He is calm and authentic, such a contrast to the personality of experts today. Quite refreshing and real.

@jdealba6335

3 жыл бұрын

Im 4

@jdealba6335

3 жыл бұрын

Uy 8pi8

@jdealba6335

3 жыл бұрын

Uy 8pi8

@jacquiejoseph2132

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely love him ♥️♥️

@rebeccadubarry8523

3 жыл бұрын

You articulated my thoughts exactly. 👍

This Man is a🙄 Healer, it's funny lm going through a transformation in my life spirtually, and this man shows up on youtube, it not by mistake l found him.😍😍

Pretty soon it will be two years since I started watching Dr. Mate on KZread and I listen very often almost everyday. I have changed so much in my very active evolution to live out these principles. And it is beginning to work. I have found people say it often takes about two years to do your deepest work and then things change rapidly after that. I want to help spread the word of all that has worked for me for the rest of my life. I can not say how deeply grateful I am to Gabor because there are no words...

@Dinastefanie

5 жыл бұрын

Good bless you!

@holistichealthlifewellness2182

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your uplifting words. They gave me the power to make it through the night.

@CynthiaSchoenbauer

5 жыл бұрын

@@holistichealthlifewellness2182 I say thank you for sharing that with so much love and hope to you!

@AMP1219

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Are you willing to share some examples of the methods you’ve used to do the self-work? I just started listening to him and am wondering where to start. I know I need to somehow uncover my suppressed childhood trauma but that is a daunting concept. Thanks for anything you can share.

@georgeturner2552

4 жыл бұрын

@Kitty Kat What was your first step? I just discovered Gabor a few days ago and I'm trying to change but I don't know where to begin. Two years must give you a real insight!

"When we learn to know ourselves, accept and love ourselves, what happened 20 or 30 years ago doesn't matter anymore."

@nijansinsuat

3 жыл бұрын

Nicely put, i love it

@moondancer9066

3 жыл бұрын

WRONG!

@naillijseer

3 жыл бұрын

@@moondancer9066 It matters of course but it no longer takes primary position in our lives

@kerriebarton9016

3 жыл бұрын

Truth

@Getyourclarity

Жыл бұрын

I love it :)

What a beautiful compassionate man who is trying to help others who are trying to help people.

Mate's absolutely right. People don't choose to become addicts. No one would naturally gravitate to the destructiveness caused by substance abuse--to themselves and others. They are trying to escape desperation and nobody can be faulted for that. They should be helped.

@flowgo5299

7 жыл бұрын

after my husband and I first separated because he became a addict, and as I watched him, unable to recover, and become homeless etc. jails etc. I decided his "disease" might need the same compassion as someone who was dying of heart disease, diabetes, anything else. So we stayed best friends, I tried to help him with things like his shopping etc. Because he was so sick. Helped him find a apartment close to me, he was still a wonderful man, but with terrible disease. And I watched him slowly getting eaten up by addiction. I will tell you over 8 years, it was a horrible, horrifying, hopeless, scary, sad, sickening life, the man wanted desperately to escape from but could NOT. He tried everything and each time, he felt like a failure. I of couse always wished he would have a miracle happen. But sadly he did not make it, and he died from him disease in him mid 40s. He was treated like shit by everybody in society, and I miss him everyday. I loved him very much because he was the kindest man I ever knew, and he was a good father to our daughter, but his disease does not evoke sympathy. And it also demands that he could not live at home with us everyday, as it was too hard on us, but you don't have to hate addicts. they are sad and broken people and do WANT to be slaves to drugs. Gabor knows EXACTLY how they feel, he is compassionate. I LOVE this mans mind!

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

YES SIR, YOU GOT THAT RIGHT! (AND) EVERYONE NEEDS TO VIEW DR. JOE DISPENZA, BECAUSE DR. DISPENZA EXPLAINS IN A SIMPLE ARTICULATE LANGUAGE HOW TO GAIN OUR JOY, HAPPINESS, PEACE, SERENITY, HONESTY, INTEGRITY, EMPATHY, LOVE, COMPASSION, BACK INTO OUR LIVES, TO REGAIN OUR LOST CHILDHOOD OPPORTUNITIES. NO MATTER OUR AGE OR ADVANCED STATE OF ILLNESS. HE EXPLAINS JUST HOW WE NEED TO CHANGE OUR FAMILY AND CULTURAL BELIEFS SIMPLY BY BECOMING AWARE OF OUR DAILY INTERNAL INTERPRETATION OF OUR ENVIRONMENT BASED ON OUR LIFE EXPERIENCES. ONCE WE BECOME AWARE WE CAN CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS. IT IS WORKING FOR ME, (AS DR. DISPENZA PUTS IT, `HE`S A WORK IN PROGRESS).... SO LET US NOW SPREAD THE WORD IN ORDER TO HELP OTHERS CONQUER THEIR OWN INNER DEMONS, TO CHANGE PAIN INTO PLEASURE FOR LIFE. HELP HAS FINALLY ARRIVED!

