Is it weird that seeing someone else cry over the same pain made me feel better?

@DeconteeSarahBoe

Жыл бұрын

No it’s not weird, it just makes you feel less alone and validates your feelings! It’s comforting to know that someone else knows/feels the pain you’re going through.

Five days ago I broke up with my boyfriend. .I was in denial and acted like nothing affected me... I found out some real messed up stuff about him. Anytime I consulted him about an issue he always dismissed me and said I was childish and petty... I'm at a point where I feel this pain in my chest... I'm trying to act strong and be occupied but it's not so easy... All of us going through this we can do it... Just because their time in your life is over doesn't mean your life is over...You're strong and you're worth all the love and affection in this world♥️♥️

@elkartoutihafssa7629

Жыл бұрын

How are you feeling now? I'm going through a same situation and i feel lost.

@beingaesthetic7402

Жыл бұрын

@@elkartoutihafssa7629 actually I am going through some sort of things. This phase is really difficult like you try to feel strong in a moment & later you feel completely broken other moment . But this frustration will be blur with time. Just go outside walk & pray . And you feel completely shattered just cry & cry until you feel tired to cry. Time will make you better . Just don’t give up on you. If they can’t do enough to have you, it’s their misfortune. You lost a person who doesn’t know how to keep you. I hope that you will get an amazing person in future

@elkartoutihafssa7629

Жыл бұрын

@@beingaesthetic7402 thank you for your kind words. I hope you heal from the things you're going through.

@_rutere_

Жыл бұрын

Honestly I feel a lot of bitterness towards him... But I'm progressing well I'm focusing on me and allowing myself to feel all emotions as much as they may hurt me it's for my own good

@ferielaidouni2697

Жыл бұрын

Tell me you feel better please

I found it helpful to write either on paper or my notes app anything I wanted to text my ex. I’d write it exactly as if I were texting them. It can be healing and can help you realize what kinds of things you’re constantly wanting to reach out about/ what state of mind you’re in when you’re wanting to talk to them.

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

I love this

@rebeccafarinash9308

Жыл бұрын

I second this!

@gonurseyourself__

Жыл бұрын

This is so helpful ❤ love this idea

@jgirl345

Жыл бұрын

This is a good idea,because, I keep going between a ton of emotions, sad, anger, happy, and I keep texting things I regret so that would be very helpful, thank u

@ms.clarrisa8620

Жыл бұрын

I do the same nd i thought i m the only one to do this childish thing but it heals

Oh I'm so sorry honey... For what it's worth, I went through SOOOO many heartbreaks in my teens and twenties. Some healthy, some unhealthy and many devastating but ultimately all that led my to my true life partner and I've now been happily married to him for 10 years now. It WILL get better and you'll be stronger for going through this. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable ❤

@CC-br9qg

Жыл бұрын

this gives me hope. just got discarded by a narc in aug after a 1 yr relationship

@beingaesthetic7402

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your story ❤

@XobaybayelisabethXo

Жыл бұрын

So true though I’m 15 years old and I’ve only been in one real relationship and it hurts bad but everything gets better eventually I’ve been single for almost three years and I’ve been taking care of myself and friends and family and I hope to find my person one day I believe I will ! I’ve been in other relationships before but I don’t count any of them because they didn’t matter to me much and they didn’t impact my life and they also didn’t last long at all I wish that I hadn’t ever gotten into those “ relationships “ because I was so young but at the same time I don’t regret it because it taught me how important relationships are I’m almost 16 I hope to start again when I’m 17 or 18 but I’m not looking for a relationship and I don’t really want one right now

@denisakito

20 күн бұрын

@@CC-br9qgik it’s been a year since your comment but i’m in a relationship with a narcissist for 4 years now and i don’t know how to get out, i’m so scared of what’s coming after i get out, every time i tried i failed. that’s why i just wanted to ask you if you really achieved to leave and if everything gets better or worse and if you were able to heal. everytime i tried to leave everything got worse and the pain i felt with him seemed less than the pain and struggle when i tried to leave but being with him is horrible he’s horrible, he’s narcissistic and sadistic i really want to leave when i’m with him/ while he’s hurting me but then when i try it’s like something that’s pulling me back to him, like a trauma bond and i’m so hopeless idk what to do and i never met a person who achieved leaving a narcissist and got better

