Perinatal Services BC - Biology of Loss: Recognizing Impaired Attachments & Fostering Resilience

Presenting at the March 2016 Perinatal Services BC Healthy Mothers & Healthy Babies conference, renowned speaker and author Dr.Gabor Maté illuminates the sources of developmental challenges, childhood and adult mental disorders, and physical health issues as originating in the prenatal, perinatal, and early childhood periods. Based on Dr. Maté’s bestselling books and on current neuroscientific and developmental research, the presentation focuses on how we can prevent maldevelopment through attuned parenting and restore and foster resilience in children already facing developmental challenges.

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  • @SueDamron
    @SueDamron2 жыл бұрын

    This man speaks to the human heart directly!! His way of being and speaking, heals the person listening to him! A true gift to all of us!

  • @donaldmcdaniel3617

    @donaldmcdaniel3617

    Жыл бұрын

    I have no idea what 12.33

  • @birukfeleke1154

    @birukfeleke1154

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@donaldmcdaniel3617 8rrddtrrfrydetyeedwytrrsse8😅yee😅eeer8year w😅rdey77trrr666eee666ytyt6UK ttee😅et8rr7rddsf6upon rr66r😅rere6😮reeeedr6e66r48

  • @dianacudby7290

    @dianacudby7290

    10 ай бұрын

    I listen to his talks every night, for as long as possible, until I fall asleep 😊

  • @quasimchambers
    @quasimchambers5 жыл бұрын

    He’s one of the real ones

  • @wambuialice957

    @wambuialice957

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agree

  • @kathylunzman2547

    @kathylunzman2547

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep

  • @NatalieVasilyev

    @NatalieVasilyev

    3 жыл бұрын

    It makes so much sense. I like the way he explains.

  • @and__lam1152

    @and__lam1152

    3 жыл бұрын

    The truth

  • @and__lam1152

    @and__lam1152

    3 жыл бұрын

    Paul Pierce second 😉

  • @mauricekoopman4902
    @mauricekoopman49023 жыл бұрын

    He is learning me more about myself in each sentence than psychotherapists have in years of therapy.

  • @emilyw3483

    @emilyw3483

    Жыл бұрын

    YES it feels that way in some of his tapes. I think he just has so much compassion not only for people but also for himself--not narcissism but really a healing idea for Trump, Biden, children, mothers, addicts...compassion is just so very healing.

  • @takfaazul5408
    @takfaazul54083 жыл бұрын

    It is shocking how this video is coming to confirm what my "illiterate" mother and grandmother have always told me close to 50 years ago, that the mother's stress has negative effects on the child during pregnancy and in early childhood.

  • @carolrandazzo4713
    @carolrandazzo47134 жыл бұрын

    OMG there is no end to Gabor Mate's brilliance. Every topic I have seen him lecture about, on youtube that is, every word Gabor has spoken confirms and validates my experiences in hospital settings with my differently abled son from birth and my husband's illnesses as they were treated in hospital care. I am grateful that Gabor has the courage to speak about the taboo issues and their connections to our lifestyles. Change seems to take too long. Hopefully, Gabor's candid lectures will speed change in specific areas of life in hospitals and all areas of life in general. The importance of Gabor's courage and diligence in getting positive messages out regarding the development of human psychology and how it relates to health, this information dissemination is dependent upon the courage of the people who work in hospitals. They have a significant role to play in the development of humankind.

  • @isabelhernandez3760

    @isabelhernandez3760

    4 жыл бұрын

    👍👍👍 LOVE him, his approach and his empathy to all ill patients.

  • @and__lam1152

    @and__lam1152

    3 жыл бұрын

    Completely agree.... he is light and love who admits his flaws and works for all of ours.

  • @ohgawd

    @ohgawd

    2 жыл бұрын

    Look for his documentary, "The Wisdom of Trauma".👍

  • @kuibeiguahua

    @kuibeiguahua

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hope Matéism becomes an expression in the future

  • @poloparker0420

    @poloparker0420

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@kuibeiguahua Revolution

  • @pamelareinhardt7589
    @pamelareinhardt75892 жыл бұрын

    Gabor Mate has profoundly changed my life. His compassionate genius transcends medicine.

  • @andrewwabik5125
    @andrewwabik51253 жыл бұрын

    "I was a workaholic father. My children felt it was their fault. Multi-generational trauma" Jesus..that hit home.

  • @Dot-Dot-Dash
    @Dot-Dot-Dash5 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful speech and I agree with all of this, as a Retired Nurse and as a Buddhist who has studied Healing touch, etc., in nursing and metaphysics. I love this talk. I do wish we had Health Care in the USA as good as in Canada. Women in the USA have much stress. My other wish is that all countries can love and respect the teachings of Indigenous people and learn from them, instead of testing animals by putting them under stress or pain. We could have had so much! I see the connection to suicide very clearly, too. Sharing this to help everyone.