@elenikiroy

6 жыл бұрын

mesiel gonzales Why are you shouting?

@user-eo3ny4jc5p

6 жыл бұрын

Finally! No help in sight before today !! ...brought to you by DR. JOE DISPENZA and his apostle mesiel gonzales. (Dr. Joe Dispenza approves of this add)

@manifestmyreality2025

5 жыл бұрын

we are products of our environment.

I'm absolutely in awe listening to this man, Dr gabor mate is my new discovery and I just became his biggest latest fan. You can tell he's been working with drug addicts and alcoholics all his life. Thank you youtube, it's good to find these jewels amongst the vast legion of vapid influencers, clueless advice from people with no accreditation and know-it-all millenials that monopolize your channel.

I kind of love him. o.o The way he talks to the woman from the audience asking a question, when she feels self conscious about her accent he makes sure to clarify he's just making sure he grasped what she was saying.

@andreaandrea6716

3 жыл бұрын

conscious!! (And well mannered!)

Wow, what a great communicator. Hooray for his mum getting him to safety! Peace & Love x

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

DON`T STOP AT DR. MATE`! GO VIEW DR. DISPENZA. BEST REGARDS, LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU!

we label the victim rather than the sick environment that caused the disorder.

@andreaandrea6716

3 жыл бұрын

that's right!

At 21.00 Gabor Mate says that women are the emotional absorbers of men's emotions. I've often felt this. In fact I've often been the emotional dumping ground in my dealings with men. As Gabor Mate says a lot if it is unspoken. But the minute I instinctively realised that I didn't want this (it was draining me) and developed some healthy boundaries, the men moved out of my life. Again, a lot if this was unconscious, but looking back that's exactly what happened.

@CLARlCEsotl

9 жыл бұрын

This phenomenon, I believe, is very much a reality. It could be associated with the PMT and menstruation since women tend to experience a more heavy period in industrialised cultures. Again, modern culture expects women to just carry on regardless during a time when, traditionally they would have been able to chill out and release all of the absorbed stresses of the family and community. The moon lodge concept I believe is critical to a woman's health - she needs time when ALL the focus is on her and her burdens are removed for just a few days each month so she can process all of the emotional burdens placed on her. I don't think it is helpful simply to acknowledge this aspect of womanhood and in so doing deny further relationships with men...it is a natural phenomenon that needs to be handled properly.

@toomuchinformation

9 жыл бұрын

***** Except that modern society makes it very hard to do, as it doesn't acknowledge or derides the more feminine part and needs of our nature. Acknowledgement of such doesn't mean denying relationships with men. It means releasing unhealthy relationships with men (and women/family).

@katjathesaurus3800

8 жыл бұрын

***** sure. alL possible. but. .. read fineprint or sue the evidence

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

GOOD FOR YOU, YOU STOP FEELING VICTIMIZED AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! WATCH DR. DISPENZA, HE HAS THE ANSWERS. BEST REGARDS TO YOU. LET MY FEELINGS OF BEING BLESSED, FEELINGS OF LOVE, FEELINGS OF HAPPINESS, FEELINGS OF JOY, FEELINGS OF PEACE, FEELINGS OF SERENITY, FEELINGS OF TRANQUILITY, FEELINGS OF CALMNESS, FEELINGS OF CHEERFULNESS, FEELINGS OF SYMPATHY, FEELINGS OF FORGIVENESS, FEELINGS OF EMPATHY, FEELINGS OF COMPASSION, FEELINGS OF HONESTY, FEELINGS OF GRACE AND FINALLY KNOWING AND EMBRACING THE TRUTH. MAY MY WORDS BE WITH YOU THROUGH YOUR DAY. CREATE A NEW REALITY!

@nicoles7800

5 жыл бұрын

I hope your life is filled with the love you need and want now. x

What a great lecture. I’ve lost so many family members to addiction. Very informative and enlightening.

