No need to have bridal shower if you don’t have the money.

@cynthiaoconnor7185

21 күн бұрын

Bridal showers are usually held at home or at a church so to choose an expensive venue for what is basically a way to get gifts, is madness. And, why are people (and news people and talk show hosts) saying "have a less expensive wedding", when the segment was about an OPTIONAL activity?

@Paul-tp9yh

21 күн бұрын

Just do this at a home and pay for a cake and that’s it.

@danaidavou6162

15 күн бұрын

​@@Paul-tp9yh I totally agree. Just buy the decorations and the food you want from the supermarket and go with it.

@fascinationmama

9 күн бұрын

shows you people don’t have money and want everyone to pay for the wedding and honey moon happened to my friend sad

@willylao5430

8 күн бұрын

Agreed 💯 percent 👍👍👍

“I’m sorry. Your event is out of my budget. And it seems like it’s out of yours, too.”

If you can’t afford to have a bridal shower then don’t have one . Period !

@testaccount1055

12 күн бұрын

Totally Agree. It’s a party. If that’s the case, anyone coming into my house for a dinner, lunch or my birthday is also paying me $100 for admission. The sense of entitlement and audacity of people is disgusting.thsi bride clearly doesn’t have her finances in order and is an entitled brat thinking she must have all the bells and whistles of a bridal party and expect others to pay for it all.

There is no way I would pay to attend the bridal shower. That’s insanity.

@oooh19

6 күн бұрын

Yea you would just buy a gift why make your friends pay $300?! Jeez!

The celebrations are costing but the marriages aren’t lasting 👀

@lstockton8468

22 күн бұрын

SPEAK ON IT! Folks are so worried about the IG/Twitter/Facebook pics and show that they forget--it's about a MARRIAGE. The wedding is one day, the marriage is supposed to be for life.

@GoodWillPrevail

19 күн бұрын

They are in fantasy land about their "perfect" day.

@alexacarrillo4339

16 күн бұрын

This was true 20-25 yrs ago when my friends were all getting married. If the wedding was way out of the family’s budget the marriage didn’t make it past 4 yrs.

@thegalhorowitz

13 күн бұрын

@@alexacarrillo4339This is still accurate. The higher the amount the higher the risk ( Wedding related costs / Budget)

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

Good for thought.

Utterly ridiculous! It costs to be a bridesmaid at a wedding, so demanding payment for them to attend a shower is the rudest, most arrogant thing I’ve ever heard!

@celestecelestial90

16 күн бұрын

My friend spent $2,000 to be a bridesmaid. The bride made them all get hotel rooms in California, dinner and their hair and makeup done, and she made them pay for all that on their own.

@edgloss1299

14 күн бұрын

​@@celestecelestial90 my friend who's the bride payed all of that, not charging anything except asking the bridesmaids to pay the sewing services for the dress after she gave them the fabric for the wedding... So hearing this news was shocking

@froggybug

9 күн бұрын

@@celestecelestial90made?

If you can't afford it then you shouldn't have one

I wore a dress from my closet and our reception was a church potluck. We've been happily married 25 years now. There's no need to have an elaborate wedding.

@mjblue84

23 күн бұрын

Love it!

@nhiarslain2422

22 күн бұрын

Exactly! Our humble mixed race wedding. I paid for my own catering- Vietnamese food that I, myself & my relatives picked up at various restaurants in Orange County. Add those to the simple Greek buffet at a Greek restaurant in San Bernardino, CA (they graciously allowed us to combine our food) and we had ourselves a feast. lol. 1 bridesmaid. We paid for our own way. His grandmother offered to pay for the Greek buffet. Simple and inexpensive and we will be celebrating our 34 years this July. My two other best friends also had even simpler & cheaper weddings, 35 and 34yrs. Why incur debts and risk offended people. And will it last? Celebration doesn’t have to be expensive. And I rented my dress. No need for expensive care & for dragging it around the country/world.

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

@@nhiarslain2422very adorable

@coffeeaddictexpress5038

9 күн бұрын

Yep my dress was $100 at a prom store, my bridesmaids dresses were $16 at Ross. The wedding was a potluck in the basement in the church. We just celebrated 22 years last March. I get that it’s important to some women, but I never was.

