3 (simple yet non-obvious) relationship lessons I've learnt in my 20s
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We are all no stranger to the fact that relationships take work, and that some of the most important foundations of any relationship are trust, communication and compatibility. In today's video, I share some of my thoughts on these very topics -- I hope they help whoever you are, be it someone still searching for love and dating around or already in a committed partnership. Enjoy!
To reward those of you who read the description box, here’s a quote that I thought holds a valuable lesson in itself: “Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.” - Emery Allen
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I’m not a relationship expert, these are just my thoughts and I have a lot more to learn myself. For professional advice, seek out a professional therapist!
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I respect your time so I usually do timestamps :)
0:00 An important part of adulting is learning to do relationships right
1:01 Lesson #1 on trust
2:47 Magic Ratio
3:53 Lesson #2 on communication
7:05 Lesson #3 on (in)compatibility
7:29 Definitions
10:45 How much incompatibility is too much?
13:22 Important questions to ask yourself when you have relationship troubles
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The most important part for everyone (especially those dealing w relationship struggles) is 10:45 onwards! Definitely do watch that part. Hugs!
@firesign4297
2 жыл бұрын
🤗 Thank You🤗👍🏿👍🏿🤗
Your videos really help me a lot. Right now, I feel like I'm somehow hovering through life and I don't really have an identity. And I'm trying my best to find out who I really am. Thank you🍘
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
I totally feel that. That is sooo normal and I'm going through the same thing myself. Just take it one step at a time and we'll figure things out :)
💜 Thank you for this great wholesome video as always! I should keep this in mind as I go through my life journey, creating new relationships :) Stay safe xx
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching (and reading the description hehe 💜) ! :')
I enjoyed every bit of this... Self-awareness, empathy and objectivity are cardinal to healthy relationships. ...and I recommend therapy as a routine in relationships 😃. You nailed it. Hope you are well.
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your insightful comment as usual Emmanuel, wishing you well too :)
Thank you so much! Would love if you did a video specifically on long distance relationships. I'm in my first LDR right now and would love some advice from you on how to navigate that.
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds great, I’ll add it to the list! Anything in particular about the LDR you’re concerned about right now? :)
Te quiero mucho, Victoria. Soy tu fan número 1.
❤ I really don't know how to type purple heart haha. Thanks for you video
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching!! (And reading the description 😉)
Hi sister, thank you veey much for your interesting videos and I am one of those who love your videos and the informations tgat you share with us. Please may I ask you, is it easy for a student in a language school in japan and one who has 40 yo, to get a part time job, speaking little japanese? Thank you very much in advance dear
@dado-san3597
2 жыл бұрын
Can you reply please sister
hi victoria! if you have the chance and are interested, a video on academic/professional burnout would be fabulous! loving your content. keep up the inspiring work!
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Will add it to the list Katie! Anything in particular about it? :) Thank you for the suggestion x
@katie-ej1ko
2 жыл бұрын
@@victorialim of course! if you are comfortable with sharing any potential experience you've had, that would be lovely. i think we are all trying to restore some work-life balance, and it can always be improved upon. :)
thank you
Hey Vic, How are you? & When is the next video coming up?
@victorialim
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Dan thank you for always checking in! It’s hard for me to make videos when I don’t feel inspired or in a clear state of mind, so I’ve been taking a step back. I’ll be back eventually 😉 hope you’re good!
@Dan-ky5kt
2 жыл бұрын
@@victorialimYup inspiration strikes at the most unexpected moments , and that's a good thing. Take your time. Nothing to hurry about.I was just checking if you are doing good. I hope your are doing well.😁✌🏼
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