This man is brilliant. The point he is making from 20:50 to 22:40 is the basis of most of society's problem, sadly.

Through life coach Richard Grannon, I discovered Gabor Mate. I haven’t been able to do anything other than listen to his enlightening and brilliant lectures since I started a day ago. This will be a daily practice. What a beautiful, wise, compassionate healer and teacher. Thirty years of personal development and healing my own trauma and co-dependency led me to Richard and Gabor. They are bringing everything together and filling in the missing pieces. Thank you, Gabor for your wisdom, teaching and everything you do to help us heal, individually and societally. 🙏❤️

sharp guy. skills gained from years of hard work and study

@Be1More

5 жыл бұрын

yes

@manifestmyreality2025

5 жыл бұрын

and common sense sometimes cannot be taught.

@TomTom-df9ph

4 жыл бұрын

jon famo y

I love you ,Gabor Mate. Thanks for everything.

Another loving teaching from Dr.Maté.

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

DON`T STOP THERE! GO VIEW DR. JOE DISPENZA. YOU`LL FIND HIM EXCEPTIONAL!

@TomTom-df9ph

4 жыл бұрын

M Munroe .what is so wonderful and unusual is that Dr Mate isn’t scared to open up about his own parental failures and the reasons for them. He is fantastically compassionate in his approach.

I also agree with Maté when he says that the government's apology is meaningless.

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

MY FAMILY IS GOING VEGAN HERE IN THE PHILIPPINES! WE ROCK! NOW THAT YOU`RE AWARE GO WATCH DR. DISPENZA, HE WILL SHOW JUST HOW TO FIX IT ALL! I`M A WORK IN PROGRESS, GOD BLESS DR. JOE DISPENZA, HE HAS CHANGED MY LIFE! BEST REGARDS TO YOU!

@laurykristensen6239

4 жыл бұрын

It's only the beginning! It's at least an acknowledgement, that has to happen to go to next stages. If that's all that happens it's kind of a slap in the face! All the attention and funding will never make up for the atrocities, but they better damn sure do everything possible to begin the healing that will effect future generations. Acknowledging the wrong is necessary, and an apology is at least an admission. Now back it up with action!

@gfleming5136

4 жыл бұрын

mesiel gonzales It’s you again with the Despenza crap.

@andreaandrea6716

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurykristensen6239 from your lips to God's ears

He is amazing I love this wise man, he has the correct answer what he speaks is the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!!

Can listen to him all day, can’t wait to be at his talks soon

He is so smart and well educated. God bless him!!

@mesielgonzales5232

6 жыл бұрын

YES DR. MATE` WAS SO ENLIGHTENING TO ME ALSO, BUT DR. DISPENZA SPELLS OUT IN SIMPLE LANGUAGE JUST HOW TO WIN AT LIFE! BEST REGARDS AND LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU!

@manifestmyreality2025

5 жыл бұрын

self-educated, what he talks about is not being taught in schools.

@gfleming5136

4 жыл бұрын

mesiel gonzales This is your second shout out here about Dispenza. Please take it elsewhere.

Thank you so much, Dr. Mate, for creating an environment where the next-to-last questioner could feel comfortable to express himself. My heart breaks over the arrogance of colonization. If only we had the humility to learn from those who are closer to nature and unindustrialized!

@Fefe559

3 жыл бұрын

I am not a real Canadian, raised here, but born in Dublin Ireland and always wondered and still to this day (today infact!!) DAYDREAM! fantasize! about how the world would have been if only the Europeans came here and adopted the native's lifestyle? sighhhhh. It would have been a much better, much more beautiful world, although I would not have an issue with things like electricity and insulation, especially in Canada lol. But I wish, I really do, we had become like the people that were here. sigh. And I wish we could have left things in their more natural state and hunted and fished, some how found a way to be like the original people. It would be beautiful!

I've always felt, trauma is the gate to any addiction.

You CANNOT say that there was no addiction in any people as a whole,. Addiction comes in many ways besides substances. I love your care and work you have done.

Hence intergenerational trauma, sir Gabe is so humbly with his way and words. What a great insightful talk

This whole video just keeps bringing me to tears.

I'm so glad that I found your channel. Looking forward to more. Godspeed

Every word you said is so true . I embrace the 1st nations communities I'm changing back to what we were before white christianity came to our native lands and plundered our ways of peace and love. I'm changing to change generations and stop abuse

@comfortouch

3 жыл бұрын

"Whitey" (sic) 'plundered our ways of peace and love" ... I think you need to do more research into your tribe and the surrounding tribes; because none of the native tribes treated rival tribes with "peace and love" SMH. You simply use your confirmation bias and false version of history to reinforce your racism.

