I will rewatch this podcast a couple of times. Gabor, I cant thank you enough. Jeff too, we are all on a journey to becoming wholer.

Gabor!! One of my favorite humans … what a mind, what a heart 🙏🏾💖

I am so thankful for the opportunity to listen to this commune, I identify with so much. I am feeling so privileged thank you doctor and Guest. Amelitta

JAN 2024 I relate to Jeff's upbringing. I spent my childhood moving from country to country 11 schools mostly in different countries trying to fit in. I'm a people pleaser want to be liked and have suffered from severe Epilepsy and depression most of my life. I feel your pain. Thank you Gabore for your insightful clarity and unique understanding. You bring me back from some deep despair when I listen to your truths and obvious extensive research and experiences Richard

It's really good that Gabor makes the link between illness and low socioeconomic status.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

What good is it to link it..there will always be poverty.

I have never heard/seen Jeff Krasno before. What a very nice and well-done interview. Thank you to Jeff and Gabor for a fabulous back-and-fort where space in the conversation was allowed. I love it when conversations are not rushed. This was fabulous. I am a new listener!

"sonder (uncountable) (neologism) The profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it." Thanks Jeff I learnt a new word and THANK YOU for interviewing one of my favourite human beings🙏💜

Congratulations Gabor on completing this monumental task. I’m really looking forward to reading the book, and the nuggets of wisdom I know I will find there. The world has never been more ready to explore an alternative, and more healthy, culture, where fear is replaced by compassion. I truly believe a bright new future is possible for my grandchildren - there are enough Gabor fans across the world now to make it happen. Thank you for presenting this interview and spreading the word 👏🏻

@manishakale6527

Жыл бұрын

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@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, the book is very good. I personally like reading a lot more than listening.

Huge Hug with deep gratitude for Gabor Matè`s work and beautiful Humanity. OM Shanti💖🙏💖

Unfortunately our society is very fearful of sitting with pain😞for some reason, I am not...I will continue to be the change I want to see...thank you for your groundbreaking work, both of you...we must adjust🤲

@SM-gx3ho

Жыл бұрын

please give some advice on how to do it

@skyerscape8454

Жыл бұрын

@@SM-gx3ho sorry to reply to someone else’s thread. There are many methods to process and overcome trauma. Some that are proven to be work on a deep level. There is a great book called ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ which details some methods that the individual can access. Search for Peter Levine (somatic experiencing) which is a method that I am convicted first hand is affective.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

Alas, sitting with pain is time-consuming. Most ppl have jobs and family to maintain. It just isn't practical 😢

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

​@@SM-gx3hoyeah, right...he tells us what to do but not how.

THANK YOU!!! (neologism) The profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it.

Wow. Brilliant. Like they say, if I only knew then what I know now. I destroyed my destiny in order to be liked and everything that goes with it. I can relate to all that has been said. Thank you so much.

I love this man, he is so wise

Love to listen to Dr. Gabor speak the Truth! 💗

I also felt abandoned by my mother😵😵😵😭😭😭😭 She had to leave me for a week when I was a baby - she had to go away to her father's funeral. I think we didn't bond properly and I felt a really intense rage towards her. This later manifested as horrible acne well into my early 40s. Only when I addressed our relationship I was able to finally have clear skin 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸 I went to every medical professional I could find about my acne. The first thing they always suggested without any investigation whatever was Hormones! Just take birth control and you will be fine - never bought into it! Just didn't feel right! ‼️‼️‼️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

@katieandnick4113

Жыл бұрын

It would help you to have some perspective. Your mom went to your grandfather’s funeral for a week when you were a baby, and you think that destroyed you for the rest of your life? I wish more people understood how very many children have been and still are horrifically abused by their parents. It is not uncommon at all. Ironically(or maybe not so ironically), it is these people who often end up being the most functional members of society because society is so dysfunctional, you need to have practice in a dysfunctional environment early in order to adapt to the world. Thinking of ourselves as victims rarely is helpful, especially when you aren’t actually a victim. Gabor is in the same boat, if his biggest trauma was his mother leaving him with someone else for a few months when he was a baby. I get vibes from him that he’s probably been spoiled by his mother, and later, his wife, and that’s where his “trauma” comes from. We always must look at ourselves in relation to our fellow humans, and if Gabor can’t do that, if he thinks he became a narcissist(which he absolutely is) because his mom wasn’t around for a few months, he’s very out of touch. But nowadays, it pays to tell everyone they are victims of trauma. I mean, we all our, because this world is so screwed up, but those of us who escaped the original trauma, which is that which is perpetrated by the people who are supposed to protect us, would do better thinking about how fortunate we are.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

​@@katieandnick4113Did Gabor ever say he is a narcissist? Where did u get this? But I do agree he is holding on to his traumas...still talking about it since I met him 30 yrs ago.

