I have a masters in psychology. High school teacher. I believe the argument on morality is a valid one, and something I have been considering recently as I’ve seen teenagers almost completely lose their moral compass over the last few years. There is indeed an explosion in narcissistic psychopathy among my students, to quite a worrying degree. Morality does not seem to matter to many of them, on any front. And before anyone says teenagers have always been this way, I can assure that in my 23 years of teaching, what I’m seeing now is alarming. And it’s being made worse by adults who seek a reason for the behavior instead of working to stamp it out. Just as you said, the adults who should be protecting the good students, allow all sorts of immoral behavior from students who shouldn’t even be allowed in school anymore. It worries me that those of us in education who try to stand up for the good kids are labeled heartless and uncaring.

@aprilskies1051

Ай бұрын

As a teacher of 30 years, primary qualified, secondary and qualified visual impairment teacher, I agree with you. I'm one of the teachers you probably hate, who asked to work with those pupils who have SOCIAL emotional and behavioural difficulties, violent, withdrawn, neurodiverse, trans, gay etc. I come from poor working class family, was a wild tomboy etc, drive a 600cc motorbike to school (wrongly judged by posh teachers). I have become equally aware of the narcissistic behaviours of teenagers and primary age too. I have watched the behaviour over the years snd now the quiet children, who go to school to try and do their best are expected to endure the behaviours of the pupils I work with and say nothing. They don't get the attention the others elicit and it's unfair. WORSE?...The senior management teams do nothing about it. I believe that we know the pupils with ACEs, provide support mechanisms for them to be flung in your face. They are wise, they play on you, are 'systemed up' and know what they're doing. I wouldnt be 2 minutes with them if the system allowed.

@aprilkitten

Ай бұрын

This dark behavior energy field was intentionally created and released like a fog of w a r upon humanity in 2015 as a type of spirit curse, if you will. I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part -- a i -- and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence. They had been testing the success of this frequency induction program on individuals (prefrontal cortex, amygdala...) for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways. These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor. No one will ever see "them" pulling a trigger. No, they are stealthy and get others to do those acts for them. The studies were promising so they released this field upon us all, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans have become weak-minded and have received the prep/ im plan ting as well. There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned. This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for humanity. Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we have contributing to this, the better we can formulate a plan to intercede.

@aprilkitten

Ай бұрын

I was trying to explain what I have learned and try to provide some more evidence that would be helpful but for some reason everything I've written is immediately deleted. I guess I'm hitting too close to home and that's a good thing because it just confirms that what I know is terrifying to those in control

@aprilkitten

Ай бұрын

This energy field was created and released upon humanity about 9 years ago as a type of curse, if you will. I can't remember the details, but they explained that this frequently field is part ____ and would induce psychopathic, sadistic and/or illicit behaviors including high levels of anger and violence. They had been testing the success of this frequency on individuals for decades which played out in many random, violent or disturbing ways. These acts would make no sense to the observers unless they knew what had been done to trigger that person's agressive behavor. The studies were promising so they released this upon us, but only those that were prepped or weak-minded will be susceptible, but unfortunately most humans are both! There is much more to the story. I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'm working closely with a teacher in a CA Middle School and the experiences that she is witnessing in her classroom includes the children verbally and physically assaulting each other and the teachers. This happens on a daily basis and is considered acceptable and condoned. This will escalate, but I dare not expand on what I foresee for us. Thank you for validating what you are observing as well. The more we share, the better we can formulate a solution.

@Lumi-tv5cc

Ай бұрын

D J T level ten narcissist crossing into sociopath

I've had a horrific childhood, but I don't go around trying to destroy peoples lives. Unfortunately, I continue to be victimized by these people because of my empathy. No more!!

@cultivateyourself

Ай бұрын

Change your proimity.

@blydnhvghn

Ай бұрын

Is it because of your empathy or your lack of boundaries?

@lauriemorales7605

Ай бұрын

@@blydnhvghn Probably both. I'm working on that.

@tathe3786

Ай бұрын

Ja es wird zu viel entschuldigt und zu wenig gehandelt

@lela888

Ай бұрын

I am trying to not end up attracted to these people as well We have a broken sense of being in healthy relationships. We have to first understand what a healthy person looks like.

I am 100% over the glorification of serial killers, psychopaths, etc. I will no longer watch those shows, interviews, documentaries. I don’t want to hear anything those POS have to say. Yes, I have listened to the experts. And we study narcissism as a desperate attempt to learn enough so that we don’t repeat getting involved with these types.

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

Ай бұрын

Perfectly stated. Let's just warn the victims and be done.

@Liz-wz8dh

16 күн бұрын

So true. It's just because there is no actual way to solve the problem right now that breeds people's obsession with it.

@stompthedragon4010

6 күн бұрын

​@@Liz-wz8dhI don't agree. It is very often people who have suffered at the hands of evil trying to make sense of it.

@stompthedragon4010

6 күн бұрын

Ignoring it certainly doesn't make it go away. Trying to understand it is not horrifying it. Horror movies like Nightmare on.... And slasher movies etc are what glorify it. like

“Evil is evil. The end.” That part. I wasted years in a marriage only to learn day 1 wouldn’t have been too soon to get out. The things that were the worst are things no one with a moral compass could do to a spouse.

@ladyvirgo9514

Ай бұрын

Same. I've been in the divorce process for 11 months (with no children together) they truly are evil

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

Ай бұрын

Exactly my story. Pure Evil, continuously.

@krissica8630

Ай бұрын

It's not wasted time, it was a learning experience. That is what I tell myself all the time.

@roxyright4782

Ай бұрын

Narcissism= Demonic

I love it when you mock. The tone is perfect and made me fall of my chair laughing because that is just how they sound. Humor makes all this tolerable. Thank you Richard.