Thank you dr. Máté sharing your knowledge with us! 🙏♥️

I was diagnosed with autism/Asperger's as a child but I had all the traits of FASD as well. My biological mother met my biological father in a local bar but the social worker took her word for it when she claimed she did not drink there.

I find peace listening to you x

It's up to the adults in their lives their aunts, uncles mothers and fathers to give them hope and a better brighter life.

Thank you ❤ Dr. Gabor Mate I love you forever and ever buddy, are you sure your not native!?! Jp you should be the world's president WORD! You've got thee answer to fix us all in mind, body, and I'm sure spirit so why is our world still going the way it is!?! You gotta be the number one genius because you learned all of this powerful information to be useful but not only that you went above and beyond. In my books your topline human for me. One last question why is it that genius people look so intriguingly appealing because your very handsome doctor. Sending you much love respect and gratitude God bless us all.

I relapse with alcohol after my husband abused myself and the children. I got not support from family despite the fact we lived 200 miles away from family. I called the school the police many times. I thought I could manage somehow but could not and as a result it was 26 years of hell. I am sure I am not a isolated incident. The damage to myself and my sons resulted in my oldest dying from a massive heart attack 4 days after he turned 37. On my back porch.

This kind of thinking will eventually change the world. I hope all this will happen within my lifetime .

Another great talk by Dr. Gabor Mate.

This is so amazing. Is fresh air to me. I knew what I thought had some sense. It's all layed out here perfectly.

So what I am hearing is working women stressed to the max trying to hide their pregnancy so they are still in line for a promotion or doing the work of 10 so as to not be sidelined or stereotyped during their alcohol-free pregnancy are causing developmental problems? Then when new Mum can no longer work because she has a disabled child and falls into a depression she just creates further problems? What a wonderful supportive society we live in! BTW, now poor Mum cannot afford to buy a dog nor does the child's problems attract the $$$ so Mum can get back out into the world or the child may access services.... not until things really get bad, then some $$$ may be made available! Thank you for spelling this out. Also, recognising science does not and will not have all the answers is so good to hear - it is western arrogance!

Thank you for posting this.

Exceptional! Thank You Dr. Gabor Mate'...Namaste' Om Shanti Om

Dr. Mate is so brave to speak about sexual perpetrators as being victims as well. I understand how hard that statement must be for some people to hear. But I applaud it as the truth and the way to healing. Namaste'

My mother was never a drinker or a smoker and never did drugs, or so she brags. She ate sugar and read romance novels. She has 23 descendants, children.grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, she doesn't know or care about any of them. It could be because she has alzheimers or did she really do her best? None of her descendants care about her because she was a victim-martyr and never cared about any of us. She said she only made 2 mistakes in life, marrying my father and having us 3 miserable brats. Thanks Dr. Mate for all your work and understanding.

@Everlastinglife2024

Жыл бұрын

Lol.. my mom had "Three miserable brats" too. I never went a week without hearing her scream "you kids are giving me a nervous breakdown". Or "get out NOW".

Thank you so much for helping me understand 💕 addictions and I know i am FEELING BETTER n better these days, thx for your help Dr. Mate

IT TOOK ME 10 years, plus to do my deepest work..

The point that Maté makes at 1:40:15 is so important.

Simply EXCELLENT Again!

I don,t discount the importance of the effects of trauma however in my experience both personally and professionally , I think it is typically a combination of factors; genetic, brain injury ( through chemical or accident or lack of oxygen at birth) and /or trauma. You also should factor in the stress and trauma for the parents of having a disabled child. Children with behavioral issues can be very difficult to care for and these parents need lots of support . I worked for many years as a speech therapist with preschool and elementary age children and currently see more attention being paid to mental health issues which is good thing whatever the cause.

@patriciakraft3054

2 жыл бұрын

Rehab psychologist here and I concur

I just Love this guy! Like really love him!

Such a great man.

Thank you.

Would love to get some of these on cd

@futurecaredesign

6 жыл бұрын

If you google 'youtube to mp3' you can burn it yourself.

You have described my life as a woman and my role to a man.

Love this MAN 💙💜💙

dued looks like bob dylan

@juliedefee567

4 жыл бұрын

Irrelevant.

@ishtarmari5160

4 жыл бұрын

Both Jewish.

