I have never felt more understood until learning about ambivalent attachment and finding this video, I can't say thank you enough.

Please keep going with this quality content. Your manner of explaining is super engaging and easy to digest. Be well Dr. Sia 😊🙏🏾

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly for your encouragement!

Amazing! What a great video, I love learning more about attachment styles, and so often people don't talk about the ambivalent style!

@drsia2323

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting! Yes some seem less popular than others for some reason.

Thank you Dr. Sia, throughout almost a year of isolation with covid your video has really spoke to me much more than all the other Alan Watts and whatever other philosophic crap ever could. You've given me a much clearer view of myself and my behaviours in this one video and I couldn't be more grateful for that. Peace and love dude, hope you're keeping well and stay safe through these trying times 🖖

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

my pleasure! Also, thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

@thunderpooch

Жыл бұрын

Nearly my entire personality and my toxic religious parents are described in this video. Wow! 😮

Wow this was the most helpful video I’ve seen on this topic. I almost skipped over it but I’m so glad I didn’t. Thank you so much!

@drsia2323

3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure! And thank you for commenting 🙏🏼

Really enjoy watching your videos, as paradoxical as that sounds knowing theres "something" wrong with ones self, its definitely helping people im sure, myself included. I appreciate the time and effort youve put into the videos as there isnt too many videos online about attachment styles. Keep up the hard work. Heres a comment for the algorithm :)

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly! It makes absolute sense to me!

Wow, just wow. I am impressed with your knowledge Dr. Sia. You have perfectly described myself. Thank you very much! 👍

Thank you so much for this My situation is clearly this and I didn't even know it existed until yesterday

This was really educational and appreciated your call to action at the end because I really did value the video and was ready to just exit when it was done but really great job man! Really insightful stuff. Subscribed :)

@drsia2323

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly for your support and engagement!

This is great. Thank you for the content.

Great insight. After listening to a few different attachment style videos, this one def stands out as the best. Thank you for sharing!

@drsia2323

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate it very much! 🙏🏼

Awesome thanks Dr. Sia!

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Keep creating these videos, keep eating noodles. Great to see fresh ISTDP content out on the inter webs.

@drsia2323

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you deadlypalms!

I always think of the movie Coming to America and the potential wife who when asked her likes and interests, she says, “Whatever You Like.”

@drsia2323

Жыл бұрын

Yes exactly hahahahahahaha. So good! So good!

Light bulb moments! 👍🏽

@drsia2323

4 жыл бұрын

More to come!

Thank you Dr Sia very helpful information

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

my pleasure!

Good info

Great video ✨ it helped me to understand myself a bit more, thank you

@drsia2323

4 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I can relate very much to this, thank you

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly for commenting and so sorry for the late reply!

Excellent video!

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

Looking at your attachment descriptions I can’t see where to put the common client who I see as ambivalent however is typically hurt and angry, resentful, and I would say preoccupied with their own hurt feelings. And this description of the ambivalent as the caretaker is at odds with Crittenden’s model where she sees the caretaker as avoidant where they take on the more parental role of caretaking, quite different to seeking regulation through escalation or helplessness.

Thank you!

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

What a great video, very informative, new subscriber

@drsia2323

Жыл бұрын

Great to have you here Wellington!

Just wow, so meeee

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

makes me tear up thinking about toddler me worried for his life. thanks for the video

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

I feel so understood. It's funny- I would love a video on how to parse out the difference between an ambivalent attachment organization versus a borderline organization. Or what these two schemas look like together ... For myself- my therapist has said I am ambivalent attachment and I have also had a diagnosis of BDP ( which I don't necessarily agree with). The anxiety, fear and pressure I feel to make any form of self based decision has been crippling. Balancing the need to honor self and other has been a Venn diagram I can't seem to make work. Idk if this makes sense or is of interest to anyone... I enjoy your content Dr. Sia.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

I'll make a video about this for sure. Look if it is Ambivalent attachment we are looking at Dependent PD not BPD. Two attachments cannot coexist. I'll make a video about it.

@happygucci5094

2 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 You can't have a primary or baseline attachment style and a secondary presenting one? With the case of bpd- taking into account for the diverse way this disorder presents, I am hardly ever if at all triggered by children or my friendships. And I have deep, satisfying, intimate, relationships; where I can express vulnerability, be present, reflective and able to access more of my PFC. And I am aware of an internal constancy across time. However- in romantic partnerships as well as relationships with an unfair power deferential- I become dysregulated and disappear within myself. These relationships are my "repetition compulsion". They mimic the emotional environment of my traumas with an uncanny likeness. Because I haven't integrated the traumas and subsequently the lessons- I am likely to repeat. I am not obviously a professional- this is just my own lived experience. I also think diagnostically, I may have more bod traits than the full disorder. Does this make sense or clarify what I was trying to communicate in my previous msg? Look forward to your video. Take care

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

@@happygucci5094 No you cannot have a primary and secondary and whatnot. When people self report it all looks dimensional and or multilayered and whatnot but in reality it is degrees of severity of the same attachment style. See the problem is that behaviours are are mistaken as attachment indicators whereas if you examine the function of seemingly avoidant attachment behaviours and then ambivalent the next and disorganised the third there is a function hidden underneath and that is what shows the actual attachment. In your case you are sounding like a person with many healed disorganised or ambivalent wounds, functioning secure at most times and still healing your disorganised wounds. That is my take. Does that resonate?

@happygucci5094

2 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 kzread.info/dash/bejne/lJmT0dOBkavJec4.html No, this didn't help because there is contradictory information even among other academics. Thanks again.

Handsome and knowledgeable 😁✨🙏

@drsia2323

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly Vanessa!

This is me 💯! I really want to move from this

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

I am happy to hear that you are ready to move! My apologies for the late reply! Somehow this got missed!

Lit 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

Do you offer virtual therapy sessions?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply! yes I do. My info is in every video description.

Can a person have disorganized and ambivalent and avoidant attachments all at once? I can vouche for no amount of meditating, journaling and affirmations working!

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Great question! No they cannot really. If it is all three then it is actually Disorganized with behaviours that are avoidant and Ambivalent (sometimes called fronts) within a disorganized structure. So a person who is avoidant might avoid to prevent criticism but a person who is disorganized might avoid to prevent criticism but runs right into criticism from within anyway. The behaviours look the same but the base is widely different.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

@@yasminevine That is a great start! Do you have attachment based therapy available to you where you are? Do you have access to ISTDP therapists for example? If so, can you afford to go?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

@@yasminevine Not that I am aware of no. I hope it works out

It was nice explanation but I thought you were going to tell us in a detail about the treatment. Like it says in the title.

@drsia2323

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting! I am happy to develop a more im detail video about the treatment with ISTDP! Keep am eye out! Thank you for being in this space!

@statesunlocked

3 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 I'd also like to see this video :)

The child isn't allowed to feel safe , with there unsafe emotions

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

exactly!

Can you be my therapist???

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Yes I can. My details are in my video captions.

What's your IG handle?

@drsia2323

4 жыл бұрын

@doctorsia