"Never get too attached to anyone, because one-sided expectations can destroy you"..

@kingsurgeme

10 ай бұрын

Yeah dear too much expectations n entitlement, blows ur life up in flames,many don't know that..then depression n heart break feelings sets in

@nyakatoviolet860

10 ай бұрын

True

@clarissaywy

10 ай бұрын

Learned this the hard way unfortunately ....

@lmusima3275

10 ай бұрын

A terrible weakness I used to have in my youth up until my early thirties. I’d meet guys who showed me a bit of attention and boom 💥 I’m smitten 🥰 only to have a bitter end 😢

@1718rr

10 ай бұрын

Whats a one sided expectation? Im curious

"Nobody is too busy to call or text you..." Mmm this sinks

@Violet-fg9db

2 ай бұрын

This make me think of me in my relationship with GOD 😢.

@joseaguayo7750

Ай бұрын

Facts nobody to busy to reply back everyone has cell phones 📲 no and days 😮

@user-wz4mb6yh1p

Ай бұрын

Narc

Intuition is the Holy Spirit 🙌

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@lorisaffier6927

9 ай бұрын

Intuition is not the Holy Spirit Discernment of Spirits is of the Holy Spirit .

@lonjemariesfashions5117

Ай бұрын

I agree

@Carynne6969

Ай бұрын

💯

I kept collecting flags. Now I'm chronically single and have a flag store 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@summoingenieduconsultssupp4143

Ай бұрын

Sometimes regflags are not what it seems to be. I believe I'm getting to know the person first. One can leave when certain.

@DusktilDawn-xq8rl

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@katleho-annkk8378

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@reneew5493

Ай бұрын

Flag store😅😅😅😅

@peaceshalom7566

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

If a man tells you that you’re lucky to have him, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. It’s all about them.

@SteveHarvey-cm7ep

10 ай бұрын

That is weird

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

As a man I doubt any man will say this to their woman.

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

​@@SteveHarvey-cm7epWeird to be honest.

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

You must be very rich and able to provide her everything in order to say that.

@evelynrobinson6134

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂.... yessssssssss... !!!

If you feel total peace around a man you found the one. My own experience ❤

@aleksandra50

5 ай бұрын

yeah I can tell it's true, he dumped me though, because he thought it was too calm to be good or real...

@trinjuwan4422

4 ай бұрын

Exactly...the last failed, toxic relationship I broke free from, I actually told him, "this is not going to work, I have NO PEACE"🙏🏽

@RachelsbestieisJace

3 ай бұрын

💯

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

He should feel the same way towards you as well

@lindaadalla2956

11 күн бұрын

Correct

5 Red Flags 1. Mismatched core values 2. Makes you feel butterflies 3. Moves too quickly 4. Inconsistent behavior patterns 5. Leads with negativity So I'm not crazy and difficult to please after all. 😂😂

@northshorelight35

10 ай бұрын

From experience, I noticed that men with these qualities always disappoint. They're not worth my time.

@d_sabotchway

10 ай бұрын

@@northshorelight35 absolutely 💯 ❤️

@idivas2991

10 ай бұрын

There are more signs that a man is low value and not worth your time. kzread.info/dash/bejne/dYyDzKaRm6WnlJs.html You can't fix these flaws ladies so throw him back.

@khanyibango4098

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this

@brittthecancerqueenempress9137

10 ай бұрын

They not at all I just know I ain’t crazy

"If you ignore the red flags, embrace the heartache to come"

@nyakatoviolet860

10 ай бұрын

Indeed

@lumity238

9 ай бұрын

Yep

@Khanyisile3

9 ай бұрын

So good

@vassarrose5035

9 ай бұрын

Yap

@JohnsonMichelle-gf1bg

8 ай бұрын

Yes

Some other red flags to watch out for is insecurities and possessive over you, anger problems, controlling, these can be signs of an abuser be careful ladies.

@DavidMalcolm-nm2gf

8 ай бұрын

I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

The same goes for women with those trais as well

@LystraLish

5 күн бұрын

Very true

Oldie but goodies - 1. Know your own worth! 2.Never make someone your priority when you are only their option😮

@junemedford3296

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@saraswathimenon3516

Ай бұрын

Spot on

@lauraspicks7114

23 күн бұрын

Right on ! Touche'

Nobody is ever too busy for anyone, golden rule of life, it applies to family members and even friends too

@sunflowers6172

Ай бұрын

Agree

"We often mistake fear for excitement."

@markharold2732

10 ай бұрын

Hello my lady

@Markszivwaersa

8 ай бұрын

But many out there’s don’t even know that

@Markszivwaersa

8 ай бұрын

Or should I say they don’t know when nd how the 2 looks like A lot of red flags tho 😢 Many lost

@IsraelThomas-ck9kq

8 ай бұрын

Hello Elisa

@isahwosila546

8 ай бұрын

Can we be friends

The issue with narcissistic people is that they are very good actors and can be very cunning. You won't know who you have in bed with you until they have you locked by marriage or kids. I think the main important take away is that at ANY moment in you relationship (doesn't matter what stage you are at), if you feel fear, like you are walking on egg shells, can't express yourself clearly and can't seem to rely on your partner, you need to leave. If abuse of any kind is involved, that is a definite 'LEAVE'.

