Hey Steve: I’m Stuck in A One-Sided Friendship 😞 II Steve Harvey
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Her relationship with her friend of 25-years has turned into a one-sided friendship. She wants to repair things, but doesn’t know what steps to take. Can this relationship be salvaged? Steve had to give her the honest truth.
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True friendships don’t expire. Sometimes we hold on to relationships that aren’t there. Some people were never our friend.
@Zinnie988
Жыл бұрын
Let them go, if they meant to comeback, they will, with their own realization that they ghost you on your important milestones and celebrations. Just give the space. If they ask you "hey girl where have you been, oh you just noticed that I am no more there?!?! Did you noticed that you were no show nor support GIRLFRIEND!! So I figured that's it WE EXPIRED!" I chilling. With some friends. No time to waste to wait. If you spare your boyfriends, you need not spare your girlfriends. If you can walk aqay from a boyfriend, fiancé who ain't treating you right, same rules apply to girlfriends too. Done! Khapish?!? 😮
@edwardrook8146
Жыл бұрын
I have a saying, all friendships come to an end. People move on with their lives sometimes, no hard feelings.
I let all one-sided friends go. Now I have no friends 😅 Edit : I am manifesting my soul family , so there is hope !
@ldkea05
Жыл бұрын
Bruhhhh me af and I'm cool with that ... they can go 👉🏽👉🏽
@TheBfutgreg
Жыл бұрын
It takes two....I can't say for sure but how many were there? If you were the common denominator that's always something to consider js
@RTA6226
Жыл бұрын
I bet you have peace✌though!
@vibranthang13
Жыл бұрын
🗣️Same here!!! I’ve noticed since living on the West Coast there is no loyalty. People are in it for themselves.🤷🏽♀️
@starshanae80
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
"Remove yourself from those one sided friendships where you're the only one putting in the effort"..
@guillaumejodlin7068
Жыл бұрын
Yes it is
Once I turned 30, I decided to get rid of some friends like this. It was hard at first but I feel peace now and guess what, I've made new friends. Sometimes you have to let go of something to get a better one.
@Mattamillion-vk2pf
9 ай бұрын
I've been struggling a very long time to let go of toxic friends but they know me so well and what buttons to push, its hard. I don't like them.
@viviogogo2763
9 ай бұрын
@@Mattamillion-vk2pf Do it gradually. Sometimes don't pick up or respond and they'll slowly fade away.
@SaturnPhase
8 ай бұрын
@@Mattamillion-vk2pfI've been there, too. It was tough when I realized that I was hanging out with a bunch of people that I don't even like and probably wouldn't miss. Take that first step and leave. It might be tough at first, but you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain by leaving.
I had a friend that I was always there for. When her husband was cheating on her, she used to come to my home for solace and to get away for a few hours. Once they parted ways and she got another man and was getting remarried, she just told me she was getting married and did not extend an invitation. A mutual male friend of ours told me some years later that she was always jealous of me because guys always tend to gravitate to me and not her. I was done for life and don’t care how she tried to act friendly, I just considered her someone I know but not a friend. Sometimes you just have to view people through the rear view mirror.
@SkatesPraise
Жыл бұрын
Amen.... view them through the rear view mirror, well said!
@tonnewhite62
Жыл бұрын
Happened to me too
Great wisdom from Steve Harvey again! 1) Friendship has an expiration date. If the milk is stale, let it go. 2) Let the men hunt for you ladies! (and an extra tip that I learned: "Don't get in the habit of collecting red flags." 3) Old is the goal! "Everyday that you wake up is Gd telling you He's not done with you!" Love all of it, thanks Uncle Steve!!!
@jbzhummerh2gamer
Жыл бұрын
*God
@PatriciaR.E.
Жыл бұрын
Scammer impersonating Steve!!!
They really need to bring this show back. Steve has so many valuable nuggets if wisdom
@welcometoSunnydale291
9 ай бұрын
I thought he died
I don't know why a lot of people is afraid of getting older... For me it actually a blessing 🙌 🙏 thank you Lord. I'm so not afraid to tell others my age 😊
Loyalty do have an expiration date I learned this couple years ago I stopped showing up for some ppl who hasn't shown up for m period
Quality over quantity when it comes to “Friends”!
@cameliap1146
Жыл бұрын
For everything. Not only for friends.
