i have adhd and DEFINITELY have the emotional dysregulation component, always have, but it has rarely presented itself as externalized anger. instead i've always been really quick to tears. kids didn't reject me because i was a hothead, but because i was crying all the time. i also was like.... a super well behaved kid most of the time, and was ridiculously hard on myself if i did anything even slightly "wrong". i was hypervigilant about what other people thought of me and felt about me. so it would be good to talk about emotional dysregulation in adhd beyond just typical (and often more masculine) presentation of anger.

@Nath_Buys_Cars

5 жыл бұрын

I'm exactly the same as you describe yourself. All I've heard my whole life is "oh aren't you sensitive". Chasing a diagnosis now, but not sure how it may help aged 41

@darkpeachburger

5 жыл бұрын

me as well

@nielsengelen4045

5 жыл бұрын

hmm sounds like hsp

@Chill-mm4pn

5 жыл бұрын

You're still masculine even if you cry. Anger isn't the only emotion we feel, especially when we were young boys. I was well behaved after they placed me on ritalin. I was self conscious like you. I was an outcast, I couldn't fit in and just decided not to. As a child I had dealt with feelings of melancholy and anger. I just didn't fit in, got into a lot of fights because the medication made me appear docile eventhough I had anger issues. I think the anger and depression could be related to the fact that I was being beaten by a guy my mom dated when I was four years old. Also abandonment issues since my dad left my mom prior to me being born. Hard to say if it's mainly my ADD. It's probably a combination of the aforementioned. I was told that I was high functioning ADD. I can plan things (I actually helped out organizing my wedding), I typically stay on top of bills, etc,... Although, there are days it's hard for me to function. I have a good relationship with my parents, now in my early 30s. I get frustrated when people use vague or ambiguous terminology instead of saying what "this" or "that" is. I need specifics when I'm in an unfamiliar situation and I'm depending on the person to relay information to me.

@mcspazotron

4 жыл бұрын

wow I'm just like you

It's crazy to hear this if you have ADHD cause you have always thought there was something wrong with your discipline or attitude but to know the science behind it is a game changer.

@sean-yb5hc

4 жыл бұрын

This is a shocking revelation for me. Severe adhd, ODD...all of it

@calorinedarkness5232

3 жыл бұрын

Yea. I was completely shocked by the self changing of emotions. I had no clue how people could just angry at (me for example) then act fine talking to someone else the next.

@vicstee482

3 жыл бұрын

Totally true. Its almost brain frazzlingly true

@WoodyStickman

3 жыл бұрын

I look back at my life and part of me feels angry because my parents just used to scream at me "be normal!" But I had no idea what the hell I was doing wrong.

@annabackman3028

3 жыл бұрын

@@WoodyStickman "Don't be so lazy, it takes two minutes to do!!" To me it could (still can without medication) take two-three hours, even much longer if it's really boring, to get myself to do whatever it was. I could have 10-15 things laying around on the floor in my room, thrown there in anger over something little silly. All I had to do was pick them up, put them away, that was all. And I sat like a fool on my bed, looking on the stuff on my floor for hours, instead of just throw them into a drawer. "ADHD isn't an attention disorder. ADHD is an executive disorder." Dr. Barkley's words. So true. I wasn't (am not) LAZY, I just couldn't make my brain to order my body to do this ridiculously simple thing. And how the Fxxx!!! would a ten years old kid explain that, and be BELIEVED!? People don't believe me now, in 2021, as an adult, 50 years later.😒

I can't believe that in a presentation with audio and visual components on !ADHD! the camera man is recording the only part that doesn't require seeing

This man gives the most accurate descriptions of ADHD ever

@katherineberger6329

Жыл бұрын

I like that he is so clear-eyed about the challenges we face but at the same time I definitely can hear his grief for his brother in how he shades those challenges. We are not all his brother; although ADHD is absolutely a challenge and an impairment many of us have better and less self-destructive coping strategies. I wonder if he and his brother had been born even a decade later if his brother would still be alive.

I’m in a relationship with an ADHD person and he found out this year, it’s been a tough journey but I’m here to educate myself. Finding out however, I realized a lot of the reactions I’ve experienced makes sense now. The one thing that matters to us is we love each other a lot, thanks for this session and for this channel!

@plsarguewithme2665

2 жыл бұрын

you're such an amazing partner for doing that

@_SIRENITY_

2 жыл бұрын

I’m 36 and still looking for someone with as good a heart as you. I hope your still together, he’s a lucky guy!

@kellylujan4687

2 жыл бұрын

@@plsarguewithme2665 Aww thanks, it's nice to hear from people that care. =)

@kellylujan4687

2 жыл бұрын

@@_SIRENITY_ Thanks so much, we are still together. The latest news is he's gotten on medication and he's regulating his emotions better these days. I totally support finding medication that can work and playing around with the doses helped figure out what works best. There are some bad days here and there but as long as you're honest and communicate with each other about how it affects you or how you feel, there can always be a solution. Don't give up there are good people out there that understand, it's effort but they're out there. The pandemic didn't help but I do hope you find more friends or that special someone. Thanks for the support!

@rikefitrianidian6315

2 жыл бұрын

@@kellylujan4687Thank you for being a good partner! I found out tht i have adhd last year. I told my hubby abt it and he said, "then we both have adhd, because i am worse person than you"(well he is not)..I thank God that he can understand and give strength to me to keep on and stay positive...

I am a psychiatrist. Recently diagnosed with combined type and it is obvious that DSM-IV and DSM-V are not covering it correctly. The emotional aspects of ADHD are very much present in many patients - in me too and it's astounding that that part is not in it. Very interesting talk.

@corneliusprentjie-maker6715

2 жыл бұрын

It does sour some milk, about all thes diagnostics. What tickles me is I'm sure repression again probably causes cancer and hypertension as well as Cusings syndromes... (something like that)... What is this healthy model that he the Dr refers to... this "we"... and in which culture... 30years ago... people weren't hdhd or autistic... and in other parts of the world... -other human environments... ... You won't open/have to open DSM-5/6 in say... Tsumkwe ... would you? You'll enculturate. (thinking smiley). Wonder also about emotions in Austral opetines... it has function. no?!

@corneliusprentjie-maker6715

2 жыл бұрын

Good talk though. Like the edges and confinement and progression through the concepts and construckt. Very well done.

@lovesakitas

2 жыл бұрын

My little granddaughter age 8 has been dealing with ADHD. Not diagnosed yet, but getting there. Her teacher last year and this year concur. Now, when she arrives back home from school, she screams and throws things. Her parents (my daughter) are very concerned. Her dad (narcissistic tendencies) doesn’t parent in a positive way, imo. I’m worried and will not stop until I feel assured that she is getting the help she needs.

@pixiegem

2 жыл бұрын

Me too - but now I am learning that the emotional regulation issue is more part of the ASD spectrum - and attention is just one colour in the rainbow which is ADHD. Where as with ASD you need to have issues under all of the colours including emotional regulation.

