If we read too much on the net, it can be destructive to making a full recovery

And STOP negative self talk to yourself...speak very very kind to yourself.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Also very important!

Calming the nervous system with supportive people, the lovely grind channel, singing bowls, nature, exercise, meditation, resting closing my eyes during the day, funny movie, reading, maybe cooking, cold showers, warm baths, sun, praying a lot, morning light, massage, facials, getting ready for the day, practicing minimalism, mindfulness, play with my son, journal, no alcohol for me, no coffee for me, sleep, tapping, talk to a counselor, be around others bettering themselves, speak kind to myself, and practicing a daily routine. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Some fantastic practices there, April. Keep it up!

@sheenacargill

11 ай бұрын

Do you offer coaching on a sliding scale ? As a Christian I’m not allowed to do meditation, yoga, reiki, any eastern practices. And my folks want me to see a Christian counselor verses the secular one I am seeing because she suggests yoga and meditation. What else can I do to regulate my nervous system?

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

@sheenacargill I suggest you go to Michael the owner of this channel. He will be more affordable as well. This is April from yesterday♡♡♡ Im having a hard morning. How's your morning? Next time in group ill give you my emai. Id love a friend right now.

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

@sheenacargill I wish I would have suggested him yesterday in group, but im not thinking straight. God has a way of working all things out♡

@sheenacargill

11 ай бұрын

We should exchange info. Are you on Instagram?

You're a Godsend 🙏 I recently muted fb group because of this kind of "police" attitude and negativity. I CT'd 52 days ago after a short term benzo use (2 months). I've seen people in those circles saying CTs are destined for protracted wd, worse symptoms etc. I stopped believing that early enough, thankfully. I saw many success CTs stories, and I see people tapering their lives away. Sticking to wd textbook indiscriminately and blindly proves to be toxic. I swear there are people out there who actually, subconsciously don't want to be fully healed. I've had one lady block me over a positive healing video I posted; she asked if the woman in a video is a doctor, and I said no and pointed out that doctors got us in this mess in the first place, knowingly or not, so what should matter the most is skin in the game, and not the title. Thanks to God there are people like you and God bless you and your family for all that you do! ❤

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Hey, you're so very welcome! Keep focused on those success stories, and on the one that you are in the midst of creating. It sounds like you've learned a lot already about who and what to listen to and focus on, and that is half the battle. Now just keep walking forward on your own unique path and caring for yourself as you do so. Nothing will stop your progress that way. God bless!

@mirjanabilic108

11 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind Thank you for your kind words ❤️. I'm in the midst of the bad wave since last night, and your words keep me going. Although a short termer, I got hit with harsh wd. I know it's redundant to compare, but is do you have experience with short termers and is there a pattern of faster recovery?

@SAMEntalhealth

4 ай бұрын

What's crazy is this KZread channel is still one of the few KZread channels out there that actually speak on positivity it's like the internet doesn't want any positive networking out there, I am not crazy for thinking this I researched so much on positivity while not even going through it, I'm just noticing the pattern of Destruction that there is no positive groups out there besides Michael's really and maybe one other one that I still have not came across besides Mike's

2 1/2 years ago. Cold turkeyed 100 Zoloft and abilify. After three days i could not get off the chair. After a couple months of loosing my mind and physical torture, I found the lovely grind. Thanks Michael. You were there as my coach. Many many nights I fell asleep to your calming videos. I played golf Saturday and carried my bag. Went to church on Sunday and Saturday night for that matter. Played singles tennis Sunday afternoon. Went to work today. Got home went for 3 mile walk and did some light lifting. Mentally and emotionally might be in the best place of my life. Working to get back in shape, but doing good. I thought my life was over. I hung on to the hope you gave cause I had none. Thank you Michael for continuing the videos. Thanks for everything!!!

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

You are so very welcome, Mike! Keep up your fantastic progress, and congratulate yourself on all the hard work you put into your goals. You should be very proud of where you are at, and hopeful for your future. Thanks for checking in to give others hope and inspiration. God bless!

