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@lalathedonna5223

Жыл бұрын

Um..I know this is really late to ask and you probably won't answer, but does your book explain what to do? Like, when your floating or I call it feeling like a robot, as in, I am aware of my reality; I am conscious of my actions, but I don't emotionally feel anything that has to do with..um..my personal feelings. Like, if someone says "how are you?" Or my therapist says "And how does that tragic event make you feel?" it's like I get confused, bc I don't feel anything about it. I sound like I am reading a book. But God forbid I see a child mistreated or someone being bullied and I feel everything, but from their point of view. I stare at walls a lot, like, I'm just lost in thought. I barely leave my house. I don't understand how people make friends. I don't understand greed. People say I need to take better care of myself, but idk it feels selfish imo to make me a number one priority when I can do for others. But when I come up with solutions I don't know what to do or how to actually act upon them. Which upsets me a lot. I don't need to talk to people. I hate physical contact, it makes me cringe. I don't dress decent, brush my hair or wear a little make-up for me, like, I guess most do. I do it bc people have to look at me. My therapist tells me when I speak I am all over the place bc I am processing my thoughts out loud, but then he says I come to a profound conclusion, that is normally something he has never heard, but it makes perfect sense and is beautifully interpreted. But when he says that, i do not understand what was so great or why he asks me to repeat it. To me it's just common sense. Anyway, I apologize for the rant turned essay, but if your book can help with any of these issues, please, let me know. I am mentally exhausted all the time. I am tired of being tired. Thanks!

Being an Ni user in an Ne-dominated friend group is thinking of the perfect analysis of a situation or topic, only to realize everyone started talking about something else five minutes ago.

@TeraHammer

3 жыл бұрын

yes :-)

@nobodycares7357

3 жыл бұрын

yes :,)

@floweryunicorn8888

2 жыл бұрын

Yup :(

@PlumGustave

Жыл бұрын

🤣 absolutely

@chocolee7059

3 ай бұрын

Yess

I wish I had kept a record of the number of times in life that I've put forward an idea or suggestion which has been put down and strongly reacted against; only for it to happen a year or two later when everyone thinks it's a great idea!

@gepisar

4 жыл бұрын

indeed. Or the number of times youve told friends and family the best advice that was ignored... only for them to come back 3 or 4 years later and say "yeah, you were right"...and then ask you for more advice that they will ignore... whats the fkn point... Im reminded of Marvin from Hitch HIkers Guide.... "Brain the size of a planet" (if that wasnt a hint that he knew the answer tot the ultimate question) but no one asked...

@adrianm7882

4 жыл бұрын

Happens more often then not lol. Ideas stolen at times, events happening as I said they would happen, etc. Depending when and where....I will keep quiet and see if my thought/idea was correct as life unfolds...if that makes sense lol.

@markb5160

4 жыл бұрын

Annoying, right? The world takes so long to catch up!

@dr.hebagadallahclinicalpha9871

3 жыл бұрын

Totally relatble. Or individuals telling you you are 100% wrong , because you have no evidence, only to ask you 3-12 months later: you were 90% or more right, how did you know? I see the future folks , because you miss the subtitlty of what's happening, while my Se inferior is picking upon it . And my Ni is telling me here is the patterns and propabilities . And that's how to fix or allow it to happen.

@totesmagotes3688

2 жыл бұрын

Or when you have an idea to do something a certain way, it gets shot down, then very soon after someone else says your idea and it gets accepted.

As an INFJ I really relate to your comments about trying to express thoughts. An INFJ's thoughts are full of detail and nuance, and it is difficult to translate this into words that will get the listener to experience your thought as you do. In addition, for the INFJ, it tends to be more important to communicate the feeling than the fact. So communicating in real time is difficult, but in writing there is the time to do the wordsmithing to get it right. As someone once said, INFJ's are clumsy talkers and eloquent writers.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Well put, Jeff!

@mr.superduper9254

5 жыл бұрын

as an INTJ i tend to use writing to express my feelings.

@mauallen4234

5 жыл бұрын

Mr.Super Duper I meet most all of his criteria for Ni-dom but in one area not at all. I use stories from the past to further a point alot. I don’t tell my stories nearly as well verbally as written for sure but I have my moments. We all share overlapping characteristics with other types in many areas and can assume them when necessary. I may be Ni-dom but I likes to tell me stories. Lol

@js9430

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely feel this awkwardness! I can actually be a decent public speaker but when I'm say, in front of a group of people and someone puts me on the spot with a question out of left field I will completely blank. It's like the harder I try to think, the harder it becomes to present something coherent. Sometimes I feel like it's literally a physical challenge to speak.

@jeremiahmnisi2534

3 жыл бұрын

I am a poet. A great one...Just remember this Surname tho.

Explains so much about my school life. I was tested as an INTJ, and seeing this helps to explain why I had such issues with some subjects. Especially, say, ALGEBRA. I comprehend the concepts just fine. Solved the problems in my own way, and the answer was CORRECT, but the teachers would always become frustrated because either a) I wasn't doing it their way or b)the answer just came to me and I didn't show work at all. Only 1 teacher asked me how I solved the problem in a shorter way, and let me do it that way. Even in college, the professors HATED IT. If they claim it is to get you to think "outside the box," then why was I punished for solving it in my "outside the box" way?? Never understood until now!! THANK YOU.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Glad the video helped you give some context to those memories. Thanks for sharing them. It's also exciting to have an INTJ among my viewers!

