That’s my mom! Proud of you mom and thank you for giving me another chance at life. Without you, I wouldn’t be alive. ❤️❤️

@davidr9876

Жыл бұрын

Good for you Bryan! I hope my child survives. Searching for insight in how to help her is what brought me here.

@Tragic_Magic23

Жыл бұрын

@@davidr9876 thank you and I pray that your daughter finds her way. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be as a father (I don’t have kids yet but I can imagine it’s more difficult than I can describe) and I hope she finds her way.

@paulettelamontagne6992

Жыл бұрын

@@davidr9876 same

@reagan8457

Жыл бұрын

I don’t know you, but I am proud of you!!! Your recovery gives me hope, for my daughter ❤ Thank you for your story 🙏

@simplydee4113

Жыл бұрын

Great mom!❤

I mourned my son while he was earthside and unfortunately I have to mourn him while he is not on this earth anymore.

@ffab5832

Жыл бұрын

Olivia, my heart hurts for you and your deep loss. I can't even imagine, and I can only imagine. Sending you big hugs.

@Tragic_Magic23

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss Olivia, that’s heartbreaking and I wish everyone had the chance to live and get better.

@realliving7340

Жыл бұрын

My condolences ❤. I am mourning on this side but he is getting ever closer to the other side. May God's comfort and promises with us❤

@carolburgos1837

10 ай бұрын

So sorry for you loss

@elizabethivey9326

9 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry. Our son is on the street in another state and we have lost touch with him. I'm afraid we will get "the phone call."

I can relate to every word. Trying to figure out how I can live my life with all these feelings is so hard. But I’m not giving up on myself or my son.

@ffab5832

Жыл бұрын

Ginny, this is Karen....stay strong, and hold compassion for yourself and your son. Take good care of yourself. Hugs to you and your son.

I don’t know why I just saw this TED Talk today, but I must’ve needed to. Karen, if you see this, thank you for doing this, it took a lot of courage. Even when your voice was shaking, you spoke your truth, and I admire that. I related so much to your journey, as mine has been much the same with my only son Brahm. His father passed from cancer when he was 16 and he has spiraled out of control since then - it’s been 12 hard years. Some days I feel as though I lost both my husband and my son the day my husband passed. I loved when you talked about the relief you felt over Brian being in jail. I slept so good the night my son went to jail. He was safe. He was alive. I could rest. I, too, have lost relationships, neglected relationships, quit jobs, quit living and caring, made my life so small so as to be - I don’t know - here for him if he ever decides to want to get clean.??? I have begged, I have enabled, I have threatened, bribed and, yes I have even given him money full well knowing what he would do with it. I have drawn the line in the sand so many times I lost count. He has been in and out of jail several times, “baby Prison” once, multiple rehabs and half way houses & sober living programs. Each time, I had HOPE. You had me going while watching this, shaking my head in agreement because I can empathize with what your experience was/is. Until you got to your last point - HOPE. I stopped hearing you because my head was screaming so loud - Noooooooooo! It has taken me 12 years to get to the point where I am now : I just am willing to accept what I get from him at his discretion and in return I don’t judge I just return love. I don’t nag, I don’t bribe, I don’t make deals, I just say I love you, I miss you, you ok? As for him, he no longer asks for money, he doesn’t steal from me any longer, he doesn’t call me names and blame me for everything. I suppose he has matured some. We are at an impasse. For me, if I have hope, means I get hurt. My heart has broken. Really broken. Physically broken. So I just made a decision one day to stop having hope because hope hurts. The best I can do is send him text messages once every two weeks or so to say hi, I miss you. Sometimes he answers, most the time he doesn’t. Once in awhile he will call to ask if he can come by and visit. I let him…and we visit, I make food, he nods out on my couch and I let him for about 20 minutes. Then I will wake him and tell him he’s gotta go. Once or twice I’ve met him downtown to get a Starbucks. It’s sort of like seeing him is my own ‘fix’. Even if he’s not clean, he’s still alive. I don’t know what else to ‘do’ because the ball is not in my court and besides, I have ‘done’ everything I can think of. I got nothing more. I will have to go back and re - watch this - especially the green bubble part - I’m all in to visualization (But that’s another story) Hey - here’s something I haven’t tried! Visualization. This all sounds so sad and dramatic, but truly, these days I am mostly at peace. I do not want to go back to the days of utter insanity with him, so I just try to live in love. I have re-married and this man has taught me how to do this. For this I am forever grateful. However, I still feel like my left leg is gone and I’m using someone else’s prosthetic leg that doesn’t fit. I hope you are still doing well Karen and I wish nothing but the best for your son Brian. Living your life in recovery can be hard at times, Brian, go easy on yourself. Especially in the world we live in now. It’s hard to find HOPE. I think your Moms middle name is HOPE - so that’s where you will find it. I will try watching again tomorrow, Karen, and try to hear what you have to say about HOPE, because if you’ve got a way to do this I suppose I should listen. Sorry so long - guess I just had a lot on my mind. I don’t need a response.

