1. What your love language is? 2. Where do you see in 5 years from now? 3. What you can stand in your life? 4. What is your financially status now? 5. What is your greatest passion and joy? Amen.....

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

👍

@mariapap8962

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I really appreciate Jonathon's videos but i often don't have the time to watch an hour-long video, with the usual repetitions etc. Eventhough, other people have pointed that out, there doesn't seem to be any changes.

@Honeycombe88

2 жыл бұрын

A man wouldn't ask what my "love language" is. No man I've ever known talks that way or would even know what "love language" is referring to. As for "What you can stand in your life?," what does that mean? What you can stand....hmmm. Nope...I don't know what that means. Men I've known have asked, or tried to ascertain on their own, what my financial status is. Men determine what a woman's passion/joy is by spending time w/her doing different things, asking what she does for fun in her spare time. No man has ever asked me where I see myself 5 yrs from now...even the man I married years ago. A man MIGHT ask what my plans are for the coming year or two.

@goldieoldie4543

2 жыл бұрын

Love You Tube. ❤️

@blueice011

2 жыл бұрын

@@Honeycombe88 My thoughts exactly. Especially 1, 3 and 4. First one - if you have IQ larger than your shoe size and you are willing to stay around long enough to figure that one out yourself, you wouldn't ask for digested manual. Third one is alarming, to put it mildly. What is he planning of putting you through if inquiring about your tolerance/endurance levels? Number 4. is red flag. I get men get rip off in divorce process and through financial breaks, however, no man with stable income (not great, just stable and sufficient) would ask this question, unless he is dating a woman with 6 minor children without income and alimony. Even than is easier not to date her than to ask this question which is always a red flag regardless the gender of a person asking.

Wait longer than 90 days to have sex. Sex is a big deal! My parents dated for over a year when they were married and did not have sex until they were married. Together 58 years.

I am an 81 year old widow and very active in the dating and relationship world and I highly recommend Steve Harvey's book ACT LIKE A LADY--THINK LIKE A MAN. Every woman should read!!

@bijouxbijoux

Жыл бұрын

That's amazing to hear! If you don't mind me asking, how do you go about dating at this stage of life? Wishing you the best & long healthy life

@sarahgodwin-xd1wr

11 ай бұрын

You would be surprised how older women can enjoy a romantic relationship even more than when they were younger . Those women can look better and the maturity helps them to be able to handle a relationship better than when they , too. I have found that dating is the same at any age.

@deniseinpeace1170

10 ай бұрын

my grandma was engaged 3 times in her z60-80s❤

@sarahgodwin-xd1wr

10 ай бұрын

I do find Mr Harvey to be sexist and rather crude. Sorry but I am not interested. And women and men aren't that different but our warped society makes us think so sadly. I think that it's great that you date and so do I at seventy. Time goes too fast

@sharonrogers6541

9 ай бұрын

​@@sarahgodwin-xd1wrI'm with you pretty much. He is so sexist and riddled with stereotypical attitudes. I am 70 and it's amazing to me how many more men interested in me now

I have never asked these questions when I’ve fallen in love with a woman.

Dating at an older stage of life should be less “how was your day” and more “how is your life?”

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Good one...

I lost my 42 year old son 3 years, the pain in my heart will go to the grave with me

I dated a man that lied about where he lived. He had reasons but he lied about other things! 😢 things that hurt later. Be on guard

@JonathonAslay

10 ай бұрын

Google people

I am glad I am passed all of this. Yay. 76 years and free and happy.

Having spent a recent 12 years in Alaska I can give you the scoop on romance in the state: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd." Just a heads up.....

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

LOL

@jenniferl1908

2 жыл бұрын

Know a woman who met her husband when she moved to Alaska. She's married with 3 kids.

@donnarolfe9901

2 жыл бұрын

Lol hahaha 🤣😂😅

@LaSorciereFeuillue

2 жыл бұрын

Could be the same in tropical North Queensland.... oops 🤪

@gmoni2456

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

Respect you of what you are is one of the best signs that a man loves a woman.

One of the issues I’ve come across multiple times is that they lie about their own financial, physical/mental health and are looking for a woman to help support and take care of them.

@danielle6470

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, walk [Run!] away.

@carlinetorweihe4246

2 жыл бұрын

Hi. On the "Steve Show" there was a gal who asked the same question. "Why does my man lie to me?" She had that soft, black voice which didn't sound like a complaint, more like a statement. Steve, "Cause we's scared." I found that priceless.