@ebbyc1817

10 ай бұрын

I think narcissistic people always reveal themselves, we just choose to see what we want to see. We tell ourselves a story, instead of living in reality. If a person never asks about you, don't say, oh but they're so funny, without taking note of the fact that they literally couldn't care less who you are as a person, you are interchangeable with anybody else.. Even little things like, not addressing you by name, in a situation where you would expect to be called by name, these are signs..

@ram47863

10 ай бұрын

​​​@@ebbyc1817ut they only revealed themselves after you marry them or having a kid And you already wasted a lot of time with them

@healthmintraa4320

10 ай бұрын

Agree totally narcos cover themselves well

@littlerooms1947

9 ай бұрын

They’re never genuine so it’s not hard to read them very early on tbh

@noemisolano4748

9 ай бұрын

@ue2267 you are exactly right!! My husband was a good actor!! Later on in our relationship awhile after we were married that's when his narcissist self came out!! I was like what the heck happened! I said time to go. Alot of times narcissist people don't show there true colors until later on in the relationship.

My dad always told me and my sister.....Always listen to yoir inner voice because your first reaction is usually the correct one

I think it goes deeper than this. The bottom line is this: whatever you subconsciously believe yourself to be, is who you are and those are the vibes you give off. You will then attract (and/or be attracted to) the person who needs someone like you. You both will be attracted to each other. So, if you are insecure and believe you are inferior in some way, you’ll attract the partner who needs someone like you in order to feel good about themself. If you believe you’re unsteady, or not in control somehow, you’ll attract someone who will take control (and therefore needs someone like you). This is exactly why people keep going through the same relationship patterns and issues. They’re not doing the work and fixing themselves first. You’re insecure and will be attracted to the person who showers you with the attention you crave and will overlook and make excuses about the control tendencies, the verbal hits, or whatever negative characteristics are clearly shown. You need to search yourself and clear up your subconscious baggage first before you go looking for relationship. The subconscious mind is so powerful. It’s running about 95% of your actions. There’s so much more going on…

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

Nobody reply means nobody read your comment including me.

@elainekfullbright5019

10 ай бұрын

I read your message.. Need to heal ourselves 1st

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

@@elainekfullbright5019 Are you saying that just because I said no one reads the comment.

@shalanathomas7751

10 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@shalanathomas7751

10 ай бұрын

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he!

A great partner for you is: Kind, loyal, generous, and make you feel save, he makes you his priority! You are not being difficult, he is just Not the man for you.

@lukebryan-gr9vv

8 ай бұрын

I'm looking for a serious relationship

@lukebryan-gr9vv

8 ай бұрын

If you be what me

I don't agree with the 'butterflies' thing being a red flag. 12 yeears after meeting my then-0husband (now deceased) I still had butterflies every time he entered the room. He was a wonderful, kind, funny, intelligent, totally amazing person.

@hohuy1469

10 ай бұрын

I think what she meant butterflies in the video is a man gives a woman anxiety about what he does, like he hangs out often with other girl, commits dangerous action, violates the law, wastes money non stop...all of that makes woman feel unsafe and can not have a stable relationship

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

So what happened?

@taras6806

10 ай бұрын

@@hohuy1469 I don't think that is what she meant. Butterflies is a positive not scary feeling.

@taras6806

10 ай бұрын

@@YourHighness8888 to/in relation to what?

@YourHighness8888

10 ай бұрын

@@taras6806 Take it to the grave.

The first girl is a walking red flag. In her list of "dream man" she never said kind, humble, or generous but instead started with he has to be over 6ft tall. This is the problem when you go for attraction only. You know what attraction does...it gets you a baby without ever marrying the person.

@ellesaa8290

10 ай бұрын

She confused chemistry with compatibility. Also she wants him a bit bad…street translated bad boy player very attractive to be hers only. Chances are someone like that this would not be her match and she will keep going for the wrong one because that’s her type. You can tell by the way she listened and her facial reactions that she’s been through a lot with this type of individuals.

@matildamaher1505

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

@carorine_ug

9 ай бұрын

😂

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@AlexWebb75

9 ай бұрын

You have a very beautiful smile on your profile 😊

Nobody is tooo busy to call or to text you or to send a VOICE NOTE!!!! Great clip 👌 👍 👏 ❤

When they are nice to you one day, and mean and hurtful the next, and it constantly goes on.

If people show you their red flags 🚩 show them your white flag🏳and moved on..

@kingsurgeme

10 ай бұрын

Haha white flag what dose that mean enlighten me dear 😊.sound funny n sneaky 😆😆

@ebbyc1817

10 ай бұрын

😄

@monarene44

10 ай бұрын

@@kingsurgeme. White flag means :”I give up”. “Im outta here bro”

@kingsurgeme

10 ай бұрын

@@monarene44 ok what of the red sweetie 🤔🤷🏽‍♂️

@monarene44

10 ай бұрын

@@kingsurgeme Red flag means danger/warning/proceed with extreme caution.

I cant change a man but by god I can change myself.

