I'm 37 still a virgin and don't tell people because I don't want to be treated like a freak. I'm Christian and waiting till marriage. I don't care how long it takes I will wait and honor God. I am waiting on God to bring me the right man in my life.

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Good for you! 🙌🏽💪🏽

@gracemawulikatakiti2300

Жыл бұрын

And God will honor you too. He honors those that honor Him. U are blessed 😍

@alexissashanicolle8675

Жыл бұрын

I’m your age Becky and totally understand the pressure. Thanks for staying strong and sharing, it was encouraging to know I’m not alone

@angelaburki4295

Жыл бұрын

I’m also 37 and have no problem letting people know I am a virgin if they bring up the subject. If they think I am a freak, that is their problem and doesn’t affect how I see myself. I finally met the right guy for me four months ago, and he is happy to wait until we are married in two months before engaging in any sexual activity.

@lungileangel660

Жыл бұрын

Im 40yrs old still a virgin await for a life partner from God

Being a virgin on my wedding night felt so exciting. I was on a high from the wedding and then getting to know my new husband more intimately in the honeymoon suite was so worth the wait. Itnwas better than waiting for Christmas to open presents. ☺️

There will be no regrets if you wait for marriage . We just celebrated our 40 th wedding anniversary and being virgins on our wedding day was not only a testimony but also built a foundation for marriage .

@rebeccamartinez6062

Жыл бұрын

Thank-you, for sharing this HOPE!! 💕🙏💕

I didn’t unfortunately but once I got married I understood why waiting is good. The safety, satisfaction, loved feeling was incredible. Unfortunately my marriage didn’t work out as my ex husband cheated and is completely addicted to porn and sex. I’ve been committed to waiting since my ex husband dumped me. We’ve been divorced almost 6 years. But my man now is a Christian man who is committed to waiting like I am. He is a widower.

@elisabethizzy77

Жыл бұрын

Blessings for you both!!

@ngreat4390

Жыл бұрын

Why are you waiting? Wait because you're waiting for and with God. It's your faithfulness to God.

@ngreat4390

Жыл бұрын

Sorry your marriage didn't work out. I think that people pretend in order to fit the narrative of virgin. It's possible that you and your partner never talked about what made you feel satisfied sexually... Which led to envy in his life and cheating. You've got to forgive him. Find a Christian sex coach and learn properly. Next know the truth! The truth keeps you grounded and not jumping from one relationship to another. Your marriage is redeemable... except God asked you to leave him.

@nikkijoycreations8708

Жыл бұрын

@@ngreat4390 my marriage is not redeemable at this point. And I have not jumped from one to another. Who I’m with now is the only one since my ex husband and I separated before the divorce was final. Met this guy in 2019. I got Divorced in 2016. My ex husband is super addicted to porn and pays monthly to several things. And we didn’t talk about things because he never brought up or wanted to talk about him being unsatisfied. I don’t need a sex therapist either. That’s just disgusting you would even bring that up on a Christian channel like this. Doesn’t matter if the therapist is a Christian.

@michellelogan9177

Жыл бұрын

@@nikkijoycreations8708 I absolutely love that you had the courage to walk away from that because pornography definitely destroys marriages and real intimacy between husband and wife. The addiction is centered around a sexual encounter on many levels that a wife should not compete with because it’s extremely damaging. Clearly your ex husband had so many other issues with that porn addiction and only God can help him. 💛

As someone getting married in November who is waiting, I needed this video so much!

Literally this came out at just the right time. I feel so guilty and so ashamed for what I’ve done and it’s not something that I would want for anyone else so if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. God is so faithful and He died for us so we should live for Him. I’m making a commitment this day to abstain until marriage. Also thank you Sutton and Nate for sharing these inspiring and uplifting videos at how fruitful a Christian life can be. I hope that I am so blessed.

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

That’s awesome that today marks your starting point! You can do it! Promise you will regret it! 🙏🏽🙌🏽

Great video Topic! I was a virgin as well, my husband was Not, he was 8 years older, and slept with many, many girls before we married. I made him get tested for everything. My dad would say I can't hold it against him, for what he did in the past. It's what he does now. And he respected, and appreciated my virginity. But.... I don't recommend marrying a person who was so pernicious, and raised different. I always felt that in his head he compared me. I regret it all , would never have married him , knowing what I know now. 35 yrs later he passed from cancer a year ago . I loved , and miss him. We just had to many issues being raised so differently. We had 3 son's and he told them to sow there oats while they could, he didn't regret doing that. Our sons didn't wait for marriage, and I'm still mad at his immoral influences on them . Ok that's my story!

