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@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Dedication and loyalty agreed!

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Communication is important too.

@Portia620

Ай бұрын

Great points on how his wife manipulated him. WOW 😂😂

@Portia620

Ай бұрын

You should visit how to connect after trauma! Now that’s difficult!

@debraward6012

13 күн бұрын

😊😊

I have found that saying grace and holding hands, before a meal, creates a bond.

when John said "help me understand that better", "tell me more", "what else?" I felt better and I'm only listening to this while doing house chores, I'm not talking to John or anyone ...powerful phrases indeed

It’s funny Michelle mentioned allowing a man to put your heavy luggage in the overhead bin. I will never forget asking a man on the plane O got on, he was sitting near me. I had made a point to be more open to speaking to men while traveling…you never know! This man was alone and so I asked, “would you mind helping with my luggage in the bin?” He responded to ask the flight attendant! Doesn’t always work! I did it myself!!Many men don’t care to help!

@MichelleMarchantJohnson

3 ай бұрын

That's too bad because so many men are so happy to help! :-) Thanks for watching!

@staceyb.9958

3 ай бұрын

Maybe he had a back ailment!

@bl7817

3 ай бұрын

He told you clearly that he wasn't attracted to you. Men aren't stupid, and many aren't helpful UNLESS they want you. I've learned this sadly as I age and became disabled. When I was young, gorgeous and able bodied, they fought each other to help me. Now, they don't. Many men don't like women at all. They "help" only if they want to f*ck you.

@Powerskaty

2 ай бұрын

I have been stranded- needed help and 2 guys (one who I considered a good friend) basically laughed and said they would only if I paid them. I ended up walking. I now have AAA.

@education461

2 ай бұрын

@@Powerskaty That is because they do not want to do it for all women! the same way you don't give sex or affection to all men!

People need to be faithful to their spouse--observant, kind and loving.

I was disappointed when I was pregnant that a man didn’t offer me a seat on the bus or train. I thought wow what happened to social graces. Women are more vulnerable when they are pregnant…

@tashavolovsek9115

3 ай бұрын

Lack of manners being taught in the home

@education461

2 ай бұрын

The shitty mother he had didn't teach him anything about women's value in this world. We are full of those women who just have children but they do not educate them!

@kathykyzer2097

2 ай бұрын

Thanks to womens lib

@beautifulsoul8365

2 ай бұрын

Men aren't men anymore.

@UparmoredClownCar

2 ай бұрын

We have told men that women are the exact same of them for 50 years. They have been told to look at women as men.

We have been so accustomed to be an independent because the person we relied on abandon us or let us down and when that happens you just think this is another person wanting something from you and they’re gonna let you down.

This is the kind of man I'm looking for; a guy who is looking and wanting to do things for me . A guy looking for a partnership. I'm 35 and haven't been married. Hopefully the wait will pay off lol ❤

@cal-tex3584

2 ай бұрын

It will...finally found mine at 65 but u won't have to wait that long, don't compromise, there are good men out there that are looking for good women as well.

@tamitaylor6189

2 ай бұрын

@@cal-tex3584 thanks for the encouragement 🙏

@AnnaONova

2 ай бұрын

I got married to my husband when I was 36. I am 37 now :) He is a masculine man. He loves to do things for me. We actually met 10 years ago in school and was together for 3 years but I could tell back then that he wasn’t ready for what I wanted and needed and now he is and now we are happily married. ❤️ He knew that I will be his again. So did I. You will find your soulmate as well ❤️

@user-od3zt4dg6p

2 ай бұрын

Don't forget to do for him aswell.

@AnnaONova

2 ай бұрын

@@user-od3zt4dg6p Of course. :) That’s important as well :) He always says that we are perfect for each other.

this good woman was 2.5 hours doing the interview...I hope they had a break...it's a long interview and John can talk for days. I love John's wisdom by the way. Kudos to this host for letting him speak.

Great insights, I discovered how much we bonded when we started praying together. Part of his discipline for us and makes me soooo happy

I would LOVE to see a fresh interview from you two. Ive watched this interview so many times because its INCREDIBLE!

@MichelleMarchantJohnson

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching! This is the first time this interview has been aired in its entirety. Enjoy!

I asked my ex many times for advice or help. He flat out refused. Now what? I broke up with him. He was devastated, wanted to keep the benefits without giving anything back ( we talked openly, he asked why I can’t just settle). What is wrong with such a man? He is almost 40 and a mama and papas boy.

@MichelleMarchantJohnson

3 ай бұрын

Sorry that didn't work out and hope you find someone who has more to give to you. Thanks for watching!