@melphillips1608

Жыл бұрын

@@pixiegem Can you pls elaborate or explain.

I have adult ADHD and have had it my whole life. I'm 42yrs old and this man is a genius and gifted in the way he explains the scientific facts.

@NanderPower

7 жыл бұрын

Tracy Bowlin right! This is great...me having adhd omy

@blessed6574

6 жыл бұрын

yes he is. me as well. im just now accepting it. its hard living a normal life

@Matt571

6 жыл бұрын

I have ADHD and I was only diagnosed when I was 22, 15 years ago. Originally, it was suggested I had ADHD when I was 13, but it was quickly dismissed. I am British and sadly the condition wasn't thought to exist here in the 90s. As I result I suffered badly.

@Vovoxa7

6 жыл бұрын

Hey matt I have had a similar experience, do you mind if I can message you through something to ask you a few questions about your experience?

@Matt571

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Jules, you can message me. I would be interested to speak to you.

I've just learned about my ADHD at 34. I agree with everything except driving. Never had an accident. The hyperactivity when driving really lets me see the road from such a wide perspective. I see the faintest details in traffic. Especially at high speeds. Usually when I'm driving I might get someone say "hey watch it there coming over" I say I saw them before they even moved. And it's true. I see things before they happen.

@stonervisiontv1388

4 жыл бұрын

Me to word thought i was buging

@y0n84n

2 жыл бұрын

Well, do others agree with you? Humans in general and especially ADHD sufferers are known to overestimate their driving skills to a great degree. You might not be such a good driver as you think - at least not until it's confirmed by others too. On the other hand, suffering from ADHD does not mean that you will drive worse than others do. It just means that you will not drive as good as you would have done had you not had the diagnosis. Some of us simply are born good drivers, and that will compensate for the driving impairment that comes with ADHD. Others, consciously or subconsciously, compensate for their impairment by driving more carefully and safely than they otherwise would have done. I, myself, am one of these. So, even when someone with ADHD have great driving skills it doesn't mean that their driving isn't impaired by their ADHD. They would probably have been even better drivers without the ADHD.

@myotherusername9224

2 жыл бұрын

@Gods Will are you also a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) according to Elaine Aron's criteria ?

@Blissblizzard

Жыл бұрын

Yeah l don't drive but l navigate mean streets like a shadow, been attacked inside buildings when cornered but never never ever on the worst streets. Some people hate walking with me because l cross and recross roads don't take the shortest route etc and walk as tho they should just fall in step with me! My street situational awareness and proximal sensing is off the charts. Theyre the same rigid people who get into situations all the time because they let themselves get to close, they get snagged by trouble, l ghost trouble, trouble doesn't even know l was there. Did l learn this growing up? No l grew up on an isolated farm! So l believe you about that aspect of your driving. It's innate.

@maartenmosk8387

Жыл бұрын

I used to have that before I got me meds. 50% extra working memory is worth it though, and being so hypersensitive was very tiring anyway.

It's driving me insane that the cameraman isn't letting us see the visuals in the presentation as Russel talks the audience through them, I'm a visual learner and I need that shit

@avancalledrupert5130

2 жыл бұрын

It's driving me insane I didn't notice any untill I read your comment 35 minutes in.

@jadejago7664

2 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@Jordello3000

2 жыл бұрын

Haha yes!

@jewelweed6880

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@jewelweed6880

2 жыл бұрын

I wasn't paying attention when he started about ODD, I have no idea what that means, but it was probably on the projection we couldn't see. I need visuals or I lose focus.

It's kind of ironic that the reason i was denied a diagnose it was because "I was too emotional". The neuro psicologist completely dismised how bad my emotional regulation was.

@maatawharehoka920

2 жыл бұрын

Pp

I learned to mask my emotions outwardly with a calm and collected demeanor eventhough I may really be upset, it's my coping mechanism. There are times I get really upset, I let it out in private.

@grayorganization

2 жыл бұрын

I do the exact same thing!

@killaknight12

2 жыл бұрын

I went so hard on masking that I barely even can let it out when I'm alone. I feel like crying, I'm done, I'm exhausted, but my body just sits there in melancholy, while my brain may remind me of past failures or a thousand possibilities things could a wrong turn.

Before I was diagnosed (and even now, I’m still working on it) I would always be so frustrated with myself because everybody else could hold back tears and rage and I just can’t and I’m so glad I saw this

@OFFICERMCCOMACK

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣. Dyslexic and ADHD, 50 years old. I’ve always had outbursts when people agitated me beyond my feelings limit. So I was told I have intermittent explosive disorder, and the dr followed that up with a comment of , everyone has that though, because if you bother someone enough they will explode eventually, so it’s normal, but ADHD makes it worse and more often. So I warn people of the explosion if they don’t stop agitating me, and most people stop or they see the monster. Then when I ask them to stop after they experience the monster, they stop when advised.

@hanskraut2018

2 жыл бұрын

I can hold back rage and tears enoth i just feel shit otherwise. And no motivation i dont get why people focus on rage and tears if that is ur main problem u seem super blessed

@hawklegs6940

2 жыл бұрын

I think back and I remember a lot more explosive or uncontrollable emotions from when I was a kid. I think as I got older, and from being raised by a narcissistic parent who emotionally abused me, the trauma created this massive disconnect between my logic and emotions, to the point where I either feel nothing, or I feel an extremely intense version of that emotion. It took me some time to figure out I'm not actually feeling nothing, as my behavior will change, I just don't FEEL it until it's overwhelming.

@myotherusername9224

2 жыл бұрын

@@hanskraut2018 " i dont get why people focus on rage and tears if that is ur main problem u seem super blessed" everyone else's problems look easy from the outside. they aren't easy for the people that have them because if they were easy to get rid of, everyone would get rid of their problems. people look at your lack of motivation and think "I wish that was my only problem! I have tons of motivation, but I can't control my emotions! Why is life so hard ?"

Forgot to mention I grew up ADHD and surrounded by people who had no idea of what was going on with me, ENTIRE LIFE. Today i find myself deeply trying to understand this disorder and this is the only man able to take me to the next level of the answers I'm seeking. It would be of extreme significance to translate it and spread it around the city. Thanks again!

@ope4r540

5 жыл бұрын

Gabriel, I get what your saying. I'm going to share this video with family members who deal with ADHD. My son has been trying to improve his grades and the suggestions me and my husband have provided, have not ushered in a whole lot of improvement. Now I understand, this is a chronic condition that requires all the tools and tricks to help my son throughout the day. Not just sometimes, but all the time. Had I known what my own ADD was not allowing me to achieve, I would have incorporated the tools I use now to keep me on track. It's not an old folks problem, it's continuous learning on our part, and practicing work and reward strategies for the rest of our lives. Good luck to you and share what you've learned with family and friends.