  • @wheremylifego3790

    @wheremylifego3790

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤

  • @kellyleej

    @kellyleej

    3 жыл бұрын

    🙏💖

  • @janeyd5280

    @janeyd5280

    2 жыл бұрын

    Dorothy Simone I have bitten my nails since a very young child. Would you or anyone know how I can address this to stop. What would u recommend. Thank you. X

  • @Dot-Dot-Dash

    @Dot-Dot-Dash

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@janeyd5280 Hope you find the answer. I'm over 70 years old and I just tried acupuncture for the first time. Maybe that could help? It uses energy centers. You could ask.

  • @Dot-Dot-Dash

    @Dot-Dot-Dash

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@halvardlund4782 Am only thinking that Buddhism teaches long term cause and effect, so it helps me understand medical situations more clearly.

  • @theresapelham1918
    @theresapelham19185 жыл бұрын

    This is the real deal.....spread the words....in humble firmness

  • @RickTashma

    @RickTashma

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love the phrase "humble firmness"! Describes Dr. Mate very well, and how he wants us to propagate the message. Thx.

  • @anitastruthers1896
    @anitastruthers18964 жыл бұрын

    Young people are looking to Facebook, Instagram etc for likes and "friends" for their attachment needs ☹️

  • @ahagamama
    @ahagamama5 жыл бұрын

    The sciences of Ayurveda and Yoga would fully concur with you! Thank goodness that someone who sees with true perception and intelligence is becoming well-known and respected!

  • @pixieplay00

    @pixieplay00

    3 жыл бұрын

    💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @SteveSmekar-ll6ln
    @SteveSmekar-ll6ln4 жыл бұрын

    How I would love to meet this guy, at least hear him talk live while it is still possible. His information and commentary are so relevant, so nutritive to present day society.

  • @nelgrace1969

    @nelgrace1969

    4 жыл бұрын

    Oh me too Steve, I'm from Australia and would absolutely love to be in a room where the magnificent Gabor is talking

  • @katerinasarigelou9967

    @katerinasarigelou9967

    4 жыл бұрын

    Me too guys... Unfortunately, I don't think he's ever coming to Greece...

  • @MrRichofheart

    @MrRichofheart

    4 жыл бұрын

    why/ it is not about him, it is about you.

  • @samantha-kemp-therapy
    @samantha-kemp-therapy4 жыл бұрын

    im so glad mate always speaks for the First Nations

  • @KathrynDavison
    @KathrynDavison4 жыл бұрын

    Gabor, I am SUCH a fan. But as a doctorate in mind-body psych, I will say, I completed my degree (and published well in 2000), and the head of the APA retired depressed b/c as he said (in 2000), "Fifty years of rigorous, empirical mind-body research has yielded zero impact on the health care delivery system." So....yeah. Fifty years PLUS. Makes me feel downright indigenous, my gifts to the culture are so un-tapped. THANK you for using your fame to advance the care for our future young...

  • @makaylahollywood3677
    @makaylahollywood36773 жыл бұрын

    My mother told me that I had to be induced at labor, she makes a joke that i was comfortable and warm and did't want to come out. This bothered me when she said it. It bothers me now. Today, my theory and great belief is that I was already traumatized by my parents troubled marriage; i'm certain as i have acute hearing and hypervigilant to sounds and smells. I am sensitive and eventually labelled emotional a label given to distract everyone from the truth. Thank you for the talk.

  • @raewynurwin4256

    @raewynurwin4256

    3 жыл бұрын

    Makayla, research autism, I'm 72 and recently diagnosed autistic spectrum condition (high functioning) I'm sad my daughter 51 was diagnosed schizophrenic 30yrs ago I now believe she too is on the spectrum. Too late for her she has been swamped with psychiatrict drugs and past 10yrs alcoholic.

  • @makaylahollywood3677

    @makaylahollywood3677

    3 жыл бұрын

    Learn all you can. Do what you can do within your limitations. Prayer help lead us on this very changing, unpredictable path. Seek love and moments of joy. And, find ways to know and transform your pain. There is a collective suffering we all share. Knowing your story feels like a connection. We are all connected.

  • @nathannavarrete3791
    @nathannavarrete37918 жыл бұрын

    GENIUS! I feel so thankful that this channel uploaded this video because it meets my need for reassurance that people are going to have to wake up sooner than later.

  • @Sashas-mom
    @Sashas-mom4 жыл бұрын

    1:07 “ don’t worry about whether or not you screwed up your kid...you did so don’t worry about it.” So freeing.... helps me listen to the solution. 🙏🏼

  • @garyweglarz
    @garyweglarz5 жыл бұрын

    Truly excellent presentation regarding all that we know about trauma and healing that still somehow manages to be almost completely ignored within the realm of modern medicine. Dr. Mate's work is so very enlightening, especially if one is willing to open to one's own vulnerability and to accept the clear reality that in one way or another, either personally or societally, we are ALL impacted by trauma, by intergenerational trauma and by increasing levels of stress. How we support ourselves and each other is key to both our individual and collective health and healing. Thanks for sharing this presentation.