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

My goal is to play tennis and pickleball again. Thanks for your inspiration

@user-ww5ui4fd9n

11 ай бұрын

My goal is to start lifting weights and doing hiit workouts again! I’ve started walking 2 miles a day. Baby steps!!

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

@user-ww5ui4fd9n So inspiring. Ill try to walk today too.

@mikemoser4148

11 ай бұрын

I walked for a long time before I could do cardio. My balance was messed. Wobbly legs. My feet would then have fasisculations. Saturday and last night I did some intense hiit training. I don’t think I feel any of the above symptoms. Check out the canton McKinley monument. I was running the steps. Sending you encouragement!!

Have days where you turn the phone off All day. Reset the baseline dopamine and serotonin.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Great idea.

Thank you, Michael! I'm down to 1.20ml Lexapro almost 2 years of tapering. Also almost 2 years of husband's death. I'm learning to repeat scriptures and also post it notes of encouragement. It's hard being in a negative family and distancing myself from them, especially when I want to be around my grandbabies. Just watching your video puts into perspective on how important it is to keep my nervous system calm. Gonna try really really hard on staying positive. Again...thank you, God bless, and GO PACK GO! 🧀 🏈

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Well done, Christina. Keep at it. Keep working at your healing. Keep creating your best healing environment. You are making progress in so many ways! And yes, go Pack (and Jets)! Can't wait for football (although sometimes that calms my nervous system, and sometimes it works me up). Thanks for checking in, and God bless your continue progress!

I agree totally with what you say! I’m 7 months into tapering. Am doing it very slowly and though I experience symptoms I remind myself that this is part of the journey I embarked upon, the journey that leads to being completely free in time.this in turn dispels negative thoughts and produces positive ones instead. So onwards I go to my final goal … 😊 Thankyou Michael for all your sound advice which I always follow 😊

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

You're making great progress, and getting ever closer to where you want to be. You're very welcome for the videos. Keep at it, keep moving toward greater growth and freedom!

I completely agree about the online negativity and vicarious trauma, so much bad advice. But advising not drinking alcohol isn’t negativity, it’s very good advice. Everyone reacts so differently to it and who wants to risk destabilising themselves further, having a set back or introducing a crutch.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

To drink or not to drink isn't the point of this video, but I'm glad that you can appreciate the broader theme of it all, regardless of your thoughts on that particular matter. Thanks for the comments, and keep away from that online negativity, which can truly turn into bullying situations and/or trauma for people that then hinders their healing progress.

Thanks Michael for another really great message. This is so true and been my experience in the healing process. The one thing that knocks me off balance is negativity. I think we're like tightrope walkers in this process and it takes all we got to keep our balance to reach the other side and the last thing we need is someone poking us! We must shut out the NOISE and protect ourselves. Sending encouragement and well wishes to All. We've got this, keep going, never give up and God bless 💞🙏🕊️

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

A person must protect what they have going on in healing. No one else has the right to threaten or disrupt the progress. Shut out the noise, stick close to the Lord, keep setting goals, be patient and encouraging with yourself. You're doing great, Kelly!

I agree with this video. Online message forums can go both ways, they can be a blessing or our own worst enemy that can hinder our healing further. Chronic illness, withdrawal is a very very complex process, it is no one size fits all and I wish more people would know that. I have absolutely zero tolerance for lecturing, shaming and fear mongering and hearing the excuses "yes but they mean well!" Sometimes it seems who did the most radical approaches and suffered the most and got better so you must follow their lead, nope. Online or outside and when I finally spoke up it seemed I was the problem. Take advice with a grain of salt.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Not everyone who is attempting to "guide" others with regards to withdrawal healing is wise or well-intentioned, and many might just mindlessly parrot something they heard somewhere else. Sometimes people are more concerned with sounding smart than they are with truly trying to help others make progress, and their thoughtless comments or flat out shaming/fear-mongering then cause people to want to give up. If anyone seems too steeped in a certain withdrawal/healing dogma that focuses on "you must eat or drink this or you won't heal, or you can't ever do such and such or you won't heal," that is a red flag. Also, those who are only focused on the physiological aspect of our being, with total disregard for the spiritual, are missing a hugely important part of the picture. Thanks so much for the comments, and keep at your own progress!

