Look at the way the mother-in-law acts. Yelling, interrupting, leaning forward and pointing her finger. How are you supposed to communicate with that?

@joyceturner2929

10 күн бұрын

If he just came home from deployment he could have some PTSD. The girl is probably not aware (or cares) how that could affect them own.

@jedimando9258

9 күн бұрын

That's the thing, you can't

If my SON and future daughter-in-law did not want me at their wedding, I would never push my way in. I have more personal pride than that.

@elcheapo9444

6 күн бұрын

Easier said than done.

@tabbithasalisbury1855

3 күн бұрын

I feel like if my child and their spouse didn't want me at their wedding I'd take a step back and try to figure out why, what I've done to cause them to feel that way towards me. I have a high drama, victim playing, delusional(literally) mother in and law and she refuses to understand not everything is about her not does is need to be and she refuses to take a step back and accept that SHE is the problem and SHE is the reason the relationship between myself, my husband and ALL her other kids and their spouses has broken down. She's not only came after me and my husband she's also tried causing problems with her other 2 sons and their spouses. Because of that her youngest son and his wife no longer speak to her at all and threatened to call the cops of her if she ever comes back around them. It's BAD the things she does and says but to hear her talk about it it's ALWAYS someone else that's caused the problem or are in the wrong she refuses to take accountability for the role she has played and the problems she's caused herself and all of us. It's weird tho because she doesn't act the same way towards her daughter and her spouse, it's literally just her 3 boys and their spouses that she inserts herself and causes problems and has issues with.

The mother keeps interrupting, getting loud, and acting like a victim. Can’t stand her! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@mildredwebster2822

12 күн бұрын

She talks down alot to her future daughter inlaw to put her in her place.

@mariannefalknerakerblom6519

10 күн бұрын

True maybe shes sick jealouse and love him in sick way

@lululiga333

10 күн бұрын

@@mildredwebster2822 she insults her every time she speaks. She’s horrible.

@rachelcampbell9733

10 күн бұрын

Did you not notice that the DIL is doing way way too much too.

@rachelcampbell9733

10 күн бұрын

Why is the DIL texting MIL when she has not contacted in 4 months.

I don’t feel bad for any of them, except for the wedding planner🤣🤣

@user-tv7un4bt9e

11 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 you’re on spot

@ghhm2705

10 күн бұрын

😂

@bergenleigh8256

6 күн бұрын

Thank you! Everyone’s getting on the mom (who sucks too obviously) but they ALL suck. So immature and prideful, all of them

@arithamfanelow2023

6 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@FlawlessImperfectionBeauty

3 күн бұрын

I’ve worked with weddings for decades, the ridiculous stuff I’ve seen could fill a book. It’s supposed to be the happiest time, yet some people act like it’s war.😂

If you know you are not welcome..... don't go!

@azazellon

14 күн бұрын

unfortunately some people just... feel they're allowed to , anyway

@sr2291

14 күн бұрын

I would just not go. I grew up with family fights. It's not worth it.

@janicearluck6637

11 күн бұрын

Unless your like my landlord, who is a narcesist. He invited himself to his nephews wedding. Even though nobody in the family wants him there (or at any family events)

@rolondabrown1233

9 күн бұрын

Why is the son covered

@rolondabrown1233

9 күн бұрын

It’s is weird that none of his family is allowed to

Mother's should ask themselves..what type of mother In law did I have? DO I want to be the same or better?

@486loulou

14 күн бұрын

Exactly!

@aprilpinketon2567

14 күн бұрын

Yes

@aprilpinketon2567

14 күн бұрын

That's his I decided what type of mother I wanted to be. I live with my mom, but I wanted to do better. If you know better, you do better. If the woman isn't right you have to let your adult son figure that out on his own. I understand as moms we don't want to see our children hurt, but they have to go through life live it, and learn it. They only learn so much from our teachings, most everyone wants to experience and figure life out for themselves.

@Burlykim13

12 күн бұрын

Good thing for her to think about, but also, The DIL is disgusting and I completely believe the mom that that will eventually be directed at the husband, and she should think when I have children how would I like to be treated this way.

@rachelcampbell9733

10 күн бұрын

So should the DIL. She is going to regret this. The marriage will fail. Wait and see.

Your children are not and should never be your best friend!! Get your own life because your children have friends of their own. When your own son says you act like a “possessive ex - girlfriend”you know you have problems.

@heaveniswhereimgoing8774

13 күн бұрын

I'm best friends with my adult kid's 🥰 we all still have or best friends 💞 we are a close family 🙏

@hiddenhand6973

12 күн бұрын

Enmeshment

@MaryJanesLane

12 күн бұрын

I 150% agree! A wise person told me when our sons were young that they will have lots of friends but only one set of parents. Both of our sons are married with children and I hope that their wives are their best friends.

@prettylady995

10 күн бұрын

YOU ARE SO RIGHT

@mcadoovicky6465

7 күн бұрын

You can have more than one best friend. I’m best friends with my kid nursing nothing wrong with that. That being said I’m not possessive over his time or jealous of anything. I just love my firstborn son and we have a great relationship.

