"If your parents can do it so can you" the most disturbingly comforting statement 😂😂😂

@kio_na9222

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@abdulazizbature2615

3 жыл бұрын

So disturbing 😂😂

@Jina629

3 жыл бұрын

hahahahaha 😂😂

@Abdelislam

3 жыл бұрын

Fr 🤣🤣🤣

@chaeun-woon8405

3 жыл бұрын

Zayed Haroon 😂😂😭

Aaaaand what am I doing here ? I'm not even engaged nor have a lover 😂😂😂

@amani5235

3 жыл бұрын

Same😂 I'm educating myself..

@saramashaal4591

3 жыл бұрын

Meriem Bekhoucha you are gaining knowledge !

@takemetomarz

3 жыл бұрын

Just educate yourself for the future like me 😂😂😂

@farhiyaali5043

3 жыл бұрын

Same🤣😂😂

@-lk8pp

3 жыл бұрын

Same here😂😂🤣 so curious to know 😛😂

just wanted to clarify, this topic can be taboo, but in Islam, there is NO TABOO, women used to ask the prophet ( peace be upon him) any types of questions and used to tell him some very personal and intimate stuff about them, to get advised or to know the Islamic view on certain matters. like my dad says, there is no taboo in Islam, you just have to have some hayah ( modesty) and try to approach the discussion in a good manner, but don't keep stuff to yourself, coz you might be doing something wrong without meaning it. there is no problem with wanting to be knowledgeable about something especially when it comes to marriage.

@mishal81

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💕

@mohamedfaheem4725

3 жыл бұрын

I was just about to reply with something like this but in an unorganised way... But alhamdhulillah you replied.

@sirineaibeche3346

3 жыл бұрын

@@mohamedfaheem4725 thank you I appreciate it.

@m_f_s9249

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr like preachhh

@lynahoudjal4523

3 жыл бұрын

Islam goes a way And we go another way We're so weird 🤣

It's quite comforting when he says "DONT FORCE THINGS ON GIRLS, ITS REALLY HARD FOR THEM" Wow! This man really understands women

@wajdanali1354

3 ай бұрын

For a lot of guys like myself who are told by society and even women how they want to be dominated by men, it can get confusing. Women get it from novels and probably from experiences shared with them by their friends. That needs to be clarified as well.

when you're still a teen but still watching:👁👄👁

@nayrb1o1

3 жыл бұрын

lmao same

@babyshahadd4052

3 жыл бұрын

Same lol

@aashnaanjum1186

3 жыл бұрын

Samee

@celia7288

3 жыл бұрын

Same I am educating myself 😂💔

@dafnedelaportilla6970

3 жыл бұрын

Same!

Age wise I could be the mother of you two, am an atheist, and have no idea how I ended up here, but you are so sweet and respectful towards each other and the viewers. All the happiness to you in your new marriage and journey in life❤️

@niametomar3400

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@imanebarakat5567

3 жыл бұрын

What a sweet comment!! Bless you♥️♥️

@maryam9996

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so sweet! May Allah guide me & you & all of us. Peace and blessings ♥️

@rayyy5708

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Akhanom

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is so sweet!🌸

My husband and I are Christians and were virgins on our wedding night. I wouldn’t necessarily say nature takes its course. I took us 3 days to figure things out. Haha but when we did it was the most beautiful thing. We both cried and thanked God for making something so beautiful. That was almost 8 years ago and I still think about how special that moment was.

@ayahnur27

3 жыл бұрын

You sound so happy 🥺🥺

@ranamansouier1185

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you and your husband 💞

@brentblack2878

3 жыл бұрын

Kinda gay

@ayahnur27

3 жыл бұрын

@@brentblack2878 ?

@goose7574

3 жыл бұрын

@@brentblack2878 Well that tells *ALL* of us, the type of -guy- BOY, you are...

On my wedding night, am gonna give ma husband warm milk so dat he can sleep early n there will not be any inter course

@magathome8731

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂don’t you ?

@babadawda4723

3 жыл бұрын

@@magathome8731 idgu

@queenrahuz

3 жыл бұрын

👊👊👊

@StarsabovetheEmeraldForest

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@samuellasyoutube

3 жыл бұрын

You gave me a plan😂

Their eyes....their babies are gonna have beautiful eyes for sure

@magihiyoriyona_nanatsu5092

3 жыл бұрын

Always Say inshallah 😘

@S.a.279

3 жыл бұрын

MA Sha Allah***

@magihiyoriyona_nanatsu5092

3 жыл бұрын

@@S.a.279 inshallah too because we aren't sûre

@tryingmybest7659

3 жыл бұрын

Her eyes are originally black

@sarahrafy1357

3 жыл бұрын

Inshallah...that is sweet of u to say that

My husband and I ate ramen noodles and watched a movie because we were both tired from our wedding. 😂Also he wanted me to be ready and comfortable.

@ama8340

3 жыл бұрын

You are lucky mine was hell and now I get divorced

@itsher9143

3 жыл бұрын

A MA 😢😭you’re queen I hope you meet the right person 👑

@Mahi-br7nz

3 жыл бұрын

Lool so cute masha'Allah

@Krl03

3 жыл бұрын

Ramen 😋 I love that. I'm glad your husband was so considerate!

@siennaadams6835

3 жыл бұрын

Omgg I hope I do this instead on the first night

My husband and I were both virgins and we waited a week just getting to know eachother and our bodies. Our relationship was strictly halal during your "dating" period. We held hands for the first time on our wedding day, we were never alone together. That's why it was so much sweeter after. So not rushing on our wedding night was important. Pray together make dua and relax.

@user-qx3mq7ff5c

23 күн бұрын

How many years you have been married

@s.y.4968

23 күн бұрын

@@user-qx3mq7ff5c Almost 18 years

In my household, to discuss such things is taboo to an extent that even though I am watching this video alone in my room far away from my parents, I am still getting uncomfortable just through listening. JazakAllah for the video and for openly educating on this topic.