So glad I found you. So much needed to hear some positive words on this journey. I have been tapering off of benzos for 6 months and listening to many negative stories online. I am almost done... has been tough... but have not and won't quit until I achieve the goal. Thank you for your positive talk.

@TheLovelyGrind

10 ай бұрын

You're doing great. Yes, focus on what you are doing - the success story you are living - and don't worry about the rest. You've come far and will continue the progress. Stay focused on things that encourage and nurture!

Thx. Very helpful and insightful advice. Slow tapering 22 yrs on Xanax.

@TheLovelyGrind

10 ай бұрын

God bless your progress!

I remember people telling me to avoid coffee in withdrawal, and yes at first coffee did amp up my symptoms. But at year 3 coffee started to lift my mood, its been a great help.

@kh3953

11 ай бұрын

I'll cut back but won't discontinue. Coffee helps my mood too. That's my gas for life lol.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Coffee is a nice part of life, glad to hear you are enjoying it again!

I’m always excited to watch 👍🏻 14-15 months off my longterm AD, 36 days more of the K taper :)

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Fantastic progress. Keep it up!

25 years of 75mg Effexor ..dropped it cold turkey…sometime after my birthday of may 7th this year…also a heart attack and three stents with very difficult operation…Im thankful to be alive…what a night mare I’ve went through…still healing…very very slow

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Slow healing is still healing. You've been through a lot. Yes, be grateful, and hopeful for what the future will bring for you. You are alive and have opportunities in front of you. Little by little, keep moving forward!

❤ I have followed you from your first video Michael, and I thank you for your positive and encouraging video. The information you present is always well-thought-out and you have our best interest at heart. Thank you.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

So glad that you continue to find the videos helpful, Peggy! Keep watching and God bless you today!

This page has helped me so much. I was close to being off of them. But life threw me for a loop. I'm back up to 0.75 mg, I think I'm going to hold here for a while. Maybe try again one day. It just helps me so much right now. It is difficult being at these crossroads

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Don't get discouraged, man. Work on other areas of your fitness and wellness right now, and when you're stronger and ready you'll know. Take care today!

@wtbwrites1806

11 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind I appreciate that. Thank you so much

Thank you for another wonderful video, Michael. I am working daily at this!

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

You're very welcome, Chrissy. You're doing good, remember to focus on the signs of your progress (and to stay away from the negativity)!

Yes, yes, yes!!! Thank you!

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

You're very welcome, Julie! Take care today!

I'm finding it so difficult to taper. I don't how how to properly taper. Apparently my GP, who is as addiction specialist, doesn't know how to proper taper me either. Insomnia and headaches are a big part of my problem. I have catastrophic thoughts. You are so right . My negative thoughts and anxiety are destroying me. I take clonazepam as a ritual. I am habitually dependent on clonazepam and am so frightened that, at 74, this process will kill me. Thank you for this video.

@keystoneonyx

11 ай бұрын

There's a manual called "The Ashton manual" it was created by this woman who ran a clinic helping people get off of benzo's. Her guide is available online if you do a search for it. She has a tapering schedule that slowly tit-rates you to something with a longer half life such as Valium. By using a compounding pharmacy, you can slowly lower your benzo dose 1/8th to 1/16th every 2 weeks until you've fully healed. You must use a compounding pharmacy to do this successfully. She helped many people slowly and safely withdraw from benzos. Best of luck to you and hope you have success.

@BirdieHaze2207

11 ай бұрын

The only “experts” in this are the people that go through it.

@ericblair54

11 ай бұрын

@@BirdieHaze2207 Agreed

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Tapering is a challenge no matter how you do it. Try to find ways to focus your thoughts away from worries and toward positive ideas of what the future can look like. People of all ages can and do reduce or get off these medications. One step at a time.