@1love1hope1faith

Жыл бұрын

Oh I have a very similar experience and knowing he had Partners before me made it really hard as well and I definitely would never have been with him either if I’d known how much that would impact me in our relationship and he also has passed away from cancer. That’s why I think it’s just as important for a man to stay a Virgin as much a women but more pressure on girl then men but after what I experienced I wish so much that he had of been a Virgin as well!

Such a great topic! I had several people tell me they were shocked when I told them my now husband and I were waiting till we were married to have sex. They couldn’t fathom that we were 22/23 years old and were virgins. But I remember walking away from those conversations feeling so confident and proud that we were waiting because it just reminded me how difficult it is to do what we choosing, but we were honoring God and that gave us encouragement. But, yes, when you follow the will of God and enjoy sex within the boundaries of marriage that He designed it for, there is no guilt or shame.

I had sex before marriage, I wasn’t a Christian at the time but I would always feel kind of empty and used after and at the time i didn’t understand why especially as it was with a steady boyfriend but now as a Christian it makes sense why I felt that way. In our culture the sacredness of sex has been lost and what a huge thing it is to join together with someone on many different levels. Now I see in hindsight why God gives us those boundaries to protect us and any future children. 💕

@priscillamacias-rosa3385

Жыл бұрын

You said this so eloquently! I wanted to say the exact same thing. I love watching these videos because I want to learn how to give my kids the tools to help them save themselves.

@helixmoore7636

Жыл бұрын

Did you know that in the Bible sex WAS the marriage act? If a man knew an unmarried aka virgin woman she became his wife.

AHHH!!!! THE INTRO! Im so happy yall brought it back!!!! 🥰🥰🥰 This is such a good topic to talk about!♡♡♡ 30 years old and still waiting for the one God has for me!😁🥰

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Wahoo!! Haha yeah this intro was flashbacks for sure 🤣 we used to do that stupid stuff a lot 😂

@feehloif3

Жыл бұрын

@@nateandsutton aww well I along with a lot of other people(Im sure) enjoy them very much!♡♡ you all are awesome!

What a FANTASTIC VIDEO! Loved the point about being proud of your obedience to God and knowing that you are honouring him! Been watching y'all for years - Thank you for using this platform to encourage young believers, Nate & Sutton!💙💙💙

My husband and I saved ourselves for marriage. I thought I would feel some guilt afterwards but it totally clicked that we were finally married and that sex is a form of worship in marriage. And you avoid any drama from sleeping with other people. When you save yourself for marriage, you also save yourself from feeling guilty, shameful, used, empty, etc. It was hard when dating but my husband and I kept each other accountable and it was worth it.

That's so correct...the topic of sex and waiting until marriage is really taboo in the Christian community. Much needed discussion👏🏾 Thanks for sharing❤

I was married before (to an unfaithful man). We did not wait. I was not a Christian then but still felt guilty. Years later, I'm now a Christian and recently married a wonderful Godly man. We waited. What a difference. We will never ever regret the decision to wait for God's best where sex is concerned.

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing since you experienced both! I’m sure this will encourage someone 🙏🏽

@quinoasongs2507

Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing. I am a widow, and my late husband and I waited too, and it was worth it. Nice to see someone else who's willing to encourage waiting when it's a second time round.

@art_strings

Жыл бұрын

@@quinoasongs2507 So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words.

I had a somewhat opposite experience. I saved myself for marriage. I don’t regret it for even a second. However I did have a short period (a day) of “reflection” that I wasn’t a virgin anymore. I’m not entirely sure what the right word is, but probably because I was an older bride I held onto virginity as my identity. So having sex was emotional in many ways. So if you feel that way, don’t be alone! My partner was super supportive and like I said, the feelings went away within a day.

@-BekahJoy-

Жыл бұрын

I am single and a virgin and no guy in sight, but this is something I have felt and wondered about if I ever get married

@melaniegrunert9675

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your honesty! I think I can imagine that happening too :)

Very important topic! And the bloopers - so much fun! Please keep sharing them if possible 🙏☺️

I have learned that parts of me are sacred and not intended for play time. My goal as a reborn virgin is to intentionally control my flesh and not open my treasure chest to a man that’s not my husband. So far, this journey has been going since 2014 and I feel no shame and emptiness any longer.