@victoriousjoy9338

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yes!!! You said that so well!! Even though I'm ENFP, the math problems came to me as a flash, especially in a multiple choice exam. However, I couldn't show how I made the connections. Professors just can't understand that.

@Appolloscott

5 жыл бұрын

So true, I had the exact experience.

@atyp791

5 жыл бұрын

Majøra Majør Yeah, there’s more than one way to solve a math problem. But actually, I’m going into Algebra this year, but if you remember how you did those problems, it would be great if you taught me heheh..

@Michelle-ke7me

4 жыл бұрын

@@victoriousjoy9338 What is ENFP? I'm new to all this.

Being an Ni dominant is hard. With a scientific reinforced society that runs off of measurable facts, it hard to explain how you know and being taken serious. Most people assume you are running off of emotions or fantasy. They don't take into consideration your track record of being correct into as if they should listen.

@KAIZORIANEMPIRE

5 жыл бұрын

because you are. Science matters your feelings and intuition is supposed to help you gain a footing but science is the better determinant of truth

@KAIZORIANEMPIRE

5 жыл бұрын

nobody can take an uknown record of you being right or wrong if they are not instilled in your life lol. Ni people are lol

@caffemocca8855

5 жыл бұрын

That's why developing Te or Ti helps.

@lostathenian1836

5 жыл бұрын

That isn't what Ni is.

@TeraHammer

3 жыл бұрын

Tip: Just say it is your intuition at work. Trust me, it reliefs matters, especially if you take your intuition with a grain of salt yourself.

Do any other Ni doms have insane dreams?

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yes :P

@elifuller4862

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. In my dreams, I become other people. Also, the environment tends to shift often(like a hallway in a building might transition into me jumping out of a plane). It's always weirded me out that I have these dreams because I don't know anybody who has dreams like mine.

@ambercolored3090

4 жыл бұрын

Kid When Father Left I get what u mean totally. Sometimes I have dreams where I'm in the perspective of a person that isn't me and I'm experiencing the world in their view. Or I'm some different entity that's observing the world. And sometimes the real external world inside my dream functions in a way that morphs into different places. I tend to focus on the essence of what the dream means or what it's supposed to represent because the oddity of perspective and environment is so skewed

@elifuller4862

4 жыл бұрын

@@ambercolored3090 Haha, yes exactly! When I describe my dreams to others I often leave out large portions of the dream because of how strange they are compared to dreams of other people.

@akworm.

4 жыл бұрын

They’re not necessarily very crazy or odd but it is often that there will be social situation with in the dreams (whether in first or third person) and there is absolutely no dialogue, instead it is replaced by emotions and visceral feeling. Ex) a friend finds their partner is cheating within the dream it would be expressed very quickly in snapshots and I will feel when and why the “mood” of the dream is different even though no dialogue or even drama was expressed the story just comes forth through feeling

Ni has saved my life lol! during some math exams I've had. I'd sit there frustrated not able to figure out a difficult problem so I'd move on to the others, but then... The Ni solution God arrives and I don't question it, i just write what it tells me lol!

@josephbest2706

5 жыл бұрын

One time I had a panic attack during a chemistry quiz and watched the numbers scramble on the page. I just started writing numbers and got a 93%. She graded it on a curve so I didn't actually get 93% right I just did better than 93% of the class. I've developed a theory from that experience that during extreme stress you can only use the function most natural to you and it dictates how you respond during panic attacks. I'd like to add that, that quiz was the last grade for the class and I passed the class with a 90 because I did good on it.

@tristanshelton8085

5 жыл бұрын

@@josephbest2706I agree with your conclusion it seems when im under pressure this happens more often. Crazy how magical Ni can be it's like having a mini superpower that you can't really consciously control haha.

@nadejdakopanova415

5 жыл бұрын

I can relate 😁😁😁

@YamiBakuratheThief

5 жыл бұрын

I once did that on a math test. Wrote the solution out and everything after practically having a panic attack! A day later, I was asked to stay behind. Thought I was in TROUBLE. Turned out, the teacher instead asked me how on earth I came up with the formula I had written down. It was a far shorter solution to the longer formula. Lol I really had no answer except to go through what I had written down. I never did really well in math because I solved things in ways the teachers and professors didn't accept. They wanted it THEIR way. From the book... Which I could never seem to grasp. Algebra and trigonometry? Sure. Plotting points on that graph can take a hike.

@MCPanda-bl3nc

4 жыл бұрын

There was a time I thought a truely did poorly on my final exam for a mathematics course. Turned out I got an 80% & somehow, even though I missed one too many quizzes, I got to approx. 88.8% of an overall class grade. One top of that, LUCKILY, the teacher changed the grade brackets so a 87% and up was an A. It's a good thing I genuinely tried what I could on the final exam even though I am so forgetful. Ni definitely helps me figure out a process through some form of logic especially if I've seen it before but can't be sure for my life. The class was online but exams were in person. I struggle to study as one could (I wait until the weekend before a test mainly bc then I am actually likely to remember significant things) because I find it easier/more fun to figure something out all over again .-. I took a pre-calc class in 8th grade and the week after it ended, I intentionally forgot it/let the knowledge gained pretty much escape to immeditely relax & because I was gonna have to take it all over again in tenth grade. Lol.