  • @fortbenningmom

    @fortbenningmom

    4 жыл бұрын

    Amen! I"ve been trying to re-parent myself (and my grown children). I want him on my side, with his kind, nurturing, validating, and loving/keep-trying attitude. May God bless him more and more, even if government institutions, main-stream medicine and other highly-politicized groups are slow to do so.

  • @CMoore8539
    @CMoore85395 жыл бұрын

    Completely Genius!!!♥️ I’m so Thankful that someone has brought this to public awareness.

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Cindy Moore. My name is Cindy too and I agree with you wholeheartedly! I listen to Gabor regularly on KZread and I feel I am actually understanding it a little better each time.

  • @CMoore8539

    @CMoore8539

    5 жыл бұрын

    CynthiaSchoenbauer He’s very good. I agree with this Teaching too. My question is how do we put it into our lives.

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    5 жыл бұрын

    That is a very good question! I am working on the principles that are involved in making these changes. I realize that I have been in CPTSD, in-other-words the trauma he is talking about left over from childhood and I am actually making some progress. When I get a little farther along I would be happy to share my secrets. I have my favorite people on KZread too, like Thrive After Abuse with Dana Morningstar. It is so nice to meet another true-blue fan, Cindy Moore.

  • @CMoore8539

    @CMoore8539

    5 жыл бұрын

    CynthiaSchoenbauer Yes please do. Thank you!

  • @chuckheppner4384
    @chuckheppner4384 Жыл бұрын

    "People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both in their youth and in adulthood-intelligent, responsive, empathic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience. We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and recognizing the consequences of their being humiliated are by no means intellectual matters; otherwise, their importance would long since have been generally recognized. Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace. The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation. The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, and conceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday our body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child, who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth. The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother’s love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions. Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all her child’s wishes and needs. It is not the suffering caused by frustration, however, that leads to emotional illness, but rather the fact that the child is forbidden by the parents to experience and articulate this suffering, the pain felt at being wounded. We don’t yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people. The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves. The claim that mild punishments (slaps or smacks) have no detrimental effect is still widespread because we got this message very early from our parents who had taken it over from their own parents. Unfortunately, the main damage it causes is precisely the broad dissemination of this conviction. The result of which is that each successive generation is subjected to the tragic effects of so called physical “correction.” The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be retained (although not always), but the suffering caused by the way you were mistreated will remain unconscious and will later prevent you from empathizing with others. This is why battered children grow up to be mothers and fathers who beat their offspring. Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents’ expectations. This feeling is stronger than any intellectual insight they might have, that it is not a child’s task or duty to satisfy his parents needs. No argument can overcome these guilt feelings, for they have their beginnings in life’s earliest periods, and from that they derive their intensity and obduracy. The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place in their own soul where they could cry their heart out. The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality. Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great- grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility. It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil. It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person. Those children who are beaten will in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimidating, those who are humiliated will impose humiliation, and those whose souls are murdered will murder. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time. Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation. Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so." ~ Alice Miller "Why should society feel responsible only for the education of children, and not for the education of all adults of every age? Many psychiatrists and psychologists refuse to entertain the idea that society as a whole may be lacking in sanity. They hold that the problem of mental health in a society is only that of the number of 'unadjusted' individuals, and not of a possible un-adjustment of the culture itself. The fact that millions of people share the same vices does not make these vices virtues, the fact that they share so many errors does not make the errors to be truths, and the fact that millions of people share the same form of mental pathology does not make these people sane. A society whose principles are acquisition, profit, and property produces a social character oriented around having, and once the dominant pattern is established, nobody wants to be an outsider, or indeed an outcast; in order to avoid this risk everybody adapts to the majority, who have in common only their mutual antagonism. The deepest need of the human being is to overcome our separateness, to leave the prison of our loneliness. The person who gives up his individual self and becomes an automaton, identical with millions of other automatons around him, need not feel alone and anxious any more. But the price he pays, however, is high; it is the loss of his self. Alienation as we find it in modern society is almost total… Man has created a world of man-made things as it never existed before. He has constructed a complicated social machine to administer the technical machine he built. The more powerful and gigantic the forces are which he unleashes, the more powerless he feels himself as a human being. He is owned by his creations, and has lost ownership of himself." ~ Erich Fromm

  • @moonlightgiftshoppe
    @moonlightgiftshoppe2 жыл бұрын

    I believe I've lived a near death experience most of my life because of the extreme torture and abuse I suffered since my birth through the first seventeen years of my life which included multiple familial abusers and multiple incest pregnancies starting at an earlier age than society says is normal. I've never been medicated because of this or hospitalized. I've experienced spiritual support through out of body experiences.

  • @selmore94

    @selmore94

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️

  • @staycurious644

    @staycurious644

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing. My trauma was behind my own spiritual awakening, so I can completely relate. It is a gift.

  • @ek5994
    @ek5994 Жыл бұрын

    Should be required for Drs to watch this. Realize common sense isn't taught in medical school or anywhere, but a person is a whole person, and their life contributes to that whole person. Have a Dr addressing trauma through bodywork and it is amazing.