What makes it soooo hard is we live in a more narcissistic society today and rather then fixing what ya got folks throw things away and get a new one😢

I wish my big brother was here…. I lost him a few years ago. Now I have another brother for advice. 🙏 thanks! Amen!!

More and more children, people are growing up without parents or parents that didn't care or who were on drugs who never got any of their emotional needs taken care of let alone their healthy needs food clothing clean clothes, so this is what we run into once society breaks down, and people don't care about each other anymore. The only thing they care about is themselves that their needs are being taken care of. Which means to me that somewhere in there growing up years they were never taught or they didn't get their needs met. Tonia

100 hours of knowing someone is longer than 10 days. A date is about 3 or 4 hrs. that's about 25 dates. That's really not very long at all. A false face can still hold strong in that short of time.

@lorelei5902

Жыл бұрын

I've seen a false face hold strong for over a year. And when the mask came off it was a nightmare.

So far any men who asked me about my love language and any other digging questions like these, was a narcissist who wanted a shortcut to my emotions so he could use and abuse me faster. It was weird when they tried faking giving me everything I said i desired or showing me my love language giving me what i wanted way too fast early on.

I joined a dating site but realized I was still grieving. Men do not understand my workload. I worked seven days a week. They want a woman who has time to travel, go hiking, etc. You are correct you have to be able to determine if your lifestyles match.

Steve Harvey said Don’t give up the Cookie !!!! Wait 90 days 😂 That’s me. Probably why I’m still single lol.

I fell in love with a man in JA, 23 yrs younger than me. I’m relocating in the next few months.

@JonathonAslay

11 ай бұрын

Best wishes...

My finances are private. Sorry. Idont need an opportunist wanting to know what I'm worth before he proposes.

At age 60+, I have more dates than ever before, and with ever younger men. That’s one positive aspect of online dating. It also keeps me out of bars; I quit drinking alcohol years ago.

@jerenettekalahiki1341

9 ай бұрын

😊Aloha, i'm from hawaii i had been dating a younger man. he asked me my age, and I told him I'm am much older than you. And he said do age matters and i said maybe not, so we been texting eachother for 2months. he do live in the United States.

@kimberlymarie3651

8 ай бұрын

My mother has always told me throughout my life starting at 18 (old enough to go to a bar) that I won't find a good man in a bar . When I was younger I told her there must some good decent men at a bar. I'm now a lot older and have to admit my mother was right !!

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

8 ай бұрын

Congratulations for walking away from the bars!

@kimberlymarie3651

8 ай бұрын

There's also just as many " not so good matches" online as there is at a bar :)

@PenelopePitstop0078

3 ай бұрын

Dating younger guys is fun❣️

I am so sorry for your loss !! God bless your son’s soul 😢

If God wants me to be with a man...he will send me one on the right path. And he will be a real man of God. I do not want anything less...so I get the best. 🦋⚘🌿

@christinaeager4418

Жыл бұрын

Yes but you cat just " lay back in your feminine energy". Go introduce yourself

@sarahgodwin-xd1wr

11 ай бұрын

God helps those who helps themselves! I believe that we have to do our part

@mktbsahancom3921

10 ай бұрын

Seek, O servant, and I will work with thee.

@deborahgonzalezknight168

10 ай бұрын

Best to be just with the Lord. Most men are no good.

@sharonrogers6541

9 ай бұрын

❤🎉❤🎉❤

I believe in waiting a substantial period of time before sexual activity occurs in a relationship. I haven't dated a lot but all the men that I have dated and been sexual with are still in my life on some level.

You are the big brother. And the father figure. My lord, the wisdom here is unmatchable! It helps us deep dive into our lives and make amends before plunging into the dating marketplace.

I have a prayer too, similar to yours Jonathon. I will not settle for less. The rest of my lifetime is too important to be with someone who isn't quite right or even worse toxic. Its sad that so many will forgo a relationship or a meaningful one and choose to qrow old alone. That will not be my fate!

I feel so disappointed after a guy either ghosts or using excuses to fly. I feel like I am doing something wrong or I am not good enough for someone to try to get to know eachother better...Am I giving too much importance to a guy who maybe not right for me after all? I totally accept that not everyone will like us but it's sooo strange for me that one day he is so interested and the next day he goes cold. 😢

@peachpotter

9 ай бұрын

He’s an avoidant personality style sadly.

John, it's sinking in, thank you. My heartfelt sympathies, about your beloved son. 🌷

Your little prayer at 22.20 is beautiful and so on heart/centered. In my work I see so many people (couples) living lives of quiet Desperation. It is sad. Thank you for the self loving prayer.