Does anyone else do this: I’m an INTJ and I can almost never remember a person’s name, but I remember things like how they like their coffee, their favorite drinks at a bar, their political affiliation, their favorite dog breed, etc... One week after meeting my wife for the first time and 3 dates later, I still had to keep asking her what her first name was. But she was amazed when I bought her some things from the grocery store when visiting her home and they were all the things - including her favorite specific brands - she used all the time! She later admitted she thought I was very weird. I will sometimes see someone I used to work with 15 years ago (I’m now 60) and I will have to ask them their name, but I will comment how they’re still driving white Toyotas, that they’re still wearing the same style glasses, talk about how much they must dislike Trump because they are a liberal Democrat and ask them how upset they were when their favorite TV show (Mystery Science Theatre 3000) was cancelled. It is pretty weird!

@RensRoom

4 жыл бұрын

Man, I can definitely relate. I'm really not very good with names, but I remember a whole range of facts that almost nobody else seems to remember-sometimes with remarkable vividness.

@honestlyjustyeet

3 жыл бұрын

Well it's probably because you are paying attention to what your Brian Preceves to be more important. Names are just random labels to identify they are the thing that doesn't matter, but what the person likes and uses, and does is who they are, so the ni Dom trait is probably the reason. As he said in the video, your brain will pick up everything subconsciously, and inlist as the person it self. Being infj especially, they will probably do it more so then the intj, but we both will do it differently, and in similar ways. U being ti, means you will recognize and remember the stuff the person likes, or does, infjs, being fe's will remember the persons change in mindset, or reasons for doing, or remember the persons life. But even though I'm infj I can easily remember names, not always, but I can. Maybe being Fe, when I think. About the person, I will first remember their talking. How they spoke what they said, how they said it.Then their body triats, ect. I don't usually speak, to the person more so I observe then, talking to them. So the person first experience with me is in a group project and they don't know my new, but I already know half their life s toey the why they function, and ect. It's because that I remember other people, that I can remember their names, because I'll remember what other people around used to be, and what they said around that person.

@scottkraft1062

3 жыл бұрын

I had a laugh that at that couldn't had a lot of awkard stair with people while there talking to me and I'm just nodding

@yourunclesimp1

2 жыл бұрын

It’s almost as if our brain doesn’t care for a person’s name when we first meet them 😂

@floweryunicorn8888

2 жыл бұрын

same! I sometimes can't remember colors either, unless they are connected to something important

Yeah, this is probably the most real Ni-video I've ever seen. Every single piece of it. Brilliant Ren! :)

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you so much, Jonas! (I hope I'm not completely mistaken regarding your name, haha).

@talielnussen3867

5 жыл бұрын

@@RensRoom hi...can I contact u privately?

@abbys.9233

4 жыл бұрын

Have a hard time articulating abstract concepts on spot, So True! Thank you for noting that this is Ni thing. This helps me understand myself more.

@JonasAnandaKristiansson

4 жыл бұрын

@@abbys.9233

You described Ni perfectly. I like the "circular" analogy. Well done on describing something so abstract. Subscribed and liked.

INTJ here...."A weird film between you and reality." Thank you so much for mentioning that. This is the first video I've heard referencing this experience. All my life it was like a clear glass or plexiglass film between myself and the rest of the world. A form of separation. Until my Mom died, then it was more like a thicker, opaque barrier which took about 7-8 years to fade away. Now that is gone, thankfully.

I agree with nearly every point you made except perhaps some exceptions to talking about the past. If a person has had a traumatic past, then a form of PTSD might contribute to talking about past more often as a way of processing it. But an Ni user will not be tied to traditions. They may except some traditions but usually won't except "This is the way we have always done it" as a reason why. They will have to evaluate for themselves if they except past traditions. But the future is more important to them than the past. I see Ni as a concept of timeless and univeral. It reaches into the past and future as in archtypes but difficulty staying in the moment.

@TInfinteT

5 жыл бұрын

I would definitely agree that Ni doms have the tendency to bring up the past 'in hindsight'/for reflective purposes and seeing what has or hasn't worked for us previously, rather than being emotionally attached to it.

The subconscious, where dreams are formed ,strictly communicates in symbols and metaphors. Being an Ni dom puts us in contact with that region of awareness all the time which is why translating our insights into a language that concrete thinkers speak can be a daunting task, to say the least but with much practice we can improve our communicating skills.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Very well put, Sean!

@dacksonflux

4 жыл бұрын

This was very well communicated 😉👌

@js9430

3 жыл бұрын

And it all makes sense now! ☺️

If I could have a dollar for every time someone said to me, "You're talking in circles, get to the point" Or "You could have said that much simpler" I would be rich! Haha. I relate very much so to most of this. However, I do refer to the past. Maybe it is because I have been betrayed many times and spend much of my time contemplating that pain, and oftentimes when conversing with people, if they say something that reminds me of the past I can often use it to help my explanation because I know that people need concrete examples to understand some things. :)

Great video. I hadn't heard before that Ni doms have trouble with names. I'm INTJ and while my memory is usually stellar I don't remember names at all. It usually takes multiple encounters and hearing them before they stick with me. It's something that's always bugged me since can recall events, times, etc. really well. At least the ones I was paying attention to. :)

@Michelle-ke7me

4 жыл бұрын

What is INTJ? I'm new to all this. I have problems remembering people's names that sometimes I even give new names, especially if their names don't "fit" them; I have always been like this.