The bride to be reminds of an adult Cindy Brady .... or maybe (more accurately) Nellie Olson 🤣🤣🤣

@dawnywarthog6642

12 күн бұрын

"Marcia Marcia Marcia". Sorry, I couldn't help myself 😊

@katielight19157

9 күн бұрын

Yes!!!! Nellie Olsen lol the attitude to boot! 😂

@user-qz1vi4ir3e

8 күн бұрын

I bet you were a bully or bullied at school?

@MaryJanesLane

8 күн бұрын

@@katielight19157 I bet you have a great sense of humor!

@StephanieMurray-pl4gs

3 күн бұрын

Her lil girl hair do say's it all! He's got money! She's never going to leave! I wouldn't deal with it!

I believe the gentleman soon to be married. He has a mind of his own and is determined to guide his own future

I don't see anyone in this situation stepping up and being an adult. Very sad that they can't get past their own egos.

She’s yelling over people, thrusting her finger at anyone who disagrees and aggressively leaning towards people spitting hate and she wants people to sympathise with her?

@phillipcollins9290

14 күн бұрын

They mirror each other.

@nichmon3221

13 күн бұрын

Which one are you speaking about Emma?

@Emma-kl4pz

13 күн бұрын

@@nichmon3221 the mother of course. She’s the one almost throwing herself off the couch towards the girl in her anger.

@Jennifer-fk8kb

12 күн бұрын

The fiancé can sit there calmly. She’s got her future husband on her side. The mother is losing this battle and has lost contact with her son. Due to those circumstances she’s more likely to get worked up. I really think we don’t know enough of how this all started to make a judgement. I do think the mother “looks” worse here, but we really don’t know the history. Also just the daughter in law making rules that her fiancé mother can’t come to the wedding is ridiculous and controlling. I would never have done that to my husband.

@justbreathe1709

12 күн бұрын

​@Jennifer-fk8kb I totally agree with you and tell you more, I would never would come between mum and son. With experience on this I must to say that its so wrong the way she speaks about mother in law. At the end of the day it's your fiancé mother. If you don't wanna deal with her let the son do it. One thing I learn never come between siblings or mothers. That's not your battle You are in his life to support

Oh, I recognize this mother, this was the mother I grew up with, and when my brother married his third wife, a Russian lady who is very nice my mother reacted, just like this one. She created all kinds of conflict and drama directed at my brothers new wife because my mother was very jealous and wanted all the attention of my brother who was her favorite child. This is narcissism and it’s ugly.

imagine being deployed and coming home to this BS

@aAngel93

13 күн бұрын

I can't agree with your statement more

@alisonhenton2551

12 күн бұрын

Well said. You're deployed to a war zone and come home to another one. Both ladies need to look at what really matters in life. Innocent people are losing their lives to war, living from hand to mouth.

@gigiis526

12 күн бұрын

Imagine being a son that needs to grow some balls.

@lululiga333

10 күн бұрын

@@gigiis526yes he has he stood up to his bully mother. Good for him.

@melbamartin2068

10 күн бұрын

Elope.and move away from her.

The mother of the son, her only child, is fighting with his future wife. This is a no, no. Even though the mother doesn’t like the future wife, she needs to keep her thoughts to herself. She should not react to anything the girl says or writes. Never! This marriage is probably not going to last very long anyway. Keep your thoughts to yourself, Mom. You want to be able to see your grandchildren someday, don’t you?!

@jonniegraham499

14 күн бұрын

@grannyjoan3055, no, the marriage won't last long, and all mom has to be is patient....hopefully he will not have kids with this one, she is just cold, and her eyes are empty.

@Lave_cake

14 күн бұрын

​@@jonniegraham499finally someone who see it to I agree with u and just cuz a child's grown, doesn't mean a mother stops caring , as long as they have reasonable worries and there not just pulling thing out of thin air and being dramatic to cause chaos, then a mother should be able to be honest when they see there son or daughter about to make a lifelong commitment to someone they think is a not good person. It's not being over involved it's a mother trying to protect there child, no matter there age.

@aprilpinketon2567

14 күн бұрын

Mom is trying to save her son, as a mother I can relate. We don't want our children to hurt, but life is going to hurt sometimes. Hopefully, he doesn't lose too much life and too much he has worked hard for. We can't save our children their whole lives. They have to have life lessons.

@krisg71

14 күн бұрын

@@Lave_cake nope. He is grown and does not want relationship advice from mom. It's tough, but she should keep her mouth shut. And, the wife needs to grow up. She also needs to stop being abusive to his mom. Not ok.

@PattyLouM

14 күн бұрын

I originally didn't like my son in law but it was my daughter's choice. I ended up living with them for 2 years. I now absolutely adore him. He is so good to my daughter and he has always treated me with care and respect. I can't imagine life without him. She made an excellent choice and I gratefully admitted that I was wrong. It is the couple's choice, not the parents'. Get over it, Mom!

I have a son, and if he ends up with someone I don’t like, I will let him know once, in private. After that I will be cordial.

@ladybugjess272

13 күн бұрын

That's a good way to handle it. Takes a huge amount of grace, maturity, love, and respect for your son. No reason to lose the relationship with your son and possible future grandchildren over it. Some people would rather be right than to take that approach.