Thank you for this video. You're making a positive difference in my life. I appreciate, respect and really admire your honesty! 🙏❤

Thank you for the precious words about dating these days. Noone talks about it these days. Your channel is very human.

👍 definitely! Meeting the right person these days, is NOTHING like it used to be!

I dated a widower for a month. Then he said after telling me for a month how beautiful, sexy and how wonderful I was like out of his league. All of a sudden he tells me he loves my smile and in the same breath can’t give me the love I want. Wtf??

@daver1787

9 ай бұрын

Be happy he was honest When a man tells you who he is, believe him. Don’t try to rescue or reassure. Just gracefully walk away.

Sorry to hear of your loss. Been watching you all videos. You do know what is what. You tell it like it is. Thanks

Aenna Burda.was the creator of sewing patterns. "The stones that were thrown at me I used to build a wonderful staircase." Starting as a employee in her future husband's family publishing business, she had revolutionary ideas about sewing. That publishing house later served as a vehicle to print her patterns. In those times women were literally forced into marriage. Going it alone was financially impossible except for those who inherited a fortune. Aenne Burde had many a nut to crack. Her husband was against her ideas although he was facing bankruptcy after WW2. She just didn't give up! Many of her quotes are still used today. "Love takes time to grow". This is a case of love which moved mountains.

I abhor "reality" tv. And fb. And insta. And tiktok. And talking on the phone. Mind numbing. Read a book. Dote on loved ones. Get outside. Build/make/create something. Learn something. Laugh doing something real with somebody In Person wherever. 🥰 And very happy for you that Collin will be right there! 🥳

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks 🙏

@JenelleDurrance

3 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Hey Jonathon I love listening to you, I close my ears when you use the “f” but inspit Of

Thanks for the commentary. So much to ponder. My Pollyanna attitude doesn't always serve me well, so appreciate alternative views!

Lucie had a point... If age rules them out then that's sorting the wheat from the chaf!! Always be honest and if they can't handle it... they are not worth it!!

Jonathon, your videos are making a difference in my life - you are making a difference. I'm on my way on loving myself for many years now, and I enjoy every day being me. Connecting with my inner childs and taking me as I am today, really took it's time - it took seven years. And I didn't date for seven years as well, whitch was my own decision, because I wanted to feel comfortable with myself first and I wanted to get to known to myself. Not long ago something changed. I changed the way I was really seeing myself and started to love every part of being me. Now I'm ready for dating again. Beside other messages from really special and wise people, yours are the cherry on the top! Thank you from my heart!

Been thinking a lot about how I am dating, how I want to date, and the person I'd want to bring into my life. You have made a difference!! Thank you for sharing. I've got a lot of great book recommendations, including Eight Dates that I need to read!!

Such a touching moment when your thought of your son’s loss. You!ve been through a lot. This makes you good at what you do.

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🧂

Hey Jonathan. You've taught me so much about love and life. You're a true inspiration 😊❤

I 100% totally agree with you! I love listening to you!!!

I find this an interesting topic. I'm sorry for your loss. I too have. But you are right in what you are saying

I agree with alot of what you say in your videos. It also seems many people who have been through divorce and the court system have relationship fatigue. I agree sex has to be taken out of the equation for a partnership to be determined if it is truly viable. Self love is crucial at this age

You're a breath of fresh air. Loving your work

I agree. I couldn’t for the life of me understand why this guy I have been talking to get him to open up and have meaningful conversations. All he wanted to talk about was sex and his needs which felt so superficial and one sided. Needless to say I figured it out he was either emotionally avoidant or emotionally unavailable and just in it for the chemistry.

Hi you're awesome..u just popped up and i tbought a lot of you. Sorry for your loss of Connor. You're doing great and God Bless you. Ally

I recently discovered your channel & absolutely love your content & your delivery. Thank you! I’m going to order your book today ❤

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Awesome! Thank you!

Amen! I learn something new every day.😊

Jonathan, you are making a HUGE difference in my life!

I think that because things are too accelerated now and people "are not asking the right questions, could be , on the woman's part, we don't want to come off looking like a "prude" for stating our boundaries to wait for the sexual level. Also it is a fear that the guy will think or pity us by saying something like "Oh, I see. You must have been really hurt in the past." That is a red flag since it is not considering our waiting is for other deeper reasons. Anyone agree?

Ur making a difference in my life. I listen to ur videos and they are all have positive directions for me. Thanku

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Happy to hear...