@bartnauwelaerts4283

4 жыл бұрын

I'm also an INTJ and have a problem remembering names. This is the first time I come across someone linking it to Ni dominant. Thank you for that insight. @Michelle Carter: an INTJ is a personality type with an "Intellectual" temperament style (mostly Abstract, Pragmatic and Systematic) and a finisher interaction style (mostly direct, responding, process oriented). If you enter "INTJ" in google, you'll be presented with a lot of information. The person posting this video is an INFJ who has the "Idealist" temperament style (mostly Abstract, Affiliative and Interest) with the same interaction style as an INTJ. Those two types are the only ones out of 16 total having Ni dominant, which is commonly translated as "people with very high willpower".

@Michelle-ke7me

4 жыл бұрын

@@bartnauwelaerts4283 Thank you for taking the time to explain. Of course, I had to rewatch some more videos after your explanation. I think I'm an INFJ Empath; from what I read is there a free personality test you can take that can actually tell you the truth?

@TheHashSlingingSlasher548

3 жыл бұрын

@@Michelle-ke7me check out C.S. Joseph, he has a typing grid that is more accurate than the online tests. He also has a TON of content regarding the cognitive functions.

@anneh851

2 жыл бұрын

The longer we live, the more names we are expected to remember. Perhaps there's a limit? There are 8 people named Mike in my immediate social group. I can picture them all in my head. But new people....need to have some history with them first.

2:23 the stare 2:50 when you express opinions, you do not refer to your past 4:30 bad memory of names 5:40 go off tangents (not Ne kind, it's more circular and not spider web like) 9:36 film between you and reality, detachment 11:00 need effort to put ideas into words 12:50 aha moment

@RensRoom

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! :)

@madhvishukla4332

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@user-ij6py2zi9b

Жыл бұрын

Thank god for people like you

@mouloudait9752

4 ай бұрын

Thanks from Ne dom

These are seriously the best descriptions of Ni that i've seen anywhere on the internet. You really know your stuff!

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you! I honestly had no idea that I "knew my stuff" that well when I made that video. It's honestly taken off without my expecting it. I guess what I said about Ni resonated with a lot of people, which makes me glad :)

Something to try for those that are interested in what the "spacey" feeling is like (will work better if you're sensitive to caffeine): (1) Drink tons of instant coffee while pulling an all-nighter so that you don't feel tired when the sun comes up. (2) Ignore the feeling of a hyperactive circulatory system from caffeine, and the numbing buzz of the mind from lack of sleep. (3) Congrats. You now feel the spacey experience of "being aware of the moment yet kind of not there" of a Ni dominant.

@MCPanda-bl3nc

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂 This is why I DONT need anything to stay awake even if I slept 45 minuts the past night (did it once, I think it was an allnighter 😬). Probably ended up falling asleep in the afternoon with no willpower left. I'm good at ignoring the reality of the consequences I had expected to arise. /INFJ/

@haileyk4772

4 жыл бұрын

Bro i can have a descent convo with someone, express my thoughts and opinions, discuss stuff while i'm zooming out experiencing the spacy thing. I swear, sometimes i FREAK out.

@user-lu4fn9pe4y

3 жыл бұрын

Warning +18 stuff: Or just have a sexual peak, it’s so lost in a lost place sort of thing, exactly like having Ni active

@BritneySpearsde

3 жыл бұрын

It's desrealization?

@5sunniva5

5 ай бұрын

OMG this is so true!

I love Ni but only realised I had it around age 50. This stuff should be mainstream and taught in schools. Personality is not controversial or complicated to understand, at least on a basic level. Someone said to me they didn’t believe in MBTI. That makes no sense. Personality is definitely real. You might have an issue with the breakdown into types, but without understanding them, this is just dismissive ignorance. Many think ‘you are what you are’ but there is power in self understanding, and understanding others and life in general, it’s a constant part of a healthy life. What MBTI offers is a special lens to allow deeper insight. I had worked out a lot about my own mind through trial and error, but early knowledge of MBTI and being an INFJ would have been really valuable to career and other aspects of life. I took a wrong career decision, which I am still paying the price for. It would have helped my dating life massively. Many people baffle me, they just can’t of won’t see this 🤷🏻‍♂️

I've always experienced as a child and i never understood why or how. Sometimes while solving problems especially math or physics subconsciously ..it's very strange and what's very interesting is that I could never know how I reached the right answer and what logic I used ..sometimes I would rush to grab a paper and a pen when the solution hits my head just so I can know how am I thinking . this video is AWESOME Thank you Ren.

@invisibleeye8752

2 жыл бұрын

Omggg yesss

"Bad memory of names" . OMG that has been me my whole life!

I've realized lately that sometimes when telling a story I will focus on these little details that are apparently important enough to me to include but are actually completely irrelevant to the point of the story. Also, I often find that I'm so tuned into someone's emotional state when they are talking that I don't hear the words they are saying, especially if it involves technical details. 😴 Sometimes I Do know things without knowing how I know them! For example someone will call and say "guess what?" And I'll reply "your sister's pregnant," and they'll be like "how did you know that?"

Some good points here! Really interesting with the circle analogy, I used a very similar analogy when I made a video explaining Ni in a recent video! The thing I feel Ni gives me the strongest ability to do as an INTJ is figure pretty much anything out. My brain just knows where to go, what to find, the pieces needed, and how to put it all together to achieve the thing, or understand the thing.

