Gabor Maté M.D - The Biology of Loss and Recovery

Stress Resilience Conference
In this presentation Dr. Gabor Maté discusses the impact of early childhood stress on the individual and societal levels, he also explores how to foster resilience. Q&A follows presentation.
Gabor Maté M.D is a physician and best-selling author whose books have been published in twenty languages internationally. His interests include child development, the mind-body unity in health and illness, and the treatment of addictions. Gabor has worked in palliative care and as a family physician, and for fourteen years practiced addiction medicine in Vancouver's Downtown Eastside.
As a speaker he regularly addresses professional and lay audiences throughout North America. Dr. Mate is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction and on the advisory board of Drugs over Dinner. He is the recipient of a number of awards, including a Simon Fraser University Outstanding Alumnus Award and an honorary degree from the University of Northern British Columbia. His most recent book, In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction, won the Hubert Evans Prize for literary nonfiction. He is Adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University. drgabormate.com/
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  • @indunair4426
    @indunair4426 Жыл бұрын

    Dr. Gabor Mate deserves a Nobel Prize. Period.

  • @maralynfarber2068
    @maralynfarber20682 жыл бұрын

    The sound of Gabor Mate’s voice is healing and soothing.

  • @traceymarie5536

    @traceymarie5536

    7 ай бұрын

    Soooo true. I’m ADDICTED to it. Is that bad? I don’t think so.

  • @robynhope219

    @robynhope219

    7 ай бұрын

    You have an addiction😅...no, it's not bad!

  • @surfinmuso37
    @surfinmuso374 жыл бұрын

    Gabor should be head of the international board of mental health, advising the planet. Legend.

  • @HamOnCan

    @HamOnCan

    3 жыл бұрын

    now you are talking

  • @TomTom-df9ph

    @TomTom-df9ph

    3 жыл бұрын

    Too true. He is the master of all mental diseases.

  • @HamOnCan

    @HamOnCan

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TomTom-df9ph I too come from the world he did, WW2, I've been in healing mode ever since , i'Ve been in healing mode ever since, no matter what i went through, because i couldn't go on until i figured it out music has been the therapist . . to without a word, melt the PSTD from our being, with wondress results

  • @ilovejesus7000

    @ilovejesus7000

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@HamOnCan Beautiful! What music have you found to be the most healing?

  • @HamOnCan

    @HamOnCan

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ilovejesus7000 music that touches our heart, music that lifts our spirits, some one's voice, songs that give us the goosebumps. . . or Passes the Canada Goose Bump Peace Keepers Test, suck up into Funkle Fest, now it all so coming together, and so i will share it with you here.

  • @ID1visor
    @ID1visor4 жыл бұрын

    *"As hard as it is to fathom, even the parents who abuse their kids, love their kids; they just don't know how else to love them, because they're acting out their own childhood programming."* That is heavy, truth often is.

  • @suesjoy

    @suesjoy

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, and sometimes the adult children of these abusers end up killing themselves directly or indirectly (via drugs and/or alcohol).. That’s what happened to a friend of mine. She died not even two months ago of liver failure due to alcohol abuse.

  • @suesjoy

    @suesjoy

    4 жыл бұрын

    I miss her so much

  • @jd-um4jw

    @jd-um4jw

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@suesjoy Sorry about your friend. It is very hard to lose someone that we love.

  • @wolfferoni

    @wolfferoni

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is why it's extremely important to get therapy and heal from your trauma, especially so if you decide to have kids. Break the cycle. I'm glad that it seems like way more people are aware of their childhood traumas these days and more people are choosing not to have children or to have them later in life when they're less stressed/ more able to deal with being a parent. The issue is that there are some people who don't recognise their trauma and perpetuate the cycle of abuse.

  • @evepeers7131

    @evepeers7131

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm sad to say it but no, my experience is that not all parents love their children.

  • @10manan
    @10manan3 жыл бұрын

    This brought tears to my eyes.What this man is saying is so simple and insighful..How did we all miss this.

  • @evyandonch553

    @evyandonch553

    Жыл бұрын

    We didn’t…. We knew this but the medical community silenced those of us who intuitively knew this. I KNEW this when I was a child.

  • @rubytuesday7653

    @rubytuesday7653

    Жыл бұрын

    I cry also....and I rewatch ,monthly.

  • @rubytuesday7653

    @rubytuesday7653

    Жыл бұрын

    @@evyandonch553 🌿🤍🌿

  • @jdittmann1977
    @jdittmann19777 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Mate has been called the "Saint of Vancouver"; his retirement from practicing medicine, while a huge loss for Vancouver, is truly a blessing to the rest of the world. Thank you Dr. Mate, and thank you Niroga Institute for sharing this with the world!