@DavidMalcolm-nm2gf

8 ай бұрын

I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi

My first 2 questions now going forward are….”are you a Christian?” Do you drink or smoke?!” Any of those I am running away! I’ve been married for 18 years to an alcoholic/narc. I’m so done with demonic people.

@aleciawimer8506

21 күн бұрын

Profession does not equal possession. By their fruits, ye shall know them-not what they say.

I believe it - 90 days is all it takes 😅 the real them comes out… I have been practicing it for a year now. I learn to enjoy, observe and not to be attach with the outcome. I am much happier now 😅 and will patiently waiting for the one who fits with my core values and lifestyle.

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@BartsozMarek

9 ай бұрын

You've got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

@IsraelThomas-ck9kq

8 ай бұрын

Hello Kaycee How are you

@RichardJack-bk8sk

8 ай бұрын

Of course,and I also need a true and good woman in my life

@ThomasSmith-le3te

8 ай бұрын

Life style you mean your way of spending right because that's all I could see as you life style.

I know a guy who use to skip lunch so he could buy phone cards to call his wife. That is love.

Once upon a time I met someone who was good on paper, tall, dark, handsome, grand career... but they were a HUGE narcissist; haughty, lacking empathy, only saw others as extensions of themselves, entitled, etc. After a period of "love bombing" they went cold, were all about themselves.... then cheated. Now I'm happily married to someone who is kind, selfless, compromising and I feel safe with them. My ex was like a faberge egg; shiny, eye catching and attractive on the outside, hollow and worthless on the inside.

"Never get too attached to anyone, because one-sided expectations can destroy

Just a reminder also that you might feel butterflies and anxiety when you meet a good guy too because its something you are not used to

@ram47863

10 ай бұрын

The difference is you feel more calm and feel at home when you meet the right person, you can be yourself around him Yes you get butterfly but it's different feeling If you always feel anxiety and always feel not good enough for him, it's red flag

@jesuisvanessawilkerson7011

9 ай бұрын

True

@Philexclusive

9 ай бұрын

Can I know you more?

@jayebby7599

8 ай бұрын

Exactly

@jayebby7599

8 ай бұрын

Those narcissists. Disgusting.

Thank you! I had a date with a man a few weeks ago and I was thinking "he's great but I don't feel the butterflies". I kept going out with him and it turns out he's an amazing person and just how I need a man to be. I'm so glad I didn't need this feeling anymore ❤

@peaceshalom7566

Ай бұрын

Enjoy bb

@jonsnow3521

28 күн бұрын

wanting butterflies is a childish desire, no offence, because it never lasts & with familiarity will become boring, which is why 80% of divorces r triggered by women who become 'bored'.

Totally my last ex. He was a narcissist. Ended horribly. Wish I knew all of this before.

I disagree about the butterflies. Butterflies just means you're nervous because there's immediate attraction. I'm sure plenty of people who've felt this have gone on to get married.

@JFheart

9 ай бұрын

Butterflies means , lot of womes hehe

@DraconiInfernalus

8 ай бұрын

Yes, red flags definitely doesn't feel like butterflies at all. Something entirely different.

@carmengooden4162

4 ай бұрын

Agreed, butterflies and intuition do not feel the same.

I LUV the way Steve educates while being humorous.

There is one red flag that was never mentioned. You might not see this on the first date, but one thing you really need to watch out for is his relationship with his family. Does he have a good relationship with his mother with his father? If his relationship was questionable with his parents, then what has he done to make himself better? A boy needs a father figure to make him a man. He also needs a mother figure to learn how to be gentle and care for a woman. If he doesn’t have that then maybe that’s an orange flag or something to watch out for.

@taras6806

10 ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more. Also whether he has some good solid friendships in his life.

@idarabassey7455

10 ай бұрын

you are SO right- my spiritual mentor told me one of the first things I should find out about a guy is his relationship with his family- his father in particular. If it's nonexistent or hanging for a thread find your way to the exit ASAP because he had no role model to teach him how to treat a woman well.

@ebbyc1817

10 ай бұрын

I would say his relationship with his mother is more important, because that's exactly how he'll treat you, also watch out for men who "idolise" their mothers, or you will spend your whole life competing. You want a man that is going to be on your side, 100%, no matter who is on the other side. Same advice goes for women who don't have great relationships with their families..., if you grew up without your father, fix your daddy issues before you date the next guy, or you will end up with consistently unavailable men, just like your father was.

@healthmintraa4320

10 ай бұрын

​@@ebbyc1817that's so true...

@olivekarungimarie9847

9 ай бұрын

So boys/ men raised by single parents is a no for you!!

Never go back to a man who tells you that your are too much cuz you put him in his place

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

You shouldnt tell a man that he is too much either than

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

You shouldnt tell a man that he is too much either than otherwise he has all the rights to put you in your place too

Love that line “ Throw back to the pond”😂

@markharold2732

10 ай бұрын

Hello how are you

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰

So true. A lot of men who are boys ..just want fun! and when you say no.. they don’t respect you just the same! thank you Steve and bela ❤

@JohnMackenzie-sy1oq

9 ай бұрын

👌

@TalithaJane-uj7vg

8 ай бұрын

❤

When I met my boyfriend, we went out four days in a row and quite often after that and he told me he wanted us to be exclusive. That was over a year and a half ago and we’re still together. Sometimes when you meet someone you can tell that you have a connection so it’s not necessarily a bad thing to see them a lot in the beginning.