@sfrancies87

Жыл бұрын

But what if you never get married? Would you abstain forever?

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

So awesome!

@michellelogan9177

Жыл бұрын

@@sfrancies87 great question. I would definitely abstain forever because it’s my biblical understanding to do so. If God has a husband for me then I will have that freedom to feel no more shame and emptiness, which really sucks, I’ve been there many times. I’ve been married and now widow since 2000 and did the date life which led to nothing but my own lust.

@wandertree

Жыл бұрын

@@michellelogan9177 Beautifully said. Our first love is to God, and He will give us the strength to obey Him.

“He leads us on the path of Righteousness for His Name Sake.” Another righteous topic that bears fruit to our God! Thank you Nate and Sutton! My husband and I have been married 30 years and unfortunately we were not virgins when we got married. When we were dating we started going to church and when we decided to get married, our Pastor said told us to avoid physical intimacy until we’re married so we stopped until we got married. Now, we did move the wedding up! Lol! But like you said, we became virgins again because our God has forgiven us and we were cleanse by the precious blood of Jesus! Thank you to our Great God and King!

I love hearing stories of other people saving themselves for marriage! My fiance and I are so saving ourselves until next year when we get married and I don't want to have any regrets or guilt when we can finally be intimate with each other 😊❤✝️

I love how you guys just crack up laughing so much! This was a great video!

Just love the fun you have together. It’s soo nice to see you both laugh at each other 😅🥰

I love how you guys talk about these topics (relationships/dating/sex) in a light-hearted but real way! It's interesting to see how it's become sort of a "reversed mindset" in society to not wait when it was the norm in biblical times 😂

My long time boyfriend and I messed up. It was one time. Ever since then we’ve made it right and got back on track. I felt a lot of negative things about it and I honestly think we lost a little bit of our bond when it happened. But when we sat down and talked and decided to recommit to waiting, the strength of our relationship increased tremendously. (Honestly, I was pretty scared thinking about our wedding night before we messed up. Lots of anxiety about pain or it being awkward. So there was a certain peace with knowing what it’s like)

I just love how much fun you guys have together

A few days ago I mentioned this topic to my sister. I'm saving myself for marriage and I felt like I'll feel guilty during my honeymoon. Thanks for sharing. I found it very interesting and the guiltless mystery is an experience I can't wait to have.

@wandertree

Жыл бұрын

My husband and I were virgins when we were married at 22. There is no guilt, only excitement to finally be together! It's such a precious relationship. You're doing the right thing. We're celebrating 25 years this year, two kids later!

Great content! Love it. Also loving the intro and bloopers. I was cracking up 😂

Love how u said u want to be that role model for other guys!!!! We need more of that in this world!! Thank u!

Thank you so much Nate and Sutton for this encouragement🤍Thank you for hyping me up and making me walk around with my head up saying "I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin yeah!"😄😄 Be blessed🤗

Love the outakes!!Keep those coming!

nate && sutton , what a beautiful beautiful video on a really unspoken topic ! thank you for being vulnerable && really emphasizing the importance on saving yourself on marriage to pursue purity for your wedding night ! what a beautiful covenant God has oriented inside of marriage ! thank you for leaving into Him && continue to rely on His strength ! ✞ ッ ♡

Nate says-“… I feel like I never had an example to follow of someone telling me how cool it is to save yourself for marriage…. for some reason, I just thought it was!” (~Loved this!) Then Nate said something that was so, so powerfully revealing to me of Nate (& Sutton’s) heart; what they are doing & why they are doing it. It was this~ Nate said, “If you don’t have someone in your life like that, I want to be that person for you!” This video~ The Truth! Wisdom! Genuine Encouragement… that could not have flowed from these two precious souls better than it did! My husband & I have been married for 38 years! We are SO thankful that we saved ourselves for marriage! P.S. There was absolutely no guilt/shame on our wedding night!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

💛💛

I got married two months ago and I was a virgin. Didn’t feel guilty or awkward. I asked some wise married woman in my life for advice and that helped me feel calm and educated about what was going to happen. Highly recommend reading the book The Act Of Marriage during engagement.

