5 Things I Had to Give Up to Grow My Career

The more I grow, the more I realize that people who get to the next level are the ones who say "no" more than they say "yes".
I used to be really bad at this. In many ways, I still am.
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  • @jeshand3159
    @jeshand31595 жыл бұрын

    1. Other people's judgement - Care about what people think and you will always be their prisoner. 2. Information overload - People today are in danger of drowning in information but because they have been taught that information is useful, they are more willing to drown than they need be. 3. What I thought 'I' should become. 4. My own judgement of other people - It is humbling to become the very thing you once mocked. 5. My desire to be perfect - The pursuit of perfection is a disguise for insecurity.

  • @dinelli630

    @dinelli630

    Жыл бұрын

    The 4th point doesn't sound wel.

  • @radvlad1431
    @radvlad14316 жыл бұрын

    you have to write down a business plan then read it every morning and night. it will eliminate fantasy and reveal reality.

  • @lollikiss25

    @lollikiss25

    5 жыл бұрын

    thats a wonderful Idea I am going to take your advice thank you

  • @radvlad1431

    @radvlad1431

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@lollikiss25 Google "6 steps to think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill". This will give you the whole concept.

  • @dhirajshetty483

    @dhirajshetty483

    5 жыл бұрын

    BRILLIANT IDEA !

  • @juleeanng

    @juleeanng

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Love this comment

  • @juleeanng

    @juleeanng

    3 жыл бұрын

    Cause I'm always caught up daydreaming

  • @jarronjackson6670
    @jarronjackson66706 жыл бұрын

    Always dropping gems! Thank you!

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank YOU for watching

  • @stephensmith6198
    @stephensmith61986 жыл бұрын

    These are great suggestions to bring balance and understanding to oneself in order to be successful and not get sidetracked. I start my day with inspiring videos like this and a positive thinking mode and attitude so that I can grow and learn to become a better person. Thank you for this spot on post.

  • @YoupeleEkpedekumo
    @YoupeleEkpedekumo6 жыл бұрын

    Always look forward to seeing your video posts.

  • @ANTI4L

    @ANTI4L

    6 жыл бұрын

    Youpele Ekpedekumo always

  • @advancetotabletop5328
    @advancetotabletop5328 Жыл бұрын

    Speaking of options and clients, the only thing I took from my first job was that you ALWAYS give the client three options: the one you want them to take, and two others (: Thanks for the videos!

  • @TheNuttyStrongman
    @TheNuttyStrongman6 жыл бұрын

    Wow.. thank you for taking the time to make this great video, informative and helpful. Absolutely astounding!

  • @TheDividendExperiment
    @TheDividendExperiment5 жыл бұрын

    Useful video, I had never thought about how having options can actually negatively affect you! An eye-opener for sure.

  • @OnTheBusPodcast
    @OnTheBusPodcast6 жыл бұрын

    Great video, loveeee the drawing and animation, brings everything to life

  • @Telluwide
    @Telluwide6 жыл бұрын

    Can't believe how much this channel has grown in Subscribers since I subscribed a little more than a week ago. Great Job! Great content! This is now my go-to channel for inspiration and motivation! Although, you did do a couple of insightful videos about each, so I'll keep those two concepts in perspective....Anyway, keep the great content coming!

  • @TM-fr7gh
    @TM-fr7gh5 жыл бұрын

    Kudos man, this really helped me with a current dilemma I'm having; way too many options.

  • @continuouswave34
    @continuouswave346 жыл бұрын

    About saying yes all the time. There is a time and a place to work all night, if you want to move up. I’ve put in more 80 hour weeks than I can imagine, and today I’m considered an expert in my field. Having reached that goal, I no longer need to do it all the time. So today, this is how I have learned to handle it with my boss. “I can do X, but I’m going to have to re-prioritize. Compared to Y, what do you think is more important? (insert my recommendation and why).” I’ve also learned to use the “Scotty school of engineering” (Star Trek reference). approach to timelines. Buffer everything. If you do this, you always look like you are overachieving, even when you took an extended lunch ;)

  • @KrisSugga
    @KrisSugga6 жыл бұрын

    Very interesting but in my opinion being perfectionist is more a matter of willing to provide the best quality possible by overcoming laziness. When I'm working on a project I prefer spending as much time as required in order to have the best results that satisfies me instead of choosing the easy path of doing things fast and not that good. You can be a perfectionist and still love making mistakes, in music for example, mistakes are most of the time the best things that can ever happen to you :)

  • @RIVALContentJammerz

    @RIVALContentJammerz

    6 жыл бұрын

    I agree, stumbling on a strange note allows for new bridge breaking out of the usual patterns. I think that's a huge part of stress in today's culture is that all art, cinema, music, graphic has become very stagnant.