  • @niroga

    @niroga

    7 жыл бұрын

    You are most welcome! We love Dr Mate!

  • @narimafanficfan

    @narimafanficfan

    2 жыл бұрын

    the saint of Vancouver! waw I like the sound of that. these people need to be known recognized and remembered . he deserves the title.

  • @aprililes8355

    @aprililes8355

    Жыл бұрын

    His work is nothing but truly profound and short of genius!!!!

  • @brianvanlijf6007

    @brianvanlijf6007

    9 ай бұрын

    Only true narcissists would accept a title such as Saint... The man does great work, has great insight, aswell as intelligence and is in dire need to undo cultural mistakes Gabor Maté does not need a Jordan-Petersonesque quasi-religous following to get his point across the globe @@narimafanficfan​

  • @milenastoyanovabg
    @milenastoyanovabg6 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful soul! We need more of Gabor Maté in this world.

  • @erinloo8921

    @erinloo8921

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes I love Gabor

  • @bredacasey5866

    @bredacasey5866

    3 жыл бұрын

  • @Herkimerdiamond

    @Herkimerdiamond

    3 жыл бұрын

    Totally!!! I love this man!!!!!!!

  • @shanebrown9818

    @shanebrown9818

    2 жыл бұрын

    9

  • @monicapeery4615

    @monicapeery4615

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hypersensitivity is everywhere

  • @sabrinalovece3425
    @sabrinalovece34254 жыл бұрын

    My daughter committed suicide. I wish i had paid more attention to how sensitive she really was. This was an enlightening talk. For me, too late, but for many others, a Chance.......

  • @lucilleyork2428

    @lucilleyork2428

    3 жыл бұрын

    Iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

  • @4everu984

    @4everu984

    3 жыл бұрын

    Sending so much love 🤍🌟🤍 Thank you for your vulnerability, it can’t be easy to say. Losing a child, my heart beats with yours.

  • @evepeers7131

    @evepeers7131

    3 жыл бұрын

    Strength and love be with you dear lady.

  • @macq91

    @macq91

    3 жыл бұрын

    😥💔

  • @Sacred-Heart-of-Jesus829

    @Sacred-Heart-of-Jesus829

    3 жыл бұрын

    That is horrific, just horrific! I am so sorry for your loss!

  • @beverlylamon2169
    @beverlylamon21693 жыл бұрын

    When I was a child I would sit on my mother's lap. I asked her if I would get to big to sit on her lap, no she said. I still remember that.

  • @gu2755

    @gu2755

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry ey You know a lot would take what you are saying very light but this is very deep. I am touched, that made you feel unsafe ever since that time. When I have kids I will make sure I make them. Thank you ❤️

  • @denise2169
    @denise21692 жыл бұрын

    As a teacher, I always see a child who has an ‘oppositional defiant’ condition as a child who is acting out his buried anger and frustration to triggers they experience in the classroom or with other children. For them, this is a ‘safer’ place to let these emotions go. I try to make time to sit quietly with the child to process and validate their feelings and help them find positive solutions to any problem (usually being able to listen and talk with the other). Listening to Gabor Maté, I now see that I became a teacher to be loved by children because I did not feel attached to my own parents, who loved me but didn’t know what I needed.

  • @amswestyorkshire8048

    @amswestyorkshire8048

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you wish more like you.❤

  • @lyndamaxim6559

    @lyndamaxim6559

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing

  • @deepnosepicker
    @deepnosepicker6 жыл бұрын

    "The personality that we develop is not who we are. It's largely an adaptation."

  • @lynkent677

    @lynkent677

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Beeblebrox One Carl Jung..(The Collective Unconsious Mind)....Freud (Ego States)..Adler (Family dynamics)...Maslow (Hierarchy of Needs)....Karl Abraham (Oject Relations).....Melani Klein..(Child Analysis)...Donald Winnicott / John Bowlby..(Ego Splitting)(Mother/Child Relationship - "attachment theory)..Eric Berne (Transactional Analysis).... Then...........Eckhart Tolle.... Enjoy your reseach

  • @vintage_violet

    @vintage_violet

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@lynkent677 Great list, though I think I'd just start with Eckhart Tolle. :)

  • @coreycox2345

    @coreycox2345

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@lynkent677 Piaget (early childhood development)?

  • @renehenriksen1735

    @renehenriksen1735

    5 жыл бұрын

    And they wonder why people get sick, when they never can be themselves. So much for years of research what every one should be able to feel within themselves.

  • @wellnesspathforme6236

    @wellnesspathforme6236

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@lynkent677 Dr. Rick Malter (The Judge)

  • @SarahRayneDropz
    @SarahRayneDropz4 жыл бұрын

    I think he's the only person capable of saving me from myself.