I'm 8 months into healing from a 2.3 years relationship. It gets better. You learn to live with the pain. We are only human processing a loss and facing our emotions is so important when healing. There will be days where you will feel great and days were you will mourn and wish it for them to be back, it's all part of the process :') it's a journey x

I‘m currently going through my first breakup ever. My first boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me yesterday and I feel so empty. The thing is , that I had no one else besides him . He was my best friend. My favourite person. I don’t know how to live without my best friend. It was a healthy breakup, no bad blood. But I think that’s even worse, because I can’t even be mad at him .

@shadenahmed2612

7 ай бұрын

i hope you are doing well now. you are so so strong and you will be okay!! being alone is better than being in a half-half relationship. healthy break ups are hard, but remember the reasons you broke up and that you deserve better. being alone also gives us the chance to feel, heal, and learn how to love ourselves and build a stronger sense of self. find hobbies, good books can feel like the best company on those lonely days. pick yourself up queen. it's okay to miss them, but now its your time to evolve. use the lessons you learned, and channel that love towards yourself and those around you. you chose yourself, and so the universe will reward you back. this is all part of our character development and evolution

Two days ago ,I made the biggest mistake and that is hurting the most precious man I've ever met...thought he didn't care much of me but then I realized I was too numb that he's only doing those things because he respected me so much that whatever I want he will do. He deserves someone better and I accept that ...I need to heal and make myself stable and I pray to God,He will guide that boy to heal as well..I love him..💖

After reading the comments……I feel like we’re all going through a break up. There’s definitely something in the air. I am right there with you girl. Some days I don’t even think about it but others, I cry all day. Thank you for this🤍

I cried doing everything for the first time after my 6 year relationship ended. We lived together too…it’s been a little over 3 years and I finally feel good. I feel like starting a new real relationship/partnership. Take your time and know we are here to watch you cry, thrive, and whatever you need!

@cottoncandyflake

Жыл бұрын

omg babe , if you don’t mind me asking why did y’all break up ? (i’m in an almost 6 yr relationship ) and things have been a little less than perfect lately to say the least..

@js-fy5wh

Жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyflake I relate to the person who wrote this comment. I ended my 6 year relationship (and we lived together) a little over a month ago. It wasn’t because of just one reason, it was built up over time. But mainly because I felt held back almost. Like I wasn’t becoming a better person and neither was he so I needed to make the decision for both him and myself. I had felt like it was a decision that needed to be made for a while and at times i regret it because what we had was almost perfect. We had been together from 16-22 and I felt like I needed to grow more individually and make decisions for myself so i could become a better person. Still in my heart i hope we can come back together in the future, but that’s not promised. Hope you’re okay. Relationships are hard especially 6 years in it becomes a bit stagnant. You need to remember that it’s important to keep dating the person. And that effort needs to be present on both sides. Best wishes.

I’m only 2 minutes into the video and I just want to tell you I feel you and I’m so proud of you! I am 10 months post breakup from a 3 year relationship and I still have days where I cry so much and have to remind myself I am healing and my feelings so are valid. Things have gotten better. Can’t say it’s gotten easier but I think just the adjustment and working towards acceptance for what is has helped me so much.❤

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I’m going through the same thing right now, too. Even when it is a healthy break up, it’s very emotional.

Ugh I feel for you... this will definitely help people know they aren't alone when going through something so sad! Sending positive energy your way

I’m so sorry girl, I understand what you’re going through. You’ll get through this and come out on the other side ❤️

You’re so beautiful Natalie and thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. It does really help because it helps knowing that you don’t go through it on your own ❤

i’m so sorry!! Its so hard, but you’ll get better each day. Hope for the best for you two

Aw Natalie, I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling. Sharing this personal info is super brave and it’ll help a lot of people who are going through similar situations.