@Kasasi0322

12 күн бұрын

Why do you need to tell him? Will it change anything other than he will stop sharing about his lady with you and then both start distancing from you because people in love talk to each other 💯

@nifty1940

12 күн бұрын

You'd do better to keep your mouth shut. Telling a loved one once, of disapproval, has the same effect as saying it a 1000 times. Why would you unload on a son who loves you, in such a burdensome way?

@TheTuesday11

12 күн бұрын

@@Kasasi0322that’s not always true. When my family told me their thoughts about a man I was going to marry I listened. I stepped back and took stock, guess what…. They were right. They saved me from a world of hurt. If they would have been quiet and “stayed out of my business” my life would have been terrible. My family didn’t get in their emotions, feelings they stated facts and I’m forever thankful

@TheTuesday11

12 күн бұрын

@@nifty1940as long as the family has valid facts and not just feelings. My family talked with me, I took a step back and finally saw the light. I’m thankful my family talked with me.

Odds are the marriage is over and all these people are living unhappy lives. They all love the chaos

The fiancé is going to win this battle with your son. Mom, let your son grow up and give them your blessing.

anger at this level needs to be removed from each of them. Stay far from each other

@Petra-ms3ku

14 күн бұрын

They’re both nuts. Mom and fiancé are both a mess

If I had a partner with a mother like that I’d have second thoughts myself!

@joem1102

14 күн бұрын

Exactly

@cynthiaweir5697

14 күн бұрын

This future mother-in-law is like my mother who plays two parts, the angry, accusing drama queen and the victim. It’s all an act and manipulation. This woman is going to cause them trouble for years to come because she thrives on that.

@mollyprysunka7741

12 күн бұрын

Lamo okay grandma.

@sev7nwest742

10 күн бұрын

Exactly what I was just thinking...

That soon to be MIL needs therapy to deal with her jealousy and separation anxiety. She is causing irreparable damage to her relationship with her son and doing what she fears most, pushing him away. This is not healthy for any of the people involved.

@rachelcampbell9733

10 күн бұрын

This will always be his mother. And the mother in law will always be part of him. His fiance is trying to push mom out. You do not push the mother out. One day it will be your undoing one day when karma gets you. It will come to a bad point and one day it will break the marriage.

Dr. Phil i cant tell if you were just having a lazy day or you take the wrong persons side. Its so toxic to tell someone to just put up with that womans behavior because shes gonna die one day um newsflash we are all going to die one day and i would rather live my life in peace from toxics

@nikkid4890

11 күн бұрын

Yes! I was actually shocked. Maybe it’s the way it was edited? I cannot see how he could give that advice or speak to that young woman like that!

@Magazinelady

6 күн бұрын

Have you lost your mother yet? Dr. Phil was trying to get them to think about reducing regrets now. After the mother dies, the son will definitely have regrets. I don't like the bride to be. I don't think she will ever think she had a role in this bad relationship.

"this is the FIRST SCENE I've ever made w/you guys,&&,boy,I'm gonna give it all I've got!!!!!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@kimberlyhalstead4170

13 күн бұрын

That speaks volumes about the moms personality.

Clearly another mother who can’t accept and deal with the son finding a woman to have a family with.

@Undomaranel

12 күн бұрын

And a bride who acts familiar enough the son is comfortable with it... wonder why with a mother like that...

That Mom is a narcissist. She’s not the victim. Her family is wrong for defending her and the audience is insane for cheering her on which only fuels her.

@cousinsister69

4 сағат бұрын

Dr Phil was definitely not a fan of the mil though. Neither was I. She's controlling, self centred and simply revelling in her victimhood.

The immaturity here is astounding! Where are the apologies to the mother & why does only one side need to apologize here? The bride has made plenty of toxic statements about the mother that warrant an apology as well! While this mother is not correct in her actions, that bride has an an incredibly cold, self absorbed & self righteous lack of empathy!

@hiddenhand6973

12 күн бұрын

Oh well, mom brought it on herself with her behavior. You get what you give. Bride doesn’t want to be a doormat and this is the result.

@LYFEOFRAINN

10 күн бұрын

When a man finds a wife he supposed to leave his mother whoever raised these generation of sassy men I don’t understand I’m glad my man is a man and his mother would never

The mother-in- law has met her match. She's terrible...& so is the daughter-in-law, but that mother-in-law is the worst!!! " For this cause shall a man leave his mother & father & cleave unto his wife" Genesis 2:24❤

Did anyone see how the mother was asking, almost demanding, a ring from her son for herself also after she suggested an engagement ring for his fiancé? That is so weird! Did other commenters not see her crazy eyes? She is supposed to be the more mature party here as an older woman who should have gained wisdom in life. How are people defending her behavior? Imagine trying to raise children with a mother in law always trying to overstep and make demands like that? Of course they have to establish boundaries. The couple are immature too but at least they are young.

@phyllischaffin4052

14 күн бұрын

Kind of incestuous isn't it? My ex-husband and his mom had that kind of disgusting relationship.

@rondag3569

14 күн бұрын

I thought the mother demanding a ring too was creepy, narcissistic, greedy, and completely out of line

@goldenmimy

13 күн бұрын

Kind of incestuous, some boy mom's are like that and it's weird. Son's are not property, her son decides who he wants to marry not his mom.