We just celebrated my great grandmother's 100th birthday in December 2022! Had a blast, she even "cut a rug"! 😆
@ppheard1254
Жыл бұрын
Happy belated to her that God blessed her with a long life
@lynettebrown91
Жыл бұрын
God bless her with many more blessings my great grandmother died at 100 years old she lived a great life
@bobby12348
Жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday to her 🎂🎉
@OneWomanMan888
Жыл бұрын
@@lynettebrown91 That's not a nice making such comment on someone's 100th birthday.
@OneWomanMan888
Жыл бұрын
@@lynettebrown91 I'm saying you should leave out the last part.
I don't do one-sided relationships and friendships go; so I am over it!
I've been struggling my whole life with a one-sided friendship. I've been fighting my codependency on this person, but I think it's finally time to realize this person let me go and to just be happy, like Steve said.
@kristimartinez7528
6 ай бұрын
Ouch..same..a lot easier said than done
When I turned 40, I really fricked out! Then I got into this thing of not carring about what other people think about me. 40 is a really cool stage of life, because you learn to be you, and you are happier in your own body. It's now been 2 years, and I m still enjoying!
LOL..Steve! You go to the same church, same grocery store, same beauty salon; He ain't there, you ain't seen him down there yet, he ain't coming. Lmboo🤣🤣 Loyalty has a expiration date. Great advice Steve!
@NiqueTheSneak1
Жыл бұрын
That part cracked me up 😂😂
I love Steve's advice. It's so practical and correct, we just don't see it for ourselves. He must be a great father.
That second woman is blessed. I'm sure plenty of mature men would love a 35 year old woman who still looks younger. She does look great.
Once they show you they aren’t for you. It’s done. Time doesn’t equal friendship or quality. Period.
@everythingniasha
Жыл бұрын
Yea. Hearts go through seasons . You have to protect yours.
I definitely needed this reminder the one right here exactly
Steve, I had no idea that you were in your 60’s!! I honestly didn’t. All along I was thinking you were maybe in your late 40’s or early 50’s!! You certainly aged well! I wish you the best & pray you have many more years ahead! 💗🙏
Jeeez.. she's 35? and I thought I looked young.. oh Lord. The first lady I have that kind of relationship exactly what Steve said us what I did about it
@mikenelson8377
Жыл бұрын
She’s gorgeous, too! Such a pretty smile 👌😍
On line dating is for hooking up. No thanks
I think Steve could have asked that sweet-16 looking lady to dress a little older. You know, drop the pigtails and wear a gown and heels. That should help. And the guy freaking out about turning 40 is just because there is much in his life that he's not achieved. When you are on schedule with your goals you worry less about your age. The satisfaction of achievements and fulfillments make ageing a positive experience.
@BeautifulOnes876
Жыл бұрын
There’s the flip side…if one can develop an affinity for the gold that life offers through the tough lessons, which are 1.)sage wisdom, and 2.)coming into knowing oneself at a deeper level as to what’s truly valuable to us…what is it we need to do to get ourselves in gear and begin to use our days bring about self-actualization starting from just where we are first. Then, progress step by step from there. The fact is that some of us truly are meant to be late bloomers. Some of the worlds most renowned, successful people did not hit their stride until the mid-40’s. Facts 💯. Check out history. So, 3.) like Uncle Steve said, be grateful, because God is clearly not through with us that we keep waking up. How many people did not make it around the sun as any times as we did? Didn’t get any where near it, their days were cut far too short. We’ve got to count our blessings. That’s what the cliched attitude of gratitude is about. And 4.) change one’s perspective, who keeps saying “age” and “years old”? Why not say I’m 40 Tas or tats (Times Around The Sun), or I’m 40 years young? And OWN that gift. Take control of your mind and you take control of your feelings!
Steve's scream 😅
I would have told her to stop going to her friends things everything. When her friend ask her why doesn’t she come around just say felt you might have needed some alone time because you stopped coming to my invitations was give you the space thought you needed
I used to wish someone a Happy Birthday every year for several years. Knowing that this person never even asked when’s mine, I was done! 🤷🏽♀️ I basically felt the same way about joining a dating site, “Perhaps he’ll find me on here!”
People who don't contribute to sustaining the relationship don't deserve your effort.