@KLundy-be8qx

3 жыл бұрын

And sounds like Robin Williams

Many wars could be the result of drinking.

I think of addiction like a cancer. A disease. some are stage 1 some are stage 3 and can recover. Some are just too far advanced. Be kind to addicts. A lot of them have trauma you would not believe. its so sad.

@LauraVolpintesta

Жыл бұрын

I agree but also being kind to addicts has gotten me into a lot of trouble. So it all depends how you be kind while not injuring yourself

79 people did thumbs down,, how weird is that.. Anyway,, brilliant mind, good soul, beautiful man..

Addiction CAN be to anything. But rather than demonizing the substances themselves, it is incumbent upon us to look to the source of Original Wounding. It is THE PAIN that triggers the addiction as addiction is simply the psyche's way of self soothing/trying to lessen the pain/trying to FEEL BETTER. That we demonize people who are trying in some way to cope with extreme discomfort shows how superficial, AS A SOCIETY (rather than individually), we are. If we want to heal, the first step is for us (as a society) is to admit that we do not take the effects of emotional pain/loss/suffering as seriously as we treat physical illnesses.

@theliftexpert

4 жыл бұрын

Andrea Andrea ....I would agree with you on this! Perhaps this is how sociopaths are created....they learn to disconnect from their feelings,until they don’t have emotional responses,,,,but outwardly pretend they feel....yikes....

@laurykristensen6239

4 жыл бұрын

Beneath addiction is always pain. People also use all sorts of distractions as well to avoid painful reality. Materialism is just one of these and we are conditioned for this. Just being is not enough for people even those who haven't experienced trauma or great pain. By society's standards none of us fit in. Acceptance would be healing as well I imagine. Acceptance of others and of ourselves regardless of our pasts or current circumstances. For myself I resist and try to suppress feelings that are uncomfortable. Abused alcohol for years. Quit 14 months ago but the pain just keeps surfacing. The healing process is barely beginning. I wish I had more understanding of what now?

@pippijane20

3 жыл бұрын

100pc agree

@pippijane20

3 жыл бұрын

Drug is by definition anything which changes the body's metabolism. Exercise then. Sugar. Food. Sex. Gambling (endorphins release) so if it can be anything then as you say Andrea it cannot be the substance that's the problem.

@andreaandrea6716

3 жыл бұрын

@@theliftexpert Yeah... that's ... I don't know how sociopaths are created. I don't know... hmmm. The psyche is endlessly fascinating!

If the father has been drinking around the time when the child is conceived, does the foetus get affected, in pregnancy

Unconditional love

Soooo great

I luv how he talks about how hunter gatherer societies r optimal for raising children. I have long thought our modern 1st nation world does not recognize the hard work of parenting & we do not recognize one the importance of the child parent bond

@Fefe559

3 жыл бұрын

Is that true? Is it possible after decades or ripping their children from them to send them to residential schools they have managed to develop attachment issues in a culture that may have been idealic once? I wonder about that..? I dont think trauma disappears a couple of years after they closed the last residential school? I don't know, Its just speculation. guess, wondering out loud

@CatMom5050

3 жыл бұрын

@@Fefe559 the last school closed in 1996. So many people alive have survived these abusive situations. My parents are not native, but my grandparents were abused, they abused my father, and my father abused his children (inc me). My siblings and myself have all been trying to stop the cycle and do not abuse our kids. We are lucky enough to have resources and people to ask for help. If you are a minority group, you don't have resources or people to ask for help. They need help to heal, and the system needs to stop taking kids away from their parents and focus on healing. Still today, CAS takes many native kids from their families without cause. Trudeau even punished some doctors who were blackmailing native women to be sterilized after birthing their first child. Native people need to be treated better and deserve dignity and respect.

Thanks

@01:21:00 passion and truth.

Parenting comes naturally to children taught to be great grand parents - and who will teach them?

Where do we find out how to heal ourselves? Where is the how to get healed video?

1:33:00 a speaker from the First Nations describes the harm caused by government and social and economic pressures on indigenous communities

This is good. bookmark 22 minutes.

@fhhfhdfdhhdhhdfhdf138

5 жыл бұрын

did u finish it

Where is the link he mentioned during 26:30?

@jendiazgreen5062

3 жыл бұрын

'Adverse childhood experience ACE' google it and you will find the questionnaire and explanations

Im curious..does anyone know if dr matte believes addiction is a disease or not???