  • @SoriahsASMRTingleWonderland
    @SoriahsASMRTingleWonderland3 жыл бұрын

    I am so obsessed with Dr. Gabor Mate. He is an absolute genius. His ideas are correct and so precise. I have seen so many of his lectures on KZread, it is now time to read his books. xoxoxo Soriah

  • @pixieplay00

    @pixieplay00

    3 жыл бұрын

    No books simply compassion for the one heart we all are 💖🙏💖

  • @ElJay5

    @ElJay5

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ooo

  • @ElJay5

    @ElJay5

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@pixieplay00 lkklkl

  • @yarakodmous8818
    @yarakodmous88183 жыл бұрын

    Can you just imagine how much fear and insecurities Palestinian babies must feel with all the trauma they and their parents and grandparents have and have had to endure for over 70 years now? ;(

  • @upupandaway5646

    @upupandaway5646

    3 жыл бұрын

    Its a tragedy how they are treated ,

  • @daphnerandall4084

    @daphnerandall4084

    3 жыл бұрын

    I was thinking along those lines as well, about the children in Syria, Yemen, Afghanistan, Liberia, Iraq, etc. where we-US and ‘allies’-are bombing. I pray for them....and for us😭😭😭😭

  • @karate4348

    @karate4348

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's tragic.

  • @tabermaisie451

    @tabermaisie451

    3 жыл бұрын

    People must find a way to spend less time in the workplace and more time with the family. ‘“The machine” doesn’t want that to happen because that breeds autonomy. The overall health, mental, physical, spiritual, is sacrificed to the bottom line. Living below ones means and eating and drinking clean nutrients is almost a dream.

  • @itoilinks
    @itoilinks2 жыл бұрын

    4:32 decease and early life experience - physical, emotional, spiritual, psychic health, early aquired disfunction. 6:55 Emotional life, relationship with other people and myself, on set of decease, idiopathic (don´t know cause). separation body, mind and environment. 8:10 - bio/psycho/social perspective.. 19:17 The capacity to "tune out" - a coping mechanism. 38:35 Multigenerational trauma

  • @redmarlene
    @redmarlene3 жыл бұрын

    I cannot stress enough the importance of what Dr. Maté is doing. Thank you.

  • @garrettmeadows2273
    @garrettmeadows22732 жыл бұрын

    Finally a doctor who makes sense.

  • @mojopeep326
    @mojopeep3265 жыл бұрын

    Alcohol and drugs are the bandaids applied to wounds that if left uncovered would destroy them.

  • @mojopeep326

    @mojopeep326

    4 жыл бұрын

    Please clarify .....

  • @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    3 жыл бұрын

    nicely put if iIT could be summed up in a pretty little package... I'd slap a bow on this! you worded it perfectly!

  • @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    3 жыл бұрын

    nicely put if iIT could be summed up in a pretty little package... I'd slap a bow on this! you worded it perfectly!

  • @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    @jenniferlynnebecker7316

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm saying this to the bandaid comment- keep it simple

  • @cindyd2956

    @cindyd2956

    3 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant

  • @pellykhan7450
    @pellykhan74503 жыл бұрын

    I am so so thankful for this beautiful person...I can't stop watching his videos here...he is helping me so much I can't tell you...♥♥♥

  • @junemichaels7350
    @junemichaels73505 жыл бұрын

    He's a gift.

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    5 жыл бұрын

    There is no doubt about that, June! He has helped me so much with the guidance to know where I am going and what I can believe in.

  • @timandtheocean
    @timandtheocean3 жыл бұрын

    Beatifull to see a Dr that inspired by Jiddu krishnamurti able to look at him self critically and objectively gets close to the essence. Sooner or later we have to deal with our past as little kids. That is we want to grow, compassionate and vulnerable. Then we could become the best parent and stop the bullshit in us that can be generations old. Unfortunately the majority of people stay ignorant and this dance wil go on forever. Choise is yours.

  • @karenmininni4962
    @karenmininni49624 жыл бұрын

    We ALL need to be free to ask others, What's going on? I need to be able to ask you for the support that I need!!!! Then set a boundary until we receive it.

  • @jeweltee69

    @jeweltee69

    3 жыл бұрын

    Communication and conflict management need to be taught in elementary and high school.

  • @stegospine84
    @stegospine844 жыл бұрын

    Gargling is a really good way to deal with stress. It sooths the Vegus nerve. Brings your vegal tone up. Try it next time you are stressed. Make a Chewbacca noise for a minute or so during your negative thought or emotion, you'll be surprised.

  • @justifiedfreely6715

    @justifiedfreely6715

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi I love your comment.. what is a chewbacca noise is it to sorta growl from deep in back of your throat? Good comment x

  • @TC-rv6sz

    @TC-rv6sz

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow! That's so interesting, thank you for sharing.

