Great job, guys! This is a very powerful topic and I love each of your perspectives on it. Reno has such a beautiful way of speaking and creates "space to be" with his words (not just on this topic but all the videos I've viewed) and his openness to share his personal stories. Michael set this video up with great questions leading us through the various aspects on guilt and regret. I can totally relate to what he said about weaponizing words that hurt people and then feeling badly about it afterward. This is a huge admittance but I literally "rehearse" this shit in my mind (which never turns off and can often spiral) when I'm alone. I think as Gay men growing up in a World where we are not totally accepted (or worse...shunned, bullied, tortured) by out own families, peers or strangers, often unable to physically fight back, we develop our razor sharp wit and learn to analyze anyone we see, spot the vulnerabilities in a millisecond & go for the jugular when we feel threatened. As adult Gay men, we even celebrate & applaud "reading" and yes, it can be very funny but it's a very triggered, kneejerk, emotionally unevolved (and I include myself in that summary) way to interact with others. Again, from personal experience, I would imagine, we turn that same harsh analyzation on ourselves as well. I wish as a community we would stop celebrating it. Matt really hit the nail on the head on this topic for me with one word...EGO! It plays such a powerful role in how men function in life and I'm starting to look at how ego has ruled my life and how it has stopped me from moving forward or growing as a person. So, thank you all once again!

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed feedback! It means a lot to hear how our perspectives resonated with you on such a profound topic. It's inspiring to see you reflect deeply on your own experiences and recognize the impact of societal pressures on our interactions and self-perception as gay men. Let's continue this journey of growth and self-awareness together, fostering a community where vulnerability and empathy prevail over judgment and ego.🌈😍

I have learned about forgiveness and taking more responsibility.

Thanks for sharing your truths and honesty, very helpful.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Ай бұрын

Awww... Thank you for your thoughtful comment. We're glad to hear that you found the video helpful.💕

The thing that has been more conscious to me is regret, rather than shame. I have had a tendency to dwell on past relationships, and wondering why or how they ended. In retrospect, my regrets may have stemmed from things over which I had no control at the time. I have not consciously harbored shame, unless it was subconscious. As a result, it may have manifested in different ways that I didn’t recognize at the time. Now that I’m much older, I’m more philosophical about these types of things. I’m not as harsh on myself. I think I’ve come to realize that gay men are not that different than me or how I used to be when I was younger. Humans are more alike than they are different, in the final analysis.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your reflections with such openness. It's a journey many of us can relate to, navigating the complexities of past relationships and the emotions they stir within us. Your perspective on regret versus shame is insightful, and embracing a more philosophical outlook as we grow older is truly liberating. Your words resonate deeply.🥰

Another great episode. I can only emphasize the unique transformative power of love in relationships which can cause feelings of regret and guilt dissolve immediately. And I believe strongly by listening to psychics like Tyler Henry that our loved ones who have passed on are full of forgiveness, love and compassion. They also want to let us know about it. Reno’s container image is very helpful. And it’s maybe now Matt’s job to teach all the guys he loves forgiveness😀❤ Sending you my brotherly love🌈

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your perspective! Love truly has a remarkable ability to heal and dissolve any feelings of regret or guilt. It's beautiful to believe in the ongoing connection with our loved ones, and the idea of forgiveness and compassion transcending even beyond life is comforting. We appreciate your brotherly love and support!🥰🤩

Fellows ThankU really great. Regret was cultural pastime, especially my Pop. I appreciate the 12 steps! Step 5, the one about admitting our wrongs, says somewhere in the literature: When we say admit, we do not mean be punished. In step 8, listing the amends, some literature says put ourselves at the top of the list. Step 9 is the one Michael mentioned re "...except when it causes harm" For all the hype about honesty, sometimes it's best to say nothing, mind blown. They say steps 10, 11, 12 are the maintenance steps. I can vouch for it, my daily organizer. Last fall occurred a recovery crisis, i absolutely had it with acceptance. I accepted the unacceptable. I'm trying to find acceptance of that.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

We appreciate your thoughts.❤Your journey and insights into the 12 steps are truly inspiring. Acceptance can be a challenging but transformative process, and it's commendable how you're navigating it with such introspection and determination. Keep embracing the maintenance steps, and remember, progress, not perfection, is what counts. Wishing you continued strength on your recovery journey!💪

@carlorizzo827

2 ай бұрын

@@GayMenGoingDeeper how loving, thank you

This is why it is important that we Gay men have our own spaces to talk about affairs that affect us and connect with other Gay men; in the same way that straight men and women have their own spaces, and straight men and women must respect Gay spaces and respect our differences 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ Some straight women are really invasive, but at the end, all straight people must understand that we are different and respect Gay spaces and Gay men 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

@23LaysBaked

2 ай бұрын

While we should have queer spaces and keep our queer spaces alive and well, I think it would be better to include all rainbow warriors to our spaces not just the men. I love my gays, but to have a space exclusively for gay men feels like a disregard to our queer brothers, sisters, and non binary folk who should belong in our spaces also. What’s beautiful about our community is that it’s not just gay men. Straight women tend to have our back the most, it feels incorrect to be exclusive like that

@dubon9999

2 ай бұрын

@@23LaysBaked I mean, all the LGBT community should do the same. But in this case I refer to Gay men cause this is a channel for Gay men and because I am a Gay man. But I agree with you 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

We feel you!🤗Creating safe and supportive spaces for all communities to connect and discuss issues that affect them is crucial. It's about mutual respect and understanding. Thanks for highlighting the importance of respecting diversity and different experiences. 🌈

2 afterthoughts. I hate talking about how the supernatural touched my life. I just sound lunatic. Re amends to dead folks, umm, the supposition that they're not here can be questioned. May well be wishful thinking. If so, it's still effective auto psychodrama. Michael's disclosure of being not nice is poignant. I've always been overly nice, and long ago made aware how INauthentic that can be.

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@kennethbailey9853

2 ай бұрын

Amen !❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

True solidarity among the LGBTQ+ community is key! We're stronger together, embracing our shared experiences and supporting each other. Thanks for the uplifting message of unity! 🏳‍🌈

@seto749

2 ай бұрын

​@@GayMenGoingDeeper That would be a nice thought if it were doable, but it's clear that what the "community" is offering and wanting isn't true solidarity. Each group should have its own spaces, not pretend unity in order to turn all of society into Qtopia. I'm too homonormative for Qtopia; if you can thrive there good for you but please don't surrender our spaces voluntarily.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

2 ай бұрын

@@seto749 Thank you for sharing your perspective. Diversity within the LGBTQ+ community is important, and each group having its own spaces is valid. Our goal is to foster inclusivity while respecting individual identities and spaces. We appreciate your input!❤

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