What are some other signs you have experienced that have shown you, that you are not healthy at that moment?

@kymelatejasi

2 жыл бұрын

I don't know of any to add, but the inability to make choices surprised me. I know it's a unhealthy trait of ADHD, but now I wonder if it's something else as well. You have a wonderful community, so even if I don't get an answer to my comments, I'm sure I'll find an answer to my problem somewhere amongst the others. Thank you for this video. It came when I really needed it. ❤️

@Docaaoo

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I m extrovert and very enthusiastic I share my ideas with frndz but a lot of times I just feel unmotivated and don't wanna bother about sharing my thoughts or at times my mind is blank but I m expected to give an input its too bothersome bcz I force myself to say someting that will make sense for others only to save my image. I feel like I m doing a very bad job at being who I m .

@being-Lisa

2 жыл бұрын

When I don't take action....feeling paralyzed with indecision.

@sandracandelaria0317

2 жыл бұрын

Having a horrible time breaking free from a smoking habit that I have allowed to hinder me on and off for decades!

@AntionetteSpain

2 жыл бұрын

When I get super apathetic I know something is wacky, I am naturally a healer soooo self acceptance is huge for me probably I’ll probably continue this path forever smh

The world is so topsy- turvy now that being alone seems to be the only sustainable option to keep sane. I have always enjoyed time for introspection and reflection, but it almost feels like an escape. A way to try to make sense of all the senseless clamor that surrounds everyone and everything these days.

Those who mind don’t matter, and those who don’t mind matter - Dr.Seuss

okay, im definitely unhealthy. all signs are checked.

I think being and INFJ is an autistic personality type but I think that’s a good thing not a bad thing.

@craigbarrett2278

2 жыл бұрын

Been thinking this lately....🤣

@LifeisaBeautifulting

2 жыл бұрын

I have questioned whether I was autistic, but I don't think we're all autistic lol

I don't know what to say. I am 76, 3 divorces, I live alone and the last few years I just go to the store once aweek, everything else comes from amazon. My daughter stops by once a week. But yeah i have all the unhealthy signs, beginning to understand things because of your videos. I wish I had someone to really talk to, but no one really cares. I was a disappointment the moment I took my first breath. You help me understand things. Richard

@DonTrump-sv1si

7 ай бұрын

Hi Richard, Hope things are going better for you

@moss5635

6 ай бұрын

Hey Richard, how is it going now?

Sometimes it's not all self sabotage but everyone thinks I'm too intense already so going beast mode scares people sometimes

I am so scared, that I will never find people who I can connect with. I cannot trust myself so I don't know if it is a good idea to let go of certain friendships, eventhough I cannot trust them and it feels not right.

At 67 years of age, I still struggle with fitting in as was the case in childhood, but DO like to socialize. It's hard to find the "right fit" all the time, though. About 20 years ago, I started a low-dose anti-depressant and it has helped me a lot. It's no panacea, but does take the edge off of disappointments and occasional times of feelings of loneliness. I think we are all more complicated than 4 letters for our personality, but this classification has helped me understand why I'm "different".

I'm going to watch this video every morning before work. All of this is me. I need to find my focus again. I can't even express or measure my gratitude for your videos and your time. I've just recently discovered that I'm an INFJ. Understanding why I do the things I do helps me to change my way of thinking and knowing I have support if I need is very comforting. Thank you so very much.

I am an INFJ with inattentive ADHD.

I've struggled with all of these things in the past. I'm struggling less now than I used to, but there are still a few big ones that I haven't overcome. I still have a hard time making decisions, especially big ones. I still, very often, overthink things without taking action. I struggle with long lasting romantic relationships and have resigned myself for the most part to being alone and working on my own things.

Oof, I'm unhealthy. I make myself smaller for people and situations. I also grew up incredibly anxious all the time. But its important to stay true to who I am, to attract those who would support me.

Your video made me think that the INFJ is generally “setup” for success with self-improvement. I say this because we tend to humbly accept our faults, especially initially, and work on them without much fear. That we’re Future-oriented helps this constant life cause. My opinion!

But I know I'm strong because of all this narcissts I got gang stalked for years and I cut them off and everybody on them sides. I'm alone but that's it. Better being alone than being around fake ppl.

Its like INFJ-T transitioning to INFJ-A

This video has been eye opening on an incredible level

The way you describes topic, it not only stored in brain but it also touchs Heart . Luckily I got you through youtube channel.