You guys are awesome!!!🎈 keep adding the bloopers in the video 😂👌

Such a beautiful couple 🤍 I am so grateful for your channel my God continue to bless y’all and all you do!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! 💛

Thank you Nate and Sutton for making this video. I am choosing to wait for the right women that God wants for me. Being single is very challenging. I have never dated and I'm turning 33 later this month. Virginity is a rarity and I sometimes feel like I might fail and let God down. I appreciate the encouragement to keep going.

Yes I 1000% regret not waiting for marriage and so does my husband. It was something we’d set out to do in our upbringing, but we fell into temptation . We have a wonderful marriage, but We so wish we could have given that gift to each other

@AaronFromGuildford

Жыл бұрын

Don’t worry about it, my ex-wife and I give the gift of virginity to each other and it didn’t really help. We were both evangelicals both love the Lord but we found out that it’s not only that you can be spiritually unevenly yoked with someone but you can be sexually unevenly yoked. They don’t teach that in church and they should.

I binged all of your videos while dating my now husband and especially the “Was the first night awkward” video before our honeymoon in January 😊🙈. But I am so thankful for your example of a godly marriage that puts the Lord first and loves Him supremely! I would love to see more marriage content from you and learn from you!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Congrats on your marriage and thank you for following along with us! 😄

Same here absolutely 💯 no guilt! Saving yourself for marriage was so beautiful and our wedding night was beautiful! I will never forget it!

Nate’s personality is so funny 🤣🤣🤣 and the way Sutton reacts is hilarious. I appreciate the personality and truth you bring to videos!

THE INTRO IS BACK😍😍😍😍😍Hach, I didn't know how much I missed it!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

I actually had sex before marriage and I felt guilty I felt disgusting but when I got right with God I actually felt him lift my shame it was so incredible it was like a sigh of relief but now I am waiting for marriage

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

That’s awesome!!

@octopus4925

Жыл бұрын

That's beautiful ❤️

I'm one hundred percent waiting for my husband. I know some people will call me freaky and I will be tempted in the future, but it will be worth it and I'm very excited to hopefully have a good marriage. Thank you guys for the encouragement; the whole world needs it. Love you guys! Can't wait till Jaiman is in the intro!

Such a nice video! Thanks Nate for emphasizing how being a virgin is not something to be ashamed of at all! Love you guys ❤️

The blank stares into the camera at 9:02 😂😂😂 not sure why that's so funny to me. ❤️ Continue to encourage doing what is pleasing in The Lord's sight. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

“I felt a lot of things on our wedding night and guilt wasn’t one of them.” 😂😂😂 “And for all you other people out there, I don’t know what you’re doing watching our channel.” 😂😂😂 “Oh my gosh! You’re a freak, I don’t want to touch you if you’re a virgin.” How twisted is that? They would rather touch someone who has been touched by many others, and it’s the virgins who are the freaks. 😂😂😂 Nate’s face when he is sitting on the bed in the bloopers. 35 in October and still waiting for the wedding night.

This gives me hope. Thank you.

I’m 19 and I’m going to be married to my boyfriend soon, we’re both Christian and I saved myself for marriage, because I always thought it would be so cool to be able to share that part of myself with only one person. My boyfriend did some stuff before he was a Christian, and he’s recommitted himself to waiting for marriage, but when we talk about it he often gets sad and tells me that he wishes that he would’ve saved that part of him for me. You guys give some great advice on this subject, even though today sex isn’t seen as something sacred, I think it’s awesome that you guys are reminding everyone of what Gods true intent was for it, love you guys, also I love the Jamen, after you guys made that vid I thought I would save it in my baby names list for the future, God bless u guys ❤️🙏

Bloopers were hilarious!!!!!!!! Good stuff.

I am a 22 year old girl and every time I go to gynecologist I feel guilty that I’m a virgin because the doctor says “oh wow, don’t worry, it’ll be okay”, they say it like nobody wants me (and that’s not true, I’m pretty) And I also feel bad sometimes cause you never know if the right person is ever gonna come into your life And with all those people who don’t understand the concept of saving yourself till marriage (I only have my best friend who shares the same values) it’s really hard to keep believing in what you think is right I am very grateful that you guys exist!!! Every time I need support I accidentally choose the right video with the right words!!

@anarosco5175

Жыл бұрын

Hey, God is faithful! Don't ever give up on Him! It is definitely worth the wait! On my wedding knight i was a virgin and 27 years old. I Will never forget how proud of myself i felt and grateful to God i am for giving me strength. My husband is also very proud of me. I never regretted waiting on the Lord and being faithful to my husband even before I knew him. In due time God will bless you with a great man that will treasure and and love you enormously!

