Hi everyone! I am an INFJ posting videos on all things INFJ, personality and philosophy, three times a week. I have written four books, including two books on the INFJ. The newest one, 'The Infinite Soul', is all new and shiny! Get it at the link below. And if you haven't yet read 'The Ecstatic Soul', get it as well or check out the reviews on Amazon!
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Every ENTJ I've met personally can get along with me well if I'm able to make them laugh with a good joke or witty banter. They have a good sense of humor so long as your timing is appropriate.
Ren. I can’t fully express how helpful this video is for me. It’s like healing salve to a wounded heart. Thank you.
. I have had to learn how to do it, i can mimic extroversion really well now. Not so much when I was younger. MHO Extrovert masking is a skill that can be developed. Its not real extroversion just a facade. Afterwards I need to go lie down in my introverts cave ( ie bedroom) with a good book and silence.
In your videos of five years ago you were happier than these days, Ren, from what I’ve observed. Why do you think that might be so? INFJ’s can be happy people, can express quiet happiness. Lately you’ve become more serious looking. Has it become a chore to make videos, perhaps, on the INFJ subject? I’m curious.
@@artistocracy Certainly not a chore, I still love doing videos but it’s true that my stance has evolved to a degree. I think in a way I feel more responsible for what I am saying now, hence the more serious tone. At the time I started it was all new and exciting and spontaneous, now is more « adult » I guess. But the importance it has in my life has increased if anything.
@@RensRoom I understand what you mean, Ren,by saying that you are maturing in your method of delivery as well as being who you are now that you are a bit older. Glad to hear, also, that it is important to continue speaking about INFJ’s. I still enjoy your content, my friend.
Every ISTP I meet are always so chill and don't expect alot from me which is refreshing. I did however stumble across toxic ESTPs though sadly.
I think that many people that are new to typology, mis understand what introversion and extraversion actually is. Social ineptitude doesn't translate into being introverted . Many people who lean towards introversion are as skilled socially as extraverts , navigating easily, and effortlessly theough the extraverted world. INFJs who have been intentional with developing Fe, and Se , are naturally going to show up in the world differently than those who have not consciously worked on these functions. In addition, many INFJs were trained by their caretakers, and other external influences to develop into healthy versions of our type. YOU MUST COME OUT OF THE HOUSE, AND RE - JOIN THE WORLD !!! That is the only way to become comfortable with extraversion, and reach your potential !
Schopenhauer, in a sense, explained magic to me.
I think for me it is a matter of confidence, usually when I have high confidence within myself, its usually after I've been around people enough to understand what they are interested in, and from that I have a higher tolerance towards exposing myself towards the outside world. Usually when my self esteem drops, usually because of external circumstances out of my control, my withdrawnness becomes much more prominent and noticeable
Ì think the INFJ is not that unskilled when it comes to coming across to others in a good manner, which is optimal for something like video production. If you compare it to INTP's weak Se and Fe, its seems much more challenging. Sure, the INFJ may _feel_ not good or very comfortable extravertedly, but it's not that their functions are really not optimal for it
I find that most of those comments come from INFJ's that aren't accustomed to leaving their comfort zone. Although I am pretty introverted, I've also been a performing musician since my first recital as a kid. I've performed in front of 250 people before, and it's just a matter of challenging yourself. I also have a lot of acquaintances and can seem very sociable in short bursts. It's just that I'm usually alone in my free time. Well, not as much now that I have a housemate.
Introverted or extraverted doesn't translate exactly to social eptitude. Have you ever been really good at something you don't like doing? That's what being a socially apt introvert is like. Sometimes it's not even that we dislike social interaction though. Most everyone needs social interaction, but extraverts need it more. We introverts can do it and enjoy it but not really need it as much. Especially with strangers. My dad is an introvert yet he has confidence and can become the life of the conversation in a group if he wishes to. He just does it when he feels like and nothing more.
