As odd as it is, I found that Grindr was the biggest help in facing and overcoming my fear of rejection. Given how often it happens on there from both being the rejected and rejector it makes for great practice for it. Even better that there are many who dont know how to reject or take rejection as It’s a great way to really mold and develop your relationship accordingly on a case by base basis.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Hi there! Thanks for sharing. It's interesting how Grindr helped you overcome your fear of rejection. Experiencing both sides can indeed build resilience and improve communication skills. Great to see you're using these experiences for personal growth. Thanks for contributing!💞

Love that you shared your personal stories, which show how relatable and universal rejection is, possibly especially in the lgbtqia+ community. Interesting too that the things we are most insecure about are often the things that we are rejected for - a sign that we should work on those things, not for others but for ourselves.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! It's true, sharing personal stories highlights how universal rejection is, especially in the LGBTQIA+ community. Your insight about working on our insecurities for ourselves, not for others, is so important. Thanks for engaging!🌈🤩

This was very timely as I literally just returned a book on rejection sensitivity from the library. (I want to take it out another time when I can do the exercises more thoroughly.) The book addressed self-compassion and relying on a trustworthy support network as helpful tools, but chronic prolonged rejection makes it difficult for one to see their worth because all they seem to hear are negative messages, either overtly or covertly.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Hi! We're glad the timing was perfect for you. Self-compassion and a supportive network are indeed crucial tools. It can be tough to see your worth amid negative messages, but remember that you're not defined by others' opinions. Taking the time to work through those exercises sounds like a great plan. Wishing you all the best on your journey!🤩

As Michael mentions, I think there are different flavors of rejection. When I was younger and sexually active, my prime rejection worry was turning off guys I was with because I could never come to ejaculation, in their presence. I guess that stems from my emotional attachment style. Nowadays, it's a moot point, because I had a prostatectomy nearly a decade ago, and so cannot physically ejaculate but I can still achieve orgasms. Regarding the notion of reframing fear of rejection, I agree with Matt when he states that we should surround ourselves with others who like us and are like us, rather than trying to endear ourselves to those who simply aren't compatible with us, no matter how good-looking or great personality they may have.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. It's great to hear how you've navigated different aspects of rejection and found a way to reframe it. Surrounding ourselves with people who appreciate and understand us is indeed important for our well-being. Your perspective adds valuable depth to the conversation. Take care!🤗💕

Gosh… I can’t say I’ve been rejected many times (as relative as that number may be), but only because 75% of the time I only go for it if I am almost certain that I won’t be rejected. I’ve never had a huge negative experience, like people put up for adoption, or published a book that received awful critiques. But of course I have experienced it. I’ve been bullied, and I’ve been looked down on the gay community for not being muscular enough, or masculine enough, or tall enough. But I think overall I’m doing a good job handling rejection, so I hope the same for everyone. Thanks for the vulnerable shares, I always embrace them. Good vibes.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

27 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences and for your kind words. It's great to hear that you're handling rejection well, despite the challenges you've faced. Your resilience and positive outlook are truly inspiring. We're glad the episode resonated with you and appreciate your support. Good vibes to you too!

Great Topic!!! A conversations i have with myself and a few select others often. Matt, everything you're saying sounds like I'm listening to myself. Even to the point of me having meaningful conversations with my closest people to help me bounce back quicker. I REALLY WISH you and I could meet and get to know each other. I love the fact that you're attractive, smart, and sensitive just to name a few. The fact that we have so much in common. Leaves me in total amazement. Keep up the good work guys. A GREAT PODCAST! 💯 👍🏾 ❤️

@GayMenGoingDeeper

20 күн бұрын

Awwww... Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that the podcast resonates with you and that we share so much in common. Your support means a lot to us. Keep having those meaningful conversations, and thanks for being a part of our community!🤗 - Matt

Wow. Powerful episode guys. Especially the last part from Matt 🙌 thanks for the awesome insights and vulnerable shares, it’s extremely impactful

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Thank you! We're glad you found it powerful, especially Matt's part. Your feedback means a lot to us!🤩

Ask for those pickles !🙂

My fav topic

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Күн бұрын

We're glad this topic resonates with you! Fear of rejection is something many of us face. Thanks for tuning in!😍

OMG, I loved listening to this episode. I feel like you three could have collaborated to write a really good book on this topic, with a lot of engaging anecdotes and lessons from them. I love what Reno says in the end about asking. Takes a lot of vulnerability, but I can see how it can be rewarding in the big picture (I'm thinking, in my case, as a shy person, about being the one to approach someone I don't know, greet them and hopefully have a friendly conversation, not looking for anything romantic, just being more sociable). Speaking of hitting someone up, how you three doin' ;)