Jeff and Dr. Mate, 🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you for today. Dr. Mate, your questions about childhood were respective to not just Jeff, but to me. As Jeff summarized so well, let's open this door and walk through and be available for all humans! 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you both, good stuff here. Gabor we need you right now and more people like minded. I enjoy your wisdom.

Most often I hear that allowing babies or toddlers to cry it out helps them "learn to self soothe", which supposedly helps them cope with stressors of life. Dr. Mate's thoughts on that will be greatly appreciated.

Also check out the film Medicating Normal and Robert Whittaker Mad in America,its full of loads of other researchers and lived experiencers with psych drugs and false diagnosis covering for what is trauma.

@helenryan2848

Жыл бұрын

That is also a very interesting and informative podcast.

Thankyou for your discussion. I've been a mental health nurse of nearly two decades and 12 years as addiction nurse within NHS. Been gaslit and stonewalled from my post over passing year. And I know although painfull as it is, in my heart and very experience, the poor leadership and governing of our NHS, Not utilising these precious and knowledge/experience rich service's to their evidential abilty/capability is for me a shamefull truth. One of many BIG problems requiring a 'Bigger' voice to make better.!! Thankyou for the intellectual 'top up'.💜

@jenifermullin7168

Жыл бұрын

Thank You* for Your* service! Hang in there. We need* You! Keep fighting the good fight💖(Please). God bless You🙏. His grace is sufficient for You!!🫂🤗💓🔥⛲.💡Let Your light Shine🕯️!!!

@daisychain914

Жыл бұрын

We need people like you 🌸

Thank you so much for this ❤️🙏. So much valuable information here. I'm really looking forward to the new book coming out.

Dr. Gabor Mate, you have nailed it! Many thanks!

Dr. Mate is amazing. I will listen to your book. I only listen as I love to knit. That is my big joy, wool addiction, but I am happy with.

So thrilled that others are talking about this too!

Not a bug, a feature. Thanks for this, too many risked and are still risking their lives to shed light on this. Thank you for being open about this and let's hope that those who need to see this will get it soon and clear, so then we can finally talk about how to change it for better.

The paradigm is not symptom treatment, the paradigm is PROFIT. The medical industry has gone rotten. Let food be your medicine.

I do wish he spoke more on his experience at Sloan Kettering. I had bone cancer at the age of 12 and he’s right the doors are way smaller when leaving. I do not know any survivors when I was in NY Presbyterian they all died and anyone else I have met where older and believe they were being helped and I do not. I wish there were places people who felt like I do about the medical field and survived the HORRIBLE treatment could talk. Most people do not think this way AT ALL.

Ordering Dr Maté his book on Downpour (audiobook, read by his son), amazing man, so much respect, from Flanders🙏

@annaberg1200

Жыл бұрын

What is the name of the book?

@testtest2609

Жыл бұрын

Oh, I wish it was read by Gabor...his voice is so soothing.

I’m from Brazil and Gabor Mate books are really helping on my healing process. Thanks for this interview.

@annaberg1200

Жыл бұрын

Any particular book title?

Dr. Gabor Mate has completely explained my illness and I know exactly what to do about it! I was a people pleasing perfectionist. It is time to BE MySelf! Thank You Dr. Mate!

1:26:23 Irreducible needs of children 1. Secure attachment relationship 2. Rest from having to work to make the relationship work 3. Fully developed capacity to experience all emotions 4. Free play out in nature

This is 100% true @8:55 time stamp. Back in 2011, I went through a very dark period in my life and asked my family doctor to prescribe me a meditation and was told that my medical insurance wouldn't cover it even though there is ample of scientific evidence that meditation would be highly beneficial during stressful time. Furthermore, I had an expensive PPO coverage paid. I often wonder what kind of world we live in that would support for vaccination but not embrace and accept other proven holistic healing modalities?

Love this interview..thank you…I feel compelled to read your book doc…🙏🏻

Have had this view for many years about the impact on emotional/social needs from bad parenting and societal ‘rules’

Straight up, the pharmaceutical company needs people to be sick so they can make money therefore that's why we have an ongoing crisis of people overdosing! And I believe the third leading cause of all death is medical malpractice. We got to figure out how to do things differently this time.

