ADHD in a nutshell: You know what to do, when to do and how to do things but you cannot DO it. And you know that you can do it but at the same time you also know that you cannot do it. I think only ADHD sufferers understand what I'm saying.

@Bexckers

5 жыл бұрын

I feel this statement sooooo haarrdd. This feeling brings me to tears.

@PiercingChild

5 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily. Sometimes it's that something can take a lot of sustained mental attention and concentration and you know you can't do it.

@virginiamoss7045

5 жыл бұрын

@High plains drifter - Didn't watch the video, did you. Or you want all people on earth to be just like you, all exactly the same, nobody even slightly different in any way. You can want that all you will, but you are not worthy of having what you want because you are so selfish and arrogant, not to mention completely lacking in empathy.

@love2vintage

4 жыл бұрын

Kevin Huynh 100% true, it’s a horrible feeling.

@ClubNoiseband

4 жыл бұрын

High plains drifter- more so distraction. Mind running fast, chaos from having so many different ideas and thoughts constantly running with no prioritization or time filter

time stamps for my mom; know the disorder 1:28 what is it that is delayed 4:58 adhd and relationships 13:05 Failing to Develop on Schedule 16:16 3 executive deficits 21:13 self regulation disorder 23:41 The ADHD Model 25:47 self control 28:12 self motivation 32:51 recap of 5 delays 36:00 sct vs adhd 43:11 ADHD and causation 51:56 brain and its regions 55:13 adhd genes regulate dopeamine 1:02:30 adhd isnt caused by 1:08:36 Important ADHD Insights (time blindness) 1:10:53 what to do about this disorder 1:18:18 increase accountability 1:22:10 bmod for adhd 1:23:50 Managing and Accommodating ADHD 1:27:53 ero time management 1:32:53 mental play 1:35:10 Results of Untreated ADHD 1:38:25 how far behind 1:43:17 4 components of treatment 1:47:31 Taking Charge of ADHD 1:50:13 shepard not engineer 1:59:02 needs to be made accountable 2:06:00 transitioning across activities 2:10:44 ADHD and Medication for Children 2:14:14 drug abuse 2:24:26 families of disabled children 2:33:06 Q and A 2:39:15

@_kimiadventures

Жыл бұрын

Thank You 💖

@Blaisem

Жыл бұрын

excellent thank you.

@TheGraynes

Жыл бұрын

This is so helpful. Thank you for taking the time to do this!

@rhonaallenbagley5727

Жыл бұрын

Great...thanks!

@sharoneast228

Жыл бұрын

Wow. What a useful kindness

"50-70% of ADHD kids are utterly rejected from close friendships by second grade" Im 34. I was diagnosed last year. I wept as he said that.

This is excellent and I believe all teachers should be required to watch it.

@ladykemma3

4 жыл бұрын

we watched it in a 6 hour professional development, with lots of breaks and break out groups. eye opening. made me look at my own ADHD (EFDD)

@indigo7856

2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@tlahe2

2 жыл бұрын

And parents!

@sammischoppe6754

Жыл бұрын

I just sent this to my son's teacher. This is such valuable information

@eliseocortes0228

Ай бұрын

Indeed 👍👍👍

This man is irreplaceable. He has informed my practice in managing ADHD so well that I cannot thank him enough.

@RBZBGT

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed !

@bobthe2251

Жыл бұрын

How do you manage it?!

@Neilgs

Жыл бұрын

No, actually he should be brought up on criminal charges. He is intentionally and egregiously misleading as this NOT based upon science but manipulative interpretation dumped on parents as to be absolutely and incontrovertibly persuasive as he is one of the top tier highest paid darlings of Pharma. What he (and many others) describe is SYMPTOMATOLOGY. It is not a set of genetic biological markers but the synaptic connections are certainly profitably targeted! It is embarrassing to the point of pure vomit. It is not based upon our understanding of neuroanatomy and neurophysiology, our autonomic regulatory state. There is NO SCIENCE in his interpretative. Nada!

@lisawalker7500

Жыл бұрын

a mq

@lisasternenkind6467

Жыл бұрын

I wish I would have heard all of this talk when raising my kids. My oldest son was such a struggle and I asked therapists for help, including psychiatrists. When I told them what I have experienced with selfregulation and impulsivity, etc, even presenting examples like the difference between computer games and homework, they ignored everything. They always gaslighted me as mother for being "too loving". And they told me that I talk too much with him when asking what he feels and thinks. He will be 40 next year and has still not found a stable partnership or other emotional stable situation. He still needs direct consequences to do well. Since he was about 21, he does have good friendships and knows many people. He still overreacts, but his friends just accept this as a personal trait.

I am ADD, my daughter is ADHD. The doctor's words hit me like a ton of anvils falling on my head... I am feeding into my own daughters ADHD by way of my ADD. I have never in my life heard of this doctor and I am very sad that he was not part of my life as child. I am going to have my daughter sit and watch his videos together; at her pace, nice slow and comfortable. This man is brilliant; in my eyes he is the Einstein of the ADD psychology world!!

@alanberkeley7282

5 жыл бұрын

There is no ADHD

@HappyMomma412

5 жыл бұрын

Brandy Parks I understand. 💜

@HappyMomma412

5 жыл бұрын

Emanuel Afonso 😂

@StoneyCrow

3 жыл бұрын

Actually there is no ADD its no longer recognized as a medical term

@johnries5593

2 жыл бұрын

@@StoneyCrow I was originally diagnosed with ADD and am not hyperactive; so I usually use "ADD" to describe myself anyway.