@diyashikha93

3 жыл бұрын

Just don't force the girl bro. Form a strong bond before anything. But do tell your children when the right time comes by. If the girl did it before marriage, I guess it's still OK, or it was her choice. (Idk for you, what's your opinion on that, but for me I respect that). In either case, take your time, get to know each other and when the time comes, communicate.

@habibiyakhi5168

2 жыл бұрын

@@diyashikha93 if they have done it before marriage, make sure they aren't Adulterous. Have a good convo on dis. At the end of the day, it's a personal choice if they want to marry a virgin or not.

@why-fj2bs

2 жыл бұрын

@@habibiyakhi5168 if ones a virgin I think they can prefer to marry a virgin too.

@startupsitynewswhynotshow7836

2 жыл бұрын

It's better as a young couple to have an already married couple as friends to speak to if parents are too arrogant to do their job at being there

@abigailfrancis9242

2 жыл бұрын

@@startupsitynewswhynotshow7836 I agree, that's a very good suggestion.

there shouldn’t be any taboo or disapproval towards muslims speaking about the first night of marriage AKA having s3x 🤭 halal sexual activity is one of the best gifts and pleasures from Allah swt and we should honestly have more influencers promoting halal relationships and marriage 🥰

@feefs2139

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. In a tastefully respectful way of course.

@shifa444

3 жыл бұрын

periodt 😌💅🏽

@withlove6435

3 жыл бұрын

No it's not good to talk about it even if it's halal why would u tell others what happened.

@feefs2139

3 жыл бұрын

@@withlove6435 well for one we're not saying to go into details of your wedding. But it's perfectly fine to talk about it in a respectful way to give tips on being gentle with your partner and to give ease to nervous couples. don't you think Muslims should be talking about this respectfully as opposed to looking on Instagram at twerk videos and brothers are getting aroused in the wrong way and having wrong ideas? Let's grow up. Promoting halal marriage and no sex before marriage is a great thing. Especially in the world we live in today and sexual images everywhere you look.

@thalblankson4002

3 жыл бұрын

Agree but sex on first night is crazy in my opinion and seems rushed.

Me and my wife we talking about all the dumb things that happened at our wedding day till 4 am 😂and it took us 2 months to get intimate with each other. U have to respect each other’s emotions and ur spouse should be able to confide in you.

@lilianeumuhoza4993

3 жыл бұрын

What took you so long? 2months it's much tho

@mohammedjamal7447

3 жыл бұрын

@@lilianeumuhoza4993 it is because when your female partner feel pain or not comfort then male partner will skip doing intimacy, and try next day vice-versa. That is the reason it will take some time. And one more will be the reason why is both partner will be new for intimacy Hope you understood

@nailak7948

3 жыл бұрын

^this. Thank goodness someone else is going through the same thing. Comforting to know I’m not alone

@omarshaikh9762

3 жыл бұрын

@@nailak7948 oh you’re definitely not alone. The thing is that people need to understand that intimacy in marriage is a process. Its the little things that you do for one another that count and eventually lead upto the moment. Being able to share your thoughts with your significant other is key.

@omarshaikh9762

3 жыл бұрын

@@lilianeumuhoza4993 when you’re new to someone, it takes time for you to let your guard down and be comfortable to the point where you can get intimate with each other.

I was a virgin when I got married. So was my husband. I actually didn’t have the pain folks often talk about. I’m not saying this to brag but rather to bring a perspective different from what me seem or be normal. I was nervous. But hubby calmed me down. He had read a lot of books and in premarital counseling our pastors talked about it.

@uchihaitachi01117

3 жыл бұрын

💜

@i.8885

3 жыл бұрын

Most times pain is caused because of rushing things (the area is dry and yoy are nervous), not because of your virginity

@aalyyy.

2 жыл бұрын

@@i.8885 exactly

Saving your virginity for your life partner and then enjoying the marital bliss is a grand and beautiful experience. Its like sharing your heart and soul with only and only your life partner. It is beautiful. I feel sad when I see people becoming more and more ignorant of that because of accepting the so called modern sexual freedom.

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

I am a virgin. Not gonna lie, the idea of marriage is a bit scary. Lol. I am 24 and currently in college. I hope I marry the right one. Praying I do.

@user-jx1vt6sr7d

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 muslm?

@shimmer4771

Жыл бұрын

@@user-jx1vt6sr7d Yes, why?

@illegal-tints-onyourcar

Жыл бұрын

To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️

@waitaseq8833

Жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 it's your own journey revolving your sexual identity and faith .It really is the intent that counts. Wishing you all the best :)

Really appreciate that Dawood kept telling the guys to not force themselves on the women...to respect the women, their body and their emotions. Thank you for making this video 💕

@takemetomarz

3 жыл бұрын

Ikrr

@rayyana.8538

3 жыл бұрын

There should be more videos out there by brothers for brothers in all languages because many Muslims still seem ignorant of the concept of consent and what intimacy is. The amount of ignorance and adherence to weird cultural traditions is scary. I can't imagine how any guy can even enjoy this when the wife is not into it, crying and forced.

@daniyalahmed687

3 жыл бұрын

Simple Islamic courtesy.Many if whom are unaware of these manners and etiquettes I'm afraid.

@rayyana.8538

3 жыл бұрын

@@Aisha-sj7uz maybe in your culture but islamically there is no 3 days deadline for women...or men.

@Aisha-sj7uz

3 жыл бұрын

@@rayyana.8538 is there a sunnah or hadith about that?..it is definantly not cultural on my end

I'm a Muslim man living in Canada getting married to a Muslim girl this October... I've grown to be more Canadian and never gave a thought or considered the girl's situation, I'm glad I'm watching this video b/c now I'm like "wait a second... The reason she acts so strange is because she is terrified..." So thank you and yes more videos like this, please

@preciousafolabi8197

3 жыл бұрын

Awww so cute.

@fardosaomar388

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@5ive-5tar

3 жыл бұрын

Inshallah 👍

@comfort1569

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your future marriage.

@idworkhard

3 жыл бұрын

@@comfort1569 thank you!