  • @ssunkite1
    @ssunkite13 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Maté is a legend in his own right. Internalize his spoken knowledge and wisdom not just listen to it.

  • @JOHAN_PERJUS
    @JOHAN_PERJUS2 жыл бұрын

    I hereby nominate you sir, for the Nobel price in medicine AND economics.

  • @tonidjakic

    @tonidjakic

    Жыл бұрын

    Don't mud his work with that two-faced organization

  • @johanperjus616

    @johanperjus616

    Жыл бұрын

    @@tonidjakic why two faced? Please explain.

  • @lindsaywhitney6305
    @lindsaywhitney63054 жыл бұрын

    The most obvious policy change that needs to happen regards maternity/paternity leave. Europe has understood this connection at the policy level, giving in some cases years of paid leave to new parents.

  • @th8257

    @th8257

    2 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely astonishing that America doesn't have it. And also has some of the lowest level of paid holiday time in the western world too.

  • @drrMonManon

    @drrMonManon

    Жыл бұрын

    It is true, maternity/paternity leaves are luxurious in Europe comparing to US. But don't worry we all have war trauma here :D

  • @thetruthaboutsobriety2448
    @thetruthaboutsobriety24483 жыл бұрын

    You have changed my life sir. I will be paying it forward for the rest of my life

  • @mrlin1687
    @mrlin16874 жыл бұрын

    Not just first nation people... the black community enduring huge psychological trauma. Generationally. That would be a great study...especially with compounding factors such as systemic racism and consequently perceived self value.

  • @Luvz2Surf

    @Luvz2Surf

    4 жыл бұрын

    So very true. It's astonishing to me just how consistently the African American community--as it pertains to the history and bio-psychi-social ravages and multi-generational impact of slavery and racism--is almost always conspicuously omitted from this equation. And, is rarely discussed, in this context, with the same degree of awareness, insight, and compassion, etc..

  • @MrRichofheart

    @MrRichofheart

    4 жыл бұрын

    yes rohan and add to that 400 years of epigenetics.....grandfather richard

  • @Sashas-mom

    @Sashas-mom

    4 жыл бұрын

    So I realize I’m super late to the discussion but has anyone found anywhere that the black community has been discussed by Gabor in these terms? For sure I am able to extrapolate much from his talks that I can apply but is there a lecture where he might discuss the black community specifically?

  • @Luxkywalk3r

    @Luxkywalk3r

    4 жыл бұрын

    ​@@Luvz2Surf I've first heard about intergenerational trauma from African American Studies scholars, so it's definitely out there. This guy's Canadian and their government is insanely hypocritical re: treatment of native populations, so I think he makes a point of mentioning that in particular (but in other talks he does quote African Americans and Canadians). In

  • @Luxkywalk3r

    @Luxkywalk3r

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Luvz2Surf that being said, absolutely, this stuff needs to be mainstream knowledge, not just scholarly articles (BLM has been doing a wonderful job in this regard). The machine of systemic oppression has been hiding in plain sight for enough time

  • @sassiestqueen9074
    @sassiestqueen90745 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for speaking against evidence-based medicine. I have also noticed how negative the results can be. It causes medical group-think to be rationalized, and suppresses the urge to deal with the individual patient.

  • @anonymousdude1994

    @anonymousdude1994

    Жыл бұрын

    He is using evidence…it’s just ignored evidence

  • @lisettegarcia
    @lisettegarcia Жыл бұрын

    This makes me feel proud and happy that I insisted on a home birth among other childrearing choices that people called crazy or obsessive at the time.

  • @ahagamama
    @ahagamama5 жыл бұрын

    The fact that LISTENING is not something we do enough of and your comment here about that, inspired me to comment here: I have studied and practiced Vedic Chanting for 20 years. I have also done some teaching of this practice, along with my 40 years + practicing and teaching Yoga. I observed that my students can tune in and listen much better after doing some Vedic Chant practice where they have to listen and repeat sounds that are (to them) pure sound. I wonder if you think this practice of listening would be useful therapeutically for overcoming things like ADHD?

  • @Jaliyajuji
    @Jaliyajuji2 жыл бұрын

    "There's a whole shi-- ... a whole range of evidence that's being ignored..." ~ I burst into laughter. Beautiful! Not four minutes in, and he's busting the paradigm. I love how he goes off-camera for a while. ~ I've been searching and *searching* tonight for articles, research, interviews (etc.) about the effects of premature birth on the person who was born premature...There's very little. I was born two months early in the late 1950s, and there are both *astounding* strengths to survive, and devastating injury, coexisting in persons born before their natural time. I've watched Dr. Maté's Wisdom of Trauma, and all I can say is...What a gift he is. Now my search lands me here. Settling in to receive. So grateful. Hopeful like I've not felt in a long, long time. (Medically retired somatic therapist who is smitten with the wisdom and heart of this most genuine healer.) ~ Thank you so much for offering this!