@veronicavan1234

5 жыл бұрын

I agree! I love him! I was diagnosed young but didn't get any treatment...dropped out of highschool etc. Now at 26 I am taking medication and going to therapy, and it is a game changer. Hearing someone explain EXACTLY our struggles growing up and STILL on the daily....it is very validating. Understanding this condition is really helpful, and one of our best tools to learn to cope in a healthy way. If we have a good understanding, maybe, JUST maybe, the next time we run into a situation, we may better know how to react (or at least have that - PAUSE - that we lack before actions or speech.)

@michellegabriel2634

Жыл бұрын

Yes my father was strict bad temper angry I always was the so called naughty child too I also was diagnosed by my Fathers Psychiatrist Within 10 mins I was given 2 a day 5mg Dexamphetamine’s I remember sitting under the big tree on the bench seat within in half hour I could breathe properly Great Speaker 🍀

In my case, I remember having trouble making friends, but NOT because of anger. I can't put my finger on it, but I remember being a kind child and maybe too eager to be friends. I was very lofty and creative and probably seemed really weird to a lot of people. I was in clouds and bubbles with references to TV shows and other things that only I watched or that weren't popular etc... I'm still like that, but I have had to fight bitterness, cynicism, and self-esteem issues. I am in a good place now because God has helped me figure myself out and heal and change (something I couldn't do alone). Dr Barkley should be the absolute clinical authority on ADHD, he has helped me a lot as well. Love his simplistic breakdown and clarity on the emotional component... I have used his tips to educate family friends and strangers as well.

@jenny-lg4re

5 жыл бұрын

i relate to you so much. this was so me... i hope you're doing better

@mrsaskander

5 жыл бұрын

jenny tran absolutely! I have lots of friends now. More than I can handle actually haha. But I had to learn a lot about social cues. Once I graduated high school, real life was much kinder to me than stupid angsty teens and kids lol not completely but the other part is personality and unrelated to adhd (but tardiness generally and at work is always a struggle!)

@paradoxicaluniverse

5 жыл бұрын

I could relate to you up until you brought the fictional schitzophrenic character from the bible into it.

@mrsaskander

5 жыл бұрын

Andy Mills people believe in God... they have good reasons for it... get over it. You don’t have to agree or understand that. If you can’t value what others have to say just bc if one small mention of a higher being, you won’t get very far in life and will stay incredibly immature. Good luck with that.

@paradoxicaluniverse

5 жыл бұрын

@@mrsaskander rubbish , there's no good reason for trying to be a 4 year old when you 30. Dont be silly, we can't justify believing in fictional characters as if they are true; we can in the context of story telling which is of short duration; then we come back to reality.

This might explain why I gets so red hot when I am emotional. Even if I could suppress my emotion, it would be written all over my body.

Where was this in my suggestions five years ago?!!! I am a Romanian adoptee with diagnosed adhd. I didn’t believe I have adhd, I bought into the negative stigma of over diagnosed and misdiagnosed. This is everything I needed. I will get re screened, and likely find a new treatment. This has been the best video for understanding adhd I’ve ever seen period.

@Hibore222

2 жыл бұрын

so many people are hurt by the hysteria of 'overdiagnosed'

@moreiratc92

2 жыл бұрын

@@Hibore222 yes.. unfortunately, or by people who did not adjust dose or used a different medicine. A lot were completely ignored. As I have. Now finally diagnosed after fuckin' years with only "anxiety and drepression". Yes. ADHD exists. Is actually underdiagnosed. A lot of friends who were always like me also are finally having a glinch of hope for finally being diagnosed AND medicated AND with better skills designed for us. It is part of us but we should have had a better life but underdiagnose was a shitty reality

@BusinessWolf1

10 ай бұрын

Hah, funny, in Romania we are FUCKED. Only 1 or 2 medications are available, the therapists are absolute garbage, you are called a drug addict for needing stimulant meds, the whole thing is a joke.

@kelliemarieross

9 ай бұрын

How did you go?

ADHD? Struggling to stay focused? Everything too SLOW??? SPEED UP the video! Click on 'Settings' in lower Right corner of video, then click 'Speed.; Higher the number, faster it runs. Get in , get out + on to the next. You're welcome.

@scottcarter1689

4 жыл бұрын

1.25X is normal speed, but for better consumption especially in reading books in audible.... go 1.75 and even 2 - and over... and mark up books as you rip through them! The only problem in the past several years, I've found is that- I am the talking as fast as my consumption of resource content, and then in normal individual pace of conversation, I want to try to speed people up.! ... as they're a bit boring... But then that's always been the case, so you might as well devour the content faster meaning greater volume of consumption outright, and then, pace yourself with patience in talking to people. 😎🤓

@strukled8590

4 жыл бұрын

@@scottcarter1689 Exactly!

@MarkTheTechno

3 жыл бұрын

I've been playing this video at 1.5 and had to go back and check if I sped it up when I saw this lol

@jimikrakorn6132

3 жыл бұрын

Keep

@jimikrakorn6132

3 жыл бұрын

O look I Iiu I Uuuiumm mom

So from the perspective of a 50+-year-old who always knew he "would" be diagnosed with ADHD but would never check because he disagreed with the last letter (D for Disability) vehemently (all bias declared)... When Doctor Barkley discusses the ability to recall an event from memory to cause an emotional shift, I am fascinated by the inefficiency of such an action. I learned I could directly call on a different emotion. Now that I'm actually looking at the research and conclusions of scientists, I'm able to see what "normal" people do and experience. I do not view ADHD as a "disorder". I view it as a different way of being. "Normal" people learn to stop themselves and remind themselves of what they want to achieve. "Normal" people stop themselves and identify that emotion will have negative outcomes, then recall a memory that will evoke emotions they wish to attain. I don't do things for the future. I edit my responses, my habits, my perceptions, the meaning I attach to things, and my expectations to refine my day-to-day, moment-to-moment experience of life. In short, I change who I am so that who I am is more effective, more hopeful, more open to possibility. That's how I cope with the situations "normal" people stop and adjust to. This might seem like splitting hairs. Maybe it is, but it's also EVERYTHING. I view stopping and changing, or faking-till-you-make it as false, as a pretense. I don't judge others for it, but it feels like a lie to me. I'm not going to pretend I like someone so I can get an advantage. I look for ways to appreciate people for who they are. Not just a specific person, all people. I look for ways to interpret things that annoy me. I seek to understand the benefit of things that I would otherwise avoid. This one is significant for me: Everything is potential. I crafted that perspective. If something looks really bad, I look for the good in it. I seek the whole picture. The worst times of my life have prepared me to realize the best. Nothing is inherently negative, it's only how you look at it. I've never succeeded at dieting and exercise based on a future goal of what I want to achieve. I have succeeded by changing who I am. I became fascinated (our superpower) with how the body burned fat and with that ketosis. I made myself an experiment and started new habits. Not to achieve something 6 months down the road, but to see what would happen tomorrow. My wife would tell me "Stop getting on the scales every day You don't lose weight daily. It takes weeks." But for me, it was daily. And daily WAS required, because why would I wait a week to satisfy my curiosity. Living in the NOW is a staple of numerous philosophies. So is "follow your passion". I just have to learn to do this while living in harmony with my environment. I do that by changing how I am, not how I get what I want. When I started exercising, I chased the "burn". I reveled in it the same way people love spicy food. When I work on endurance I'm chasing the runners high, and experimenting with balancing breath control and form to watch the outcomes. I'm in the moment, not the future. When I commit, it's for the experiment, experience, moral imperative. Not for the reward. Every time I've tried to chase the reward, I didn't like the person I became. We're not disabled. We're different from the majority. What's critical about that fact is this: Common wisdom for others doesn't always work for us. We need to share with each other (of the ADHD tribe) what does work. But NOT because we're "compromised". Thinking that way is to abandon all our strengths in favor of conforming to a norm we don't fit. Conforming is a disability. "Normal" people don't revel in losing themselves to weeks' worth of laser focus on some interest or question. Normal people don't automatically notice the parallel patterns at play in agile methodologies and evolution. ...or maybe they do? What do I really know about what normal people think and feel? Only by hearing them tell me what I don't. Please don't interpret these comments as disrespect for Dr. Barkley. I am grateful for his research. I'm fascinated by his observations. The knowledge he offers is of immense value to me. My only disagreement with him is in approaching this as a disability when it clearly has advantages and it clearly survived natural selection for some reason. The words we use to encapsulate a concept of are immense significance because people use words to think. The nature of a word modifies the options available to our mental processes. The way we measure and the context. Words are an unconscious abstraction of our perception of reality. They literally create the paths of perception available to us. Disorder implies and contextualizes only one outcome: overcome your debilitating nature. Strive to become as good as normal. Nowhere in the word disorder is implied curiosity, the joy of discovery, the celebration of self, and difference, exploration of strength. All things that are prime movers for ADHD.