@kahlernygard809

Жыл бұрын

Yo thinking away the pain in the horrible car accident I was in doesn't work.... putting a drug in my body that chemically masks the pain does.

When interacting with others I always listen to how they announce their ailment(s) and how often they refer to them. "MY asthma", "MY bronchitis", "MY depression", "MY bad back", "MY allergies", "MY migraines", "MY sleep apnea", "MY sciatica", ETC.,...and of course, there's always that all inclusive, favorite one to fall back on..."MY fibromyalgia" _(like the elusive unicorn.)_ Whenever I hear someone refer to a "possible" ailment they're experiencing I listen for the preliminary "MY", and more-often-than-not, this tells me all I really need to know. "MY"____(fill in the blank)_____ says to me that commonly this person is holding on to their illness(es) tightly and not likely ever going to release and shed it. _(Translation: they're owning it and want to be sickly.)_ So, it only stands to reason that the next question any outsider should be asking them self is _"What's the payback for that person??"_ I feel the frequency of which being ill is spoken of and how a person addresses their ailment(s) speaks volumes about that person and the _"relationship"_ they have with being sick...to what degree are they comfortable _[[and dare I even say]]_ choosing to maintain being ill. Notice how some people are always sick and won't even try sensible advice or steps to possibly improve their condition. Might this _(instead)_ be a manipulative cry out for gaining attention for them?? I believe _(( NOT in all cases, but in SOME ))_ that when a person like this begins _"embracing"_ their ailment _(rather than seeking ways to move beyond it and shed it)_ that it possibly has largely become their identity, that it makes them feel _"special",_ and also that it becomes their crutch to avoid getting out of things they either don't want to do and/or face within their own life. From my observation, these people I'm referring to also tend to have a weak-to-nonexistent personal identity...as if, without having ailments to cling on to, they often don't even really know who they are. So, clutching onto illness not only gives them an identity, it also gets them attention and an excuse _(that most people would never even consider questioning)_ out of facing their life and managing their own affairs. _(Perhaps, might the true origin of their "ailments" be rooted in mental health, instead??)_ Notice, there are some people, who no matter how sick they may get, they'll QUIETLY _(without announcing it to any/and everyone who will listen)_ strive to get well as quickly as possible, so that they can get back to living and move forward in their lives. _(They have a life and an identity, but what they usually don't have, is time for being sick.)_ Society is much more graceful to those who hide behind being physically incapacitated rather than being seen as someone who truly is in need of mental help. I've also observed that these people who appear to possibly be hiding behind _"clutched onto"_ ailments often can _also_ be very manipulative...manipulating _"the system"_ and the people within their lives to get them to take care of them and do the things for them that they don't want to deal with. Again, as I stated earlier, I don't believe this is always the case, but often enough I've found there to be truth to this theory.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

So what? Ppl need to hold on to their disease bc there is nothing else to replace it. It is their identity until they find a different and better one.

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

thank you. this truly hits the nail on a head of a person I have tried to help for years. They have every excuse for not wanting to achieve mental wellness. Stubborn and happy to feel sorry for themselves, knowing others have moved past similar experiences. Highly intelligent person choosing the path of least resistance because soul searching healing is a lot of work. Of course, those experiences are theirs alone but, carrying a constant unwavering defeatist attitude. I hate to sever a relationship though there is little gain since I never gain any satisfaction that I helped them. Beat the horse to death, I now move on to help someone who may be reachable and find joy / awe in other areas of life. Discovering Mate through a friend and an embedded link I'm filled with hope many are finding help for free! I'll do my chores today and listen & learn more - my favorite thing to learn something new! all the best

Deeply touching. An awareness of great importance. Thank you.

"Sonder - noun. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." - The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

@tatiana.azevedo.psychology

Жыл бұрын

I live this ❤

Good to see the comments here by those open to what Dr. Mate has to say. Dr. John Sarno has several books about how negative emotions and repressed anger cause much illness & chronic pain - yet he said that MOST of those he encountered in his practice refused to accept that their medical problems could be rooted in emotional issues.

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

Surely today, more ppl know about the mind/body connection.

Dr. Mate, a truly compassionate healer.