Most people underestimate how tired you are after a wedding! I'm thrilled you'll talk to your kids about these subjects! It shouldn't be embarrassing. In the west we don't always know all this. We just pretend too!🙄 Your a sweet, cute couple! I'm glad your helping other couples.

When you get pregnant your parents will know that you did and that's going to be so embarrassing

@estherstar9141

3 жыл бұрын

how, if your married then so what hahaha

@blazewarriors4360

3 жыл бұрын

@@estherstar9141 what?

@estherstar9141

3 жыл бұрын

@@blazewarriors4360 why would you embarrassed, it's the way of life and if you are married you should not be embarrassed.

@blazewarriors4360

3 жыл бұрын

@@estherstar9141 like after getting pregnant and when I will say my parents will know right that would be embarrassing for me

@estherstar9141

3 жыл бұрын

@@blazewarriors4360 hahaha I guess so if you think about it but what makes me more embarrassed is like on the wedding night when it's night time I'm like wondering what my family are thinking like cracking jokes or something😂😂😂

For all “Jasmine and Dawoud” Fans..like here ❤️

@commentyes9486

3 жыл бұрын

First

@smelias07

3 жыл бұрын

Hazal Hamidou are you a now united fan btw?? ://

@maadhamidou4249

3 жыл бұрын

@@smelias07 yaaass

@BNB-er6jn

3 жыл бұрын

Excuse me! Do you know where are they from?

@maadhamidou4249

3 жыл бұрын

B.N B yes, Lebanon 🇱🇧

wishing me future husband is watching this, and if not i will send him this video jajaajja

@awalenuro4947

3 жыл бұрын

Hhhhhh don't forget to send him

@rabihonov

3 жыл бұрын

Hablas Español? Jaja

@oumaima418

3 жыл бұрын

@@rabihonov what does jaja mean?

@rabihonov

3 жыл бұрын

@@oumaima418 people that speak Spanish laugh as Jaja instead of haha since in Spanish "j" is pronounced as "h"

@oumaima418

3 жыл бұрын

@@rabihonov aaah see now i get it! Thank you so much for answering my question!

The importance of intimacy communication with your partner is just as true 10 plus years into marriage. Especially how your body feels before after having children. Also, remember that your partner is also just as nervous as you are. Exploring together is part of the journey.

I’m genuinely surprised and impressed by the maturity shown in this video. Good job, this is very needed in our community. 👍🏽

Why am I watching this I am already married and have kids 😂

@TrendingCryptoPulse

3 жыл бұрын

😀🤣😀🤣😀🤣🤣😀😀🤣😀🤣

@muniristanlife8431

3 жыл бұрын

So you can educate your kids. They shouldn't learn it by watching inappropriate stuff. Discussing this thing with children in decent way shouldn't be considered Taboo.

@rahedenabass5870

3 жыл бұрын

Omg ur comment makes me laugh so hard

@rayyana.8538

3 жыл бұрын

But are you happily married? Just kidding!! Haha

@drezarom3627

3 жыл бұрын

The more you know. 😎

Gurl Muslim parents won’t talk about these topic never ever

@khadijafayyaz6184

3 жыл бұрын

I will in my future in sha Allah !!

@tatyanat1558

3 жыл бұрын

Not only muslim parents, ukrainian parents will never ever talk about it too 🧐

@ikray71

3 жыл бұрын

you're totaly right even for our period the mothers dont talk about it to their girls, like i was freaked out when i have it for the first time i didt know what's it, that why i told myself in futur if i had a girl i will talk about these topic and prepare her well so she want be lost like me lol hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

@chaimalekkam4233

3 жыл бұрын

That's kinda true and false at the same time, cause Muslim moms (being Muslim and living in a Muslim country) sometimes talk about it but unfortunately only like a week before the wedding for her bride-to-be daughter never before or to the other daughters, I feel it's tougher for the guys since Muslim dads would never talk about it and intimidate their son when it comes to the "talk" so the guy would get into it with just his imagination and fantasy about it, cause literally a son can't walk up to his dad to ask him what to do about the wedding night

@nezytarek9864

3 жыл бұрын

I’m Muslim Egyptian me and my mum have these convos

As the oldest sibling and living in a very traditional household, I'm expected to tell my siblings these things and I don't know what to tell them! This really helped, thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

If I watched this as a kid, I'd have SO many questions LMAO "wait.. what hurts... IS HE GONNA HIT ME??"

@minabek8218

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@eisenhower9069

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@kpeezyforsheezy

3 жыл бұрын

He’s going to hit you, but not with his fist lol

@justamanofculture12

3 жыл бұрын

@@kpeezyforsheezy hol up 😂

@aksa9305

3 жыл бұрын

@@kpeezyforsheezy Omg LMAOI

“If our parents did it” I don’t wanna hear that 😩😩

@nachos9138

3 жыл бұрын

Just keep it in a box and throw the of the middle of the ocean

@aashamoushum1852

3 жыл бұрын

Nachos and jalapeño 🤣🤣

3 жыл бұрын

Ur mind went too far didn't it 😷😂😅

@insearchof..918

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could unhear that 😑

@himmeusiet6630

3 жыл бұрын

When I was in primary school, I though that my parents just sleep and hug each other and then delivered me out of the womb

I still can't get over dawood saying S E X and not sex it reminds me when I was a child and saying like P I G and not pig or something

@silverylux1947

3 жыл бұрын

You just made me remember that lol

@abyazkhan7591

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao samee

@casinovathedon8924

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 thought i was the only one

@apan4201

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

@zaynaditta6742

3 жыл бұрын

I, deaddd😭😭😭😭

aight, im an 18 year old dude.... why was this on my recommended page and why did i still watch the whole 26 minutes. lol... But on a real note, like as a guy i never really watched porn or been in any realtionship (keepin' it halal), so it was kinda cool hearing u talk about the whole thing and how we should talk to our wives about it... this is some good shit, keep up the good content :)

@leilahassan8108

3 жыл бұрын

MashaAllah. Keep it that way little bro. You will be rewarded by Allah for the sacrifice you are making. Am so proud of you. MashaAllah MashaAllah 🥰