I love the way you explain the Ni-dom experience. I'm INFJ--Spaciness mixed with a sort of concentration" and the vague gaze you describe are absolutely my default modes. I do meditate on the past often though...

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Tobi! You're not the first one to stress that you relate to most things in the video except the dwelling on the past. I wonder if this suggests that this aspect is only true for some INFJs and not others - it's quite possible. Glad you enjoyed the video :-)

@tobij7300

5 жыл бұрын

@@RensRoom Thanks! I'll definitely be checking out more of your videos :)

@IvanIvanov-uw4yx

5 жыл бұрын

@@RensRoom Fi critic may be stuck in the past.

I do not know if it's an Ni thing or just a me thing, but does anyone else get this feeling when they go outside and walk around? I feel like I'm there but not there. Not in a sad way. But sometimes I have this weird feeling that I'm not absorbing all of my surroundings in to the fullest. I'll come back home from taking a walk and feel my mind was closed in a little, and that I missed out on seeing things around me. Hopefully that makes sense hahaha.

Nailed me. INTJ here. One of the reasons why I do my videos is so I can document my original ideas. But I love the metaphor of the “film” between us and the world. And how we’re half in and half out of it. Well put.

I think the ability to concentrate is one sign, but not just "concentrate", it is rather like a synthezising focus that sort of blur the rest of the world out, almost to the point of memory black outs. Both fascinating and scary at the same side. As you said there is almost a dissociated element to infjs, rather than the typical neurotic or drifing element of the Infp... Interesting Video!

@brandonwilliams3777

5 жыл бұрын

That happens to me in dangerous situations. Almost like that flow state he was saying. I thought i was istp for a while, but now im not sure if im a very physical infj or istp

I'm a reading tutor and I have trouble explaining things to my students at times, because I understand things internally and need time to figure out how to break it down. Meanwhile, other tutors break it down 1,2,3. It's so annoying.

@Cinderella-mc8kf

4 жыл бұрын

Thats how i learned english actually, on school we took stuff like past and present and grammar, but i never concentrated and when i try to explain someone a sentence or why i put it the way i did I don't know how but i know it's right it's weird

@amandacoelho9524

Жыл бұрын

Sensors are the worst 😅

Every revisit to playback this clip after some times lapsed would let me gained a bigger picture and a deeper reconciliation and greater appreciation of your efforts. An emotional INTJ filled with gratitude and thanksgiving. I will always remember you for making such a meaningful piece of work to clearly illustrate what is Ni domineering to everyone whom is puzzled and wishes to have a better understanding of this astonished function.

@zyzvawisdom1089

2 жыл бұрын

Very correct! Having Ni attribute meaning the topic an individual was thinking/what fuelled him and why what caused he subconsciously wanting to think deeper. If Ni fall into a daze or lost in the wood for some moment, the starting bait would somehow brought him back to prevent him from drifting farther. This is also why Ni attribute is not dreamers. Every point is scientific, logical and explanatory.

This is a genius explanation and helps greatly to understand my INFJ friends better! ENFP here. ☺

As an INTJ, this explanation is so accurate! I checked all the signs you've mentioned. And I think this is the best explanation of how Ni works. The explanations I have watched so far, by either an INFJ or INTJ, were slightly influenced by their auxiliary functions.

One scenario that I’ve encountered many times: I’m in a conversation with someone, who asks a question that I haven’t thought about. My mind just kinda blanks, and I end up telling them that I don’t know the answer. A week (or month, maybe four) pass by, and the answer suddenly pops up inside of my head. Another thing that’s fairly normal in my life: I’m talking with someone, and is explaining my thoughts. It feels like I’m entering the state that’s kinda ideal for me to explain things, but then the other person interrupts with something that confuses me. My focus is now broken, and I no longer feel like I’m able to explain my thoughts. This is why I oftentimes write down my thoughts: I can sort and formulate them in a more logical sense, that makes it easier to keep up. These texts oftentimes end up as essays or something like that, but some people choose to only read the first two, along with the last three lines: they somehow fail to see how the rest is relevant, when it’s the rest that gives the actual answer. Both of these things makes it hard to talk to people, although I try to be nice. It’s just easier to communicate by writing, although I know that I need to practice my talking-skills 🤭

@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes

2 жыл бұрын

Theses 2 things happened to me too. For the second, When it's happen, I split my mind in 2 parts now. So frustrating when lost the thing I thought. The same to memorise a big number with 7 digits, or more I split the number in 2 parts or more.

Thanks Renaud, I can relate to it so much. It makes me happy that through you I can understand myself better and I don't think of myself that I am so strange anymore.

i’m so glad for someone who can more eloquently explain this than i ever could, especially in speech

It's very important that INTJs come to terms with this. In the MBTI/personality community we are treated and expected to behave as Te doms. We only use Te insofar as it is implementing the Intuitive vision.