It is IMPERATIVE to discern evil, and name it as evil, and morally condemn it in order to heal. Your real authentic feelings know the truth. You must take moral solidarity with your real pain and real experience of evil to process it through. If you deny their responsibility, if you deny the evil or bypass it or make compassionate excuses for it, you will short circuit the healing process. This (!!!) is where therapy gets it wrong. What they must do is take full moral solidarity with the victim's moral injury in cases of abuse.

There's a book called People Of The Lie, by a psychologist named Scott Peck, written in the late 70s. His premise was that psychology needed to start talking about evil. He hypothesized that the way a person becomes evil is that they're committed to an overly pristine self image and will take drastic steps to protect that image - sound familiar? They harm people to protect their image, then feel a need to deny and cover up the harm they've done. After multiple repetitions of this cycle, Peck says, they destroy their consciences and operate in the world like psychopaths, even though they started life not psychopaths. It's an interesting read, complete with decade-suitable references to Watergate and Vietnam.

@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht

Ай бұрын

Yes im going to buy this book. I reallyyyyyy want to read it.

@jori7398

Ай бұрын

Great great book. An important read.

@OutlawJoseyWales71

17 күн бұрын

Yep. M Scott Peck opened up my eyes about 6 weeks after my malignant narcissist fiance dumped me for her next victim. That was 14 years ago, and apparently I didn't learn my lesson. Right now I am in the process of recovering from another one.

@JKB-ji6xl

16 күн бұрын

M Scott Peck wasn't Catholic but participated in an exorcism he wrote another book about. He said that unusually good souls get possessed in his experience but the people of the lie choose evil - they refuse growth & wish to blame others for that. Here in the US with Maga, I am reminded of what Peck wrote re: group evil.

Thank you Richard. Two of my therapists including the one I'm currently seeing have asked me why the boys who assaulted me, assaulted me. It was very hurtful. I don't give a f*** if those boys were also abused or not. The fact is, they turned it on me, someone who had never done them any harm. All I ever done was try to get away from them. I am not to blame and it's not my responsibility to find out why they were so goddamn evil.

@ankeenders-ngono9918

Ай бұрын

Maybe you should ask your current therapist what this question was all about. Maybe they just wanted to find out whether YOU wrongly blame yourself for something that was not your fault, which would be something they would have to work on with you. IF they wanted to put the blame on you, look for a new therapist. A 'blamer' would be unprofessional, harmful not helpful, and therefore not worth your time. And only worth to be made your ex-therapist. 😉 All the best wishes on your healing journey to inner freedom and happiness! 🙏🏻💞

@TheVioletMagic29

Ай бұрын

Terrible therapists.

@anne-louisegoldie

Ай бұрын

They assaulted someone because they wanted to. Must've been several steps that occurred leading up to it, where they could have made different decisions. Let the therapists ask them. 🤗xx

@theworldofjuniperthecat1307

Ай бұрын

True.

@MM-dz9fk

Ай бұрын

@@anne-louisegoldie Exactly 💯🤗

Straight forward and spot on advice. After spending years puzzled and consumed with "figuring them out", I finally realize that when I see the N pattern of behavior, the crazy, the mind boggling and bending, I no longer need to stay and figure them out. I need to cut and run; period. Not my circus, not my monkey. I also avoid the charasmatic and charming individuals. When you make me feel like I am the only fascinating person in the room, it is a Big Red Flag waving wildly in the wind.

@matthewsheeran

Ай бұрын

Yes, the charismatic and charming ones are often the psychopaths putting it on to manipulate, unless of course, they are equally charming to everyone, and, all of the time: then and only then, are they truly the nice ones!

@tomtom2030

Ай бұрын

The narcissist begins always with the charm offensive.

@trinleywangmo

Ай бұрын

@@matthewsheeran IDK. I've known narcissist who charm entire communities... there's more to it than that.

@cyndigooch1162

Ай бұрын

​​@@trinleywangmoThat's exactly right and I could be the canary in the coalmine in that area, so to speak, because they often drop their mask with me while keeping up the facade for others! Of course, it's not a good feeling, but at least I know to stay away. 😊

Hah! This piece of information that 40% of BPD is misdiagnosed hits hard now. I was diagnosed with BPD. Previously I had ADHD, depression, anxiety and insomnia diagnosed. I asked the psychiatrist why they did not consider cPTSD, but she told me I was too old for this (39) and the trauma was too long time ago. I was raised by a covert narcissist with ADHD and something I can't even describe - probably a sort of narcissistic psychopath or a sadistic narcissist. Thus, I had the cPTSD theory. Initially, I accepted this "being too old for cPTSD" explanation, although it did not fit right, and I started researching BPD. To some degree, it matched my issues - weak anger management and fear of abandonment. As people with personality disorders do not understand they have it, I thought it must be the case for me, too. However, the further I went with the research, the more I started suspecting I couldn't have BPD, as I have no issues with unclear self-image, no erratic relationships, I have a stable and quiet lifestyle, 99% of the time I'm emotionally balanced with two feet on the ground etc. 1% is when I get triggered by something and freak out. I spent a year trying to persuade doctors that I do not have a personality disorder and we should go back to the drawing board and test for cPTSD. Eventually, I gave up and went to another place, where they immediately recognised cPTSD. I got the treatment that improved my life in a week so drastically that I could not even imagine it was possible to feel so normal and not to have this "all the disasters that have and might happen" broadcasting in my head 24/7. I'm even able to sleep 6 hours in a row now. However, those people who thought I had BPD told me the fact that I feel constantly exhausted is due to my "personality disorder." Although I also have insomnia, which is a common symptom of cPTSD.

@stompthedragon4010

6 күн бұрын

If people were too old for any type of mental or emotional trauma, we wouldn't even be talking about this. One thing I know from experience, there are some exceptionally bad therapists, councilors, etc out there and they can do some serious damage.