@Thanks4yourattention

2 жыл бұрын

That's good you have a wife.

@Blissblizzard

Жыл бұрын

That is so interesting, I work on mental models all the time they just start up in my brain and l work on them and l was musing why l have zero problems only when l'm gardening, even when it's unpleasant or an overchallenging situation, and l wondered if hunter gatherers with ADHD would be like they had superpowers, overstimulated would be merely hyper atuned to the environment, So our problem now is being over atuned to a chaotic fragmented and manipulative and profoundly unnatural environment, it not me, its "it!" (I'm not diagnosed, but ADHD is the best explanation for me l have ever come across, astonishing!)

@michellegabriel2634

Жыл бұрын

Beautifully Spoken ✔️

@stevenwilson8753

Жыл бұрын

@@michellegabriel2634 Thank you Gabriel.

@stevenwilson8753

Жыл бұрын

@@Blissblizzard Yes, "it" is the environment. But please don't assume "it" is a challenge only for those like us. "it" IS a challenge for the "normal" people as well. The effective ways to cope with it are just different for them than us. This is the subtle but very powerful effect of the word "disability" in framing what is simply our different nature. It's connotation is accepted by our belief structure and thought processes automatically. That word makes people "normal" and "like us" automatically assume the challenge is greater for the "disabled" ... "us". Often, it's actually easier for us than them, but the use of that word "disability" prevents us from discovering it's easier for us. We expect to lose because our nature is supposed prone to lose. Because of "disabled" we're only looking to mitigate our nature, not explore it's potential. This is literally the ducks calling the goose ugly. Your first paragraph is simple, but brilliant. Re-read your own description as a pattern. That is often the very mechanism I have used to overcome over analysis. I JUST DO. When I just start "doing" I am caught in the moment, reacting, adjusting, flowing with it. It's pleasant, even sometimes profound. I can lose myself in the effort, have lost myself in the effort for more than a day straight without sleep. I've accomplished volumes of work others find astonishing by doing this. BUT. So often we don't look for what works for us. We don't approach ourselves with a sense of wonder and exploration at our capabilities, because what we expect is limitations, not strengths. We are "broken" after all, right? We are "disabled". So we keep trying in vain to adopt the techniques that work for normal people, knowing in advance with almost certainty, that we WILL fail. "Disability" has limited our mental options to fix and mitigate, rather than fly. Imagine if superman were told from the onset that he was broken. That he was prone to destroy things. That his excessive strength was a weakness that would cause him to harm people constantly no matter how hard he tried., but that he must continue to try to overcome this limitation. That he must try to become weak like "normal" people, so maybe someday he could become as productive as they are. When he discovered his laser vision he would horrified by this new capacity to destroy. He'd try to hide it, and look for all manner of ways to stop himself from doing it....instead of learning what he "could" do with it. It's in the very nature of human kind that the majority interprets the minority as inferior.

This is more real than a lot of talks and stuff out there that is messaging "adhd is a superpower!" And then in the comments you get people saying things like... "yes I'm so gifted!" "I don't even study I'm a genius because I have adhd!" Well I have it and I definitely don't feel like that. I'm not trying to be negative - I'm very grateful for my life and abilities... I am just hoping I can learn to manage this adhd journey I'm on in a fast past life so I can provide for my family. This video is nice that it's a real breakdown of details we're not used to hearing is a problem, such as emotion, so we can try to learn to deal with the problem head on. Thank you doc

@jonathanbowen3640

2 жыл бұрын

Correct. This is more blanced. ADHD Is overall more of a curse than a gift for the vast majority of people. It just adds complexity and risk to life. Sure it can be harnessed, but most of the time in most people it isn't. Biing in a wheelchair makes your arms strong sure, but I would rather not be in a wheelchair. There are other ways to strengthen arms easily but few to get out of the wheelchair..

@jarrodjob

2 жыл бұрын

@@jonathanbowen3640 thank you. I feel seen with these comments. It's devastating.

@arjunratnadev

Жыл бұрын

I'm with you on that and I feel the same but I'm sad that I couldn't find this about myself earlier than at this later stage and yet still I can't give up on myself, I will somehow find the solution and manage this disorder and I believe if you have even lead a simple and honorable life that is sufficient and good enough, its been 2 years since last you commented and I've been late for like 7 years of missed time good luck

@Stottl3

Жыл бұрын

@@jarrodjob I see you buddy... it's real and I see you. Keep battling!

@Stottl3

Жыл бұрын

@@arjunratnadev I'm 39 and found out I had it about 4 years ago... it was like watching a mystery movie and realizing who the bad guy was... then I looked back at my life and was like - Ohhhh... that's why this and that's why that. At least now I've recognized it in one of my kids and he can at least have a heads up on what's going on. I always thought "ADD" was the crazy hyper kids and thought "that's not me". But the internal 'can't focus on a single damn thing' me has always been jumbled and other people can't see what's going on in your head. People think you're making something up, but, ya know... it's there. It's real. But hey - I think for some reason or anther life is hard for everyone. I won't quit at it.

I shared this with my friends with ADHD and we all agree, the good Doctor must have stolen our medical charts.