As someone who grew up afflicted with t his condition, it brings tears to my eyes to watch this man's lectures, as they remind me of so much of the difficulty I had growing up, which to this day cause me trouble.

@wisepersonsay3142

6 жыл бұрын

Mark, will you tell us how you felt while you were growing up with ADHD? Not many testimonies are found by the sufferers. They will be very helpful.

@theurbanwolf298

5 жыл бұрын

Wisepersonsay tsss do I have testimonies from my life. First day of kindergarten i knew i was different. It was play dough time and aprons were given. My last name starting with a V, I was given the last apron, with girly flowers. I said no, that I wanted a blue one like the rest of the boys. “If you don’t put this apron you cannot play with play dough”. I told her to look for me when they were done, “I am going to the swing sets”. Peer rejection usually happens with kids that didn’t get physically abused by parents. I have all kind of friends and usually get labeled as a push over because I do not want Jeopardize the relationship. Ironically guilt or fear fades the relationship. Usually

@aliasgirl9

5 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed in my early twenties. Haven't had any supports since and I'm now 44. After listening to this doctor, tremendous burdens can now be lifted and explained. I can let myself "off the hook" thinking that all this time I'm defective and that I can try to "fix" my kids the way adults fixed (trained) me. I grew up and have lived as a people pleaser to make or keep relationships (not good because this can lead to dangerous circumstances) because relationships with me aren't typical. My husband is a great and Godly man. Frankly, without us having God first, our family would have broken up soon after the birth of our daughter. The stress was and is even more so now, tremendous. I'm an ADHD parent raising an ADHD/ODD son, another ADD son and a "typical" daughter. I've had many emotional collapses in parenthood because 1) I didn't know what was going on with myself or my boys and 2) it was easier to feel and do nothing because that's the only way I could cope without literally running away from my family. I only used food as an escape and coping mechanism from childhood until present (no other substances). I either overrate or felt so sick inside, any food was a complete turnoff. Now that I have the prosthesis analogy in my head, I can begin to retrain my brain to accept the modifications that my boys need to succeed. My one boy just had his very first dose of concerta today despite allllllllll of my parenting efforts to try and help (aka change) him and keep from going down this road. Why resist? Because I accepted a lie/stigma that said if your on meds for a mental issue, there's something wrong with you or you're not normal. I grew up where same was normal. Thankfully , my children can grow up with oodles of scientific research to help understand what's going on, and also know that now, different is ok. I'm even reconsidering taking that path for myself now. If meds will help keep dopamine around long enough in my brain for me to succeed in areas of repeated failures, I ought to at least try.

@DH-og5yr

4 жыл бұрын

Wisepersonsay reddit adhd

@DH-og5yr

4 жыл бұрын

aliasgirl9 as an adult on concerta I can tell you it will not completely repair the child. He will still need extra accountability. And discipline. For the love of god make him clean his room and do t even bother buying open world big video games. Sports. Mario. And anything that can be turned off at will without losing too much progress. Stress is a feedback loop cause more procrastination and thus more stress

this presentation opened my eyes to the fact that I can stop blaming myself for my child's ADHD. now I can get on with helping him cope.

@jimflys2

6 жыл бұрын

This is hard isn't it? I keep saying, you would not respond to this person this way if they were in a wheel chair or were afflicted with CP. But that is exactly how we need to deal with it. But it is tough because many time kids present normal - at first anyway.

@rosasutubechannel

6 жыл бұрын

I am sitting here crying me and my son have severe ADD. This is the first time I have heard most of this. And I have done research and tried to learn. Everywhere else they say it's about the lack of dopamine... I could tell THIS was the truth from the very beginning of the video. and I am so eager to FINALLY know my real truth, but coming to terms with the fact the your disabled is a hard thing to face... I keep having to turn it off and walk away get control of myself, get some hugs then come back. Even worse that you son is disabled. Like DR. Barkley talked about; so many places talk about it like a gift and you want to believe it so bad...

@erins.5420

4 жыл бұрын

rosasutubechannel I don’t think of it as being disabled. I think of it as being enabled to find different ways to accomplish something. How do you bake a cake? Wheat flour, sugar, ingredients, a bowl, whisk, pan, oven and oven mitts etc. For me ADHD is trying to bake a cake with out wheat flour, a whisk and oven mitts. I am able to bake the cake because ADHD is almost a tool, insight or creativity for me to find a way to bake a cake. I found rice flour in place of wheat, my hands instead of a whisk and putting a sock over my hand wrapping my hand with a small towel and then covering that with another sock to use as oven mitts. I have the ability to enable myself to look elsewhere for solutions that nobody else will look with certain insights to create and make new paths or tools. So how did I bake the cake? Being enabled with the ability to search out solutions for my own sake and ability to stay happy and sort of balanced enough to keep trying and trying harder. I call my self a solutionist. I can solve problems. Do you find yourself nearly always willing and/or wanting to help a friend? Solve their problems over dealing or solving your own? Well I needed a word that didn’t make me feel shitty because I know how to do things people call easy or even hard, I know I know I know I remember saying more than NO or any other word when I was a kid or young adult. I can better manage the life of a friend or someone I love than my own. There is something blocking my own regulation but others? No problem or not as difficult. I have the tools or I’m able to enable those gifts from adhd to solve things but regulating myself and it working, moving, present, recent or coming time is no where on my active list. There’s always give and take, yin and yang with anything and everything. Knowing that you shouldn’t blame yourself for something out of your hands and not made of your hands is important to make yourself work on the positive instead of the negative. The negative is a downer spiral. It’s worse than getting nowhere. Good luck my friend, it’s obvious you love your son and want the world for him. Take care.