So yeah all but #8 appear right now to fit where I feel I am. So much common sense in what you talk about in several of your video's and ironically I have helped so many people with these same kind of issues while ignoring that all along I was suffering with them and hoping that by fixing theirs I would somehow come out with mine all fixed because I obviously know how to fix the problems... but only in others it seems... time to turn myself into my next project and rediscover the person I have known I always am but have been afraid to be. Thank you for stating the obvious in such a way as to make it visible to those of us who protect ourselves from that very same obviousness. Much love and keep doing what you do, it is helping even if only by inspiring recognition and a desire to pursue change...

This is so true to what i am feeling now // i didnt know it is unhealthy thinking // thank you for the info from a true INFJ

I adore your INFJ videos. These are so descriptive as to the direction to take my life, and simply, that I'm not the only one. Great quality on the videos (great zoom in/out on spot-on topics and your quality advancements over years and years of changes)...my struggles are small talk (remember/learn words), $ as opposed volunteering/sharing time, and accepting that my personal desired self time is "the" value not an continuous uncommon annoyance for others. Giving your Boot Camp a consideration...

Well done Wenzes. .Congratulations!

Gosh you are so on point! Thank you Wenzes!!!

These definitely apply to me! Sooo much in the past and still to some extent

Very insightful and resonant. Thank you. I’m also a coach and find your channel to be a huge support to me as an INFJ even though my clients are all different types of personalities.

Thank you so much for reminding me and introducing about who I am

True. Their quick judgemental attitude brings them draw the conclusions which against to be get along. INFJ is amazing but few things to be change as you're suggesting. I appreciate your sage narration at least it will help to some of INJF's to understand that no one is flaw less as we all are Human.

I'm an 1000 like! 👍 I love your videos Wenzes. You're my hero. 🌹

Wow, I never realized how unhealthy I actually am😮‍💨

Every one of these are so true, and I know I have experienced them all at some time or another. I think I've come through a lot of them, # 4 was probably one of the most difficult to change for me, I still think I'm in some aspect of working through #6 and #7 but feel I'm at least focused in a positive direction with it, #9 I dealt with quite some time ago, although maybe not in the best way, by just totally shutting down and removed myself from the equation of that, although I know to really be healthy in that area means to move in a positive direction with that. Great advice as always 👍😃

Thank you for this video. All these steps remind me of myself

After 48 years I finally discovered I am an infj and it couldn’t have came at a better time I finally know what makes my brain tic first reaction was stunned then came the smiles and tears of joy knowing that I can take control of my life if I can survive being an alcoholic for20 plus years(currently 5+ years sober and I manage a kitchen in a bar that is how much will power we have )I I can tackle this journey to and man am I unhealthy right now so what I have learned from my six months of rehab is get another tool box fill it up and go on another journey so now it’s time to build muck love to you all❤

I love you!!! Thank you 🙏

I neeed this. Thank you 🙏🏽

I've been healing a lot in the past few years, but something that happened earlier this year has knocked me back further than I thought and it's been a lot harder to come back from. I feel like I have no direction and don't fit in anywhere and always get annoyed when I have to talk to someone. I've been trying to find things to do that I think will give me at least some kind of direction, maybe at least a better job that won't burn me out, but it's been nearly impossible to continue with those things if I get started at all. It appears that my healing has stalled and I'm not sure how to continue with it.

@Wenzes

2 жыл бұрын

It‘s 2 steps forward, 1 step back. Choose every single day again to do 1 thing that makes you feel better than yesterday

@kymelatejasi

2 жыл бұрын

I will do my best to remember this. Thank you. ❤️

@aquariusstar7248

2 жыл бұрын

Im feeling like this too. Felt like i was dealing with my past crap, seeing how my behavior was self-sabotaging and getting clarity --and all of this required me to be alone. but now suddenly so much feels to be falling apart.

@kymelatejasi

2 жыл бұрын

@@aquariusstar7248 we both found ourselves in this community. I'm sure we can find a way to help each other out. 🙂

@theresefournier3269

2 жыл бұрын

@@aquariusstar7248... to make room for the new creation you are becoming, or have become!

great vid!

I’m here for a good time, not a long time. 😊

Ouch!! Super eye opening. Perfect timing for me too,…

I’m here for it however it to categorize somebody as “unhealthy or healthy “is a negative autosuggestion instead you should focus on the behavior as opposed to making it so black-and-white. And God knows best

I love your videos. Thanks so much 💕

Thank you for helping me understand

Thnk u wenzes for being...u r the only one whom i feel i can confide into....thnk u so much for being in this toughest time of my life

Socializing is equal to a handball sized sleeping pill for me. I literally have to nap afterwards.