I love your word contrarian!I am too.you speak my language so I'm confident in your advise.hope I get my man.keep it coming. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart!

I like the shade of red in your pullover. Looks real quality!

Love that you love Jordan Petersen. He is so brave in this world of "woke". I'm just new to your channel Jonathon, and I so like your straight forward talk. You are helping many of us out here that need "straight talk".

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

JP is great

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I love your videos it helps my family members with adhd and autism spectrum understand these social issues to stay safe ❤️

I agree with you with a lot . Fact is a child predator is more incline to go after a child with no male or father figure around. A man today who preys on women goes after your vulnerability and later uses it against you. If a man truly ignores your pains or stressor goes straight to how hey let's have fun is out for himself. The credit thing is yes a critical question. I have learned all to believe everything your saying by being played and the heartache was I TRULY THOUGHT I WAS SMARTER MORE INTELLIGENT, I worked in a federal penitentiary volunteered for domestic violence. Believe me it can happen to anyone, I thought I was smarter now wow 100,000 taken from me. Now ladies gaurd yourself with redflags . Your gut never ever lies. You can never be too careful. God bless

@sharonallison9922

8 ай бұрын

I LOVE BEING SINGLE....A MAN CAN STAY IN HIS HOUSE AND I'LL STAY IN MINE....NO MAN WILL TAKE WHAT I WORKED SO HARD TO GET....MY OWN HOME ,,,,MY OWN BANK ACCOUNT......HE WILL NEVER GET HIS HANDS ON MY BEAUTIFUL THING'S.....THIS IS MY LIFE DONE MY WAY.

I did not fudge because I met my fiancé after 4 yrs on my Pinterest Site which I didn't even know WAS a social app. I was honest up front because I wasn't looking for another relationship. I am 10 yrs older then my man. He goes by my pics and attributes. I am 70 yrs old now going on 60. We don't all lie and it's okay if you do. I like that I was a 100% honest coming out of the gate. But to each his own. He loves my 50-something brain

My first time to hear ur podcast-very honest/insightful, thanks so much!

@JonathonAslay

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for listening

I love your vulnerability and total unedited honesty. Thank you for your videos, they have been helpful as I navigate my way through the "shitshow" of a dating world! I am positive, and hopeful that I will persevere and not turn to 🐈's! 😂

Refreshing show today! A feel-good.!

I came across your channel just very recently . All your videos are very helpful, regards the subject you are mentioning here , I totally agree with you. We all need to raise the bar and more of a high value ladies . Thank you

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks and welcome

Jonathan, you’re making a big difference in my life! I love your energy and no nonsense approach to finding love and have been watching your videos weekly for the past few months. And I’m thrilled you’ve found an amazing woman to share your life with, you are both lucky! Thanks for being awesome!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you!

@katebryson6142

11 ай бұрын

You're straight talking is very refreshing

@michellejack1263

8 ай бұрын

Thank you

@Ritakeepthefaith

7 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Hello Mr Aslay,..... I've only just across your tube messages/videos Since Dec23. and oh my God!!! You are sooooo extremely spot on with saying dating in the day & age is a shit hole!!!!!!!! We have to be soooo aware of what we want out there & to stop being hurt. Sadly dating isent going to get any better!! I totally agree with everything U say in your videos!!! I will keep tuning in to your advice. I thank God u are out there to guide us. Bless u Mr Aslay🙏♥️ My kind regards, Rita(63 & still seeking my soul mate, not giving up!!)

I totally agree that we need to ask. Better questions. The first person I asked out after my divorce, responded “I would, but I have a girlfriend”. Clearly important information to have before asking on a date 😂

Age discrimination is real, yes.

Trust is so important. Amen

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

Amen!! My prayer for a truly Godly man. No hypocrites!!

I love your energy and appreciate how open you are. I’m married, but always want to know how to make my relationship better. Bye!

Love how direct you are😂 real, true facts !

Dear Jonathon, thank you so much for sharing such an important knowledge and wisdom! Everything resonates so much and is so helpful! Heartfelt Gratitude to you! 🙏🌷😊

@JonathonAslay

8 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Yes Jonathan you have helped me wirh some situations. Thank you

Amen! Big bro! Thanks for being you!

Thank you for making a difference in my life, making me laugh, making me smile. Thank you for caring and loving. Keep on loving no matter what!!!

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

You are so kind

I agree on the whole social media bs.... and reality tv is the opposite of reality!!