  • @xolo2372

    @xolo2372

    6 жыл бұрын

    KrisSugga in art mistakes is the best thing to happen we can alter and make thing much more better. This applies to life too mistakes makes perfection.

  • @RangerSpecForDelta

    @RangerSpecForDelta

    5 жыл бұрын

    KrisSugga I can't help but wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment.

  • @buhlemthembu8120

    @buhlemthembu8120

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thats absolutely true. I am developing an app, and it is easily done on a gui, but I wanted a web-based demo for the stakeholders, and I had to pose the development and learn to master Web MVC and related frameworks and even worse we are not using a JS framework to persist data at the back-end. Moral of the story, to be extremely good at something you need to revert to first principles, and they allow you to execute high-quality content, though it takes a little while.

  • @KrisSugga

    @KrisSugga

    5 жыл бұрын

    Buhle Mthembu Well said my friend :)

  • @kayvondon4030
    @kayvondon40304 жыл бұрын

    The thing that hit me the hardest: traveling the world vs getting deep into one culture. Is it worth going around the world and getting tons of superficial relationships, or is it better to choose a few cultures that you really like and get to know everything?

  • @nickwilkinson8171
    @nickwilkinson81716 жыл бұрын

    Great video. Not what I expected at all!

  • @vinayravi8810
    @vinayravi88102 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for all the amazing content you put out 🙏

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    2 жыл бұрын

    My pleasure, Vinay. Thank you.

  • @edwardmaxwell3951
    @edwardmaxwell39516 жыл бұрын

    This video is a must-watch for everyone. Bravo!

  • @thegirlykid
    @thegirlykid5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for creating your channel. Your videos are very helpful :)

  • @saurab1271
    @saurab12715 жыл бұрын

    One fine video after really long 👍👍

  • @Tentaclestudio1
    @Tentaclestudio15 жыл бұрын

    Wow, I love that 'puppet master' illustration at 2:10 really stylish!

  • @Sator810
    @Sator8104 жыл бұрын

    Option paralysis, the bane of getting anything done.

  • @elsea8901
    @elsea89016 жыл бұрын

    Scrolling through for my hero that just listed em...

  • @Instawise
    @Instawise6 жыл бұрын

    Well explained. Keep it up. You will hit a million very soon. #instawise

  • @marley1306
    @marley13063 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 😊

  • @vinzdegar
    @vinzdegar5 жыл бұрын

    Some Stoic wisdom here. Thanks for share.

  • @nowzonepenguins
    @nowzonepenguins6 жыл бұрын

    Amazing channel I’m subscribed!

  • @ryancarless7921
    @ryancarless79216 жыл бұрын

    Nice video. Doing it everyday will bring out better results!👍

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, yes consistency is key

  • @justincheng9241
    @justincheng92415 жыл бұрын

    I feel like I'm spreading myself too thin sometimes... This has been a good wake up call.

  • @cloudlessvision4192
    @cloudlessvision41926 жыл бұрын

    I'm still working not giving a fuck about what people say or think about me. This video helped so much. Thank You👏🙌

  • @horatioredgreenblue2130
    @horatioredgreenblue21306 жыл бұрын

    Great video - thanks a lot

  • @JO-ox7yq
    @JO-ox7yq4 жыл бұрын

    @3:24 This point hits hard, especially with the current situation!

  • @alexanderworkchannel
    @alexanderworkchannel5 жыл бұрын

    Great info - Thanks

  • @Crimson_Valor
    @Crimson_Valor6 жыл бұрын

    I only need to give up 1 or 2 of these so I think I’m off to a great start on self improvement

  • @gg4u481
    @gg4u4815 жыл бұрын

    I'm going to adhere to this advice whilst keeping my options oven for other advice.

  • @slippingjimmy2897
    @slippingjimmy28976 жыл бұрын

    I clocked on this thinking it would be shit, but that I'd give it a change. That was really excellent!

  • @techdiva4cybersecurity
    @techdiva4cybersecurity5 жыл бұрын

    Excellent Video

  • @goosemasters
    @goosemasters4 жыл бұрын

    1 point of confusion: he says, options are the silent killer, but then later, those who win are those who can adjust. Very similar.... keeping options open, and being able to adjust.

