“Being cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest impairments we can suffer. Along with our ability to feel our own pain go our best hopes for healing, dignity and love. What seems nonadapative and self-harming in the present was, at some point in our lives, an adaptation to help us endure what we then had to go through. If people are addicted to self-soothing behaviours, it's only because in their formative years they did not receive the soothing they needed. Such understanding helps delete toxic self-judgment on the past and supports responsibility for the now. Hence the need for compassionate self-inquiry.” - Gabor Maté, in "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction". This man deserves a Nobel Prize for his work.

@Mokshafromdurga

Ай бұрын

I don’t think so. His writing doesn’t reflect his clear thinking. Childhood traumas are used by most therapists. We get traumatized every other day because we live in an ugly world, which is actually a prison. He doesn’t suggest a remedy from regular traumatic attacks.

I worked those 12 steps over and over for 20 years and I did stay sober but still was a very sick person.

@sherrilawrence662

11 ай бұрын

ME TOO!!! I actually got much sicker

@chrca2023

10 ай бұрын

Bill w. Quit drinking as a result of psychedellic therapy in the 1950's before tim leary and the hippes ruined it. The scientists and dr.s were making great advances in mental health and addiction, with psychedellic therapy. Then the government made the medicine illegal because of the hippies. True facts. So glad they are finally doing the research again.

@sallywalsh94

6 ай бұрын

Although I've never had to battle substance addictions, I have had shame for most of my life and incredible rage and terror. I read a book called healing the shame that binds you but it also incorporates the 12 steps but in regards to shame. It was so amazing and transformational. Ye guys are inspiring for the decision ye take to stay sober ❤

@robertevans6182

5 ай бұрын

I have tried it all but Man when I came across this brilliant man my life started to get better. This information is a game changer!

@aliciajones7078

4 ай бұрын

Im in recovery, working those steps too and have been sick since getting clean

He's right about they don't address trauma in 12-step. You can talk about it but it's difficult to process it unless it's a resentment.

I was once stuck for decades. It was definitely my identity, and it the trauma stunted my growth. Now that I'm no longer stuck, I'm trying to figure out what I like, who I am, and my purpose without that.

@christopherkenway

Ай бұрын

Me too. I’m 53. I have no clue who I am, how to love, to be loved. I still pick sick partners which always ends in me being hurt now that I’m actually in here. It’s very lonely.

Gabor Mate you make me cry any time I watch your talks, I feel so touched and hug my hurt inner child and feel her pain. I love you man. You are an amazing man on this earth😭🥰🥰🥰

@carolgeorge6409

3 ай бұрын

@zoe~same for me Dr Mate’ has helped me and so many ! I love you Dr. Mate’

"And even in the 12-step programs, they rarely deal with the trauma", says it all. Sad but true. 12-step groups too often just become the repetitive worship of books written by the "founders" 84 and 70 yrs. ago, and avoid dealing with/working through the emotional sources of shame/guilt/self-loathing that trauma generates in a child automatically. We live in a traumatizing society and with multiple generations of unwitting trauma survivors. Gabor's breakthrough work is a blessing to recovering addicts/alcoholics. Thank you, both!

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZread channel 11 months ago about self development. Now I have 2,036 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

I love Gabor Mate. He has taught me so much about myself! 💕🙏🏼‼️⭐️

@janetcorbin2642

11 ай бұрын

Phenomenal èxperience, education, (most of all experience/s I think.) ❤ Love him, so much empathy, compassion and of course a Hungarian voice. Having Montessori experience a soft voice is critical, when anyone is harsh, loud, unfortunately very quickly goes right over most people's heads, including mine!!

@janetcorbin2642

11 ай бұрын

Sorry, women on here are very loud, makes it impossible to understand whatever is being said by them. 😂

@mollycote1021

11 ай бұрын

@@janetcorbin2642 I concur!!!

In my early home, there was both violence & neglect, mostly violence, so I have carried a lot of fear, anxiety, ANGER & mostly SELF CONTEMPT. Self esteem work hahelped a lot BUT the early damaging conditioning just goes on & on, so I often have to use the self-help tools I learned in 12 step Recovery. I'm 85, so I don't expect to become completely Recovered but things are getting better all the time & I expect to reach my end as a happy guy. Nonduality is showing me things that Recovery work never could have so I feel lucky to have found both 12 stp. Recovery & now NONDUALITY. Good luck everyone.....🥰

@cestbon3419

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for your transparency… I would just like to speak my admiration to your capacity to be so generous of yourself!!! You are an amazing person - clearly, with the desire to become “whole” even to this stage of your life!!! I discovered dr Gabor late in my life, too, as a result of the same desire in my heart to become “Whole”… again, thank you: for you!❤️

That’s so true the trauma is never dealt with that’s where compassion comes in and when it does when it’s authentic that is it touches the patient in a way that it’s never been treated with before. Called kindness/respect. Some people carry a tone in their voice that can draw out the trauma and bring it to its knees.

ACOA was the only Recovery program that ALLOWED me to honestly examine my own parents to see exactly how & why they damaged me with their very bad, inadequate parenting. The other 12 step groups maintained an attitude of ignoring, excusing or COVERING UP the behaviors of parents & parenting. Alice Miller helped me finally see & understand where my parents & their parents WENT WRONG. It was & still is a blessing to finally KNOW why I turned out so BAD & now, how to correct my parents mistakes. It might take the rest of my life, but I intend to eventually UNDO the mental/emotional damages my parents left me with.