Steve you never cease to amaze me with how you approach people's questions, they always go back convinced and contented. I too, always looks up to you for solutions. I have learned a lot from all your programs. Thank you
It is not important that your friend treats you with kindness, the important thing is how you deal with him. This is morals
Totally agree. My best friend just quit me
I needed this. Exactly
I walked away from a onesided freindship after 2020.....and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Our families had been freinds since I was little, but it was around my 20s when I really thought I was officially a freind to this one person. However as the years went on a clear pattern started to form which always ended with me getting kicked to curve or really hurt by this "freind" yet somehow I always had to pretend to be fine with everything as if nothing was wrong. I would suck it up because our families were freinds and I didn't want to be the one who did damge to all that. Still, as the years went by it became very obvious I was never important to this person. After 2020, in my 30s, I finally hit a breaking a point and just walked away without a warning or goodbye......and I now really wished I had done that sooner. I'm a lot happier now. Its sad that it had to come down to that, but I rather not be freinds at all then repeat that pattern again.
That she didn't invited you to her wedding said all you needed to know....... I had a friend that did me the same and i knew how late it was. When she saw me she give me some bs story i just smile🙂 celebrate her and check her of my future guess list. See when some people get on their're feet they ten to forget who had they back when they was in the gutter.... It's okay leave them alone.🤷
I learned that today i was in a one-sided friendship, and i went through a traumatic experience where it was sexual trauma. I was crying at my job, and my friend didn't even text or call or anything. That's when i realized that he wasn't a friend at all. Im learning to deal with life at the age of 20 and learning that i need to heal besides my family was there and some of my co-workers as well.
32 years old and 3 months old over here. I’ve always live sharing my age. Somebody in the dirt who wished they was alive. I’m beautiful healthy.
I disagree with letting hurtful actions not be addressed. She needs to find the courage and confront her friend; let her know how she views her friendship.
I am learning English. I found this channel today. It was so interesting and instructive. This is the best English lesson in my life. Thanks a lot for your optimism (and clear, legible speech).
STEVE YOU ARE AN AWESOME DUDE. HARDEST WORKING MAN IN THE BUISNESS. I LOVE EVERYTHING YOU REPRESENT. THANK YOU MY MAN
@janetholmes
4 ай бұрын
I LOVE THIS COMMENT AND THE HEART YOU HAVE TO POST SUCH A THING XD HOPE YOU NEVER LOSE THIS, IT'S GREAT
Steve always on point
I’ve experienced this! Exactly Steve!!! If I see them ( hey girl) if I don’t I just don’t.
The older I get the more I believe in the saying "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time" Sometimes you just have to accept that some people will never be great friends, and if you keep waiting for them to change their ways, you'll be waiting forever. Let them go, wish them well, move on and make new friends. There are plenty of good people out there.
Ugh Steve is so lovable ❤️❤️❤️ Great advice all through 👌🏽
I lOVE what you said about Loyalty!
One sided friendships are not real friendships. If they don't get a hold of me, they clearly don't care. 👋
to those of you who binge-watching Steve Harvey's videos, I'd say good luck.. since this channel has like 8K videos 😆
I'm her best friend.. She's not my best friend .. That's a one-sided relationship.
I don't think a friend not showing up for a birthday has anything to do with loyalty. She mentioned the friend had a baby shower. You a grown woman upset that a friend didn't show up to a birthday party. Sometimes as we get older life gets busier and we can "party" like we used to. If your relationship depends on whether I show up to a birthday party. That's more of a you problem
@jmcast3195
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! The friend has a little baby now
@tyronzasmith3735
Жыл бұрын
The point was she's always there for her friend, but her friend is not always there for her.
@shaysimon1763
9 ай бұрын
You’re the type of friend I wouldn’t want to
It sounds like your "friend" is a narcissist.
I freaked out at 40. 15 years later I wish I was 40!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good advices Steve 👏👏👏💕
@tomcrusie1091
Жыл бұрын
Hello
@name9601
Жыл бұрын
@@tomcrusie1091 Did you escape the
@tomcrusie1091
Жыл бұрын
@@name9601 escape the what?
Maybe she gonna watch this video and you not need to approach her
It's the braids and the striped shirt that makes the 35 yr old woman look like Pippi Longstocking's lol 😅 she obviously loves the look, mature it up a bit if you really want better results. 👍👍👍
@periswerimo8
Жыл бұрын
Any advice on how to do that?
Old is a goal ✅
She looks much older than 18, like maybe 25, she just wanted to be on TV. 😂
48 !! She looks like she could be 25
Great video thanks
Master Class. We have all kept milk in the fridge past its expiration date. You can use it for baking good breads and cakes or be done with it and pour it out. Either way, you don't have see it as a huge loss because they have already checked out. Even if they are present they might be toxic, like the sour milk. If you struggle with letting people go, that's okay. Just stop checking in. Stop prioritizing them. Reset the boundaries. It's called a 'lock change'. You simply have recoded access. You don't have to change your telephone number unless there is a bigger reason and need to do so. Just stop taking their calls. You are likely moving away they way they've moved away from you already. Trust and believe, they already know you are door mat, so when they cannot wipe their feet on you any longer they will get an immediate alert and try to find out 'what is wrong with you'. It is up to you if you want to tell them. This is something to void if they've habitually line-stepped over the course of the relationship. Just move on. You're a good person, you will find more people. Don't forget boundaries.