@planetChristie

9 ай бұрын

Exactly! It’s just best to let the man lead and don’t include him in your plans unless he include you in his. Everyone situation is different!

@sharisss2608

9 ай бұрын

But also that means you are the exception she is talking about the rule and most women don’t have the time or luxury to have to go through the obstacles that comes with being the rule and not the exception.

@Philexclusive

9 ай бұрын

I wish I met you earlier before him

@MHACULAYArtistry

8 ай бұрын

Exception VS. Rule This is basic common sense

@nom278

8 ай бұрын

My dear come back and tell me how you guys are after 10 years 2 kids and a mortgage.

If you drink you won't know how to get along with them sober or visa versa make sure you get along with them both ways or no drinking

Moves too quickly is 3 red flags by itself 😂

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Butterflies are normal. It doesn't mean its a red flag in a person. Its just an initial excitement. Just make sure to keep taking it slow. Excitement is ok though. She is actually talking about ANXIETY or an inner and natural alarm going off inside that feels like something is off. There is a major difference in the feeling between the two. Granted, someone with unaddressed trauma might have problems differentiating between the two. The other red flags were great advice.

@laurawalker546

10 ай бұрын

Very true.

@DraconiInfernalus

8 ай бұрын

Red flags left you irritated, confused, questioning everything, overthinking...most of time

@BridgetGold

8 ай бұрын

I really like your armor of thinking,and I'll like to know you more better.

@SavanNaah-gn8wm

5 ай бұрын

Sure

@MarkusSommer-qq9ql

5 ай бұрын

😂Yeah you right

I firmly believe that you cannot change a person. I have found that some personal changes in yourself can encourage change in your partner, depending on what it is.

@forbes4007

10 ай бұрын

Isn’t this contradictory?

@tarab7746

10 ай бұрын

​@@forbes4007all relationships are a push and pull. Not necessarily in a negative sense, but it's about making compromises, even within yourself. You cannot force change on someone else, without extensive abuse. They have to be the ones to realize, and do the change themselves. For example, your partner refuses to communicate with you, so you decide to withdraw yourself emotionally, instead of feeding into the lack of reliability. You preserve your own self reliability, self care. Hopefully they will follow, and if they continue to ignore your needs, you will be able to leave stronger for it.

@mikayugu316

9 ай бұрын

@@tarab7746 i agree with your take about change. and it started to help me deal with people in general.

@roselina1880

9 ай бұрын

You are right

@BernardHoward-ye2tu

8 ай бұрын

I really believe that you cannot change a person the person has to change for the friendship or relationship to work out if truly they love you and wants both you to be happy in the relationship you guys signed up for and not make you have regrets of deciding to with him or her , that's why it's also good to discuss how you both feel in a relationship communication matters alot in a relationship

How very very true, wish I heard all this sbout60 years ago ...my life would have been ssssooo much BETTER. I'm 80 now n feel like I'm learning life all over again ...but this time I'm getting the Right answers !!! Thank you Steve LOVEYA 💞

@Philexclusive

9 ай бұрын

I can still give you the care you want cause age is just a number.

@sameniro12

8 ай бұрын

I like it

@davidgandy8777

8 ай бұрын

Can I come into your life

@IsraelThomas-ck9kq

8 ай бұрын

Hello Kasha How are you doing

@kisskiess

8 ай бұрын

I’m waiting for a right man ❤

Steve you doent need no expert on giving advice to women. You are the expert. You have always given good advice to women about men.

all the same apply when anyone dates anyone...not just a woman assessing a man. this is universal.

@AmeliaCampbellArthur

9 ай бұрын

Vice versa

#2 is right on point. I always thought having butterflies every time I saw them after years was a good thing. Only until afterwards I realized they always gave me horrendous anxiety.

To expect that others should make me happy......doesn't work. I have to feel happy First and then others reflect that. It all starts with me😊nothing to change out there. What a freedom.

@DavidMalcolm-nm2gf

8 ай бұрын

Hey How are you doing?

First red flag: He's gotta be tall. TALL?????? How does that enrich your life?

@markharold2732

10 ай бұрын

Hello my lady how are you

@tabithadefour14

10 ай бұрын

True dat! I've got a 6'5" that stuck with me from day one fast and furious to get married. Needless to say I take care of myself and all he does is nothing. My red flag is now burnt to a crisp.

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@vitallylubin5411

6 ай бұрын

…basically Snoop Dog or this guy who was handsome of a serial killer fits her portray

@HendersonThynne

5 ай бұрын

😂😂 I agree maybe it’s keeps the relationship TALL

4;40 I once had that experience I mistook the danger for butterflies I knew something was wrong but I stayed , however I’m glad at some point I found the courage to leave before things got worse .

This is what I am praying 🙏 for. I believe God will bless me when the time is right.