Priceless ❤

Gabor Maté's work is brilliant and hopefully will reach institutions very soon although if the traumatic event preceeding illness becomes the new medical scapegoat, I am afraid that nothing relevant will change to resolve and ultimately prevent the true issues of our systems. Mental healthcare is already structured that way: the focus is on family dynamics so that everything that structures family dynamics like culture, schooling system, working system and social practices keeps running unchanged. Just like pinpointing entropy at one single illness or group of illnesses does nothing to resolve the problem at its core, pinpointing trauma at one single (or at a few) particular event(s) keeps feeding the massive gaslighting in which our culture and systems are submerged today. Trauma piles up into illnesses throughout constant dysfunctional interactions that are normalized by cultural and systemic standards and if we scapegoat single oversimplified situations or elements, the complexity of context is lost and so it is the opportunity for true overall improvement. As Gabor mentions, the "justice" system itself perpetrates injustice and it is paramount to add that the schooling system perpetrates the loss of foundamental knowledge and relational health and that the healthcare system very often perpetrates illness under the constant assurance of dogmatic practices in specialized knowledge and of the impossibility to prove correlations between medical/scientific practices and long term damages. Scapegoating a single event for lifelong damages is just like scapegoating a single abuser for the entire cultural gaslighting in which he/she developed, it is insufficient and ultimately ends up weighting on already highly damaged perpetrators doing nothing to help and instead worsening the overall situation. Introducing single elements of knowledge without changing the structure of our organizations will just rush us into total collapse. The very structure of interpersonal relationships and social organizations needs healing or we'll just keep replacing scapegoats untill civilization will be completely lost.

So how do u actually heal the trauma in me which makes and made me sick ? And how do I heal the trauma in my kids which I caused by being over ambiguous at work instead of focusing on my children ?

@mailill

Жыл бұрын

Find a good therapist? Also, look into videos about attachment style (like maybe Thais Gibson and her Personal Developement School) and Childhood trauma, like Patrick Teahan LICSW, who also has his own youtube channel? Also, getting out in nature - and offline - is healing in itself, if you can manage.

I was taught that by my medical school professor: dr Quinones , very famous professor of Pediatrics at San Marcos University in Lima Peru. She explained to us how her sister became “depressed” after her daughter passed away from a serious asthma attack and she developed a bone marrow aplasia. Since then I believed in the body mind unity ( not just connection) and this was emphasised when untrained at the New England Desconess hospital and met dr Benson personally, the one of the relaxation Response. Those days they gave him a basement space because they did not believe too much in this. It was the height of the AIDS epidemic and he was using his therapies to treat those patients, there was no HAART then , do the AIDS patients died

I was super sick after my divorce. Enlarged prostate, short term memory loss, arthritis in fingers, athletes foot,etc. Thankfully, I intuitively knew that going to the doctor would be no help. I read that over acidity was the cause of all of this. Acidity caused by my worry, stress, as well as a terrible diet. I changed my diet to all greens for a week....and by the second day, all of my symptoms were gone. No doctor...no prescription. I believe that the vast majority of our sickness stems from some type of non physical "trauma".

He is amazing!

Thank you 🙏🏽 makes so much sense 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

Awesome job

I pray for U.S.A. In need of inclusion of Mothernal order of playfulness. People are constipated. Bad, bad nutrition not enough laughter and caring #SaveSoil🎶🌎💚✌🏼🕊🎶🙏🏻❤️‍🩹 together let’s make it happen ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💞

This is very informative....

Another book Metaphysical Anatomy: your body is talking, are you listening by Evette Rose. Chiropractors using N.E.T. neuro emotional technique using applied kinesiology reveals trauma being the key event to self beLIEfs and dis-ease. It ripples and echoes from childhood into the future adult. Plus continued traumas in adulthood by narcissists PILE ON to existing traumas.

Great points

THANKS TIPS

Thank you 🙏💛

It is imperative to renew your mind daily

Dr. Mate, I have a lymphoma Non-Hodgkin name Waldenstrom. It’s a family lymphoma. My father have it and is father had it too. What do you think it could be the reason? A family trauma? Anger? I would like to understand! Thank you!

@robynhope219

8 ай бұрын

I don't think Gabor ever looks at the comments. I have never heard of Non Hodgkins being genetic, it could be epigenetic, which means environmental.

The real answers are now so controversial they not spoken. We have many answers to our particular problems. I recommend getting off the conveyor belt of mainstream answers.

Dr Gabor Mate genius 👍 👌 👏

The toxic culture itself is a great source of fear. Separating myself from the fear mongering and those who do what they can to shut me down emotionally or promote medication and therapy, neither of which has healed, leaves me isolated which in turn is scary. It seems to me that to come out the other side of this, if there is another side I must go through the most frightening experience of being alone with my trauma.

