im an actual life coach and I can confirm that most people want justification for their wrong actions instead of trying to grow beyond the things(insecurities) that cause them to have behaviors that are self sabotaging and do things that are detrimental to the goals that they have.

@j.du6

2 жыл бұрын

And water is wet. Narcissists will rationalize anything. It's a bonafide epidemic of projection and lack of self-honesty. It's everyone and anyone's fault but theirs, always.

@drac7876

2 жыл бұрын

What kind of training does a life coach have to undergo and what qualifications are necessary ? I’m curious

@John.Asante

2 жыл бұрын

​@@drac7876 they have to be really charismatic and convincing lol

@louilind4300

2 жыл бұрын

@@drac7876 well you can study it, take some courses but also helps if you started out completely off but managed to improve yourself, turned yourself into a decent human being after all that bullshit, born with some empathy (or gained some later) and have a deep need to help others. Tadaaa... There you have it.. A great coach.

@steve19149

2 жыл бұрын

Sasha is a life coach with no followers or other profile. 🧐

dont forget to tell people: “have the day you deserve” it adds a sprinkle of confusion and disrespect on their end

Where did all the good people go? All the cool people are inside, vibing in their rooms, and taking themselves to dinner because they feel the same way~

@MsJujubee3

2 жыл бұрын

This

@TASconfidential

2 жыл бұрын

Yup!!! All the good people have become misanthropic introverts.

@mslisha100

2 жыл бұрын

This part!!! 💯

@aylinlugo8031

2 жыл бұрын

Yup 🌟😊

@evepk888

2 жыл бұрын

So true

The more you increase your level of class, intelligence, couth and your character develops, the more you realize that others have NOT evolved, and “friends”, start fading out. Let them go, live your best life, and don’t look back.

@laetitiabecker6920

2 жыл бұрын

Yeeep

@NickyM_0

2 жыл бұрын

Yep!

I think the problem is MOST people are selfish as hell.

@skaio.5279

2 жыл бұрын

we should all be more selfish, but not hurt others intentionally

@brittaniebrockett507

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree….and I get tired of feeling like I’m being taken advantage of by people who are clearly self-centric and only value others based of what they can do for them.

Watching this video is like that moment where you finally get to meet a millionaire and they end up ranting and being way more relatable than you imagined.

@fashionstudent408

2 жыл бұрын

Spending time alone brings this level of self awareness 🧠✨

@willmax95

2 жыл бұрын

Hahahaah thiss!!

@thefrustratedneetaspirant7777

2 жыл бұрын

Is she not a millionaire?

Same, girl, same ! Us "normals" are stuck in our houses because we're over the outside world 😞

@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663

2 жыл бұрын

THIS 👆🏽 💯❤.

@nicolausthothmes2325

2 жыл бұрын

So thats where you ladies be. Aiight so what if we make like an icecream truck system, but the tune lets the good women who are in their houses know where we are all at? trying to find a solution.

@asharaperkins2296

2 жыл бұрын

@@nicolausthothmes2325 DO IT!! 😂 Actually, if you want to find us .. Whole Foods, Trader Joe’s, Marshall’s/TJMAXX/HomeGoods 👍🏽👍🏽 I actually made a quick video that I’m gonna post on my KZread about it tomorrow 😜

@KmChx_MX

2 жыл бұрын

Fr! It used to be “all the freaks come out at night”, but now they’re just out cause everybody else got tired of the crap going on rn. 2020 gave me a spearhead to cut people off and I’ve not been more chill

@adatbh

2 жыл бұрын

Literally

Finally, someone said it. It literally sucks here because WE suck here.

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

WE ALL ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM

@mylesp89

2 жыл бұрын

Ppl been sayin this lol

@wordnodoubt2861

2 жыл бұрын

*THANOS* has entered the chat

@cris_here

2 жыл бұрын

Suck or stuck? Lol

I feel this so much because I'm in the same spot. It is really exhausting to know you're putting your energy into nothing. And it is very tiring to be the only one who cares. So for the last month I literally haven't spoken to anybody. I'm like - I'm so done! I'm at a point where I"d rather be alone then have people around me who don't know how to emote or care about those around them. It is so weird. Took me a while to really see it as well. So I totally get you. GO make that money now xx

@JanJan4Infinity

2 жыл бұрын

Feel the same way

@bookofgloryx

2 жыл бұрын

@@JanJan4Infinity I'm honestly shocked so many feel the same. Something is deffo wrong then. Prob social media ruined ppl"s brains...

