All I ever wanted was just to spend time with my dad and mum. To be honest, I loved Nairobi traffic during children drop off and pick up in the mornings and afternoons because it meant that we'd have all that time in the car, just us and our parents on the road talking, singing, laughing and well... just being. Those traffic jam moments are some of the memories I will cherish the most.

@chelangatchellah1235

5 жыл бұрын

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I need this talk it may be hard to hear but I need it. I was raised by my cucu by God's grace i knew i was loved.. my mom had to work and raise 2 of us. Thank God the village was there. Now i have a 15yr old going 16 and a 12 yr old.. for me am all the village they see... plus my husband. I have decided to talk to my daughter following your series with the two young ladies.. she my dtr, was ready to talk about everything literally everything that goes on in school from 6th grade to 12th. This show gave me the courage to go there. So thank you for it and keep talking about this. I haven't talked to my son yet. I thought we were open but some stuff she would have never told me until I went there and I did.. THANK YOU!!

As a young mother i have chosen to work from home and to look after my kids myself instead of employing a full time househelp/nanny. I agree with them.

@GGathingi

5 жыл бұрын

I do not go anywhere on Saturdays and Sundays unless it is to play outside with my children, it is very intentional and no minder(only a weekly housekeeper) on any weekend, or holiday and all that is intentional too, so that I raise my children and to get to know them, it is not easy but it is so worth it,they may not be perfect children but I am part of their journey.

@CKay703

5 жыл бұрын

Shiku Gathingi. You are definitely my kinda person. I've done the same with my kids and I think they are turning out to be ok by God's grace. I sacrificed to stay home. No nannies just a weekly house manager. Sometimes it's depressing to be indoors fir months on end cos I'm young but it's quite rewarding to see. So you ain't alone in your parenting.

For me growing up as the eldest child, sometimes my parents would 'forget' that I am a child as well and needed to be allowed to be a child. I had to grow up faster than my siblings and because of that I never really had a chance to be a 'normal' kid. I sometimes see the negative effects of that stage of my life manifest as an adult. The only good thing I can say is that being an introvert by nature helped avert some of the common traits teenagers show when they feel they are not being listened to or have a sense of direction.

@murugigichovi9163

5 жыл бұрын

This is so me, I have always been parent number 3,not a child, I didn't get to do what most kids did, and when I just want to be a kid, it becomes an issue

@awuorochuodho6394

5 жыл бұрын

I swear it is the most daunting thing! I have often heard people who know tell me how I will have the things that I didn't do growing come to 'revist'!

All I needed from my parents as a child: Healthy food, shelter, enough clothing and basic education....but mostly support, a listening ear, strong moral and spiritual guidance. I emulate my parents first before emulating anyone else.If I could speak to parents now as a daughter, I'd say, 'All that extra time you work to get more money, realize that you could spend that time with me and the excess money can help orphans instead of buying me devices I don't need and unhealthy food that makes us all fat..."

I love the in depth conversation... It's a good thing that our teens have an opinion and that they voice it. As a parent I would like to say I cannot give what I don't have. We never had the exposure our children have today. And even if you had an opinion especially one that differed from your elders..would you view them? As a child growing up I wanted to go to the 'good ' schools, I wanted my parents to drive the 'nice' cars I wanted to attended parties in the latest fashion clothes and buy nice food from the school canteen..... Not having to be kicked out of school for partially paid fees, not being driven to school in a rackety pickup with a cow mooing at the back .not wearing hand me downs and not carrying last nights cold dinner for lunch. Now that I am a parent I send my child to a good school,I hope I like the car I drive, I pay for trips that my child enjoys, and my child dresses well. My child is not raised by the nanny, house keeper,teacher or some stranger..I raise my child..do we argue? Yes! Do we have bad days? Yes! The bulk of the days are good, wonderful, joyful.. We talk, we share. She speaks I listen, She cries I hold her. I speak she listens, we discuss. I am present. I am the parent,she is the child..we are not friends.. or buddies... I have respect for my child and she has respect for me. Please Note: I am a person to with ambitions and a drive..my life should not stop because I am a parent or be of value only because I am a parent.... What happens when she grows up and has her own life?....then the in depth conversation will be : Parents who cannot live without their children....or parents who resent their children for having a life. Yes children must be heard and their concerns addressed but not at the expense of parents... A balance must be met.

@aisharicci6400

5 жыл бұрын

Best comment regarding this conversation.

I Love this I Love it.. It's true that as a grown child I still love when I spend time with my parents... And as a mother I love it when I am with my sons. Doing stuff together and laughing

This is great. Either way every one is parenting to the right direction or to the wrong direction. Hence as you do your thing out there, just be conscious that someone is following your steps to repeat your thing. So if you don't like what you are doing happen to you or your own then stop it because what goes around, comes around. Just try to do it right.

Parents give you attention once you have been born....immediately you can talk and walk or after one year...your passed down to the house help.