@marriamzafar333

3 жыл бұрын

I'm also 18 and I'm here 😅

@asilaslapt1510

3 жыл бұрын

It's so nice

@hassamustafa2391

3 жыл бұрын

Ahhhh.....n I m even younger turning 17 next month hahahaa😂

@marriamzafar333

3 жыл бұрын

@@hassamustafa2391 😄

Newly subscribed, I've been married for 6 years now and this information is spot on. Communication is definitely key and you and your husband have so much time to figure each other out. This was such a mature talk ❤️

It’s not even the fact that it’s scary I just feel nervous because I feel like it’s extremely awkward like “hey we’re naked now and stuff is happening” like how do you even face your partner after that I heard most people like to turn the lights off but a lot of people like some sort of light because they want to see their partner but like it’s so awkward and I feel like all your insecurities will come to surface because I mean come on you partner is looking at you naked uggg Idk for me I feel like it’s awkward

@Daydreamer6805

3 жыл бұрын

Nah it shouldn’t be awkward. Just make out with him and things will go with the float in a natural way! You gotta love each other! You don’t need to just stand there naked looking at one another.

@killuaswaifux1041

3 жыл бұрын

This is a question I’ve had for a while but should ur partner have opinions of ur body? Like stretch marks, weight, etc..?

@fatoudior721

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly especially since I’m so used to dressing modestly. So a boy looking at my naked body will make me so embarrassed

@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat

3 жыл бұрын

@@killuaswaifux1041 - Your partner should be the President of your Fan Club. If they truely love you, then superficial things like that won't matter. And if anything nasty is said, they are not the one for you.

@samh1520

3 жыл бұрын

If you are getting married to them, and (hopefully) they are a nice and caring partner, they’ll love you exactly for what you are. Everyone had imperfections, it’s normal. I’m naked around my partner all the time and even though I have insecurities, I feel comfortable around them. Just start slowly

“It’s not like you were Prince Charming” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I dieddddd

@TiffahLabeeb

3 жыл бұрын

And dawouds face😂🥺ohhhh myyy🤣🤣🤣

@saraa6886

3 жыл бұрын

That face tho !!!😂😂😂

@Gorgeouslight2612

3 жыл бұрын

Tajia N His face expression 😂 😂 😂 😂

@leamuslim4902

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-ci7vu7eo9w 18

@loveandpeace2444

3 жыл бұрын

Rooooaasst 🔥😂

When your spouses are THIS good looking, you shouldn't worry too much. 😂

@min5169

3 жыл бұрын

😹💀

@mostlysane2248

3 жыл бұрын

i swear

@bewithnoor1524

3 жыл бұрын

Well when husband is this much good looking you have to worry cause you're not embarrassing yourself

@muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346

2 жыл бұрын

Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!

@daughteroftheking3220

3 ай бұрын

@@bewithnoor1524true but also when your wife is as beautiful as Jasmine it could be very nerve wracking to embarrass yourself.

The way he looks at her is really so cute omg😭😭

This was suuuuuuch a taboo topic in my household. My parents never spoke a word about it. And my sisters took me to LA Senza to get some lingerie before my wedding. But still, NO TALK! LOL ! Thank you for speaking up about it!

@anonymoustech2059

4 ай бұрын

Well u guys did "how I met too", and scholars said that's dayooth and tabarruj characteristics.. 🤘🤘

@aamirkhan6692

3 ай бұрын

There is a reason for it being taboo, some things are to be kept private. Would you go on TV talking about your private stuff? Exactly!

@Muslimah_4_Life

2 ай бұрын

@@aamirkhan6692They’re not talking about exactly what happened with them though they’re talking about things you need to know about marriage and it’s really important to educate the youth (teens) on this.

@words-island1011

2 ай бұрын

​@aamirkhan6692 in public. What parents are these who don't talk and teach kids about the world, with all its subjects...

So glad theirs a Muslim couple talking about this topic! Much needed!! I respect this and glad it’s coming from a halal prospective as well!

My advice is that please get Nikkahed a certain time before you're married, that way you have time to bond and talk about things and form a emotional bond before the big day and night. Me and my husband were in different countries and had our Nikah 4 months before our wedding and we had made a amazing bond and we became very comfortable with each other that we were nothing but eager to spend the rest of our lives together. Hope this comment helped someone going through the stress of marriage. May Allah bless you all and answer all your prayers in these holy nights Ameen.

@youcannotseeme

2 жыл бұрын

How did you have your nikah different countries away? Was it over zoom? Or was it in person and just contract signing. Then the actual moving in came months later?

@asiyalyn9532

Жыл бұрын

Nikkah is the marriage

I love the way you guys spoke so maturely and sensibly about this topic !!

Non-muslim here learning more about Islam. Just wanted to say two things: 1.) I thought you two did a fantastic job of reassuring and being open without being too TMI. Loved it. and 2.) for the people who feel naive/immature compared to Western ideas and culture...take it from someone who learned and experienced sex in that way...I wish I had waited until I met the person that Allah meant for me to be with. You are missing out on nothing and gaining a beautiful experience many wish they had had.

@majeedatabdulmajeed1834

3 жыл бұрын

Thank u

@amiraali412

3 жыл бұрын

Loved this

@shaheedapanday3191

3 жыл бұрын

@thefloorislava I was going to respond similarly to those feeling naive/ embarrassed... never feel inferior to experienced others! Because you're not!

@dd470_

3 жыл бұрын

SubhanAllah thank you for your honesty and raw feelings

@GrumpynuggetX

3 жыл бұрын

this is so sweet i wanna hug you

I wish my husband will be as sweet and understanding as him 🤲🏻

@n.y.955

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@uthmansaeed4025

2 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@mosasa1307

Жыл бұрын

No worries. I'm sweet and kind and also very understanding 😎

@DenseAzamat

Жыл бұрын

@@mosasa1307 mashalla brother😂

@lav3nder.bxrbiee334

Жыл бұрын

In Sha Allah you will have a sweet & understanding husband who cherishes you

This is actually pretty interesting and good that you are answering the questions that other (older) people usually don't. And from personal experiences too, not from a book

Thumbs 👍up for Dawoud he’s indeed a caring husband and I believe he will never disappoint Jasmine

You guys were on the point. First night it was painful, so people out there please don't have any expectations. Be respectful of each other that's what matters. Marriage is about respect, happiness, caring for each other, understanding, likes and dislikes and so on.... I have 2 kids now alhumduillah, everything changed for us. We were 2 but now we are 4. Your attention divert. You have to take care of 3 now. But please girls and guys don't think your wife/husband doesn't love you anymore, they still love you the same but they got more people to love too.