@goldenmimy

13 күн бұрын

​​@@phyllischaffin4052that's so messed up and it's disgusting

If the bride loved her groom, she would find a way to include the MIL even if she was a crazy woman. Son could man up to his bride and to his mom.

@mc-rn8ro

8 күн бұрын

You didn’t watch the video did you? THE GROOM DOESN’T WANT HER THERE EITHER!! “My mom acts like we were best friends. That’s not true. I absolutely support Michelle, we decided this together. Nobody forced me to do anything.” HIS WORDS. Quotes from him!! Sorry, but Mama’s a monster

people tend to think mothers can disrespect you and youre wrong if you return the energy. These mothers can really do too much and if you disrespect your son’s spouse or girlfriend, duh you shouldn’t attend the wedding or be in her space.

I know this is an old episode but I wonder if this couple is still even together...

@bradcarpenter1881

14 күн бұрын

I wonder if she still has her MySpace 😂

@1927su

14 күн бұрын

My guess is the bride found a new fool & left her husband behind. I’m sorry but the Bride seems very cruel underneath it all

@RobynA11

14 күн бұрын

@@1927suI’m guessing you’ve never been bullied by a MIL

@ThatOneBitch69

14 күн бұрын

​@@1927su She seems nice. The mother in law is trash

@cinnabun715

14 күн бұрын

@@bradcarpenter1881lol😂

I married a man that was the eldest son of a woman who was very young when she had him and was a single mother of three boys. She was a difficult woman at times and very condescending to me at times, but at other times she was so very generous and I could tell that most of her comments were because she loved her son. We ended up having a fantastic relationship because we both understood that we both had flaws and we worked our problems out. My husband tried to stay neutral and see both sides. My mother in law died in November, and I miss her. She loved her sons and her grandchildren and that was all I had to remember as a daughter in law to have a great relationship with her till the end.

@drgloriareading

9 күн бұрын

What a beautiful and mature person you were to have been so young. I'm guessing you had a wonderful mother. I'm quite positive that you are as mature and gracious today as you were when you were a young lady. Loved your response. It spoke to my heart.

I’m just not falling for the mom’s drama. I have a narcissistic mom that plays the martyr very very well. I see that in this lady. I’m not saying the blonde girl is a perfect angel. I don’t know the dynamics of the family other than the show. But the mom is definitely a red flag from what I’m seeing (between the lines).

@NathanielChristopher

14 күн бұрын

Exactly! I felt that Dr. Phil gave this narcissistic mom way too much credit.

@margounderly1379

14 күн бұрын

GO TO LAS VEGAS AND GET MARRIED

@NIKnakNIKKI

14 күн бұрын

Agreed

@chelseapinkranger6806

14 күн бұрын

My mother is also narcissistic

@debramurphy9193

14 күн бұрын

Wrong . As the mother of a son, she has every right to feel the way she does. Blondie needs to shut up and grow up. And he needs to grow a pair.

i’ve been in the brides shoes. i had the same mother in law. cops involved. stalking. dss. it was a lot. that was 24 years ago. we just buried her a year ago, and i love her like a second mother. it took time. it took lots of hard talks but we both loved my husband enough to not put him in the middle. i would give anything to say i love you to her one more time.

This is absolutely ridiculous. That mom is CRAZY and CONTROLLING. How is Dr. Phil letting her off the hook and fussing at the bride to be?

@ishmael_03

13 күн бұрын

No, the soon to be wife is controlling.

@varonicadiaz6517

12 күн бұрын

Bruh, right? Dr. Phil is so wrong sometimes. Too old school in certain aspects…

@user-ce4zl8hy3h

12 күн бұрын

You only gotta look at the girls face to see who's at fault

@gigiis526

12 күн бұрын

@@varonicadiaz6517 Old people have alot more life experience thus wisdom . You are all wet behind the ears youngun.

@kerrysmith7598

11 күн бұрын

Because he's an ageist old fart

I have an extreme ex mother in law whom wrecked my marriage caused my ex husband to leave me homeless with no clothes no nothing and take our kids out from under me ... he's now remarried , he's witnessed his mother treat his new wife the same way she treated me and well luckily he apologized for the trauma and pain he caused me and for not defending our marriage or me. I said I'll forgive you, but only of you love your new wife enough to not let your mom ruin your marriage the way she did ours and if she doesn't want your mom around you LISTEN to her because your mother is overly toxic and abusive and has and unhealthy attachment to my kids and her son. She gets mad if I see my kids on the holidays and if they aren't with her I get punished in some way shape or form needless to say I haven't had a holiday with my kids in 7 years cause he won't make his mommy understand that I'm their mother and she is not she is the grandmother she doesn't get dibs on my kids before I do when it comes to making memories.