@kathy2888

3 жыл бұрын

@@jimflys2 ha! I have CP and ADHD!

@Cyceryx

2 ай бұрын

if you can, PLEASE get your child a medication prescription. i am a 16 year old teen with ADHD, and my medication has saved my life and my future. i would have academically and mentally collapsed by now if i didn't have prescription meds. i promise.

I sent this guy a thank you note and he replied the same day. He is quite a remarkable human being and a good example for all mental health professionals to follow.

@andrewstoner2032

Жыл бұрын

username checks out? wholesome tho lol

@danieldbeavers

Жыл бұрын

Same, I emailed him and he replied back. It's emotional for me to watch this and to have answers for WHY I am the way that I am, that I'm not just choosing to be this way.

This video not only educated me more about mine and my son's disorder, but it brought me to tears. He validated everything I've experienced. I immediately applied the skills to help my son more and saw a difference right away.

@ltorrison1

3 жыл бұрын

Hey I know this comment is super old, but if you happen to see this comment can you let us know if his wisdom had any lasting impact on you and your son?

@the_radiant_patriot

3 жыл бұрын

@@ltorrison1 it will always be a work in progress, like everyone else. However, yes, it still helps. Education is never a waste. Hope this helps!

@Exodus6verse3

Жыл бұрын

Lithium Orotate helps me along w farm to table chemical free foods

@sameena713

Жыл бұрын

@@Exodus6verse3 How does Lithium Orotate help you?

10yrs later...but THE BEST VIDEO I HAVE FOUND ON KZread today!!!🙌🏾💜. Extremely Insightful and Encouraging. Thank you Dr. Barkley🙌🏾. Such a Passionate, Compassionate, and Professional way you explained ADHD and more in just 3hrs🙌🏾 I feel more Educated and equipped to do even better as a parent of Special Needs Children, by God's Grace and Guidance to sheperd them to thrive more here on🙏🏽💜. Thank you!!

This man is brilliant!! ADHD destroyed my life. And now in my 30’s I finally got the medication I needed. I am finally able to live my life. It’s sad but I am grateful I got the help I needed.

@max8hine

8 ай бұрын

What’s the mediation you got?

@ashleynewhard7460

7 ай бұрын

Is there a video like this for adults?

My treatments: 1) Go to therapist after a year of searching then asking my mom to find and make appointment. 2) Therapist writes a list of resources and things for me to do. Cool! 3) I go home. See a mess. Spend hours cleaning messes I see in my tiny condo. 4) Omg! I’m so tired! 5) Month later at therapy: How is your to do list coming along? 6) I can’t find it. What list? I need to clean my condo and find it...:( 7) Pay $300 8) over and over again for years. Life wasted.

@eliseocortes0228

Ай бұрын

Until you dont use adhd meds, you will be swimming in the same pond eternally....

For people who are already diagnosed with ADHD and want to watch this: This is a long lecture, with massive amount of information THAT YOU WILL NEED. just like any other task, break it into smaller parts, like 25 minute intervals followed by 5 minutes of rest (google "Pomodoro" technique). And of course, TAKE NOTES. because we tend to forget some information, and the part you just forgot, might have been able to help you tremendously. This is by far the most useful and comprehensive video I've seen. Thanks to Dr. Barkely and his team and every other person who helped with gathering and providing these information.

@thetincan4992

Жыл бұрын

This just made me sob, just having someone who understands reach out to look out for others, idk it just made me feel not alone

@claudiagomescortez3219

Жыл бұрын

I watched this lecture 3 weeks ago and I’ve been Tallinn about ir and sharing it since. I haven’t stopped thinking about how much I NEED to translate this into Portuguese, so that a lot more people can understand the lecture. Or, at least, just get the English subtitles. I’ve been procrastinating, because it took me 3 evenings to watch it (and I was absolutely loving it), but I know it will take me ages to write down the translation and I’ll probably never finish it. 😔

For some odd reason, it really helps when Barkely explains ADHD. I've had symptoms from very early on, and am now dealing with it as an adult. I always feel like I am "less than" compared to others. I'm the 40-something year old who gets in a good mood and starts making stupid jokes and laughing. Then, I feel just fine dancing in the store, saying stupid things, etc. My family is embarrassed by me. My family being embarrassed by me makes me feel terrible about myself, and like even my family can't stand being around me. They think I'm immature. I hope I mature at some point, so I can be up to the standards of the general public, and my family. Not paying attention isn't such a horrible thing (besides driving) most of the time. I'll admit to having a car accident at least once per year when not medicated - all my fault, but I can't really explain how they happened. I didn't see the stop sign. I honestly didn't see it. etc. I do pay attention, though. I pay attention to more than most people. The problem is that I pay attention to whatever I notice - which is a lot of things at once. I often times just blame myself for not being able to just BE NORMAL. I just want to remember things, remember what I had volunteered to do, remember what the boss told me to do, or at least try to remember. I want to finish things. I want to get the kitchen cleaned - to get something done - to finish.... just finish something. The only thing that helps is a pill. I want to be normal without a pill. I want to just BE normal. It pisses me off that I can't figure out how - everybody else does. I take medicine so that people like me, and so that I like myself. Without it, life isn't worth living anymore. Don't worry.... I would never take my own life. I'm aware that I could never actually finish, so I would only be half dead.