Keep posting these videos. Theyre good and uplifting. Im almost 3.6 years off of antidepressants. I took them 20 years and stpped them in 5 days. Its been tough but your videos keep me going

I’m 4 months into tapering, and it’s completely true. I’ve been having a really bad time since I joined a Facebook group, where everyone is suffering. I know suffering is real, but everything I try to do is bad according to the group. Now I’m scared to do anything, I’m paralyzed and can’t stop thinking that it’ll get harder and worse 😞

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

Pray about everything 🙏

@giuglianavaselli5463

11 ай бұрын

@@aprilhassell1747 I try…

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Sounds like its time to leave that group maybe.

@giuglianavaselli5463

11 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind yes, everyone around me is constantly telling me I should leave the group, I’m definitely better when I don’t see all that stuff. I think I’m still in the group “just in case”, I usually ask myself if something bad happened I could ask someone in the group for advice, even though they are pretty rude. 🤯

@giuglianavaselli5463

11 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind but I must say, when I’m feeling hopeless, I KNOW your videos will make me feel better. So thank you 🙏🏻

Hi Micheal, I’ve been binging your channel and really appreciate your content. I found you yesterday after I realized I was withdrawing from Xanax! I didn’t know I was addicted. My dr has cut me off after of 1mg a day for a year. So I am forced ct. so glad to find your channel and really appreciate how encouraging and supportive you are, there’s a lot of scary withdrawal stories out there, so it’s a comfort to know healing is possible. Did you have experience with insomnia? If you have some tips to deal with that I’d love to know. Thank you 🙏🏼

Hi Michael , Thank you for your the positive content you are doing always. I had few sessions with you during my withdrawal and it was helpful :) Ive been off of a tricyclic antidepressant '' Clomipramine'' since 3 years and 3 months which I consider a big achievement 😊 , well I dont count time anymore to be honest haha. I still have lack of emotions as I still feel like zombie, can't feel love, excitement or positivity, also anhedonia and that makes it difficult for me to meet new people or build new relationships. I still feel all my toughts are consumed by the withdrawal topic and when I feel overwhelmed I start again searching about symptoms which in return gives me more anxiety. Also recently I had some personal issues that gave more anxiety. So my questions: is withdrawal from Tricyclic Antidepressants the same like with any other meds and full healing is still possible? Will emotional blunting, zombie mode and anhedonia ever go away and start feeling a human again? Do you think the remaining symtoms are still withdrawal or side effects as a result of long term use of the drugs? Another question to you if you don't mind, what were your most stubborn symptoms that were the last to go away? and do you think it is a good idea to boycott every withdrwal topic or content and just accept myself the way it is? Thank you again for spreading positivity in this world full of negativity and corrupted medical system.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for checking in, and yes all of that time off the meds is a HUGE achievement. I don't know that I can respond to all of the questions you have here, or give a lot of targeted feedback without more context about what's going on in all aspects of your life at present. But I will say this. Yes, I believe full healing is possible, no matter the type of drug, and yes I would probably at this point (several years off meds), not spend too much time if any looking into withdrawal related topics. Even if there is some lingering withdrawal healing that must happen, it will likely happen more quickly if you spend time simply focused on other self-care and personal/spiritual goals (rather than continually delving back into the topic of withdrawal, which reminds you of past trauma and might bring with it suggestions that are more limited in scope and application). I myself promote lifelong growth and improvement - after a while, you don't have to label what you are going through. Just focus on ways to love yourself and care for yourself, and continue to set goals for yourself - (and keep God in life as you do so). You will see more improvements that way. Take care today!

@rrreeaz7722

11 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind Thank you so much for your reassuring words. Yes you are right, I have to move on with my life and leave this withdrawal experience behind me and use it to grow and be a better version of myself. I hope we can have some sesions in the near future and have a chat .

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

@@rrreeaz7722 Absolutely. You have my email!

I took prozac from the age of 12 to 18. Quit cold turkey because i had no choice. Developed anxiety about 9 years ago. Panic attacks. Diagnosed with ptsd. I caved and got on paxil a year or two ago. A low dose. Tapered off kinda quick. Im over a month off of paxil and im struggling. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy. Im taking lions mane. I like to think its doing something

@TheLovelyGrind

7 ай бұрын

Keep going. Things will get better! Thanks for sharing a bit about your story!