@dragonstereo1

11 ай бұрын

Z😊😊

@dragonstereo1

11 ай бұрын

😊 15:05

@susanjohnson8290

3 күн бұрын

ACOA helped me to realize what was wrong. I knew my childhood was not good, but I didn’t have the words to describe it.

Gabor's new book, "The Myth of Normal", is a must read for any serious recovering addict/alcoholic or other interested party. And that's from a recovering alcoholic addict psychiatrist/addiction medicine specialist. Thank you!

@robynhope219

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, it’s a good book, but Bessel’s book is more helpful..maybe bc I have no addictions.

Thank You Dr. Mate for your exceptional understanding of Trauma, a very grateful follower.

I can definitely say that the 12- step programs do not deal with the trauma..and healing...😓🙏

@Progenitor1979

11 ай бұрын

Yes and no. It really depends on the practioner(and teacher) but the foundations are there. For instance looking at 'resentment' is a deep practice..

@starseeds8121

11 ай бұрын

I agree

@cindyc2024

11 ай бұрын

Not only it doesn't adress trauma it creates even more trauma , guilt, shame, black and white/all or nothing thinking. On top of feeding a negative self image and identifying as " sick for life" or an addict for life etc....

@maryannribble3254

10 ай бұрын

The 12-Step process did transform though when it compassionately began to learn that relapse is a part of recovery - not a disease - not a failure - but a part of a living and transformative ; fluid process . I dare to say that every human could use a trauma informed therapist off and on throughout their lives …

@nancyadams4358

10 ай бұрын

It sure did help with staying off booze for me,and yes I needed far more help than AA

Very impacted by this mans understanding, wisdom and his honesty, beginning to understand so much about myself and family and our culture(US)...should be taught to all of us not only to professionals certainly and lay people so we can teach to any one we encounter day to day,

Thank you, Joe, for letting me listen to Dr. Maté...I can’t get over the fact that I have discovered this amazing sage!

This man is utterly brilliant!

Child in the womb experiences everything the mother does. When i was in the womb, my father was rarely present, when he was, i know he got drunk and beat up my mom at least once. Once is enough to an unborn infant, to cause "trauma" to happen in the child. My dads absence is probably why I don't feel safe in the world. Always on the look out for danger. Feel like no one has my back. Etc. I wish to learn more from Dr. Mate. He makes more sense to me about things, and my own conditions , than anyone i have tried to understand.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

Imagine being pregnant during a war? My mother was!

Very good content. Organization ,+Humor to help heal trauma .

beautiful compilation, thank you _A_ keep up

I can say first hand the 12 step program I am a member of we do deal with the trauma. I know most people have experience with AA but NA works differently.

I wish this video was cut apart by subject. too many things all in one. I believe it would be much more beneficial to people searching for help if it was labelled specifically to what it has inside.

Wonderful! Thank you for this. May I ask what is the name of the first chant in the video? May I also ask if someone know if someone have been healed from inguinal hernia without surgery? God bless all of you.

Not happy about the zoom training. I think there's a better way to insert commercials than that.

Where is the rest of Gabor Mate speech… got cut off when he was just getting started.

As a metaphysician, i could simply and easily exptess what trauma is. Yet i am not commissioned to do so. © Anvari

may I ask what is nonduality therapy. never heard of it. thanks.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

Google

Anyone know who he interviewed around 1.06, the guy making funny videos?

what is ACOA recovery programme, please?

@juliesimmons5171

11 ай бұрын

Adult children of alcoholics, 12 step recovery fellowship

My ACE score is 8.

Do not like how you inserted a Zoom meeting, wth?

If its to ulgly, its better to drop it , i think , y we smoke stuff it's simple !

Maybe it's time for woke Democrats to face their own trauma?

@Progenitor1979

11 ай бұрын

And the horrific violence it supports

God squad got a fetishism with the number 12

I was looking forward to studying/listening/learning about trauma from Mate for an hour. Don't be fooled y'all--the title only lists Gabor Mate--he's only speaking in the first 20 minutes. Disappointing.

Trust? My narcissist mother abandoned me?

Drop the ads please...make your money elsewhere

If you keep talking and talking about it it’s means you’re stuck

You are indeed commenting on politcs when you, however subtly, condemn Trump during an election cycle. I know you include Clinton but your point was made

Also btw, although I respect you and ideas,, your inability to contextualizr Covid hysteria within the framework of developmental trauma is startling. You are the expert but perhaps fear of mortality might be worth investigating. Innit?

Mr Glasses: no. 7 is to have an (ancient) wank while thinking about Gabor Mate. I promise it will provide ultimate liberation and unlimited wealth. Great idea btw, acronyms have saved me at least 7 times!!! Miraculous...

MAKING MONEY FROM HIS OWN UHEALED TRAUMA

Yes,but he had merried to his grandchild, not the biologically,but .the granddaughter.. I speak abaout Morgan Freeman!

Why do these women yell?

There’s no evidence for his claims.

God Help Prince Harry.

Why bring up politics.... I'm disappointed with Gabor...even he who thinks he's sorted is not... Obviously he has biases.... Nobody is normal.... Including him

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

I am sure it's true...he is part of the human race and as imperfect as the rest of us.