@LauraVolpintesta

Жыл бұрын

I think he says it’s a symptom of a social disease that then affects the brain

Good Job!!👍 Thank you. I m glad you WOKE UP. HONESTY. TRUTH. INTEGRITY. There is HOPE. Actually EMDR Therapy works. EMDR THERAPY WORKS.

Thank You So Much! Dr.Mate' I have felt, seen, experienced every level of PTSD. I think the worst having my Thompson Sub Machine, protection gun, my husband insisted I get back in early 70s. A semi automatic, clip in and pointed at my head, by my Own Husband...NPD, malignant, people collector who was an different adrenaline junkie type. He loved to trauma bond people by giving them a thrill, during his acrobatic 2 passenger plane Act 1, after he got his license to fly he risked and would take that you were going to crash... Drama King. Prior, he had acquired an accomplice, in High School Band Class. He had developed a fake self. His true self was never there. There would be no boundaries he wouldn't cross. Exploits, devalues, discards like an appliance, unless You remained totally submissive and followed his orders. These types Full to Low Spectrum individuals are imprisoned only when they get caught, and look how many are still out there! Where Is This Safe Place for a child or a widow. Suicide nets being installed on The Golden Gates Nets, aren't going to stop suicide. Hurt People Hurt PEOPLE, even if while not in their right mind...sometimes we hurt ourselves. Our problems were here to solve, prevent and take positive action to solve them as a Community. We all need to be seen and heard. We need a truth seeking community, just like Diogenes lantern, swaying to and fro...The Truth Shall Set Us All Free and I am Freed.

@bettinazwerdling9158

3 жыл бұрын

Patrice - I hope you are truly freed by working on the trauma that led you to be anyway around such destructive, traumatized men. I hope you find your way to health, clarity, confidence and happiness. You will be a very powerful and possibly an amazing healer yourself is when you arrive at a much saner and more joyful place. Best wishes!

Is it possible for me to ever speak to Gabor Mater ????

the best

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EMDR THERAPY HELPS YOU GET IN TOUCH WITH YOURSELF. BECOME lovable like. Accept yourself. Be happy secure. 💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💝😂😂

Mr Mate - check out the Alexander Technique and tell us what you think ?

@alanahmalone4550

Жыл бұрын

My partner has Cronin back pain and I studied collegiate dance- Alexander technique when based in mindfulness is truly, transformative!

@alanahmalone4550

Жыл бұрын

Chronic *

drinking or smoking vs coffee way worst in first 2 trimesters....so know when trying to get pregnant. I was 8 months during Christmas and had one light mixed drink on a dinner....It is extremely important to follow rules.

Your addiction to work is more than that. It's about your kind of work. It's like you feel a death when you stop lecturing, when you stop sharing. All that knowledge needs to rest somewhere or it will burn the messenger. Now study rest, be rest. Live rest. Swim rest. Enjoy wisdom.

We are the McLaren's. Cyndy's best friends across the street She's a Milligan. Donna's best friends were the Crenshaws, she's a Crenshaw. Shawn's a Stewart. I'm a Strahan because they raised me. As being over there house a lot of the time. 8 total were all so different living in the same house with our parents. Saying, see you later. LoL

❤️

When the "counter culture" was put in place in the early sixties, and the big PUSH to get women out of the home, the family was destroyed. It worked better when women were allowed to stay home, and the husbands earned the wages. I've watched the entire thing happen over all these decades, and it's wonderful to hear Dr. Mate speak about the cultural destruction here in the Western world. Women and men roles have been overlapped and interchanged, to where now everyone is expected to do EVERYTHING and this is impossible. Women still have to beat the most and heaviest burden of society ....working, having a family, running a household, and paying bills, child rearing, and everything else. Abuse in people's childhoods causes them to be hurt adults trying to function in almost impossible societal "norms", again more frustration and hurt, and we just pass this on to our own children, until the cycle gets healed and broken. Love this man, and his approach o healing people's lives.

@MasinaTai86

5 жыл бұрын

In modern society men spend in general much LESS time with their children than what native and nomadic tribes did.. It's not modernism itself but the nuclear family and capitalism model.

@soziograph

4 жыл бұрын

Look, he never said what you think he said. He even said that the situation for women was already traumatic in the traditional family system before the early sixties. Do you really think that Maté would advocate to go back into this obviously traumatic state of society? You just using your own bias in which you would like the world to return into a state of strong male dominated hierarchies.

@shireenhendricks2194

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. Single parenting is hell.