I 100% agree with you!!!!! Evil people are out there hurting people every f'ing day!!!!! 😢

@tashastarling6573

Ай бұрын

It's important to call a dick a dick when you see one! We can't call out a superior or someone behind the desk for shafting us, even if they sit like fat cats. Some people suck/are dicks! Or are bums! I don't want to confuse my relationships with it too much but Richard is making a good point - if someone is not using a good enough sense of morality, It's a problem to you.

Brilliantly put! 👏 Evil is evil with NO moral compass. Richard, you should be running the country. ❤

@vkngwmn6636

Ай бұрын

We have free will...evil is evil but people have a personal choice to be or not to be

Thankyou so much Richard. Sometime ago, I was invited on a hike to a waterfall with a man whom I would later come to realize was a narcissistic psychopath. While attempting to scale a cliff, I asked for hand to support me as there was a long drop to the bottom. Just before I reached the top of the cliff, he dropped my hand and I started to fall. Had there not been a root of a tree for me to grab and had my interaction time not been what it was, I would not be writing this today. As I scrambled over the face of the cliff onto the flat, I looked at him in horror, asking "What did you do?" "I don't know," he replied. He did not make any move to help me up. He did not apologize. He did not ask he how I was as we made our way back to village. Two days later, when I brought up the incident again, he denied that it ever happened. I began doubting myself, believing in the possibility that what I experienced never happened. Or, if it did happen, it was an accident. And, I made excuses for him believing that he was too embarrassed to acknowledge his mistake. However, the beautiful thing about life is that the truth always comes out in the end. Recently, two acquaintances approached me to tell me that this man had made a specific attempt to contact them to want them about his concerns about my mental health. He told them both that I was "making up stories that never happened." "The murderer's blow tells us nothing of his character; but in his remorse or exultation over his deed his secret is revealed to us," wrote Julian Hawthorne in his April 1886 Atlantic Review of his father's book, The Scarlet Letter. I believe that he tried to kill me that day, to cover up a wrongdoing that he feared would be disclosed. The narcissistic psychopath is willing and capable of killing to conceal their false identity.

@JesusSaves77799

Ай бұрын

What wrongdoing do you think he was trying to cover up, may I ask? Something you knew about him?

@heide-raquelfuss5580

Ай бұрын

😢

@ZooxMaze

Ай бұрын

What was your relationship up this man before you went on a hike, together ? From your writing, I gather that you just met this person - so, how could you know anything about them ?

@victoriavitoroulis3273

Ай бұрын

Psychopaths always tell on themselves : projection by inquiring about your mental health , after he almost let you drop down a cliff … their always protecting their shitty image 😵‍💫

@margaretsanfran7410

Ай бұрын

MY SON DID A SIMILAR DEED LUCKY I WAS ABLE TO RUN FOR ASSISTANCE ....HAD GOOD WITNESSES WHO VERYFIED THE STATE I ARRIVED IN AT THEIR DOOR ....OR I WOULD HAVE HAD TO GO HOME AND LIVE WITH THE ASSAULT I STARTED TO SEE WHAT HE TRULY WAS AND THAT WAS MY PUNISHMENT HE WAS LUCKY TO ESCAPE JAIL .....

I tangled and was trapped in a "love" ( Parasitic ) relationship with a seriously personality disordered and sadistic person. There had been injured of course in life - some of those injuries were serious and many were of their own making. BUT they were laser focused on staying with me and absorbing as much of my good nature - care - concern etc as possible. They were creative and charming but outwardly acted like a bratty undeveloped boy - but in a MANLY WAY - - he used sex mostly to entice and control me. But there was no end to their trumping my needs by theirs - scaring me and then crumbling into tears like a toddler that I had to console - - and of course I did naturally rush to comfort him as I am empathetic and felt very concerned and badly for him. BUT BUT BUT - - after fully understanding ALL THAT FED INTO HIS BROKEN STATE - - and Trying To Get Him Mental Health Support / Medication / Medical Intervention - -I finally realized HE WAS DEVOURING ME - I WAS BEING EATEN ALIVE. I know that sounds gross - dramatic - and most psychologically oriented people don't relate to that - - But the ESSENTIAL TRUTH is that I WAS FOOD FOR HIM. And I was Suffering Greatly at His Will - His Projection - His Demands for SEX ATTENTION CONCERN - - He was in a state of continuous CHAOS while calling himself SELF ACTUALIZED ! He was the definition of Crazy Making and Bottomless Insatiable Predation. GROSS is ONE WORD TO DESCRIBE THIS - - I was PREDATOR BLIND UNTIL I WAS ALMOST COMPLETELY DEVOURED BY THIS MAN. He was IMMORAL DARK ATTRACTED TO EVIL - and HE BROUGHT THAT INTO MY LIFE - HOME - and BODY - - I DID GET AWAY and I DID FACE & ERADICATE THAT DARKNESS From Around Me. I will never sit with the hungry wolf again - feeling for them and trying to find something to feed them with - - I know what a Dangerous Wolf IS Now.

@SM-tl9ls

Ай бұрын

Spot on!

@eveningprimrose3088

8 күн бұрын

I used to say that my ex-husband was a bottomless pit; I would keep pouring things in--effort, love, cooperation, you-name-it--but the pit never even began to fill.

Now that I think about it BPD was brought up by my mom and then every provider I had just accepted it. Turns out I’m actually autistic and traumatized by being told I was willfully difficult and a horrible person because of my autistic traits

@autisticautumn7379

Ай бұрын

Same it's common especially for women.

I just have to add that I can see a point in the fact that evil is evil and we should be done with it, but as a victim I have to emphasize the importance of understanding what the f**k happened there and why. As a reasonably normal functioning person before this s**tshow entered my life, such type of behaviour was beyond my comprehension and understanding, and it really helped me to recognise the terms such as reactive a**se, projecting, triangulation, supply and stuff like that to be able to explain to myself what just happened. Once you're able to understand, once you heal, burn it inside and take the power away.