@luciachangnavarromd3309

4 жыл бұрын

tericuppajava Just like he brilliantly said, seat back and enjoy the trip. I know exactly how it feels. I am 35 years old, and I’m just finding out what was wrong with me my entire life. And I found it out accidentally, on the hardest way, since my 5 years old son is also affected. Trying to helping him, I’ve diagnosed him and myself. However, nothing is going to change from my side. I’m going to learn how to deal with him, support him, and guide him on this journey, as I have learned how to deal with myself, and stand strong no matter what. I’ll try my best to be a cooler mom. But I was convinced before that this was me, and my personality, and now this is him, and his personality. I’m not going to adjust myself to the world. My husband after 12 years together has learned to tolerate me, understand me and even support me. I feel bad because even I knew I wasn’t normal, I thought it was just a trait. Now I know I have a disorder. I feel good because I still choose to be happy, and make my disorganized life even more worthy. I hope the world keep understanding, if not I’m here stronger that anyone, changing what might be changed, and whatever I can’t change, let it be.

@etheriumart6617

4 жыл бұрын

I’m 18 and I relate to you a lot... I’m the embarrassment. My mom tells me that I’m immature and embarrassing and I always just thought I was babyish... now I know that I’m just, well, emotionally, behaviorally, and developmentally behind.

@berrysaldana422

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t be ashamed of who you are I highly doubt your family is embarrasss by you and if they are shame on them not you you’re a human being doing your best JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE surround yourself with good people because happiness is definetly the name of this game called life I promise you

@terieaton9547

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, my husband is embarrassed by me. He hounds me about things like being more serious and realistic. I'm a dreamer. I'm optimistic. I'm silly. I love people. I died my hair purple and I'm 47. One day, I went in Lowes for a shelf. I came out with green paint and painted the livingroom. It's really pretty, though.

@terieaton9547

3 жыл бұрын

Dyed. My phone autocorrected that!

The part he said about about sincerely and honestly meaning to do something and having it not happen anyways describes me to a tee.

The most valuable 3 hours of learning I've ever attended, both as a parent and as a mental health professional. I have shared this video with countless others. Absolute gold. I also heartily endorse Dr Barkley's books.

I have only watched 20 minutes and already feel this man understands my son better than anyone else has. He is now 29 and has not had the support in his adult life he has needed. People just think he's lazy and unmotivated. Even family. I always felt he was about 5 years behind at least. Maybe 10 even.

I am constantly sending parents a link to this lecture. It is the BEST adhd video I've found for parents and patients. Everything rings completely true. I am a teacher and I have adhd.

this is a 3 hour video (!!!!) that I've listened to while I'm doing manual work. There's no way I'd be able to pay attention otherwise 😆 So many lightbulb moments here! And as someone with diabetes, I'm blown away by the overlaps of management styles. Having family buy-in, doing the research, advocating, advocating, advocating. Less guilt, more shepherding.

@dianapita3056

Жыл бұрын

I was thinking "I watched with no problems. Why are so many people saying they had troubled listening straight way?!? " Also me: been reading the comments and commenting instead of really listening while went to a doctors appointment, prepared coffee, ate, went to the pharmacy, check my bank accounts and rewind several times...🙄

@jademitchell1320

Жыл бұрын

@@dianapita3056 bahaha me too. Been listening on my break while doing a puzzle, and then kept listening while working

I want to add one more tip for parents: Caregiver burnout is real and painful for everyone, including your child. TAKE SCHEDULED BREAKS from your kid. Ask grandma to watch them while you go to the grocery store alone (now your child is no longer overwhelmed by the marketing messages, colors and smells) and you can meet a friend and have an uninterrupted adult conversation. Take a weekend off with your spouse. Take a night off to do a hobby away from home, taking a class or just window shopping. If you don't refill your emotional 'tank' you'll either unintentionally neglect or blow up at your kid... or holding in all that stress will make you sick. As a pro caregiver, some of my past clients have had in-home, full-time family help but were able to use me to get breaks and not lose their mind. Studies showing caregivers who don't get breaks are VERY likely to either hurt themselves or their charge. Don't think you have to go it alone. Humans' superpower is what incredible things we can accomplish when we cooperate and help each other!

@katherineberger6329

Жыл бұрын

I think my parents could have done better if their parents had lived closer to them (my mom's parents lived half an hour away, my dad's were two and a half hours).

For anyone who needs to hear this, I got through nursing school with adhd, depression, anxiety and the emotional issues I had from trauma. Do not let people tell you that you are lying, that you are making it up, that you are lazy, that you are stupid, and annoying, and crazy... You are so much more then that. Show them! Because the people you surround yourself with should know enough about you to understand you and your problems, and be able to see through the reaction. If you are concerned you may have it, get help now. I waited way too long, I waited until I couldn't cope anymore and thats the problem with mental health today. Do research, learn about your brain so that you don't get stuck blaming yourself for your adhd.

@bethmarshall4796

2 жыл бұрын

I have a masters!

@lisaariottiart

Жыл бұрын

💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻❤️

Yes to the trades. I was a dog groomer and it was the most gratifying job ever. I had to use plenty of timers and notes and I worked for someone that created my schedule. So I was accountable to them. I also utilized their mobile grooming vehicle, so I was accountable to not wreck that. The job kept me accountable for driving my personal vehicle to keep my driving record clean, to keep my job. I had clients that loved my work with their animals, and so I would be accountable to them to be thorough. My tips also depended on this. Very true. It is also nice to be in different places everyday, and not stuck at a desk in an office. My job had a start and an end instead of monotonous data entry or secretarial work. I always started out strong with those lol, doesn’t last.

I have ADHD so I had to save this to my watch list and watch in chunks while taking notes and doodling. Thank you so much for posting this as free content. I can't imagine how many families and individuals you have helped.

