"Catch instead of kick yourself when you fall" I love this.

This reminded me of Chicken Little. You don't have to go through life acting like the sky is falling. It doesn't.

@xprecious05x

2 жыл бұрын

Good analogy !!!!!

I didn’t realize I was catastrophising. Cognitive distortions are a big one for me. It’s been so freeing being aware of how I can change my thoughts about outcomes. It’s like my ball and chain has been removed.

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

Were you able to change your thoughts on your own or with assistance,?

@TheEarthycrunchy

10 ай бұрын

@@sciencetest8 it’s a daily practice of noticing and then redirecting my thoughts

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

@@TheEarthycrunchy thank you

Deliberately spend more time thinking about the best case scenario than you do thinking about the worst.

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

So much easier said than done.Wish I knew how. Any secrets or advise,?

@TakeBackYourMind997

10 ай бұрын

@@sciencetest8 It is easier said than done for sure. I don't know that there's any secrets to it really it's basically just visualisation, which is a skill you can learn and get better at with practice luckily. Try to do it when you're in a good headspace, that helps, and also you could write down the worst case scenarios in your mind, describe them briefly in a few sentences or something like that, and next to that basically write the opposite, so what would it look like if everything went well in those situations instead of it being the worst case scenario, that might help to build a mental picture so you can visualise that best case scenario more clearly. I cant really think of any other tips for it, practice visualisation mediations and you'll get there!

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

@@TakeBackYourMind997 ,Thank you for that wise and helpful advice. I am struggling like never before.

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

@@TakeBackYourMind997 ,do you do guided meditation or just visualization?

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

@@TakeBackYourMind997 Thank You!

This is me with respect to medical appointments/tests. It’s difficult to talk yourself into thinking you’ll be OK, no matter the outcome if the outcome is not good. I’d love to battle this horrible mindset 😊

@sciencetest8

10 ай бұрын

Me also.

This are definitely my type of thoughts sometimes, but working to change them!

@funnysoup9708

3 жыл бұрын

If i had a person to back me instead of making fun of me all the time.i quit trying and fighting when I get put down.

@beckysargent8473

2 жыл бұрын

Lll)llll

@motivationalone...

2 жыл бұрын

Stick with it, stay with Julia

@bv9056

2 жыл бұрын

I’m right there with you 😔

Your right sometimes I think catastrophizing is all I think about and unfortunately it causes me to do premature decisions.

I’ve been paying attention on everything you’re saying in your channel, you’re a angel from heaven. You’re always motivating us exactly when we most needed it!! I’m struggling with depression and anxiety, and you’re right, I’m always expecting the worst in most situations. Thank you for encouraging to think positive and most of all for your kindness and time to make life journey less stressful. Thank you ❤️

@edwinromilly4645

2 жыл бұрын

well put hope your finding resources to combat your anxiety,i can relate and remember -your wholeness & value has never been diminished or lost only replaced By false concepts and beliefs this world taught us to believe in

I can relate. I do this all the time. I didn’t realize it has to do with “me” and put meaning about me behind it. It makes so much sense now

You cannot be saying this at a better time. Thank you, Julia Kristina.

I'm 3 minutes in, first time ever watching you and I gotta tell you that I'm so impressed with how confident and at-ease you are. Even without knowing you I can already tell that you're very good at what you do. Eager to keep watching and grateful that this video randomly popped up on my homepage!

I So needed to hear this message -I am always waiting and expecting the worst-thanks for this encouraging message .🙏🏾-I just wonder how I got to this point in my life where I expect the worst constantly, but I’m absolutely trying to change that thinking-thank you again for this message

So so relatable. It’s been a lifelong battle and journey. But what you have provided my and many many others is a light at the end of a dark tunnel. So much love for you Julia. 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for being here and for your help today and with so many things you have helped me with. I applaud you and I am so happy for your time.

No matter what happens I will be ok. I refuse to make it mean something negative about me.

This is so perfect for me , can’t thank you enough for taking the time to post and teach this. I think this way and this is going to help me put a stop treating myself so badly with out comes that aren’t what I expected as well as avoidance, Hugh one for me. I discovered you off watching elevation church services on emotions and I have subscribed ever since. I’ve watched this video many times and saved it. Thank you for being here to help me get through life.

😭😭😭 Thank you for making this video!! I really needed this.

I swear you are looking into my soul. I’m so very happy I have found your channel. I have learned so much. Thank you!

Excellent talk. Love how you relay the information to your followers. Thank you for Shari your knowledge in such a care free way. Diana

Thank you for giving of yourself! You have helped me to go from being too afraid to get my mail to starting a new Job on Monday!

Your subject is always perfect💞 Thank you!

Thank you. It's just very nice of you to make your work available online!

i've noticed i developed this as some kind of coping mechanism for bad outcomes. i taught myself to hope for the best, but expect the worst. i guess this isnt the best way of thinking because sometimes it's easy to lose hope and you end up just expecting the worst for every situation.