@issabradshaw2877

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same

@Mara-wp6rx

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@LittleOutCast

2 жыл бұрын

girl i have been going through the exact same thing. recently i cut off everyone. and i mean everyone, that was not adding value to my life. Allow me to explain. A lot of people want yes-men and yes women or a hype man to hype them up. They don't want friends, they want entertainment. AND IM NOT NETFLIX NOR HULU so i said begone parasites and walked away. A lot of people want people around them just for the sake of not being alone. They don't have true love for you, and they do not value your presence, but they will constantly reach out for you. The same way a lot of people are too insecure to do basic things by themselves. They are too afraid to face their demons and past pain, so they fill their lives with pointless "seat-filler" friends just to fill the void in their lives. Hurt people hurt people and I have decided to not let those hurt people wound me anymore. I am not perfect. I have insecurities and I have trauma as well that I sometimes want to run away from, but I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than be surrounded by toxic individuals. Life is TOO short for that.

Im 41 and dead azz over people. I just came from a whole day of hanging by myself, and it was great! Most people love being the victim and never want to fix themselves just want others to adjust to their bad behavior. Accountability is nonexistent.

Accountability is definitely lacking in these streets.

I relate too hard holy christ. my villian era lasted about an hour but next time I WILL embrace it for a longer time period.

@villcat9750

2 жыл бұрын

😄

@itsajahnixoxo

2 жыл бұрын

We’re pushing for 2 hours 😭

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

An hour is something to be proud of!

@Divinely222

2 жыл бұрын

I tried but then a big random dog walked up to me and I said : “oh sorry”. Darn it! He just wanted me to pet him 🙃

Just changed my sheets, had a shower and now watching Kelly's video - a perfect way to end a long day 💅💅

@s.g.4435

2 жыл бұрын

Same haha 💆🏻‍♀️

@raisaburdak

2 жыл бұрын

What time is it for you where you live? It’s 4:22pm for me rn, sounds like it’s night time for you

@poppycalliope

2 жыл бұрын

sounds amazing ✨️🌿

@adjustedlenses3507

2 жыл бұрын

Yesssss

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Self-care Saturday!!

I can 100% percent agree with Kelly!!! When you break the stimulation and the matrix you feel this heaviness and feel like you don’t fit in anywhere! It literally is painful to go through

@xbirdsofparadise

2 жыл бұрын

yes exactly! it feels like people are brainwashed robots without empathy or actually caring for others and i disassociate, it's scary!!!!

This was brilliant. I have a hard time finding those genuine friends as well. I lost someone who I thought was my best friend. It can be heartbreaking.

@friimunya8488

2 жыл бұрын

Same happened to me 😔

@Candicedickinsonllc

2 жыл бұрын

so glad it’s not just me

@bekahelder537

2 жыл бұрын

@@friimunya8488 I’m sorry. I just lost my “BFF” and it breaks my heart. You deserve people that treat you better!!

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

aww :(

@annabellawr

2 жыл бұрын

Same!

Omg finding genuine people is so hard!

There are two golden rules that no one seems to want to follow: "Do unto others, as you would have done unto you." And "Make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other's gold." I have found, very, very few abide by these. Everyone's out for their own gain. Especially that ones who preach the loudest about being caring, and good people. If you gotta be loud about it, instead of letting your actions speak, then how genuine are you? Anyway, I just wanted to rant, too.

@minalove6582

2 жыл бұрын

This is great!

@erinniccoinn1gh

2 жыл бұрын

there's a lovely little tune that american girl scouts sing based on that second adage. it goes 'make new friends / but keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold /circles round / that have no end, that's how long i want to be your friend.'

thats what happens when you try to make happy everyone around you. thats the price you pay for your honesty and softness. yeah kindness hurts too.