  • @TomTom-df9ph

    @TomTom-df9ph

    3 жыл бұрын

    He too has suffered, as did his parents. This must be why his wisdom is so deep.

  • @sherylmac40

    @sherylmac40

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel exactly the same , his voice is so compassionate and he literally keeps me understanding my own addiction.

  • @sierrachism458
    @sierrachism4583 жыл бұрын

    I can listen to him a thousand times and every time I learn something new 👌🏼 Amazing! ♥️

  • @Melisa-gs4ep

    @Melisa-gs4ep

    3 ай бұрын

    Me too ❤

  • @mistywinds4471
    @mistywinds44713 жыл бұрын

    This has got to be one of the smartest doctors I've ever heard in my entire life honestly and I really do mean that❤💯

  • @HamOnCan

    @HamOnCan

    3 жыл бұрын

    trauma like his will do it every time. . . mine are similar , same war, different circumstancess. . . no education to speak of but the intuitve take on life could like wise add to his body of knowledge

  • @annbyrne3186

    @annbyrne3186

    3 жыл бұрын

    Grateful to have fallen upon this could one write to this doctor and if so where to

  • @annbyrne3186

    @annbyrne3186

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is same person again it's important please reply thankyou it's for you.

  • @HamOnCan

    @HamOnCan

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@annbyrne3186 check his website , i did from there

  • @liznorth4028

    @liznorth4028

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes...and not arrogant! Refreshing

  • @liloleist5133
    @liloleist51335 жыл бұрын

    How brave of Dr. Gabor Maté to share his own abandonment memories with us. It's his sublime emphatic connectivity to humanity, that motivates me to overcome my fear and strengthens my own healing journey.

  • @jemweeks5746

    @jemweeks5746

    4 жыл бұрын

    Mozart aurias

  • @Lemoncare

    @Lemoncare

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen to that.

  • @sandrai.9380
    @sandrai.93803 жыл бұрын

    This man made me so happy!!! Having a childhood with lots of anger and abuse. Diagnosed with AD(H)D and an immune disease. I finally have the feeling somebody understands me, Thank you dr. Mate and Niroga Institute!!!

  • @JOATiDetermined

    @JOATiDetermined

    3 жыл бұрын

    You’re not alone, friend.

  • @shahilagh

    @shahilagh

    2 жыл бұрын

    so what?!!! he understands u, so what?!! it doesn't resolve the love u never had

  • @phillipff9923

    @phillipff9923

    2 жыл бұрын

    Boy so helpful and affirming.🙄😑

  • @sandrai.9380

    @sandrai.9380

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@shahilagh the rest I have to do myself, that's how it works in life.

  • @ederorellana9919
    @ederorellana9919 Жыл бұрын

    This man is a gift to humanity.

  • @Shunyia
    @Shunyia4 жыл бұрын

    I wish somebody had given Gabor a drink of water! what a wise man. thank you

  • @AntjeCobbett

    @AntjeCobbett

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep, but what do you expect from mindless organizers and a mindless audience. Way to go!

  • @jaclynglasner5608
    @jaclynglasner56083 жыл бұрын

    His perspective is in itself healing on so many levels. He is a blessing.

  • @normavoyton3208
    @normavoyton32082 жыл бұрын

    "how do you compensate for not being wanted, by being needed" I've always done this by being a people pleaser.. I was abused as a child, mentally physically and sexually.. I agree mindfulness (to use the term in general) has been the only thing that's helped really. I've been on 5 medications at various times since 13. I haven't taken anything in 3 years and the fog has finally lifted.

  • @jenniferlee5871
    @jenniferlee58714 жыл бұрын

    This is the year of a Mr. Rogers in Hollywood. This is the year of Gabor Mate on youtube. Seems like I’m meeting several people lately who are listening to Dr. Mate. The more of him, The better. Could it be we are trading out the negative vanity of certain people for kind and wise others?

  • @domesticdiva1045

    @domesticdiva1045

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope so. 2020 has been a nightmare on so many levels of Social Disfunction..

  • @sandiebroomfield6245
    @sandiebroomfield62455 жыл бұрын

    I could sit at this man's feet and listen for hourz,pure genius snd beautiful spirit, Thank you

  • @sallyjohnson620

    @sallyjohnson620

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah me too. He has a calming voice. And it’s the truth. He is a beautiful person. Very helpful. Unlike the doctors in the US especially. He is a humanitarian!! ❤️😁

  • @karensealy9782

    @karensealy9782

    Жыл бұрын

    He would help you up to sit on a chair too

  • @danielakrebs3729
    @danielakrebs37294 жыл бұрын

    I learned all that in dance and movement therapy school, which by the way is a great form of recovery because one can affect the brain by moving the body to new feelings. You, Gabor, als a physician, explain all that on a fairly deep level from the sight of a doctor. I thank you for your courage to step out of the common medicine pot and share your view and your story. That was a great talk! I feel stronger to teach now. So thank you very much. You are a blessing.

