You’re lonely because you want to be perfect

#psychology #socialwork #mentalhealth

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  • @Pepespizzeria1
    @Pepespizzeria124 күн бұрын

    You're lonely because you're perfect

  • @Zorro-pl6ym
    @Zorro-pl6ym16 күн бұрын

    Really nice insight you brought up! I love your video dude and good luck on reaching as many people as possible in the future ❤ Also, sending love from romania! 💪🏻😼

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    16 күн бұрын

    @@Zorro-pl6ym thank you! I really appreciate the kind words 🇷🇴

  • @nafissaleh9942
    @nafissaleh994225 күн бұрын

    I needed this, man. Thank you

  • @pupururiin
    @pupururiin26 күн бұрын

    wooooah i've never related so deeply to anything more than this. i've always felt obligated to hide my insecurities and act just normal to the point where i came to realize i'm being too "perfect", that's why my peers wouldn't interact with me much. they must feel hesitant to also be the way they are around me without hiding their insecurites, because they think i don't have it and we can't relate to each other. i always fail to express myself in a natural way because i always conceal my real mannerisms, leaving me no chance to be just everybody else and to connect. i rarely get to form close friendships. people notice me just to praise me and acknowledge my maintained great image. but no one ever bonded with me personally and deeply : D great video btw

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    25 күн бұрын

    @@pupururiin Precisely! Once we take the courage to be ourselves, we realize there is no monster in the closet. Life is so much more enjoyable, and we can all achieve it

  • @SpaceC0wb0y030
    @SpaceC0wb0y03027 күн бұрын

    I love being alone and lonely it makes me happy, just the other day I was at a cook out at my mothers friends place and all her family I was ready to go back home she wasn’t so I walked back home I ran across two highways to get to the other side I finally was at the park and I saw some beautiful plants around the poop smelling man made river/pond. I really just enjoy my on company I don’t like being surrounded by loud noise it drives me insane. Perhaps it’s not a problem if I love being to myself perhaps it is others that wan to fit in and be “perfect” I was never perfect person so being lonely to be perfect is completely abnormal to me, perfection is the enemy of good everyone messes up some people just take it to far idk humans are very complex yet simple creatures

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    27 күн бұрын

    @@SpaceC0wb0y030 Sounds like you have a really peaceful life. The thing is we go through periods of both. Sometimes we crave loneliness, but then we naturally crave social interactions too. The issue comes when one craves social interaction, but is afraid of engaging authentically.

  • @SpaceC0wb0y030

    @SpaceC0wb0y030

    27 күн бұрын

    @@AlexMoraru25 yes, exactly. My mother is a very social person but I am not I am a person of few words honestly I don’t even know what to say so I remain quite and observant unless I’m spoken too, she won’t say it but I know she craves interaction with her friends she’s ashamed of herself but she won’t say it that’s why she feels guilty for having fun with her friends, I feel that I am one of the reasons to her suffering I am emotionally distant yet aware of others, I,m constantly having to filter myself to appear chill but in reality interacting with people is not my strong suit I come off as very rushed and abnormal others won’t say it but I can tell how uncomfortable they get around me people will talk to me but will have their feet going the other way. Talking to me is no means an “easy task” though I’m trying to be better I don’t think I ever will it is my nature. Me and my mom are very conflicted with each other, I try to push her out the house to go talk to her friends I just don’t like seeing her wallowing in pity but at the same time I am selfish because a part of me wants her out the house even though it’s hers because I crave solidarity and I can’t afford it she’s truly one of the best people I’ve met in my entire life even if I did not choose life I have come to choose her and respect to call her *my mother*. I hope I can find my peace and her hers, someday.

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    26 күн бұрын

    @@SpaceC0wb0y030 if you truly believe you’re meant to be a lone wolf and find that a sustainable way of living, there’s no one telling you not to

  • @SpaceC0wb0y030

    @SpaceC0wb0y030

    26 күн бұрын

    @@AlexMoraru25 true, although it’s quite easy for someone I’m assuming from Europe to say, America absolutely sucks and it’s practically impossible to get out of extreme poverty I’m only making 12$ an hour

  • @basedpolymath4316
    @basedpolymath431625 күн бұрын

    So, let me get this straight.. This video with under 250 views gets recommended to me and its a guy just sitting in his room who decided to record himself and casually sum up my approach to dating with lethal accuracy. Wild.

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    25 күн бұрын

    @@basedpolymath4316 Well yeah, this applies to any type of human connection

  • @Onthe9thlife3730
    @Onthe9thlife373025 күн бұрын

    😑 completely ignores the neurodivergent experience, disabilities, or just general bullying.

  • @AlexMoraru25

    @AlexMoraru25

    25 күн бұрын

    @@Onthe9thlife3730 Some people don’t allow their life experiences to limit their potential. But there is no general advice valid for every single human being. Take what helps you, ignore the rest

  • @Onthe9thlife3730

    @Onthe9thlife3730

    25 күн бұрын

    @@AlexMoraru25 as a person who didn't know I'm neurodivergent until my 30s and gave everything I had to everything I did I can say that I have never allowed my life experiences to limit whatever potential I had. It's society and other humans that did that, but also people putting their idea of what my potential is that never actually fit my potential has also been a very nasty experience. There is nothing here to take. Thank you.