  • @Xdiego587
    @Xdiego5875 жыл бұрын

    I'm being honest. The perfectionist fact really got me. When I take a look on people I have as "idols", the only thing which seperates us is only consistency. They're not working towards perfection they are just trying to get to know the essentials, in short they're curious. And nothing more. Consistency (with Discipline) + Curiousity is the most healthy combination for growing in my eyes, enlighten me if I'm wrong.

  • @magmade
    @magmade6 жыл бұрын

    Great stuff

  • @cornelbacauanu1544
    @cornelbacauanu15443 жыл бұрын

    Well said.

  • @pledgestone
    @pledgestone5 жыл бұрын

    Great stuff.

  • @GlowGlobe
    @GlowGlobe6 жыл бұрын

    This makes sense, however do you have any advice on how to make the decision on limiting options, when so many appeal to you?

  • @shreyanshdas7481
    @shreyanshdas74815 жыл бұрын

    Thanks man.

  • @JavierAndresAnd
    @JavierAndresAnd5 жыл бұрын

    I feel like I have to watch this more than once.

  • @ANTI4L
    @ANTI4L6 жыл бұрын

    You inspire me

  • @gestalt.buds23
    @gestalt.buds236 жыл бұрын

    Perfection should be the decision that your efforts are satisfactorily complete and accomplishment is taken walking away from a task.

  • @martinspoonerkingjr.4432
    @martinspoonerkingjr.44326 жыл бұрын

    This video feels very insightful, and it has some new unexplored ideas. I don't remember ever being told to limit my options. The video and audio are clear and I like the visual animation. However, I feel like you could have personalized the content of this video and deepened it a bit more. Although I get the simple message to "limit my options" I do not however feel like I understood much when you dove deeper into the 5 things you had to give up. What brought you to give up other's judgement and judging them? What difference have you realized since then? And what reason do you think giving up these things resulted in these differences? Yes, you said "When the brain is too crowded it doesn't operate at it's best" but I think that would've been better if perhaps you dove deeper into how distractions on the media affect the brain, etc. Same for all the other 4 things mentioned. However I still say your video was insightful and I support the effort you put into this.

  • @juliaseare6163

    @juliaseare6163

    6 жыл бұрын

    Martin Spooner King Jr. We'll said! Good material for a future video !

  • @SamarpanaYogananda6509
    @SamarpanaYogananda65096 жыл бұрын

    This video has baffled the fook out of me it could be something to do with me being high af right now

  • @gangatalishis
    @gangatalishis6 жыл бұрын

    I'm gonna marry my wife, but I'm keeping my options open.

  • @tkayshakur2500

    @tkayshakur2500

    6 жыл бұрын

    gangstalishis lmao good choice.

  • @faisalmemon4491

    @faisalmemon4491

    6 жыл бұрын

    gangstalishis: Marry your wife? If she's your wife, you're already married to her! Unless I'm missing something!?

  • @coreycox2345

    @coreycox2345

    6 жыл бұрын

    Why not do one or the other gangstalishis? Even if she is sometimes nutty. Wishy-washiness can only lead to trouble.

  • @gangatalishis

    @gangatalishis

    6 жыл бұрын

    Faisal Memon shes my wife but I'm keeping my options open 😉

  • @coreycox2345

    @coreycox2345

    6 жыл бұрын

    I recommend full disclosure, gangstalishis. She might want to head for the hills.

  • @kleoemuno4961
    @kleoemuno49615 жыл бұрын

    I have learnt something out of this

  • @sachindas9376
    @sachindas93766 жыл бұрын

    Great video

  • @LampGoron64
    @LampGoron646 жыл бұрын

    wow great video

  • @Mad_S
    @Mad_S5 жыл бұрын

    As a kid I always worked with my stepdad. In his business I was to do exactly what he said when he said it. When I went to basic training at 18 I found it to be more relaxed and less threatening than my abusive step-dad and my abusive dad. So how the heck am I supposed to say "no" at work??

  • @xxxxxx6873
    @xxxxxx68735 жыл бұрын

    So good

  • @brittsade3713
    @brittsade37136 жыл бұрын

    Wow the beginning is so me.

  • @hebudileep6177
    @hebudileep61775 жыл бұрын

    What do u mean by learning how to adjust? I don't get it (can someone clear my doubt please?)

  • @cato451
    @cato4515 жыл бұрын

    Great advice. Want to be more successful fast: Delete all social media platforms now

  • @ShreeNation
    @ShreeNation6 жыл бұрын

    I love your channel!