All of these apply to me as an INFJ and really I'm impressed by these descriptions, especially how we can be spacey but still somewhat aware of our surroundings and/or what 'the point' or our intentionality is (well, if not totally withdrawn in contemplation), as well as the presentation of certain insights by some kind of geometric analogy. In my experience even more visceral or internal (quasi) sensations can guide intuition to pursue the right questions (say by asking if an explanation or account of some problem 'feels' right), and then as one becomes more acquainted with the problem, the imagery that it elicits and our familiarity with the thing becomes more vivid and multifaceted. I'm also sort of convinced that anyone *independently* motivated to pursue something like teleology, or some kind of cosmic purposiveness (Aristotle and Hegel I think are good examples), must have quite a bit of Ni. I say that because I think many Ni types, whether they know about typology or not, know that their particular style of thought seems to depend on something like intentionality unfolding through time. I think a lot of us consciously recognize this current in our thought, and try to disavow ourselves of it, but can't. I think it's sort of the inverse of the detachment you referred to in that some insights seem to demand we believe in them, even in contradiction to some kind of evidence (which is probably where we get the reputation for being closed minded.) An example of this would be that Marx thought the people's revolution was inevitable, but he didn't predict the birth of a middle class which extended the life of capitalism by centuries. But, if like Marx, you're taking a sort of Ni view w/r/t present material or economic systems in light of perpetual class conflict, something like the revolution *does* seem 'inevitable'. And someone holding this position in the Ni way can be completely, legitimately unbothered by the paradox in belief suggested by the fact that the people's revolution hasn't happened yet as predicted. Maybe it's through a decidedly impressionistic style of thinking that people like Hegel and Marx can somehow be right and wrong about the same things at the same time.

So, SO helpful. Thank you! I've always given myself a hard time for not having the facts lined up when I want to make a point -- so much so that I just don't offer my ideas for fear of being challenged -- when I know that what I have to say is truly insightful and helpful. I resonated with most of these. Except the stare -- not sure about that, but then I'm not looking at me! I tend to avoid eye contact when I have to get into my own shoes and see what I want to express. Anyway, tremendously helpful ... now I can relax and just be me!

An apt descritption of the experience of being Ni dominant. I like the way you start from the superficial or outward appearance of a trait (the stare, epiphanies) and move to the inner meaning of that phenomena (unconcious shifting of information, the narrowing of focus). And this has helped me think more clearly about the Ni/Ne distinction, which given the ineffable and inherently inwards nature of intuition is certainly one of the subtler perceiving dichotomies.

I’ve never heard, so eloquently explained, how the thoughts and ideas get stuck in my head. This difficulty expressing ideas. 🙏 thank you for helping make sense of that.

Yes! Bad memory of names! Spirals are life. Aha moments are the best. Let it brew.

Awesome video! Thank you! I feel reborn ever since I started watching videos about INFJs.

What more can I praise you more, you are genius in best describing a Ni dominating, especially narrating the last point, having even difficulties putting in words to make everyone have a complete comprehensively understanding of this rare attribute which all not in Ni shoes or experiences could imagine/establish the feel because they have not experienced and also would not experience forever. I am very apologetic, this are not proud Nor aggressive but these are realistic facts. I am absolutely humbled and I unreservedly regretful if the words hurt.

@zyzvawisdom1089

2 жыл бұрын

A 2 year old posting and you took less than 20 minutes to read and respond. You are really a very responsible, trustable and quick INTJ. A Thumb Up for you.

I relate with everything that you described - except for " remembering names!" I don't have that problem, so much. My memory is not perfect but names are usually not a problem. I think that Fe is the reason for this. Fe is a very " people oriented" function and remembering names is one of those Fe social skills that we are capable of employing - if we develop it - or" focus" - as you said. Ni/ Ti loops are most likely responsible for these" memory gaps". Contrary to what many in the typology community believe, Si user's don't always have impeccable memories ! I know plenty of them 😁😁😁

@Sariine436

4 жыл бұрын

My mom's Nick name is Fe!!!

Name: French Family name: Italian Speaking: English Face: Handsome ❤

The space out but focused moment!!!!!! This rules my life.

Thanks a lot man! I constantly dabbled between ENTP, ENTJ, INTJ but they just didn't feel right. But I'm clearly a thinker. But through this video infj makes way more sense. Every point is relatable.

Omg‼️👍 This resonated with me on every level. Thank you for sharing this - so great🙏

Spot on, apart from giving examples from the past which sometimes I do everything else is true me. The question I dislike the most is" how do you know this?" I have no idea really. It just came to me. When people questioning my finding I really struggle to explain myself well which makes me doubt myself quite often.

This is such a great video. I'm an INTJ and I do alot of spacing out yet intensely concentrating at the same time.

@RensRoom

9 ай бұрын

Thanks Eleanor!

Great description on Ni - I have seen alot of people struggle to explain this but this captures lot of what it is. I am Intj and it can be a real frustration to try and translate Ni insight into a bunch of logical steps for people - its always a post facto logic- the idea appears in my mind mostly formed. When I examine it there is always a logic too it but I am not consciously aware of it at the beginning.

Great description. Thank you. I don't conceptualize it this way, but using Ni can feel like I am channeling spirits. Knowledge comes to me from who knows where, it seems. I don't even remember what I remember, quite often, until I speak, and then things come out of my mouth that I don't recognize. (INFJ)

INTJ here. All of this fits my experience. Thank you!

Great video. I have all of the signs. It’s very hard to live like that but I am also kind of proud of being so unique 😊

Great explanation wow! I've always been envious of my INFP best friend for how well she can express things I haven't been able to form verbally. It's a frustrating function sometimes when I have things at the back of my mind but can't quite put a finger on it til later.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way, Alice!