@JasmineFares

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your input 🙏

He's so sweeetttt. She's soooo luckyyyy and so is heee.

@amelbourz7994

3 жыл бұрын

She’s so sweet as well

Jasmine and Dawoud, firstly, congratulations on your marriage and beautiful union as husband and wife. I'm old enough to be your parents age and I must say, you two tastefully & respectfully talked about this subject with so much class and dignity, all while keeping it real, open and honest. This video you two made is so well done and articulated. Not only for middle eastern, Muslim, Islamic, etc.. but should be a textbook "talk" on the subject.. across the board for all people and cultures. Well done Jasmine and Dawoud. Many blessings of love, health and all good things your way. Inshallah 🙏🏽🌹♥️✨

I think it's actually a good thing for a couple if "it" doesn't happen the first night because it can be such a magical process, getting to know each other over a period of weeks or months. I like how they described it as a journey. I can see how it would build closeness, much much better than a "bada bing, bada boom" experience.

@tanniee2810

Жыл бұрын

Bada bing Bada boom lmao😭 sorry but I laughed so hard😭👍

@jackandblaze5956

Жыл бұрын

@@tanniee2810 The old Italian version of Giggity giggity goo

Why i am watching this i'm only 17 years old 🐸

@al..5578

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 15😐

@eeshafatima4156

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 14 🙂

@Krl03

3 жыл бұрын

Same. :( We're too young.

@siennaadams6835

3 жыл бұрын

Samee I’m 17 too and scared for my life🤣🤣

@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat

3 жыл бұрын

@@Krl03 - Never too young to learn. Everyone over the age of 14 should know this stuff. Knowledge helps protect you against unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and people taking advantage of you. Personally I am flabbergasted to read of 15, 16, 17 year olds knowing nothing on this subject. Do schools no longer teach sex education?

As a muslim, I felt so uncomfortable watching this. Because of the stigma around "the first night" and how in almost all Middle Eastern cultures its 'forbidden' or 'shameful' to speak about. On the other hand, as a girl that is also about to get married I understand and support the ideology and support you both giving advice to those girls who are actually freaking out (me being one of them). No hate on my behalf. But glad your both speaking about the 'forbidden' topics to assist those most in need.

@mdanwarsaleem7749

3 жыл бұрын

@Tara Kanaan dr is nothing to b uncomfortable n speaking about ds subject v made more difficult bcoz v people thinks v cn learn ds all when d time comes bt it's actually wrong parents shud talk to children's as dy grow up n v shud ask our besties such as chacha mama khala phupi bt it's actually not happening

@zahrayari9164

3 жыл бұрын

honestly I don't undrestand thrm when they or you say it's forbidden because our contemporaries don't behave like a couple of decades ago. these days almost 80 perecent of young people have by-choice marriage. So I really dont believe that they aren't comfortable to talk about those kind of things with each other. to tell the truth I didnt expect that this couple hadnt had any sex before marriage,because Islamically it's ok...even before their wedding party.

@adamibnadam2162

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I mostly blame Muslim brothers for not teaching the value women’s needs and the level of respect they deserve concerning intimacy it’s almost as if they’re afraid of the act that created them.

@emrinaarifoska8296

3 жыл бұрын

So stupid lol

@mohammedsaifb4771

3 жыл бұрын

Its not forbidden it's rewardful even in religion of islam when it is done in right setting(halal), you might as well know the hadith of a sahaba who used to pray all night and then his wife compined about it to the prophet and he said it's better for you to spend the night with your wife than praying. It's a cultural thing I am an Indian even in our society irrespective of faith parents never talk about it, NEVER.

Just found your channel, it's great hearing the perspective from different communities. It makes me happy that you went to your mum Jasmine, I was blessed to have the best mum ever! Midwife, sexual health nurse and family planning expert. I never got scared about the actual physical act. For clarity, atheist brought up in CoS and currently looking for my own spiritual path.

My wife was nervous too but we had IT soon enough, it was a lovely experience for us.

You guys are going to be good parents

@haluushi2753

3 жыл бұрын

Wallahi 🌻❤️

@cocoa7448

3 жыл бұрын

In sha Allah

@fizzahkhan5

3 жыл бұрын

IA

“The thingy thingy thing”😂😂😂>>> I love ❤️ y’all

@JasmineFares

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😬

Thank you for this video, it is great advice for anyone entering this serious and unspoken topic. I am from Ontario and while I didn’t grow up with a particular faith, but intimacy and sex were never discussed and quite discouraged. Communication and mutual respect are important most definitely.

"Everything becomes halal"- Dawoud sounds so naughty here😂😂

@Foralluhaterz

3 жыл бұрын

Haha, as long you dont enter from the back😂

@vloggermum

3 жыл бұрын

@@Foralluhaterz and from the mouth lol

@az-vv3mg

2 жыл бұрын

@@vloggermum Thanks for this remark, because most people only remember the “back” and forget the mouth. Both are forbidden in the Qur'an. Praise be to Allah, who has forbidden us filth and made good things permissible for us.