Hi Ren. Has this channel and writing your books helped you express yourself overtime? I only ask because that's what would be my inclination, to be understood and engage in what you love with other people. I think this attitude helps Fe almost be a psychic no loss function, as opposed to Fe in work or somewhere you don't really want to be, if you catch my meaning.
I’m extroverted on social media, in real life very introverted.
I should clarify, I “appear” extroverted online
You re just afraid from social interaction @@jessicahunt3175
I'm an INFJ man married to an ISTP woman for 17 years and we're quite happy together :)
Yes! Si is quite literal and predictable and routine-like. I've always seen it as "muscle memory" without question. Ni is a bit off-the-cuff and can create shortcuts. I get a lot of "you jump ahead... how did you get from point A to point G"? I see Ni as less methodical and less married to a detailed account of sensory when taking Ni-leaps. Ni is a bit more slapdash.
Why do you have this mindset? Like there should always be common functions?
Criticism. Because we’re not always nice!
ISTP have our same internal loop, but inverted Ti-Ni, hence Bruce Lee philosophy etc.
What’s your opinion for an INFJ woman? I can’t fix anything. I don’t know how to work with toolsets. Nothing.
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Si Dom = "In my experience, the beach might be a loud place to film on a phone". Se Inferior = "Lets go down there and see how I get on" 😂 Thanks Ren this was useful. My friends is an ISFJ and his memory for detail is exceptional. I also know an ESFJ in work and he also can go into unbelievable detail about previous work etc (most of it irrelevant to understanding the general story). Is this an Si thing?
Hi Renaud, I like your channel name, but your idea about changing it to Ren's Corner sounds good, too. I appreciate your understanding and effort in making these videos. Have a great day!❤
I really like these cognitive function related videos. Would you do some more like these? Perhaps Te vs Ti?
I wonder if you can do a video on Ni-Se vs Ne-Si
Same for Fe-Ti versus Fi-Te
You could simply say that intition is aimed on the unknown and sensing on the known. So is a person more attrracted towards the known, then more likely Si and attracted to the unknown (Ni). What does seem to be the thing the person is orientated towards? The known has usually lots of answers for things, cause after all nothing is unknown. The unknown (intuition) usually has lots of questions about things that are unknown and tries to 'guess'it's way through things.
In my view most connected to disconnected Se = most connected Si + Ne = partly connected (cause one is sensing thus connected and other intuition and thus disconnected, yet extraverted yet connected Ni = least connected Without any other funstions NI is basically like dreaming. It is least constricted by reality, but at the same time most prone to believe in supernatural stuff that is not real With the jdgnig functions you can make the asame list Te = most connected. Thinking (external, objective metrics) and thinking (again objective metrics) Ti and Fe = medium connected. Ti is thinking about objective things internally and Fe is "feeling"not that 'objective', yet does is externally Fi = least connected to externnal world Similarly, the pattern seems to emerge also that you can say the Fi and Ni doms are the most feminine (yin) and the masculine types most yang (Te, Se) - Some types have the functions in the middle (Alpha types = Ti, Ne, Si, Fe in any order) - some pairings consist of 2 extreme sides of the spectrum, but lack the middle (gamma types - Fi, Se, Ni, Te in any order) Internally it's opposite where Si and Ti are the most yan (masculine internal functions) and Ni and Fi the least, which mean the exact opposites types that are most masculine on the outisde, are the most feminine on the inside. (with Ni and Fi - Gamma) and alpha is most masculine on the inside (Si + Ti)
@PowerRedBullTypology That's a very interesting theory. What do you think of INFJs being a mid point, Sigmas and the fact that in Taoism, the Ying Yang sysmbol isn't meant to be static to represent the changing energy of the moods of life?
Do you consider yourself INFJ? Because I never met one with such an advertisement ease, should I say
You can almost see Si doms processing reality through their internal framework. I think this is why they don’t like change in general.
I have seen high Si users repeat forever what they found to be optimal. And they will compare/complain if a new experience is bad. Sometimes they can reject a thing, because they haven‘t experienced it, but on the other hand they quickly come around if they like it.