  • @eclipsedawn9
    @eclipsedawn95 жыл бұрын

    He should be on a bull horn all over the world. Share this with everyone who will listen

  • @Technological_Monkey
    @Technological_Monkey9 ай бұрын

    Gabor and his peers should and will go down in history as a genius in this field in the same way Einstein & Newton went down in history for science & laws of the universe. Just for laws of human emotions and the attachments to psychical illness. The man is a godsend.

  • @itzenormous
    @itzenormous7 жыл бұрын

    Gabor Mate is the greatest.

  • @niroga

    @niroga

    7 жыл бұрын

    He is a gift to us all!

  • @flowgo5299

    @flowgo5299

    7 жыл бұрын

    I love this guy! I am fan, and he is the greatest rock star, lol, ever

  • @briancampion4389

    @briancampion4389

    7 жыл бұрын

    Niroga Institute I felt as if you were talking directly to me, and understand my addiction problems on a whole new level. thank you

  • @gordonrolandpeden3058

    @gordonrolandpeden3058

    6 жыл бұрын

    Agree but i always get the feeling I'm listening to Harry Dean Stanton

  • @johnjakle943

    @johnjakle943

    6 жыл бұрын

    yes

  • @eileenmeitzner8598
    @eileenmeitzner85983 жыл бұрын

    I truly believe God led me to this man. He is amazing!!! I’m going to watch every seminar he gives and read every book he has written and recommends!!! . So lucky to have found him at this time in my life!!! Eileen A. Me…….

  • @JOATiDetermined
    @JOATiDetermined5 жыл бұрын

    I thank my lucky stars I found your work. I now see how the people I have gravitated towards for self help on this platform have been impacted by your work. Thank you for your selfless acts of teaching.

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    4 жыл бұрын

    The whole point is not to be selfless.

  • @shahilagh
    @shahilagh2 жыл бұрын

    When he said the name of Eckhart I began to cry ... Because all of these people tell the problems I experienced but don't tell me what to do .. But Eckhart touched my heart by telling me what to do ...

  • @makkos666
    @makkos6664 жыл бұрын

    This mans mind is a beautiful universe itself & its hypnotizing to watch and listen, with how much dignity & humility he passes on his vision. Love makes the world go round ...

  • @bmade78
    @bmade783 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Gabor you will save human kind from human kind, being the first and only doctor or person who very much so does care for all man kind. Our leadership need to take note or just step aside! I love you for being the best person to know and describe why I am the way I was. Just in these couple of days of finding you on KZread I can honestly tell you that for the first time in all my addict years I don't feel the way I did couple of days ago. In just listening to you through the KZread I feel a sense of comfort and relief that I'm not to blame or be ashamed of myself because of my addiction. Forever you will have a special place in my heart and soul, thank you so very much Dr. Gabor much love, respect and gratitude sent your way. Your the bestest estest you know this!

  • @salome3049
    @salome30494 жыл бұрын

    I used to be often sick as a child...what an insight!

  • @jennybensaidane922
    @jennybensaidane9227 жыл бұрын

    Word do not describe this brilliance

  • @niroga

    @niroga

    7 жыл бұрын

    We think so too.

  • @johnjakle943

    @johnjakle943

    6 жыл бұрын

    yes

  • @lrrrruleroftheplanetomicro6881

    @lrrrruleroftheplanetomicro6881

    5 жыл бұрын

    let's use several words instead.

  • @lynkent677

    @lynkent677

    5 жыл бұрын

    Integrity!

  • @Lisboooa

    @Lisboooa

    5 жыл бұрын

    Life changing information. I wish I knew this years ago...

  • @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations
    @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations4 жыл бұрын

    Coming from a wealthy Narcissitic family, I'm the last out of 6 kids alive and the baby at 54. I didn't have any idea till a Narc moved in with me 6 years ago I found out what a Narc was and w.t.f. happened in my family. My brother and sister chked out at 28 and 31. To have all this come out in 48 hours changed the world forever. I dissociated till 12 years old and still do when I need to. I am addicted to C. Meth and I have tried to stop but I want to feel and I'm numb without it. I know I'm killing my body but before Meth I haven't cried in 30 years I'm serious. Also have ADHD .and P.t.s.d. Thank you so much for your wisom. Is there anyone who might share your wisom ? I'm done with therapy they have no clue . Lov

  • @a.s.4601

    @a.s.4601

    3 жыл бұрын

    You will do fine. You have the tools to reason this out. Transcend.