@clairobscure404

4 жыл бұрын

What about the lack of autonomy, body policing, economic dependance and the various violences women experience in the home ? The big push you mentionned didn't stem out of nowhere. It doesn't mean everything worked out, but like Gabor Mate says, you've got yo look to the root and not only blame the consequences. There's nothing wrong with women striving for justice, happiness and freedom, but the options are limited, and most of the time, leaving a situation of abuse or harrasment for another (home and employment) is not acceptable. Single parenting is hard, but it is often the only option. Under capitalism, the traditional community support has been atomised, the emotional and invisible labor of women is still a pillar of the productivist era. This is the biggest lie of western feminism, which relies on the enslavement of poorer women to escape conservative womanhood. I recommend checking up on Indigenous activism, whether the struggles for land and resources or networked healing practices. Civilization as we are taught to call it is a fraud. Time to reboot our humanity.

@LauraVolpintesta

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for putting this in words

Smart man

Minute 13:15: "MITAKUYAE OYASIN"

Guilt "arises" out of the sense of self at about 18 months of age... before that.. there is no sense of separation from the environment. Before that... there is no sense of someone apparently experiencing and or controling the body (the illusion of that). I agree with most of what he says and I love the lot of people he is reaching out.

Oh boy this cat can spit when his next album coming out?

We can learn a lot from animals they parent their young intuitively. Agree with what u are saying but how do we change it with the whako leaders we have? We all know stress is bad for us & that the majority of us have come from dysfunctional families we must concentrate on how we change the toxic culture. I didn’t marry/have kids deliberately as I knew it would just be more stress plus with climate change we will all be wiped out by about 2050! Neuro linguists programming helped me.

He says that has not seen a Community where people work together. The Mennonites do this.

@monicageorgson4870

3 жыл бұрын

I bet some Mennonite girls would disagree

That's where I jump ship.punishment and in extreme cases death penalty for paedophiles .

What about the women who were sexually abused who didn't become alcoholics? This is a question for learning, not trying to start a debate.

@kristenleone1335

4 жыл бұрын

What he has said in other lectures is, All addicts (not solely alcoholics) have had trauma, not all people who have had trauma are addicts.

@victoriaelizabethwhitimaxw1613

4 жыл бұрын

They became the perpetrator

@laurykristensen6239

4 жыл бұрын

If they were able to express to others they trust on what happened soon after, and not take on self blame?, etc. Suppressed pain and trauma stay with us, because it wasn't processed. Healing involves processing. Pain needs to be either expressed, or suppressed.

What is FASD?

@helenalford2831

6 жыл бұрын

Foetal Alcohol Syndrome Disorder

@melissaherman347

6 жыл бұрын

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder

Hi everyone, Anneliese here. Thought you might be interested in this new video we created here at NeuroDevNet. It is about how two of our students developed a curriculum for science teachers to teach high school students about FASD and the effect of alcohol on a developing organism. It is informed by the latest research on FASD that is happening within NeuroDevNet. Please share! bit.ly/1rGnYLA We also produced a play about FASD and the struggles students with FASD face, check it out: bit.ly/QbtsCX

Addiction is a political issue. Xx

I liked the political twist

@RA-vq3dk

4 жыл бұрын

it is a political issue... how can many governments still deny the negative consequences of the war on "illegal drugs" and still support consumers' criminalization? Such a misantrophic and obviously plain stupid approach really decovers the truly ignorant and hypocrit mind-set with which f.ex. German users are treated by their goverment: Alcohol is heavily promoted and Big Pharma is king, most doctors merely solely function as their sales staff, numberless children are prescribed amphetamines to make them act norm-ally. And the government's drug commissioner is as bright as a piece of monsanto grown corn bread, especially regarding the issues and causes really connected with drug use and most ignored aspect of it: CRIMINALIZING and marginalization by "Authorities" and society. Now that is how people's damage really is maximized and diversified. Thus you create people functioning as determent example so people can point their fingers and be reminded that if you "act out" of the norm that's how you'll end up. Drug checking is illegal again, if you feel like trying to reconnect via lets say Mdma, it is forbidden by the government any means of tripping safe(r).

@bernardheathaway9146

4 жыл бұрын

@@RA-vq3dk Well said, my friend! I particularly like his analyses of native Americans and how they are disproportionally affected by that shit. The same goes for every minority around the world.

How much time has he spent with adopted-at-birth FASD kids that have neurological problems? Dyslexia? Alcohol clearly damages developing brains. Mice learning through neuroplasticity and humans learning the complex skills they need are so different that you cannot compare them. Come on, Dr. Mate'. Come join us and see the massive brain damage in THESE kids.