@jenniferhansen3622

9 күн бұрын

@@coffeeaddictexpress5038 That's awesome! I didn't have a bridal party. My mom had passed away just a couple of months before we got married and I just wasn't into having a big ceremony. It was just a small, simple service.

Our daughter happily got married on the steps of the courthouse!

@stephb3321

21 күн бұрын

Right! Just elope or something!

@karenmonson9893

8 күн бұрын

This is refreshing to hear. You don't always need an elaborate ceremony.

I was a bridesmaids once and ill never do it again. Too many expectations and not enough understanding that people dont have 1k to spend on your wedding.

@l.a.3479

22 күн бұрын

*bridesmaid

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

@@l.a.3479sometimes it reverses what you comment on KZread.

Ridiculous. Sick of these entitled, selfish stories.

@mjblue84

23 күн бұрын

Exactly! Only to get divorced a few years later!

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

@@mjblue84they always do. They think having a party will save there destined for divorce marriage

@L.Spencer

10 күн бұрын

From a Reddit post, no less.

People need to stop getting married for the party. The true meaning of marriage has been thrown out the window.

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

It's the social media aspect of it. I want my "friends " to see it on IG and tik tok

Lol,she can have her bridal shower alone.

Since when does the bride pay for the bridal shower? I've been a bride & bridesmaid multiple times. I have never heard of the bride paying for her shower, let alone charge a fee to attend the bridal shower. The close friends, family, etc should cover the bridal shower costs. All the bride has to do is show up & enjoy food & beverages with the guets & then receive the gifts. If money is tight for everyone, then have a more casual event at someone's house & make it a potluck event. It doesn't have to be so complicated or extrvagent for everyone.

@l.a.3479

22 күн бұрын

*guests

@l.a.3479

22 күн бұрын

*extravagant

@idotgotitme3280

22 күн бұрын

A friend of mine planned mine at her apartment, called my mom to figure out the guest list and then thought of something to get me over there, and surprise 🤗🥂🍾🎉🎁

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

@@l.a.3479stop

@virginialangford6257

8 күн бұрын

It’s tacky to have showers for family…friends do showers

This is borderline extortion.

Hell no to charging your guests. That is beyond tacky and cheap

Any woman expecting guests and bridesmaids to pay just to attend a shower is not mature enough to handle marriage. It might be "your day", however it's not ALL about you. Your motive is purely selfish and narcissistic. Your joy should be in these women coming to support you; however they are able. It is not about how much you can financially gleam from them.

@GoodWillPrevail

19 күн бұрын

Well said!

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

Nice comment.

I wouldn’t be there.

Charging for a shower is crazy😅

@HeavyInstinct

10 күн бұрын

IKR? I take a shower every morning and it barely cost me anything.

Broke wanting to play rich. 😂😂😂😂😂

$130 for a dress? I’m surprised it’s so low.

@ElleR3416

11 күн бұрын

I don’t know who came up with that estimate because that is extremely low. The 4 weddings I have been in the bridal party, the dress was never under $300 and they were several years ago now. So, I’m sure prices have only gone up! It’s crazy!

No one attending an event I put on should pay.

@jaybee2337

20 күн бұрын

This right here!!

This is wild and getting out of hand.

I never heard of that , that means she did not want anyone to come

Truthfully until the younger generation starts saying NO, this insane selfish behavior will continue. It is your day but then you and your parents can pay for it. I would decline the invitation and decline being part of a bridal party that extorts so much money from people. I would ask myself what kind of friend asks me to go into debt for someone else’s day?

Mind you, it's $300 for the shower, it's not even the wedding. The bride or the bride's family can't afford the shower, but expect guests to pay $300? Why did no one stop this woman from having such an elaborate shower. It may be her dream, but many of us had to eliminate something from our wedding to stay on budget. Have the shower at family members house and everyone brings food, if you can't afford it. I would decline too.

@jenniferlisow2901

22 күн бұрын

Thank you! My dream wedding reception cost $5000 just to have it there. Didn't include anything, just to to have it there. And this was about 20 years ago. Needless to say, I didn't have it there because it was way over our budget.

