This lady just described my life and have given me tools to confront my reality in my son’s addiction. God bless you.

THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VIDEO I JUST WANTED TO DROP A FEW LINES ON MY SOBRIETY I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 2 YEARS AND 11 MONTHS AS OF THIS FEBRUARY 6-2023 I HOPE MY FEW WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT HELP AT LEAST ONE PERSON AND SO ON AND ON LOVE YOU GUYS LET 2023 BE A SOBER SOBER LIFE ❤❤❤

I LOVED IT! addicts are seriously suffering- far more than we know and ANY compassion we give them is beautiful!

@snowburry5233

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@mayzy1093

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

I loved listening to her describe her life as a member in a dysfunctional family.

God bless you lady you have a good heart keep up the good work be well😉

I am trying to help a close friend get sober with support and love and AA meetings. Even though drinking is not his major vice AA gives support where it is much needed for addicts and loved ones. Alanon helps with family members affected as well. Anything and everything helps ...

Well done, getting the scale of instinctive values to move in favor of sobriety is very demanding and intricate .

Fantastic orator; doesn't use her hands for every syllable like most of these amateurs. Well done and the context was eye-opening.

People are being enabled to death. Thank you for speaking out on this. Enablers are partners in crime.

My friend..thank u.. very inspirational ❤

Thank you.

What United States has made it about money in the pocket! Why on earth are we paying insurance for 30 day rehabilitation. $30,000 or more. When study after study have proved .a year extended care is needed!!! Most extended care facility cost 4000 to 5000 a month. That could pay half a year cost of providing extended care. It takes that money from parents under the movation of fear! How sorry are system runs. Parents most likely losing their retirement and homes to pay. These Rebatation centers should be ashamed of themselves. They don't have to be accountable to anyone the long term results are. Shame on American how we treat addiction

@earthkeepinggreen7763

4 жыл бұрын

I might not have written grammar correctly but you understand. I have lived as a parent with child in TEN rehabilitation centers. Only extended care last time and clean now 17 months!!!!!

The sad thing about this addiction is everyone will disapear on you !!! I am an addict and my entire family has little bye little just left my side some way or another and my wife also left me 6 months ago jus left me alone bought a house w her sister and jus couldn’t care less !! I’m not playing the victim at all I am sick! I have this issue that to some extent they just want me to just hang it up like it’s so easy !!! When it’s not at all easy and love is all an addict really needs to beat this addiction!! Love!!! Not disappearing from your life!! 😞but their is a gif and I do believe that one day I will soon be free from these chains !! It’s just so sad the way people say they love u but they show their real colors when This happens “ god bless u all who are into this addiction may god keep us addicts safe until the day he helps us beat this🙏🏻

@trollsnotwelcome7805

5 ай бұрын

I think after living through 3 people I loves addition it certainly isn't that they just leave because they don't care but living with a person in addition will rip the soul out of those who care for them and the closer to the fire they are eg a mother, a wife, a husband the harder it is for them as they have a front row seat to watch someone they love destroying themselves. Many family have to back away to save their own mental health and survive. Many will have tried everything possible only to be met with lies, blame and relapse after relapse. Left often financially and emotionally empty. They love you but comes a time when it's step away or sink with you. Wishing you every luck for the future 🙏

Incredibly helpful! 🙏 thank you 🙏

thank you

Yes there are to many well meaning enablers out there.

@navysteve95

4 жыл бұрын

Glad my Mom kept opening the door and doing the opposite of what people told her to do She let me back home everytime I found recovery 10/15/1989 when I wasn't sure I wanted it. When I made amends to my mom she told me that she let me back because the only time she could sleep was when I was in her home, or locked up somewhere We don't have an opiate epidemic. This is our history folks. Alcohol related deaths are at a 35 years high, and chrystal meth is a popular choice among people on opiate blockers

@navysteve95

4 жыл бұрын

I knew I had a disease. I knew what alcohol and drugs did to me. Yet I kept picking up over and over I never hit a bottom, just a moment of clarity

@pyroslavx7922

4 жыл бұрын

Hey, IF you ever went through or just half way through opiate withdrawal, you would give money to that homeless guy/girl that is on the brink of geting dope-sick. I know i would, (and i do), even after quite siome time being sober (or if you prefer "addict in recovery", i do not mind words being attached to me, but i do mind, and HATE, attaching words to others). AND no, i am not a sicko trying to get any "favours" from any addict, i do not ask and/or care what, where and for how much.

@earthkeepinggreen7763

3 жыл бұрын

I believe most people really don’t know what an enabler is until your in the storm reaching out for help and someone says : do you know you are an enabler? I helped my son every time he reached out for help! He went to 10 rehab. Almost lost him twice! My son has been clean 2 1/2 years now!!!! He continues to help others through AA!!!! It was a road I never seen coming what we went through! May God blessed us whom are in this circle! I do believe drug use is the least resistant road path and f life!

Thank you gratefully received 🙏🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿❤

Outstanding!!

Thank you!!!