@patriciakraft3054

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

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10:34

Oh man, really liked every lecture till I just heard him say "other addictive substances like Peyote and other psychedelic". These are not addictive and definitely not as easily available like sugar or booze. For sure don't taste as good either, apples and oranges, man :).

@jenclark3021

7 жыл бұрын

Ella S. any thing can be addictive!

@kenwilliams8067

5 жыл бұрын

yea, that may have been a bit of a slip. I think overall his view is that it isn't peyote or psychedelic substances that are in themselves addictive, but rather people with the preconditions that set up addiction often turn to things like peyote, etc, and become addicted.... Peyote etc. is the cart, the horse is the addictive personality. The horse pulls the cart.

@andreaandrea6716

4 жыл бұрын

He has DEFINITELY (obviously) never eaten Peyote. (As you say ...) It is the most DISGUSTING tasting thing I have ever put in my mouth/tasted, but it is SACRED. It is wrong to lump it in with everything else. And you have to clean the arsenic out of it before ingesting it. It is WAY TOO MUCH WORK for someone to become addicted to, as compared to a million other drugs.

@sandyseale1

4 жыл бұрын

he said after that they did not get addicted to Peyote and other psychedelics and they used it in shamainc cerimonies to heal . there ws no addiction before colonisation , after colonisation they started alcohole and other addictions .

@Sincebrassnorstone

4 жыл бұрын

We all have our blindspots. I heard that too. The rest is spot on imho( although im only 1/3 through)

I believe that there is a political aspect to this. My adopted son was diagnosed ADHD when he was 5. He also fit the profile of FASD kids. When he was 19 I took him to St Michael's Hospital to Dr Brenda Stade. She told us that FASD was only in Indigenous cultures and that he was ADHD. FASD is highly stigmatized and puts the blame on women. Since my son is white and his birth mother was put into sex work at the age of 16. She had already had one son and mine was born when she was 17. Being forced into strip clubs at 16, I am sure she would be drinking in order to survive and may not have known she was pregnant. My point is that white culture does not acknowledge that white women do drink while pregnant, but we diagnose white kids with ADHD to avoid stigma, but we condemn Indigenous women by diagnosing their children with FASD. From what I have read, the behaviors are the same.

@abethludlow1874

3 жыл бұрын

As a resource teacher in elementary schools, I specialize in working with children who have challenges ranging from learning disabilities, behavioral &/or developmental disorders, dyslexia, children who are on the Autism or FASD spectrums, etc.. I have never heard of any professional with related knowledge & experience who believes or suggests that FASD only affects the Indigenous. I've never gotten the impression that FASD in Caucasian children is being labeled ADHD due to stigma or any other reason, and it isn't the same disorder. In fact, many children, Indigenous & non-Indigenous, have both diagnosis. Throughout my career I've worked with at least as many Caucasian children with diagnosed FASD, if not more, than Indigenous children with the diagnosis, & I've taught in the Northern Territories in Canada where many communities are majority Indigenous. I've not experienced any denial that Caucasian woman drink, that FASD doesn't affect "White" children, or any other such bigoted behavior &/or opinions. I'm not saying that there has never been an individual professional who has behaved as such, or held this type of opinion, but it certainly isn't normal, let alone common, and I've never encountered one. The professionals that I've worked with over the years, whether specialist educators, school/child psychologists/psychiatrists, classroom teachers, social service case workers, etc., have all had the best interest of the child as priority 1 and worked diligently (excessively, in fact), and with limited resources & overly large case loads, to exhaust every available resource to help each child. They have all cared deeply and not acknowledging the diagnosis for any reason, let alone such an abhorrent one, would ensure that the child not receive all the resources available to them, and certainly not the correct type of help/resources. Deliberate misdiagnosis and denial, etc. would simply undermine and handicap their efforts to help the child, making their jobs even more difficult. I don't see any proof or even a shred of evidence for your broad, blanket claim about "white culture" or the professionals responsible for diagnosing these disorders. With all due respect.

@snowfleece

3 жыл бұрын

Your comment isn’t clear and seems to imply people aren’t telling the truth when their kids have ADHD. Plenty of ADHD in cultures that don’t drink at all - such as in Mormonism. I know of many personal examples and I’m certain there was no drinking involved. Also, there is still a stigma with ADHD and a lack of adequate support.

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