Thank you for these videos. So much of this resonates with me. Almost everything you spoke about I have felt. I am trying to make changes and overthink and worry about everything! I'm new to your channel and don't know if you have a video on how to deal with these unhealthy traits. I have started moving away from people that make me feel uncomfortable and bad about myself. I am understanding that even though I was raised in a family where emotions were supressed, I have emotions and have the right to express these appropriately. It is hard but, in the long run I think it's best for me.

You are so right! Why it has to be so hard to just say this is what I want and end of the story! Why do I have to care so much for what others want? Even when what they wanted is for my own deterrent I do it anyway. I have tried to be more focused on myself to be selfish and self centered as the majority of people are but I’m not happy being like that it’s not me I feel the happiest when I can make others happy as well as I’am and share my light and insights with them. But at the same time it’s such a heavy burden. I have tried to change so many times because more times than often I feel and I see how people abuse that kind of kindness, but I go right back to it without even thinking about it.

Thank you.

#6 That's why I put an enormouse background narrative when I am starting something. I start this because... and then follow a long story of strangely connected past event's with a lot of symbolism. I seggest that's not the easyest way to go, but... INFJ are alergic of taking on the easy path you know it. To explain to an INFJ what is "the easy way" it's often like talking about nuclear phisics. #7 I do remember my first two months in my work this spring. It's linked with the points 3, 4 and 5 again. If you don't feel part of what you're in you most probably end exhausted at the end of the initiative. That remind's me of my first job in the end of 2017 when I could'nt get well with the team and as a result I quit it on the third month totally drayned. #8 INFJs need a porpouse in order to start something. Luckly there's nothing that could bring me out of my bright side thinking, I'll always find a way to motivate my self in some way because my thinking is unlimited. I'm almost 27 with no year job experience and I know how most people react to this, but I don't care, it's a matter of being alive in every minute of your existance and being alive condition can't be measure with popular stereotypes. That's why the stereotypes exist in the first place. They try to simplyfy the answer of the question what is to be alive all about, but that is not a colective knowledge, it's a personal journey so stereotypes can only demotivate you or make you lose precious time acting not acording to what you really are. #9 It could not be without the one-sided relationship matter. In fact when I was in such an unhealthy relation's I knew that it's not the way it should be, but it's hard to walk away from it. In fact the few time's I have been in one-sided relationship's the hundered time's I have avoid it probably, but that's not enough. People are not project as you say, people are not machines or a building to be build according to a graphic and some measurement's or a mathematical calculation of 2+2 makes 4. People are as complicated as hell. #10 Again linked with 3, 4 and 5. If you still not in alignment with your inner self and your representation in public you will run away from public, that's obviouse.

I am, and I NFJ. These 10 things describe me perfectly! Every single one of them! I don’t feel like such a freak now. I don’t feel bad about who I am.

The world has made me a nihilistic INFJ and there is nothing anyone can do about it. In my mind, our fate is set and I judge everyone who is responsible; sensors obsessed with ego, power and control. People who put the lives of every person on Earth up as stakes for their juvenile game of hubris. Coaching is great unless you have to come to terms with the end of our species and our own mortality outside of our control. Because a certain leader can’t have their way. You should make a video about that, you know who I’m talking about.

how do yall deal with fake people within the same household?

@yungdeezzuz-topic7636

2 жыл бұрын

that drains me

@Wenzes

2 жыл бұрын

As little interaction as possible and set a plan in motion to move out

Sign 9 is the conseguenze of sign 10 And they're the most hard realities we didn't want to belive but we do it by our hands

True, I honestly don't care, anymore. I used to care, done with that! Only those people I truly love and trust get to see my vulnerable side. I don't friend-up with narcs. Recognizing them and their toxicity is critical. Wow, I do want to be alone all the time... Time to get out of your/my head and into your/my life. Thanks!

Thank You for this really knowledgeable video. I found that I have 3 of these unhealthy qualities, Having long time taking decisions, Feel like not fit for this world, And Sometimes feel like not talking to anyone at all... You gave some tips on it here but now I am going to watch your other videos to make a change in myself and become a Healthy INFJ.