Без преувеличения это божественная информация:). Особенно то что я поняла что у меня не синдром дереализации и многие люди разделяют со мной виденье мира через стекло. Что конкретно мне невообразимо давит на психику. Теперь мне не придётся испытывать комплекс не полноценности за то что я не могу вербализовать свои мысли. Кстати у меня есть две тетрадки где я записываю предложения чьей-нибудь речи из книг, блога, видео, фильмов потому что я надеюсь что это поможет мне. Я изучаю MBIT три дня. THANKS FOR THE VIDEO! ❤ Your Russian subscriber:)

This is interesting coming from an INFJ because you observe people. And it means these are your original ideas. Very much appreciate your insight. 🤓

Ah - that being bad at names has always been my achilles heel - especially felt now that it's part of my side-gig. This is also coupled with the feeling that it's "wrong" or "stupid" of me not to remember the name, so I also cannot bring myself to ask for a reminder unless it's during the initial conversation with that person (and I often forget to do that, so focused on learning about the person... except their name). It seems like so many people expect this to be simple for everyone - very happy to see an explanation why it can be difficult for some of us to do so (I haven't seen this mentioned in other INTJ videos/articles).

Great explanation of the signs, I like the choices of signs put in as well :)

Brilliant explanation, thanks for giving me insight into how my mind tends to work.

This helped make alot more sense. I feel very connected to both and scored both multiple times. Thank you

Ahhh.. I knew I wasn't the only one. My partner always says I make him dizzy from talking in so many circles bahaha.. I could really identify with all of these signs. Awesome video, I'm excited to learn more..

Wow! I am so glad I found this video. I am currently trying to find my type and a few days ago I was wondering what each dom type was good at remembering and bad at remember. Stuff like names, past experiences, mathematical memory, emotional memory, social memory, and vocabulary memory. I asked other mbti types of social media what they were good at remembering and bad at remembering. Unfortunately either I am not good at expressing myself in writing, people didn't care, didn't know how to respond, or they don't know where their strengths lie. So most replies I got were people making jokes like "I have the worst memory!" Or "Can't remember shit syndrome" It was rather annoying as I wasn't getting the answers I was looking for even when I rephrased my question to these people. Thankfully I found this video which helped clear it up a bit more for me. I AM SO THANKFUL! I was not expecting to find exactly what i was searching for so easily and quickly

Thanks for taking the time to make this awesomeee video! I like it a lot

You definitely get it . Didn’t know the automatic pessimistic thoughts were my own doing.

Yes, the floating feeling of being detached while doing things alone or communicating with others. Like two realities at the same time. Contemplative all of the time. Right, being a creative person, how do I explain this in human terms! It’s comforting to understand that it’s not just me.

Thank you for sharing this! When you talk about this film between reality and yourself - it's so true. In my opinion, this sense of partial detachment is what gives an infj the feeling of being an outsider and not knowing why... (because most of the time we don't consciously think about that feeling) - Hope i'm making some sense but anyway - your way of describing the NI helped me a lot to figure some stuff out. Thank you so much.

You said it for me Ren...there are many layers and processes within us and it feels so good when we unlock each of our functions and get the clarification. I literally write my way around my mind, but as you say, our ephiphanies do rotate back to us if we don't have use for it there and then.

The eyes of beauty have returneth!

Great explanation of the different signs. If I haven't thought out something fully I definitely have a hard time explaining things verbally to people. Also, in regards to remembering names, recently someone asked me the names of restaurants I went to on a recent trip and I could not think of a single one. I'm enjoying your channel, very helpful. Thank you!

dude you're awesome. You explanaion blows the fish out of the pond. If you want to understand an infj, watch this.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks man :)

Love this! What a great explanation of Ni. Definitely can relate.

@RensRoom

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much!

You've made me feel very validated. I can't remember names. I've always struggled and I try to remember but I fail miserably. I hate to hurt people by not remembering names. But at least I'm not alone.

Wow, legit. The circling back, the name forgetting, the stare, yes. The whole 'oh i solved it. Wait when-?" Lol; and yeah I reference my past, but only when it's relative or important. Yes, unlike infps which reference their past at every moment; thdnkyou very clear on sych abstract and almost counter intuitive topics. Spacey but focussed. Yes. It took me a long time, and its still difficult - being infj in society. The 'language barrier' is impossible. But ive also grown to love who i am, esp thanks to finally hearing other infjs. Thanks bro

This is amazing! Many of those things I've noticed about myself but never heard anyone else describe before. I can't remember names to save my life, which can be really embarrassing. The film thing, the circular thing, the frustrating inability to immediately verbalize ideas. It's no wonder that I'm so terrible at job interviews! Now I feel a bit less weird 😅. I feel like I'm somewhere between INFJ & INTJ.

I really appreciate how you broke things down in the beginning before you started your list - that any of these identification type lists should basically not be taken as hard and fast rules, where failing to resonate with one of the criteria invalidates you connecting with the others. Getting a majority is enough. If you get less than half, though, then chances are you need to do further digging and research.