@OmoniyiAbdulsamad-zu3ee

6 ай бұрын

Hi baby

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤

In today’s world, it would simply be best to work on SELF. Do not look for happiness and/or stability in anyone else but yourself. Do not admit anyone to your life who isnt able to add to it ( not complete it, not subtract from it and not MaKE your life something you haven’t made it already). You need to make your life what you want it to be. Once you do that, you will attract EVERYTHING . Then you can pick who to admit, but you probably will see how f’d up most people are and decide to remain single and in peace! Good luck!

Never trust anyone 100% which means don’t ever get attached to anyone in a way you can’t unattach yourself should you ever need to. I’ve seen so many legally attached couples end up miserable, and ones who weren’t stay together just as long and when they wanted to part ways it was as friends not with hostility

@lumity238

9 ай бұрын

I'm too attached now to this emotional child man and I don't know how to let him go. 😢

@LydiaSmith-yx5jc

6 ай бұрын

Hello

@SavvyRose-rk6zz

6 ай бұрын

Hi handsome

@MarkRockwell-fw4qj

3 ай бұрын

😊😊😊

The inconsistent type of stuff is my major one I keep seeing. But she mentioned something good... Communicate it to him and speak about it first and then if he doesn't live up to his end, peace

The irony of my mom sending me this video knowing damn well that she and her crappy decision to not protect me from abusers growing up and teaching me to seek out these exact toxic relationships is immense

@simonegrobler3513

10 ай бұрын

My mom does this too but she is the narcissistic abuser. She is just incapable of self reflection 😢

@XOXOX4242

10 ай бұрын

I can relate to you both. Sometimes its difficult to find forgiveness for her. But I try to remember that hurt people hurt people and she was too wounded to see the harm she inflicted and not aware enough to self reflect and work on changing. It's still tough tho!

@Rebecca-fb8hg

9 ай бұрын

What did you reply to her sending it to you? Sorry to read of your abuse 💞💫

@farahnaaz78

9 ай бұрын

Now you are the Adult. You be the change

@hottymanhollybey5721

9 ай бұрын

It's understandable to feel frustrated and hurt when our parents don't provide us with the support and guidance we need to form healthy relationships. However, it's also important to remember that we can't change the past, and dwelling on it can prevent us from moving forward. It may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or support group to work through any unresolved feelings related to past traumas or toxic relationships. Ultimately, it's up to us to take responsibility for our own healing and growth, even if it means breaking patterns from our past.

This advice is spot on! You see who they are in 90 days for sure

@markharold2732

10 ай бұрын

Hello my lady

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

Your intuition does not work if you have CPTSD. It’s actually your enemy until you heal.

Red flags: 1.Not being responsible in that relationship. 2.Not providing anything for each other (financially). 3.Lieing character (Cheating). 4.Not being loving & caring.

Speak the truth, brother Steve! I SAW the red flags, but was trained to ignore them. "Butterflies" are kinda funny; not sure which of my organs is responding, and which ones I should listen to. Obsessive is scary. I now know what being "love bombed" means. Dodgy. Yes; too busy or EVASIVE in his answers. I don't demand an explanation. I just stop getting in contact with him. He's not a "mystery" he is being deceptive. OH number five. I went on a date with a perfectly attractive man who spent the whole time talking about who and what he hated. It was a short date. He kept demanding an explanation for WHY I didn't want a second date. *sigh* "You are too full of hate." "What the hell does THAT mean?" *click* Blocked. I want a man who loves what he does, and does what he loves. An honest man; one who understands being human. And who values love and humanity. Is CONSISTANT with what he relays to me. No "fixer uppers". A man who is actually complete in and of himself, and does not NEED me. Hateful, racist, phobic, small-minded comments turn me cold immediately and permanently. I'm learning.

@markharold2732

10 ай бұрын

Hello my lady how are you

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@BartsozMarek

9 ай бұрын

Outstanding characteristic excellence with parts of enormous charm and wonderful gorgeousness.

@ThomasSmith-le3te

8 ай бұрын

Well I can't be such man and I won't say too that there are men as perfect as you want. Sure I had been reading through your comment and stories just getting a little interesting in hearing them. Well in this life you can't force a person just try and find his wrongs and try and know his likes because you can't expect such person to also love you too. Sure every one comes from a separative home not every one are born by same parents. or even brought up by same parents too. So there are also a different in characters too and that is all for now.

@ThomasSmith-le3te

8 ай бұрын

@Valkyrie1066

So true no one is too busy to spend time with you or send you a text message no one.

@nightlady2001

Ай бұрын

Not if you are a priority for them

My ex's first thing to do was to keep control over me. No hanging out with friends, trying to keep me from my family, almost every single place he went i had to be there with him, unless he wanted to hangout with his friends then I had to stay home and wait around until he decided to come home. When I got tired of being controlled he saw his power was gone. He tried to turn everything bad in our relationship on me. Now he's off doing this to someone else.