@user-tv7un4bt9e

9 күн бұрын

I don’t understand why you became the victim here left you nothing no husband no kids no everything what did you do so wrong that you got punished like that ? Usually in divorce settlement you have the kids and house how did you end up nothing ? Something is not right here Maybe you’re at the wrong side of the tracks why did they win over this divorce ? I’m just trying to wrap my brains how this happened to you But I apologize it’s not my intention to intrude

That was me!! Dr. Phil, it's so ironic that I watched this one tonight. I know this is an older one but my story would be a good one for your new network or even your podcast. The irony part of watching this episode tonight is that my 38 year wedding anniversary would have been tomorrow 5/24/86. My ex-husband's mom tried her hardest to keep us from getting married. When we continued on she was continually trying to start conflict. After 10 years, I'd had enough. She was still trying to stir the stink where my son was concerned. She passed away suddenly in 2005. Since then, my ex and I have forgiven each other, and worked hard to raise our son. He's a grown man, now. We are both so proud. My ex-husband's family and my family are close. He's remarried and she and I get along great. Go back to 38 years ago, even though his mom tried so hard to stop the wedding, I never thought of not allowing her to be there. I was willing to swallow my pride and forget about what had happened. I was focused on that day. It was her son's day... She wasn't going to be stupid and embarass him ❤

This audience definitely doesn't see what's wrong with that mother in law

@agentfyre

12 күн бұрын

I felt the same way. It felt like the audience took her sob-story and sided with her, but it's clear the mom is way worse than she lets on. But I think that's true for both sides. I would have liked Dr. Phil to put more pressure on the husband though. He's stepped aside, but this is HIS mess. He needs to set better boundaries with soon-to-be wife AND mom both. He's just letting them all fight it out.

@Burlykim13

12 күн бұрын

And the people in the comments are totally overlooking how disgusting it is for a person to banish their partners mother from being part of their lives AND saying their future children won’t know her. That’s beyond cruel. She loves the control and she’s dead wrong.

@Katrn30

12 күн бұрын

@@agentfyre obviously you don’t know much about narcissism. This man was raised by a narcissistic mother which predisposes him to marry a narcissistic partner…he doesn’t know what to do, but hopefully Dr. Phil gets him to the right kind of help…he is the victim here, but he is also the only person who can get him out of this mess (with proper counselling).

They both need to grow up.

Dr phil sometimes the women whip their men to hate their moms. I do not see how you never see thru the girlfriend or fiancé.

Dr. Phil! You taught me… when you cry or are angry there is always something else underneath those emotions, It is usually hurt & pain…. Back more than 25 years ago I was pissed off at you for the first 65 pages of one of your books I was reading. Then I said “Oh I get it now. I can choose to be happy” despite what I was going through. “ I get to choose how I will show up in my life”. I wish both sides could just choose to be happy & not allow ugly to show up. Like you have said so many times “somebody has to be the hero”. Why can’t we treat each other better?

@laurenmiller9517

12 күн бұрын

Ever heard the phrase, "Hurt people, hurt people" It's so true. Behind every person trying to hurt another..is pain. 100% of the time.

Behind an intolerable mother-in-law is a cowardly son.

@laurenmiller9517

12 күн бұрын

Every. Single. Time.

@TheTuesday11

12 күн бұрын

Correct! This groom needs to stand up and tell BOTH of them to take a seat and grow up

If she not respect your mama let her go!

@nikkilove4584

3 күн бұрын

Respect is earned. She won’t even let the bride finish a sentence.

Bet he's no longer married to Nellie Olson.😆

Both of these ladies are WRONG. There is nothing that can justify speaking to the mother of your future husband/the future wife of your son this way. NOTHING. Period. They are both putting him in a terrible position. If you don't like your mother in law/daughter in law, then avoid her when possible and be civil otherwise. Grow up!

@TheTuesday11

12 күн бұрын

Agree!!! The groom needs to stand up and tell them BOTH to seat down and learn manners or he will walk from both.

@nikkid4890

11 күн бұрын

Personally wouldn’t tolerate anyone, even my mother-in-law, treating me so badly. I wouldn’t be rude, but I would break all contact

What is that old saying? A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life.

@ishmael_03

13 күн бұрын

I've never heard of that one.

@7RB373

13 күн бұрын

“A man should leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

A seven page email!! The DIL to be doesn’t sound amazing but the seven page email!!? Chill lady. 😅

Both my parents died. This is so stupid and a waste of time. Life is not for this.

@lynnw7155

14 күн бұрын

I don't agree with Dr. Phil about the 'cost' of cutting contact. My husband's mother was a very judgemental, vicious person, accusing me of being the devil and corrupting her son. After a while I cut contact with her and never regretted it. I didn't need that sort of nastiness in my life.

@moniqueengleman873

14 күн бұрын

I completely agree

@primordialmeow7249

14 күн бұрын

Yes, you understand my friend.

@carmenceballos3397

14 күн бұрын

It's different when it's your own loving mother and dealing with a weird mother in law

@sr2291

14 күн бұрын

Some peoples lives are like this every day.

23:14 I don’t know what manipulation technique this is, but my ex used to do this to me all the time. Screamed at me to “stop interrupting” him when I never did, and then waiting, literally pausing after the accusation to goad you into replying so they can scream at you for interrupting again

As someone who has been watching this with her own Mom and brother and sister-in-law, his Mom is totally justified in how she feels towards her "daughter-in-law". As a daughter-in-law myself, I encourage my husband to call his Mom. Do I get aggravated at him or his Mom occasionally? Absolutely, BUT i swore id never be like my sister-in-law because I see the hurt she has caused my Mom over the last 30 plus years! That girl has her son by the balls and she won't let go.