Natalie, I can’t begin to imagine the emotional roller coaster you’ve been on since your unfortunate breakup. I’m so very sorry and I pray that you two will ultimately find your way back to each other. How many people could or even would show such tremendous vulnerability at a time when they are hurting from the inside out. You are an Amazingly successful and caring person who I wish nothing but the very best for moving forward. Thank you for sharing what obviously took a lot of strength to do. Hope you feel better soon. Btw, you have an awesome beautiful smile so please stop crying. 😇🙏🏾💐

so sorry you're going through this 🥺 also recently (ish) went through a breakup and I agree that honestly watching other people go through the process really helped! hope you're doing well & taking care of yourself

Thinking of you and praying for you

I’m sorry that you’re going through this but you’re such a strong person and I know you’ll get through this, time will heal it all

seeing you like this was heart breaking. I went through a breakup after a 6 year relationship in 2020 and another one exactly a year ago. Its so rough going through it. But as you know it gets better. WAY better. You seem like you are handling it really well, taking care of yourself, and not being afraid to deal with your emotions head on right now. I look up to your strength!! you got this

I truly believe everything meant for us comes to us with ease. Don’t worry, don’t fret, you’re amazing and successful and everything will work out! ❤️

Natalie, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can definitely relate and I really admire your vulnerability in this vlog. Keep your head up, everything happens for a reason. 💫

This is the most real vlog I've seen in a while and I'm all about it. Hang in there, girl!

Aww man Natalie I'm so sorry. I went through the same last year and crying at the grocery store was a thing. So I pray you find strength and rest in this season.

I’m so sorry Natalie :( I can understand where you’re coming from because I was also previously in a four year long relationship and it’s so hard to break up when you still have nothing but love and respect for the other person. Sending you lots of love during this time- it takes time to heal and I promise you will be okay!

You are so brave for sharing this! Breakups are never easy! Stay strong ❤

Sending you love hugs and sunshine. It’s hard now but every day is a better tomorrow 💕

Tysm for sharing❤ it’s amazing we can be vulnerable for an online community. I recently broke up as well and the best advice I got was from my therapist who reminded me I don’t have to escape/ distract myself from the pain. It seems like it’s top big and it’s scary to let ourselves feel it. But it’s not bigger than us and feeling will hurt but it won’t kill us. Feeling pain is necessary to feel joy as well. Distraction society isn’t all good… Let us make peace with hurting, knowing it’ll pass. We’re together!

I too am sorry to hear this. Hang in there......prayers, light, and love are sent your way. Please be gentle and good to yourself.

I went through this at precisely this same time last year with my then-boyfriend of five years. We’d moved across the country together and he was the closest person to me in the state so it was really hard to let go. But a full year later I can tell you it was the hardest but most important thing I’ve had to do! As far as healing tips, I watched other creators who were going through it so I felt less alone. Journaling helped, watching extremely light tv shows like Gilmore girls, and talking on the phone a lot with friends and family back home. It sucked and I hope to never feel that way again but it also made me so much stronger. You got this Natalie ❤

Am so sorry to hear the break up news. Sending you a huge hug. I know its hard and difficult now, but it will help you grow stronger in the long run. Keep the Faith.

hot tea and honey helps me when my throat kills! Also, thanks for being vulnerable-much hugs to you

i hope you’re staying strong babe, i know how hard it can be! idk what happened but i broke up with my ex of 7 years so i know what you’re going through. You’ll be okay and one day you’ll be so content with your decision because there was a reason you needed to and that will help you be okay with it in the end. love your vlogs also !