Trying to get sober myself

@Ingrid0410

4 жыл бұрын

Mt. Zod you can do it!! Try Celebrate Recovery at a church near you

@cutelittlepony9563

4 жыл бұрын

I got out of detox on the 8th of Sept. Still sober and this time I am really enjoying it. Every day I am a little stronger and feel better. This is not my first rodeo. No matter how hopeless it all seems just don't give up. I recommend a medical detox if possible. If none available then kratom and A.A. might be your best bet. The most important thing is to not give up before the miracles can happen. 3 weeks ago I was begging God for death.

@sunshine2502

4 жыл бұрын

One day at a time. 8 months here. It's hard but so worth it

@nateferdi455

4 жыл бұрын

I don’t want to be sober. But I am. I hate my sober self more than my high self.

@metalfuture1982

4 жыл бұрын

Find something else you can productively fully immerse yourself in. This is another reason why I started creating art. I wouldn't be the same without it.

"Alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful." I would add "patient". It will wait 10, 20, 30 years to return to your loving embrace and surrender. And it's always talking to you. At least this is my experience. After my wife of 35 years had died, my eldest child told me that she was surprised that I had not started drinking. I suggested that she did not understand the nature of alcohol or the nature of her father. The temptation to drink was dancing around me, calling me and telling me we could forget all that pain and sorrow and loss within the whiskey dance, but I had promised my wife before she ever kissed me that I would try to stop drinking. I cautiously say that nothing can make me drink today but my own damned self, and after 36 years without alcohol I trust myself enough to get to bed sober tonight. I wish all who struggle with their dragons the best, and I hope their "vorpal" blades go "snicker snack"

Good job.

This is exactly what I am going through. I am the enabler.... It used to be my mother ...

I ironically see Daniel Amen in the following videos recommended after watching this video. That is the company that affirmed that all of the dishonesty of my family covering for their crimes was indeed dishonesty. Through brain scans and straight forward objectivity I was able to show that what I was being projected as was dishonest. Something needs to be done to protect people from a system that does not make room for the falsely accused

In my experience, interventions are a terrible idea. Cornering a person under false pretenses & more or less imprisoning them there very publicly. The amount of stress & embarrassment & distrust that generates would more likely lead to massive escalation, detachment, and uncontainable confrontation. Agreed-upon one-on-one communication is far more effective.

@navysteve95

4 жыл бұрын

When an intervention is done properly that isnt the case. The intervention can be about the family letting go

My ex-husband is an alcoholic. It ruined our marriage. My oldest daughter is an alcoholic and a drug addict. Legalizing pot has made her life worse. I go to regular Alanon meetings and work the 12 steps everyday for the past 11 years. With that I am able to live my life and deal with the family.

Addiction isn't the "disease", mental illness is. When we can get past calling addiction a "disease" and focus more on the real disease "mental illness" then we may get somewhere with treating "addiction" which is a side effect of "mental illness" the real disease.

@trainingxtrish

3 жыл бұрын

Julzy20032000 it’s not always mental. The biochemical issues are vast

@JasonBrown-dd7dj

10 ай бұрын

Why not the addiction but why the pain

I am changed

There is nothing sadder than when someone thinks they are a hero, but what they actually are is a deceived pawn helping cover some of the most perverse and disgraceful crimes on this planet. This system carries such power it can be used to destroy lives easily. I challenge anyone to take the thought experiment of being called by abusers, asked to help with a drug addict who actually doesn’t use and see how easily child abusers can use this system.

I will never understand this. My sister died from alcoholism. If I have more than one glass of wine I feel numb and dizzy. Why does anyone want to feel like that?

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

As a recovering alcoholic I can try to help you understand. Basically, we feel so hopeless about our life we use alcohol as a last ditch effort to escape our feelings. It’s known that alcohol effects everyone in a different way. Also, the more you drink the more your brain changes and the better it feels ( until tolerance hits) Personally I planned on drinking myself to death so I could squeeze every last bit of pleasure from life. Luckily I feel better now. I’m sorry for your sister and I don’t know why I was spared and she wasn’t. Perhaps my purpose is to help others understand alcoholism from a perspective that almost always leads to death.

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

Just know that there was absolutely nothing you could have done. Absolutely nothing. I know it’s hard not to blame yourself but it’s true at some point we can truly not be helped by anyone

@joycewright5386

Жыл бұрын

@@Generouslife153 thank you so much for your explanation! So glad you are doing well!

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

Of course! If you ever need to talk I’m here. Sometimes I feel alone and talking with someone who knows my pain eases the burden

Go Vancouver bc east side

I dont give him anything anymore but now he's just going to die homeless and alone my son finally sead yes to treatment and I have called 1000 people for help and habe received 1000 no's

What can I do for the addict who has lost EVERYTHING? I’m tired of hearing about praying for her. How does mental psychosis and drug addiction make someone get help before it’s 6ft too late? I need answers.

I worry for my moms worry’s, I want to quit because I don’t want her to worry but I can’t, I don’t want her to worry that I’ll die but I can’t guarantee it, but I want to.

@richardkenny7555

5 жыл бұрын

Try acquapuncture and hypnosis.

@richardkenny7555

5 жыл бұрын

Get to meetings- find a mentor.