The bible says husband will cleave to his wife. If mother cant respect sons partner. Then adios Madre!

@MsDana-mo9fp

14 күн бұрын

The Bible says THREE times in scripture: A man shall leave his mother & a woman leave her home & the two shall cleve to one another! ( Genesis, Gospels, & in Epistles!)

Some of these overbearing and toxic mothers all have this is common: This irrational fear that their son loving a wife/girlfriend takes away from the love the son has for the mother. Like the son has a certain allotment of 'love' and if he gives any love to a woman, that takes away from the love he owes to mom. It's just weird and inappropriate.

@kbraud100

2 күн бұрын

A Mother will NEVER stop trying to protect her son. Her instincts are telling her that this will not end well

@gena4638

2 күн бұрын

@@kbraud100 He is an adult, not a child though. She can't protect him from all failures and mistakes...thats how our children learn once they're adults: by facing natural consequences. IF this wife is as bad as the mother says, it's his choice to marry her and be with her, so he will have to learn that lesson himself. The more she tries to "save or protect him from it" the more she is driving her son away. IF he ends up being happy with the wife, it looks as if the mother will never be happy for him and there lies the problem. When the mother refuses to accept it, that's when it becomes toxic. They're both childish and feeding into the drama, but there's been too many toxic mother in law episodes to deny: Many of these mother in laws have boundary issues, wanna treat their adult sons like their kids still living under their rules, and act shocked when the mom hating the wife drives the son further into wife's arms instead of back into mom's.

The Mother is the only one raising her voice. She’s a drama queen.

I can only hope little blondie births one son who treats her like her future husband is treating his mother. As for the mil just back away, it isn't worth the hassle...

Everyone sucks here but one thing that stood out to me is that posting a blog online and then accusing someone of snooping when they read it is straight up daft AF.

The daughter in law is not perfect but the mom is definitely not the victim she clearly one of those woman who makes there son their emotional husband. The mom story doesn’t hold water people don’t get uninvited from a wedding because of 1 fight and melt down fights don’t happen for no reason they happen when someone gets fed up with biting their tongue. The daughter in law offered the mother in law an olive branch by saying you can come if you admit you said things that were wrong and stop blaming me for racking your relationship with your son. She refused to do it because she didn’t think the son would tell her not to come and she was wrong,

The fiance isn't allowed to talk at all!

If I were the MIL, I would back off and let that marriage implode on it's own. Her son is a wuss!

@Suzi64grad

14 күн бұрын

I bet that marriage is already over!

@TammieBuckeye

14 күн бұрын

I totally agree. The bride is a bit much. If I were the mom I would walk away. I’m kind of siding with the mom - only because the bride will never accept this mom - she will hold the grand children over the moms head for everything.

@kimberlymordal7215

14 күн бұрын

This marriage is doomed! The bride is petty to! Putting a witch on her page. Why can’t her mil look at her page? What maturity!!! She will be a horrible wife and mother!

@maryhirsch7170

14 күн бұрын

@@kimberlymordal7215 the bride reminds me of the nasty blonde on rhe Waltons! LOL

That man doesn’t stand a chance with these women. They both love the drama!

The Bride-to-be reminds me of the nasty, spoiled girl on " Little House on the Prairie" 🐩 She was a blue-eyed blonde , also

@cherylholub3100

14 күн бұрын

I was trying to think of who she reminded me of. It's Nelly Olson.

@AlondraRembao

8 күн бұрын

Ok boomer.

It’s ONLY a wedding…one day and it’s over. Let this play out over time.

The crowd is stupid. Clapping for the family... when clearly we can tell they are the problem. Theyre yelling constantly yelling and over talking.

The bride and mother in law are both messed up. The couple should not get married. They're aren't mature enough to handle marriage. If they marry, they will divorce and the son will reunite with his mom. Everyone is way too combative. The only people who have any common sense in this situation are the people who have backed away from the whole thing.

My daughter in law won’t be attending her son’s wedding and it is sad. My grandson is marrying a lovely young lady, and I adore her. I believe one day they will regret not settling their differences. Just sad to see fighting!

You tend to marry a person that's just like your parent. And these two are just ALIKE.

This mom is vile and enmeshed . Phil get off your high horse and put mom in her place. She thinks she is marrying her son.

@Suane333

14 күн бұрын

Mom you have to EARN bride's respect. Mom you do not own your son!!

@DodgaOfficial

14 күн бұрын

That's the one thing I hate about dr Phil, he acts like toxic, narcissistic parents don't exist, and most daughter in laws do not hate their mother in laws by default, same with kids, they don't just hate their parents for no reason. Could the daughter and law and son have responded better? Absolutely, but they are responding to the way the mother is, it doesn't exist in a vacuum, and what it really comes down to is mother's like this struggle with new boundaries and healthy boundaries, they look at the relationship changing as it being less loving, but when the mom said he has enough love for both of us, that's not totally true, and they are totally different types of love. He's gonna see his wife every single day, he's gonna have kids with her, he is supposed to forsake everyone for her, and the mom takes that as "well j guess he just doesn't love me anymore." she wants to compete with the daughter in law because she doesn't like the change that happens when a man marries a women, there's less room for anyone in his life, you can't just show up unannounced, you can't have the same freedom you once had, because he has another person to consider and they have a life completely separate from you and the rest of the world, and for a mom that's emotionally enmeshed with her son, that feels like "he doesn't love me anymore."