  • @TheArtofImprovement

    @TheArtofImprovement

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much!

  • @ShreeNation

    @ShreeNation

    6 жыл бұрын

    The Art of Improvement Keep up the good work! Your content makes me feel like I'm becoming better every day :)

  • @ANTI4L

    @ANTI4L

    6 жыл бұрын

    Shree Nation me to check out the art aware on my media

  • @pratikjoshi7653
    @pratikjoshi76534 жыл бұрын

    Prefer action over perfection. Through action, perfection will happen eventually.

  • @garrettarm
    @garrettarm6 жыл бұрын

    I recently had an 'enlightenment'. I am also living in Seoul and I had been around here and Taiwan for the last 10 years. Giving away my time on drinking, language exchange, and privates. I hear you mention them in your video and it seems you hit the stage I'm at now before you took off like a rocket. Great job! Are you originally from Britain? Married? Living in Seoul? I ask about the married because now that I had the enlightenment, I have cut social ties about 90%. I'm curious as to whether or not you can balance both! Nice job bro.

  • @reefatbakht

    @reefatbakht

    6 жыл бұрын

    Can you explain what you mean? Do you regret your language exchange and time in Seoul and Taiwan or has it made you happier and more clear on what you want?

  • @sometimesreviewsandthinkin5056
    @sometimesreviewsandthinkin50566 жыл бұрын

    Its true

  • @rednarok
    @rednarok6 жыл бұрын

    Speed matters more than perfection... perfection matters more than perfection?

  • @NoahNobody
    @NoahNobody6 жыл бұрын

    I thought he said, I'm thinking about doing eggs, and I thought, hmmm...I never thew that was a thing.

  • @dmed312
    @dmed3126 жыл бұрын

    How did this show up on my phone?

  • @enricofriske1696

    @enricofriske1696

    6 жыл бұрын

    dmed I want an answer too. I did not subscribe but got a link on my phone...

  • @ANTI4L

    @ANTI4L

    6 жыл бұрын

    The universe wanted you to see this

  • @enricofriske1696

    @enricofriske1696

    6 жыл бұрын

    Hey universe listen: NO! Edit: Oh my God it understood, a big rainbow appeared infront of my window! Im out heading for the gold.

  • @faisalmemon4491

    @faisalmemon4491

    6 жыл бұрын

    dmed: You either subscribed to the channel previously or you've watched or subscribed to something similar and KZread has recommended to you.

  • @sometimesreviewsandthinkin5056

    @sometimesreviewsandthinkin5056

    6 жыл бұрын

    dmed was asking myself the same creeos me out

  • @kamalghimire4148
    @kamalghimire41486 жыл бұрын

    these sort of things sound good and may also provide short term energy but do you really consider things when you make decisions.. and anywys watever decision u make u cannot make mistake bcoz ur reality is just ur perception..and also I don't define warren buffet as successful, u know who is successful for me? its me..so don't be too serious in this short game and enjoy it at the moment..also don't give up anything coz u r the best version u...

  • @RangerSpecForDelta

    @RangerSpecForDelta

    5 жыл бұрын

    What?

  • @iseeyou28

    @iseeyou28

    5 жыл бұрын

    3HORN exactly!! Thought I had a stroke. -_-

  • @kamalghimire4148

    @kamalghimire4148

    5 жыл бұрын

    Crystal Clarke I had a seizure when I was writing...

  • @yvng4697
    @yvng46975 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @emanuel_soundtrack
    @emanuel_soundtrack5 жыл бұрын

    i think about watching this video. Ideas?

  • @aaabbb-pg2zk
    @aaabbb-pg2zk5 жыл бұрын

    song name ??

  • @JustHereToHear
    @JustHereToHear5 жыл бұрын

    I think I'm guilty on all accounts. Thanks for this video.

  • @mukundkaul1037
    @mukundkaul10375 жыл бұрын

    Good

  • @sometimesreviewsandthinkin5056
    @sometimesreviewsandthinkin50566 жыл бұрын

    Let people down rule no1 to have a good career

  • @digitt2
    @digitt26 жыл бұрын

    he also teaches a speed reading course with 10,0000 wpm

  • @jamesshaw6110

    @jamesshaw6110

    6 жыл бұрын

    That comma is in the wrong place and its really pissing me off.