  • @kuibeiguahua

    @kuibeiguahua

    2 жыл бұрын

    We truly live in a blessed era to have access to so much wisdom from anywhere or any time, really. Even though there have been catastrophic information spread through this new networking technology we call the internet, I think the GOOD can wine

  • @cosmicbull208
    @cosmicbull2082 жыл бұрын

    I think this his best speech yet… I am 46 and don’t have children…. but I feel him soooooo much.

  • @elizabethannegrey6285
    @elizabethannegrey62852 жыл бұрын

    This most excellent presentation has the capacity to be life altering if people are HUMBLE enough to acknowledge their own ignorance, inadequacies, and prejudice. A brilliant presentation.

  • @jennyquezada9644
    @jennyquezada96445 жыл бұрын

    Childhood Emotional Neglect

  • @ggsolleb916
    @ggsolleb9163 жыл бұрын

    Enlightened being...Open hearted and A Truth Seeker... The WOUNDED HEALER☆☆☆♡ ◇◇◇

  • @adagurl71
    @adagurl716 ай бұрын

    The lady's question at 1:11.53 is where I am at. Gabor is a wonderful human being

  • @dimitrisiokas7718
    @dimitrisiokas77184 жыл бұрын

    First saw Dr. Mate in Zeitgeist moving forward documentary back in 2013 I think. I remember this, he was instantly able to trigger my brain electrical signals very effectively and in such a powerful thus adaptable way. Found him again on YTube 'accidentally" immediately remembered him and by only listening to his awesome deepest speeches, helped me out by showing me the way dots can be connected activating in me the ability to understand their sense in my Life. Thank U Gabor!

  • @moirasmith
    @moirasmith4 жыл бұрын

    Re caesarians: I understand that vaginal delivery also ensures child gets a healthy dose of mother's gut bacteria which are essential for lifelong health.

  • @uyouhaveyou

    @uyouhaveyou

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm wondering that remedying this naturally might be readily possible but for being in a hygiene obsessed era in general as well as modern culture not promoting devoted time with the new baby. I watched my dog nurse her pups post c-section and she blew my mind with her total care and devotion. She fed them immediately whilst yet having a long scar down her tummy and so drugged up she could barely stand or stay awake. If she needed to go to the toilet she would go and be back in a flash to be with her babies. People want a pup at 6 or 8 weeks? She naturally fed hers, who were just about able to eat solids from 4 weeks, until they were 10 weeks of age. And she cleaned them and loved them and demonstrated a most beautiful natural patience. Pups should be with their mum as long as she can feed and care for them. I have a deep sadness with what may have led to the C-Section being necessary to add, for i was hosting 3 students then who on the second day made a huge issue over my having a dog when she was just 3 weeks pregnant (equivalent to end of 1st trimester in humans). Their religious background (although they demonstrated no evidence of having faith themselves) meant that they had inherited a regard for dogs as "unclean" and created a drama with the organisers of the trip. It was an evening of teacher and organiser and students arguing in French in my house and my dog went into a marked depression for a few days following this. I am sure this was when a pup died inside her ( - for there was an undeveloped pup came out at the c-section) and the last pup to come out didn't make it too. I knew something had happened to her with those hostile visitors. I remember there were a couple of days she seems exhausted and didn't want to come out of her bed and i actually said to a friend at that time that i hoped she had not had a miscarriage. Then i left it. Another 6 weeks and she needed a C-Section. She's such a beautiful girl and was an awesome mum and all the pups are now very healthy young dogs. I love my dog as much as one can possibly love, to the moon and back and beyond and all the way home. And she's sat next to me now and going to give her my attention now.

  • @ccgreen2000

    @ccgreen2000

    3 жыл бұрын

    Marylee Macpherson and MD convenience...

  • @Sonja14athome

    @Sonja14athome

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have read of a female ob/gyn who, when the mother has her baby by C-section, takes a sterile sponge, collects vaginal secretions from the mother and then smears them onto the baby, primarily on the face (as that is where the "good stuff" is transferred to the baby, through the "open" areas - nose, eyes, mouth). Unfortunately I don't remember her name but her instincts are responsible for giving C-section babies the blessings of nature's gift of their mother's gut biome.

  • @jennytaylor3324

    @jennytaylor3324

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@uyouhaveyou Great comment, mate. Lucky animals to have you.

  • @Lovesalluneed

    @Lovesalluneed

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@jennytaylor3324 I didn't hold back there much did i, and it wasn't really quite on topic ;'D. Bless you, thanks! Continuing to love and learn from my dear girls here - i have mum and kept one girl, beautiful terriers who love to explore the world in ways most terriers love to do. Is me feels so lucky to have them in my world. :)

  • @shakubob
    @shakubob4 жыл бұрын

    People must find a way to spend less time in the workplace and more time with the family. ‘“The machine” doesn’t want that to happen because that breeds autonomy. The overall health, mental, physical, spiritual, is sacrificed to the bottom line. Living below ones means and eating and drinking clean nutrients is almost a dream.

