"Women are only treated as an adult after they're married" | S1- Last Episode | Adulting for Women

In the episode of podcast with Girls in the Twin Cities we talk about adulting as a woman in our society; the good, the bad and the ugly.
00:00 Intro
00:50 Change in our sleeping routines over the years
03:32 When did adulting hit us
07:34 What exactly is adulting
09:20 Adulting is a process
12:00 Understanding our parents better
12:33 Women are treated as as adult after marriage
14:29 Why society wants women to marry young
15:35 Independence that comes with adulting
17:28 The feeling of having your own home
19:15 Pakistani women and 'curfew'
20:10 Can Pakistani women ever live on their own terms
21:00 Pakistani women and 'permission'
28:04 Do men like controlling women's life
30:58 Enforcing gender roles on children
34:00 How to create boundaries in a joint family system
38:10 Wrong messaging in drama 'Durr-e-Shehwar'
39:20 Downside of adulting
42:05 Conclusion
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  • @vwziful
    @vwziful27 күн бұрын

    What a breath of fresh air Pakistani women talking like adults and having some perspectives I just stumbled upon your channel but would love to know your backgrounds Keep it going ❤❤❤

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Thanks for watching and commenting ☺️

  • @tasbeehafatima5186
    @tasbeehafatima518628 күн бұрын

    Your podcast consistently uplifts my mood. Whenever I feel low or disheartened, my first instinct is to tune into your episodes. I truly enjoy listening to you all.❤

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    28 күн бұрын

    Wow this really lifted my mood up 💕

  • @HistoryArchivess
    @HistoryArchivess26 күн бұрын

    bht Asaan he ap logun ka asi baten krna, as you are from privilage family. you don't know the circumstances of middle class

  • @naahalkhilji2900
    @naahalkhilji290016 күн бұрын

    I am delighted to have discovered your podcast series featuring the four remarkable girls of the Twin Cities. Having watched all 11 or 12 episodes, I must commend you people on the exceptional quality and engaging content of each video. As a 22-year-old currently preparing for the civil service exams with a demanding study schedule, I’ve found immense value in your podcasts during my breaks. They have been both informative and enjoyable. I am particularly inspired by how each of you resonates with different aspects of my life. Durre’s insights reflect my own personality traits, Laila’s discussions remind me of my study and management strategies, Mariana’s contributions evoke memories of my BBA journey and the Mariana Trench, and Sumiya’s experiences relate to me in various ways, possibly due to our age factors. Your combined knowledge and well-rounded perspectives have been invaluable and I am eager for the next season of this podcast. Your educational backgrounds and well-grounded upbringings are evident and greatly appreciated. This comment is may be quite lengthy, but I couldn’t help but express all that came to mind after watching all the episodes. 💕

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    15 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much for taking out the time to watch AND comment 💕💕 And good luck for your exam. Rooting for you 👏

  • @tasmiarana2818
    @tasmiarana281816 күн бұрын

    Zabardast episode! I have been following you girls for so long. I was doing my masters at that time and now, I'm married. I am trying to learn from these conversations and totally agree with you girls about setting boundaries with people for our own well being and mental peace. I can relate to Durre about her home being full of people all the time in her childhood. I grew up in a similar household. I always wanted to have a quiet, peaceful home with only my family members. Now, I have it Alhamdulillah! Desperately waiting for next season!! 🥰❣

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    16 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much for watching and commenting! 💕 Hope you’re doing great

  • @adeelaahmad1322
    @adeelaahmad132228 күн бұрын

    Your conversations are so much needed! Kudos to you all for being SO real and honest. Lot's of best wishes

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Thank you SO much 🙈

  • @sheherbanoyahya3121
    @sheherbanoyahya312122 күн бұрын

    What a wonderful and refreshing podcast. There's so much to learn from you all especially who are not married yet and struggle with making boundaries. Looking forward to more topics. Keep the good work on 👏👏👏👏

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    22 күн бұрын

    Thank you for watching 💕

  • @user-cd5rd2ov4o
    @user-cd5rd2ov4o28 күн бұрын

    Love the conversations ❤❤❤

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    28 күн бұрын

    Thanks for watching 💕

  • @BZD1911
    @BZD191128 күн бұрын

    Ypu guys are so relatable. Please keep these podcasts coming.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Yayyy 💕

  • @rehanahayat9969
    @rehanahayat996928 күн бұрын

    This is the best heart to heart conversation!! I'm so in love with all of you. Durre is so mee. I loved sleep.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Awww 💕 Thanks for commenting ☺️

  • @kanikakaur3991
    @kanikakaur399128 күн бұрын

    Already looking forward to season 2....