@AsinyoWisdom

5 ай бұрын

Hello sweetheart 😊

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤

@SusanMarshall-uf6wd

4 ай бұрын

@@AsinyoWisdom❤

Love you Steve. So glad judge Steve is back. You bring such Joy to my day. Youre So funny

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

❤❤❤❤Yes I needed this video. This video was confirmation for me that intuition is real. Those "butterflies" when you feel anxious before a date or even during or after the date. Then you get a redflag. You know for sure its not the one. I was dating an ex a couple of years ago in 2021 we tried to rekindle it. About 3 hours before the date I remember having crazy stomach pain and anxiety. When I should have felt calm, more excited, and happy. I felt this feeling of doom. Needless to say I was right we dated a few months but it ended cause I had to learn acceptance and that my intuition is 100 percent right. He was not my person. Maybe he could have been at the time we 1st dated but then later all was revealed he wouldn't be with me. Another 2 gentlemen i dated or have interests in same similar situation. However I took a different approach. I took more control, I let some friends weigh in, and also didn't ignore any redflags. I knew my person wouldn't make me feel insufficient, like I wasn't good enough, or an after thought. I realized I have to take control, speak my mind, and really listen to my intuition. If someone is direct in their approach and has a vision of you and only you. Then that's your person. If there are missteps, moving too quickly and comparisons to other people. Negative comments towards you, they curse at you, yell at you, you're arguing constantly in the beginning of dating. Leave this is a sign you are not supposed to be with them. They don't make time at all I mean not even an effort or no plans for you period. Leave. This is not the person for you. Your person will see you as their greatest investment and will clear their schedule for you. Sometimes we have to go through these situations to grasp the lesson because someone amazing is coming into our path. The universe is preparing you for greatness they want to make sure did you remember the lesson to get to the blessing. 😊

@jazzblakk69

10 ай бұрын

That was beautiful and well said! ❤❤❤

@carollynch4710

10 ай бұрын

You certainly got it right. It could not have been said any better.

@annieanderson4952

9 ай бұрын

I am so glad I seen this video it has really show me a message I was alone for 17years and I been back dating for 3months but it is beginning to feel strange I think he's not into me lately

@williamsrockett9163

9 ай бұрын

Hello Beautiful, How are you doing? You sure have a nice smile 😊

@IsraelThomas-ck9kq

8 ай бұрын

Hi

So true, why do we forget the basics

Thanks for the reminders, Steve! 🎉😂❤

I think each of us has our own list that is what we see in the other person when we begin our attraction however it is during the romantic phase when everybody's putting on their best foot forward after you become comfortable with someone & become emotionally attached that is when the true colors fly out on both sides. I had 2 men that were the most passionate lovers that were Attractive but not a pretty kind of attractive and they had A hint of bad boy to them cigarette smoking drinking kind of edge.... Once I was emotionally attached to them it took probably a year maybe even 9 months ish Little hints or red flags would show up..... A push, pulling my arm tightly and holding on to it, Yelling into my face, Talking down to me like I was stupid.... Things like that are the beginning of abuse... It doesn't have to be a full on slap, punch, throw down to the floor, spit in the face, choke or kick..... The thing is by the has built up a trust he has lured you in to emotional connection almost abandoned and you play the I'm sorry I forgive you it'll never happen again scenario and that can go on for the next Year or 2.... By then you've probably become pregnant and there are kids involved and now you are pretty dependent upon this person and they have twisted you up inside and around their finger in a way that has already affected yourself worth to your self.... It would be nice to say that up there's a red flag I'm out of here however emotions and sex and even a financial dependence can affect how you think and end up staying longer than You would have liked to.... Many times women will stay longer because they may be used to that type of enviolent or used to be treated that way and it in a sick way is comfortable to them even though they don't like it and don't want it to happen in a way it's what they know that was embedded in them may be from earlier years...... My brain is quite skewed because I feel My brain is quite skewed because I see men who are very passionate and who May put me on a pedestal And become jealous easily I feel that's kind of alpha male and in some odd way that's attractive to me.... It took me many years and relationships to see myself as the common denominator and I know for me areas that are not gonna change because I know me I'm not gonna put in the work to try and change my views because they're very embedded in me.... I stop dating men when I turned 40 And I've been single every since I'm 60 now and I've never been more relaxed peaceful and more confident in my life. I learned I don't need a man to complete me, I don't need a man in my life As a result I don't want to go down that road again so..... I think we have to go through our share of relationships or stay in a relationship for decades and be miserable That is each of our individual choices.... I can say from experience that living on your own people say aren't you lonely I'm like no I'm alone I'm not lonely they are different.... Stay busy and do what you enjoy and you will find great fulfillment in that❤

@V.Z.Perfrement

4 ай бұрын

Beautifully stated. There is peace in being single. I survived abusive relationships and I am grateful for my freedom. I would recommend young women ignore men and concentrate on a career. Being independent is very important and having a career gives you the option to walk away if the guy becomes abusive

I wish Steve Harvey was the Dad I never had. He’s got it all figured out ❤

😂😂😂I love love LOVE THIS!!!! Red flag #2 is fire🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

This applies to Men and Women.

@JohnMackenzie-sy1oq

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely 👌

@AmeliaCampbellArthur

9 ай бұрын

Exactly, both sex

@BridgetGold

8 ай бұрын

You're a good listener

@kisskiess

8 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@SavvyRose-rk6zz

6 ай бұрын

Hi handsome

I would never take an advice from a man who been married multiple times. My parents been married for 30-40 years . This is the type of relationship I love seeing.