@misslc7864
Жыл бұрын
Great advice!!
That WW looks good for 35. U go girl.
Why do people expect? Especially from other people? I only expect from myself...period!
Not the dating app part though.. I have been single for almost 7 years and the least I do is stay away from dating app. I'd rather being single than meeting someone who God knows whether they are genuine people from the app or not, dont want to end up missing after seeing them 😆
Steve Harvey, is just so funny, taking to the man, about niddles, in his neck. Steve Harvey truth, is just brilliant
Loyalty has an expiration date
I love Steve harvey
It would to have a balanced life
Why are you single at 35 with the 18 looks? Red Flag!
Maybe she just had a baby and is too tired to go to a birthday party.
So lovely I love the girl❤
HI STEVE GLAD TO SEE YOU.. I LOST ALL CONTACT. THIS MAN STOLE MY PHONE. MADE MY FAMILY BREAK MY TABLED. BREAK MY LAPTOP. AND DOES NOT LET ANYBODY HELP ME OUT WITH THAT. I AM NOW WORKING AT THE OFFICE OF 10 YEARS TODAY. I AM GOING THROUGH VERRY DIFFICULT TIME WITH THESE PEOPLE. HOPE TO GET HELP TO LEAVE ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.
Her friend just had a baby! That is why she couldn't go to your party! If you got married and were pregnant, you would have those big parties too, but once the baby comes, the baby comes first! Your problem is that you never got married and started a family.
First of all, her image (hair style and clothing) is designed to make her look like a much young person. What 35 year old woman wear pig tails?
😂 wizard of OZ... knows it all😂😂
Online dating can be very ⚡ dangerous Uncle Steve! Bad advise! 🥺☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
The 35 year old younger looking lady has what my pastor would call a "Good Problem"...........
💯💯💯💯
Bye! Bye! You're not stuck in this relationship JUST LEAVE
Old is the goal now that's right!!!
that isn't a friend. if it's one-sided that isn't good. i had to end some friendships because of that same reason. you gotta end it! ppl don't change
very very smart advice for that 35yrs old lady
Steve is a foundtain of all kinds of information..Loyalty has an expiration date. Wow..Now I know... Beautiful 35 year old she looks good. I have her same issue accept I am in my 50's. Lol.
I never need friends coz they misleads drain you etc
Can someone please tell Corrine that I'm looking for her too?? If you're watching Corrine I'm here babe!!
@PatriciaR.E.
Жыл бұрын
Scammer!!!
it's not everyone that smile ☺ at you that's your friend sista run
She looks good for 35 years old.
Lol,hey girl
I disagree with Steve. Sometimes things may be happening in that other person's life that may not be known. Talk to your friend about how you feel. She may not know how you are being affected.
That not friend that. That someone that bother with u. Move on 😐
Maybe he should just marry that girlfriend of his to sign his 40th birthday. How are you afraid to get old and you are with someone you love
Proverbs 15:24 The way of life is above to the wise, that he may depart from hell beneath.
Hold Up!!! Come on Black Queen!!! Move On...
The tattoed neck guy dresses like a teenager cause he never grew up. No surprise he is scared of turning 40.
Her hair do makes her a lot younger and if she would dress different, you the deal…
I’m 61 Man I’m so cool with it 😂
I am Very like Steve Harvey
Hey girl how u doing? I'm just checking in, ok bye talk next time. that's what I do!
Good evening
Steve give a makeover to the 18yr old looking 35 yr old lady that wants to get a man
Wow!!! She got married after two weeks
😳😳 35 years 😭😭
Online dating is not the advice you should give such good lady. 🌚
@frost7490
Жыл бұрын
What's your advice?
@mokaLARE
Жыл бұрын
@@frost7490 go outside, meet people in person but not inn places like bars where the risk of finding dumb and goofy people is high.
@frost7490
Жыл бұрын
@Moka LARE The number of people that will see you outside is limited, a couple. But the chances online are massive.
@name9601
Жыл бұрын
There must be ways to narrow filter out the fools.
I'd like to meet the 2nd lady. She's cute!