@TheOraReport

3 жыл бұрын

I've almost developed a superstition around bracing for the worst in case if I don't I'm going to face a worst case scenario unprepared. It's a horrible way to live. It becomes a little tricky when the worst possible outcome has come up pretty regularly.

@joannepigliavento7930

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheOraReport same 😔

@charisseabernathy487

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheOraReport same here. It’s miserable.

Thank you! Shared with my family ❤

Hello, this woman here has helped me a lot on my journey towards healing anxiety. She's a God given gift to us who experience anxiety. Thank you Julia for putting effort in making video and free.

Welp, this popped up at the perfect time for me. Thank you so much Julia!

So well spoken. Thank you so much !!!!

I’m really looking forward to hearing your thoughts about this! I’ve struggled with this problem for a long time 🙏🏻

Stop expecting the worst. Easier said than done. To say it's a practice is a vast understatement.

Hello, Kristina. Thank you sharing your insights with others.

So needed this. Thank you

Purchased the Self Trust Guide- will print it out- Thanks!

Love your tips it calmed my anxiety down just listening to the information and what you said in the end expecting the outcome to well.im going to keep that thought with me especially just started a new job

thank you for this! this came up for me when I needed it! This is the second time your content has shown up for me when I needed it :)

Many thanks for this upload! Depression is horrible but we can crush it!

Thank you for this wonderful presentation. It’s a long road but a worthwhile one and you inspire. I am starting to think that embracing uncertainty is a common thread in so many of your videos.Thanks again.

Excellent Julia. I am finally not beating myself up. Especially when I make mistakes in new endeavors! Can't believe I ever did that. I wouldn't do that to anyone else!

This is me. Less often now, but still working on being free! Thank you for this content!

Thank you Julia. Grazie! God bless you

This is, by far, the best video for me - to view and re-view daily- I must change in order to move ahead.

Your videos are always very helpful...

Back again! We always look for you💖

Much appreciated!

So helpful. Thank you.

Story of my life- this video spoke deeply to me and my issues of Anxiety and Catastrophizing-which leads to Procrastination - a viscious cycle.. ousousous

Wow, I can relate to this so much.. Thank you so much for making this video.. Truly helps

Thank you for every single word 🙏🏻

The fear of looking foolish...can leave you feeling foolish.....also...the thoughts like "I'm going to trip up I'm going to trip up I'm going to trip up...you probably will trip up (in the street) because your not concentrating properly

That is exactly what I've needed to hear today! Thank you :)

This was incredible, Thank you...

Excellent information! Thanks for helping me adjust my mindset towards the positive!

I haven't listened to your beautiful voice in a while, I didn't realize how much I missed you until now. (Ive been subscribed but no notifications until today. )

Superb Julia I cannot get enough of you Thank you so much 💓

I can completely understand and relate to this video and everything that's been talked about in this video I feel bad on and off everyday I have bad thoughts I'm always thinking about things iv done things I want to do worrying about everything I plain I got so anxious and have bad depression thank you for this video

After trauma this seems to be worse. But you can overcome that. This is extremely helpful for me to listen to. Thank you !

Thank you so much. Your advice is so helpful 👍

Hello thanks for sharing this information. Nice job

You're doing such great work!👏🏽👏🏽😊😊

16:31 - I can’t believe I didn’t think of this from this perspective! Practice expecting things going well (instead of the opposite). I appreciate this video

Thanks Julia you’re the best!

Hello. Thanks for all of your content. It’s really helpful during this time in my life

Love your post Julia,thanks for your input- t’s easy to be miserable in this world. That takes no courage at all. The real test is despite what life may bring can you be happy? It takes courage to live in this world with all it’s ups and downs. It takes courage to be alive fully. It takes courage to live with an open heart. It takes courage to feel and not numb yourself. REMEMBER-The phoenix must burn to Emerge-When I look back at my failings and the courage & resilience it took to just try I’m so glad I did it,as it didn’t set my Limits-Trying no matter how small really does expand your life,your mind,your opportunities. Peeace😋

Julia, this is Bob from Norwalk, hello to you, yes, we must inventory our thoughts.

Thank you for my daily hope

Thanks a lot Julia.

This really helped me thank you so much. God bless you.

Yeah I perceive most things in my life in this way. Most recently with my relationship. Over the past few months it just got worse and worse while we got further apart and i knew if i didnt do something about it she would eventually pull the plug and she did. I couldnt do anything about it because my whole life i dealt with problems by freezing up or becoming numb that i just let things happen. Now all i can do is let her go and look forward in the most positive way so my future and better self can join my happiness with her.

That was right on time!

I get what you're saying about catastrophizing. I like the expression expect the worst hope for the best. I don't particularly care for the wording though, it seems to throw off the point. It should be; Understand that the worst can happen, but plan for the best anyway. The actual outcome will be somewhere in between.