@cursedcnt661

2 жыл бұрын

@@az-vv3mg doing things with the mouth is forbidden? thats kinda boring

@az-vv3mg

2 жыл бұрын

@@cursedcnt661In the Qur'an, the penetration that is commanded is the penetration from which the newborn comes ( vaginal penetration). Otherwise, the rest is therefore a deviation. Penetration in the mouth, as you know, is only the result of pornographic films and not of human nature, otherwise it would not come to mind, and those who are addicted to this practice and watch pornographic movies are the only ones asking for it and they want it to be halal, and that's not strange, because an alcoholic wants one thing: alcohol becomes halal. Therefore, the best for these oral sex addicts is to seek healing of their addiction first instead of looking for someone who will tell them that it is halal. Remember that the woman who does this practice swallows incredible dirt: pre-seminal fluid mixed with urine, bacteria, fungi, dead cells, and sometimes viruses which is one of the causes of throat cancer which has increased in recent years. so do not expect Islam to allow this rot.

Lol Dawoud was just like I’ma sit here and look pretty 😂

i love how respectfully you guys approached this topic while at the same time being real, honest and hilarious. You guys are great role models! lots of love!!!! xx

@JasmineFares

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.

@rubal9894

3 жыл бұрын

Kinda curious how your families felt about you discussing this topic.. me even adding a comment on this topic would give my ppl a heart attack.. lol

@meeraoras2865

3 жыл бұрын

ruba 😂😂 so true

@illegal-tints-onyourcar

Жыл бұрын

To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️

When it comes to pain, every women is different. Some experience are great and pleasurable the first time, some do experience severe pain, some don’t feel anything at all, and some only feel minor pain. All our body is different and our body react to foreign “things” differently. So yes please communicate, be patient, be respectful, and be kind. Eventually we will learn each other’s body, and everything will fall into place.

Can't hurt to ' just cuddle up ' n sleep on ' a first nite '. Both are usually so tired anyway! What if the man is ' chivalrous ' n offers her a foot massage n backrub etc. with ' Aromatherapy Oils '. Ylang Ylang or Lavender in Almond Oil !!! Candlelight n Soft Classical music !!!!!!

@muskanharitwal6

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking why is this underated...just a day ago you commented! Okay...long way to go😅😬 great thought

@memoonacheema1476

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exact! *chefs kiss*

@kpeezyforsheezy

3 жыл бұрын

Anwar - are you single? I’m available 😂

Really appreciate the fact that you both addressed this commonly-thought-yet-never-asked question honestly and respectfully.

love that our generation is normalizing theses talks prevents tons of bad occurrences that could happen

i’m a 15 year old muslim girl (turning 16 soon inshallah) and this helped me a lot!! thank you guys may Allah bless you 🥰✨

@muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346

2 жыл бұрын

Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!

I was having a faith crisis about staying a virgin when everyone doesn't,especially muslim guys who then hypocritically want a virgin but I did researches and watched videos like yours and I'm feeling better about my decision that wasn't even mostly faith based at first. I want to do it with someone that swore commitment to me,after we're married and because I want to do it. You're very helpful for isolated muslims,thanks and best wishes ☺️

@mohammednoor6439

3 жыл бұрын

Not just Muslim guys everyone wants a virgin.

@OOoKarmaoOO

3 жыл бұрын

@@mohammednoor6439 No it's more prevalent in religious people

@faissalel7363

3 жыл бұрын

@@mohammednoor6439 in western society it's normal that girls had sex before marriage

@mohammednoor6439

3 жыл бұрын

@@faissalel7363 avoid them. Don't marry a fornicatior.

@akianelevi6894

3 жыл бұрын

Our whole lives we wait for our spouse from Allah, and that’s who we give our heart away to. So don’t give your heart to a man who has already given his heart away in past relationships because those are likely to cheat. Marry the one who gives you their heart. Bless I’m still waiting myself

"Just be kind, caring and understanding". Honestly I love how you guys weren't embarrassed, awkward or clinical cause that energy transfers into the viewers. You mentioned points I hadn't considered or found the answers to. The comment sectioned is so wholesome and helpful just like you two. May Allah bless you with abundance of health and happiness. Ameen

@illegal-tints-onyourcar

Жыл бұрын

To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️

Did someone noticed that dawood and jasmine have both blue eyes ?? so cuteeee

@sunehran9008

3 жыл бұрын

i think they look more like grey eyes but still super pretty

The way dawood said "EVERYTHING" was sooo funny 😂😂

I thought it was very well presented and raised educational awareness. Thank you for being so honest and relatable to other Muslims and giving us a heads up. You spoke about a natural part of life in a very decent way that most people shy away from. Many thanks.

I've been married for 5 years now and we are still learning what works and what doesn't. People change!

me: marriage is not scary jasmine: it hUrTs Me: Nah i am not gonna marry

@user-oy4lx4pn1e

3 жыл бұрын

Hanin the same 😂💔

@jamilaabubakar4667

3 жыл бұрын

oٍñlÿ mễ Da Slayer why darling

@user-oy4lx4pn1e

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamilaabubakar4667 don't want to be hurten 😢

@jamilaabubakar4667

3 жыл бұрын

oٍñlÿ mễ Da Slayer noooo my dear

@user-oy4lx4pn1e

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamilaabubakar4667 Inshaallah everything will be alright .. Only if I get married haha thank you 💖

Another person old enough to be your momma here! Just wanted to say, you both are adorable. I wish you a long, healthy, happy marriage. Your babies will be gorgeous! P.S. I agree, education done in a respectful way would be a good thing. :)

inshallah when I’m older I have a healthy and amazing relationship like you guys!

Jasmine is so honest and classy about this topic, I love it

Marriage isn’t just about sex Dawoud: yeah... 👀 hahaha

@islamhamidi374

3 жыл бұрын

@Won Mind the eyes were for the word sex ... Because he is kind of shy of saying it

3 жыл бұрын

Dawoud's mind: orrr is iiiiiiit ... It's a huge part like 999%

@TheWorldIsAWorld

3 жыл бұрын

@@islamhamidi374 yes whenever i say sex my family just hates it

@Doomguy-pb8vu

3 жыл бұрын

ew tf get outta here

I actually needed to see this because I'm "of age" for getting married and my parents have recently introduced me to a good Muslim guy on my will, so im honestly so thankful to see these types of videos

@starry3yed00

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 20 so..

Thank you for talking about the first night, you both are very honest and respectful! Thank you 😊!

There is a book called "Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations" by Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari. It's a really nice book.