  • @hostessmostesssmith4038

    @hostessmostesssmith4038

    6 жыл бұрын

    #changethecomma

  • @DaPoopIsInDaPudding

    @DaPoopIsInDaPudding

    6 жыл бұрын

    1,00,000,0,00,0000

  • @lovelycars1
    @lovelycars16 жыл бұрын

    I agree with this but have to digress on the matter of caring what others think. Others have to think we'll of you for your business to grow. If they don't you going no where. Others have to think we'll of the people they see me.with for my business to grow. If I'm seen with a crack head it's gonna put a dent on my reputation and could damage my career. So it's cool not to let people's opinions bother you but on the other hand peoples opinion can make or break you.

  • @dus10dnd
    @dus10dnd5 жыл бұрын

    Hmm.... numbers 1 and 3 seem contradictory. If you "learn how to adjust" you are "keeping your options open," essentially.

  • @mohit5496
    @mohit54965 жыл бұрын

    2:31 .. damn

  • @screenname8833
    @screenname88336 жыл бұрын

    With people's opinions and believs I totally agree sir They're like the weather That's why let it go other ear and don't give a fuck

  • @screenname8833

    @screenname8833

    6 жыл бұрын

    The problem is that scumbags manipulate stupid masses I think that the right to vote ought to depend on level of intelligence The smarter you are the more votes Like in corporations the the more stocks you own the more you got to say This is why I think that majority of people especially women and kids under 30 year of age should not vote

  • @DaPoopIsInDaPudding
    @DaPoopIsInDaPudding6 жыл бұрын

    2:34 usually. Two l’s.

  • @cedricvulliez1170
    @cedricvulliez11706 жыл бұрын

    I don't agree with the fact that high standards are a disguise for insecurities. Well, me and I guess many others, like Ed Mylett who said : “my reasons are bigger (than others) and so my standards are higher.” kzread.info/dash/bejne/oJVrtMiKZbGoc5s.html If you don’t have true high standards, it’s because you still haven’t found compelling reasons to have them.

  • @oneminutedaily6394
    @oneminutedaily63945 жыл бұрын

    Realtionship :(

  • @hikodzu
    @hikodzu3 жыл бұрын

    ミラージュ

  • @1982kinger
    @1982kinger5 жыл бұрын

    Whew! I was afraid you were going to say weed

  • @shaunmasi2185

    @shaunmasi2185

    5 жыл бұрын

    If you think it should've been there, then it's probably on YOUR list bro. P.S. I love you books, Stephen King

  • @shaunmasi2185
    @shaunmasi21855 жыл бұрын

    Video starts at 1:58

  • @xaviusamericus9561
    @xaviusamericus95615 жыл бұрын

    181 perfectionists disliked this video.

  • @amh5209
    @amh52095 жыл бұрын

    Well, learning to adjust aligns is kind of equal to keeping your options open. So the whole video is pointless..

  • @cetarbahana5843
    @cetarbahana58435 жыл бұрын

    Information overload Over judgement to other people

  • @dumbcat
    @dumbcat5 жыл бұрын

    no one wins at life. everyone dies at the end. this life is not about how well you do in the rat race, but how well you treat others and how well you treat the Creator

  • @LifeIsGood1992
    @LifeIsGood19925 жыл бұрын

    speed matters more than being perfect !

  • @davidwright5657
    @davidwright56576 жыл бұрын

    This isn't really helpful. I thought I was learning how to get wealthy. This is just a social studies class.

  • @scrateshooter
    @scrateshooter6 жыл бұрын

    MGTOW my friends, MGTOW. Disregard females, acquire salvation. 1 Corinthians 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.

  • @coreycox2345
    @coreycox23456 жыл бұрын

    This can be complicated when one relies on a form of psychic communication with someone famous.

  • @robertblak5790
    @robertblak57905 жыл бұрын

    2 point, just to correct Mr Buffet reads plenty of different newspapers in the morning and it doesn't crowd his head

  • @williamstudebaker2988
    @williamstudebaker29886 жыл бұрын

    Grow trees instead of careers...

  • @d1want34
    @d1want345 жыл бұрын

    ignorance is bliss??

  • @Beaut_Beau
    @Beaut_Beau6 жыл бұрын

    Mostly incorrect. Pretty pictures though.

  • @reefatbakht

    @reefatbakht

    6 жыл бұрын

    Beelzebubbles you got really upset mate chill

  • @CMTattoos
    @CMTattoos5 жыл бұрын

    if i want my brain crowded at least be crowded with jim rohn , spinoza, leibnitz,joshep murphy ,napoleon hills,maxwell, tesla, nevile godard and so many others titans . Then my brain has a crowded ideas party goodmorning to all