. Currently down to 9 hours so far haha! Having a morning routine cut down my morning scrolling. Still trying to practice hopping out of bed right when I wake up

  • @Vicky-cp8yl

    @Vicky-cp8yl

    Жыл бұрын

    @@TheNinjapancake14 That's amazing! Little by little you''ll reach your goal! Lots of love x

  • @markmushyguy
    @markmushyguy Жыл бұрын

    BEAUTIFUL VIDEO MISS RURI THANK YOU FOR SPREADING AWARENESS

  • @kierahealey-fort5645
    @kierahealey-fort5645 Жыл бұрын

    Love the Vivienne Westwood necklace and love how honest u are about ur own habits in everyday life.

  • @cydneyjenkins4531
    @cydneyjenkins4531 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful points aside, the production value of this video is so amazing. It’s so nicely paced and concise, it’s visually pleasing and the music pairs really well with the content of the vid. I promise to try to break my phone addiction AFTER i subscribe and binge all ur vids lol

  • @ruriohama

    @ruriohama

    Жыл бұрын

    Omg thank you😭😭💕 this video took me ages😪

  • @esterakovnatska3944
    @esterakovnatska3944 Жыл бұрын

    thank you so much. I am 13 and I have horrible social media addiction. For many months I didn't even realise it!! I was just doing everything my friends, cousins, people around my age were doing. But at some point I saw these habits changing me into the worse side. I was always doing all my homework and even more. Now I usualy try to do it but one or two asignments are still left unfinished. My room was always clean. Now it's messy almost all the time. I had perfect routine: some calming music is playing in the background, I'm cleaning mess that formed during the day. After that I read and went to bed. Now I would go to sleep at about 1 in the morning!! My grades became much lower. And than I became friends with one girl who never had a phone. Her parents will get her one than she will attend university. And I saw how bright she was. That she was actually real. How she absolutely adored books!! And now I see that something must change. Thank you so much, have a great day!!

  • @esterakovnatska3944

    @esterakovnatska3944

    Жыл бұрын

    @@vis5462 thanks!!! I really hope you can deal with your problems. And I really get the concentration thing. It's VERY hard for me to concentrate sometimes. Have a great day 😁

  • @TheMing484
    @TheMing484 Жыл бұрын

    thanks ruri .u r the best psychologist.

  • @alejoriad2023
    @alejoriad2023 Жыл бұрын

    I lit haven't even watched the video yet, but by looking at the comments i can relate to everyone. We need to stop over using social media, and start also to connect with real people as a society again!

  • @arachne4070
    @arachne40709 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much for this video, I have ADHD, and I feel social media especially preys on people like me. Let's all attempt to get our lives back!

  • @reka_sz0
    @reka_sz0 Жыл бұрын

    My problem with quitting my addiction to things like social media and pinterest and even spotify that it's not always useless content, all of it is chosen by me so its mostly good or useful. Quality memes, interesting or informative articles (mostly) and good art and music, but the apps are designed in a way they make you consume these in the most shallow way possible for countless hours, even when you don't enjoy it, until you get tired of whole artforms and get depressed. And a compilation of your favourite content is definitely not more important than doing creative things and getting inspiration from that, reading books or socializing. The solution would be installing separate apps for reading news and articles. And also the intent thing and putting books to places are really good ways of beating the addiction. Before having a phone, as a child I used to read the textbooks in random places the same way I read internet content now, we could have way less mental problems like depression and more educated people by simply putting books into peoples hands lol.

  • @katnisseverdeen5466

    @katnisseverdeen5466

    Жыл бұрын

    Agree mostly, but please be aware ADHD is not a mental problem, it's a cognitive difference, and is not caused by a lack of reading - it's mostly genetic. In fact, I and others I know with ADHD are the biggest readers I know, and always have been. This attitude is not helpful.

  • @reka_sz0

    @reka_sz0

    Жыл бұрын

    I edited it now, because ADHD isn't the same as the 0 attention span people develop, idk why I left that part that oversimplified.

  • @sepiajoy2871

    @sepiajoy2871

    Жыл бұрын

    Those concerns you had with losing valuable and good content is something I worried about as well. I decided to delete the majority of my social media apps, except KZread. I worried that I would be missing out on important political news via instagram and Twitter, and I am. But for me, the cost of addiction outweighed the benefit of information. I’ve chosen to get my news from less addictive sources, even though I know I have sacrificed the ability to get news specific to my area and causes I care about. Instead I’m focusing on my studies. I get a lot of information that way.

  • @IndyBuckeye0
    @IndyBuckeye06 ай бұрын

    Incredibly well done on the explanation of the issue and how to help ! Thank you for all your hard work to bring this to us !

  • @typewritertypos2439
    @typewritertypos2439 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video. In 2021, I deleted all my social media apps and didn't use them for almost a week because my mental health was getting bad from all the hate I see on the internet. I can honestly say that I felt so much happier at the end of the week and I was much more productive. I hope that I can learn to limit my meaningless screen-time and scrolling on my phone again. My current daily average is nearly 8 hours, I would love to reduce to at least 5 hours.

  • @rhyriu69
    @rhyriu69 Жыл бұрын

    Sinceramente, ou você fica por "exagero" nas redes sociais, até que não perceba já estar viciado nelas, ou simplesmente impõe, por vontade e instrução, para atingir um nível "saudável" quanto ao seu uso, na boa, um vídeo mais que necessário... Muito obrigado! E sucesso para você, Ruri! ❤️

  • @Laniya.
    @Laniya. Жыл бұрын

    I think God sent you as a message to me, I have so many things I want to learn and do but my addiction is holding me back, it even took a toll on my grades. 2 weeks ago I deleted tiktok it's to addictive and I don't think I will be downloading it back in a long time. This new year I really want to make a change in my habits and I hope to become why smarter than I am when I start my reading habit. Thank you so much. I hope to learn new languages as well.