I would like to hear him address how some of the social behaviors (dating, etc) can be the OPPOSITE of what he described: instead of dating around, sleeping around, not maintaining focus on one partner how they can HYPERFOCUS/obsess on one person for long periods of time, develop anxiety that prevents them from normal dating/sex life etc.

@katherineberger6329

Жыл бұрын

My husband has been my happy, quiet hyperfocus for 23 years of life together. In 2024 we celebrate a quarter-century.

i'm 23 and i only JUST NOW feel ready enough to handle college. that'd make my executive age around 16 (which feels about right tbh)

@TomtheS_AI

6 жыл бұрын

knightsintodreams people start college at 18, or 19 though? Most 16 year olds are not ready for college imo

@spiralsun1

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds hopeful ❤️🙏🏻👍🏻 I am in my 50’s now and I feel like I am maybe 12-14 in mental executive age. 😳🤦‍♀️

@sdsfgsty

3 жыл бұрын

I didn't feel mature until I turned 40.

@ergotoxicosis

3 жыл бұрын

T0mpkinz but it’s not like their WHOLE brain is 16 years old, only components of it

@saga2964

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you for waiting! I went right away and the first three years were emotionally terrible for me. I then took a year off, and somehow something clicked. I went back the following year, and I excelled bc I was finally ready. I really wish I hadn't lost those first 3 years.

I cannot stop watching. As an adult with ADHD (who didn't think I had it anymore because the hyperactivity has gone), a parent of the most amazing child with ADHD and as a teacher I cannot tell you how much your work means to me, Dr Barkley. I am only just beginning to discover your work and I cannot stop sharing with my support group etc. The removal of judgement and shame. So many things I thought but I did not have the science to back it up- eg. visual working memory, breaking things down into much smaller steps, executive age etc. Even just this weekend at a post-graduate course people were saying how ADHD is bad parenting. If only I could have shown them this video! I cannot say THANK YOU enough. You have changed my life and as I share and teach differently I'm sure you will change many more through giving me knowledge.

i will watch the entire video...I have ADHD but this is very interesting so I have no problem staying focused

@9-0-55

6 жыл бұрын

Erin Liu hyperfocus mode

@ArtekGeneral

6 жыл бұрын

I do the other thing: i play a casual videogame that doesn't require much attention from me - not in the sound department at least - and while my eyes are focused on the game my ears are eager to hear what this guy has to say. I intentionally split my attention, and in that split i find my comfort.

@julyol119

6 жыл бұрын

I listen to his lectures while doing housework. I couldn't do just the one or the other but it's perfect together. Keeping my body and mind at work xD

@love2vintage

4 жыл бұрын

Erin Liu me to, but did watch in small portions 😄

@chrisvaccaro229

4 жыл бұрын

wow this is a really good vid- oh damn a hot chick commenting! Hi Erin!

I love how he enjoys himself, and his presentation is inlightning and his dedication is Real. I like it, thanks

@wonderfeet

5 жыл бұрын

Patrick Sørensen JSU’s

@alanberkeley7282

5 жыл бұрын

@@wonderfeet Barkley's dedication is to big pharma.

Strumming my pain with his fingers...singing my life with his words....

@mangos2888

4 жыл бұрын

This legit caused me to 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

To be honest I had to pause this because I'm at 13 mins and ready to cry thinking of my 4 year old and ALL the pieces are coming together for her and what's going on with her. 😭 I will be watching all of this and then some. I need to learn how to help her better with life in all of it....

At the age of five I was hyper active. That was a very bad thing. Now at the age of seventy five I am still hyper active. For me this is now a good thing. In the early fifties they made me repeat the entire first grade. At that time no one knew or cared about ADHD. I knew nothing about it myself until I was seventy and retired. Fortunately for me I chose an occupation which is a true meritocracy. Although I was not the most popular guy in the shop, I was the guy who made the boss the most money which usually made me even more unpopular.

Dr.Russell is one of the best people I have ever seen describe ADHD. I have it and so does my son. It can be a life of thinking you are wierd or strange. I have learnt to cope, teaching my son to cope is hard. I would not wish this on anyone. Knowledge is power and understanding why our brains work a certain way does help. Medication helps alot too.

@celesteisneat

3 жыл бұрын

Knowledge is Power! I’m finding out about all of this a little late in life to succeed professionally or monetarily but this is huge as I’m also mother. This new understanding will help me prepare & help my kids, I hope.

@corneliusprentjie-maker6715

2 жыл бұрын

Watch peorhaps also some videos on the importance of play... Jennifer Kollari. Dr. Maté. and some of JP' s videos. Also Ash Perrin... and I have many more. saying in an interaction I took part in... PLAY SAVED THE CHILD. Hope you guys are doing well!

@andrewstoner2032

2 жыл бұрын

@@corneliusprentjie-maker6715 thanks for these. I've been interested in this topic after hearing JP talk about the experiments where the rats who weren't allowed to play with other rats developed ADHD as a result.

This video just completed 10 years of being uploaded, and I just want to thank Dr. Russel for probably the best explanation ever of ADHD

@srijitkp3

Жыл бұрын

couldn't agree more!

This approach really worked for my son. I highly recommend his books and videos.

IIRC, Dr Barkley’s family member had ADHD and died in an MVA. Unmedicated ADHDers have 4x the MVA accidents. Teen pregnancies are higher, too, as are high school/college incompletion rates. He is very dedicated and driven about the topic.

I love the frustration he expresses at how the DSM and psychiatric community see this disorder.