@karenhardy1857

2 ай бұрын

I will just say this...I totally get that reaction to Hope ... I hated it, and I wouldn't tell anyone to have it if they don't, it doesn't work that way. Sending you big hugs... thank you for sharing all that. 🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤

@lexigulezian4575

2 ай бұрын

my mom and i are finding solace in your message as we are going through almost exactly what you’re describing. it’s so painful. thank you for sharing and i hope you’re well. ❤

@karenhardy1857

2 ай бұрын

@@lexigulezian4575 thank you for telling me. Keep learning, searching for understanding, and holding as much compassion as you can. Wishing you all good things. 🙏❤

@hokibru625

14 күн бұрын

Thanku, your tàlk is awesome

Found you in a desperate moment. Thank you for your story.❤

@karenhardy1857

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for listening and telling me. ❤ I hope it helped some.

She spoke from the heart. So happy her son is on the road of recovery. Four years is substantial, but addicts must always remain vigilant about hanging on for dear life. My daughter's history is much like her son's, but she is not sober. After leaving a long term 9 month rehab, within a few weeks she used and was kicked out of the halfway house. She was doing so well until she wasn't. Presently she is in jail, she did not appear at her court hearing. They will be sending her to yet another rehab and the cycle will begin again. How to continue to hope after so many failures? Hard to believe she won't ultimately die from an overdose.... But it is so hard to not have hope, without it there is only mourning.

@karenhardy1857

11 ай бұрын

Sydni, thank you so much for sharing this. Take good care of you, first...noone knows the future. Amazing things can happen. Sending you big hugs and prayers to you both... hang in there. ❤🙏💜😇

Hi. My son is the same, peace is something scarce for me. I feel like I'm living in a dark deep hole. Thank you

@karenhardy1857

8 ай бұрын

Sending you encouragement to first, take care of you, find strength to do that and keep trying to find out out to best help him, never give up. ❤ Hugs to you.

@user-ju4xf2yi4i

8 ай бұрын

I'm busy with it, found a Rehabilitation Center in Gauteng. Thank you very much.

@karenhardy1857

8 ай бұрын

@@user-ju4xf2yi4i Great! Take good care! 🙏❤😇💜☮

I ♥️♥️♥️ this mom’s attitude and her son’s responses! Thank you both for giving so many hope. 🙏

@karenhardy1857

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind words. ❤

Heartfelt I can feel this video so much that it brings tears to my eyes because I to have an addict son and I have said some hurtful things like call him an addict in the heat of an argument 😢my son disowned me for that and it hurt me tremendously worse part on my behalf is I felt like why should I apologize he’s the one who put me thru so much with him overdosing 3 times and 10 years of addiction where do we win as a parent it’s exhausting I hope and pray 🙏 for a relationship with my son again I’m so happy your son is sober 🙏

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

Oh, thank you for sharing your pain and experience here. I pray for healing for you and your son. We work on our own healing and out relationship every day. You can, too, I believe that. Hugs to you. ❤

@ladymeropi

11 ай бұрын

Guilty for calling your son what he was??? He is an addict and you have suffered greatly. Your son will reach out to you again, you have stood by him for a decade. I imagine that he is still using, if he wasn't he would have gotten in touch to proudly tell you that he is clean. Be patient, he loves you.

I am going through this with my son alone..It's so frustrating

@karenhardy1857

7 ай бұрын

It is so hard!! Hang in there, take good care of YOU so you have the energy and information to best be there for him. Hugs and prayers to you because I know how hard it is. 🙏❤💜🙏

@arlenecollins9801

20 күн бұрын

I’m going through it right now. I hope 7m later it has gotten a little easier for you. (((Hugs)))

I can definitely relate. It’s been an 18 year roller coaster for us

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

My heart is hurting knowing that please take good care of you. ❤

@CarrieLang

7 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. I understand

Great talk. Very supportuve and honest. Thank You 👍🌞🇬🇧

Great talk, great mum and woman. She found her way go through this very hard and longlasting experience... mums must do what is the best for the whole family, for the struggeling child, for the other siblings, for the father including herself ... a lot of understanding💛, compasion💜 is needed to make healing 💚💚💚 possible.

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind words. ❤

@a..r.9341

Жыл бұрын

@@karenhardy1857🥰 I hope you all are doing well 🌹🌻🌷. Hopefully there were groups for parents with less pressure, somehowe according to your "mindset"... Best wishes from Spain 💃❤.

@paigemckinney2024

11 ай бұрын

​@karen Hardy my son just got out of detox for alcohol and pills. This has been a life long thing with him. I'm hopeless right at this moment.

This is so hard. Detaching with love hurts so much.

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

Take good care of yourself...it may sound selfish, but it can shift things in how you connect or make space (detach). Sending you hugs. ❤

Seeing you all love and hope. You are not alone.

