I wish I could create boundaries for my parents from all our relatives..They have literally played with my parents mental health by asking about marriage questions and scaring them with the age factor. Sometimes not having boundaries can end up causing havoc in somebody's life either on first hand and second hand basis. Thank you for this podcast and I really look forwards to more podcasts from you guys.

@girlsinthetwincities2834

3 ай бұрын

Wish you luck in setting your boundaries 💕

@kanikakaur3991

3 ай бұрын

@@girlsinthetwincities2834 thanks a lot n there is a typo *forward 🥰

@kc0369

2 ай бұрын

Totally agree…..

Sometimes people pleasing habits come from our parents. Especially when they intentionally or unintentionally made their kids do things that they did not want to do. Like laila gave an example of guilt tripping, and it is very true since most parents do that.

@girlsinthetwincities2834

6 күн бұрын

Yes that is very true!

Responsibility and boundaries in family and society are crucial for a harmonious and balanced life. Achieving it might be subjective according to people around us , but their are some steps that can lead to a fulfilling and balanced existence. important thing is respect for each other as a human and empathy towards everyone. If in the name of tradition we are sufocating or burdening person (specially weaker sections of society)then that boundaries should be reformed. Its all subjective at the end of the day according to choices we want to make

Amazing podcast. Creating boundaries is something our society needs to really understand.

Yet another amazing podcast. 😍

Agreeing withevery word in this podcast!!!

Great topic discussed in this podcast. Creating boundaries for yourself with every relation is so important, be it your parents, siblings, partner, close friends, external family, neighbors, and anyone. Boundaries help you to give you privacy, space, and determine your likes/dislikes and preferences. Best to establish your boundaries respectfully as soon as possible, and it must be delivered through good communication. The ultimate goal of boundaries should be to deliver your message (you need to let others know what you want and how to be treated) and be respectful in the way you communicate, with the hopes the other person will respect your wish and to create a healthy relationship with each other. A personal example of a boundary I had to set with my mother is that she walks into my room anytime, even if my door is closed and unlocked, to tell me any random thing on her mind or a question. I don't like that she comes in because I want privacy and some alone time if I'm getting ready, reading, studying, talking to friends, and etc. Also, I don't want her walking into my room as I'm changing and it's my choice if I keep the door unlocked. So, I told her to please knock before coming in. I can tell she felt it a bit that her daughter is telling her something to be careful about that she herself may not consider it to be a big deal but to her daughter it matters and is important, so setting boundaries is vital. Setting boundaries with children that live with their parents is important and a topic to be discussed! When meeting new people, you have to be careful with your behavior because boundaries can be set through nonverbal behavior and does not always have to be done verbally. The more you open up and share private matters with others, the less boundaries you create and allow them to enter and interfere in your matters. Additionally, follow what you preach. If you would like others to respect your boundaries, treat others the same way (it's not one sided).

@girlsinthetwincities2834

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your personal experience with setting boundaries! So important to talk about this stuff

Lovely podcast❤

Who's chewing? It's making me crave ice cubes, and now I'm crunching on them too! 17:12

Love the kurch kurch!!😂😂

@girlsinthetwincities2834

3 ай бұрын

😂

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In Pakistani society, ap agr darwaza band kr k bethy hain, to ohhh Ap ku kr skty ho kya kr ry ho kamry me or agr Bahu kr re hai to yaha Ap apny liye 10 20 mint k liye b Akyly darwaza band ni kr skty 24 ghnty Ap bus saas or sasural k samny bethy rhien , yaha nai set ho pati boundries, i tried once laikin Ho nai pati hai.

17:31 so relateable

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Can you talk about the cultural Pakistani expectation of first cousin marriages especially those between cousins living in Pakistan and abroad. How this is enforced by grandparents and family pressure on young people and its impact.

@girlsinthetwincities2834

8 күн бұрын

We don’t have this pressure in our family AT ALL and we really don’t think cousins should be forced to marry one another.

The concept of making boundaries or respecting boundaries is not linked with the person's education level. I remember once my cousin (master in CS) who got married a few months ago at that time told me that why didn't you ask me whether I am pregnant or not 😂 and I was speechless at that moment.

@girlsinthetwincities2834

3 ай бұрын

Whattt??? Loll usually people hate getting asked that

@mahamriaz8681

3 ай бұрын

@@girlsinthetwincities2834 according to her, me tmhain khud kyun btao me pregnant hun, tmhain pochna chaheye tha k pregnant hun ya nhi😂

I am from India…. 32 yr old girl and single (by choice) and my parents are freaking out since few yrs because of all the anxiety they get from relatives. Everyone keeps asking them abt my marriage n all and the fact that the agr is over n all. I can see a lot of stress in our house because of this. And nobody cares to listen me

@girlsinthetwincities2834

2 ай бұрын

So sorry that you’re dealing with such a stressful time! Good for you for not giving in to the pressure

Nice

Or boundries nai create ho skti hain ku k Smjha jata hai k oh ap badtamezi kr re ho Maa hain wo koi bat nai, wqt do, laikin for me jab time guzar jata hai to chezien or zyada kharab ho gaye hoti hain.

Fuzul podcast wastage of tym,give us tricks solutn how we can create boundaries with our so called toxic relatives n random people,dnt guide us we should create boundaries everyone knows it already but we cant do it cz we do hesitate to limit them

@shahidanusrat6086

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 burnol lagaye UK May bathnay wali aunti