@kingdomcuts6093

Жыл бұрын

I just wanted to say as a young girl I'm in the same situation. Although we probably live thousands of miles away from each other, I share your values. Don't lose sight of the sacredness, I do hope waiting will be worth it for both of us! I wanted to say this, so you can see there's more of us in the world

@mistiness4053

Жыл бұрын

@@anarosco5175 thank you for support!! stories like yours help me a lot to stay on the right path🥰❤️

@mistiness4053

Жыл бұрын

@@kingdomcuts6093 I absolutely needed to hear that!! thank you! I hope it too❤️ what county are you from?🙃

@melaniegrunert9675

Жыл бұрын

Oh my same! My gynecologist wanted to put this thing for internal ultrasound into me and never bothered to ask if that would work, or if I’m good. So it took some pain and failed attempts from her for me to finally bring up the courage that it probably won’t work, since nothing else had been in there before either 🙈 pretty insensitive of her looking back … anyways, still waiting, even if I’m 28 :)

I can so relate to this video. I saved myself also and there was zero guilt. Nate, I know you said you really didn't have anyone you followed who could give a cool example of why to do this. Kris Vallaton is someone who has a great story/parable about "why you should save yourself for marriage". Viewers could possibly do a KZread search for him if they're wanting that. 😉

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Cool! Thanks for sharing!

It wasn't until the weeks after I kind of questioned my identity...like what am I now, now I'm no longer a virgin....weird feeling but it passed. Good video as always ♥️

Glory to God in the highest! This is so true! You guys are my inspiration to be a good young people, and a bold and faithful servant of the Lord! Continue to be a beautiful blessing, and a good role model to each in everyone! God bless your family! Jesus loves you all .💝

That intro was phenomenal!

I stinkin love you guys. The ending clips are hilarious. 😂

I see it more as saving money for something you really want. You can spend it on smaller things, but how much more fulfilling is is to save all the way up to the big thing! Of course I'm not going to feel guilty, this is what I was saving for!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

I like that! So true!

I would be interested to hear sutton dig into this a little more-as a woman who saved myself for marriage while I didn’t feel guilty at all I DID have lots of trouble connecting with my body after denying it so long. I wouldn’t change a thing, but I think its an interesting point to discuss and prepare for!

Great content 👌 👏 👍 That intro n ending 😂😂😂😂

YES YES YES!!! I am single but I have wondered about the guilt or whatever and doing it all once you are married because it seems like purity is so applauded and almost makes it the entire goal, but then it doesn't really sound like sex in marriage is celebrated or talked about the same way as staying pure is

Love you guys! Haha! What lens do ya’ll use if you don’t mind sharing :)

Your joy is contagious 😁

If you haven’t seen it look up Fr. Mike Schmidt video. “The secret about sex and Holiness” I’m not Catholic however, this video spoke to me. It is such a good way to explain saving yourself until marriage! I hope you check it out!

My wedding night gave me a feeling of relief in a sense because I knew I’d waited for the right guy and the right time. That was even before we had sex. I just felt overjoyed at our wedding and throughout the day because I knew I’d made it and I felt accomplished and that God was smiling on our union. I didn’t have to worry about if he would leave after or if he was just in it for the sex and all the other fears I’d had before our marriage. My husband didn’t wait for marriage and he felt the same sense of joy and excitement on our wedding day because he’d earned my respect through waiting and he had a different respect for me and for himself as well. Our relationship was deeper than it might have been if we had slept together when our friends, family, or others had said we should. His family was adamant we should sleep together to practice for marriage if we were really serious. 🤦‍♀️ I couldn’t believe it. That’s something many believe and these are people who say they’re Christians but have adopted a secular worldview of sex, marriage, and love.

Thank you for the video, i recently told my bf that im waiting for marriage and it was really hard to open up about that since he is not a virgin, it’s so hard to do the right thing knowing that everyone else is not

@ingelkringel

Жыл бұрын

Be encouraged! God will help you!

@nateandsutton

Жыл бұрын

Hard, but so rewarding 🙏🏽

My husband and I waited until we got married, together for 5 years never lived together. On our wedding night I literally felt the holy spirit say its your time. Best way to honor the Lord and definitely worth the wait.