  • @letsgrowandprosper6562

    @letsgrowandprosper6562

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well said. I want this in my life so much

  • @karendahl2415
    @karendahl24155 жыл бұрын

    Pure genius and incredible insight

  • @erwin3056
    @erwin30562 жыл бұрын

    I can also listen to Gabor Mate for 3 days. It was a WOW moment when he spoke about the toxic culture most of us are 'trapped' in... Amazing work, thank you.

  • @annieyouwho
    @annieyouwho Жыл бұрын

    When I was pregnant under an American doctor, I nearly lost my baby. I was transferred to an Eastern European OB/GYN who gave me the type of advice Dr. Mate gives - including resisting the hospital's pressure for a C-section and forced labor - and my baby is now in her 20s and a joy. Mate's advice could mean life over death.

  • @jennytaylor3324
    @jennytaylor33243 жыл бұрын

    I love that Maté puts more store by anecdotal evidence than evidence-based 'science'. I had a stressful childhood. I'm sitting here age 45 in the middle of a very rough early menopause, which began at 42-43. I assumed it was just bad luck; a lottery I didn't win. The more I've researched the subject, the more the evidence suggests that stressed female children tend to reach puberty earlier (before 12). I was 11. Those same girls then have a drastically increased chance of hitting menopause early, or more prematurely (before 45) than others of their age group.

  • @Booboodoom
    @Booboodoom Жыл бұрын

    There was so much knowledge, so many books written on trauma, ADHD, addiction, toxicity of the culture we live in, emotional detachment, and depression. However, it takes an incredibly brilliant mind to connect all these areas of research into the big picture and show how we all are affected by it, "normal people", not just those "faulty" ones of us that should be taken care of in "institutions". Gabor Mate is deservedly becoming one of the few ourstanding characters in the history of psychology to pioneer a series of breakthroughs in our understanding of the deep nature of human mental messups. You are a life-saver, Gabor. Thank you for your gift.

  • @joy96815
    @joy968158 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the upload.

  • @annatorres2587
    @annatorres25873 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had this information when I was expecting my children. Nevertheless, I am grateful to gain this knowledge from this amazing doctor.

  • @nathannavarrete3791
    @nathannavarrete37918 жыл бұрын

    His titles don't matter. It's WHY he is doing what he is doing. There is no life in that "title talk" talk about how you feel when you read what he writes, how do you feel when you hear him talk? Why does it resonnate with you? He meets people's need for honesty that's WHY. The Toxic Culture is going to be a great book right there with "Confessions of An Economic Hitman" "Sex At Dawn" and "The Science and Philosophy of BodyTalk"

  • @CMoore8539

    @CMoore8539

    5 жыл бұрын

    Nathan Navarrete I Completely Agree with You!!!

  • @Elizabethd69

    @Elizabethd69

    5 жыл бұрын

    your right he meets people;s need for honesty . That seems to be a very rare quality in life today hard to find . I am thankful that this is on youtube.

  • @karate4348
    @karate43483 жыл бұрын

    total yes brilliance and honesty

  • @pixieplay00

    @pixieplay00

    3 жыл бұрын

    🙏💖🙏

  • @sabineliebherr5765
    @sabineliebherr5765 Жыл бұрын

    I am flabbergasted about the low level of the questions while I admire the patience you keep and the attention you are paying to them. Just remember the obituary of the family having lost their four sons in battle in Stalingrad, saying 'In stolzer Trauer'. Maybe your audience doesn't want to hear that

  • @l23918
    @l23918 Жыл бұрын

    I love this man, I wish him and his family the best.

  • @clairewalsh5306
    @clairewalsh53063 жыл бұрын

    This work is a love gift to the world. Thank you.

  • @pixieplay00

    @pixieplay00

    3 жыл бұрын

    💖🙏

  • @valpaden5869
    @valpaden58692 жыл бұрын

    People interested in becoming parents should listen to this. It would have changed everything I did (and I thought I did ok back then). It’s something I will pass on to my children when they consider children.

  • @krisvictoria8810
    @krisvictoria88103 жыл бұрын

    Fantastic teacher! God bless you!🥰

  • @judygrubaugh5424
    @judygrubaugh54245 жыл бұрын

    Confirming relational importance clearly. Thank you

  • @duskaAEQ2022
    @duskaAEQ20224 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your knowledge and wonderful energy.

  • @sophiakh9590
    @sophiakh95905 жыл бұрын

    Great talk 💖 Thank you for posting!

  • @Sassysmile71
    @Sassysmile714 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, everything you say makes so much sense, you are amazing !!!

  • @nantuluna4731
    @nantuluna47313 жыл бұрын

    Thank You Dr Gabor Mate, su labor es grande, mucha admiracion siento por Usted.

  • @mollycote1021
    @mollycote1021 Жыл бұрын

    Incredible wisdom! So grateful I found him!

  • @123zakful
    @123zakful10 ай бұрын

    Attachment to self is the key! Learning to have the courage to stand up to the negative energy's painful emotions within us, see them and choose to release them.. and you will get your power back! Your soular power..❤ we didn't even know we were missing.🧝‍♀️🧞‍♀️🧜‍♀️🧚‍♀️

  • @nathannavarrete3791
    @nathannavarrete37918 жыл бұрын

    Multi-generational trauma 8th chakra pathology. So real and true.