I really needed to hear this today!! Thank you 🙏

@jasonbryan9056

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing 😊😊😊☺️☺️

My dad used to say “prepare for the worst, expect the best” but that just doesn’t work - you either really expect the best - believing a good thing will happen or you believe sth bad will happen and so you’re preparing for the worst. Your behaviour is a manifestation of your beliefs so that saying just shows that deep down the belief is negative. I guess the one situation in which thinking out how to handle a situation that could (only) potentially go wrong, how you would prepare for sth going wrong (but not taking action, just thinking) is when that is used to stop the fear connected to a scenario that makes you feel afraid. That’s the only one situation where this is a healthy behaviour. Like the way you explained Julia. All else is just unnecessary anticipatory anxiety instead of living in the moment and only thinking what to do when sth actually happens.

Thanks Julie for your comments. As a caring Mum I have been trying for too long and you are right they are not worthy of me. Thanks for your thoughts.. I realise that maybe my son is but not the daughter-in-law, who yesterday accused me of harming my son and his son, my only grandchild??? she then uninvited me and my husband to our grandsons 2nd birthday party.. At last her true colours have shown and I am now working on myself, not them to clear the anxiety and depression built up over the years.

You are the greatest!!

🙏 Thank you very much. It was very helpful.🙏

Love it,. Very helpful

Thank you.... 💙

Julia thank you 😊

Oops typo. Thank you for sharing your knowledge…etc as continued in prior message. You are awesome. Diana

Thanks so much coach from Yemen.

Love it. So so good

Thank you 😊

This was good stuff…. Thanks K

Reality means Real plus your liability towards outcome. Very good.

What the outcome means is key to me. I fear being seen as an idiot, a fool. I fear being seen as someone who can't make good financial decisions or who is being played for a fool. I also don't want to be seen as careless or irresponsible.

Thank you for your content 🙏 its blessing me love from Scotland UK

Thank You 🌹

Great video thank you. 💚

I've been experiencing this every second of my life since I was 9 and now it's about to be really tested. From age 9 to 13 I watched my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle die. The hardest was the first, my mom. No matter what I did I couldn't save her. Now I failed my aunt. After mom and dad died, they loved me enough to take me in. I made a promise to take care of her and never put her into a nursing home. Now I'm in my aunts house alone with her in the nursing home. She's in the nursing home because I'm a failure. I was going to join shift society, but I'm to big of a failure to get myself right.

@positivemind1

3 жыл бұрын

You are not a failure. I am a nurse and from a medical perspective you are still caring for your aunt. A nursing home is simply an alternative option. You are still monitoring the care she is being given. You are an awesome son to her. Don't think otherwise.

@messue428

3 жыл бұрын

You are not a failure. The fact that you are here watching this shows how awesome you are. You can stop the cycle now. Choose your path, and see the good in yourself. It will take time but trust me, it will happen if you try.

@jamesgarzillo7669

3 жыл бұрын

You sound like a winner to me

@richardlowry9663

3 жыл бұрын

You are not a failure. It is impossible for one to take care of another needing full time attention and or full time monitoring; you have to work and have a life too. Accept, no one ALONE can care for another requiring 24/7 monitoring and care.

@clairelouise335

3 жыл бұрын

Your post really touched me. I'm sat here with tears in my eyes. You have been through so much and your compassion shines through. You are not a failure at all. Please don't give up on the process of learning to believe in yourself. I don't know you at all but my heart goes out to you.

So helpful thank you

Hi Thank you for your insights. These videos provide legit value

This is so true, and I have felt this way for as long as I can remember, I have started to avoid things now as I feel as though I am wrong ..I need not to expect the worse and change my thoughts . I am exhausted with trying and the harder I have tried the more I feel let down . Now I will attach myself more loosely. I know when I offer help or interest to my family I will be rejected. I am used to this and I am now realising it is not me and I need to carry on offering but accept the rejection .

@juliewillis5042

3 жыл бұрын

Why keep offering if they are not showing appreciation for your efforts. Are they worthy of you ?

Thank you so much dear Julia, for this so useful channel. You are helping me a lot with your videos, to clear my mind and manage my emotions and daily life. Plus I can improve my English (I'm Italian so I'm not an English mother tongue, unfortunately!) please I hope I won't bother you with my request, but I was wondering if you maybe could do a video about solitude and creation of imaginary inner worlds in order to 'survive' to daily life and reality (which to be honest, scares me a lot and makes me anxious and aggressive in response to my discomfort, even more!)... Thanks again for your precious work 💜

Very down to earth explanation. Well done Julia 😎👍

@jasonbryan9056

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing 😊👋👋👋

Great video! 🙏

Great video ! Thank you!!

@jasonbryan9056

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing 😊😊👋👋

Hello I just joined your beautiful channel. You are amazing 🤩 and I fall in love with your voice and diction. Wonderful

I am so excited about you I could listen to you forever

Sooooo perfect!😳

makes so much sense

this video was so helpful, thank you! i noticed that you started using “humans” rather than “men and women”. Love that!!!