@theresahuk-vallarino6100

Ай бұрын

Agreed: here’s to the warrior breed. Stay true to self!

Still in recovery from a brutal experience with a vicious grandiose somatic narcissistic colleague over 30 years ago but the horror lasted two years! Did me lasting damage but opened my eyes to the damage that had already been done to me in childhood making me the perfect scapegoat on which she could dump all her toxic material - I was not alone so did not think I was insane - I had a fellow sufferer so we could commiserate - watched everyone around me being seduced and deceived - truly horrifying but woke me up to the true nature of this world we are living in. Thank you Richard - thanks to your books and videos I do not feel I am in a minority of one.

@pamgori8008

Ай бұрын

Your not alone..im continuously running into cult like people where the narcissists mirror the leader and your hunted like an animal by the group of them..when you talk or get help you sound like your crazy They already play the victim against you and smear your rep first so itt never stops they all know each other but pretend to hate each other so you find out after the fact it's a plot 12 against one..so tiring Sleep deprivation and fear..targeted individuals are forming groups to discuss the abuse

@gigiarmany4332

Ай бұрын

terrifying..😵

@mattlacasse5828

Ай бұрын

Feels like we're living in a mental illness world. Like its surrounding us at all times.

@ankeenders-ngono9918

Ай бұрын

Pleeeaaase... Don't ever call it 'lasting damage', as that will MAKE it last (self-fulfilling-prophecy). You could call it 'a temporary damage on my healing journey'. You WILL heal. If you put the firm intention and work into it. Just like any of us, you are unstoppable. Unless you stop yourself. Don't. Give yourself what you deserve. Because you can. 🙏🏻💞

@Bf26fge

Ай бұрын

It was hard for me to see the extent of narcissism in me, because the ones you and everyone else describe are such cartoon figures with no depth at all. No ability to think in terms of enlightened self interest or to seek win wins as a default. The truly accomplished narcissists have that as a default, but not rigidly so. Immoral and evil? That is an overly simplistic way to view the NPD construct. I had some humility. I make mistakes and am not perfect. I never thought I could do no wrong. I had a sense of humor about myself and my known foibles. I was very open to learning, but only from those more intelligent or more accomplished or knowledgeable than me. It was hard to see and straighten out my life. I do find the caricatures of narcissists a bit superficial and facile. However this youtuber is not bad at all. He has a pretty good knowledge base, but he isn't a psychologist or psychiatrist and has no lived experience with it.

I think its just pure evil. They know what they are doing! They know its wrong! Theyre gonna do it anyway!

It's refreshing to hear you say this. It needs to be said. I never agreed with Vaknin on it all just being purely psychological. There's something spiritual going on. A darkness that permeates withing ones soul. Cheers everyone

@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg

Ай бұрын

Yes exactly. And when you come face to face with demonic evil you finally understand that there is a God and there is free will to choose.

"Don't let them defang you," thank you so much. I needed to hear this today. Really great video and you are completely right Bundy was just a weak coward who only killed those weaker than him.

R, I adore your ability to speak TRUTH in such an intelligent, comical way!!

My friend's bicycle was stolen out of the foyer in her apt. unit and she was told to go to a "Kumbaya" hand-holding group therapy together, so they could "work it out", She refused obviously. The law didn't do anything to him. We couldn't believe it. Yay, Canada. On the Ted Bundy section, I also fell into "WHY did he do it " thinking as well, wanting to understand why a person becomes this way. But your description of him being a boring, moronic, machine, is very interesting and accurate. Our entertainment is certainly influencing our thinking by romanticizing such people. -- While I do think it's important to study them on a clinical level, it is the glamourizing them as interesting, unusual and geniuses -it's insidious and dangerous.

@insertmyidentityhere

Ай бұрын

Wow....this world is so ass-backwards. That country is the biggest mess lol

@cynthiathomas5754

Ай бұрын

Saw that Canada is telling its citizens to leave cars unlocked ( are they talking houses now too?)and let criminals steal. US is letting people steal up to about 900$ worth from stores unstopped. US allowing squatters to confiscate homes while putting owners in jail. Netherlands farmers being destroyed by crazy thinking. Its everywhere and must be called out

@valerie5325

Ай бұрын

What?? Wow

The father of my 3 children is evil...psychopathic. 8yrs seperated and still hell due to kids being unsafe. Recently he left the state without saying goodbye to our kids or letting us know he was leaving. Hope he never returns. 15yrs of hell is finally over. My famiy are also evil particularly my narc mother, just removed my sisters out of my life too as they are flying monkeys and they used my kids as pawns. The shit I've been through has horrified psychologists I've been to see. Really can't believe the family I was born into.

I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I have ptsd cptsd. I was trauma bonded to a narc Psychopathic man for 8 years. In searching for a therapist to help me with my ptsd she kissdiangnosed me as bpd without a test and based on what... I am not bpd. I am suffering from cptsd and Stockholm syndrome.

@LisaValentine1

21 күн бұрын

I’m so glad so haven’t wasted money on psych doctors. I’ve been through the lifetime family and ex spouse gaslighting/ psychological murder, and my resultant reactive abuse, which did look like BPD episodes, and still struggle every day, waking up in a catatonic-like state still in disbelief stuck for hours in a CTPSD freeze response. Every time I think about getting mental health help outside of watching videos and reading books, I see or read comments like this that reaffirm I will likely only be further invalidated and gaslit if I go to a psychologist. Thank you for the additional validation. I’ll stick with the free videos.

"It is everywhere. It's in everything." FACTS

Yes!! People of the lie, told us that when people create confusion it’s to cover their deception.

Lately I have realised traumatic experiences might actually cause brain damage. This is not just emotional this is a physical change. Lke being hot or cold.