  • @theresapelham1918

    @theresapelham1918

    5 жыл бұрын

    Curious about this for 8th chakra.....

  • @ALCRAN2010

    @ALCRAN2010

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@theresapelham1918 me too

  • @camillegratton7262
    @camillegratton72625 жыл бұрын

    He is amazing

  • @Kojack3686
    @Kojack36864 жыл бұрын

    Amazing speaker. Thank you for sharing.

  • @SuperInsight123
    @SuperInsight123 Жыл бұрын

    Incredibly insightful! Thank you.

  • @hydro743
    @hydro7432 жыл бұрын

    Full of knowing, part of the solution for sure. Great talk.

  • @Maria-fm2cg
    @Maria-fm2cg3 жыл бұрын

    Great talk and all makes so much sense. Thank you! Finally these crucial information are becoming more available to educate ourselves and understand more clearly so we have the possibility to heal from inside out.

  • @hilulimrestaurant-melbourn4185
    @hilulimrestaurant-melbourn41854 жыл бұрын

    I wish this information would be more learnt ,thank you Dr Gabor,your wisdom and knowledge is inspiring.

  • @Herbalistic
    @Herbalistic5 жыл бұрын

    So important!

  • @quickimod6008
    @quickimod60083 жыл бұрын

    I have learnt only from yhis brilliant compassionate inquiry, he is the teacher of our times. I am grateful i was given an intro.. Engaging in studying everthing i can here im home and happy for yhe 1st time 60 yrs in a few days... Longest journey as an artist. Mother. Disabled... Hard hell yes... But worth everything... Im glad for myself... Thr body sais no... Absolutely. Xx thabk u xx, stress gone xx

  • @elizabethmolnar4643
    @elizabethmolnar46432 жыл бұрын

    He's one of the best... amoungst a few of the best. Thank Dr. Gabor Maté.

  • @anastasiak7762
    @anastasiak77623 жыл бұрын

    Thank you dr. Gabor mate. Your wisdom is truly enlightening and since ive became a mother ive been reading your books and watching your videos on KZread. Thank you for sharing so much wisdom.

  • @shishabell1
    @shishabell13 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou for your help ...the only truth I have heard which has helped me to realise so much within me that has to be addressed...

  • @mollymatthews1660
    @mollymatthews16602 жыл бұрын

    Connections so makes sense and elegantly stated

  • @sorro9384
    @sorro93843 жыл бұрын

    Oh man I love this guy!

  • @susannovello2431
    @susannovello24313 жыл бұрын

    Amazing! It’s so simple if you think about it. It’s common sense

  • @anouskak6749
    @anouskak67493 жыл бұрын

    I love him, I'm so grateful for his intuitions and knowledge

  • @clintd7769
    @clintd77693 жыл бұрын

    Real deal this guy.... love you brother!

  • @TheRolexseller
    @TheRolexseller2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Dr. Maté.

  • @thomasmaddox5638
    @thomasmaddox56383 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant! Dr. Mate has given the world something terribly precious - INSIGHT to the psyche!!!

  • @pixieplay00

    @pixieplay00

    3 жыл бұрын

    🙏💖🙏

  • @cosmicbull208
    @cosmicbull2082 жыл бұрын

    you’re a gift Dr. Maté …. thank you for you. i’m so grateful for you and your teachings. no more words to express the gratitude 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @justwatch902
    @justwatch9023 жыл бұрын

    So much wisdom! I’m getting my own theraphy through all his talks and books... what a relief is not my fault

  • @Sashas-mom
    @Sashas-mom4 жыл бұрын

    Three fourths of the way through this amazing video Sat Dharam Kaur speaks. I’ve never been interested in any form of yoga until this moment.

  • @indunair4426
    @indunair4426 Жыл бұрын

    Dr. Gabor Mate deserves a Nobel Prize

  • @jessicamorales2555
    @jessicamorales25552 жыл бұрын

    Exactly, it seems there is no end to Gsbor's brilliance 🤩

  • @lilajaynep.4986
    @lilajaynep.49865 жыл бұрын

    Awesomeness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @lynnwhittaker7420
    @lynnwhittaker74202 ай бұрын

    Treating everything with a stress hormone Sounds logical to me Great doctor

  • @chelseamoniquemorrisprinci8856
    @chelseamoniquemorrisprinci88565 жыл бұрын

    So so thankful

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    @CynthiaSchoenbauer

    5 жыл бұрын

    Me too, Chelsea!

  • @brigidroche1006
    @brigidroche10063 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Gabor Mate quoting Michel Odents “cocktail of Love” 🙏♥️ Brilliant!

  • @mattlehnardt8035
    @mattlehnardt8035 Жыл бұрын

    This should be taught as medicine 101 in every college before any other medical classes.

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