Sending you positive energy and love Nat! ❤️ congratulations on Rela for being on the list 👏

Ur skin looks so good!! Sending love 💛💛💛

I‘m so sorry Natalie, a break up is so hard 🥺 Your online family is there for you 💛💛

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

❤️

Thankyou for being so vulnerable it definitely helps

Just like you said, you’ll be okay bc you’ve been okay before. Sending you so many positive vibes, healing vibes and happy vibes. You can do this 💪🏽 keep busy and keep your head up! Pressure makes diamonds bby! 💎💎💎

Sending lots of love and prayers on your healing process! 🫶🏼

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

praying for healing for your heart rn💛

Aw honey I’m sure you’re getting all the advice and suggestions .. just know I’m praying for your journey to healing❤

i just wanna give you a big big hug

Hey girl. I am going through a hard breakup of 2 years right now. It's only been 3 days so it is so fresh and raw for me still. This was so helpful to see someone else feel the same way I do right now. Sending you love and healing. ❤

@yolanindamase8563

Жыл бұрын

I’m 1 day. So thank you

@holsbeth27

Жыл бұрын

@@yolanindamase8563 Me too x

@leorii7

Жыл бұрын

@@marisacoleman2386 ehh two months you’ll be alright I know it sucks but remember he chose someone over you if u take him back he’ll always treat like an option

@leorii7

Жыл бұрын

What’s the tea?

Congrats to you and Rella for making it on Business Insiders 2022 list!

i can’t believe u posted 3 weeks ago. that’s also how long i dated my ex who became my fiancé early this year… i broke up w him cuz i couldn’t take the verbal abuse anymore… 4 years together anniversary of 4 years is coming up and also watching this almost under a month after. thank u for sharing this. i am crying the same way everyday trying so hard to fight thru this but it’s so hard and painful i cannot deal w it

I am watching your videos from past 3 years and let me tell you you are a boss girl, i re watch your old vlogs whenever i feel demotivated and i instantly feel productive. Your vlogs are so honest and real. ❤

this is so helpful to know that i'm not the only one who is going through some rough patch at the moment. this gave me so much comfort knowing that it's totally normal to have the random breakdowns when you suddenly miss your ex-bf, and indeed, healing is not linear. hoping that all of you here will get better and will be able to appreciate life even more, in a new norm :)

Omg I am so sorry. If it's meant to be hopefully you guys will find your way back to eachother & if not I know you will get through this 🤍 sending hugs and prayers. I feel vlogging will help you get through it too🙏🏼

Sending you so, so much love! It does get easier & better, but that doesn't mean it's not INCREDIBLY painful right now. Cry at the grocery store, cry anywhere, do whatever you need to do to get through those painful moments and before you know it, there will be less and less of them

I'm so sorry. It's hard, four years is a long time. You get used to having someone. Sending positive vibes your way ♥️

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

This is day 2 for me. We were in a relationship for 3 years and we lived together for 2 of those 3 years. This is really hard!! Emotions are crazy.... but being strong and I'm not texting him. Period.

@maceyr.6583

Жыл бұрын

Sooo proud of you. I blocked mine for the sake of my mental health but it's real hard!

@lindachyne8293

Ай бұрын

It's my day 2 today:)

Wow. Thank you for creating this safe space. I’m currently transitioning out of a living situation with someone I’ve dated for almost 5 years and was my best friend first since I was 17 (I’m 24 now) I quite literally can’t imagine adulthood without him as the last time I didn’t have him in my life I was a teenager. This video made me feel normal amidst all of these crazy emotions. You’re motivating me to be excited for when I’m finally moved out so I can start actually healing and growing into my own life. Thank you girl!!

Omg I guess we allll going through it ): Im on month 7 & its STILL hard. Definitely a rollercoaster of emotions. Just know its okay & its a journey that takes time. You got this babygirl♥️

This is so helpful babe thank you so much!

❤️ sending you so much love and hope. Hugs and kisses.

Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us 🙏. Listened to this in the gym today.

Tks for sharing ! It does help me! And crying anywhere out of the blue happens to me to

I know it’s been a year but thank you so much for this. I needed this ❤

Natalie, thank you so much for making a video like this in an such difficult moment. I just broked up with my bf a week ago and I fell terrible, but sometimes I fell awesome about it. I also texted him and then he made it clear that we had to move on (he was nice about it). I am in pain, but I understand why is it necessary... We glow, we just forgot how to do it alone.