@Swilton100

5 жыл бұрын

keep trying, every chance you can. You are loved by people you don't even know love you. Buddha said no one deserves their own love more than you yourself...

@amorascottREDC8

5 жыл бұрын

dumbshow3 please call me... I want to tell you about a treatment that can help you on that road to recovery. 317.983.3672 my name is Amora. We lost a loved one and I wish I knew about NAD therapy before we lost him.

@etiennesa1723

4 жыл бұрын

Find your nearest Narcotics Anonymous meeting. They saved my life, and continue to save my life to this day.

Thank you for your advise I am going to admit I’m driving around looking for my boyfriend who is outside in the freezing cold and I cannot stop crying because your right he has to hit bottom but he can’t if I keep helping him up every time he messes up I have to say no even though I love him to death 😢

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

You have to stop helping. It’s so hard to realize but you aren’t helping. You are prolonging his addiction. “He will drink until the pain of being drunk outweighs the pain of being sober” I’ll bet my life on that. Sorry you are going through this. I was a alcoholic and it nearly killed me

@Mari-he7gy

Жыл бұрын

Im so sorry you have to go through this, Im also loving an alcoholic husband, its really very challenging marriage life and Ive learned that as partners of addict we have to stop enabling them.

@Mari-he7gy

Жыл бұрын

@@Generouslife153 I've been reading your comments here and thank you so much for sharing your thoughts a reliable explanation from someone like you who struggled before with alcohol. I love my husband and so worried that anything will happen to him driving so drunk but he is a functional alcoholic and a successful businessman. Im trying everything I can to encourage him to seek help but he wont until now. He only went to rehab 2yrs ago for 5weeks and relapse every 2months or so until now.

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

@@Mari-he7gy absolutely. I am good friends with the owner of a luxury rehab in LA. It is the only one out of 4 different rehabs that actually got me sober. It’s sooo different. If he decides to go again please let me know. I understand how painful life can be. I put my parents through some truly unimaginable horrors. You are not along Mari

How can they get the treatment they need if they have no money and no insurance?

@denatinnin3058

9 ай бұрын

I can't find help for my drug addict son and his wife who my husband wont let them come to are hous after he has replaced most of the things they have stolen in the past I just seen them and there homeless living under a rode way with 18 outher homless people he and his wife are willing to go to treatment now but I can't find any place that will take them with no insurance and even welfare won't help with insurance it takes 6 months to even get foodstamps and medical

@denatinnin3058

9 ай бұрын

What are we to do besides lose our minds with worry and worry turns in to fear then fear turns into hate and hate turns into giving up on yourself for failing your child

The main problem of talking about it in MY HOUSE is that my 2 grown kids love it and dont WANT to give it up and one gets Dangerously violent.Thats why i cant discuss it.

@Generouslife153

Жыл бұрын

I have resources if you need help

@mariamcomellll

Жыл бұрын

my little brother is like your child who gets violent. We don’t know what to do

This description of an addict is severe. Functional addiction it's more prevalent and far more insidious. If the hardest drugs take over this could work... But why should put have to get that far? For many addicts this approach would be over the top and could actually accelerate them downhill into the disease. It all depends on the individual

Archaic and against the current science of addiction medicine

@amandajane4841

4 жыл бұрын

Why?

@fourgrans

4 жыл бұрын

Please elaborate...

Only JESUS! Please look for help! Be TRUTH seekers!!

Just legalise it and regulate it

forced interventions do not work. you are projecting your emotions onto this approach. if you actually had addiction you would understand. you don't understand.

@probrickgamer

2 жыл бұрын

What you mean is it makes you uncomfortable. However you have to be uncomfortable with your situation to prove it

lol just a bit dramatic..

@earthkeepinggreen7763

4 жыл бұрын

Have you know anybody close who died from drugs or alcohol? I doubt it!

Truth. Baby the addict and you will bury the addict. I'd recommend putting a little more energy into it next time. Best regards

@sabirchaudhry1706

4 жыл бұрын

Yes as this is a Hollywood movie 🙄

@AnthaKharana

3 жыл бұрын

The comment says a lot coming from a self proclaimed Recovery Coach. This isn't one of those high energy motivation speech. Her tone and energy were spot on for the topic on this matter. Its full of compassion and sincerity.

This lady has to be one of the most boring and depressing speakers I’ve ever heard.

@mooksplays

4 жыл бұрын

how do you expect someone to talk about something so serious? i doubt there's anyone out there who's going to hold a speech about addiction for you with a live band and a circus around you.

She is making jokes about a very serious problem not very professional. This woman seems like she could care less about this issue. I cannot take anything she says seriously. Does anyone else sense this? She has no clue on how to solve these problems

@amandajane4841

4 жыл бұрын

Using humanity and humor to connect with an audience when speaking about a terrifying and difficult topic shows her skill at communicating. She is pouring empathy from her soul, and you have a stick too far up your chute to see that. She is so right to call out enabling Grandmas. Sheesh.

@etiennesa1723

4 жыл бұрын

@@amandajane4841

@silentj624

4 жыл бұрын

@robert clint nope! you're own your own with that one.

@katrinaasmrr

2 жыл бұрын

On your own. She did great

thank you