@zzizahacallar

13 күн бұрын

@@jenniferlisow2901I'm sorry and understand

@mistiinseattle

6 күн бұрын

Family members or the bride are not supposed to throw showers. Should be friends

When our son got married, me and my husband made the food, her family rented the ballroom? It was a nice big room at an old hotel maybe an old reception or conference room it was nice but not very expensive. She ordered her dress from stay for 60 dollars very nice, we ordered plastic china from amazon. It was very nice but not expensive.

This generation is ridiculous asking people to pay for “ YOUR BRIDAL SHOWER” especially $300. 00 is beyond insane. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate event just be grateful your family and friends are showing up with a gift for crying out loud. 🙄🙄🙄. I dont blame anyone who declines this invitation.

Having your guests pay to attend a bridal shower is ridiculous.Especially $300. 😒

“Throw the wedding you can afford.” Is Grade A advice! There is no shame in not having a bridal shower if you cannot afford one. Just skip it and enjoy the big day. No need to make your friends pay. 💰

It’s unreal that brides are now planning their own showers, too. I can’t even imagine sending out invitations for my friends to bring me gifts lol

Sounds like a great way not to get any gifts. We used to have showers in people's homes. What's the deal?

I went to a wedding reception where the guests were asked to bring a dish for the potluck dinner.

@nhiarslain2422

22 күн бұрын

Same here, years ago, to a community center. But I was gladly to bring anything to help because neither bride nor groom had much. They just wanted to share their happy day with you but couldn’t afford more than drinks and snacks. My girls (4 & 2) loved it because the bride was their babysitter at the YMCA and they adored her (mutual). We were honored to be invited.

@idotgotitme3280

22 күн бұрын

That's one thing, but it probably wouldn't have cost $300 each to do so 😒

@user-gc4zy2sr2g

20 күн бұрын

My brother’s wedding was like that, with the reception on the church lawn and gorgeous flower displays picked that morning from fields. It was most lovely and they’ve been married 35 years now. Too many these days focus on the wedding more than the marriage.

@karenmonson9893

8 күн бұрын

I think this is a reasonable request. You could also call the person organizing the shower what is needed to bring. If you're short on money there are plenty of low cost items you can contribute. A can of coffee, cutlery, paper plates, make cookies. You aren't expected to cater the whole event. Keep it simple. You could also volunteer to help set up or clean up afterwards.

Nope nope nope hell to the no! You are expecting your guest to pay for your wedding expenses 😂

I’m Filipina, and money dance is one of our wedding traditions. Guests will pin money on the bride and groom’s attire and dance with them to ensure the newlyweds have financial support going into the marriage. In the Filipino weddings I’ve been to, we would pin at least one dollar, but asking your guests for $300 to attend a wedding is disrespectful!!

@breelarose8057

22 күн бұрын

*Shower, they're asking guests to pay $300 for the shower not even the wedding it's maddd disrespectful

Crazy! You can have a lovely inexpensive bridal shower. Outdoor tea party, get food from Costco, and have a great time! I wouldn't go if I had to pay 300 dollars.

People are so insane. What is wrong with people?

The bridesmaids should not be expected to pay $300, or any of the attendees for that matter. If they are going all out for the bridal shower, I wonder how lavish the ceremony and reception venue is? A bridal shower should be nice and not extravagant. I had mine at a park shelter and for my hubby's side it was done at his aunt's house. There are so many inexpensive places to have it.

❤I’m proud of my son, his wife parents had passed away so they saved up and she had the wedding she wanted it cost over $25,000. It was beautiful I still look at the pictures to this day, they did not ask anyone for money. 🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾

Snowballs chance in hell. Unbelievable.

Don’t people bring you gifts to those in the first place? Why would I buy you a gift and pay that much to attend? You better have $300 goodie bags if you’re expecting that.

Tacky. Don't attend. No gift. This is unconscionable.

I’m from Vancouver Island, Canada, and It’s always been customary for the maid of honour to plan the bridal shower and everyone agree on what to do with the bride so that it’s not out of everyone’s budget. All the brides maids also split the brides portion so she doesn’t have to pay anything. And we’ve never done anything extravagant. Sometimes it’s just a night out downtown. It doesn’t have to be expensive.

@wannabe41

22 күн бұрын

That’s the way it was typically done in the US many years ago, or the bride’s family would host and pay for the shower. Now weddings have become so overblown, with expensive destination weddings and separate trips for the bridal party, both brides and groomsmen. It’s ridiculous. No way would I pay that kind of money. It’s in poor taste to ask guests to pay anything at all.