@nayajohnson6315

2 жыл бұрын

Yes kindness does hurt but at least you can feel good about it at the end of the day or cry it it out. Life is all about balance.

@goatofdavinci

2 жыл бұрын

@@nayajohnson6315 you are right

@xbirdsofparadise

2 жыл бұрын

it wasn't supposed to be like this. society's measures of respect and capitalism has changed people into self centered greed monsters.

@goatofdavinci

2 жыл бұрын

@@xbirdsofparadise you are right.

Omg it’s like you’re inside my head. I feel the exact same way 😩 People are SO annoying! And I haven’t found not one good friend and I’m about to be 25

@jordancartier504

2 жыл бұрын

SAME!!!

@CiaoColeG

2 жыл бұрын

I had zero good friends after high school until I was 26. Maybe volunteer? That's how I met my friends.

@simonescorner

2 жыл бұрын

@@CiaoColeG I definitely have to get out more

I promise not everyone is like this! Glad you're still just being yourself and not letting other peoples bullshit change you. I feel this generally with a lot of society but I hope you find people (who are probably just smarter and more mature) that you enjoy spending time with, hopefully they can change your mind!!!!!

Last month I thought to myself..Was I made to be of service for others? Like, was I meant to be a slave for the human race? And others get to be main characters, raised up and to bask in the joys of life. I genuinely don't know what it's like to checked up on without someone needing something from me. I've been cutting ties with many and I've learnt that I'm not meant to have a lot of people around me and thats OK because I get to experience a bit of peace

It’s Gemini season and I can relate girl. Folks tell me their one-sided issues wanting validation for being trashy…I can’t get with none of it.

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I thought I wanted to make new friends but I always just feel drained. What really gets me in addition to complaining about very straightforward boy problems is the random gossip. It happened recently with someone new but she had no idea that I was actually good friends with that girl. It was so unprompted too. I can’t be around high school behavior

I don't have ANY genuine friends and I turned 40 in February. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Andreea93chan

2 жыл бұрын

I don't have any genuine friends and I am 29. 😂 There was a time when I would have series of panic attacks because of this. Glad this ended.

@CEDL4072

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 34 and in the same predicament 😅

I’m right there sis. Lived in New York for years working corporate. I became mentally ill. Moved to Miami and never looked back.

I actually kinda feel the same. I'm so done with being nice. And I think mine stems from me being a people pleaser all my life, always adjusting to the environment just to cater everyone's needs. But I'm not victim! Me being tossed around whenever and wherever was my fault and i acknowledged it. I learned the hard way and I'm so done being nice and I need to start putting myself first.

Even when I do get a text now that's like "hey, how are you??" I don't ask how they're doing in return in my response, because I know they are going to tell me anyway because that's the whole reason they texted me...to vent. Sigh.

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

YEP. No point in responding!

I am 32 years old and I have 4 good solid friends. And I am completely okay with that. Cause this world is cruel and I don't want unless ppl around me 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Ray-pp5qb

2 жыл бұрын

FOUR!!! real ass friends. you doing good. well done you. cherish them.

@chelsea9641

2 жыл бұрын

@@Ray-pp5qb I’ve only got 3 at age 20. I am fine with having only 3 friends!! It’s sooo hard to find genuine friends.

We hurt others trying to show how strong we are. We break each other then look for people who aren't broken

And you have to set boundaries with friends, family, coworkers, whoever. You set the terms for everyone who comes into your life.

happy early birthday kelly! it's so easy to feel drained from every social interaction these days, & sometimes i end up going into every friendship not trusting that it's genuine--a lot of the time it isn't! but regardless your confidence & self-respect (& respect for others!) give you the real queen status

As a glasses wearer I felt that shift of your frames before you went in!! Haha I love you and im glad you’re sitting with yourself and taking stock of what you want out of your relationships. Im a little older than you and your friend is right. It doesn’t get easier but you get stronger and if you keep going within like this you’ll only become better as a human, more compassionate and forgiving to yourself. Im no angel but I too have grown weary of the people that don’t believe in cause and affect. They’ll tell you a story but leave the part out where they actually shook the table. Then you get called the bad guy when you address the reality. Great video. This is what growing up feels like and I appreciate the earnest share here.