@peacelove5052

7 жыл бұрын

Richard Wilson DITTO!!! I thought exactly the same thing!!! He's a genius. Wish he was my doctor!

@divinedragon6623

7 жыл бұрын

Richard Wilson agreed

@RealtyWebDesigners

7 жыл бұрын

Completely agree!

@confidencecoachcindycohen1917

6 жыл бұрын

lol

@caseymo7416

6 жыл бұрын

Hahaha! Right?!?!

Finally a competent person NOT saying that ADHD IS A GIFT.’it sure isn’t!

@sugarcan1110

2 жыл бұрын

Must disagree with you ....

male adult, age 34 and diagnosed at the age of 29-30. Here in Brazil most knowledge about ADHD is based on studies about children. And not so many people in my city (specially the ADHD GROUP I am in) speak enough english to hear those blessed words like I do. I want to know if anyone can help me in how to put portuguese subtitles in this video? THousands of people in my city MUST hear all Dr. Russel has said so far. Thank you.

@manuelalvarez25

6 жыл бұрын

Gabriel Ortiz Machado , I speak some Portuguese and I have ADHD I wish I could help!

@miguelalves7369

6 жыл бұрын

I am from Brazil too, I am not fluent in english but I can understand 70 per cent of what he says. I think I have ADHD because I have a lot of problems to keep paying attention in everything, its really hard to me study because everything that's is boring I just can't do. Well I really need help because this is bringing me a lot of problems at my life. I don't know where should I go look for help.

@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE

5 жыл бұрын

If you have a Twitter account, ask and see if you do a hash tag Portuguese subtitles... and see what comes up... You Tube may also have tutorials on this. Check Dr. Brown also, on ADHD - he also has some WONDERFUL videos ib this... Good luck 😊

@maryr7593

3 жыл бұрын

I am from US, so can understand everything. i speak continental Portuguese but I can help you as well. Note: The English subtitles on you tube videos are very bad. It misses a lot of words or mixes words. I think the subtitles are generated by speech recognition which if you have ever had messages transcribed through speech recognition software...it isn't correct. So don't rely on the english subtitles for the entire talk. I wish there was a way to correct the english subtitles....as I get annoyed that they aren't correct or conversely I can't turn them off as they get to be distracting.

My husband presents emotional dysregulation with laughing. Everything is a joke even serious things. Literally laughs at everything. It’s very difficult to work through life and have a reciprocal relationship when someone is laughing all the time followed by lack of attention to the issues which eventually leads to ignoring of the issues then a denial that anything is wrong and everyone else is ‘crazy’. Those without these issues can only conclude emotionally that these behaviors are narcissistic and abusive. If you know you have adhd/add please listen and take seriously any feedback you get even if you don’t understand it initially. It’ll save you and your relationships a lot of grief. ❤️

@adaharrisonn

2 жыл бұрын

God, I relate so hard to this.

@Eliasysidroramirezjr

2 жыл бұрын

Ima try and not do this anymore but yeah I have add and would do this

@lindasmith320

2 жыл бұрын

This is my son - I have to let him know not to make a joke if everything. Quite hard as he us very funny 😄

@theanicca

Жыл бұрын

Yea it is exhausting when there's no empathy. I don't know if I have the emotional endurance to live in a relationship where I'm doing the emotional labour for 2 ... what I can't wrap my head around is whether this is truly involuntary. Can they really not pause, reflect, and consider? If they want to? I still imagine that there is some element of volition there. I'm trying to understand this in a new way.

@kellycubitt4358

8 ай бұрын

@@theaniccaif you feel that way please get away from anyone in your life with adhd. period.

Wow. I just literally had an epiphany while watching this. this lecture really helped me understand my boyfriend’s adhd behavior that has caused so many issues in our relationship, my own problems currently and in childhood, our teenage defiance, as well as both of our difficult past history, my fathers poor parenting style… wow…. This explains so much about my life and his, and it helps me have more compassion for my partner as well as for myself, and my younger self… thank you for this.

I was recently diagnosed at 40 a few months ago. I’ve always thought I was broken, lazy and just overall destined to be depressed for the rest of my life. I’m incredibly smart and bright and somehow have managed to hold down a great career. I’ve had such imposter syndrome wondering how I’ve never been fired or why anyone would like me as an employee. I also have never been able to keep a relationship longer than 3 years. Since becoming diagnosed and medicated my entire life has changed. I’m finally starting to be the person I always knew I could be. I’ve been completely hyper focusing on learning everything about ADHD and this has been so informative. I’m realizing the flaws I’ve always thought was my character is not that but my disability. I’m also been replaying all the blow outs I’ve been in over my lifetime over and over again but now with the perspective that I have ADHD and emotional disregulation and am realizing that I was much more of the issue than I once thought. I made amends to a lot of people when I stopped drinking 8 years ago and feel like I probably need to do so again to clean up my side of the street. I’m realizing my hot temper to jump to anger made fights that shouldn’t have lasted more than a week last years

@lucillevoorn7310

2 жыл бұрын

Aren't you a bit angry or sad discovering this so late? I was sad. I have been struggeling with my "flaws" for ages. Only to discover that it is a mental "handicap" that can be treated to get better qulaity if life.

This man is great at explaining what he knows. It is more than having the knowledge of something. His presentations are far better than any lectures.

16:40 I was class clown in elementary school in the 80's and it got me in trouble with the teachers who used fierce anger to reprimand me and I would instantly break down crying. This really ingrained in me a dull personality that made me a target for bullies in middle school. Not the other hand, I learned from watching my father's negative emotional outbursts that I wasn't going to treat anyone that way because of how hurtful it was to endure. Everyone is different in their own way i guess.

This man is a genius and very gifted in the way he explains scientific methods.

@WoodyStickman

3 жыл бұрын

I agree! The ease with which he explains concepts reminds me of Richard Feynman's lectures in physics!

I love Russell's concise means of conveying the studies across to us, the audience.

Now that I've listened to this talk, I find it insane how my previous therapist, who diagnosed my ADHD, did NEVER ask for a parent to follow up on possible symptoms that I might have swept under the rug unintentionally

I have ADHD but don't have ODD. I had good parents and always did as I was told, but I did have trouble controlling my emotions. This manifested most often in crying due to being bullied and made fun of (which was cyclical), not just by other children but also by teachers. As a result I am very self aware. I hate to say this, but the mistreatment I received as a child actually helped me to be more aware of my actions.

@tyrozinehappykitchen

4 жыл бұрын

No, you are a very adaptive person and you adapted to mistreatment. Mistreatment did nothing to you. YOU responded because YOU are adaptive and have that goft

@natenatenate10

4 жыл бұрын

@@tyrozinehappykitchen some people respond better to negative reinforcement rather than positive reinforcement

@tyrozinehappykitchen

4 жыл бұрын

@@natenatenate10 I think you deserve to be negatively reinforced for forgetting that humans are involved here and not animals

@tyrozinehappykitchen

4 жыл бұрын

@@natenatenate10 and from experience, the negative reinforcement has worse long term affects that cancel out anything you can argue you got from it. You become scared weak unconfident obedient and pathetic. You can't make decisions.