@micheledantzie8749

8 ай бұрын

It’s a blessing that your parents have long loving marriage, but remember in some cases years don’t equal happiness. Rather than saying you’d never take advise from a man who’s been married multiple times, how about thinking about it like this…he made mistakes like we all do and just maybe he wasn’t armed with the information he has today and has learnt so much more now. Otherwise you could be missing out on his experience of not what to do!

@lanigirl01

6 ай бұрын

I agree. And idk not on aww of these women either.

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

Yet you will take advice from a woman who has been married multiple times

After 20 years of my mistakes, today, I still want a man. But this time, only with a man who would like to walk with him. We are each others rocks but so far I haven’t met such person. I just need someone who likes to walk with me. But not using me to advance their successes.

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Wow, just learned this after 25 plus years of marriage; When I met my husband still today I always wanted to understand that butterflies feelings. Thank you.

To also add, no one will be perfect . Everyone has past trauma, odd parents, debt to pay, have a few extra pounds to work off. Be kind to yourself and give people a chance 💗

Ladies, my abusive ex fit all the criteria. -Naivety was to blame. If it hits your gut with a question, don’t try to answer it, just trust yourself! I brushed up on some serious skill set and boundaries since then, and it has saved me. You can do it too! Once you see or sense the red flags, you can’t unsee them…like a flashlight beaming in your eyes.💗

@williamsrockett9163

9 ай бұрын

Hello Beautiful, How are you doing? You sure have a nice smile 😊

@williamsrockett9163

9 ай бұрын

Sorry for trying to message you here but i just can’t get over your beautiful smile, can we get to know more about each other if you don’t mind

@BlaineBrandon-qv3js

9 ай бұрын

​@@ruthiespotionhi Ruth

@BartsozMarek

9 ай бұрын

You've got such a charming grin that indeed God gives you each chance to smile.

@FAVOURSHOWOLE-ny5ym

8 ай бұрын

@@ruthiespotionYou’re wonderful dear don’t let anyone let you down and everything will be alright stay strong

Honestly unless you have worked on yourself and know exactly what you want you will never find what you are looking for..

@boschwilliam17

Ай бұрын

True because it's all about self awareness in knowing what you want ❤

thank you.. u have always been one of my favorites steve..

Honesty and loyalty.

June 17th was the worst night I’ve ever had, my husband ended up abusing me and telling me to get out of HIS house. This has traumatized me for the rest of my life. Long story short, I should have never went on a sec date with him, I was blindsided, he’s a master manipulator and a narcissist. I didn’t see bc that’s how good he is, I beat myself up about it, but now I know what signs to look out for!

@innocent4733

8 ай бұрын

Sad 😔! But keep going on 💪🏻 u will have much more happiness in future

@kaleyjaid

8 ай бұрын

@@innocent4733 thank you so much!! I’m hopeful!

@innocent4733

8 ай бұрын

@@kaleyjaid that's good ,how u living now ?

@kaleyjaid

8 ай бұрын

@@innocent4733 I am getting stronger as each day passes!

If I get butterflies and anxiety, I get rid of him because I know it's not normal. I actually broke up with a guy because I kept having unfounded longing feelings when under normal circumstances he is not my type.

@laurawalker546

10 ай бұрын

Could you explain that more? Were you afraid of obsession instead of it being love?

@girlygirl1890

10 ай бұрын

@laurawalker546 unfounded longing feelings...I'm sorry, but what does that mean. Wow...that was confusing (lol). ...sorry.

@laurawalker546

10 ай бұрын

@girlygirl1890 I didn't write that comment but I am guessing that person is saying her feelings were over the top for the situation and it somehow felt wrong, like it was going to be something turning toxic. I am not sure

@girlygirl1890

10 ай бұрын

@@laurawalker546 Oops. Yep, I mistakenly put your name in my reply sentence. Thanks bunches for letting me know.🤣🤣

Resigning from the flag team. Not stuffing any more flags in these pockets. 😅

Needed this 9 months ago and now I will do what I gotta do

The butterfly's thing is BS! My husband still gives me butterflies everyday. He is an amazing man in everyway!

@doglover9902

10 ай бұрын

I think there is a difference between butterflies and anxiety feelings in our bodies. Hard to eat and focus on anything.

@tnkwwc

10 ай бұрын

I agree with you and said the same thing. She needs to change that to a fearful anxiety not butterflies. Cause butterflies are that sweet feeling you feel when you see or talk to that person ❤

@coriemmett1363

10 ай бұрын

Agreed!

@lorikeizer7380

9 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish between the two

@tnkwwc

8 ай бұрын

@@MsRocksa I guess I can only speak for me, when I’m falling for someone or like them a lot, I get the nice butterflies 🦋 in my stomach. It’s not a sick or anxious feeling. It’s something quite different.

At 65, I met the sexiest man I've ever known. My ego allowed me to ignore that he lives with a girlfriend, and was just using me. Took 3 1/2 years for me to wake up...and go no contact. Hardest thing. But the best thing.

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

@LewisRick-sc7jj

9 ай бұрын

Hello beautiful

@LewisRick-sc7jj

9 ай бұрын

Where are you from

@WangWei-bf7pr

6 ай бұрын

Indeed it hurt I am so sorry

@heidicrimmings9615

6 ай бұрын

@@WangWei-bf7pr 🌷🌷🌷

Thank you for sharing this.