@Ann-cx3dd

21 күн бұрын

Same!

Almost every bridal shower or baby shower I have ever attended was at someone’s home and most times the host prepared all of the food but in some cases they were potluck style. I just don’t hang out with entitled people. The baby shower should have ZERO attendees

She done lost every bit of her mind.

I would never pay to attend a shower or a wedding reception. These people are really entitled and shameless!

I would refuse to go to a bridal shower or a wedding that I would have to pay to attend. If you can't afford one, then don't have one, plain and simple.

I think people should focus on their impending not the festivities on the days or weeks leading up the wedding views itself. Go the courthouse and put the money that you would have spent towards a shower,parties, wedding and honeymoon towards your student loans, ccredit card, or a down payment on a small house or even pre marriage counseling so that you know if you are marrying the right person for the right reasons before you spend years in a relationship that isn’t going to survive the distance and rigors of marriage for 50+ years.

@karenmonson9893

8 күн бұрын

You have good advice here. In my state if you go to marriage counseling when applying for a marriage license free of charge you get a discount on your license which I consider to be high priced in the first place compared to other stayes.

"throw the wedding you can afford" could not be said better. A wedding is just a one day party, you don't need to go broke doing it.

@karenmonson9893

8 күн бұрын

I agree! To many couples who pay for big weddings have a tendency to go overboard and end up in debt. The money could be put to better and more practical use.

Her, "You have to pay to attend." Me, Ah man I'm actually sick that day..."

It’s ridiculous! They already have enough expenses to be in the wedding. True if you can’t afford the shower don’t have it!

unbelievable.. I would never attend.

It’s a disgusting and rude expectation. I would say no way every single time.

The cost of being involved in a wedding is insane, even if you are not in a bridal party. The thing that I cannot get on board with is charging your guests anything to come to any event related to the wedding beyond their travel costs or a gift or childcare if necessary. And travel costs meaning your gas to get to the event. I am seeing more and more bachelor and bachelorette parties becoming weeklong trips to resorts or an international location. To attend the bachelor/bachelorette party is around $1000 and then you have to go to a wedding and purchase another gift at top of it? Insanity.

In other countries, they have that way to do the bride shower and / or kitchen bar. Instead of a gift, you give money. But the amount of money is decided by the friends. Now, it is not that high . Could go from 50 to 100 dollars. It depends . This bride had bad advisers.

Never 😮😮

Tacky! 😬................

While we're here, I also want to say destination weddings are so selfish too. Expecting your guests to pay for travel, hotel, plus a gift. Let alone their time. I define a destination wedding as a location where neither the bride or groom live in the area and everyone has to rent a hotel. Just have a local wedding so most guests don't have to travel and it's one day. If you must have a destination wedding, then invite only family and a few close friends. And don't be insulted if they don't come.

I wouldn't even go. It's not important to me. Next they will start charging guests to attend weddings. In that case I wouldn't go to the wedding either.

Are you getting an extravagant parting gift? If not, heck no.

They should go to a courthouse if they can’t afford their own shower🤦‍♀️

I don’t understand the point of bridal shower.

I do not understand why brides now believe their wedding should be an expensive performance. Guests are invited because you want to share your happiness, and the fact that they send gifts is just gravy. To ask bridesmaids, who are already laying out money, to pay to attend the shower is beyond rude. Such selfishness! My husband and I got married on the cheap, we had a lovely ceremony and small celebration, and after 49 years, we've never regretted it. Stay within your budget, and use money for something more lasting and necessary. Sheesh!

My family is currently helping to plan my wedding next year. I could never imagine asking my guests to pay. We are also keeping the budget simple and mostly diy it. My dress was only 65 dollars since there was a major sale.

My best friend got asked to her college friends wedding she wanted $400 lol 😂

No way would I ever pay to attend a bridal shower. And the only way would I pay to be a bridesmaid is if I actually love the dress and it's one that can be worn again. Even then, I wouldn't spend hundreds of dollars to be one. The exception being for my only sister who I'd gladly spend the money to support. Everyone else, can kick rocks.