@fairylights6855

Жыл бұрын

We will get through this! We are powerful and have full control of our Iives.

it helped me so much thank u so much gurl! 💖

I’m so sorry Natalie. I just got out of an 8 year relationship and it’s still fresh and just so hard. We will get through this ❤️

@zinazoulou3574

9 ай бұрын

update??

BELIEVE ME WE CAN ALL RELATE!! Time will TOTALLY heal all. Know that what is meant for you, WILL BE FOR YOU!! Trust the process.❣️😇

hello thanks a lot for that video, it really helps realizing that it's okay to feel sad. that it can get better even if you feel like it won't ! To all the people that dumped or have been dumped you deserve to be happy :) Moving on takes time don't feel bad for that. For some it takes weeks, months, years... Don't compare yourself with others. If you feel like you can't go through this alone don't be afraid of going to a psychologist it might help, and there's nothing to be ashamed of.

thank you so much for the video. i finally feel like i can cry and not feel dumb about it.

This helped me massively ❤️ I’m only on day 2 😬 I cried with you and it felt like we connected through that, I tried to send you a hug and healing energy. Thank you girl for this video, and you’ve got this, you’re doing amazingly ❤️

@beingaesthetic7402

Жыл бұрын

Same here. On day 2 😶 my mind is totally messed up.

@StellaRickhards

Жыл бұрын

@@beingaesthetic7402 it’s ok ❤️ you are absolutely not alone. I’m on day 6 now and haven’t actually cried for a couple days! Don’t want jinx it, but yeah things are gonna get better for you very soon my love, I know it doesn’t feel like it and your heat physically hurts constantly, but that will ease!! I promise. Xxx

In quarantine, I ended a relationship of just over 4 years. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. This hurt will come in waves, you could feel okay one day but don’t be so hard on yourself if you don’t feel okay the next day. But you will feel okay. It took me longer than i thought it would but I’m genuinely on the other side, and you will be one day too. It’s so hard not to text them but I would say to write it in your notes or journal, and always sit on it for 48 hours. Most of the time, if not always, you will decide you are better off not sending it. Some things that helped me: Social media breaks (remove the app completely -if your job allows you to take a break like that), alternate sad t-swift with some music that makes you happy, journal every single day of whatever you feel (the gratitude journal you do is great), long walks listening to the Mark Groves podcast, creating a new vision board. I hope any of these give you any bit of peace. All my love

Thank you soo much for this video ❤️ im going through the same thing.. this help me to see im not alone in this..

Natalie I’m so sorry I went through a breakup in Feb and I lived with my boyfriend and I ended up moving back home for a bit and just moved back to the city we lived in together after 6 months of healing and I feel so much better. You will get through this, but allow yourself to be sad and vulnerable and heal ❤

Am also going through the same thing 😭 so sorry Natalie, you deserve the best!

Thanks for doing this … even though it’s hard ♥️ thankyou

I’m watching this but crying along with you helps me let out the crying

It’s totally fine to be emotional and cry your gonna get through this better on the other side and sending lots of 💕 to u💗💯

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

Yes allowing myself to feeel everything

@Jibril_Abdulkadir

Жыл бұрын

@@NatalieBarbu 💯

Thinking of you! We always ultimately end up where and with who we are meant to be ❤️ xx

@NatalieBarbu

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

Can relate. So hard to put on a light face but cry at night and wish that he is still with you.😭😭

I’m late to watch this video, but I just broke up with my long term boyfriend a month ago now and I can confidently say that this video was so validating. Thank you for sharing your experiences in such a vulnerable way, it really did make an impact for me ❤

You Go Girl! It’s okay💕

Natalie I’m so sorry. Last week made a year since me and my ex ended our engagement and I still get choked up here and there. Please be kind to yourself. Sending lots of love ❤

Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us❤️❤️ you have a huge support system here💞💞 let yourself feel and take time for yourself!! And Taylor Swift will get anyone through anything. We all love you!! Also just thought about it- but Happiness by Taylor Swift is a good one

tears, i feel you girl. my boyfriend and i broke up this weekend. a week before our anniversary. stay strong! we got this💜