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Great video and great advice, thank you so much🙏

So, this guy that I've been noticing for a couple of months came around to asking me for my number. I consulted with God before conversating with him. In my mind I got the word "friend". I think my instincts were telling me that he's good enough to be a friend. Anyway, long story short, I finally text him after two weeks to see what's up. We haven't even gone on a date yet and he said I love you! I absolutely found this strange. I wanted to say this is Love bombing but he doesn't text me enough to call it love-bombing. He let me know he was interested but then he pulled back. My Spidey senses are telling me that he has someone in his life who cares for him. I wouldn't want to get in between anything. He's definitely friend-zoned.

@AmeliaCampbellArthur

9 ай бұрын

Though, not the way you thought, it might be

@SavvyRose-rk6zz

6 ай бұрын

Hi handsome, I will like to more about you

I think sometime having Butterflies is ok.

@Olcool

10 ай бұрын

and now they are saying its not Ok. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@girlygirl1890

10 ай бұрын

@donnabanks yes, I agree. I think that's the only thing she got WRONG in the segment. Everything else was spot on. Orrrr maybe, she should have said something like "sexual butterflies, or something like that (lol) Maybe wouldve made more sense. (???)😂😂🤣🤣

Thank you, Steve!! You have helped me so much!! I wish I could meet you and share my story with you.

@IsraelThomas-ck9kq

8 ай бұрын

Hello Tammy How are you

WOW. Thank you for this message

@MagnusKendrick

9 ай бұрын

Hello gorgeous lady I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi 👋

That butterfly feeling is sooo true!!! Every unsuccessful relationship I have had I always had those butterflies on date one

@amaal1

8 ай бұрын

I wish knew this 😢

@KaylaFox-ku2qn

8 ай бұрын

I can give you butterflies all the time 🤗

@haleynic

7 ай бұрын

True

@haleynic

7 ай бұрын

Like it is okay to be excited and feel excitement, but the butterflies are a red flag.

Been married for 5 years, now he wants to stay out all night and keep quitting his job. Says he need some me time. Can't take it anymore. I'm working 2 jobs to pay household's bills.

@sunflowers6172

Ай бұрын

Run. Get out or kick him out. My husband just did the same thing. I need space. Do he got an apartment.

@nightlady2001

Ай бұрын

Exactly. Give him what he deserves. ALL the me time because you won't be wasting anymore of YOUR time on him

Love you so bad Steve. I have been a happily divorced woman who has been single the last 9 years. Prior to this I was in one dysfunctional relationship after the next. I literally though they had a crazy man club. This peace I feel is so wonderful but it took a great deal of faith in God. I am a woman and a child of God and deserve the very best.

Very profound video.... I'm somewhere in between and this video it's just confirmation that my decision is the right.❤ thank you so much

This so true. Pay attention to the signs and your gut feelings.

@DavidMalcolm-nm2gf

8 ай бұрын

I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi

Seems like these are easily applicable to red flags for women too

YIP YIP YIP AND YIP AGAIN! And I am only now at 64, discovering the silly things I've believed in Men. Thank you for this ❤

@Dipsy-27

8 ай бұрын

Hey… you actually correct and if you don’t mind can we get along

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Amen to all the red flags, thank you

I needed this YEARS AGO!! Glad to have it now… My Ex and I had a 6 HOUR long first date as well which turned into a 6 YEAR long emotional abusive relationship and I’m now attempting to parallel parent with his NARCISSISTIC traits.

@tiffanymatsvai

9 ай бұрын

Aww I’m so sorry you had to go through this ❤. I know there is someone out there who will show you that you are worth loving the healthy way🥰

@quicaproductions140

8 ай бұрын

I have been through a lot too I know oneday I will find true love

@coribrain789

5 ай бұрын

Wassup pretty ❤

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

​@@tiffanymatsvaiyou so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰

@Macrorobinson

5 ай бұрын

​@@quicaproductions140you so gorgeous and beautiful like the morning star shining as bright as the diamonds 💎 🥰🥰🥰🥰 wanna get close to you 🥰🥰🥰🥰

I gave up. Liars. Cheaters. Opportunists. Too much hassle. The one about making you a priority is the best as you could call. If you’re not a priority your nowhere. It doesn’t work. Never again I’d rather be without as put up with all the stress. For what.

my intuition tells me all.Thank you so much

wow! great lessons here. Thank you Steve and Bela

Definitely narcissistic, when they want to see you the following day and every following day after that or....when they call/text too often. And you're right about inconsistency. I don't understand guys these days. They're not consistent anymore. I'm 44, and I date guys around my age. The older they get the more immature and inconsistent they become. Most guys!

@ThomasSmith-le3te

8 ай бұрын

Okay that's really great to hear such there are thing that are left unsaid so you don't get shattered during the process. That come in form of lack of trust.

@WangWei-bf7pr

6 ай бұрын

The older they become the more immature and inconsistent 😮lol I kinda disagree sweetheart 😊 Do you mind if we talk about this topic?

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

Same goes for women who do this than

@BeautyQueen2023X

Ай бұрын

Plus some women are immature and inconsent as well