  • @rachealladega1768

    @rachealladega1768

    Жыл бұрын

    Same,Gods got us through it all this year and forevermore,we’re destined for greatness we just gotta get a grip of this addiction,AND WE WILL

  • @josieallen4942
    @josieallen4942 Жыл бұрын

    thank you for being honest about your own addiction... i feel much less alone in this struggle now so yea... good video :)

  • @ANT1FRAGILE5
    @ANT1FRAGILE5 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you sm for this video. Social medias I had before: instagram, tiktok, snapchat, youtube and pinterest. Now : youtube and pinterest. These two are important to me. KZread I use to watch subliminals, listen to thewizardliz and school stuff. Pinterest I use for inspiration bc I'm an artist and it's really helpful. I've deleted the apps since a bit now, and I do so many new things that are good for me now. I read mangas instead of watching anime, I go on a walk for 30-60 minutes everyday, I care about school more and I do exercises (since I'm very unhealthy and I never wanted to realize it but now I know better). I hope ya'll are doing good

  • @benhaenraets4369
    @benhaenraets4369 Жыл бұрын

    I remember getting my first phone as a teenager, and it was a cheap brick with a numpad. I loved it. These days, I see small children with iPhone 14's and I just feel like we've failed as a race

  • @petitponey697
    @petitponey697 Жыл бұрын

    It's strange but sometimes I'm doing meaningful meaningfulness scrolling. Like I'm giving myself this pleasure of just doing nothing but learning new things random and getting inspired

  • @tarafrench2875
    @tarafrench2875 Жыл бұрын

    This inspired me. Thank you! 💚 more videos like this to help me stay motivated- thank you again!

  • @NOKUT0
    @NOKUT0 Жыл бұрын

    Well made video essay! Shared your honest opinions and facts very well.

  • @ayannie8566
    @ayannie8566 Жыл бұрын

    I came here after wasting 2 weeks of winter break doing nothing but scrolling through phone 24/7 😮‍💨.

  • @evamaria1822
    @evamaria1822 Жыл бұрын

    I‘d love to see you follow these steps! More motivation if we do the challenge as a community :)

  • @viru4110
    @viru4110 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for showing me how addicted i was, i'm currently starting the challenge.

  • @Jahabahahha
    @Jahabahahha Жыл бұрын

    my addition is so bad that associated every task with my phone, its aways in the background streaming music or videos and if i actually want to watch videos for fun i cant watch them without playing games on my phone or scrolling, i have been reading painting and planting all my life but these healthy habits have been dying, i WILL change and i thank you for helping.

  • @mdsohardostudy617
    @mdsohardostudy617 Жыл бұрын

    I deleted my Facebook account and uninstalled Facebook from my phone. Life became so much relaxing, productive and refreshing after that 😊.

  • @kathert
    @kathert Жыл бұрын

    In this year i will improve my life with self discipline and putting my phone away

  • @0Chilii
    @0Chilii Жыл бұрын

    A while ago I deleted TikTok. In the first days I always searched for something on my phone, even though I didn't even know what. Whenever I was bored I used to open TikTok and scroll around. I'm so glad I got rid of it

  • @timwelch482
    @timwelch482 Жыл бұрын

    love your content. always insightful.

  • @JuanHernandez-mf3nr
    @JuanHernandez-mf3nr Жыл бұрын

    Great topic, thanks for bringing awareness to such an important issue. I'm so happy your video was recommended. You can definitely help reach this newer generation cause you can relate to them. Please continue to make these helpful videos. You should be very proud of yourself, keep up the great work.

  • @ziyaerel2015
    @ziyaerel2015 Жыл бұрын

    Another Ruri video that makes people pleased! Followers love this very clever and cool girl! Isn’t it quite impressive that she provides just most essential information each and every time. And she’s doing it in a very cordial and cool way! I think That’s the reason why Ruri’s videos has got an addiction effect!

  • @ruriohama

    @ruriohama

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much!

  • @ziyaerel2015

    @ziyaerel2015

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ruriohama That’s my true feeling! I’m really happy to watch your way of success! Till the end l’ll be one of your subscribers!😊

  • @anonymousplayer8174
    @anonymousplayer8174 Жыл бұрын

    I'm addicted to using the comments section on KZread. I spent most of my time making a comment on videos, reading the comments, replying to comments and replying to replies. I don't know how to stop this, it's a habit for me

  • @ipekbayrak1895
    @ipekbayrak1895 Жыл бұрын

    You changed my point of view and hopefully my life, thank you!

  • @cthulhu2478
    @cthulhu2478 Жыл бұрын

    One of my goal is to reduce the content I consume. I can't avoid social medias 100% because I really do enjoy them but I want to consume less and make more. So instead of just scrolling mindlessly, I want to focus on my creativity and provide content. I feel like, this way, I can still be part of social medias but in a more proactive way and lessen the amount of time I spend just scrolling. Let see where this takes me :)

  • @IlIIlIlIlImelIlIlIlIlIl
    @IlIIlIlIlImelIlIlIlIlIl Жыл бұрын

    I don't have a phone addiction but looking at you will prevent me from being aware of what's happening around me...

  • @adaptercrash

    @adaptercrash

    Жыл бұрын

    You should try cocaine

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