@gail9566

13 күн бұрын

​@@Suane333the bride needs to gain moms respect.

Absolutely no one is making this situation better, it’s pathetic and sad.

Shame on the son. Respect the woman who raised him.

@angiejay3694

6 күн бұрын

could not agree more , well said

I have a daughter-in-law who I believe is also jealous of my relationship with my son. From the first minute she met me she didn’t like me and it was blatantly obvious. It’s been nineteen years and things have only gotten worse instead of better. I have a 6 year old granddaughter that I have never met. I haven’t seen my son in over 7 years. My two daughters agree that she’s the problem but there’s nothing I can do. I’ve been in counseling over it and my therapist told me she has counseled numerous mothers over this same situation.

Finally: I hope & pray my son never, ever, ever meets a woman with this brides' attitude & issues! Let's see, if she ever has a child, will her husband approve of how his wife nurtures!?

Dr. Phil is such a hypocrite. On another show he stated if anyone said such things to his wife, they'd be long gone out of their lives. I wouldn't want that MIL at the wedding either!!! In fact, I wouldn't want any of those people at my wedding. Disgusting people. The future husband's family are a bunch of sleezy gaslighters. I'll tell ya, that MIL would only point her finger once at me.

@GrannyDi276

14 күн бұрын

I agree❤

@josephc235

14 күн бұрын

Why you coming at Dr Phil tho. Maybe he has learned a better way to resolve these such issues. Totally different context from what you saw before on the show btw I’m sure… Also, you said he said “ his wife” so that’s what he would do.

@CM-OnMyWayHome

12 күн бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@S_67F

12 күн бұрын

@@CM-OnMyWayHome He'd also suggest the guy grow a pair and keep the relationships seperate if needed.

as somebody with a future MIL who is narcissistic, I’m 1) baffled at the fact that Michelle can disrespect an adult like that. I guarantee you that if Jay was treating her mom that way, she wouldn’t have it. 2) This is not a narcissistic mother. You can see the hurt blatantly on her face. Shame on Michelle.

I can't believe the disrespect this man allows his bride to be to treat his mother with.

How could anyone speak to your future mother in law that way ,People we must have control of our person. If she behaves wrong it's on her but because of the love I have for my future husband I will ignore her nonsense , God bless every one Lets think of the ones that really get hurt with this behavior.

Uninvited to my step daughter’s wedding 20yrs ago. It hurt, however today is truly good. That marriage didn’t survive. Our daughter and family did.

@AlondraRembao

8 күн бұрын

lol you’re glad her marriage didn’t work out? Toxic ew

Old people, get a life after your children grow up.

@gail9566

13 күн бұрын

Hahaha. So the mother of an only child shouldn't attend her child's wedding?

@Listening4Gabriel

12 күн бұрын

So just give your all into bringing your children to adulthood and then fade away. Is that what you're saying?? "Old people," serve no further purpose. WOW. 😒

@hiddenhand6973

12 күн бұрын

@@Listening4Gabriel you really twisted that one. That isn’t at all what was said. Get a grip. The mother in law needs a life and to stay out of her son’s business. She’s overly invested. She needs a life outside of her son’s life. It’s called emotional incest or Enmeshment and it’s not healthy.

The creepy little smug smile on Michelle's face when Dr Phil mentions the day his mother drops dead is everything you need to know about her. She would be happy for that woman to die and for him to live his life without his mother. She IS jealous and nasty, and the innocent act she's putting on isn't fooling Dr Phil either. She's all about herself and doesn't care about what her fiance loses.

@michelerigley9286

5 күн бұрын

Yeeeup!!

I can see the baby girl is smiling deep inside saying to herself she's won. Spoiled little girl.

@AlondraRembao

8 күн бұрын

lol ok boomer 😂 hahahahahahah

Not inviting my mom to my wedding was one of the best decisions. Hard, but the best decision.

That mother needs to back off. She is the most rude individual. When he marries her she will come before you. Read the Bible lady.. 🙏

Go no contact. It's the only option with a narcissist like that mother. I have one just like her.

Even The Best Man sees this bride is mean, emotional and very, very immature

I hope this helps. I’ve been married 45 years. We went to Vegas to get married. My Mother in Law was AWFUL. It was nothing this bad but she was against me because we lived together 3 years In 2017 I was praying 🙏 for help. God said FORGIVE 🙏 it took a few months but I Forgave her. The weight that was lifted off my shoulders was tremendous A few months later I asked her to forgive me she excepted It was so HARD TO DO. It really helped. I pray for all

I’m not a professional but Mom step away! You can’t resolve this if your son doesn’t want to. Don’t go where you are not wanted. Enjoy your life and let the other mom be responsible for all the drama. It’s coming when the new husband has issues with his wife. Mother in law will have him in her sights. He will indeed reap what he sowed.

