⭐️"They are not avoiding rejection, they are avoiding acceptance." ⭐️ As a self diagnosed "dismissive avoidant", that was mind blowing and will stay with me for the rest of my life. Thank you ❤

Thank you for the work you're putting into these videos. I'm an associate MFT, and have recently began to shift my practice towards attachment. These videos have been very helpful in expanding my understanding. As well as learning how to explain attachment to my client's.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the encouragement Eddie.It means alot to me to know that the hard work is doing good for you as practitioner and your clients.

I love this video. it made a log of sense.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you kindly!

I like the plant and the shiny transparent container holding it. It's a bit of easy in the metaphorical sense of enduring the truth of consequences. Thank you.

wow so basically our brains get wired in such a way that doesnt allow us to really comprehend or see certain behaviours, social settings or just something someone tells us for what it really is

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly! Thank you for commenting Pauper!

@thunderpooch

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Great. Just great. It turns out being human is probably a life long struggle with realizing just how non-reality based our brains are. As I age I'm becoming more and more aware how the human mind is much like a complex computer system which is running many many background programs which are constantly repeating. Some refer to this as parallel processing. It's truly amazing, but it's quite a hellish experience if you have sub-conscious thoughts or "filters" that are biased in a negative way. For such a person, anything that confirms these background parallel biases and thoughts will lead to a flood of horrible feelings. On the counter side to this, a person can grow up in such a way which leads to extremely helpful and powerful background programs which aid them in life. A bias towards secure attachment will get a person through tough times. A person can then use their cognitive ability (immediate pre-frontal cortex processing) to get past a negative or harmful event or person. Meanwhile, their sub-concious is constantly reminding them, "you're enough and acceptable, and there's many other people and experiences in the world which suggests and confirms you're enough and acceptable."

really interesting Dr Sia great video

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Cheers!

EXCELLENT VIDEO THANK U & BLESSINGS

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

thank you and blessings to you and yours!

I'm guessing that for ambivalently attached person they would avoid sources of abandonment...which is basically everyone. Am I correct?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly right!

Please talk more about fear of acceptance

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!

@thunderpooch

Жыл бұрын

I don't think people fear acceptance. Their biases just don't allow them to fully believe in acceptance from others. They're skeptical of acceptance because they probably never received long lasting healthy examples of it in their early childhood. Many parents send this message: beleive in my God and my religion or you're not acceptable, do as I say or you're not acceptable, take on all my moral and ethical outlooks or you're not acceptable, you must look a certain way or you're not acceptable. Parents often don't remind their child enough that who they are is fine, acceptable, and great, but they're juat trying to help them in life. Reminding a kid that they won't always like or understand their parent's wishes or demands is very normal, but ultimately the child is fine and acceptable to have their feelings and thoughts and beliefs.

As disorganized would it be considered controlling bad behavior to almost require that if I'm going to be in a relationship with anyone that they watch some of these videos or do some sort of learning about it? so that they protect themselves if I start messing up or also I would need someone to kind of try to help me I just feel like they need to know and understand and I also don't want to be using a distorted logic to have a entry requirement or something

Do you believe in anxious preoccupied?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Yes for sure.