Question: in the example that you just gave, aren't you just giving implicit agreement of someone's idea when you don't infact agree with it? It's great to make people feel validated but it shouldn't come at the expense of going along with whatever they're saying.

@ShadeZahrai

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the question. I'll give you 2 examples of replies in the context of how to substitute 'but' with 'and' in the context of collaborating with someone that's disagreeable and has equal or more power - without having to agree. USING BUT "We could re-hire contractor X because they're familiar with our site protocols BUT they're expensive and a little slow. I think we can find better deals." USING AND "We could look at rehiring contractor X since they're already familiar with our work-site, AND just to make sure we're getting good value with timely delivery, let's get a couple of other quotes from reputable contractors who are also familiar with our type of worksites." Hope this helps!

@PapaRora

Жыл бұрын

How are you so amazing! Where were you in my 20s?!! Better late than never!

@honzareality

Жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai I learn this in Never split the difference :-) And I use it ever since.

@bileyroy9609

Жыл бұрын

You look stunning...just a wish it i was able to be your husband...

@KeshavBhola1008

Жыл бұрын

👁️

Honesty and clarity of communication is much more important than making someone feel good all the time

@sunofpeter2

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah is that you tried making everyone feel better all the time? Then it fell apart before your progress was made? Good thing you found this gem of a communicator as she shows a better way. Good luck chum hope you figure out where you went wrong.

@JeEL2610

Жыл бұрын

indeed

@sstein4777

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Especially using such long sentences that unveil how hard you are trying and make you look fake in the end

@alfacentauri3686

Жыл бұрын

"Yes, if ..." would be a better answer. You don't create an obstacle with a "but", you just set a criteria for the idea to be accepted.

@ShadeZahrai

Жыл бұрын

If your only aim is to make the person happy by telling them what they want to hear then it's not collaboration and it's disingenuous. Only through the clash of ideas can you have the sparks of truth. Note - not the clash of people. Depersonalize the ideas. In a situation when you need the person to collaborate - leading them to open their mind to new possibilities (not necessarily agreeing) instead of dismissing their perspective can be more influential. You can (and should) absolutely be honest and clear.

Her voice is so perfect.

@eng-ishow

3 ай бұрын

Bro this is made by ai

@notperfect005

2 ай бұрын

Yeah "voice"

@Brandon-kp5to

Ай бұрын

@@fixinfkinsandwiches6183 bonk

@benli3278

5 күн бұрын

@@eng-ishow really?

@muaviyakmr29

2 күн бұрын

@@benli3278 yup,.luk at her other vdeos

You are so articulate. I am hooked on hearing you talk

You completely changed the answer from not accepting their suggestion to accepting it. It's better to be assertive than just agreeing with everything

@gurindersingh8109

3 жыл бұрын

You are wrong. When someone say something how can you instantly conclude about its true impact? A professional would try gather more facts about an argument before taking a decision. Decision is expensive, you can't deliver it like an instant coffee. Therefore encourage and applaud every bit of info when you hear it first. Think

@utkarshaggarwal1631

3 жыл бұрын

@@gurindersingh8109 what if that opinion has already been tried just like the answer she gave herself in the video suggesting that it didn't work ....I agree with the "thinking" and making a decision part. But you need not think if the idea is repeated for a similar situation in the past where it didn't work.

@kartikpanjabi6801

2 жыл бұрын

@@utkarshaggarwal1631 yeah that's true but here she is more tallking about conversation skills that we are used a lot without any conscious thinking. You know like after every yes and but people don't like to hear rest of the things

@aunkanmandal360

Жыл бұрын

Just say yes instead of no ,super simple. Everyone will like you.

I feel the vibe from the book: Win friends and Influence People

Shes mesmerizing

@curious_one1156

4 ай бұрын

definitely.

All this stuff sounds great until you actually get into a workplace and realize that everyone is an idiot, and you decide its easier just to join them.

@extrawhy

2 жыл бұрын

To much truth for one comment.