It's truly a gift to hear an expert who doesn't try to paint the tragedy of ADD/ADHD as some cute eccentricity. I can't exactly say that this disorder has ruined my life, but my life has been much harder and sadder because of it. There is as yet no light at the end of the tunnel, and if I didn't have religious values, then I might have despaired long ago. l

Tried college after high school. No luck, joined the Army. Then at 30 I went back and was finally able to focus enough and motivated enough to graduate cum laude. If I didn’t truly love my major there’s no way I would have gotten it done. I’m now in a masters program and while nervous, I’m confident that my love for science and my older age of now 33 will help.

As someone who has not been evaluated for ADHD but relates to a lot of symptoms of primarily inattentive type ADHD/ with people with primarily inattentive type ADHD, I still felt like I 'didn't belong' because there were still some things I didn't relate to. However, when he mentioned SCT, I went to do a cursory google search on it as I've been doing with other disorders mentioned here and that's me. The things I didn't relate to with ADHD people, the problems I've always had with working slow, having a bit delayed understanding with things, my constant mental foggines, my difficulty with regulating sleep, everything makes sense with SCT. I'm not exaggerating when I say I cried when I read that. This video I accidentally stumbled upon has been the best gift ever to me.

WOW! Just wow!! You speak with such passion and conviction! Your explanation of the emotional aspects made me cry because I felt like you were talking about my son and addressing one of the toughest things we face! We are going through the assessment process but I questioned whether he had ADHD since he was only a toddler, but no one ever validated what I was seeing. Thank you so sooooooo much for making this presentation available to everyone; I'm in Australia 🌏 on a low income, looking for everything I can find to understand and help my son. This is the best thing I have found at all!

This talk is still one of the most brilliant on the subject I’ve ever seen. This video helped me so much when I was first diagnosed at 31 and still helps me make sense of this often baffling and painful disability…

One hour in, I am grateful to have been born late enough to get help as an adult with this disorder. Very unhappy with my handling of the disorder for my son, and yet my son shared this link with me in a family discussion thread. So far the high value to word content (lots of information packed in with precise brevity) means I have to take yet another break and return to this repeatedly to finish.

I struggled with undiagnosed/untreated ADHD until I was 35, mostly because I was never fully confident in the diagnosis due to lack of explanation by mental health professionals and therefore lack of understanding by me. This video was the epiphany. It filled in all the gaps and lingering doubt that goes along with "maybe I am, maybe I'm not". I've made my entire family watch it and I refer any mental health practitioner to it that I'm in treatment with.

I would like to commend Dr. Barkley his insight and dedication to educating the masses of this disorder. I have never personally met him but some of the techniques explained has worked amazing. We have a 5 year old ADHD daughter and the most powerful part of this video was the friendship part found at about 13:00. I was in tears listening to that explanation!

@corneliusprentjie-maker6715

2 жыл бұрын

Hi do you mind elaborating on your experience. Met an Autistic child and say that PLAY saved the child... so wonderiing if the trust and connection made through your activities were in part contributing to a better experience parenting?!

@vulcan4d

Жыл бұрын

Yup, this is what triggered my Social Anxiety. It was a very fun youth.

Tears... Of frustration and sympathy. My daughter is ADD/ADHD diagnosed in 2nd grade. I have tried and tried so many tactics and some work but now in middle school and having changed schools I see her struggling to keep friends but she is so bubbly and happy most of the time but at the same time I am seeing her light dim and I hate it for her. I am going to be watching all these videos to see how I can change myself to help her stay happy.

@katherineberger6329

Жыл бұрын

Keep treating your daughter with as much compassion and warmth as you can afford. Our ADHD symptoms are made worse by the stress brought on by judgment and anger - and she's got enough of that in her life. Correction of course needs to be made - as you know, every parent needs to correct their child in order for them to learn to be an adult - but even when correcting her, point out and praise what she did right, no matter how ordinary. There is nothing more soul-sucking and quicker to destroy the raw and vulnerable heart of an ADHDer than to be constantly criticized. One of the hardest things to understand if you're neurotypical is that your child will be seeing the world through the eyes of a young teenager when she is going out into the world as a young adult. I still experience this age/behavior lag as an adult - I am a middle-aged woman who is seen by people a decade and a half younger than me as an age peer to them, because I behave as a woman in my early 30s, not my middle 40s. IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW: People with ADHD are NOT helpless. We're NOT babies. We are children and we are adults and we are fighters and lovers and survivors. We are people who are profoundly vulnerable and people who are indomitably strong. If there's anything that I think Dr. Barkley gets wrong it's that he profoundly underestimates the resilience and strength of the people he studies. Your daughter will be a brilliant woman. She only needs the support - including, yes, structures in her life to gently push her in the direction she wants to go - to get there. But these are structures - "scaffolding" as Dr. Barkley puts it. They're not the building. They're not her life. They're just the things that help her build the life she wants to live. One more thing: You keep going, too. Never stop loving her fiercely. Never stop holding hope for her. Never stop believing in her blithe spirit. You're her light, her hope, and her model of adulthood in the world, remember that too. She's got a fighter on her side.