  • @bobwoww8384

    @bobwoww8384

    3 жыл бұрын

    Don’t expect any change in US policy or practice anytime soon. Move to Canada where his clinic is. No progressive addiction therapy here, only pharmaceutical support.

  • @beautilfuldoveonearth5447

    @beautilfuldoveonearth5447

    3 жыл бұрын

    You need to love yourself more. Prayers darling

  • @totostamopo

    @totostamopo

    3 жыл бұрын

    Honestly LL, I would check out the work of Melanie Tonia Evans who uses Quantum tools to shift energy from the body. I have found it to be the most effective trauma therapy there is. Even after years of abuse and addiction, this works. In the case of severe substance abuse- you will most likely need additional support- but these tools are incredibly effective at getting you back in your body tending to your emotions. Look her up on the internet. xoxoxo

  • @beautilfuldoveonearth5447

    @beautilfuldoveonearth5447

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@totostamopo thank you

  • @scrumptiousjdp
    @scrumptiousjdp5 жыл бұрын

    @26:51. All you need to know! "The necessary condition[s] for optimal development, which is so rarely available in North America, are parents who are [1] emotionally available, [2] consistently available, [3] non-stressed, [4] non-depressed, and [5] mutually responsive or attuned to the child." Having children was both my impetus and my excuse to figure out how to be a calm, happy person. It did take a little work. Thankfully, somehow I knew this was a critical part of being a responsible parent. Thank you for doing the work and spreading this critical message, Gabor Mate!

  • @sheilapeevers4969
    @sheilapeevers49695 жыл бұрын

    Gabor, you are a legend xxx

  • @nathananderson8720
    @nathananderson87204 ай бұрын

    This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZread channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,969 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

  • @elizabethfreer1948
    @elizabethfreer19484 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Mate is beyond brilliant..these are so complex issues I have to re listen to absorb it all..that’s a good thing! thank you God for creating such a contributor..

  • @jrsworld2515
    @jrsworld25155 жыл бұрын

    I came to this conclusion trying to understand my three adopted girls behavior from their early trauma. Society does not understand and this of lack of comprehension creates an abusive environment for those of us trying to heal from the original traumas and the grief from the losses. The common social responses are tragic in my opinion, I pray people begin to understand. Thank you so so much for your work. I think this is the single most important issue facing humanity today. God bless you 💦🙏🏼💦

  • @katiehewitt1541
    @katiehewitt15414 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for explaining the sensitivity I was born sensitive and also abused and that’s why I have trouble more so than less sensitive types people have judged me for how long it can take for me to heal it’s my sensitivity that makes me have trouble because I give too much and I’m very sensitive I see and feel things to the fullest so it affects my resilience and I’m interested in reputation or careers and I get judged I’m happiest with creativity and just being myself I love nature and do notice things most people ignore or don’t see

  • @jennytaylor3324
    @jennytaylor33244 жыл бұрын

    The way this man substantiates astute and sensitive observations with first-hand experience of the biological consequences, makes him utterly compelling to listen to. I have to keep pausing the clips to take in what is being said in all its depth and enormity.

  • @seeker2716
    @seeker27163 жыл бұрын

    FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANTASTIC INSIGHTS AND WORK!!!! DEEEEEP DEEEEEP GRATITUDE to you, Dr Gabor!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏From Belgium

  • @CindyEdwards-ex9po
    @CindyEdwards-ex9poАй бұрын

    I suffer from clinical depression, GAD and ptsd. I told my primary care physician that I scored a 9 on the ACE and she didn't even know what it was. At age 32 I had stage 4 hypertension, then I had a premature ovarian failure and now suffer from osteoporosis. I kept telling her I was extremely stressed and she would not prescribe hormones because she said I was too young. The side effect from no hormones is osteoporosis. Thank you Dr. Mate for giving me insight! Your advice has helped tremendously with my healing process!

  • @silencestudio6993
    @silencestudio69934 жыл бұрын

    thank you for all you said, especially at min 31 it resonates! and yes: it is not genetic!!! it IS multigenerational trauma. thank you for making this point!

  • @pistolen87
    @pistolen875 жыл бұрын

    This man is a genius!

  • @karonpowell750
    @karonpowell7505 жыл бұрын

    Thank you God for helping the world by giving this man what it takes to heal!