Si is direct experience, Ni is objective analysis of reality.
Beautiful backdrop and not distracting! This was great, I think a lot of people get confused and type themselves as Ni users when they are actually Si users because they think that if they have any kind of imagination they must be intuitives and don’t really understand the distinction or the difference between being very disconnected from reality like Ni versus being grounded but able to tap into imagination and intuition for fun using their Ne, love your videos 🙂
"This is where I live" - not too shabby, Ren. Liked the explanation. Extroverts live (Se Ne) live in the world as it is, in the moment ('lotus eaters' come to mind). Si users create a replica of reality and use tools to predict what will happen. I've seen that - also some spectacular fails from it (GIGO). Ni users do not even remotely live in the world directly (true), but connect everything to a past and a future we are shaping (also true) - so we are most alienated from 'direct' reality. And also, we really never actually just relax and just enjoy things either, do we? I've always wondered about that. makes it a built in formula for unhappiness, it seems. Never satisfied, always tomorrow.
Yea the price for perspective and understanding is being distanced from reality. Can’t be a dreamer and a realist.
Backdrop makes me think of my holidays at Cavalière, Le Lavandou...
"In order to be comfortable within the external world, Ni dominants need to feel like this external world is a continuation of the past, and heading toward a future that they themselves can feel, they can contribute to shaping." That's a gem. I'm struck by the realization that we actually can feel comfortable in the external world, there's just a particular way that we need to be engaged with it in order to be at peace with it, as well as to become the fullest versions of ourselves.
Thanks, that really helps. Was calling it a "disconnect " but couldn't quite understand why.
This was brilliant! Thank you 👍
My response to Si-users asking me to show my work and support my theories 🤔🙄😅😶🌫️🫥 Yes, make sense of past to clarify our narrative to project self into the future… realized and experienced this for myself in the past decade. Context matters. And yes, also strongly agree that Jung is an INFJ. So good, thanks for the conversation!
Ne like to play in external reality. Ni like to distil information into useful understanding and insights.
Maybe Ni vs Si next? I think it‘s much harder to explain.
i have done a lot of research to make sure what type i am. And once i a while i start doubting if im really a infj, only for it to be confirmed again. the fact i have to rationalize when i speak about my feelings say enough, and i have always found it really annoying when i do this. I admire INFP's for being able to talk about their feelings so fluently. Keep up with the interesting video's! really love them! Love your first book and ive just bought your second book this week!
What about ESTJ bosses?
Fascinating. I know a narcissist who has convinced herself that she's an INFJ. She not empathetic, idealistic, or altruistic, but she claims she's all those things. And she goes around constantly diagnosing people as narcissists. I've noticed there are a ton of "INFJ vs Narcissist" videos on KZread, and I wonder if that's part of why she convinced herself she's an INFJ, because she's always calling out those imagined narcissists!
As an INFJ, my core values will remain the same. But my ability to empathize and understand others makes it easy to adapt and exist in the plane with them to create that social harmony and connectivity. Once those core values get crossed, that connection breaks and I snap back into that true nature that believes values come before anything. People often become shocked by this. But I think we’re always so authentic. I love speaking with and socializing with other INFJ’s. They’re so multifaceted.
“It’s not that they know things that other people don’t know, it’s that they often can’t explain how they came to know the things that they know” exactly
For me it's just disgust and dislike and avoidance at this point not exactly hate unless this narc keeps pushing it.
Also , I can waste unnecessary time hunting for that perfect word to use in conversation, when using simple words will suffice. It goes against my Ni pride to forgo the perfect delivery , but it's a tendency I have learned, must be sacrificed , at times
intjs are our friend they are extremely smart
Personally I think INTJs are really smart. I respect them for their astuteness. However, they don't give a shit about ethics and justice too much.
Wow! So honest. I am an infj and I went through a relationship with an i n t j and this happened. We used our Ni function for the magic. But like you said...I became co- dependent...misused my empathic nature , betrayed myself and my marriage dissolved.
I think women like INFJs because there is an emotional connection.