So good. Makes so much sense. ❤

Oh, my goodness. I'm so happy that I found someone that actually makes sense and being up front. I'm recently been separated for 2 years now. From a 30 year marriage that won't Bury sour towards the end. And 1 year was grief now. My second year is that I've been involved on with someone online for one yeand it got very interesting. But now towards this online relationship. He asked me to buy him an air ticket. And he's from Los Angeles and I'm thinking scammer. So so I love to buy your books. And learn from what you're Shari, myself. Love to learn but I've never been in any dating for many years of my life. And certainly things have changed in the long run. I'm not out there. Hunting, I'm too old for that for one thing. I think my age has a lot to do with. I enjoy being single and adapting to my new life. And i'd like to take things very slow and allow myself to embrace. My new life outlook of my frame to give myself that respect and dignity that I deserve. Thank you in god bless

Amen 🙏 thank you for this great video dear Jonathon . I appreciate it 🤗🙏😘

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

Now we're talking this is so right always thought this that's why I don't date strangers.

Hello from England Jonathon - I can only begin to imagine your pain at the loss of your son. You are doing a remarkable job of lifting people up - thank you for your wisdom and making me laugh in the process

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! 🙏

@DianaBryant-fr5nv

9 ай бұрын

Thank you GOD WITH YOU

Love watching your videos so straight forward and honest! Love that you don’t censor yourself and drop F bombs- that’s real life and it makes me feel like I could hang out with you and you wouldn’t judge me. You feel like a caring brother- giving advice and so direct- love it. I have watched many of your videos and will be watching all of them. Each one you mention your son, and I pray for you each time. I can’t imagine how hard that must be for you and your family. All the care and wisdom you give to strangers like me, just wanted you to know others like me care about you too. Continued prayers for you and your family- thank you again!

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@marieliswolfram9087

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree, I feel the same. I like the style too. :) Not many of the people who listen to the channel express so much compassion, it's really kind Rebecca.

@marycruz3174

Жыл бұрын

Jonathan never change I love your uncensored honesty and bluntness I find it personally refreshing. PS I sent you an email with your information at gmail I hope you received it please let me know.

@JennySimon206

9 ай бұрын

Same. I use the F word and say "I used the F word because it is the only word that adequately describes the situation". I did that at the doctor, internist the other day.

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

8 ай бұрын

Love this channel, good stuff--keep it coming🎉

This teaching (hand written) would make an excellent study guide to go along with this video.

Podcasts and You Tube are my main go-to’s these days.

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

👍

Love your bluntless !!! Keep it up, i’m subscribing !!! 👍

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for subbing

Amen , love this , and lot of shit going on you are so correct , thank you ❤

This is great stuff👍

Thank you Jonathan, your videos on U Tube are quite an eyer opener😮

@JonathonAslay

8 ай бұрын

Glad you like them!

I need to read these books and continue to listen to your wisdom

I am in a path of reflection and re- discovery. Have been married for 8 years and never asked or was asked any of these questions. I can see how it would have been helpful 😅. One thing I think is missing today is that people don't value or understand the meaning of marriage or long term commitment. You need to love what marriage represents more than how much you love the person you are with and have an incredible sacrificial and forgiving heart. That's a deep rooted value within oneself and it can't be easily changed with difficult seasons or contrary feelings or even incompatilibily. " The heart is deceitful more than anything, and desperately wicked; Who can know it?" ( jememiah 17:9-10) Great video , and good luck to all

@JonathonAslay

8 ай бұрын

Thank you... ☺️

Jonathon,could you make an episode dedicated to dating > 60 ?

@JonathonAslay

11 ай бұрын

Most of my videos are for people 40, 50, 60 and even 70...

Recently single. I will definitely read Eight Days. My personality is to go slow. My attitude is that people have different views on what they expect and want. I respect that I might not fit into their expectations.

I asked him what his love language is, we did the test and we share the same language. Loved your prayer, and I agree! That is my prayer too!

@JonathonAslay

2 жыл бұрын

🙏

@TT-ud5gf

2 жыл бұрын

Which language was that? example please

*We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encourages instead of critics.*

I love the Jordan Peterson reference, now I’m officially a big fan!

This video was amazing 🤩 🙌

Meeses 2 pieces...I love u and your great personality & how you challenge my outdated outlooks.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

You got this!

For a future video, I would love to hear about your online dating adventures as a dating coach. Do you find yourself in a sea of superficial jellyfish? Do women tend to have dating and/or relationship expectations of you because of your background? What have you found to be frustrating in the dating game? What is the craziest dating experience you have had? How many valets have you paid for? Lol...

Love your channel.