People can be energy drainers. You have to clear your space which includes people and things that don’t deserve you.

Broke up with my ex because he almost bumped someone with my car and the next day he pretended like nothing happened maybe he was embarrassed but accountability reassures the next person that they are aware of what they did

Same Kelly saaame! Been removing myself from these situations and doing a lot more solo activities! Keep nurturing and focusing on those 3 genuine deep relationships 💗

We have our popcorn and tea! All ears

@xenaramos445

2 жыл бұрын

👀👀

I hope I find nice and genuine friends someday. going to cherish the hell out of them because it sucks being with toxic ass people who don't care about you.

“Your not a queen” LMAO. Ok had to pause continuing to watch

Kelly you’re the total package, you’re fine, smart, funny, successful, responsible. A lot of quality men out there & any of them would be lucky to have u. A little trick someone taught me is not to dwell on your problems, if I’m upset about something I’m over it in 5 min unless it’s something very devastating. Lastly I’m sure u were joking but don’t mess w someone else’s automobile, it’s the most chicken sht thing someone can do

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you and yes, I need to learn to to dwell on anything And no I'm not keying someone's car LOL

“Yes, because I have home training.” I’m happily in my menace to society era. I felt this entire thing.

Kelly I am a man thanks for saving me from the chaos I was going to envoke on women. I am typically a honest guy as best as I try to be. Iv been toyed with cheated on, and left emotionally drained. I wanted not care about the next person I was with but I realise I will only create more hurt people if I do so. Thank you.

@adatbh

2 жыл бұрын

Proud of you

I got broken down and emotionally abused to the point of now I match the energy others give me. Love this for you. Don’t stand for any BS ❤️

Story of my life 😩 Definitely had to cut off a sht ton of one-sided relationships this year. 🙅🏽‍♀️Totally cool with that. And you definitely deserve better.

I FEEL YOU. I think it hit me at the age of 25 of how cruel and messed up people can be 🤗 I feel like I was living in a box before that

The secret to venting is eating a bowl of cherries at the same time. Don’t ask me why, it’s just a must in my house!

@pollypocket4323

2 жыл бұрын

That’s so cute!!

@L0VEisAmixtape

2 жыл бұрын

I love that!

Wow 2 whole days, huh? Don't worry Kelly. Anytime you need to get something out of your system, we're all right here to listen. Or at least, I am. I think it's time for a friendship detox. Or purge so to speak.

I thought I was watching the origin story of the new Stampede Villain character. 😂 On the real, we have these unspoken rules in society that being a good friend includes allowing others to dump on us, and drag us into their bs. But in the end, it's our choice, whether or not we want to participate. I think you know this already. It's the expectations we have of the other person that get us caught up. 😭 Anyways... Happy Birthday Ms. Gemini! 🎉

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. And thank you for the birthday wishes!

I''m going through something similar, but on a smaller scale. You gave me such drive and hope, and then the last message just deflated everything 😂

3 minutes in gave a LIKE instantly! This video was much needed. Love you Kelly I feel your pain woman

Exactly what I needed to hear as I’m in the middle of family drama 🥲 people look at situations through with their own lenses that are filtered by past wrongs others have done them, and mistakes they themselves have made, and refusing to take off those metaphorical sunglasses blocks their ability to see THE truth of the matter at hand.

You literally just read off my thoughts for the last 5 years. I relate so much to you. Thank you for this rant. I believe that you expressed what many of us think. Thank you for being you. Stay encouraged.

I’m so glad that I’m hearing this, I needed this it makes me feel less alone. I’m empathetic person and guess what, even if I did give my genuine advice to friend, they NEVER actually listen lmao. They just want to keep doing the same bullshit and vent to me when things become bad again, it’s a vicious cycle. I’m so done with these kind of friendship and that’s why I’m living alone and stay away from humanity. And I also consider myself not fit into any group and very direct in a way, I’m always being kinda and nice at first, but after seeing the same stupidity and bullshit happens over and over, I either have to be honest and blunt, or have some sentences prepared before hands so I can mindlessly comforting them without disturbing my peace lmao

I'm 76 and feel the same - you are not only lovely, but brave to speak your truth.