@ankurmehrotra6506

Жыл бұрын

There is a book on communication which is called 'surrounded by idiots'

@chimmeriri

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@tessa7778

Жыл бұрын

😂😂

@astronautonmars

Жыл бұрын

Faxx 😂😂😂😂

This woman is a champion ! Imagine spending 3 months with her, gaining momentum and developing yourself, to position yourself as new CEO

@SRSGAMER07

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@SRSGAMER07

3 жыл бұрын

but true

@quasiosa

3 жыл бұрын

Only your mind will change to be CEO not position actually, but you may become that soon, based on your current position if you continue the mindset.

@manjeetmondal220

3 ай бұрын

new ceo in dream world😂😂😂

@eugenek777

3 күн бұрын

I'm ready to feel myself as a CEO by spending a night with her

Communication is the best way to understand people

This lady is exceptional in communication skills. Love her channel!!

Where were you 10 years ago... All these teaching are beneficial , God bless you kind heart 💓

As a manager, I can't use that term cause that would still be acceptance to a rejected idea darling.

@robertweekley5926

3 жыл бұрын

metal rage - Then, maybe it could go like this: "And if we can fit that in, with some extra planning, and other ideas are not working, we probably could give it some serious thought!" 🤔😳

@fabricciodominic7473

Жыл бұрын

it doesnt matter, this is youtube fun

You are a true influencer .... Others are just entertainers ... Respect....👍🙏

and you can also do that to yourself to learn from mistakes. Genius ! Thank you!

"AND will it work just like last time? AND what have we learned from it?"

Yes, this is what my friends have to see before talking to me.

In my age and not shy from learning the wisdom of this young lady, great job and keep it up

I am excessively impressed by your delivery, the way you talk and all your mannerism is something that I admire a lot. Including all the little things you do, like you have a content smile while you talk, and all the hand gestures. Your face radiates positivity and your enthusiasm. That is something I'll like to add in my personality. And, your immense knowledge about the topic, its like icing on the cake.

This lady is brilliant. Thanks much for words of wisdom. Best wishes.

One of my favorite ideas out there, I learned this from a book I read in college last year called - Yes, And. This has such a positive effect..!

Super correct. Constructive criticism fosters team spirit, collaboration which inturn increase performance and productivity

I find your videos to be very thorough and well versed. Your videos blend human pscychology and work place code very well.

Honestly, You just talk with my heart💖 Loved your communication skill✨

We need more people like you on this planet earth...

@fabricciodominic7473

Жыл бұрын

with good fronts?

@HighonInternet

Жыл бұрын

​@@fabricciodominic7473 😂

Thank you...just little tips like this can totally change the tone of delivery

I am just watching your videos, just because of your facial expressions 😃

@MarshallArtz007

Жыл бұрын

She is stunning, isn’t she?- _and_ she’s so well spoken.

Shade I must say you really understand communication so well .. really inspiring ideas & modifications..

@fabricciodominic7473

Жыл бұрын

haha

Shade, you're the best. Love your input, always.

I discovered that i do this unintentionally since last year since i started thinking positively about stuff and it really does work magic in perspective not just for people who are around u but for u as well

Loved it! perfect use of words

Nice! Dale Carnegie taught me this as well

loving these shorts🎉🎉🎉

That is very good way to exchange words

Great tip! we all need more straight forward, more positive and less sugar-coating interactions in our lives!

Definitely learned from this🙏🏾 Thank you Ma'am

That’s great advice! Thank you. ❤

@ShadeZahrai

18 күн бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Your voice is soo soothing 😢

Yes your advice is so true and on point. Some times I fel it only me learning all the nice things from you, and others continue to invalidate me. Thank you Shade for your help thanks you again.👍👍🙏❤️

❤that's right Doci Doci❤

From negative to positive 💯

I’m in love with her voice

Thank you so much. This is very inspiring 💛🧡💚

Yes I agree, and make sure you are learning to make good videos that didn't work last time ❣️

Ur voice is very nice, so soothing..

Right, Thanks Shade

This is an excellent example of improving communication skills and, most importantly, how properly recorded sound can make a short video exciting. Good job!