@heide-raquelfuss5580

Ай бұрын

I have the same idea recently! I am 53 now and endured so much traumas and the damage of being treated so bad all my life. So much people are involved. Yes, your brain gets damaged and your physique as a biologic system. You absolutely NEED to keep out every human, situation that makes you suffer. In my case, i can not reset the damage done to my body/mind. I tried and tried, but it seems permanent. The symptoms of my decline are endless. This guy is right. Bad is bad and you have to behave accordingly with everyone and everything that damages you and avoid people who harm you with no morality.

@cultivateyourself

Ай бұрын

@heide-raquelfuss5580 That is the only way forward. Reduce promixity to the generator of harm.

@moyamontgomery1468

Ай бұрын

I think you are spot on.

@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg

Ай бұрын

Yes murder of the soul but you can heal it with nature, love, peace, gratitude and God.

@cultivateyourself

Ай бұрын

@@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg and lithium orotate.

From 26:15 YES! Our children need our protection from the evil cult

@mattlacasse5828

Ай бұрын

when they all have cell phones in their hands. I call it "the monthly subscription for your brain washing"

@aspie2901

Ай бұрын

​@@mattlacasse5828right, mobiles through social media are just advanced instruments for psychological conditioning.

Autistic females are often diagnosed or given a suggested diagnosis of bpd before eventually being diagnosed with autism.This diagnosis was suggested to me along with bipolar and generalised anxiety disorder. Took 20 or more years to get the correct diagnosis.

@LocaButt

Ай бұрын

Before autism: I'm all of it. (Trauma-based personality disorders) Question marks everywhere. After autism: My life is explained. I have clarity.

Fantastic! Yes, we can grow, the narcissist can't.

@ZooxMaze

Ай бұрын

It's so good to hear that articulated. I have often, so honestly said to narcisists during 'discussions', in which they are always right - that I love being 'wrong' about things. It means I have a chance to grow and learn something that I was not aware of. I'm so happy for that ! Unfortunately, I have yet to see this revelation reciprocated. Even in situations where I'm proven to be correct, they can never admit it or even joke about it if I bring it up, perhaps, in a later conversation. "Hey - remember those two times when I was right ?" - I've occaisionally quipped with a slight, teasing smile and a gentle lilt to my voice. Their reaction, always the same: 'crickets'. Stone cold faces with absolutely no acknowledgement, whatsoever. Even if in a small social situation.

@tomtom2030

Ай бұрын

@@ZooxMaze Exactly.

thank you for reminding me that' evil is 'evil''--so many are afraid to call it what it is. I have the misfortune of having two narcopathic (psychopathic ,sadistic, torturing,-- while appearing normal on the outside ) parents, I've been no contact for ten years and living in hiding from them..that's how bad they are... the only difference between psychopaths that attack strangers and psychopaths that attack inside their own homes is their target. that is the only difference..they all have the same drive to dominate to feel powerful and to make someone suffer to bring them sadistic pleasure. in the legal system unfortunately domestic scapegoated persons are often slandered put into a box projected on and are blamed for things that they didn't even do...they are the most abused and tormented persons around and its a pervasive crime that is not even discussed. the grape victims and domestic victims are labeled as "bad " victims..whereas stranger crimes where there is no connection to the criminal are viewed as "good ' victims...home invasion, car accidents,. shootings etc etc.. ----this is the pervasive "system" which supports domestic criminals..and especially the scapegoating form of family abuse that is something that can go on for decades,... ----.this happened in the Timothy furgeson crime.... and the mother isn't properly described as her cluster b self,.... and it should be shown to the public...the child was scapegoated..that should be shown to the public... this abuse is real..not all kids are starved to death,... sometimes you survive and they do horrible things to you in adulthood .it never stops .. this isn't spoken about when the sadistic psychopath is your own parent.. the secondary abuse that society should wake up to is continuing to allow bringing cluster b's onto a police force or having access to survivors as doctors in icu rooms, or being social workers of traumatized people..this is a no brainer..evil is evil they don't respect the job title..

This vid really hit home. I escaped my abusive(physical and mental) ex-wife. And looking back maybe I would have escaped sooner if so many of the "experts" would have condemned her evil and advised me to get out. They excused her love of things over people. Her lack or morality on so many levels. Her psychiatrists, ministers, doctors all seeked reasons/excuses why she was the way she was. The doctors thought they could change her with drugs and therapy. The ministers thought they could change her with God/compassion. In the end it's like you said Richard; "evil is evil, the end."

I had a fabulous team lead a group of sexually abused adult children. She said when women are traumatized or triggered in a sexual abuse or repressed memory they displayed strong Borderline behavior, for a short peroid of time ( 6 months or less) usually in group therapy most symptoms subsided as patients got through issues in group setting" then one on one therapy for the issues that came up in group. She made her own model by ta she got from client feedback, successes, wrong turns, her professional observations, research and sharing others who specialize. She said then it was a trauma response and ignore that BPD diagnosis. Are you in? All in. The crap that psychologists and especially psychiatrists power trip level gaslighting and waving drugs. Yup, I was in. Had it only included narcissists, for my future self to avoid. But whats the fun in that. It should be in high schools as common knowledge.

You are a genius! It took me the longest time to be able to not react, at all, ever. But I never considered, until you just said it, that he wasn't after MY reaction; he was setting up HIS next reaction. Now I see this scattered throughout all our history. Happy to say I'm No Contact and forevermore will be. Sanity is beginning to come back to me. Thank you for all you do for us!

I grew up with an apathetic, enabling mother. She always said she couldn’t stop things from happening..that she was helpless

I encountered a psychopath recently at my local gaming shop. In tabletop games, you generally paint your miniatures. I brought out my team, and most people complimented me on the paint job, but one guy - the owner - held one of the miniatures in his hand for a long time, agonising over it. Finally he grunted dismissively and said, "You've chosen a good colour scheme." I knew in that moment what I was dealing with.

@siedmy

Ай бұрын

Is that all what he did?