I am 100 per cent on the side of the bride in this feud. That mother-in-law is clearly a textbook narcissistic mom and this young couple are doing what they can to assert healthy boundaries. Their tactics may not be especially mature or considerate, however, their ultimate goal of separation from the narcissist is a laudable goal that Dr. Phil should recognize and support. His line about how they may feel when she dies is a crude shame tactic that is often used by people who support narcissists and their abuse.

@jennyd5364

14 күн бұрын

This!!!! All the crocodile tears. I commend her fiance for supporting her, rather than enmeshing himself as a Son-husband. That's what his Mother wants. They have set a boundary, and she is throwing a fit and victimizing herself.

@JulieR73

14 күн бұрын

Agree!

@josephc235

14 күн бұрын

I love how everyone is a certified expert on narcissistic personality disorder .. yea she shows traits, EVERYBODY shows traits. I saw several traits from the soon to be wife. The whole point of the show is resolve the issue not point the finger and call it a day

@CM-OnMyWayHome

12 күн бұрын

Yes!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@laurenmiller9517

12 күн бұрын

I mean...I definitely agree that the mom is crossing boundaries. But I also think that the bride having problems with the whole side of his family really says something. Not one person is showing up on his side for his wedding and that's insane. I would be shocked if they lasted more than a year married lol Wish we had an update.

The mom looks like the Barbara Streisand look from Mrs. Doubtfire

@nanceesuber6121

13 күн бұрын

Barbara Streisand wasn’t in the movie, Mrs. Doubtfire! ????????

@cinnabun715

12 күн бұрын

@@nanceesuber6121the look his brother and brother in law created where he looked like Barbara Streisand. He sang “Don’t Rain on My Parade” while in this costume

2nd: will come back to haunt this bride!

There is always something good learned from your show, Dr. Phil. As parents we should let our children grow and demand respect gracefully from them and others who come into the family harmoniously.

Both of them were in the wrong. But Goldilocks was really annoying. She never showed any emotion whatsoever.

@ladybug-mv8tn

11 күн бұрын

She seems more mature than the drama.fulled mother law.

I didn't especially like my Mother in law, but I would never have treated her like this. I kept my mouth shut and tried to get along, for my family's sake. She actually turned out to be a good Grandma to my kids.

Wow. Just wow. I figured out when I saw how my ex treated his mother, that this was how he thought it was OK to treat women and that he was going to do the same thing to me. I was right. My husband of 22 years adored his mother. I can say that he adores me and I adore him right back.

Why would you want to start a life out like this? RUN

He’s marrying his mother!!!!! Same toxic personality.

the mil needs to stay in her lane! there's a lot less traffic when you stay in your lane!

His mother and aunt are absolutely horrifying. You can’t get along with people like this. She’s playing innocent. She’s delusional.

As an older episode I wonder how long if at all he realized he married a girl EXACTLY like his mother. That is what cracks me up, and I’m surprised Dr. Phil didn’t bring that up.

13 күн бұрын

There is a difference between the bride and the bride groom's mother...did you look at the mother's eyes, oh my word, it is something terrible....the utter hatered that you see.Not even to speak about the mothers sister... goodness, just as bad as the mother...I do feel sorry for the bridegroom because he is really between the devil and the dark blue sea

He married his mother. Two narcissists battling

This happened to me with an ex boyfriend of mine. His mom was very judgmental, but I had a backbone as well. She judged everything so much to the point of what my major was in college. She told me to change my career path. The FIRST time I met her. The woman didn’t even get to know me.

Stop fighting. The issue will go Away. Kind words and gestures will have you being one big happy family.

Mom oozes hate and fear based off her weird attachment to your grown son. I wouldn’t want her at my wedding even as a flower delivery driver!

@lynnw7155

14 күн бұрын

Why is the future wife even involved in this? THE SON needs to deal with his mother. He needs to decide which side he's on, or fix it so there aren't 'sides'. If it was me, I'd move far a way. and not leave a forwarding address.

@grannyjoan3055

14 күн бұрын

What you all aren’t taking into consideration is that this mother has only one child and has had his best interests in mind all his life! I agree, it’s time for her to back off from his life and let him make his mistakes be HIS mistakes and not about her. Moms should be there to pick up the pieces of a son’s life, not cut off from him and be unable to share in his happiness or sadness!

@janiceperkins4340

14 күн бұрын

​@@grannyjoan3055 Only child or not, she DOES need to back off. If she's so sure he's making a mistake, she can go to his next Wedding!

@audreym3777

14 күн бұрын

@@grannyjoan3055 “moms should be there to pick of the pieces of their sons life”??? Uh, no..our job is to teach them how to pick up their own pieces, not clean up after them into their adulthood 🤦‍♀️

@grannyjoan3055

13 күн бұрын

@@audreym3777 You’re right.

I don’t feel bad for Jane at all she whether she likes it or not whether she thinks it fair or not she is not owed a place at the wedding. The bride and groom have the right to offer invitation with caveat and the right to set boundaries it’s called having standards. If you have a relative who not pleasant to be around when they drink and if you agree to not drink you can come is it cruel to not invite them if they tell you I’m gonna drink no, if you have a relative who refuses to be nice to another person at the wedding is it cruel to not invite them no. The bride told her she could if she admired that she did things that were wrong and stoped blaming the bride for the estrangement she refused to do it.