Yes..communication is key.😊

that is genius! great. ya got a sub

What an amazing piece of advice! Thank you!

I saw you and instantly felt connection ❤

I clicked her video once, now I'm seeing suggestions from her all the time "and" I'm not regretting that. Such a nice change after all those almost naked girls from tick tock. Prove that besides having a good look you can also share something useful with people to be noticed 😘

Your advice is so awesome and on point.

Thank you. I like this idea - a subtle approach.

I mean it’s a fundamental improv technique. It could work in many scenarios as long as ‘the reasons it didn’t work last time’ are discussed and something changes (testing a new variable).

Your contents are literally transforming people ... Love and respect to you Ma'am from India

These very very small details are everything. The world would be a better place if people placed importance on choosing how to think and communicate for the betterment of others and themselves

But to and- negative to positive plus acknowledge their ideas. 👏

So true it also puts you in team mode as mentioned validate the thought but build on it by substituting and. It's much better.

Amazing Audio Output!

Your way of taking is just amazing 😍

U R Awesome and M really appreciate ur suggestions

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

So nice of you. Thank you 😊

Wow Shade, keep sharing it..

You are super simple. I like the way you put it.

Thank you!

With your voice that “And” will go along way.

Didn't Understood But Feels Good After Listening This😅

@abhishek-5221

Жыл бұрын

after she completed me:- Oh..sorry, You're Saying Something

@Scoobie..

Жыл бұрын

@@abhishek-5221 😆😆🤝

@abhishek-5221

Жыл бұрын

@@Scoobie.. 🤜

My mentor used to use it all the time in the class. Even if your understanding is totally incorrect, he would start with " yes, that is right and " tell the correct answer. That makes you fell good.

Great words and guidelines to succeed.

Thankyou 🙏

@ShadeZahrai

Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

Thank you so much for this tip

Most amazing voice tone I’ve heard!

I believe in straight forward communication

Great tip. I happen to me and many people I know !! Great tip for the communication

Great advice ! 👍

For some bizarre reason I like the way she talks not sure why but I can understand her more that other people.

So working together we all win-win

I love your voice 😍💕

@albert2090

3 жыл бұрын

I second that….

What I enjoy about this is that it also mirrors that of improv where the one rule is “Yes, and”. Meaning Yes I acknowledge your idea AND I offer this. It’s that brick on brick thinking. I dig it and how it strengthens collaboration and creative ideas. 🎉

Yes, keep it positive and optimistic to encourage stakeholders towards the problem solving.

Great insight, thank you!

Your knowledge is awesome🙏Thank you for this free knowledge you're passing on. I never learned this at school.

You have excellent communication skills. My wording are terrible and I’ll use your technique

I love so much that idea ❤❤❤

Game changer honestly . thanks for the life hack

Great vid! I use AND all the time! (well, maybe not ALL the time) but I do try! It totally opens up the conversation.

Thank you for the lesson

Yes, and you should totally go out with me.😎

the language we use is one of the easiest ways to create a positive change. even small changes like asking for "assistance" opposed to "help" can have a dramatic impact on the way we think and interact with others.

You and your voice.......ohhhhh ❤️❤️❤️

It's better to tell upfront if something is going to work or not. I don't beat around the bush, and go straight to the point. I appreciate if others do the same to me. Feeling validated is a secondary issue.

@ShadeZahrai

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's also smart to be tactical to influence. Acknowledging and opinion doesn't mean agreeing to the person's opinion or not being clear. We all prefer to do it our way but that's not always effective. Different tools for different situations.

I am from India. I have learned alot to this channel.

Excellent... I am in love with the way you explain complex things in a very simple manner along with an example... keep up the good work

Really great!!!Thanks.

This is amazing❤

It’s the first video that popped up and I already love ur language. Wise idea 👑💯

@ShadeZahrai

3 ай бұрын

I appreciate that

As Ned stark once said, " everything before "but" is horse shit."

Positive attitude ❤helps more us you're right✔

❤ beautifully said

No words for you 👍