@rsamuels6969

3 ай бұрын

Seems like not the right guy. Once you heal learn to vet better, and go for the one that WANTS to give to you. Don’t entertain any man that you see doesn’t

@Joy-mm3cz

3 ай бұрын

He definitely doesn’t have that emotional intelligence to be in an equal partnership.

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

3 ай бұрын

sorry this is happening. Now you can write the handbook on how to spot a manchild miles away. So you can vet the next men you meet.

@alicelopez130

3 ай бұрын

Girl are we dating the same man 😭

Loyalty, honesty and respect.

yes,i have dealing now a highiest potential he asked me wants to sleep with him but i said no ,i have any experience i give this to my future husband after marriage, and he said you are old values now is a new generation now, thats who am don't do that i protect my dignity , that who am i now he block me no contact, but now i'm go healing now❤❤ thanks GOD to protect/guided me to the tight path❤❤

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

2 ай бұрын

fantastic you protcted yourself, if he treated you like that he would have gotten sex, used you and left you, he was never interested in you, he was interested in using you to please himself. I want to celebrate your courage and actions, bravo!!!

@kimberlywilliams947

Ай бұрын

Good, he moved out of the way for a respectful man of integrity to come into your life to value and cherish you. This Casanova did you a favor by showing you his true self.

Clarifying/Defining the term "need" is extremely pertinent during this conversation since it can be taken in different context. My Korean mom taught me when I was a young girl that I "want" a man, not "need" a man, and I know what she meant. It's not a dependency perspective in the sense of working, money, being able to achieve, getting things done, etc.

@luluhassan7191

3 ай бұрын

😢😢

I've struggled throughout life, because my mother strictly embedded the edict, "those who ask, don't get" into my psyche. I'm 66 and still struggle to overcome this, which is proving very difficult as I've just entered into a new relationship. Thank you both for yet another wonderful advisory discussion.

EXCELLEN!T ! i'm bookmarking this as it's a complete course in how to have a wonderful, loving relationship. THANK YOU!!

Men don’t seem to WANT to be providers either. A woman MUST make money these days, even if she’d rather not worry about it.

@wallynowacki6704

3 ай бұрын

That is because women pushed themselves into the workplace under the banner of equality. Fine. Now your in the office. Great. There are more women in medical and Law School than men. Men just don't want to have to compete with women.. We have our hands full already with other men. I will never stop opening a door for a lady (any age). What your comment is really saying is men are no good, we don't WANT to provide. Well, that's right. Why should we work hard to provide when it is never gonna be enough. No man will ever measure up to be your Daddy. Different time, different age. If you have listened to this interview then you heard him say that men and woman are very different. But you seem to insist that we should be mind readers, providers and better that you. Go have you job until your 40 years old but when you start feeling like you now want childred, Get out the turkey baster out cause there are plenty of men over 45 that are being chased by 29 year old women....

@wallynowacki6704

3 ай бұрын

I am sorry, you're right in SOME situations. Just like a woman isn't a great cook in the kitchen and a porn star in the bedroom. So let's not talk in generalities. There are WONDERFUL women and MEN will NEVER stop wanting them. But if you expect to be pampered and for a man to take care of you then be willing to accept the humble Janitor just as much as you want a corporate CEO with money. Basically, if you love a man and he loves you and he takes care of every one of your needs to the best of his ability, consider your self very fortunate. Because he's doing the best he can for you and you know that is a turn on. But when you look over your shoulder at some bad boy because that turns you on for 30 mins. Then who is to blame.? Much respect to you... I thank God he made women.

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Or we are scared to be depended on a man becsue she and the kdis have been abandoned

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Younger men don’t want to work I have heard. The work within of youth is bad

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

2 ай бұрын

@@wallynowacki6704 why are you chasing the woman who left you for the bad boy? is the bad boy younger than you? is not balding/has hair, is fit/no belly, lasts longer in bed? There must be something the bad boy has that you don't. Why are you having sex with this woman that doesn't love you? Why don't you grow a spine and respect yourself?

I love hearing him talk! He makes me feel understood

I feel relief and contentment hearing Mr John Gray say and explain my feelings and needs and some connections with them.Thank you. How to get men interested without suggesting this though? How do I nudge/inspire a man to find out about online blind-dating, the woman and the man, when a positive change /development is crucial for my willingness to go out with him?. And won't I be manipulative, fake and mechanical if using these methods and phrases. I should like everybody to hear this good talk.Even thogh I don't agree with everything. And Michelle is so nice too.

I think this works for emotionally mature men. They want to do things for a woman. I have a wonderful boyfriend who gives me security, support and makes me feel safe. In a past relationship, however, the man did not want to provide these things. He resented it and I ended up having to do it all. I totally gave up on men for 2 1/2 years and I was very happy. I didn’t see the benefit of a man in my life because in the past men only brought me down. I decided to give dating a chance again and I met my boyfriend. My boyfriend enhances my life and I’m very happy with him.