@chichu3906

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this

@binyameen1210

3 жыл бұрын

@@chichu3906 no problem

@aydamohammed6531

3 жыл бұрын

Where can i find it?is it in the web?

@farismustafa5389

3 жыл бұрын

@@aydamohammed6531 just search it on amazon

@tayyibe8537

3 жыл бұрын

I wanna add that Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari is a deobandi, so if you do not follow that ideology, I don't recommend his books at all.

Non Muslim but here's my experience. My partner and I were both virgins but knew everything there was to know about sex. Despite that I was so tense and we were both so nervous it just wouldn't 'happen'. After a couple of failed attempts we decided to stop trying to have sex and instead focus on the intimacy and getting comfortable with our bodies. The next time we tried it just happened. We now enjoy a healthy physical relationship. My advice - go into it with NO expectations and don't forget to laugh about it after :)

@Khan-lo3yi

3 жыл бұрын

Please watch these videos on youtube( the throne of Allah by merciful servant), (4 stories that tell us who prophet Muhammad really was by One Islam production), (crying for the prophet emotional by the daily reminder), (tears of our prophet in dua by ILovUAllah), (daimonds of muslim by ILovUAllah)

@darkhaven87

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Anne. May I know how often do you engage in physical intimacy? I'm going through hardship and have physical intimacy perhaps once a month. Is that common? That is perhaps 10 times in a year.

@annefrank7005

3 жыл бұрын

@@darkhaven87 Hi there. I believe it is different from person to person (probably depends on age as well). My husband has a very high drive and seeks physical intimacy daily. My drive is not as high so we have spoken about it to reach a compromise that meets both of our needs. We are very open in our communication which I think is essential. I also try to look at the positive..that he finds me attractive and wants to be close to me so I will make time for him. But I don't want it as much or as often as he does. On average we are initimate 3-4 days a week. Honestly though I would be perfectly fine with less and he would be delighted with more :) I have heard it is different for other couples, especially if you have children for example. Do you want it to happen more regularly? If so have you tried talking about it?

@darkhaven87

3 жыл бұрын

@@annefrank7005 Hi Anne, thank you for replying. This was particularly devastating information to digest. I realise it's such a personal thing. No one really talks about the normal average frequency of intimacy. I believe my husb has some medical condition? But it's not being treated immediately. Months turned to years and now its 7 years. Horrible really. It's great that you are happy with each other and it's great you have open communication. You and your partner are truly lucky.

@annefrank7005

3 жыл бұрын

@@darkhaven87 I am really sorry to hear that things are difficult. Maybe you could discuss how you are feeling with him and explain you would like to be closer and spend more time being intimate. In most cases the issue is psychological or stress related, not physical. It's worth talking about it to understand if he is experiencing any of this. Tiredeness also plays a big role which could be down a number of causes such as lack of sleep or even a medical condition. Consulting a doctor might help tremendously. Wishing you both the very best.

Maashallah 🌻 ☺️, what an open genuine perspective! Loved this, I'm sure it brings ease to so many females

Communication and growth! Those never stop in healthy relationships! Love your videos

You two are such a loving couple:) and a good example of being respectful to each other. I’m a Christian, older woman, and grandma. My mother didn’t tell me anything! Not even about my monthly cycle. I thought I was dying! Keep up your good work here! I’m sure you’re a blessing to many people. God Bless!❤️

@insearchof..918

2 жыл бұрын

U so sweet 🥰

@Emmaa20

2 жыл бұрын

Sweet.. May Allah guide u to islam

I think this is definitely something that parents should educate their kids on , not wait for them to learn in the wrong way.

@JasmineFares

3 жыл бұрын

Exactlyy 👍

They look so shy and happy to talk about this topic “😂 love it 💕😻🌸

Don't listen from anyone who will tell you that intercourse is uncomfortable. I know many people who stress their girls by saying negative things... so then they maybe will have bad experience because the stress cause strong contractions of muscle down there & maybe cause an uncomfortable feeling. So these negative conversations of people maybe can cause a bad experience not the intercourse itself. So don't let them stress you because stress maybe can affect your body. Without stress everything is beautiful and good experience. May Allah give you happy marriage for you all. And thank you really Jasmine for your good advices for girls ❤

I seriously love how you guys are very open minded to talk about things like that. It’s such a taboo topic in the Muslim community and I feel like it shouldn’t be bc it’s part of life. Keep it up guys❤️👏🏼

@amonaamina1907

3 жыл бұрын

Its not taboo in the muslim community its Taboo in the arab culture

@imansolo2394

3 жыл бұрын

Amona Amina yeah that’s actually true you are right

@hawraakhagany6864

3 жыл бұрын

I was born in Iraq and now I live in Australia being Arabic and not knowing anything was hard but I learned in school. I think it’s just a hard topic to be open about with family specially if your not as close with them as others like your friends.But I agree

@zainab-rs3ke

2 жыл бұрын

@@amonaamina1907 not just arab cultures 😄

y'all are like my older siblings!! Love you guys, thank you for always being so respectful and considering an Islamic lens/perspective too. It's good advice.

I wish I knew you guys when I was younger. You both are real good role models. thanks for speaking this open.

Thank you to both of you for your g nerosity in sharing as a couple. You have brought comfort n consolation. To those who have issued n lost much. Love does not discriminaye.to what faith you belong - for God is love. God bless you both .

Really like you guys kept it modest and respectful Islamically and were not explicit about it. Great job!

Dudes, it is really hard for me to hold back when I'm only 17. But I came up with the idea: Look at the Marriage as a reward for what you've done so far. Be worth the marriage, deserve it, try your best until that, you have to build up your education, career, and The most importantly, it's not the time to think about this. This is the main motivation for me, hope you'll find it useful. Man, I can't wait till the "Time" comes

I like this channel man I don't know why I'm here but yeah they both seem every very nice 👌. I wish all the best of luck for your channel and your marriage life 🤩

The parents I never knew I needed :)

Bless my mom who taught me from a very young age to research the heck out of everything, and not just dumb-believe every story told in circles or unethical/ amateur websites, but research scientifically. Sure, videos like this one help, and yes we do need to develop a free/safe space where we can talk about these things without judgment, and I am really grateful to you guys for taking the initiative to tackle this topic. But, in my opinion, I think it all starts with education. Read as much as you can, research the crap out of everything, that's what's going to pave the way for mature conversations.