I AM 55 AND every time I HAVE LOOKED AT SOMETHING ABOUT ADHD AND IT IS A PERFECT DESCRIPTION OF MY LIFE FROM A TODDLER TO NOW, MY HOME IS A MESS, MY LIFE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A MESS, ALL OVER MY HOME IS OBSETIONS

@dxi8

3 жыл бұрын

It's not too late to get help

@paulbolton2322

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 55 & took a year to get diagnosed, with lock downs, meds do work, all to play for 👍, you 56 now 🙏hope all s well.

This is absolutely the best explanation I have heard. Just wish there was a way to get off meds all together . Thank you so much for explaining my brain and why it is this way. Not easy that’s for sure

Thank you for sharing the slides. Such a big help.

Thanks for providing the slides. Much appreciated.

What a researcher. Hats off to his research and dedication to this field.

I'm 35 and I was recently diagnosed with ADHD for the first time. These videos are so comforting to me. They help me understand that so much of the behavior in my life, especially in childhood, was beyond my control. I was polite and was generally good at asking others how they were doing, etc. I was an extrovert that enjoyed the typical boy things, and I always had a good amount of friends, but I would consistently get incredibly upset if I felt like my friends weren't giving me enough attention. I remember other boys' moms telling my mom that I couldn't come over to their houses anymore because I was creating too much of a scene. I'm pretty mellow nowadays, but I am still trying to get better at motivation and staying organized. It's good to know that I'm not alone.

A true master of his domain this gentleman is. One of the most impressive lectures I've ever seen.

@myotherusername9224

2 жыл бұрын

Great insights but I don't trust him because of the way Big Pharma has corrupted the medical profession. Read the book "the woman who changed her brain". Neural plasticity is so very powerful but he talks like drugs are the only hope. If this disorder is real or even just an artefact of the mismatch between culture and some neuro diverse but normal behavior, then why can't it resolve with skilled parenting? If it's a disorder, why has it persisted in the genome to the extent that it displays in the prevalence we see? Evolution doesn't often make mistakes like this. It must confer A Darwinian advantage or it wouldn't exist. Therefore, it's really just a mismatch between our genes and modernity. What% home school kids are ADHD?

Best description of this EVER!

Dr Russell Barkley, I am learning so much with your videos. I am eternally grateful...

This explains ME! How I ever managed to do all the paper work required as special education teacher...No wonder all of my evaluations dealing with this was always an "improvement needed" goal from my supervisors which I didn't react to "normally". I could not supress my emotions, which didn't help how they perceived my "lack of professionalism. My teaching, and my ability to intract with my students always received high scores! Thankfully! As a retiree, and having to be a boss to me, remains to be a daily struggle. Emotional disregulation has always been my constant companion, and still is. Dr. Barkley gives me hope for legitimate change in the "doing" part of my life!

Thank you for sharing this!

This lecture was very insightful! Thank You for posting this! It was extremely helpful

That was bloody amazing. Even more insightful than my knowing i had adhd in the first place.

This is an amazing video. As someone who has ADHD and had a parent with it as well undiagnosed. I was physically abused as punishment and I could swear my mother used to black out as she lined us up in our kitchen and hit us with her favorite tool of choice. The wooden spoon. She was relentless. Not just one or two smacks. She would go in on us. Until we were cowering in a corner screaming bloody murder. The CPTSD I have from years of that has only created even more emotional dysregulation. I’m just now in my early thirties starting to do self help through KZread. It has helped tremendously by putting names to feelings that I’m feeling when I’m triggered. It’s really hard to have had all that happen to you in your childhood, and when you bring it up later in life being told “that never happened. You deserved all of it. You didn’t have any broken bones or bruises. Its a privilege I’m granted as a parent to discipline you.” Ill never get the closure of that, the admittance from her. In the last few months, I have completely cut contact from my family and siblings. Who still seem to be under the codependency of my mother. It’s truly sad when you’re now the scapegoat for calling out the abuser.

@sarahbaileymarketing

Жыл бұрын

Omgeee, @Retro Adam, I'm so sorry to hear about the horrific abuse you endured from your mother as a child, and can imagine the kitchen line-up for domestic abuse was beyond traumatic for you as a child. NO child, no matter what the infraction, deserves that level of abuse. I cannot imagine how unsafe you and your siblings felt on a daily basis being at home, and the devastating effects that it's had on you since then. Children NEED a nurturing, loving environment to become healthy, loving, high-functioning adults. Good for you for learning how to heal and recover by at least watching YT videos; if you could find a good therapist you trust, or group to connect with and share experiences, that would probably help as well. Your feelings are valid and understandable. Your mother's treatment of you has more to do with her shortcomings than anything you did as a child. Smart move to cut off contact; find healthier connections for love, support and growth.

THIS IS UNBELIEVABLY INFORMATION DENSE! He just described to many of my past and persistent problems in all parts f my life....Very harsh but it needs to be heard

I love Dr. Barkley, he brings so much light to the world of adhd!

This is incredible. So many things I haven’t heard anywhere else. Like the link between developing oppositional defiant behavior due to the compounding effects of having an adhd parent…!

Really enjoyed this lecture. This doctor has nailed adhd . I've had it all my life , along with anxiety and the emotional problems that come with it , and that remain into adulthood. I have been to psychiatrists who told me i had not got it, as i would not have been able to complete schooling. Unbelievable :). But if nothing else , i am determined to get some sort of treatment for this. It is an ongoing battle ......

@coltonleon7212

4 жыл бұрын

Hit up a adhd specialist

@avancalledrupert5130

2 жыл бұрын

I don't see why people with ADHD don't see at as a gift. Just pick any carrier that values manipulation of the physical environment solving problems on the fly in real time. You will dominate in it. Leave everything else to you accountant . I've hedonisticly with no guilt . What others think of you is none of your business mate . 🤷

@tammyczigan1864

2 жыл бұрын

@@avancalledrupert5130 Thank you for your comment! I struggle like everyone else with ADD but manipulating my physical environment and solving problems is my superpower. Thank you for the reminder!

@Sam-hm9pt

Жыл бұрын

@@tammyczigan1864 What do you guys mean with manipulation of the physical environment?

Generally, health personal do not know enough about ADHD and specially ADD. They know a little bit about ADHD in children. Adult with problems caused by ADHD/ADD are diagnosed with depression while I think depression and specially Anxiety disorder have their roots in ADHD/ADD.

@cnicholson7417

5 жыл бұрын

Spot on.

@tashalodge1340

2 жыл бұрын

I agree

Been watching many of Dr. Barkley’s videos. He can’t speak to every ADHD persons exact condition but he is on the money in a macro sense. There is enough in the talk(s) to get valuable insight into the struggle. A transcript and slides would super. Get well, stay well. Ty

Thank you so much for all this knowledge and information. Will help me to change and improve my life.