@nicholasgordon4999

Ай бұрын

@@siedmyNo. He then proceeded to exclude me from his group. When I challenged him about it, he proceeded to gas-light and go round and round in circles in such a way that only narcissists are capable of. It really is maddening to deal with someone like that. He was able to go round in circles without actually ever answering my original question then somehow managed to flip the conversation to make it appear that I was somehow being unreasonable for even questioning him in the first place. However, he let the veil slip when I said, "Do you not like being challenged or something?" He then flew off the handle and said, "You couldn't even BEGIN to challenge me!" before completely banning me because he can. But his jealous reaction to my mini was the first clue.

@KenDavis-uo8kq

Ай бұрын

@@nicholasgordon4999lol, what a clown. If you’re still in the group, you should go out of your way to compliment other players and watch him lose his mind. lol

@nicholasgordon4999

Ай бұрын

@@KenDavis-uo8kq He's the owner, so he shut me out from everything - including social media groups. He flew into a narcissistic rage after a few questions.

@whitehairvillain36

Ай бұрын

Hahahaha

I had the good fortune of finding your channel and content six or seven years ago, Richard, and you had a profound impact on my recovery, mate. I was stuck in a trauma bond. and really suffering. I was struck by how matter-of-fact and factual you were….. and it gave me hope that you had regained your God-given, agency and sovereignty. Lord only knows how many people you have helped, mate, but I suspect there’s lots more good work to be done :-) XOXO

@catsmeow3478

Ай бұрын

I found Richard’s channel five years ago and his teaching on narcissistic abuse and CPTSD was the missing link to my healing. His content, courses and teaching style are life changing and life saving for many of us. God bless Richard.

Yes!!! It is time to acknowledge evil!! Thank you!😊

I agree with you about idolizing psychopaths. Completely! I don't want to hear their name EVER! Instead of obsessing on these people, let's talk about the victims. I don't want to know the name of --- when we discuss Columbine or any other events. It's perpetrator A and B. They want notoriety. They want to live forever through their misdeeds. I say we remember the victims, for they are worth remembering. But psychopaths...they are nothing. Less than nothing.

🔥 Evil is evil, the end. Thank you for the work you do.

Thank you! Your content keeps my fangs sharp and my belly laughing. “Strangers are friends you haven’t met yet.” 😂🎉❤

Life is...a feeling. Mind, body & spirit/psychological/physical & emotional are the holy trinity, for a whole human being. Mental health is dependent on the physical & emotional well being of an individual. Emotional dysregulation is cause for mental & physical dysfunction. D.S.M & psychiatry is quackery, at best. Empathy, apathy & psychopathy exist on a spectrum within each human being. "Each human being is the owner of 2 wolves, good & bad, who fight for dominion over their host. Which wolf wins? The one you feed the most." Wise old chief. We are what we practice & reap what we sow. As above, so below.

Yes! Authentically passionate. Evil is Evil.

Evil is evil ! This is your best video

Mine got so close. Was truly trying to get diagnosed. 34 years trauma bonded. Final discard 4 weeks ago, now a nasty stranger. Don’t you think it’s worse, the closer they are to getting ‘healed’? Think self aware, ashamed, looked into NPD and decided BPD, became a trauma expert, took me to psychiatrist trying to get me to explain. He rang psyche as he was starting to split, said its an emergency, but not in time. Serious vulnerable, but looking psychopathic now. Serious toxic twilight zone projection.

@sammyIAm247

Ай бұрын

Richard, you have helped me so so much. Can’t thank you enough. You are THE BEST Morality exactly, those two snakes thing stuck with me. 🐍 PERTH AU ❤

@sammyIAm247

Ай бұрын

I believe he has messed up the identities of our 4 kids. He won’t read his own messages from the day before. Has to idealise me or hate me which hurts the poor kids more. Mother wound I believe you hurt my mother, you hurt me. After giving us all lectures, promises at least 80 times in 4 years. The injustice is the worst! He looks evil to me now. Can’t decide if he has amnesia or if he was an evil manipulative lying bastard Omg you are describing him. Looks Dumb. Nobody home. Zero empathy, like a robot

@sammyIAm247

Ай бұрын

Thats my husband. To a tee. He is dangerous.

@Steff_FL

6 күн бұрын

How do you last 34 years in a bad environment with a narcissist or psychopath. I lasted 2 yrs not knowing wtf was going on and once I figured he was “off” I stayed 3 yrs more trying to be of support thinking I could help him heal from his bs until I couldn’t handle it anymore. I left after a big fight during one of his discards. Either way good for you that you were a let to breakaway from that abuse.

I can't even tell you how this video has changed me. My mind is blown, thank you so so much.

Narcissism is rarely disagnosed because they do not believe they need help, or that anything is wrong with them. Or they flat out refuse, just because introspection alarms them like nothing else.

Well spoken , I have understood this since I was eight , and that was a life changing occurence !

Richard, thank you for reiterating what I inherently know to be the truth, and has taken so much courage to face. Evil is evil and cut it out if needed. We don’t need a psychology degree to know that evil does not change, but seeks to destroy again and again and doesn’t deserve attention.

Thank you . I just feel like crying with grief . This world !!!

You’re refreshing and made me smile … my ex husband is a psychopath and my daughter has been diagnosed with BPD. I became the family scapegoat for everything they needed to blame on somebody else. Every psychologist ended up charmed by him, perhaps because he was paying the bill 🤷🏼‍♀️ He enables my daughter because it serves him. He has committed so much fraud, bribed officers of the court and the smear campaigns are tantamount to academy award performance. Neither my daughter nor my ex husband have a functioning moral core.

Listening to you makes me feel happy and sad at the same time. Finally knowing I can understand what’s happening to me.