Russel is definitely right about how much junk is out there. When I first started trying to find out about ADHD, I spent hours sifting through useless information before finding sources like this.

wow. i really appreciate, admire and respect everything this brilliant man is saying . i just turned 40 and realized a while back that I most likely have been an undiagnosed adhd individual my entire life. everything he is saying , all the examples, specifically how ones psychology changed from adolescence to adulthood, this all resonates so completely that it is actually painful when I think about it. i am in the process of getting diagnosed by a licensed psychiatrist and I am going to share this video with her because having stumbled across this video, it just reaffirms my thoughts 100%. Thank you so much Jason Solotti , for posting this , and thank you Dr. Barkely for your honesty , passion , conviction and most importantly (imo), for your FIRE! (so evident in the delivery of this message), which , unfortunately seems to be so lacking in todays day and age. Dr. Barkley, you seem to speak speak from the heart, and you deliver these words with a sense of urgency and conviction that should not go unnoticed or unappreciated. Thank you for fucking owning it sir. We need more people like you in this world. With appreciation and respect, Thank You!

1:16:15 This is the moment I realised ADHD had been hampering me all my life, I think I had all the drive a non-ADHD person could summon and so many times I've promised improvement to myself and others but I lose continuity and end up on the same old path. I think so many people must've thought I was being devious or insincere even though I think it was quite clear I could not have been more sincere. I remember my father telling me when I was late to school everyday something along the lines of: I know you're not embarressed by being late everyday but you're embarressing me. People were litterally telling me they were ashamed of me like fuck. People tell you if you just try hard enough you will succeed but it has never been more obvious what a lie this is with the contrast of my life before and after medication. 1:23:46 Also, wow, this hammers it home more, its not instructional! I learnt my lesson probably the first time, I wish it were just a matter of understanding, I just can't *do it*.

I’m going to go get some meds and start working out :-) wish me good luck

@JamesBakerAdventurer

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck

This is the most enlightening speak about ADHD that I have ever watched. I got emotional several times watching this video. I felt a mix of sadness for having lived decades without understanding myself and not being understood by others; excitement of finally making sense of things that have such a deep impact in my life and my child's life; and gratitude for having access to this knowledge to help me, not only with my personal struggles, but also with my child's struggles. Thank you for posting the complete video.

This guy is an absolute legend. Thank you so much for your straight-talking, no nonsense, keeping-it-real teachings. I am wholly inspired with a renewed sense of purpose. Thank you for the wake up call.

Brought me to tears after realizing what I've been feeling. This is amazing, the first step to understanding myself in a deeper way and to further my development as a person and my future ❤️ Truly amazing, thank you for your insight. So many questions answered and a feeling of weight lifted off my shoulders for something that I didn't understand. Thank you

Great video, great insight. I loved how personal and profound you were able to make this disorder, taking away the airy constructs and stigmas that are associated with ADHD. You really focused on the serious underlying deficits of this disorder without harping on the obvious lack of attention that many people think of with this disorder.

Parenting a child with ADHD takes exponentially more effort, dedication.

Thank you for posting this all in one video. I’ve been looking for this for weeks because all I can find are the chopped pieces. Thank you thank you 🙏

I'm so touched by this video I can only say thanks to dr. barkely and to the uploader. It's so mind opening, that i just ask myself how I didn't come through it before...

Excellent lecture. So good to finally have everything laid out before you. I was one of the ignorant who had all sorts of theories as to what causes adhd. This has thoroughly explained to me what really causes it and how medications actually work to help those with ADHD function. I recommend anyone to take the time to watch this - even if you’ve got to do it in bursts, watch it through.

just discovered Dr Barkely a month ago, the wealth of knowledge and value especially in this video is irreplaceable, ive downloaded it and have been taking notes for the last week

PROFOUND!!!!! Thank you for your work Dr. Barkley!

This rocks so hard I can't even express myself. Thank you so much.

1:24:30 to 1:26:05 is the best part of the speech I love to hear it again and again

Excellent, excellent talk! Dr. Barkely is great. It's a real pleasure to watch him.

My 7 year old son has ADHD among several other disorders and disabilities. I wish I was shown this talk years ago! I feel like you know my child better than I do. I’m learning things about my son from you and I’m only 40 mins in! Thank you for your passion and knowledge for our children!

Thank you!!!! I feel like Mr. Barkley was talking to me! He gave me clarity on all of my questions and concerns!!!! I finally know the why? my adopted child is behaving the way she is! And the HOW? her little brain works! And HELP I needed to help her even more! And so much more!!!! THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! THANK YOU!

Wonderful Resource Thank You!

love this scientist SO much. His presentations make SO much sense.

I was diagnosed with ADD over 30 years ago and have been in and out of therapy my whole life and never in that time have I gained even a fraction of the knowledge and insight that I did with this video. I've never felt more seen or understood than I have after watching this and this approach will be my gold standard at how I approach myself and what I expect from any therapist trying to aid me. Thank you Dr Barkely for all your efforts.

Oh my God. This video has been a blessing. Very good information. Its a good way to start on learning to be your child's advocate.

It's unfortunate that the title of this video does not really do justice to the breadth and scope of this incredible content. This is an essential overview of everything to do with ADHD. Essential viewing for ADHD afflicted families and individuals of all ages.

Thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. This video validated so much of what I thought was just some curse that I was born with. It is unfortunate that I did not have the privilege to be diagnosed soon enough, but at 37, at least I am convinced that (1) I am not alone in this condition, (2) there are things I could do to complement traditional treatment, (3) there’s so much more to the human mind than we currently understand. There have been many, many signs and for a long time, I thought, “wow I’m just a bad apple, aren’t I?” So, thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Currently watching this and enjoying it, fascinating stuff, wonderful speaker. BUT. Where are the slides?? How hard would it be to insert a slide for 30 seconds and go to voice over? VERY frustrating.

Dr. Barkley is a genius, but most of all, he is so informative. I wish he could be my personal coach for me and my 17-year old daughter.

daiiiiimn this guy is incredibly on par.....like way way on par.