This is pretty helpful and clearly explained to an non psychologist!

It it was called Emotional Dysfunctional Deficit Disorder I would have diagnosed myself in primary school. If only I was hyperactive in class. Thank you for the best explanation of what I went through and now my son.

Absolutely invaluable stuff. As the significant other of a person with ADHD and ASC, this is so SO helpful. Thank you for sharing 💚👏

I am studying Adhd for a paper... so exciting to find out about the ODD similarities... thanks for sharing your research!

Was recently diagnosed with ADHD over focus, it was not until I turned 62, better late then never! Good lecture on emotions and ADHD, I like how he described bipolar and depression versus ADHD reasons for emotions.

@meahdaisy

4 жыл бұрын

Jon Cornia I was also diagnosed late in life 63 (2019) good to know I am one of many in this age group, one of two at least😊

@Cochranflutes

4 жыл бұрын

Never to late...

THANK YOU DR BARKLEY!!! YOU HAVE HELPED SO MANY PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I need to meet this amazing person who I found this week and has helped me more than anything over the past year! My son and I will be better because of this man

Not even 10 minutes into this and i already gained a new dimension of understanding for why i act the way i do

I'm glad the slides are available on google docs. Otherwise, it would be very frustrating to listen to the presentation without being able to see the slides.

6 years on - why is this STILL not on the latest dsm?!! Diagnosed 18 months ago, this explains my emotional disregulation so well. I wish it was 'officially' acknowledged cos it's hard enough trying to raise awareness of what adhd actually is and dispel incorrect assumptions - without half of the real information not yet being medically/scientifically available! Side note - I find now that 1000s of videos/tik toks etc. are hugely valid and important - but the downside is , ALL of that valid and credible knowledge gained from sharing our lived experiences, is in danger of being dismissed and belittled because of the predictable amount of misguided/incorrect information that also will appear amongst it. So that's why it needs corroborating by the medical/scientific field! 6 years, seriously wtf???

@kimray1496

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree! If this guy “gets it” 6 years ago why is it not more “got” by now? So frustrating!!

Awesome video thank you ❤️❤️❤️. So many of us can relate to everything you are saying…

listening to these talks and lectures for a few minutes are closer to seeing myself than looking in a mirror all day , as i can not tell you how many times i have , for example, start eating a meal and not finish my food or go to grocery store and forget to put ALL food that needs to go i fridge. , ETC ..... THANK YOU Dr Barkley!!

I went to my first doctor at 30 for life long anxiety and left adhd. My entire life went from a black and white existence I didnt want to one of vivid color due to medication. Medication saved my life

@luke2193

5 жыл бұрын

BrainDamage Very glad. How are you now?

@d-buck

5 жыл бұрын

@@luke2193 he died from the medication. So sad ..

@osirusj275

2 жыл бұрын

@@d-buck how u know

Thank you for a excellently detailed and systematic overview...really helps, ...peace & Love Peeps :-)

thank you for this has helped me feel so much more understood

This man is amazing

This is why I'm a macho "man's man" type and still tear up every time I get a greeting card. ;)

Thank you. I’m one of those untreated kids who is a successful adult. But, I suffer a lot of comorbidity issues. I’m a huge advocate for kids who have parents that don’t think this is real.

@MrKen59

2 жыл бұрын

@doperification awesome words. I hear too many parents say they will grow out of it. I’m a survivor, but only by grace. How many suffer because we refuse to believe we are different. I heard an interesting discussion on meds and by treating the symptoms early, the brain can develop skills that improve long term characteristics. Like braces in teeth or assistive devices, it calms the brain to learn what it’s like to develop and not deal with a life of struggles or regrets because we did something stupid without even realizing it. Who knows where I’d be had i been treated early, but I do know what the struggle is and how much ground I lost because of it. I feel bad for those kids who really do need help.

@MrKen59

2 жыл бұрын

I heard an interesting discussion on this. As a young child your brain is incredibly plastic and developing strategies to cope and learn. Meds early on allow the brain to develop healthy skills without all the criticisms, scolding for talking out of place or breaking stuff because you always want to touch stuff. You develop a framework without having to create defensive mechanisms or frustration which allows you to move forward in a healthy way. I can’t tell you how awful it is to this day being afraid of doing something wrong or not being able to simply learn or read books easily - and I’m 60. People will argue all they want, but we give kids meds all the time to compensate, even if it’s vitamins.

This is so PERFECT

Thanks so much for this.

The camera guy most have Adhd too. Lol

@djdebssuperlawyersjusticeu9855

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

Excellent explanation on how emotion is an important component of ADHD.

@alanberkeley7282

3 жыл бұрын

Ever notice that there is no "Hypoactivity Disorder?" Or "Excessive Compliance Disorder?" Kinda tells you something, doesn't it? They'll never invent "Excessive Compliance Disorder!" Compliance is what it's all about. They're trying to dampen anyone with the energy or motivation to try and challenge the authorities. So "Hypoactivity Disorder" is also out. Their drugs try to INDUCE "hypoactivity!" The more inertia, the better the "treatment" is judged to be! It makes me wonder if people like Barkley, Faraone, Thomas E Brown, Biederman, Ned Hallowell, William Dodson, et al hate kids and have some vendetta against them, or are getting revenge against kids by proxy because they were bullied as children either in the neighborhood, in school or by an older sibling and they can't take it out of that person so they are taking it out of kids, they hated themselves as kids, or they are just control freaks or are motivated by money or all those factors of course! I am guessing that they have serious unresolved childhood trauma issues, and they need to "snuff out" anyone else's issues that remind them of their own pain. Which MIGHT cause me to feel some compassion, but only when they stop passing on the pain to their so-called "patients!" Pity they themselves didn't seek help long ago for it. All the above and many many more for me are seriously damaged and screwed up individuals. Advocating labelling and drugging kids for being kids is not normal human behavior is it? Neither is taking pharma money and lying about drugs.

@user-tx5vr2lu6e

3 жыл бұрын

Alan Berkeley actually, the guy in this lecture has also written about SCT, which is “sluggish cognitive tempo” (he advocates changing the name). Symptoms include sluggishness, lethargy, slow movements. So part of that is literally hypoactivity.

@annetteka

11 ай бұрын

The clue is in the name “moniker”, don’t fall for trolls. There’s no reasoning nor arguing, as the fair ground such exchange is commonly based upon ain’t just revoked but denied in a slapdash judgemental manner aimed at provocation, not actual

The best lecture ever.

He really gets me.

"The two don't even begin to agree with each other until you're in your 30s" That hurt on a existential level. I just turned 35 and things have only just started to really change dramatically. I have Bipolar Type II and just got diagnosed with ADHD as well. I'm so much more honest with myself now and I think it's because I can see what I'm doing, I couldn't articulate or focus on how I truly treat and look after myself.

@mikepostdrums

9 ай бұрын

You go, man! The 24:30 part made me realise my 31 year old symptoms or shortcomings didn’t get worse with age like I thought, I just got more painfully aware of them. But self-awareness is required for growth, so I enjoy these growing pains somewhat!