@karenhardy1857

11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much ❤

My son Jamison is in jail after 15 years of opiate addiction. My name is Karen. He’s being purified through the fire.

@karenhardy1857

8 ай бұрын

I hope you both come to a place of peace and healing...🙏❤😇💜☮

So true. My son is chasing drugs and im chasing him. Its hard to break the habit of fixing his issues and its a lifetime healing and i don’t believe you can ever recover from that😢

Hello, just wanted to say thanks I didn’t know someone else had the exact same thing going on in their life

@ffab5832

Жыл бұрын

Hi Cathy, it's Karen. I do hope you can find a community or another trusted person, you can share with and heal with if this is your current struggle. Sending you hugs and compassion and thank you for listening.

Thank you SO much for this! My son and I are both lost in his addictions. He has given up all hope and I don’t know where to turn.

@karenhardy1857

5 ай бұрын

❤ keep fighting, which might mean looking inward for compassion. And finding healing for yourself. Sending big hugs and prayers to you both!

@GodisLove4Eternity

22 күн бұрын

I turn to God! He is able to give us wisdom and peace and He is able to be with and help our children when we can’t be there. I just heard about CRAFT and a channel on KZread called “put down the shovel” by amber Hollingsworth That seems to be really good to help families of loved ones in addiction God bless & protect and help you and your son. 🙏🏻❤️

Thank you for your words, they were very helpful.

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

So glad for that and thank you for watching and telling me. ❤💜

Thank you so much.

@karenhardy1857

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. ❤💜

Thank you for this video. I am a mom of an addict. I currently don’t know where he is as he left a detox two days ago. He was using fentanyl and I’m afraid he is going to die.

@karenhardy1857

10 ай бұрын

@Kristin, sending you hugs and prayers for healing and peace for you both. Keep going, take care of yourself. ❤

@theeteecee

10 ай бұрын

Kristin....I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. My son is 22 & just recently spent his fifth birthday in a treatment centre. He's clean - for now. He's safe - but I could be wrong. You just never know if your child is alive or dead, or if this will be the hour/day/moment he isn't ever going to be ok. That means you're never going to be ok. That's soul crushing

@karenhardy1857

10 ай бұрын

@@theeteecee I am sending you the same wishes... for you and your son to find peace and healing. Take good care of yourself. 🙏❤💜😇

@kimberlyziegler6034

5 ай бұрын

Me too- we are not alone but it is so lonely. Hope to both of us

@karenhardy1857

5 ай бұрын

​@@kimberlyziegler6034❤ agreed... take good care - sending hugs.

My sister is on crack she started 6 months ago when she was dropping off our uncle to rehab when he fell out of my dads vehicle that my sister was driving landed on his head he had bleeding on the brain and died later that day ever since she has bin totally loss she left my dads place living with some total stranger someone we don’t know and her old friend seen her downtown riding a bike skinny as a rake picking up cigarettes butts and I don’t know what to do I stress every day to the max I have my own wife and kids to worry about but I would do anything for her if she wasn’t so far away she’s over 6,000kms away my mom called me a few days ago someone called her saying my sister was in a hard mess drinking a 60 ouncer of booze every night also doing drugs I’m sorry I don’t mean to rant on here but it’s hard when I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it my dad has given up on her even that he use to be a drug addict about 15 years ago it kills me I have no way to help her. I also use to be a drunk and I use to do drugs also not crack tho I seen what it did to my dad and swore never to try it about 7 years ago I gave it up I think I was just lonely and wanted a family I haven’t had a drink since. But my sister is going way 2 far and I’m scared she’s going to die 😭😭

@karenhardy1857

7 ай бұрын

Oh, I do hear your pain and struggle. I hear how much you care about her. If you have any way to let her know that you are there, caring, that can go a long way. Sending you hugs and prayers for peace and healing. ❤🙏

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Shame on you as parents for not teaching your son about the Lord Jesus Christ. Life apart from Him is the reason people fall into addiction. Trauma comes from people who are awful.

@kathleenmorris9309

7 ай бұрын

U silly women. Can't force Christ on them. I daily pray for him.

@steph5494

7 ай бұрын

Not true at all. Shame on you for judging. You need to study your word and tread lightly with conviction lest God deals with you. I know many pastors whose children are addicts. Knock this pious bashing off. "Let he/she who is without sin cast the first stone." Life is a test. I hope you pass yours. Oh yeah you will be tested if you are a true believer.

@Drema-dq6mp

Ай бұрын

You are not a good person, you should not judge no shame on you

@alesiaburris45

Ай бұрын

Taught my children well of Christ..we still walked this road. It was the Pharisees who crucified Christ. Self evaluation may save your soul, true for each of us.

@natalievandermerwe4564

20 күн бұрын

Becareful unless you know for yourself, I know of children who were raised in the church and have godly parents...rejected by church people when they stumble and ran straight to "friends" who "accept " them, and were introduced to drugs. Be very careful to judge!!!

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