This is spot on, the most psychopathic narcissist I’ve met was dumb, so unbelievably stupid, but he was so stubborn and single minded it was like he was a machine that just destroyed anything he wanted and couldn’t have, especially women, if a woman rejected he went out of his way to terrorize her and make her life a living hell, he’d do it for YEARS as well, he wouldn’t let go of it and was relentless, even women he didn’t know well like neighbours who rejected him, people had to move house to get away from him once he set his eyes open you

Gosh, I hope you read this. You’re brilliant. You’re absolutely right. I just got out of a narcissistic relationship and you are absolutely right and the reason why people don’t want to call it evil is cause it’s not popular. If people don’t believe there’s evil but there is evil thank you so much your brilliant. I love your videos.

So so true. I immediately recognize evil people. The red flags are everywhere🚩🚩🚩. Now 12 years after a narcissistic relationship ended... 👏 Thank you for your work❤️🙏✨🤗

LOVE this!!! yes!! I also cant stand the mystification of evil people..loved the Ted Bundy analogy, it's NOT the victims task to analyze & legendize evil people & their deeds..evil is evil..end of story..thank you ..R.Grannon 🙌🏾👍🏽💥❤️🖤🔥💥💯

This video is true public service. Thank you! I love your perspective. Call evil evil again!

This has to be my all time favorite RG video yet. And I've seen many. Right to the point and an honest evaluation. 👍

You're spot on. Married 30 yrs to malignant psycho. That's why Lucifer was kicked out of heaven for his morals. He's the very first psycho the unmoral angels came with him. Grandma andi

An issue with diagnosis in the US is that CPTSD is not in the DSM. A diagnosis of PTSD requires a specific traumatic event, this can be tricky if a client comes from a dysfunctional family that didn’t leave bruises (see double bind theory of schizophrenia). BPD is in the DSM however insurance will often not cover the treatment necessary because there is “no cure”. So to add to your point, many are misdiagnosed with Bipolar when they have CPTSD because insurance covers bipolar treatment. A consequence of our medical system is that people are being misdiagnosed for economic reasons

It's been a little while since I've watched one of your vids. This, I very much needed to see. Thank you, Richard. You're awesome. Appreciate you.

Your videos are so succinct, insightful, & helpful. Thank-you for all you do! You broke down what I experienced in the first 5 minutes. They were Highly Disagreeable. Ugggh! Glad I am out of that situation!

This is one of the most important videos I’ve seen on YT.

Just want to say you're looking so well. I can see you have healed and that you are in a good place. Thank you for all the information and great personality

Boom! Thanks for this awesome, authentic and straight talking breakdown of the issue. Needed to be said and definitely understood. Absolutely agree with all you said here. You cut through the BS sharply.

Richard, you are so right in everything you say..

BEST 🎉 TO THE POINT..... It is our unwilling ness to except evil evil exists. It hurts, we want to pull the curtain back and forget we aren't in Kansas anymore. OZ doesn't exist.

Thank you so much Richard. You have a gift for explaining the cluster B's. You are helping me come out of the fog in wich lurks way more danger than I ever knew existed. I've been blinded by my own narcissistic character.

EXCELLENT stuff. Spot on. Thank you Richard for articulating ❤

Thank you for speaking Morality! I totally AGREE!

You need to listen to HG Tudor. He will explain in detail. Very good and breaks it all down!

RICHARD, YOU R SUCH A FREAKIN BEYOND AWESOME PERSON❣️❣️ AND R SO CLEAR ON EXPLANATIONS, THANK YOU 😊

I see the morality from a different angle. I think the only moral thing that can be attached to psychopaths is to figure out how the rest of mankind can be kept safe. To call a psychopath a moral degenerate is someimes too optimistic but on the other hand there are too many psychopaths for us to incarcerate. They are on a sort of spectrum .Your work has helped me and sometimes I giggle when you describe interaction between the narcissist and it's source of fuel. I have been there and done that. Blessings to you!

40:28 through end of video - gold star ⭐️ Richard! Incredible! NPD can’t change - they fear change. They are jealous of those who have spirit, create, change, vulnerable, grow - they fear us gaining knowledge to escape the power dynamic.

Totally agree. Already said this in the last century, but then received a lot of resistance. A friend of mine studied social sciences (probably with Stockholm syndrome) and she seemed to glorify it, or find it worthy enough to research it, while I would say that we should not tolerate this in our society, the research should not be worth and that they should be killed. But there is still a lot of taboo about that. Good to hear you speak up about it that way.

Very excellent points made in this video. Thank you! Something I like a lot about Richard is that he considers his words, works to origins and seems to have an excitement about analyzing himself and his responses. This excitement maybe stems from love for humanity and it shows in him reflecting - on how his own existence is happening. On that note I'm going through something, and it seems no matter how I frame my words I'm actively (naively) trying to express a truth and "triggering" a reaction from my 'subject', no matter how much I care about the person. My internal locus of thought is abstract... well I'm confusing many emotions suffice to say. I may be pouty/bitchy and misanthropic and it's literally contagious. I could be my better side but also my relationship/life is a train wreck. I feel desperate like I need to take action (real ptsd) but simultaneously feel I need to not respond to my partner. I am having Karen-esque moments displacing my need for control and bothering people in public. By chance I found this channel and it's a blessing to be able to comment. Richard is also admirable in his self direction. You can't hope to imitate someone this funny and practised meeting people and talking and living well, but in trying to reach a little how they think I can peer influence myself into a traits I need. I liked a lot of points in this video upload. On the "claw" metaphor : my passitivity and how I express aggression/communicate/motivate myself is my problem. Richard's covered self empowerment a lot. I need to still click into my life somehow some things I can "sink my claws into". Richard is correct the psychobabble I got from counselors further confuses me and damaged my executive functioning. I'm seeing people judge me as a spaz and confirming it with them now. If he can expand people using their claws. Plant more seeds on making more money or doing things that aren't sitting gobsmacked or smoking pot. Sorry for myself and everyone else that can't choose their words the best and effect others. I have so much inside me to say I act madly for it and writing a question into 2 sentences.... I saying triggering shit trying to think it out. If Richard reads this then I want to say Sorry for being impolite, robotic even. Richard knows what to do he holds a group seminar so well. I want to hear people and stimulate discussions. When I get a sense it's lurking behind the topic, I just spout shit to get people talking. (Im good at it making people think too, in school some kids called me professor. I'm trying to become sensitive and avoid saying things that elicit emotions that give negative results) I get confused with my feelings too and say shit I wanted to hear about, not always good to getting somewhere useful. If my head wasn't so full with the things I don't want to do then I would talk to people better and connect to life again! I also need to RELAX and let people do their things, do not "play God", do not overthink, be in the moment enjoying health and avoid dicks. My head isn't going to have a magic solvent answer that is pretty egotistical I need to behave differently or at least focus on what I can/should control.