Thank you, Michelle for every presentation with Dr. Gray. ❤

This only works if the man scores high on agreableness and eager to please. Men who are low on agreableness and are not enjoying to please someone else ( genuinly ), will only pretend in the beginning 'to manipulating you and catch you'. After they have you, they will do less and less things to please you, make you happy. Distinguishing is key between this 2 types of men. Of course, men in the first category can change, if the woman has negative traits, humiliating, opressive, critical, put him down, passive aggressive, overly aggressive, manipulative, lying, gaslighting, using harsh language and faul language, untruthful, not genuine, selfcentered, etc, etc. Even a good man can turn into someone in category 2 or worse.

I don’t know the stuff about rewarding him for cleaning up his shirts. I feel like I would be very sexually turned off by this. Like, this is how I am with my three male children, teaching them how to clean the house with me. Rewarding them and praising them for their efforts, and asking them to observe how the room feels now that it is clean. Some of the advice here is solid, but I feel some of it is very mother/ child dynamic.

It’s really interesting that Dr Gray mentions that we have to consciously make an effort to keep our estrogen levels high as we age, especially after menopause. That we have more control over these hormones than we think, mentally.

Love what Dr Gray is discussing, wish I could meet a guy like him

I was depending on my husband and got heavily dissapointed. I had to start all over again. My life is so much better now. I can make myself a healthy satisfying meal. Who needs desert?!

@starr234

12 күн бұрын

This is true for many women.

Great piece of advice

@jennifertaylor9864

2 ай бұрын

What was the advice? This was a lengthy video, my ADHD wouldn't let me concentrate on it.

So if a woman has gone through menopause, does the estrogen still increase? And why are men of ages 55 and above so apathetic? They seem to not put effort into relationships.

@Teewriter

2 ай бұрын

Probably blood pressure pills. That’s what those damn things did to my husband.

How much of this still applies to men these days I wonder…? I am well aware I’d be happier with a man. Men want to take, not give these days. They’re either selfish or insecure or both. I’m premenopausal and I KNOW I NEED A MAN.

@VolcanoKing-dj5px

3 ай бұрын

Men today are encouraged to be adult children and are selfish and they lie. At 57 I have LONG given up.

@jamieraegro

3 ай бұрын

Find a kind one

@lynnebailey6528

3 ай бұрын

Please clarify why you feel you need a man at this particular time.

@christyannceraso

3 ай бұрын

@@lynnebailey6528 My hormones are regulated when I have consistent lovemaking. Otherwise I’m a wreck due to perimenopause.

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

I need one for S. But want a realtionship and can’t sleep around!!! I so get it!!!

Depending IS a bad thing

Thank you both, - Michelle, what a wonderful, beautiful listener! Whata woman to be able to hold hereslf back and let him speak, even though she has things to say too. I want money to take a course.

Thank you 😊,

Bringing flowers to a woman is a huge estrogen boost for her. I wish more men would do that. My boyfriend sees it as a waste of money. 😂 I’ll use John’s phrase, that “it would just make me so happy” to see if that helps. 🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸🌺 He texts me photos of flowers in his neighborhood which is very sweet and I do thank him. His exwife didn’t like getting flowers.

@JennaHasm

2 ай бұрын

If he thought it was a waste of money he would buy potted flowers. He just doesn't want to do it! Don't thank him for photos of flowers in the neighbourhood. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers, romance yourself, dress yourself to feel pretty, show him and dump his ass!

I listened to john and my man bought me dinner, 3 desserts ( gave me choices)😜 and money 😊🎉 Most imp made me happiest girl in the world ❤ladies be wise use this to ur advantage

women are the flower if we wake men up then what does he man do..... protect.

All true … correct …

My narcissistic ex was slave driving me, super critical of everything I did to the point I collapsed making oatmeal 🥣 one morning. I had never experienced anything like it, and I hope not to ever again. I have a psychology degree practically now from all the research I did just to make sense of it all. I wish I could find true love from a man, and I feel like my life would be so much better with a man in my life ❤.

@JesuisLord

2 ай бұрын

Same they want a mommy they are toddlers and want it all done while they play

We don’t have a choice! I would love to have a man in my life.

1:47:31

Yeah well,what about Virgo men? No pun intended they're very difficult!

I love the smells of my husband, how he hugs me so I can feel safe in his strong arms, when he lays next to me in bed and even when he blames the ghost for farting 🤣 😅❤ 🥴

I’m not sure this advise would work with a dismissive avoidant type of man.