I'm here for Kelly's quest to make f*** you money! I love it!

You're just outgrowing your friends and deciding what your new standards will be. That's a normal thing - insist on your new criteria and you'll find people who are authentic and lovely. Good luck! 🧡

I also love venting to the camera. It’s just so good to get it out of your head.

No but your personality is everything 😫👑

I completely understand how you feel. When you help people it’s not appreciated and they keep expecting you to do it. I am on some work and family group texts that I hide alerts. It’s too much sometimes.

Kelly thank you so much for this video. Everything you said is literally how I feel right now about some of the relationships in my life. I’m only 23 but it’s taken me soooo long to find actual genuine friendships over the years. Tired of giving energy and not getting that respect back. Cheers to our villain era!

This feeling of when teachers gets serious, scolds all the students then the whole class gets silent and listens lol No disrespect Kelly ,luv u

@miss11blackwood

2 жыл бұрын

😅

Sometimes you gotta just go out to the mountains and scream.

What’s funny is, I am exactly at the same point in life you’re in. Every single video you’ve made this year, I have lived. It just never ends! But despite all of that, i’m out here living my life. Not about to let other people ruin my day. I love ME, and I’m going to continue loving me, even if it makes me selfish sometimes.

Now you are an adult- you are GROWN. Thank you!! Establishing boundaries and understanding messy behavior, and then c o r r e c t I n g it!

This video just explained it all for me. I’ve been having this interesting feeling lately and Kelly you basically just solved the mystery feeling I’ve been feeling. It’s because a new era is approaching for me 🙌🏽😭 plus it’s funny how I’ve been having this feeling since gemini season started! It’s about that time! ♊️✨

"This is the start of my villian era" Kelly girl what happened 😂😂😂💚

I felt more hopeful after reading your parting words, because at first, I was like; "Noooo ... Kelly let them do it to her" !!! It is SO hard to find a serious, confident, person on this earth, who has your best interests at heart. Kelly, you know what I think it is? I think people like us, who are looking for mature, trusting, relationships, with people who can hold their own & don't exist, to put their lives burdens on others, are hiding out and questioning life, just like you and I - which makes it almost impossible - to find each other. I'm stating the obvious ... I know, so why do we continue to care? Hoping you can help me ✌️ ❤️ and Sooouuulll ... Stay strong sweetie!!!

Real shit! I think its important to tell the truth about how you feel when it comes to people you may be acquaintances with. I've def been there before and its super draining, but there came a point where I just cut everyone off that doesn't serve me for the better. Keep it up with the killer vids

I feel the same and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t wanna go out in public because I don’t wanna deal with other peoples bullshit. Like I don’t want to speak to strangers anymore LOL I just can’t deal with it anymore omg

I’m curled up in the exact same blue blanket!!! Thankful for Kelly’s wisdom and honesty as always (:

this is literally how I feel. Im glad I never settled for bad company out of desperation and loneliness. You have to put yourself first nowadays and make sure you surround yourself with good people who are kind, and respectful, and have integrity. I think thats whats missing in a lot of social groups. its like social media has normalized cattiness and mess and drama. I have an amazing friend group now and if I never looked around and explored different spaces and just decided to e stuck in one spot I probably would never have met them. I knew I deserved better. I no longer ignore red flags to "keep the peace" cuz if its not bringing me peace it gots to go

Yes, yes, yes!! I feel this so heavily. We gotta find people who match our energy and detach from those who don't.

Yay!! I’m happy for you! Nothing like meeting a counterpart! May you two thrive!! 🧿🧿❤️

It is so satisfying to listen to someone as real as you.. People have been dragging me into their drama continiously and I’m done! Tired of people who think that they’re more important than everybody else and that everyone has to put down everything to listen to their toxic behavior. It is as if this generation is totally consumed with narcissism, with exceptions ofc.

I love love love this video Kelly! Glad I'm not alone on this one!

Happy Birthday, Ms. Stamps! 🦾

I just turned 50. I’ve been following your channel since your first 10k subs. I still can relate to you though, despite the age difference. Keep your chin up, there’s still a few good gems in society. It’s just getting harder to find them

2 days is all some need. I totally get you and I needed to hear this.