🦄✨️ Psalm 51, thank God for you Richard 🙏🏻

Yes! I often wondered about the diagnosis of BPD vs vulnerable narc. Makes sense from my experience. Your humor on the topic is much appreciated! 😂Please keep up your work. 🙏 It’s so helpful!

You are an amazing man, Richard, I admire you and your intelect deeply

Wonderfully presented, explained as always. Thank you

Authorities make it seem like it's the victim's responsibility to analyze their predator.

Real good production Richard! So informative, revealing and alarming. I’ve been terribly naive and you’re so right in recognizing “evil is evil” and seeing what you’re dealing with. I also see your goal oriented behavior to elicit a reaction to enforce the power dynamic which I feel was the seed to my former partner engineering the demise of our relationship. I also knew a woman in the nineties that I wrongly accepted a hoover call during the pandemic. I was n/c for fifteen years. I’m back to n/c with her now as she’s a psychopath and no respect for boundaries. She’s trying to hoover me again and I’m not biting. She devalued me and has dead eyes and truly believe she’s evil. She “milkshaked” my dinner one time with her fingers and it infuriated me. One of these “I’m not hungry” types but feeds herself ramoras herself through life. Very good segment to rewatch! Thank you and best Sir.

Hi, Richard. I agree with you on the moral issues here,. However, I do think it's important to study people like Bundy, albeit without the hand wringing. I think we need to understand what creates these monsters, so that we can get people help before they go down the road Bundy went down. Love your channel!

Thank you for being brutally honest. It really helps ground me. My mate is a convert. I'm not married yet, do glad for that. It's becoming apparent i need to move on. I have no power in my situation but somehow it'll work out.

I admire you Richard.🙂 You are an inteligent and a handsome young man with an ethical and a good moral compass. God bless you and may you prosper.🌼

Duuuy. Haha yes the perpetual wringing of the hands 😂 I’ve come around. ‘Does that person have a functioning moral code?’ Morality makes things very simple yes.

Good stuff, thank you, super helpful 🤘

I just found out my husband has another child in another country we have a 9 months im in the middle of a restraining order and custody court battle pray for me . I can not believe he look me in the eyes and say this is his first child . I feel violated . He completely changed and did everything to push me out threatening to kill me abuse me he didn’t expect I tell the police I did now I’m in court battle please pray

Bloody awesome! Thank you Richard 🙏

Thx for the videos, they are de best , Thx Richard

Love this one

I believe it was very helpful for me to have my undergrad in theology before my masters in clinical psychology, and then experience working in crisis / suicide prevention… it all helped me see morality and meaning as the clients mindfull work best done to feel better. Supported work..

This is golden advice!

@16:26. Get them out of your memory. DING! Ding! Ding! Ahhhh, I needed that realism today! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

One more comment 38:02 is the start of an amazingly clear thought that totally clarifies the why question. My head just cleared.

This is the best take on that sh...it ever! I learned all about it and came out at the same hole. I was in militery in the legion I acted worse than a psycho to survive. I thought I did a good thing. Then I realized I did it for another country in the legion and was fighting in another other country. I wasn't defending someone or something. I wasn't bad I was stupid. I became a surgeon it was violent and blood again. I thought I did something moral then. And most of the time it was. You have to have your limbic system in check where your empathy and memory is located. That doesn't mean you have no empathy. I am highly empathic if there is no one who wants to kill me or if I don't need to cut big parts of you away to save your life. We don't know if psychos don't have an actve frontal brain and limbic system cuz they don't want to use it or if they can't use it. It doesn't matter. They are effective. I'll be faster. "Empaths" only live on the limbic system under sick controle of the frontal cortex. That means there are no logical really human higher brain functions. I wouldn't call that "normal". At least it is highly dangerous for themselfes and loved ones too that have a right to be protected. Now I work as a bodyguard. I earn more money and it isn't that stessful. If I can see your hands you will see a smile. If I can't see your hands I'll watch you. If I see a weapon I don't care why or who you were once upon a time. I learned to act in that way with girls. They love it, they love me. Girls don't know that, but they don't want an empathic man, they need segurity. They trust me and they know I'm empathic cuz of my actions and cuz I listen. It is my empathy for small weak creatures that makes me understand them. If they don't feel save they have to become psychos. If they can't respect you they can't love you. No girl want's to loose that kinda guy and they behaive. They share me with other girls, no problem. My problem with crazy chicks is solved. From South América

So interesting! Thankyou Richard ❤

King 👑 Congratulations from Greece 🇬🇷

You are so awesome. Everything you say makes complete since to describe what my ex boyfriend did and does. He is a definite narc psychopath. He literally is what you are describing......

I did laugh at the observation of our desperate attempts to understand these people. Years ago when I was dealing with a lawyer over my “first narcissist” (a boss) I remember going on and on with the lawyer trying to make sense in my own mind of what this horrible person had done to me (destroyed my career, essentially) and finally my lawyer just said to me in exasperation “why do you care? What he did was wrong.” It was the needed loop interruption for me. Yes narcissistic psychopaths are immoral degenerates and that is WHY they do what they do. It is US who tries to over complicate it 🫠