@GayMenGoingDeeper

23 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your enthusiastic comment! We're thrilled you loved the episode and found the discussion on vulnerability and asking so impactful. It's great to hear how you're thinking about applying it in your own life. We appreciate your suggestion about writing a book-definitely something to consider! And we're doing great, thanks for asking! How about you? 😊

Thank youu

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Thank you also for the support!😍

I am not so fragile that the disapproval of a stranger is going to make me collapse into a weeping, sobbing pile. Don't like me? There's a good chance I don't like you, either. I'll sleep just fine, thanks!! As for the rest, I've never "belonged" anywhere. There comes a time when this just becomes reality. You either deal with it or you spend the majority of your life punishing yourself. "Connection" is never worth the effort, as it always becomes one-sided. What's there to "pursue?" Between the self-absorbed and the oblivious, what's left? I'm my own best company and this isn't going to change so I say "no" to both pursuing and being pursued. None of it is cute, to me.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Hi! Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's clear that you've found strength in your independence and self-reliance.!💪Everyone's journey with connection and belonging is unique, and it's important to do what feels right for you. We appreciate your honesty and the clarity you've brought to this conversation. Take care and continue to prioritize your well-being.💞

A wonderful Episode Bros. thanks for sharing :) --- And the timing is very apt as per usual . One comment though, I don't know if it is just my computer or what exactly. but it is very difficult to hear you guys. I have the volume all the way up and I can hardly hear you. Probably just my situation living in rural 'merika. but just wanted to make sure no one is missing your Brilliant Insights because of similar challenges. Peace and Love along the Way, from the middle of nowhere Washington State. Happy Pride month brothers!

@kodyjbosch1

24 күн бұрын

p.s. shot my shot with a "straight" guy in my small town of under 1ooo people and still paying for it 11 months later. All was well --- until he decided to become a mean straight / gay. Damn. it was rejection. but it was more like unnecessary cruelty. now he tries to talk with me 5 times a day (we both work in the same sector of the economy and drive by each other constantly in our pickups he pops up like a Prairie dog lol) and i've been telling him "F*ck Off!" since last October. oh me and my little Limerant Heart ~~~ Hope everyone else is fairing better

@kodyjbosch1

24 күн бұрын

***Just didn't want to go through The 5 Year Process for the umpteenth time. they say it is better to have loved and lost to not have loved at all. at 38 years old, I'm not so sure anymore. if someone you hardly know is that cruel from the starting gate why put yourself through it? Sadly, the amount of pain has not been less by the course of action I have taken. LOL. We are all learning and expanding our own consciousness --- hopefully the tide of Consciousness raises all the other boats as well. Hope there is some reason to it -

@GayMenGoingDeeper

23 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and for bringing this to our attention! We're glad you enjoyed the episode and found the timing apt. We'll look into the audio issue to ensure everyone can hear us clearly. Peace and love to you in Washington State, and Happy Pride Month! 🌈😊

I felt rejected all my, life. Long before I was gay but as a child. Never accepted & to this day still have no close friends. I have 3 partners in my, life one for 10 1/2 yrs, one for 3 1/2 yrs & last one 24 yrs. the last one ended in my, partner passing away in my arms of dementia at our farm in Missouri. I'm so alone here no friends & every time I reach out am turned away. I'm a Marine, (once a Marine always a Marine), a good & honest man. I have learned to accept being alone. My best friends were my husband & my dad, of which both are gone now in past 3 years. I keep to myself on my farm. Any advice? Thank you, Don

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Hi Don, thank you for sharing your story. We're deeply sorry for your losses. It's clear you're a resilient and caring person. Reaching out online can be a great way to connect with others who share your interests. You may start by visiting our website: www.gaymensbrotherhood.com/ Thanks for reaching out! Please know that you are not alone.🥰

@donbowles6386

Ай бұрын

@@GayMenGoingDeeper thank you, gentlemen

@VanamaliDas482

Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. I find myself in a similar space. Are there any LGBTQ+ centers near you. It's difficult to re-engage into socializing, but you can do it. You can move forward. Believe me, believe in yourself.

@T-money1221

Ай бұрын

Hey brother! I just wanted to reach out virtually and send some love to you. We may never meet in this lifetime, but know you have a brother that has love for you in Virginia! ❤

@donbowles6386

Ай бұрын

@@VanamaliDas482 thank you for the support