Truth

I feel like Live Boeree, and by extension Daniel Schachtenberger, have this nailed to the wall - ie. multipolar traps, or what Scott Alexander wrote about in his 'Meditations on Moloch'. This is what Darwinian evolution in motion looks like in human society if it's left to do its thing. It also matches the Dao in the way that John Gray borrowed it in Straw Dogs, ie. that the path of least resistance is natural selection, the destruction of all but the top 5-10% of people (based on luck, competitive edge, etc.) is what nature's actually aiming for much of the time - and it was value systems like Christianity, even Freemasonry to the extent that it was able to steer humanism, that stuffed a rag in the drain for a while.

How can I heal myself from anxiety and fatigue syndrome?

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

I do not know, I would look online again since it's been one year. I'm embarrassed that NO ONE responded to your request for help. Good luck finding a great professional or just by finding something online. For me my anxiety was clearly pointed out during my divorce. I was married to a mentally ill person for 30 years. Part of that trauma was to run What if? scenarios constantly. The ATTORNEY was my savior. Yep, he said stop it, stop running all these what if's. It's costing you money, anxiety and for what? Who has ever heard of an attorney who helps people like that. Yes, they are part psychologist but they don't mind, they're usually happy to just listen to you vent about your ex and bill you for it! Some don't want to be your psychologist and suggest you get one but some people can't get there. It was a weird connection, it was immediate. The rest of the attorneys I interviewed never said the only thing that struck a chord with me. It was - there are no winners in any lawsuit/divorce/settlement. Because there aren't. We all know attorneys are the only winners because they get paid for this overkill of seeking revenge. I had no revenge I just wanted to stop trying to help someone who didn't want to receive. Keep looking. I've been to 9 therapist the only one who helped me was an intern- why is that? because they weren't in it for the money yet, keeping patients in need of their help. Now I just devour the internet until I find my answer. My anxiety has changed because I get super prepared for anything that causes me anxiety and then I let it go knowing I did all I could to calm. An A student is never happy until their grade is returned with an A. They have anxiety but, what they do is, study like hell and get prepared as they can. The test is to see if you know the material, not a test of your intelligence. It is out of habit that you get better at test taking. I had the test anxiety but it was because I had jobs, bus commuting and never had enough time to study. I knew it. I didn't have the mind set to take a class over because I couldn't afford to take a class over and later learned everyone repeats a class or two. It was that information gathering that I didn't have. The point is, look at what is causing you to have anxiety over flying, testing, presentations, whatever it is. Letting things go after the presentation, test. Look life is short in the big picture, if you didn't prepare you will next time, if you did and there was an unexpected, you learn to realize there are always unexpected's. it's part of life. Big picture outlooks will hopefully help you. C. Behavior Therapy may help you?

Gabor Mate really is awesome. @53:19 The Moderator stated that addiction was highest among those who had suffered the most and had been displaced. I wonder why the Moderator never mentioned who is always the lead trafficker or lead overseer of the. drugs that are addictive and the roles they play in getting wealthy

A partial reason for why the mind and body are separated is because of the way insurance pays out.

My country is Hungary. We have high suicide rate and mentally ill people wonder out on the streets of Budapest. Mental Health hospital is improving. Budapest szep varos. Joska Budapest Hungary

I'm surprised by Gabor's seemingly ad-hoc digressions re. the so called conspiracy theories and vaccination scepticism... using clearly dismissive and derogatory tone... being such a good researcher, I'm amazed he didn't investigate the origins of polio vaccines and didn't look into the issues around the childhood vaccination schedule

@ClayMastah344

Жыл бұрын

He does give it validity. He doesn’t “put it past them” to do a vaccine cover up as they did. He speaks with native communities often, he wrote a book about gov and society making us purposely ill. But he’s a public figure and great at reading people, he understands taking the stance, even if true, does nothing for him and his message. I don’t think he disbelieves it, but I think he has too much to lose to admit so publically. This is coming from someone with the same skepticism who did not opt in to the shenanigans

@elakarczewska9042

Жыл бұрын

@@ClayMastah344 the question remains... was he being tactical....? very likely.... it would be close to suicidal to come up with an anti establishment commend at the time when he is working so hard to promote his new book.... from the pragmatic perspective, I can understand that.... on the other hand, I feel disappointed because my assumption was that he is on my side of the fence...