@experiencesperspectives5984

2 жыл бұрын

@Umberto Staccioli It happens to me as well and sometimes it's time consuming even for some less important decisions. Yesterday I went through some tricks for this issue and found that If we break a decision into further smaller division then we could easily take a perfect decision by answering the smaller divided questions quickly. I am gonna follow this from now hope it will be helpful to you as well....

@experiencesperspectives5984

2 жыл бұрын

@@MiscName1493 Thank you... That was so insightful. I will surely try these tips.

When I tries to change or develop myself, I feels like it's not good to do I'm stuck here

#2 always feel anxiety

Really miss this long video

Thanks Chickadee jimiedwards

The truth hurts......I can think of no 9ne else better to hear it from!❤🎶Thank you thank you THaaannnkk Yoou🎶 😂😊 the best, you are!!!!!

It’s Hard to be happy when in separation divorce case and have to wait while the lawyers are doing what they do best. Money is not coming in as well. Work is not working. I need time to heal and emotionally spiritually I have to rest and take care of myself. I have been patient and I am in transition. This healing process will need solitude for now. I need time to heal

Oh god I realized that I am an unhealthy INFJ… yikes! I am definitely going to join the bootcamp. Thank you for everything.

just because you can take something doesn't mean you should allow people to subject you to it without there being a REAL GOOD reason for allowing that

You look beautiful 😂😂😂 sorry if it feel inappropriate to the viewers or culture I don’t mean to hurt but you deserve to be on top 10 list

I don't think I've ever actually been a healthy infj🤔 I was so tired all my life, people always assumed I was anemic. I wasn't, not even when pregnant. No one was ever able to find anything wrong with me, so I've just lived with it. Somehow I still manage to accomplish huge things in shorts bursts of time... After I get past the procrastinating.

@elizaveta2407

11 ай бұрын

Some ppl get adrenal fatigue which can feel like chronic tiredness. It is basically low levels of cortisol which is not only the stress hormone but also energy hormone so to speak. Reason - being around toxic people and experiencing chronic stress for too long - so that your body it tired of producing cortisol (which is supposed to help you get out of stressful situations and relationships). When I found out about this, it explained a lot)

Took sometime to wipe all that BS off. Things much better now. 🤗 ❤💯🎯

What are some other signs I have experienced that have shown, that I am not healthy at that moment ? People thinking that I am too sensitive or emotional. I express ideas on what to do in order to have a better work environment for safety, efficiency, etc. I get told by others that I worry to much. I just tell them, you don't worry enough. I have worked on my approach, yet I don't give up on valid concerns.

My indecisiveness is actually more about projecting the return on my investment of time and energy

Yup cant decide had to go 4 college courses,spent8years in college ..my most unhappy years...college life

👋 My name is Job. INFJ 🤦‍♂️

At this point in my life im dealing with almost all of these😣ive gotten better with selecting wrong relationships and helping ppl who dont appreciate it tho.

I have been too much in my own world at times in the past

There's a lot to be told here. It will probably take me few comment's. #1 I like to say that I know that I'm an INFJ long before I found MBTI and a lot of KZread channels. It may be because of my family envirement as a child. My parents never want from me to be this or that, moreover especially my father is totaly in my wave in the matter of not following the rules of the croud so that infamouse INFJ independence, that inner voice saing "my self first" has been always with me from a very early age. I have never been in a situation where anyone else's opinion ruined my decision making. Well that leads to the opposite probolem, but that's an other topic. #2 I have a stories of feeling that way, but for a short amount of time. Deep within I know that this condition is not normal so if I fall in it I desperately looking for a way out quickly. #3, 4 and 5 Thes are very well linked. It all comes to controlling your INFJ abilities. I do have thes problems years ago. Long time as I was younger I have rejected my ability to blend in because I did'nt want to blend in, I want to find answers to my long term existancial question's and ilusion's, but ilusion's are ilusion's. There's no way of other's to embrase you before you embrase yourself. Your outside come's from your inside so you have to blend in, you have to make yourself part of the puzzle in order to be a part of the puzzle. I like to say that I have two voices in me. One is my current me and one is my previouse "me" who does'nt know how to deal with his own self. And what I do I give my inner wounded child a hand and take him to a better place where I am now and move on to the next level. I like to describe it that way. Well it's not as easy as it sound's, but you have to do it.