@Lorena-io9sl

3 жыл бұрын

Can you tell me where did you find those researchs?

I really appreciate the fact u guys made this video - a lot of us Muslim girls don’t get a chance to have this Kind of conversations, so Thank you.

@illegal-tints-onyourcar

Жыл бұрын

To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg Kss her nps lik and sk on it Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts Lik her clts Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub. Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️

I'm a non-Muslim European, not married, not a virgin, I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years...but I'm still watching this, you guys are so nice!

@zarawasim1811

Жыл бұрын

See on KZread this video-(the throne of Allah mind-blowing by merciful servant)

I just like the way they talked. I mean they tried their level best to be polite even on this kind of topic. No indecent words at all. MashAllah may Allah bless you guys always

For all the Muslim Queens down here, you have to listen to your feelings, if you don't want to do it on the first night, if you're scared or if you feel pain talk about it with your partner, nobody has the right to force you, if your partner really loves you he will understand. Please don't see sex as an obligation, if you don't want no matter how much time the partner has waited or will wait, you have the right to say no ❤️

@lavish_1717

3 жыл бұрын

Sofia Aynur But what about Hadiths about angels cursing the woman who doesn’t sleep with her husband ?

@sofiaaynur7612

3 жыл бұрын

@@lavish_1717 The hadith says that it would be the case if your husband is angry against you. If he understands the reason why his wife does not want to have sex, that he forgives her and renounces his right there will be no problems (if he loves you he will not be angry for such a thing that is moreover a right of yours, morally I mean) . I invite you to do research on this hadith by yourself but I confess that I find it very unfair that the woman must consent to have sex when she does not want to, this is what the hadith means actually (I just read that she could refuse because of a nuisance (disease?) or if it diverted her from her religious obligations otherwise she must accept). I do not see us being vaginas on command the rest of the time (we are worth more than that as human Allah be praised) and I don't think that a loving and respectful husband who truly loves us would see us like that too.

@r.b7979

3 жыл бұрын

@@lavish_1717 i believe this is only when she does it out of spite and deliberately takes her husbands right. Kinda like how if the mans not providing for her hes taking away her right over him.

@rafalaljumaili1152

3 жыл бұрын

@@lavish_1717 wait what now I don't want to get married idk am not into that type of stuff so I prouply shouldn't get married

@gazeffstronoff4583

3 жыл бұрын

According to Hadith, Angels will curse on the wife who refuses to sleep with her husband! thats not a reason that she dont wanna have sex because she dont feel ready! this may seems Unfair to You but Remember Allah KNOWS BETTER THAN WE DO ....HE KNOWS WHY HE GAVE HUSBANDS AUTHORITY OVER WIFE!!! A MOMIN WIFE CAN'T POSSIBLY REFUSE HUSBAND NEEDS ! ALL HUSBANDS WANTS TO DO IT ON FIRST NIGHT! YOU THINK JUST TALKING TO HIM ABOUT , WILL CHANGE HIS DESIRE...NO! EVEN IF HE AGREES, HIS HEART WONT BE FULLFILLED, ANGELS WILL BE CURSING! READ SURAH BAQARAH VERSE 228...ABOUT WHO IS MORE SUPERIOR OVER OTHER....HUSBAND IS MORE SUPERIOR BECAUSE HE HAS TO TAKE ALL RESPONSIBILITIES OF HOUSE like financial and mental stuff....ALSO ALLAH KNOWS BETTER we just need to trust Allah words no matter if we like it or not....thats how a momin should be!!!! MAY WE ALL GET HIDAYAH AND YOU LIVE A LONG HAPPY LIFE WITH YOU FAMILY;)

I 100% agree with everything you guys said. I was almost in tears and had a panic attack the night of and was so nervous taking the next step. But after it was all said and done I was like “what, that’s what I was afraid of” . . . the key is to have a really understanding partner who’s patient and considerate of your needs. Don’t expect your first time to be like the movies where you’re bouncing off the walls and fireworks are going off. It’s kind of like cooking the first meal you make, no one is going to say it’s bad, it gets you fed but it’s just ok. The 10th or 15th time you make that meal you can be like “BAM, this is so good!” to be honest it wasn’t until around the 10th time or so that you build up that experience to figure out what you like, what your partner likes. All will be well and it will all be ok, good luck to those in this predicament 😘

Kind of you to discuss this. Especially appreciated the emphasis on having patience. For some newlyweds, it may be best to take days, even weeks of gradual steps before going all the way. Christian here. Our church developed a curriculum of age-appropriate sex ed for each age group from 8-year- old through to grown-ups. One of main goals is help people learn to talk about it. It is positive to talk with partner before and make healthy choices together before. Love how you are modeling ethics of respect and consent.

As a fairly young man (24) who got married less than a year ago I’d say both me and my wife were equally anxious and scared of that first night in which we didn’t consummate the marriage. We didn’t have a really big wedding party and instead we opted for a nice little nikkah at a masjid so we both got to our home around 5pm. Once home we both took a shower separately and changed this is when I saw my wife’s hair for the first time and I could see how scared and anxious she was so I gave her a head covering women in our culture wear at home and gave her a hug letting her know I’m equally scared/anxious so let’s take it slow. After that she hugged me really tight and started to cry letting me know how much she loved me, we then both had our first kiss which was amazing. We then just sat and spoke for a while talking about our honeymoon trip which was the next day and then we simply watched Netflix had some dinner and called it a night. Eventually we got to the act on the 3rd day of our honeymoon in Bali which again was amazing. Another thing that really helped me was although I love both my mom and dad I’m much closer to my mom and she’s the one who came to me and explained the act of intimacy and what to expect the first night, what Dua’s to read how to make sure my wife is comfortable while the conversation with my dad was basically just a sex-ed conversation lol