@AaronFromGuildford

Жыл бұрын

I wish the Holy Spirit said that to my wife from my wedding night. She froze on me, and there was nothing to feel bad about even though we were both virgins. I’m glad the whole saving yourself for marriage works out for some people, because it sure didn’t work out for my first marriage.

You two are hilarious together! Me and my wife waited and its made our marriage a lot better I believe. But as you guys said, if someones reading this and they aren't a virgin, Jesus forgives if you are sorry and ask for His grace and mercy, and you don't need to feel ashamed, you can start anew now :-)

You're always so encouraging, and this short video was so funny and sweet:) I also follow Jesus, and love to live like he advices me! But its soo hard to me and my boyfriend to save ourselves for marriage, and feel sometimes very guilty about having temptations. God helps us through every battle, and I'm grateful!! Thanks for the short encourage:) we're so young and can't go to marriage yet..but there's right time fo everything:)

Lol the intro! That was so funny!

thanks lovely folks! I will be sharing this video. I'm thankful for what you've been doing, and Paul and Morgan, and other young married couples. Are there any such KZread couples who are willing to promote that for older couples, or who've been married before? I was a virgin when I got married, I am now widowed, and we saved ourselves for each other and it was worth it. I would do it again, but there's not a whole lot of encouragement for that. Any help? Thanks

Hahaha. On my mission to protect myself!😆

I think so many things depends also with who you got married with. I was a virgin married to someone not virgin. It felt a lot of different things the first night we even tried. For me, number one was feeling fearful of pain. 2nd, feeling anxious of trying to preserve a holy Christian sex (whatever it is, I wanted to read and study with him first). Third, feeling anxious of making the first one feel awesome or a beautiful experience and in our honeymoon destination back then, but also I was feeling insecure coz he has experiences with other women whom he may compare me who has no experience and who does not know what I’m doing. I don’t know if I ever felt guilty or awkward being a virgin coz I’m pretty sure if I was married to the same virgin, it would have been different. If ever I have something to be guilty with, it is the acting like I’m enjoying it just for his good and benefit coz now that I’m growing mature on things, I’ve learned that it just doesn’t work that way. Yuh it was good I was thinking for his good and enjoyment, but it was really innocent or not mature on sex and I could have been just real and asked “can you be patient with me while I learn this thing and while God matures me on this matter?” Would have saved me a lot of grief maybe!

I love this. thanks very much you guys

Finally the intro is back😍

I’m glad you guys didn’t feel this way, but that definitely was not my experience. Maybe it was the type of church I grew up in, but even after 5 years of marriage, I still struggled with feeling like it was wrong. Just as you said, I spent my entire life before then being told it was bad and sinful. That feeling only started to go away when my husband and I finally left the church for good. I’m happy to see how many people in this comment section didn’t struggle like I did, but there are plenty of people who do.

@wandertree

Жыл бұрын

Your church was wrong and you picked up incorrect ideas about sex. Sex is a gift from God meant to be enjoyed within the boundaries of marriage, for the safety and security of any children born and the love and bond of the married partners. It IS bad and sinful to engage in sex outside of those parameters, but sex itself is not bad. If that was your understanding, you should get in the Bible to study how God actually views sex and realize that you were mistaken and let that go and live freely in Christ.

@vickil4849

Жыл бұрын

I'm sad you left the church over this. I didn't have guilt, but sex wasn't easy and pain free. I also struggled with freeing myself to enjoy it, but it just took time. I honestly don't think it had anything to do with waiting till marriage or my refusal to go over the line, I just think it's my body and my own body positive issues (or lack thereof). But, I love how God designed sex for marriage and I encouraged my daughters to wait, which they did, and they both have very fulfilling sex lives. Don't give up on God or His people, flawed as they are.

@mkbaby2012

Жыл бұрын

@@wandertree Thank you for your kind words, my old church was wrong about a lot of things. We’ve been out of the church for almost 5 years now and I’m still working on unlearning everything that I was taught. I’m glad that you seem to be in a healthy church and that you are happy. But after spending 24 years in toxic churches, these last 5 years have been the happiest years of my life.

@mkbaby2012

Жыл бұрын

@@vickil4849 Please don’t feel sad for us. Leaving the church was the best thing we ever did. I’m so happy that you don’t feel the way I do and that you found a place that you love and you feel welcome in. I was in toxic churches for 24 years and I’m finally free. I’m unlearning everything that I was taught and I’m learning how great life can be!