I like your conversations😍 I wish I found your channel earlier. W0uld love to appear on your talks. My niche being young mothers and girls. And am a counselling psychologist

talking of age caroline you ever look younger and younger you need to address that

Lol! Back in High school when you'd share a problem with a teacher, they'd wait for break time and discuss with fellow teachers while laughing their behinds off! Don't even get me started on how they'd exaggerate stuff on dooms/open day and parents would still believe them. 😩😩 Edit: Also, it's not that teens don't listen, it's the parents who don't! They refuse to come down to the level of their kids and always look at things from their own perspective because they are the adults and then rebellion starts!

@ashwajeshi1558

5 жыл бұрын

I hated my CRE teacher for that and that's why I drop the subject despite being religious.

@mulatodonche7387

5 жыл бұрын

I remember my mum believing every word the teacher said. The teacher did not even know me even a little bit she just hated my face.People from her generation think teachers know everything.She was convinced I would get an E..I proved her wrong.

Growing up, my mother was 'fire' very very tough and could hit us with just anything for no reason. We were so happy whenever she was away 7 days a week which never happened. We never talked to her about nothing, we either read it in books or asked our dad even things like menstruation period. She taught us to be hard working which worked well for all of us but guess what, we struggle to be present in each others life because each one of us zoned out in our childhood.

I love this cause my mum and dad they are always looking at there phones and we do not have time to talk the only time we can talk is when their phone has spoilt or it off

This is so true, being able to provide that life is a by the way, talking to kids and getting to know your kids is the way to go, most parents, don't even know what their kids like, and they have the guts to say that si nimelipa school fees, meanwhile this kid received no emotional and spiritual guidance, then when the kid goes into drugs or is not cooperating, the kid is rebellious

It's even more hard for a parent who is out of the country. So hard.

Once again I'd like to be part of this much needed conversation

Amazing ...

hi raffian i remember you came to our school ndumberi secondary how time flies ...literaly

Carol Conversation rich in information in this set.

Great show caroline.I love what you do.I have a question though,yes...children want you and want just you...as we take note of that..how about we do a show on parents who gave their all to their children but are now old and alone...can we have a talk about the lonely parents who are dumped at old age because the children have their "own" life and mum should not bother them...the old parents who are sick and dumped in the village by kids that they gave their all to. lets be realistic,its a 2 way thing here...as children want us to take care of them...they should know that they will take care of their parents as well otherwise as the old parent lives alone...she just did her best when the child was growing up.

This new lighting makes Caroline look ethereal!

There are 5 types of child abuse: Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Physical Abuse, Financial Abuse and Pyschological abuse. When you deny your child attention, you are neglecting them and this can cause Pyschological damage and we all know how this will affect them emotionally. Make time for your kids. Listen to them. Not their Nannies.

Such an amazing discussion

This is an interesting discussion that we have at dinner tables all the time and can’t seem to figure out what went wrong where. I think there’s the idea that as parents we try to give our kids a better life than what we had not realizing those ‘hardships’ in our life made us who we are today. I also think the whole househelp thing should be re-examined. Househelps should have an 8-5 job as well so that parents can take over when they come home. And I say that knowing there’s traffic and all but my point being... parents should know they’re on the clock after work. That is the main difference I find between parenting in Kenya and in Western countries. Western countries force you to engage coz you cannot afford househeps and such. And to be honest.. you will rarely sit down with a child to talk, you communicate as you give them a bath, or cook for them.. or drive them to work. So those jobs that have been outsourced are actually very important. Anyway.. that’s my two cents. It’s a deep discussion that has to be had at all levels.

@flam221

5 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more with you! Living in the diaspora has made me very involved with my kids coz the way the system is set up you're the one doing all the school drop off / pick up/ after school activities etc. Kids are literally tied to your hip and even if I have a live in nanny, I miss my kids and can't wait to get home and engage with them. I think it's good to go through the nanny free stage when they're little so you bond and you get to know your position as a parent. Yes clearly they don't need "many things" they need our prescence! God help us all as we navigate parenting 💖

Looking Gorgeous 😍

How many young people are watching with me?

Mums are supposed to be understanding I do not get that from mine. Imagine me been an introvert and I cannot even speak to my parents. Even looking back I have never felt her presence enough.At least my dad is starting to give me some attention now that he is figuring that about to leave home.

Am Learning a lot as a parent .

Where are this councilors in the ghetto where they killed everyday,cause of luck of direction,where are the social workers to help kids who are being abused ??,this country is not serious

raffian..damn.

@phyllismunywoki6584

5 жыл бұрын

i know

What about the kids who choose just to live such a life like going to drugs

@leah4830

5 жыл бұрын

It's always good to find the root cause

I have the stomach for it...presence of the parents to the children is everything note its presence not presents

@janeraymond6571

5 жыл бұрын

My name is jennipher and just today i have seen this video and and something in me just changed.would like to be connect to this young souls like me who got love for young people.

You know what Caroline?You deserve a T.V show, all other sijui The trend, blah blah talk, inviting socialites and some crooked musicians on National T.V to tell our youth nothing constructive!! Am a bit disappointed with our T.V stations however much money is to be made!!! Let's also talk about the role media is playing is in misdirecting youth with their talk shows!

@bettymisoi9924

5 жыл бұрын

I love this comment. she should get a talk show and remove most content on tv