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    28 күн бұрын

    Yayyy!! 💕💕

  • @aishaasif7976
    @aishaasif797624 күн бұрын

    I never watch any podcast with so much concentration but you girls are amazing 😍 dil ko sukoon sa milta hae sun k

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    23 күн бұрын

    Awww you’re so kind 💕💕

  • @sumansial1
    @sumansial128 күн бұрын

    Wow love you all

  • @Suha-Malik
    @Suha-Malik28 күн бұрын

    Amazing topic.. amazing podcast. Buhat maza aya sun’ney ka .. same like Mariana Mujhe b “ permission” word se irritation hoti hai. Shahdi se pehly I used to informed my parents about my plans. Like Buhat jaldi main ne b permission Lehna chor di thi or Shahdi k baad ek do dafa mere husband ne issue Kia regarding this problem but after sometime he understand or he just left me with my own decisions 😅. Ab main sirf inform Karti hon hubby ko coz I also want him to do the same. So ya… agar ap chahtey hain k ap permission na lein tu phr as a wife ap ko b ye baat samajni hogi k ap b “ permission permission “ game na play karey husband k sath.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Exactly!!

  • @alquranrecitation03
    @alquranrecitation0326 күн бұрын

    I really enjoyed the podcast and i also want to share my point of view on this topics of decission Like wise you said k faisla lena mushkil lagta h hum larkiyon ko exceptions are always there to yeh cheez hum sab m hi common h or Allah tallah ne ye mard hazrat ko ek naturally gift diya h k wo apne or apni family k decissions ley sakein or is m b exceptions exist Or being a female i embrace my vulnerability in this case Finally that's my point of view i would love to hear your thoughts

  • @gull2463
    @gull246327 күн бұрын

    You guys should add name tags for new viewers 😭 i have been watching u guys but still can't figure out who is who

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Didn’t realise we look so similar 😂 But will do that thanks for the suggestion

  • @aleey2k1
    @aleey2k125 күн бұрын

    Nope, after reading the title you still do not become an adult after marriage, you go under the command of your MIL and now you seek permission from her!

  • @Suha-Malik
    @Suha-Malik28 күн бұрын

    I must say.. Meri or Mariana ki socha same hai… like choti choti baaton k decision husband ley leh.. or bari battles Meri hon.. 😅

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Awww!!

  • @maryumnawaz6170
    @maryumnawaz617023 күн бұрын

    Ap married he kya or sb aik country me rehte ho kya?? Actually i am ur new follower so i am confusing 😢

  • @mairajahangir6731
    @mairajahangir673123 күн бұрын

    Durre , you are my clone. Cooking is a saza for me. Have been trying to outsource it completely. On permission, I find that extremely odd. It's definitely informing. Not because it's just to let you know, but also about making sure there isn't something pre-planned. It's a partnership.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    23 күн бұрын

    Absolutely agree with you!!

  • @Suha-Malik
    @Suha-Malik28 күн бұрын

    Hamari socitey mein tu larki ko Shahdi k baad apney parents k ghar janey k ley b permission lehni parti hai😢 and more over that permission dehney waley logon k sath ap behas karo tu woh Islam ko bheej mein leh ahtey hain… k mazaj khuda hai.. deen mein hai IJAZAT leh k sab kam karo… I just don’t understand maurity q nahi ahti logon mein.. INFORM karna is OK coz that make sense but I don’t understand k larkion ko apney decision lehny ki ijazat q nahi milti ya choti si choti ki baat ki ijazat Lehna q zaroori hai.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    You are so right this is unfortunately true for many women in our society

  • @Msnamia1
    @Msnamia127 күн бұрын

    I am sorry, but when durr e noor talks, she is embodiment of privilege and the true islamabadi. There's nothing wrong with it, but it just makes you disconnect

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    27 күн бұрын

    Never lived in Islamabad a day in my life ☺️ And I constantly acknowledge my privilege

  • @user-kx4qw6ku6q
    @user-kx4qw6ku6q28 күн бұрын

    Your collective intelligence is less than 1% of Sabahat Zakaria's intelligence of Feminustani channel. I watch her videos instead of yours.

  • @girlsinthetwincities2834

    @girlsinthetwincities2834

    28 күн бұрын

    Still felt the need to comment

  • @ifrahn3261

    @ifrahn3261

    28 күн бұрын

    Good for you cheers🎉

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