  • @SandraLevine-xf9fq
    @SandraLevine-xf9fq4 ай бұрын

    I am memorized by this man - I have learned so much from him - he has become my guru I so want to work for him, to meet him

  • @angelagates2056
    @angelagates20562 жыл бұрын

    He is so amazing at what he does and he actually gave me I will purpose for a living I’m not I am not crazy for having all these emotions and resentments from childhood. He’s a miracle worker I wish there were more of them

  • @theinternet1424
    @theinternet14247 жыл бұрын

    I love you, Gabor! Keep perpetuating that radical honest love and keep the spirit of R.D. Laing alive! You are the best we have now.

  • @happylindsay4475

    @happylindsay4475

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes The Internet- I have never forgotten how 'The Divided Self' by RD Laing impacted me. I have come to these exact conclusions based upon my own life experiences and dealing with the myopia of the mental health system that is so afraid to unite thinking and feeling with their treatment of individuals that it should be criminal. They push outmoded partial compartmentalized views of the Self, physiology, psychology, biology and society culrure etc...as the complete truth- when taken apart- are just incomplete snap shots at best. Dr. Gabor is making some important claims and can back this up by his unique work and life experiences. His honesty and willingness to be self reflective is a gift to us all.

  • @carolinetapia8568
    @carolinetapia85683 ай бұрын

    THANK YOU SO MUCH DR. MATÉ🕊️

  • @PeterBrodie
    @PeterBrodie4 жыл бұрын

    Gabor Maté is my addiction recently! But where was his glass of water? I thought it was quite clear he needed a little lubrication, and he said in his talk that he had such a need to feel wanted, that he could never say no! So he kept on talking without interrupting his delivery to ask for one. Well that was three and a half years ago as I write this, and I know from his more recent videos that he's had a drink since then!🥴😑

  • @bradmcewen
    @bradmcewen5 жыл бұрын

    After going through a narcissistic experience, this elevates the awareness that almost everything revolves around dopomine & cortisol levels for both the aggressor and the target. Stress. The root of it all.

  • @jokers7890

    @jokers7890

    Жыл бұрын

    environmental stress caused by disconnection from our environment (powerlessness)

  • @JoJoJo789
    @JoJoJo7892 жыл бұрын

    Gabor Mate, you are truly a gift from God. Thank you universe for this amazing man 👌👌👌👌

  • @gerdapretorius4442
    @gerdapretorius44424 жыл бұрын

    The sharing of this video is kindly appreciated. Kind Regards to Gabor and supporting fellow healers from South Africa

  • @alanawright958
    @alanawright9583 жыл бұрын

    We do need more people like him he’s wonderful

  • @dianapana718
    @dianapana7184 жыл бұрын

    Love how he mixes psychology medicine and Buddhism all together. Well done

  • @zuzannasymonowicz1752

    @zuzannasymonowicz1752

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think indigenous approach as well.

  • @79eyre
    @79eyre Жыл бұрын

    God bless dr. Mate, he is so penetrating and helpful

  • @user-hm5hg9jy2t
    @user-hm5hg9jy2t3 жыл бұрын

    It is awesome that what he proves biologically what "new agers" has talked about for 100 years and what hinduism has spoken about for 5000 years or so. We live in an age when science and religion meet each other without hostility.

  • @GloriaChurchWellness
    @GloriaChurchWellness Жыл бұрын

    So Amazing! Thankyou Dr. Gabore!

  • @danord4213
    @danord42133 жыл бұрын

    Makes me cry. So much I can relate to. So much poignant valuable insights. Such a humanitarian approach to health care. So important!

  • @TomTom-df9ph

    @TomTom-df9ph

    3 жыл бұрын

    This happens with me too with all his videos. Maybe a good thing to release our negative emotions. The tears just pour out a few minutes into all his videos.

  • @Elizabethd69
    @Elizabethd695 жыл бұрын

    I love Gabor, his voice is so relaxing and his slight accent I could listen to him forever and he has so much to say . He is so interesting also .

  • @joywilliams4014
    @joywilliams40143 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Mate is the most brilliant Dr I’ve seen. Grateful for his work and the fact that he is sharing his wisdom on the many videos and interviews.thank you 🙏❤️

  • @johnlocke4847

    @johnlocke4847

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think he's the only person capable of saving me from myself.

  • @ronaldduanecochran8921
    @ronaldduanecochran89215 жыл бұрын

    Someone once said to, “ Value others as much as we value ourselves in relationships “ called Caring !

  • @zankeats4438
    @zankeats4438 Жыл бұрын

    Such a brilliant fellow with a beautiful mind and humility pouring out. If only the whole world could hear him and put his knowledge to use. May the Lord richly bless him!

