I am going to listen to this EVERYDAY for a year!!! My wife & I adopted 7 children (international) and I struggle daily with guilt. What did I do wrong? What was I supposed to do more of? How much more can I do now, even though they are adults? Just hearing this once has lessened some of the weight of feeling like an utter failure.

Wish MORE Parents Would LISTEN to this GUY! He advises the GOOD SHEPHERD!

@ApacheMagic

3 жыл бұрын

It’s very adhd (and autistic- I’m both) to take things literally. Metaphor is our friend, but we have to work on the relationship.

@JonathanGrandt

Жыл бұрын

Jesus is the Good Shepherd.

@whyfor

Жыл бұрын

​@@JonathanGrandt Jesus is a false prophet. There's no such thing as immaculate conception.....god didn't fuck Mary and impregnate her through some sort of spooky mystic spiritual telepathy sex! The bullshit book states Mary and Joseph were married yet she didn't carry Joe's baby? That's because she's an adulterous slut who fell preggers from fucking randoms behind Joe's back. Now given the stoning she'd receive if found out, she concocted a wonderful story about god fucking her, feeding her his seed and gifting her with his child..... badda bing badda boom!!! There's no god's, no masters and no divine plan......you think a man in a frock who's not allowed to use his cock is going to tell you what's what???? Get off your knees and do something for yourself, you think you can pray to save the day? You don't know who you are....crack open your cranium and let awareness begin. Religious cancer, it's disgusting insidious cancer!!!

Besides his unbelievable knowledge of Dr. Barkley mixed with his awesome sense of humor is fantastic!

I have one child with severe disabilities and two children who do not. Experiencing all the typical milestones with my typically developing two regardless of my input, vs. experiencing years of therapy at my disabled child's side to try to accomplish milestones he'd never reach, really taught me what he is so eloquently stating here. The majority of the credit, and the guilt, does not actually belong to me.

@hautecouture2228

5 ай бұрын

Yes it belongs to God rather than ‘nature’ or ‘evolution’ to which this freemason attributes it too

People in a higher socioeconomic group tend to naturally like classical music, so they naturally listen to it out of free choice. They will actively choose to listen to it for fun. And the child will end up reading earlier and scoring better at school because of the early childhood environment afforded by the wealthy and highly educated parents.

The video is really interesting, only the subtitles are partly pretty messed up. Any possibility to make changes to correct the mistakes?

@221b-Maker-Street

Жыл бұрын

They're auto-generated live in response to the audio, Charly! 😂 No-one is going to be able to adjust them because it's the audio that generates the text.

@oxytocinated

Жыл бұрын

@@221b-Maker-Street Why shouldn't it be possible to download the auto generated subtitles, correct them and reupload them?

This guy is so on point & relatable! There are so many good Steven Pinker titles!📖 😁

So, as a 48 year old who was just diagnosed with severe ADHD/combined, I have to say - I did NOT need to be treated like I was 1/3 of my actual age growing up. That alone would have made me feel like a complete loser and like I had a significant handicap. I have never had problems with driving. I certainly do not need it to be a law, as he suggests, that I should be medicated in order to be allowed to drive. I graduated high school with decent grades. I got 2 college degrees and worked as a professional for 23 years before my ADHD, and the difficulties it causes, finally caught up with me. I was LOVING this video series until he began speaking about people with ADHD as if they cannot be trusted. Not to take away from all of the great information that he presents - but some of this is highly misleading. I realize that ADHD presents differently in everyone - yet he does not make this clear at all. He makes it sound like ALL ADHD children are outwardly hyperactive - which is NOT true. That idea, alone, is why so many females are overlooked.

@aligolightly7359

2 жыл бұрын

I’m not sure he meant it that way, since he himself has ADHD. But he also had a twin brother who went a different route and died from the problems caused. He encourages caution and concern, but not control.

@BarkRuffalo

2 жыл бұрын

Well the target audience of this talk is for parents of children with ADHD, not us who have it. I interpreted it more like “be cautious and evaluate your child’s case before letting them drive/babysit/go off to college”. Misleading? I don’t think so. Alarmist? Sure

@hautecouture2228

5 ай бұрын

I think he is a freemason ( judging by the symbolism he flashes). They are puppets of the ruling elites and their job is to get everyone medicated. The healthcare system is so corrupt. People should not trust blindly any of these so called experts. Even when they have no bad intentions they are just promoting stuff which is decided by people above them. Most medical doctors are drug reps for the pharmaceutical companies. They do not look to prevent disease or cure anyone. Just to get everyone on life long drugs to treat symptoms . This is the case for 99% of medical conditions

@nathantekle6925

5 ай бұрын

I agree with this comment

@helleeno

2 ай бұрын

He is raising awareness, hence the focus on extreme scenarios. Remember this is 9 years old and most people are still clueless about adhd. Depression went a long way. Let’s hope adhd awareness won’t take as long.

Quality not quantity, with regard to stimulation, but yeah i get it and out make sense. I've raised 4 children, one adhd. Some things work great, some less, but to an extent there is only so much you can do.

oh god i thought first after i read the title he meant that adhs people are better shepherd and bad in engineer things xDDDD

@vividhkothari1

6 жыл бұрын

I thought that too lol

@sgarciagsg

5 жыл бұрын

So did I 🤣...I was like “but I’m an engineer”

@armorsmith43

4 жыл бұрын

@@sgarciagsg "but systematizing things to solve people's pain is my love language to society...."

Every person is a product of Genetics, Environment and Conditioning.

What if you homeschool?