I know I am one. I stay alone almost always because in my mind people do not understand me. I deal with bad depression and anxiety and that adds gas to a already huge fire. I also don't have the energy to try most days

Thank you so much for your great content! ♥️ It feels so good connecting with similar people. I'm really struggling with "taking action". I have a lot of dreams and visions but I'm not sure which way I should choose for my life or how exactly I can realize my dreams. So because of this insecurity I can't figure out my next steps. Any recommendations how to find the right way and actions?

@theresefournier3269

2 жыл бұрын

Jeremiah 10: 23?

@sr-lw6bi

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same problem. I started with the INFJ poster download the link is in the description box. Read through it you will know what you need to work on most and start making changes. Make your foundation solid so you can reach for the stars.

Bruh I just found me lmao like woah 😳

People have even taken some of my paperwork for my car I’m not ok with it for real. I’m done with their stupid games.

I retired in January this year and now I'm exhausted all the time, I believe its from doing nothing. It helps when I go back to work, sometimes I get a call to go to work cause theres a shortage of people who do my job. Don't know how I'm gonna manage when I'm no longer needed.

Wenzes' hair always looking great 🙌

@alvaroschudeck957

2 жыл бұрын

Its near perfect everytime. Soooo, do you recognize the patern of being a little perfectionist in a lot of things, mmm. She said, she is also an InFJ

When i was young I moved around alot and it was hard to make friends, now that I'm older it is still the same way. It' hard to trust people. I do case management with homeless and have no problem helping people. I just can't trust people. I'm confused.

I watch Yours video and feel like i gone explose. So much informations. So much to think. Unfortunately english is no my native language and im scared that i will miss something... or feel that what you say isnt for me -because of language or just want hide myself and pretend that im like other people. Howerver, I want to thank for You job and help :)

You know. I am not going to watch this one because just looking at the section titles I am pretty much every single one. I have to protect myself from things that are going to depress me so probably best to avoid this one.

As a true INFJ, I recommend that every time you fart ...... you say out loud, "I am NOT sorry." It sounds silly but I like it.

Is it just me or are there other infjs out there who have a song to help calm the infj panic aka anxiousness. If so what is it I'm curious to know Mine is Destiny 2 theme Journey

I never met anyone like myself

9/10 i am soooo not healthy. this is very upsetting.

Ok so if I want to be a healthy INFJ I need to avoid these family holidays

I know I'm unhealthy. I've accepted it for now

I want to join infj community how can I do that

I watched this a year ago and I’m still 10 out of 10. Wow 😮 I’m just done with myself smh

Can you talk about being a INFJ-t transitioning to INFJ-a possibly in the future?

@johnd.2803

2 жыл бұрын

@Umberto Staccioli hmm.. maybe it’s like having a balance of both? I like the t because that’s just a part of who I am. But the a is good in practical situations. Like when i can just be fully myself and comfortable , I like to let the t loose. When I am in formal situations , for instance like not saying the jokes to lose respect etc. keep myself in check. I guess like oscillate between the two. Being a kid and an old soul at the same time. I love just being a kid. But also knowing when to be serious (basically what an adult is). I think my trouble is that I let myself be manipulated and used a lot because I was neglected for so long that I almost can’t allow myself to be disliked. So I’m still in that hardcore people pleasing phase… I’m in the early phase of development… but I want to develop on my own terms. So to speak. I don’t know. I’m just taking this one day at a time

@Wenzes

2 жыл бұрын

I like that topic!!! I‘ll do a video soon

Now i know im not healthy...

Are there any Jamaican in here?

Deus pir favor ne ajude a nunca mais dazer nada pela humanidade.

Well what if your an Infj and a narcissist

Eating pop rocks & a mentos washed down with a Coke... Will make an INFJ- cra/crae healthy!!

I only want to love her every morning because I can never get enough of her at night.

Lol as if it’s all planned, or somehow some kind conscious decision to be funny… shorter version, we’re funny because we let our inner monolog escape from our mouths…

Wenzes, in this video, you have put together most, if not all, of the challenges I encountered as an INFJ - but in my pre-Myers Briggs days, it was a "work with them as they appeared" basis. But you have them here in a useful, practical list. I wrote a them down as you gave them - handy for periodic reviewing .🙂 I especially appreciated your take on relationships. I can vouch for what you said about finding compatible people as we are pursuing our goals - and find out that we can grow together and help each other. This (as opposed to "relationship-for-relationship" sake) was always more rewarding for my life as an introvert. And BTW - over time I found out that we can build up a decent collection of good, faithful friends!