@7thsky585

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@@mkbaby2012 what they tried to do was explain to you that those toxic places don’t truthfully represent what we believe as Christians. It’s unfortunate that you threw away a bag of harvested crops because of a single bad apple. Freedom from that toxic environment is wonderful, nice. We’re happy for you. But believe me, true freedom is being united again with God after finding a loving, understanding church community that is the opposite of what you’ve experienced. I love you sister, and I hope you can overcome the past and find God, even if life seems ok for the moment :)

In all honesty, I saved myself for marriage and have never regretted that decision -- there was no shame or guilt in the way, which was a wonderful way to live ... and of course, it helped that the husband refused to have sex prior to marriage of course ...

I commend you both for speaking up for true Christian values. Today so many people are living together before marriage as in a "trial run" to see if this fits and are really hurting the relationship possibilities. God does really have the best and only way! Blessings

@nateandsutton

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Agreed!

@bielle25

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Today many people like me are living together outside of marriage because they love each other. Love is not a sin.

You guys should definitely do more blooper videos, where you're trying to make thumbnails or when the vlog has boo-boos in it. That would be hilarious!

Probably this video will hit some views XD But a verry intresting question. Would like to see some more relationship and marridge videos. That was what I subd for you!

Loved the bloopers hahahaah

I think everyone should have their own choice. So if you wanna wait, please do and i encourage you! And if you dont, thats amazing too and go get em tiger! There will always be people who say "no i dont care thats wrong and im right" but you do you!

Love you guys!

@nateandsutton

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A little off topic but Suttons braids look like they could be used as weapons if necessary lol. Good video

My husband and I waited for marriage (I was 23 and he was 25) and it was the best thing ever 🥰

34 and still waiting on the one God has for me. It's so true that people may look at you strange if you tell them you're a virgin or mention you are waiting until marriage but I believe honoring God is most important and for our own good. I like to consider it as dodging bullets. If they don't want to honor God by waiting for marriage, that isn't your equally yoked match. I look forward to the day God blesses me with a husband that will honor Him too! Thanks for the video and all the wonderful comments here that encourage us who are single and waiting on the Lord to keep doing so! God bless you all! ☺️

Love you guys

@nateandsutton

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The intro is back 😍

I just love y’all!❤️🤣

But what are you trying to put in people's heads? I am 65 years old, I have never been married and sexuality with the man I love and with whom I have lived for almost 30 years is still very pleasant. I feel no remorse, no shame, and I don't see how I could or should have such feelings. On the contrary, sexuality brings me closer to the one I love. I've always found orgasm extremely spiritual.

I love your intro.

Preach it!!

I was someone who was saving myself for marriage and at 19, I caved with my first serious boyfriend and the guilt and shame I felt was unreal… like so much guilt and shame. I did a bad thing and now I’m a bad person. Plus then I got pregnant a bit later and had a miscarriage… the pain I dealt with from all that has taken me years to work through. I am now waiting again for my husband over a decade later and I often don’t feel worthy still. I’ve carried the weight of my choices for over 10 years and I would caution anyone to think long and hard about their choices. I wish I knew what Nate and Sutton got to experience… but I haven’t fully yet. Maybe one day. I have to actively choose to believe that Jesus has forgiven me and I am a new creation and all the things the Bible says… and the reality that I have to tell my fiancé about my past is not a conversation I’m looking forward to. The pain he’s going to experience from choices I made years and years ago is still real and valid and something we will have to work through.

@wandertree

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Everybody sins and is worthy of eternal separation from God. You are no worse or better than anyone else from all of history. If you have accepted salvation through faith in Jesus and repentance of your sins, then you are FORGIVEN and ACCEPTED. Don't let Satan tempt you to believe otherwise. Embrace Christ's sacrifice for you and live with freedom from guilt! "Go and sin no more."

@amyfretz3387

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I’m working through different issues but several things have helped. For me Dr. Caroline Leaf’s work has helped me retrain my thoughts. Again for me through therapy I learned putting myself down is/was a way I felt in control. If I put myself down first and harder than anyone else would I felt in control of acceptance and rejection. My counselor gave me the assignment to take each thought and evaluate it. If it was critical and harsh I needed to associate a bad feeling with it, I chose imagining the feeling of an itchy wool sweater. I then needed to replace it with a God/Bible truth. Another assignment was to write lie and truth at the top of a paper and write down the lies I knew I was telling myself and then add to that list as I was going throughout my day. Then under the truth heading write the corresponding truth. It’s a journey and excruciating but worth it. Praying for you to live victoriously and free.💗

I don’t think I felt guilt so much as we wee both a little disappointed that it wasn’t as magical as we thought. It didn’t occur to us that ‘practice makes perfect’ and the first few times it might actually suck lol!