@ClayMastah344

Жыл бұрын

@@elakarczewska9042 I completely understand where you’re coming from…I was also disappointed which is why I pondered on why he of all people would support that stance. I’m glad you spoke up. I hope his mention of “not giving into covid fear” was his own way of being forward. Then again, this crime against people has swayed even the brightest of minds, even after the publicizing of paperwork, leaks, lack of testing…

@elakarczewska9042

Жыл бұрын

@@ClayMastah344 thank you for engaging in a conversation with me... I value your honesty and openness in expressing your stance.... as someone who hasn't given into con-vid fear, I resonate with all you are saying... somehow I sense Gabor ''gets it'' and chooses not to be fully open about it publicly.... which I can understand... it is also possible that he may be in two minds about it...a after all, he is a seeker of truth and an open minded individual, which shows in his referring to the Canadian pastor, whom he depreciated in the interview.... yet again he has at least looked into it.... which shows that he didn't dismiss it right away as a total nonsense...

@mercyme8014

Жыл бұрын

I think Gabor is such an incredible workaholic that he misses things or pursues them in a cursory manner. This becomes a kind of ‘denial’ which does serve his goals as he is already planning his next huge project. It’s so ironic to me that someone who nearly didn’t escape with his life from a fascist regime cannot see the implications of mandates and censorship, “cancellations@ and “denouncements” on such a massive scale. The lawsuits out there being brought for discrimination against religious exemptions, the VAERS database, the experimental drugs tested on the public and lack of informed consent…how does he not begin to notice red flags?. Then again if all your time is spent on focused research you simply will not and cannot pay attention to the huge volume of info. Presented on many alternative news and internet platforms.

Dr Gabor the reason for all the sickness today is because we are living in a fast paced world that the human brain cannot keep taking it day after day in work and education. Materialism is doing the same we get stressed and that creates further issues. To heal we all need to stop being pushed with out work and stop being so materialistic people with less are often happier better people. What we should be saying when we dont achive is SO WHAT.

I got breast cancer at 32 in 1976. I married a controlling man with a critical family. I was preserved because of the Love of my children. Love covers a lot of sins! ❤😊

And by the way, if we really knew the true cost of scientific research on life, we wouldn't be accepting not even for a second to make damage and be damaged "for the good of science".

Epigenetics? Morphic Resonance? Ty GM

This concurs with the work of German New Medicine.

@desertboot9755

Жыл бұрын

And migraine - I'd love to dig further into how migraine 'helps' the traumatised brain?

I request help to sign up. Is there’s telephone number i May call for help.

The individual ego isn't to be superated, it is to be honored (after this comment i'm done, sorry for the comments dump, commenting's my coping mechanism.. 🙈🙉🙊)

ANXIETY TRIGGER ALERT PLEASE READ THIS ONLY IF YOUR NERVES ARE WELL COVERED AND SOLIDLY UNDER YOUR OWN CONTROL. Indifferent universe is still a "better" trauma than "universe" that makes your problem worse by forcing "help" that is actually abuse, or than "universe" that deliberately punishes those who need help or suffer hence worsen the problem. Not to mention retraumatization. Upgrading my own relational trauma to indifference was such a relief that I've spent years craving for the most indifferent person I've ever met and mistaken that for love. This world could be so amazing but right now it's undeniably full of shit.

@tdarons

Жыл бұрын

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So I was told by my sister after sleeping with my ex husband that I should just get over it and not be angry how should I have enhandled that do I not have the right to be angry?

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

You have the right to be angry. Be done with him in your mind. Consider what made your sister say such things? She sounds narcissistic if not, has mental problems. No one can tell you how to feel. People will help you deal with your feelings, process your pain. Accept she's made a grave mistake. Ignore this and move on if you can. She is your sister. She is allowed to make a mistake, consider she's feeling the guilt of what she did was wrong and may never get beyond her shame or know how to deal with the double whammy you experienced from her action. People deal with their mistakes in various ways. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Also, consider if it was just sex? & when it happened. It's been awhile since your post hope you found a neutral place in your mind about this or the pain is a little less. Once Again, I'm embarrassed so many folks pass by these questions from people, asking for an outside opinion or help and there were no responses. I'm coming to the conclusion that so few care about each other. No wonder the whole world is such a mess! I guess this is the point of Mate? I don't know didn't listen all the way through and John Lennon, All we need is Love, didn't help much so a celebrity as big as he and no actions have come through. In fact, we are worse off now with so many narcissistic leaders, mind controlling media, the hope lessens each day for humanity. Whatever Mate is, at least he is trying and it's free.