Most excellent talk ever! Thank you so much Dr

It's fortunate that parents/teachers/caregivers have this research today for you to help understand and educate them. My parents or doctors didn't have these tools. I have been diagnosed with adhd for over 3 decades. I had to teach myself my boundaries and limitations and develop tools for myself to use to help me become successful. Most of the comments and suggestions are spot on. When I was a kid, they gave me extra time, which was useless because if the work was easy, I flew through it (losing pounts because I couldn'tremember to show my work). If not, I would hyper focus on questions I didn't know and not complete the test. And yes it took me 30min to write this.

oh my God! I wish my mother had been able to watch this years ago. My mom nor anyone in the family understood ADHD and she had adopted a child with ADHD and Autism. We had no warning from psychologists that this would result in psychopathy and we found out the hard way when she fatally injured some of our pets and her out of control behavior became worse and worse because my mom gave into her behavior instead of establishing clear penalties and executing them immediately. I think had she seen this talk and understood it, what the family went through would have been drastically different (better) in terms of managing the child's behavior and understanding what she could and could not be trusted with. I with this was required viewing for everyone with a child with ADHD, and frankly every psychologist and psychiatist. I think it would help them all.

A relevant point from my own experience is that people who struggle in similar ways as I do will internalize or externalize their reactions and negative emotions. Internalization leads to depression but an outward appearance that everything is fine; externalizing behavior leads to oppositional defiance; rebellious conflict oriented behavior. But both stem from the same core internal experience of interacting with the world with a particular set of deficits...

This literally changed my entire life mindset now.

Thank you! I am grateful to you for sharing how to succeed with ADHD. You are generous and a blessing to share your knowledge! Awesome teacher!

Thank You!! So helpful and gives me something to run with.

HOW EYEOPENING! I don't even have ADHD! It's the SCT. I'm fucking pissed that there is no research on this though. I was never hyperactive but was quiet and daydreamy and have a hard time focusing.

Thank you for posting this video. It is immensely helpful, even 10 years later

This is so helpful. I want to understand what's going on in the brain, so please have the camera person capture the visual aids.

As I’m watching this I told a friend I was watching a three hour talk about adhd. “You have ADHD but can focus on a three hour talk” Oh get lost. What annoyed me more was that I could not remember what I learned on the spot that what the video taught me about my own disorder!! 😂😂😂😂 Adhd in a nutshell.

Wow I’m 28 in 2 week. I’ve lost everything. This hit me so hard I’ve had nothing but epiphanies for the last week about it all and about my life, and my family, my parents, my sisters. It all makes sense now. :/

May you live long and healthy life!

Absolutely brilliant! Thanks.

I’ve watched a bunch of Dr. Barkley’s lectures now, and every time I think a.) I’ve never seen anyone with this much confidence in his take on things and b.) related to the first: this is truth mixed with things that aren’t always true of ADD’ers. Don’t take it all as gospel truth. Learned a lot though!

@brandydinsmore8214

2 жыл бұрын

Please balance this info with John Ratey and some others who research about ADHD and ALSO have it themselves.

Wow.. Thank You. I could CRY< my little guy who is now 12 has honestly lived hard because his school refuses to believe this is real. if they only would listen to this. then maybe they would lighten up on son.

He clearly knows he's a genius and that motivates him. I found him brilliant and very eloquent. What a man. God bless these creatures who make this world a better place.

This video was done 10 years ago. I hope , in year 2022, this doctor is still with us , practicing a try and doing his research .

I have so much frustration in my current relationship. So much inconsideration. I have adhd but now I'm pretty sure my partner does too but in more aggressive ways.

Where can one get the slides of this talk? We can only see the Doc talk and refer to them, but it would be so much better to see the slides.

1:59:39 there are studies that show that if you listen to and play a HUGE variety of musical genres, your child will be statistically more likely to have perfect pitch

20:20 Working memory-disorder. I felt this really bad at my last job. I was an airline callcenter supervisor. I had to do at least 2h of manually issuing tickets and charging credit cards that the automatic system couldn't parse. Each one would take 5-15 minutes of entering precise commands and calculating a bunch of dollar amounts. But because I was a supervisor, I was required to drop what I was doing whenever another agent approached me, and attend to their case instead, however long that took. By the time I got back to my ticketing process, I often had no idea of where I was. And if I did, I would often make mistakes, like skipping a step, or remembering details from the wrong booking. This constantly jerking my focus around was so distressing that I ended up quitting the supervisor role, just so I didn't have to do those 2h a day. I dreaded it so much that I started to fantasize about getting seriously injured, so that I would have an excuse not to go to work. It's been close to 3 years and I still feel burned out from that period.

it would be nice to be able to see more of the slides from time to time, although the speaker is great.

Are his power point slides the audience saw available in print?

@camilodongo4554

5 жыл бұрын

Did somebody reply to you? Answer your question? I´m looking for the same script. Please share if you found out !!

@leisagoldsworthy4338

5 жыл бұрын

How about taking a screen shot of each slide then printing it out.

@rebekahheinzenborse6629

5 жыл бұрын

Did you get the PPT slides to this? I am very interested in seeing them.

@laurawalker7593

4 жыл бұрын

I would also like a copy if someone has already done this....

@hanskraut2018

4 жыл бұрын

Russel Barkley has a website, but im not sure if those slides are Available there...

amazing communicator. so full of great information, thank you.

One of the reasons I know he’s an expert in ADHD is he doesn’t bullshit about it being some kind of “superpower” or career advantage (entrepreneur) like so many of the talking heads out there. They also don’t distinguish themselves from the disorder, which is not helpful in the least.