Well that’s encouraging!

Lmbo! The title alone made this a “must” click, lol. I pretty much agree w/everything said here the only thing I would add or amend would be absolutely don’t tell everyone about your v status, especially for females only because it can potentially make one a target. I would say once you actually meet someone one wishes to know on a different level then at an appropriate time one can reveal said information if necessary; but for the most part it’s rather easy to discern whether one is on the same path or not in said regard. Now if someone particularly has a ministry in that area… but otherwise use the wisdom of the Lord when it comes to such things. Never be ashamed but it’s really between you et God et one can discern who doesn’t belong in that bubble… Fun video, 😊😅💛💛💕💗🙏🏽🙏🏽

My husband and I didn’t wait until marriage to have sex, and it’s easily one of our biggest regrets. We met in highschool and didn’t get married until college, so we had plenty of temptations. We lied to ourselves saying it was okay because we were going to get married. It didn’t matter. It caused so many problems in our relationship, and there are still lasting effects even though we’re married. It truly isn’t worth the momentary thrill and pleasure. It’s not easy to say no, but you’ll be SO thankful you did!

It’s so hard finding the right man. The wait sometimes feels questionable.

@AaronFromGuildford

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I am so sorry that that is happening in your life. My daughter from my first marriage is 14. Sometimes I get depressed thinking about her dating prospects because what men I’ve been told they can do. Men are being fed a constant stream of lies, namely that they can waste their first decade as a man between the ages of 18 and 28, Waste it in their mama’s basement playing video games and smoking weed. It is unbelievably common for men to waste their first decade is a man. What that also does the set them up for lifetime of bad habits that are poor lady has to put up with. We need a counterculture to all of this.

I can relate 100 percent with Nate and Sutton. I did wait till marriage and in all honesty it was the best decision I could of done in regards to Sex. I accepted Christ in my Heart at the age of 8, at 12 I got baptized and I have been serving Him ever since. I truly believe what the Bible says that we have free will therefore even if temptation comes we can ask Gods help to overcome it. At the age of 15 I started to pray for my future husband and I meet him at 18. We where friends for 7 years before we decided to take it to the next level. At the age of 25 I married him. He is my first and only. Never had I ever kissed or had a boyfriend or anything. I was completely naïve at this topic. But it was all worth it. I would do it exactly the same again. Now I tell the young people that might be struggling with this to wait upon the Lord he knows our desires and needs. That there is time for everything. That good things are worth waiting for. Who cares about society and the way of this world when it doesn’t care about God or our beliefs. We need to encourage one another and continue to promote the beauty and value that truly exist in saving our selves in mind body and spirit for God until marriage. We just turned 4 years of marriage this August we have been blessed with two kids. I can’t be more joyful and blessed.

This Mexican actor who has starred in novelas (soap operas), a jlo music video and had always been voted as one of the world's most beautiful man gave his life to Christ when he was learning English to film Chasing Papi with Sofia Vergara. He has now been celibate for 20 years but a few years back he made this statement in an interview: “One of the things I’ve learned through my faith is that sex is sacred,” the actor said. “You have to take care of it [sex] in order to be able to share it with the mother of my children, in this case, my wife, who I’m eager to meet so I can tell her I’ve already been faithful to her for 14 years, even before I even met her.” I think that is so beautiful. His name is Eduardo Verastegui.

I wish some people would just say they're staying faithful to God instead of all this "saving myself for marriage" talk. Being a virgin going into marriage is emotionally rewarding but I feel like many people become liars and pretenders just to suit the narrative. Some people are so clouded by their virginity that it makes them entitled to a great marriage free from troubles...

I'm a 23 year old Christian , not dating, and still saving myself for my future hubby😊💍I love watching ur christian based content you guys . love you all the way from SOUTH AFRICA😊

@nateandsutton

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My husband and I were both virgins until the wedding night. We both felt no guilt. I do often think how it's odd that the boy I knew in middle school I get to be YA KNOW with