  • @donnadallariva8377

    @donnadallariva8377

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely agree , Social media can be a platform. Amen 🙏

  • @rachelcaldwell330
    @rachelcaldwell330 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely 🙏 Namaste Gabor matè is absolutely the most compassionate knowledgeable LEGEND for the whole world. I listen and learn from him daily to be a better person. I'm an addict at rehab and I am so so grateful to have been shown Gabor whenever I feel the pull to use (which is actually the thoughts, isnt it) I listen to 1 of his talks, I get so into it i forget the addict telling me to use. He's a blessing to me he is a blessing to ALL. Ive even sent a few of his talks to addicts i care about.... and they didn't even get peeved at me Thankgod. THANK YOU GABOR MATÈ

  • @nyomansabun1136
    @nyomansabun1136Ай бұрын

    Absolute gold Gabor. I had so many aha moments. You had me remembering events i had totally forgotten. Thank you and spoken beautifully.

  • @elizabethfreer1948
    @elizabethfreer19484 жыл бұрын

    Makes allot of sense to me now..an adopted child from an instutiion left a different imprint than most biological children and their parents like my children..I am grateful that my intuition as a parent was attachment with them physical and emotional five minutes after they were born..thankfully modeled that intuition raising them..god shined on me..they are not perfect..but their “inner souls” are good and honored..strength courage to all. I spent 13 past months in self exploration spirituality and spirituality..WoW an amazing healing transformation..thank you for further enlightenment..

  • @neliposao4989
    @neliposao49894 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this lecture. It opened my mind, and made me cry a lot. I realized how much certain life episodes shaped me as I am today.

  • @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations

    @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ditto

  • @amralaasaleh
    @amralaasaleh3 жыл бұрын

    Gabor Maté is a name written in gold in the book of world history

  • @ladyalveena
    @ladyalveena2 жыл бұрын

    Gabor I could listen to you all day. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @debbiejoseph5351
    @debbiejoseph5351 Жыл бұрын

    I wish I could sit down and speak to you… You have taught me so much… Most special, thank you

  • @MiaowMcDonald
    @MiaowMcDonald3 жыл бұрын

    this man.... such a beautiful soul.

  • @graemes813
    @graemes8133 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for these wonderful insights into what it is to be human.

  • @svetlanalevinzon884
    @svetlanalevinzon8843 жыл бұрын

    Legend !!!!!👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @aminahrolsdorph8551
    @aminahrolsdorph85514 жыл бұрын

    I am So Feeling Gratitude & Inspiration from Dr Gabor Reflections & Teachings 💚 I respect The Honestly

  • @sharparts8637
    @sharparts86372 жыл бұрын

    I know it's a trivial point but I love that he asked them to turn the projector off. Gabor mate has Adhd and I think that he would have found that distracting. This was a great example to me of how to just be assertive and ask for what you need, instead of being distracted and then feeling bad about it afterwards.

  • @manie54321
    @manie543215 жыл бұрын

    I am grateful to you for sharing this, Dr. Gabor Maté. I think he’s brilliant.

  • @helensullivan2583
    @helensullivan25834 жыл бұрын

    Getting to the root cause 🙏🏻

  • @saloshniejagathesan1577
    @saloshniejagathesan15772 жыл бұрын

    Such a powerful and profound talk! Thank you Dr Mate. I am looking at people and myself through new eyes now... Someone complained about a alcoholic staff member to me the other day... I listened without commenting. But now I would attempt to explain the reasoning behind why people behave like the way they do and not just be quiet. So much hurt out there.. We need a more holistic approach to health care. Very difficult in countries such as mine. Jhb, South Africa

  • @anandiheal6436
    @anandiheal64362 жыл бұрын

    Inspiring way to consider how the level of parenting impacts our children°•♡

  • @domesticdiva1045
    @domesticdiva10453 жыл бұрын

    You are brilliant. I’m an alcoholic and I am working at understanding why. It is painful and shameful ..You have offered me some good understanding. Thank You . And no My MD doesn’t know shit about the connection Of the body and mind.

  • @SuperLammens

    @SuperLammens

    3 жыл бұрын

    all addictions are sensitive people having to much pain in this unsensitive system where everyone is stressed and caring is difficult in stressfull conditions where people are struggling to be a rat in the ratrace

  • @cherylmoschitto_outwardsilence

    @cherylmoschitto_outwardsilence

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi @Domesticdiva10 Addiction, the alcohol, the drugs, gambling, eating, etc... is just a symptom of our dis-ease. If people stopped the stigma and had more compassion and love maybe we would have more insight on how to function and deal with our dis-eases more gracefully. God bless. Hope you're doing well, today!💜🙏🏼

  • @Herkimerdiamond
    @Herkimerdiamond3 жыл бұрын

    Dr Ganor Maté is brilliant and what he says is so obvious that I don’t understand how the world didn’t see it yet.