Thanks for the video. Now I'm sure I'm an infj, before I wasn't sure about it keep working your doing amazing. 🤝

Looking at someone while they're talking can be so distracting. So many things to look at. To take in. I love that eureka! Moment. Everything comes together in a rush all at once like it was meant to be all along.

dude this was again so good

This guy is brilliant 👏 👏

Where are you from Ren? You are the only infj KZreadr that I can really relate to 100 percent, you are putting everything I feel into perfect words. Not downplaying anyone else’s brilliant insights, it’s just HOW you speak, that really works for me personally. Also super side note, has anyone else noticed how predominant infj male youtubers and world influencers there are !?! As Ni dom, I do find myself always doing the circle back, to the initial question at hand, I actually have a hard time with Ne users because I constantly want to bring the feelings and questions back to the core center, I can jump and keep up with their brainstorming of ideas and etc but I desire to find a conclusive aha moment. And yes in my mind is so clear to me and so heavily passionate but to bring to the outside world can even be painful, all of that beautiful creative insights come out like tea through a strainer ... just bits of fragmented pieces. I agree wholeheartedly whatever other point ! Thank you!

...Well, that's fascinating. I especially relate to your mention of thinking agility. I am a software developer, and one of the most vexing things I deal with is being spontaneously asked "How's your work going" while I am still working on something. I will be very focused, headphones on, and I will be making progress, things are coming together, then the boss drops by my cubicle to ask me this question and I am immediately ripped out of my thought process and I stumble over myself trying to explain what I just did, it's like, gone. Then I wonder if he thinks I have no idea what I'm doing. I knew what I was doing until I got asked! 🤣😡

As an INFJ, I do all of this. The way you use the circle analogy is great too because I could go in spirals so fast that I can be in a NI-TI loop. Also these pattern reveals would hit me out of no where too and try to catch me off guard in the most random situations wether I’m talking to someone, eating or about to sleep. What helps me is journaling these thoughts down so I can flesh out these patterns more in detail and focus on my and other ppls emotions too.

@LainaTayler

5 ай бұрын

Yesss me too

I know I watched this too late (it's 4 yrs ago), but I have to make a comment as I'm so captured by the things you explained. I am really touched by the things about floating through life as I really feel that. I'm not sure how to put it in words, but I kind of feel like I'm not there, but I am there!! and I really feel like that OMG. I'm overwhelmed by this, lol. Also, the part where you talked about the film between Ni doms and reality, wow, I really relate. It's a thing I feel that but can not describe WOW. This is superb 👏 you really good thanks. I know what happened to me now. Wow.

Thanks for the explanation. Of all the prospecting cognitive functions, Ni was the hardest to explain for me (even though I am an INTJ). I was thinking maybe because I know the experience but I cannot put it into words. Whereas I can easily understand what others mean about Ne, Se, and Si. The spacey moment was too real as well. I don't react to meetings unless my name is mentioned. It's like I'm there but not really there...just filtering the ideas that is of use to me from the ones that don't concern me at all.

Happy New Year! Yes this list captures the quirks that set me apart from other analytical/thinking types (using those terms generally). I'm finally accepting I just need to give myself a little more conversational cushion to let Ni insights gel before I try to articulate myself. :)

I meet all of these points. Very good video by the way.

Lol yes. Infj here. Def guilty of #3. I never remember anyone’s name. And the circling back to the original topic yes! Ne doms drive me crazy in convo when they bounce all over the place and I’m more centralized on bringing it back to a focus

Really good video. I think part of the reason Ni-dom doesn't use the past as a reference point so much is because so much of the time we are in our heads thinking about things that reality can be a bit of a blur, on the other hand when we are fully engaged with something and not in escape mode we can remember things extremely well. I used to have and INFP friend who was contently telling me about what I said and what we did and he wanted to hold me to these things that happened that were really meaningful to him but for me were like a skin that I had already shed. It was very frustrating because we would often get into fights, and I wouldn't be sure if he was misrepresenting something that I had said in a conversation from earlier because he would say but you said this and you said that, and I would be like hmmm... did I say that or is he exaggerating and or putting words and meanings in my mouth.

Thank you for this video, I feel like when Ray from Star Wars finally found Luke Skywalker, now I can finally be a Jedi.

These are pretty damn good descriptions-- thanks :)

Very recognizable. I love seeing how you add nuance to your story. 1) Nietze is an INTJ, at least that is generally accepted. 2) With Ti dom this works differently, at least I think so because of course I am not a Ti dom. I do that myself all the time, because during my explanation I realize that there are people who may have a different opinion. Thanks for your clear explanation. I love your videos.

I can really relate to every single sign. Good to know that im a Ni Dom :)

Wow! The words being on the tip of your tongue... is oh-so-relatable-and-true... Like there are so many times I know the meaning and true gist of concept...but if someone asks me the definition, I have to really think about it what to say. I really have to practice it. It's like I know it but can't explain how.... And the "I just know this but don't know how"... Happens with me all the time and infact, I did get INTJ and INFJ on tests so many times... But the difference between T and F fluctuates often... I feel like at work place I am INTJ and at home I am an INFJ...I have no idea but I just thought it's like this....

Nobody has verbalized that floating state. 😂

Thank you for explaining it this way. I do this all the time.

Re: the circular tangents…. My husband described this as my need to have a “grand theory of everything”…. Endless connections that all go back to a core concept or idea.

So all this time I was using my NI when I thought I was using TI and FE too much. Thank you for the interesting take.

Spot on, really well said

Nietzsche has a quote saying “thoughts are the shadows of our sentiments.” Similarly with insights words cannot ever quite articulate them perfectly