I just got back my ADHD medication and I feel so much better, I'm also Bipolar and I moved from Florida to New York so my new psychiatrist had to get my bipolar disorder first and now I finally got my ADHD medication. Meditation makes a world of difference.

@nielsengelen4045

5 жыл бұрын

how is this possible do you have 2 limbic systems xp :)

@shreyachaudhary1604

2 жыл бұрын

Bipolar and ADHD do not go toghether.

@katieandnick4113

2 жыл бұрын

Is your ADHD med a stimulant? Do you have bipolar 1 or 2? I can imagine how risky stimulants would be for someone with bipolar 1. Even SSRIs can trigger manic episodes in people with bipolar disorder.

This is outstanding presentation

This is phenomenal right out of the gate

I've tried to watch it all the way to the end... for five times now. Acutally, I'm commenting while it's playing but I should be listening :/

@birdysayhi

4 жыл бұрын

Try to doodle while listening. It gives a mindless stimulant. My sidelines of my notebooks are full of doodles!

That was amazing insight thank you

This guy is so educated. Thanks for sharing!

@g.s.5868

5 жыл бұрын

but works for all BIG PHARMA to push pills on your kids , not talking about ROOT CAUSE

EXCELLENT

It is so strange to have someone to articulate, what I have been living through all these years. My small child has an ADHD. I divorced his father (classic symptoms of ADHD) because we had chaotic home. I took my child to the doctor. He got therapies and every year they evaluate his situation. I started relationship with very calm and good person, and we are able to be consistent parents without disregulation of emotions. There are no signs of ODD! My instincts told me, that our toxic and hostile marriage was doing damage to our child. Father is meeting his child every once in a while, and can't understand why the child is better living with me. The father is hostile, aggressive, has road rage, is psychologically abusive, quits every job, his own employees hate him, has continuos problems and drama in his relationships, has had numerous problems with authorities and has had traffic accidents... This video was an eye opening. Sometimes mothers instincts knows the best, but dr Barkley put it into words. Thanks!

@madisonl.607

3 жыл бұрын

That kind of reminds me of my dad except my dad is still active within my life. My dad can get hostile, aggressive, and has horrible road rage (he has purposely tried to crash our car on the freeway multiple times, it was bad to the point my mom had to push his hands away from the wheel). For some reason, it's kind of a phase with him so he can be extremely nice, kind, and generous. Or he can be explosive, furious, and aggressive. He hasn't been in the latter for a while now, so that's good. I think I got that from his emotions from though bc I do mimic him a lot even though I hate that part of me. I do know he doesn't care much for my extended family on his side, but at the same time, I do understand why bc their relationship with them was rocky from the start because his family abandoned him for most of his childhood. I know when his father died though, he never cried and always got mad seeing the sight of him when he was alive (but now he just makes indecent jokes about him bc his dad was an alcoholic). Maybe that's his way of coping. Who knows, the only thing he isn't involved in is problems with the authorities.

Dr Barkley, thank you for great lectures that is extremely important and helpful for not only patients but professionals too. Could we have a slides of this lecture please?🙏 thank you

24:30 Woah, this just blew my mind with the self-awareness gap. At 31 this made me realise that my symptoms were not getting worse, but with age I just became more aware of my shortcomings - also in comparison to my peers.

My God this video should be broadcast all over the news Such a great videos with great support to people with ADHD .. Your more needed now doctor than before please don't stop 🙏❤🙏

My husband has ADHD, his inability to make friends and keep them was due to his “quirks”, not his aggressiveness, as he haas always been more submissive that aggressive.

@happyholly7023

4 жыл бұрын

Same!

@ilikemyrealname

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds more like an issue with the people he was trying to make friends with. Quirks should be loved and cherished. People are quick to “other” each other and quirks just make it easier for p.o.s. people to do that. Judgmental folks should have no place in your life anyway.

@adaharrisonn

2 жыл бұрын

@@ilikemyrealname Let's be realistic. Those "quirks" sometimes impact interpersonal relationships. Those "quirks" sometimes mean poor expression of connection or empathetic comprehension. It's not always a judgemental asshole who struggles to keep friends with a person with ADHD. It's the nice ones too.

@ilikemyrealname

2 жыл бұрын

@@adaharrisonn I wonder who it is you’re trying to convince here, me…or you? In this context of the video and specifically this comment “more submissive than aggressive” when talking about those struggling with mental illness, I stand by what I said. What’s telling is your reply is about “empathetic comprehension” to my comment which was about being empathetic to those struggling. It’s like you’re so concerned about YOU being validated that you missed the point about being empathetic towards others who are mentally struggling. No one is saying be BFF, just don’t walk away specifically from a submissive person because their illness means you might not always receive empathy like you would from those who don’t have these struggles. We all have friends we keep at different lengths. Some relationships, especially with someone struggling with illness, is just not gonna always feel “fair” and it’s up to us who do not have those struggles to be mature enough to rise above our egos.

Wow! That was amazing. Thanks so much

So true! If I'm distracted I will never finish. For example had to make a pageant dress for my daughter. Didn't at the time have enough cash to buy a new one. So took her measurements and took a old wedding gown and some old dance dress material and made my lil girl a dress in onevening. My hubby told me I should take a break, but I knew I would never finish her dress if I did take a break!! He didn't understand😔 It paid off though! She won! Little Miss Knox County 2017. I mean wasn't just because of her appearance, but her beautiful personality💗 So proud of her

I realize how much we didn’t know growing up wow.

In India, ADHD is unheard of. I struggled to get through high school and college. I always thought of myself as a loser who procrastinates, lacks discipline and is lazy. I got to know about adhd when I was 25. I told my parents to help me seek treatment but they said that I am crazy and that im a loser. So I gave up and did not take adhd seriously. Now I am 27 and still at the same place. However, I am taking adhd seriously now. I have appointment with psychiatrist and hope he prescribes me stimulants.

@mouses_HK

Жыл бұрын

How did it go?

5:10 years ago I had a favorite sticker that read "ever stop to think & forget to start again". Now I know why it was so relatable.

This is great information.

Seems as though a lot of females go un-diagnosed. Does he do a video on differences in boys vs. girls?

Only got told at 42 by a parent that I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. So much torture and struggle could have been averted. Life could have been so different.

it's frickin crazy how accurate he has described my diagnoses in one sentence with science to back it all up. it's so crazy to hear someone talk about how I use to use anger and intimidation to make the world around fear me and stay away and get what I wanted. And now at 37 I still experience it all, but now no longer act out aggressively. Wow! 🤯

@-108-

2 жыл бұрын

180 degrees over here, buddy... 180 full degrees.

Brutally intelligent discussion

8:07 DSM Obsession Disorder they should add this disorder to the manual! ^^

@daniellemartell386

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that for sure. Like I'd get fixated. I think for me some of that might come from that interest based sparked but not all because some of it just became overly obsessive.