Sending you so much love Nat

i see your pain even while talking about the good things happening, because i've been there. i am nearly 5 months post break up after a 2 year relationship. i still think about her every day. i lost more than a girlfriend, i lost my best friend, family and home in one. what has helped me is to see that grief comes from love, and to have loved is never a bad thing. and that all the good experiences i made for the first time with my past partner are experiences that show me what good the future can hold again, even if that's not my life right now. also, shaving my head and boxing classes had me feeling like i am owning my life again. sending hugs to all of you! we got this. ⚡🧡

Hi Natalie, sending you lots of love and positivity ❤❤

Thank you for making this video. I just got out of an 11-year relationship, and you're right, healing is not linear. There are days when I'm not crying and feeling excited to live my new normal and there are days when sadness hits me. To think that we almost got married. We are good friends but it is still so hard to start over since I'm not young anymore. And I feel envious of my friends that are still in their respective relationships and settling down while here I am in a failed one. But I know I will get better even if it takes time.

@b.k.701

11 ай бұрын

It's not failure just because it ended. You lived a good chunk of your lives together and you'll always share that. And just because you see other people settling down doesn't mean they are necessarily happy. They may just be trying to avoid "failure."

Natalie, sper ca esti mai bine acum:) Nu uita ca esti o persoana puternica, foarte frumoasa si ca ai un viitor minunat in fata! Life goes on, girl !

sending so much love!

i never comment on videos but this is exactly how my emotions have been (up and down) and to be honest i did not know if it was normal or not. Me and my boyfriend were together 3 years and a half, we started dating when i was 13 and him 14 (i know young), i am now 17. We broke up on Thursday night the 27th of October so it has only been a few days and honestly i still feel like texting him, i feel that i miss him but then i just need to remind myself that it is just the memories i miss. i am finding it really difficult to distract myself, honestly i seem to be thinking about it all the time and having my break downs almost daily ever since. Its odd being on my own now but i know i will get used to the independence. Just right now to be dramatic it feels like the end of the world😂. This video has really made me realise that these emotions i am feeling is normal and i thank you for that you done a good and brave thing showing how you are coping.

This helps a lot. Thank you ❤️

hope you're doing okay

Sending you lots of love!

Ooh girl, the grieving process is so difficult. Those raw emotions hit out of nowhere. Being on the other side of it now, I can say just hang on and feel your feelings. I promise it gets better. My best advice is to write him letters (that you don't send) where you pour out every single thing you want to say, everything you miss, etc. and get it out of your head. It's very healing.

Needed this. Just broke up with my partner of 2 years yesterday, and I dont even know how I feel right now. Your video gives me hope so thank you

@myacisneros3801

Жыл бұрын

@jamessuccesor8409 no thank you im never dating a man again you stay safe tho 💛

Aww. Seeing her cry putting away the groceries 😢. Time really does heal all but you need to let yourself feel it first. Don’t limit yourself.

Wow, that's a big change! Hang in there, you only need yourself sometimes!

just went through a situationship a couple months ago and it still hurts to this day like an open wound.. watching this honestly got my day out of a gloomy dark place ❤ honestly thank you for sharing and if you ever decide to move to nyc girl lmk we can be single roomies lol

Today, me and my bf broke up

I’ve been there done that. It’s hard but some day you will find a man that’s the right one for you❤️

I just went through a break up recently it’s tough but each day gets better! Working out for me has helped me out so much

You only prolong the hurt if you stay in contact. It is like a form of being rejected again no good will come from it Stay strong. Write in a notebook what you want to say. You'll be glad you stayed strong.

Thank you for this. Really. I’m in South Africa and my now ex is in 🇺🇸. We broke up. Or he broke up with me because of distance. I moved back to South Africa 🇿🇦 5 months ago. And two months before our 1 year…he FaceTime me and shared. I’m devastated. And this has given me tremendous comfort. I have a lot of work…and navigating that and heartbreak is hard. I hope to come back to this…and …I don’t know lol. But thank you so much for being vulnerable. I needed this.