Way too many ads

@ClayMastah344

Жыл бұрын

Agreed I was shocked

I really enjoy listening to people like Gabor though I'm not sure who's the other guy I noticed he started going into global warming aspect... That right there other ones the whole podcast it's kind of like Jordan Peterson trying to be an expert on war in Ukraine.. I love the guy followed all his work but after he called ukrainians fools it's hard to take him seriously makes you question all his other work was it just his opinion or is he specialized in that topic.. I really think people should stick to the profession day started for all good at because once they get famous people listen to their comments and opinions on other stuff that they know nothing about could be very misleading.. I love Gabor because he's very careful about giving opinions on stuff he doesn't know 👏

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

well said, makes me think its like when celebrities join on a band wagon without doing the research or consider all the sources. A curious mind is open to not being swayed this way or that but considering all points of view. If they shut their mouth and just donated to their cause it would speak volumes to me. When they don't and they just request money for their cause and don't volunteer any help and just spew what they think is real, then I take issue. We should never follow the masses without our own independent thinking The world is driven by a few. We are losing the biggest opportunity to creating curious minds which think independently. 3 year olds who continue to ask Why? End up being the few independent thinkers.

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In the uk, during the 80’s and 90’s, suicide was the biggest killer in young men! And now it’s changes massively but I’m unsure why! I have some ideas but thought I’d as your view 1st. I always thought addiction, and non acceptance of homosexuality were good contenders.

Thank you for sharing. I love Gabor and read all his books. What was surprising for me as I posted his talks for others that they brought to my attention that he is supporting trauma healing but during lock downs supported MSM propaganda and not his own teachings ( people now question his credibility ) not people who just are traumatized by society and mandates and were asking for compassionate respect for their right freely choose and be authentic in saying No as he talks in his lectures to be....Cathy Kearney - CBC News that has been brought to my attention and I really was just in questions about this and your reflections on it as people are asking me questions and healing of being......According to Dr. Gabor Maté, those who do hold extreme anti-vaccine ideologies, like people who have organized protests or aggressively taken to social media to spread conspiracy theories, often do so out of unresolved trauma from their childhoods. The best-selling author, retired physician and Order of Canada recipient who has spent more than a decade working with people who have addictions in Vancouver's Downtown Eastside says that sense of belonging within a group of people who support conspiracy beliefs brings temporary pleasure and a sense of power to vulnerable people. "We're looking at a lot of traumatized people who are finding a political outlet for their mistrust and anger," he said. "It's nothing to do with the issue itself, it has to do with the issue acting as a flash point for their own unresolved traumatic imprints." Would you be willing to talk about this and how do you look at this now when so many real things about vaccines transpired into our collective consciousness and questioning profits and support of this harmed many and now is related as well as people are pointing to your views and holding accountability Thank you.

When I was young..I thought I was Perfect. I was Strong and Healthy! Then into the world and a critical husband and his family. They nearly destroyed me. I am Done! Got them out of my life and I will be Well! I am Perfect just as God Created me! 😊❤

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

sweetheart good for. you that you have gained the strength to go back to your core and that core your parents helped you with has made you realize you did not need to stay in that relationship, New Flash, no one is Perfect. I love your self confidence but you need a little more self-awareness. You have many great qualities are probably really smart but take a step, moment & ground yourself or you too will come off being mentally ill - we are all narcissistic a little but if you have repeated traits & 7 of them, go get yourself some help and be honest with yourself or you will have a very hard time later in life and it will slowly get worse and worse. I will you wellness, happiness and luck. It may end up being a lot of work for you but it will be worth it.

@kathleenwharton2139

5 ай бұрын

@@ninagoodwill8019 Perfect..with a lot of Forgiveness..me and others!

Do you like the work of German New Medicine?

This guy always looks so sad or strained. Hope he's ok.

@robynhope219

10 ай бұрын

Yes, and he never smiles. He admits to be a workaholic...I don't believe his traumas are healed.

From my own experience, "crying things out" may be undesirable for primary trauma events (where trauma potentially originates and develops from). But I can honestly tell that it helped me as an adult, while dealing with the consequences of prior (childhood) trauma and all the resistance and other coping mechanisms I have developed as a result. When someone manages to land a precise strike, going past all of your (artificial) defenses, it hurts. But then you have to face it - head on, no more BS. Because there's nothing else left to hide behind - all your cheap defenses were already defeated. There is extensive work around the topic of "re-traumatization" being done by Prof. Sam Vaknin and it shows promise for treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which itself is a post-traumatic condition/state).

too many adds. They are highly distracting. they in fact create tension. pity. it is a very important podcast.