Where can I listen to the entire lecture 🤔

@everydy

Жыл бұрын

Search "Essential ideas for parents" Jason Salotti has it on his YT. It's nearly 3 hrs long

5:12 isolation is so important when raising children. Removing outside influence to ensure your Shepherd goal oriented direction as a parent is achieved when they become adults. G You are growing a 401k plan that cares.... That is if you don't want it free thinking child but in obedient child. And an obedient child is an abused child... Just read the book by the American Bar Association ABA published in 2020

Asian and Indian parents, hold my bear!!!

The same aoutomobile factory can make a Cherry or a Mercedes. I guess instead of saying there is nothig to do it is better to say there is always something to do.

The child’s IQ is in most cases the average of the biological parents. If you and your spouse are both average, then most likely your child will be average too. However if it’s extremely low or extremely high, there may be regression to the mean. Meaning, if both you and your spouse have a 140 IQ, the kid may end up 130. If you and your spouse both have 80 IQ, the kid may end up 90. Regression to the mean (100).

Who is this speaker, please?

@kt4600

Жыл бұрын

dr russell barkley

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@bobbyd0656

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂just one more little one

Really good if paired with adhd and where is research (white paper) that led to this conclusion... useful but not necessarily true!

Love this, but the advice does seem a little dated. Research is finding that things like ADHD is a combination of nature and nurture. The genes need to be activated by the environment, do they not?

@hyrum_abiff4325

Жыл бұрын

They can be activated by the environment = epigenetics.. However, in another part of the series of this actual presentation he advisees that a medication can cause ADHD... It was someone like an antibiotic during the ages of 9months to 2 years... So yeah he does believe both nurture and nature have an all round effect

You can increase the success of your children by teaching conscientious. Asian parents do it all the time.

Not blaming yourself for the ADHD of your child makes sense, however the rest is a pretty pessimistic point of you. It kinda means, that you watch your child ruining their life and you can't do anything about it. And isn't there a lot of research on how bad parenting affects the mental health of a child? So I'm not sure it's that uncontrollable. Maybe personality traits are determined by gens but it's parenting that either makes those traits flourish or wither. Just laying back and not reflecting on what you are doing with your child, seems a little bit to simple for my liking. But maybe I'm misunderstanding something and he doesn't mean it as extreme as I ended up thinking he does. This kinda reminds me of Rousseau. And it shouldn't be interpreted in the direction of laissez-faire but aside from choosing the meadow it actually looks like that's what a shepard is doing with his sheep: laissez-faire.

@RogerLuedecke

2 жыл бұрын

He did talk about bad/abusive parenting and it's detrimental effects. However, assuming such gross dysfunction isn't present, he rightly advocates for allowing the individual to emerge and just being a gentle guide.

@MysticCystim

Жыл бұрын

"Abusive parenting" is a misnomer, it is abuse and abuse alone. Imagine seeing a parent verbally and physically abusing a child ... ask your self this ... what am I witnessing? I'll bet the answer isn't "abusive parenting"

@muerashoko2210

Жыл бұрын

Recommend you listen to the full video : m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/hXd1qcVmos6vltI.html. This summary does not give the full context. Hope you will appreciate his views better from the full presentation.

@MissMarissa415

Жыл бұрын

I know you typed this response for years ago, but this video is just now again circulating. The shepherd perspective means that , if taken seriously, good parenting = equals ensuring their environment is safe from harm, ensuring the child is well nourished. Etc in the case of Rousseau and the theory of laissez-faire parenting , I did not get that notion at all from what he is saying here. What I did grasp however, is that our children are born with a temperament that was determined in utero, which he explains emerges as they grow and develop. Your role as the shepherd essentially is to ensure that as they grow and develop, we give them access to the tools in which they need to thrive as best they can. This gives new meaning to accepting the child for who they are.

@lizericsonn9367

Жыл бұрын

no, it means there are some things your child is going to be genetically influenced by that are out of your control, including many things like personality disorders ambition iq interests and even moral responses are out of your control. You can influence their environment to help how that all comes together, but like the shepherd, you can't change the sheep, only guide them in the best ways to adulthood and hope they learn enough to be functional adults, you teach things like social boundaries, social manners, social expectations for that purpose but you do not design or influence their base drives.

With CRiSPR we can design a baby like Lulu and Nana as in China. Ethic prevent it, not evolution 😊

Thank God! I found one educated person who is against Darwin's Evolution Theory!!! Thank you!

@arnewiddingnielsen6483

Жыл бұрын

He is not.

@vojtechvaligura7054

Жыл бұрын

What? Did you listen to what is he saying?

@peterchung2262

Жыл бұрын

This is literally indirectly supporting Darwin's theory? Saying that life experiences (parenting) do not influence evolution.

@ABC-jq7ve

Жыл бұрын

Let the idiot think what she/he wants.

@billythekid8333

Жыл бұрын

Your 400 traits weren't in your favour. Stupidity took first place

i completly disagree with this man! on the contrary the majority of trauma and mental disabilities come from bad parenting! hello where did all the narcisists and co dependants come from? and how about addiction???? sorry this video is either taken so out of contex because on its own its conpletly wrong!

@Plasmafox

3 ай бұрын

Right at the start of that segment he used a quote with a disclaimer excluding abuse and neglect. So, trauma

@IsThereBacon1

18 күн бұрын

That's not what he is saying, infact far from it. A narcissus will always be a narcissus, you can't parent these children to not be a narcissus. That's like saying you can make yourself schizophrenic, no you are born predisposed.

HE FORGOT TO MENTION THAT THE PARENTS ARE 100% THE ONLY ONES RESPONSIBLE FOR A CHILD'S DISCIPLINE!!! AND THE AVERAGE AGE ITS TOO LATE TO TEACH IS 4 YEAR'S OLD!!!

@Plasmafox

3 ай бұрын

Too many Americans think discipline means getting their way over the child in the present moment using threats. They think it's about their authority rather than what it's really about- the child's sense of safety and "home"

steve carrell?!?@