  • @susannovello2431
    @susannovello24312 жыл бұрын

    Excellent!! I am buying all your books! I have always believed that the world got much worse pertaining to behavior. Addictions, depression, anxiety. I believe in the 60’s when women’s lib started to evolve and mothers began working etc When strangers began babysitting and really not carrying a lot of problems have developed. I am a woman but I have believed this for years. Thank you for verifying what I thought for years

  • @BethsJoy
    @BethsJoy3 жыл бұрын

    I love this so much his words speak to my soul like nothing else

  • @TomTom-df9ph

    @TomTom-df9ph

    3 жыл бұрын

    Every one if his talks and videos are priceless. Whatever pain he has experienced had helped him to help others.

  • @johnjakle943
    @johnjakle9437 жыл бұрын

    I've skipped AA and listening to gabor mate let's me hear the TRUTH which is more important than "sobriety".

  • @anapoles1873

    @anapoles1873

    5 жыл бұрын

    John Jakle are you still sober? Curious

  • @ginadean5696

    @ginadean5696

    5 жыл бұрын

    Are you sober? curious as well

  • @claudialutz6793
    @claudialutz67932 жыл бұрын

    Thank you with all my heart , Dr. Gabor Mate’, you are the first man who expresses what I am feeling my whole live. 🙏❤️‍🩹

  • @lesliekennedy3788
    @lesliekennedy37887 жыл бұрын

    Very deep truth.

  • @dianaboughner7977
    @dianaboughner79775 жыл бұрын

    👍💖Thank you so very much for sharing this wonderful understanding of the connections between emotional trauma and physical illness. I can attest to the fact of genetic predisposition of an illness compounded with repeated medical failure to address the severity of traumatic impact on top of the presenting illness. Gabor Mate you are a gift to this world.

  • @lisatowe778
    @lisatowe778 Жыл бұрын

    Love listening to this man! I also love how people refer to trump as a narcissist but won’t call Obama one although the amount of unconstitutional over reach by a president was far greater with Obama. He stated plainly if congress wouldn’t give him what he wanted he would do it anyway, and people cheered. HE would fundamentally transform the face of America, and people cheered. There will be those who love or hate this comment but I defy them to factually prove me wrong. I am a firm constitutionalist and judge all power by that supreme law of the land.

  • @alisonjones9751
    @alisonjones97513 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Gabor for putting so much of our emotions, thoughts and actions into words that simplify in such a way it is easy to understand, where your words bring clarity and peace to so many of us.

  • @Inner-wellbeing
    @Inner-wellbeing3 жыл бұрын

    Love Gabor ❤️

  • @terrieanndiehl58
    @terrieanndiehl582 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for showing with humor of how "they" want to keep "dumbing us down." I'm an American who can and does think for herself. Thank my trauma with abandonment & resulting attachment diagnosis for allowing this fact! You inspire me!

  • @kidchalleen4250
    @kidchalleen42508 ай бұрын

    "The more sensitive the child, the less has to happen for that child to be in pain."

  • @michellecojocariu9471
    @michellecojocariu94712 жыл бұрын

    I am able now to understand my issues and it really helps me relate to people better. I tried all kinds of therapy, even psychodynamic- still not working fully for me. Cannot thank you enough for helping me make sense of my life. Big hugs

  • @7550375503
    @75503755034 жыл бұрын

    Humans & musical instruments require frequent tuning. Gabor offers a new way to tune.

  • @faizar1777
    @faizar17773 жыл бұрын

    Very grateful to hear him today! 🙏

  • @mfr58
    @mfr585 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely fantastic description of the mechanics of health and disease, the adapted ego and what follows in terms of individual character formation and the implications for social behaviours and structures. War, what it is, the biology of loss...... At 59.44 he begins a description of the motivation for sociopolitical activism, it's an understanding I've come to in myself, but never heard articulated openly before. It behooves us all to pay attention to this. Be crystal clear about why we want to help others and to effect change in the world. He beautifully explains the difference between being driven by personal rage to address a perceived social wrong -which may be inappropriate- and a sense of outrage -which is a healthy manifestation of compassion, for the persecution of fellow creatures.

  • @claudiapennisi3844
    @claudiapennisi38444 жыл бұрын

    This is very eye-opening for me..I lost the affection and availabilty of my mother at age five. My mother had been recently diagnosed with MS. I am now also diagnosed with the same illness. Stress, loss and abandonment are the key triggers in my life.

  • @robynhope219

    @robynhope219

    7 ай бұрын

    Wow, MS has usually no family history...must be environmental.

  • @6219rey
    @6219rey5 жыл бұрын

    Truly enlightening. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @tingtingshiny2877
    @tingtingshiny28777 жыл бұрын

  • @jylyhughes5085

    @jylyhughes5085

    4 жыл бұрын

    Mine also

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