Absolutely ridiculous 🤣

I guess that bride is going to have a sorry attendance and a sorry gift haul to go with it. What happened to having something in a friend's backyard? I can see hosting it potluck style, in lieu of a gift, but no - some people are just plain greedy.

Gone are the days when a bridal shower was a small gathering of loved ones and some close friends celebrated the upcoming nuptials by “showering” the couple with gifts that would help set them up in their new home(whether that be an apartment or house.) Weddings and showers have gotten out of control. This is more than absurd. The RSVP to that occasion would definitely be no!

Concentrating more on the !wedding than the marriage is a big mistake.

If you can’t afford it scale back. It’s beyond tacky and rude to ask the guests and bridesmaids to pay for your expensive wedding you can’t afford. How ridiculous

Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope! Friends come and go. Don't make sacrifices for them. Help them if you can but not if YOU have to make sacrifices.

The fact that the bride this shows the kind of person she is. I don’t know what kind of a man would marry someone like this.

Not only big companies ripping us off 😂😂now it's family 😂😂😂

Can you imagine what they will have to pay to attend the wedding? Everyone should rsvp NO

We don't have bridal showers in the UK. What is involved? We have hen nights and for those you're expected to pay for yourself. If you can't afford it you can just politely decline. No gifts involved, though, unless you want to

Wow! I treated my bridesmaids the way I would want to be treated. My mother even paid for their dresses.

I will not attend. 😂 I will find excuses.

So if it’s $300 for the shower, how much is the wedding “fee” going to be? And I’ve hosted a # of baby & bridal showers and no, it’s not &300 per person for food, cake & decor. People are insane.

My husband’s friend got married at a destination wedding in Mexico. Few weeks before we were asked to pay $200 per person to get into the reception. Thats when we both decided to not show up for the wedding for it was very unreasonable.

Crazy. Just to post pictures on social media. They will drown in debt, just to boast on social media.

What kind of friendship has a $300 price tag on it!? Crazy.

in my country, bridemaids and groomen don't have to spend a dime, even the dress is provided. they even got red pockets from bride and groom's parents for good luck and also as gratitude for being there for their children.

Chuck E Cheese wedding shower sounds intriguing! 😅 And at the end of the night the bride redeems everyone's tickets as her shower gifts. Win! Win!

Ridiculous!

So basically this isn't a factual story, it's something someone claimed on Reddit. I was expecting to see people named. Not just random stock videos of models and movie clips.

😂 you charge what you want! I won’t be there

I can’t believe they grabbed a post off Reddit and called it news, jfc

I just won't go to the shower. If you can't afford it then don't have one. What's wrong with a potluck at her home etc. It doesn't have to be Uber expensive. You can still make it Instagram nice.

Rude and entitled. Don’t hold parties you cannot afford then try to hoodwink your guests into funding your nonsense 🤦🏾‍♀️

Who is paying this kind of money for weddings? It can't be most people.

People have gone insane. I don't know anyone who has spent 2 k to be a bridesmaid. Who are these people?

That will be an empty wedding 😂😂😂😂

If a friend of mines invites me to their wedding and also asks for money I’ll be telling my friend that she ain’t a true friend of mine I’ll also tell her that she just wants someone else to pay for her own wedding

Yes,my family attended a wedding like that its in the invitation noted the amount.

I have never understood why people are so obsessed with the idea of perfection in weddings and spend so much in it but invest so little in the marriage. Its just sad...

I was invited to a birthday party and was told i pay my own food and drinks. Is this common in the US? Where I grow up, it's the celebrant who pays the bill. That's why i never had a birthday party until i got a job, coz my parents can't afford it.

A real friend doesn't require money. They stick by you through thick and thin. Provide emotional support when desperately needed. If you require money for something YOU commited to it's not their responsibility to pay. It's not their relationship and/or wedding. The gift alone is generous enough. They don't have to bring that either.

Is there something wrong with having it at someone’s home and everyone brings food? I don’t know, I was married 35yrs ago and we always had “showers” on Sundays at a house and the food was amazing, guess I like things simple. Edit- back then my parents were catering, so the presentation was always nice, but they weren’t the only ones bringing food, everyone helped everyone.

Why in the world would you require anyone to pay that … geez 🙄 definitely sitting that one out