@JesuisLord

2 ай бұрын

No they do not want feeling talk but business talk all about risk and reward

Interesting

We are never enough before the P@@n industry! Now that is another issue! Any addiction is an issue! Unhealthy and agreed!

Sad, but more and more people these days seem like they don't want MEANINGFUL relationships.

Oops I made so many mistakes with the guy I dated a few months ago 😅

@lisecalmairedooh5732

3 ай бұрын

Me too 😂

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

I felt that! 😂🤦‍♀️

What about codependency

Women had coffee clatches, but there still are sewing circles and knitting etc.....often these are offered at the Library...... healthy!

But you’re saying any man no this is not right there has to be some sort of chemistry there first for a woman to want this man and usually a mature woman knows know what they want. Not a really young woman but at the young age it’s good they’re give-and-take but at that age but you know age 30 it has to be like a chemistry and then she can proceed and then you know find a man or whatever but you’re like saying any man or you know a man no no not just a man and she doesn’t have to have a man because she, you’re just because she works or whatever just because she needs one it has to be chemistry. You know you can’t just go out and get a man no it doesn’t work that way.

I’m not good with irrational 25:35

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Agreed!

My mew job i was a victim of a character assassination she is in relapse mode n a nasty woman who is unable to affect mu integrity. I'm going to seek another part time job.they à clique.I AM LIVING in the process of being transformation from my heart ♥ thru the holy spirit.

About women asking for help. How it supposed to raise the man's testosterone. I understand all that but I'm a 39 year old woman married 13 years. So I'm actually not speaking for myself but I hear a lot of my friends and or online their man gets an attitude or gets annoyed with them. Can you help us understand that? Why would these men be getting annoyed if they should be feel like they're saving us?

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

3 ай бұрын

maybe it's the tone of voice used when asking for help or all the nagging and criticism before and after asking for help

@janetbryan9712

3 ай бұрын

🎉🎉

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

@@user-cz9dh4yy3gagreed but sometimes men get their needs and still not happy.

@jackdeniston6150

2 ай бұрын

They do not ask, they demand, and are not thankful. They taught their Men this.

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

2 ай бұрын

Chek out John's website blog, he and his daughter have videos about this

Men, want to provide and protect. A typical story is when a man loves a woman and he is doing anything to please her and be wanted. But, instead, she goes for the bad boy Jimmy Dean, Brad Pitt, most rappers. When she is pregnant and the bad boy wont reply to calls and texts. She goes running to the guy who wanted her in the first place and using her feminity ways gets him to protect her. But when the next bad guy comes along and she is stable. Bye! It;s classic. But hard to hear, isnt it ladies.... I love and respect woman but that will bet me no where. A gentleman will hold her coat while she kisses the bad boy, sometimes right in front of him....

@user-cz9dh4yy3g

2 ай бұрын

no, there are women out there looking for good men. Good men do not have to be doormats, if she's pregnant with the bad boy why do you have to take care of her? Don't be a doormat, she made her choice. Is she's giving you sex to get protection then you are getting sex. Don't have sex with her. You need to grow a spine and control your sexual impulses because they are your weakness. Don't be a doormat and don't give sex to women who don't love you. You're going after the young woman who doesn't love you, many old men think young women are physically attracted to old men, it's never the case. Why a young woman, fertile, firm and fresh would settle for an old fart? Only if she is after his money, security or passport. Old men think they can have young women in love with them, young women are after the old man's resources. Why a young woman would prefer an old man. balding, with a belly and thousands of annoying calcified habits? She will always prefer the fit, young man with hair and energy. What do you have to offer (besides you paying her bills) that the young guy can't? You have unrealistic expectations by thinking that young women love older men and at the same time you are rejecting women your age and God forbids slightly older than you. So Life is giving you the payback you deserve by having this young woman you want, reject you. Why don't you aim for a woman your age? She may not look fresh and firm but chances are she's mentally and emotionally mature and has resources to pay for herself and if she's with you it's not because of your money.

@swrvs100

2 ай бұрын

It changes once a woman is not capable of reproduction. Dont change, hold on.

@JennaHasm

2 ай бұрын

Stop going for incompetent stupid women just because you like how they look! For god's sake, look at her character! Don't go just for looks!

What about women?? Why is it always about men and what we need to do to please the ????

@MichelleMarchantJohnson

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching! This channel is for women. John does teach men too and all of his books have content for men.

You both talking about asking him to do little things reminds me of 'The Princess Bride' She even asks him to take down a jug hanging right by her hand, and thats how he falls in love with her, I get it now, thank you 😅

Why didn't she go to the store to get the milk when she needed it?

Far too much pandering to the male ego..😱

So many ads interrupting the flow of conversation 🫤. Great content 😊

@bl7817

3 ай бұрын

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