Maté emphasizes nurture over nature, a welcome reframing of that eternal debate. But why does talk of human psychology never factor in macro-economic events like the decline of late-stage American capitalism? 1/3rd of America’s middle class has disappeared into poverty in the past 40 years. Wealth inequality is now worse than at any time in the nation’s history. Theses factors have real impact upon society, while Maté sells books and get wealthier the rest of us slip deeper into economic precarity.

@pibkaveronica7622

Жыл бұрын

Don’t buy his books then

@kahlernygard809

Жыл бұрын

@@pibkaveronica7622 don't buy his bs message. It's pseudo science

Too many ads every five minutes really makes it hard to stay in the process

Yourube removing my comment is utterly shameful also. In fact..Evil…an act of the most debauched cowardice! I stand by my previous comment!!

It is though not easy to understand what doctor, Gabor saying sometimes maybe because of He's sound equipment or something. I don't know what it is but you can try to hear what I am talking about by watching the video. Right? And the language you are using isn't maybe only for the high educated people and not for the normal everyday kind of people. I am sure the normal person doesn't recognise a lot of those words that you are using. Please accept this message as a positive one.

I wonder who is interviewing who here.

🥴😵😵‍💫 occasional ads are understandable, but every 5 minutes? Yikes!

Really interesting talk. Unfortunately the jab has come out as bad as many countries and health entities are having to redact previous statements on its effectiveness and those who did least mandates came out much better as a result, while those who "trusted the science" have myocarditis and "sudden death" to deal with en mass...Wonder how such an intelligent man missed that. The conspiracy theorists were right and he was wrong to dismiss them. Also not 100% sold on the idea that we need to coddle our children's feelings. Maybe a better strategy is needed but... Seems like the current generation gets plenty of air time to their problems and we've become weaker as a result and in danger of being dominated now by stricter societies like China and Russia.

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

there is a fine tuning that a parent must do in the coddling arena. Generational changes are still an experiment. I think researching those who have had enough radar training on whether or not something is crap (whining) or real determines who wins at the game. I'm fortunate to have had a parent who didn't permit much TV and told no commercial can be believed. TIf a doctor that is affluent and old truly wanted to make healthier people at this point why is your approach to continue to charge? Mate seems to be a little more genuine. There are plenty of other free You Tube help series. If you can't afford help, you need them, listen to their ads which help you get free help. You Tube has helped me heal from all my trauma with a lot of deep soul searching. Issues take work. let's be happy we have free choices for now. Do the work, read, listen, search and work on yourself. Good luck to everyone.

Really disappointed that you decided to call out "conspiracies" around the pandemic but didn't acknowledge the trauma incurred by so many via the gaslighting of the general public by officials around the virus and the cure, evidence of which is more compelling with each passing day.

@tdarons

Жыл бұрын

!!!!!!

@kahlernygard809

Жыл бұрын

He's a hack who thinks woo woo "think about the pain will make it go away" actually works. It doesn't. What does work is pharmaceuticals... stop trying to control how others use medicine to function better!!!!

@k.g.8503

Жыл бұрын

Um, what information can you share on this conspiracy theory?

@mimici09

Жыл бұрын

@@k.g.8503 um maybe do your own research instead of wedging your head in CNN's ass. Start with VAERS then move on to the numerous reports that have recently been released. Even the CDC has changed its tune.

@k.g.8503

Жыл бұрын

@@mimici09 well, I don't really understand your stance so I'm not sure where to start. Care to share at least one link or are you the one actually trying to gaslight here?

Yeah parents should stay home with infants for a year or so. Parents not a person

Existence itself is traumatic. . period. So the only REAL way to end trauma. . is to end existence.

He is on to something big, that we are doing a lot of dehumanizing things in American society...but also, he is ignoring other facts...countries like Norway and Sweden that have world's longest maternity leaves (and paternity leaves) STILL have crimes...Norway has a problem with random shooters, despite their wealth and humane practices.

@ninagoodwill8019

5 ай бұрын

also heard Sweden has terrible violation/crime against women in general. Hoping it's changing.Hoping their neighbor Finland's all female administration will teach them something there. Finland has it down why can't anything from there be implemented around the world? MONEY the root of all problems?

Find god ppl .

This was good until they started talking about conspiracy theorists. What’s going on in the world right now and the fear/beliefs people have are absolutely nothing to do with childhood trauma.

That man looks dead & we are taking advice from him ❓😂😂😂😂 He just makes up crap that sounds guru ish & people are so desperate 😂😂

breathwork sessions helped me so much with my trauma. And plant medicine once or twice a year 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