I am literally going through the same thing. I allowed ex friends to re-enter my life just for them to hurt me again. I’m tired of being that emotional punching bag as well and being seen as “mean” for my honesty. Great video like always 💗

Professor stamps, I have been going through a rut of sorts that made me think that I should have a quarter-life crisis and you have cemented embracing my villian side. I had wanted to reinvent myself into a darker character because only super villians and misguided super heroes become billionaires. Look at Lex luthor, Tony stark, and Ronald reagan. Thelank you for everything that you put out. Your content is inspiring and it's so awesome to see who you've become from your first videos on youtube

late night rants are always the most entertaining!

Lmao. I genuinely enjoyed thisss and wholeheartedly felt everything you said on a personal level.

Happy birthday Kelly!💜

Love you Kelly! And happy birthday where its May 30th already somewhere else! Geminis get tired of it too and need to recharge :) Little reminder that like attracts like so just be and allow everything you are to gravitate towards you, it will find a way all the way from the mountains😉

You literally took the words out of my mouth …. I’m just over EVERYTHING 💯

As a redhead, I'm always curious about people putting on red wigs when they turn evil...

@alwaysglistening

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

As someone grew up internationally. I will say Americans are Super indirect when it comes to communication. If you can connect with international people, people who weren't born in America.

@NickyM_0

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of Americans come across as super dysfunctional. People talk about the American dream but it looks like a capitalist, racist, multicolour nightmare!

Happy Birthday Kelly!!

WOW THATS HOW YOU FEEL

omg i used to have a friend who would rant to me the same way and if i didn’t justify her or agree with her she’d get mad. like don’t come to me if you don’t want my honest opinion

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Like there’s a 50% chance of me agreeing with you or disagreeing. I don’t understand why they bring these things to us 😂

@mabepage4013

2 жыл бұрын

@@KellyStamps exactly 😂 like would they rather us lie or be helpful

Took me so long to realize people can actually be mean for no reason. ♊ are very comfortable with ourselves. we just want genuine relations and growth. let's grow and shine together and the world is in a trend of hate. it's hard to be different but I love it and this rant lol. happy birthday Ms. Stamps🥳🥳🥳

no this is the rant everyone NEEDED to hear 😂

this is too real oh my goodness, expressed so much of my emotions. no type of shame or respect - it’s exhausting & i get nooo love in return

HAPPY BDAY GIRL!!!!!

The world only changes one person at a time, so, the solution is to learn it and understand it instead of being disturbed by it. You can’t help how you feel Kelly bcuz you’re young and decent. You’re a strong, sensible, and good woman. I was the same way when I was your age. But the hard feelings people have has to be passed through and healed. Even the good has some inner healing to do.

I honestly would love to have a friend like you Kelly Stamps!! Thank you for your honesty. We need that more in this world!

Kelly, you are calling it out and this is refreshing. Thank goodness cause it's the TRUTH.

I am usually a silent stampede member and I always wanted my first comment to be something profound and matches the wit of my fellow stampede members lol! but I just couldn’t not comment like you literally hit the nail on the head! That’s why I have been staying to myself and not wanting to put myself out there to make new friends because I have been burned so much in the past! However I’m sure I’ll find my genuine tribe one day!

This video speaks volumes about how I've been feeling as well!! What a relief to hear someone else say some of these same things that I've been thinking. LOL

I love your rants because you are especially straightforward and honest. I completely agree with all the points you raised. Plus IM A GEMINI too. We Gemini need to stick together because it seems like everybody hates us. lol

@ayannabrooks6680

2 жыл бұрын

This ^^

@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663

2 жыл бұрын

RIGHT, fellow Gemini ♊ ❤💯

@cjo4210

2 жыл бұрын

Gem gang unite!

@escobarines

2 жыл бұрын

Same ♊ It was surreal to hear Kelly lay out thoughts that I've recently had 😭

@KellyStamps

2 жыл бұрын

Everybody hates us but we are honest even if we are flaky and flock around and move like birds Lol

Love you, girl. Keep doing you🥰

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KELLY!!!!!!!! Blessings from Germany