Hey Michael, did you ever have any set backs from pushing yourself early on? I’m 21 months out and went hiking today and now I’m in a bad wave after feeling so much better… insomnia, over stimulated, surges, I’m hyper aware of everything and cycling racing thoughts. My anxiety (chemical) is through the roof and creating so much fear from the wired brain feeling and insomnia. Praying this is minor and I will bounce back fast!

@0827tt5xc

8 ай бұрын

Hey how are you doing? We used to talk on Instagram about our adverse reactions but I see you deleted your account & also never get on the surving antidepressants forum anymore. I too am still going through it. I too am also curious about exercise as it’s good for our brains & neruoplasticy but it seems our nervous system still can’t handle it?? & a wave comes right after when I tried to walk 30min each day. I’m almost 19 months out now so I’m right behind you.

@user-ww5ui4fd9n

8 ай бұрын

@@0827tt5xchey there! I’m 22 months out and doing a lot better! Having more “normal days” than bad but the bad days are still hard and there’s a lot of ptsd I’m trying to work through. Yes, my system is still very sensitive and I can’t work out or go on walks without getting everything revved up. I tried ibuprofen for the 1st time in almost 2 years and had a short setback so I know my system is no where near healed. It sucks! I got off the forums because it does nothing but keeps you in a dark place and there is never any positive out of it. I find it hard to “move on” and heal if you’re constantly surrounding yourself with suffering. I’m not sure if we will ever be back to where we were but I pray God will see us through. I lean on his word every day. Things started to really Shift at/around 19 months for me! Keep going, you got this!!

So worried my emotional blunting is permanent. During the past 13 months of my withdrawal I've probably only had a total of about 10 hours of being able to feel joy, excitement, etc without the help of any substance. Do you think there's a good chance my positive emotions will return? The DPDR, intrusive thoughts, and social anxiety have all majorly subsided recently but I'm left feeling like a robot.

@MatejXOXO

11 ай бұрын

Hey, not really related to your specific problem, but some things take longer to return to normal. For example, my libido was shut off for at least 16 months. Today at 24 months off paxil I'm happy to say it's back. I still have a way to go regarding other symptoms but it does get better. Stay strong and keep going.

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Yes, I do think there is a fantastic chance that those positive emotions will return. That was a huge struggle for me in my first year off Paxil as well, but it does get better. Try to exercise, get yourself around good people, and force yourself to do activities that you "used to" enjoy, as well as to make plans for what you'd like to do with your future. Even if this stuff feels like just going through the motions now, it will help, as will time. Keep at it!

@rrreeaz7722

11 ай бұрын

@@MatejXOXO I still have isues with libido after 3 years off of an antidepressant in addition to lack of emotions and anhedonia. I'm not sure if that's still related to withdrawal after that long time after stopping or it's my anxiety that's causing it. was your improvement gradual or sudden if I may ask you? and did you have emotional numbness?

@MatejXOXO

11 ай бұрын

@@rrreeaz7722 sorry to hear that. This game of withdrawal is unpredictable. Yes, my progress was gradual. I didn't have problems with emotional numbness - in fact, exactly the opposite. I was overemotional, ready to cry at every occasion. Hopefully you see some progress soon in regards to that.

@aprilhassell1747

11 ай бұрын

​@rrreeaz7722 praying for you♡

Your videos give me peace. I jumped off xanax two weeks ago after tapering for 6 months. But my symptoms increased intensily after coming off. Severe anxiety, fainting type feeling, balance issues, dizziness etc are making it difficult to pull. when I watch your videos, I get all the positivity. Do these symptoms fade away with time? Please respond

@TheLovelyGrind

10 ай бұрын

Yes they do. Be patient. Two weeks off is great, but short-time in the big scheme of things. Things will settle down with time. Be patient with your progress, and know that every day is moving you forward.

@angel_2022M

10 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind thanks a lot for giving me hope and strength to pull through this horrible times. You are always so helpful. Do the symptoms may first increase after coming off? as in my case?

@TheLovelyGrind

10 ай бұрын

@@angel_2022M yes

@angel_2022M

10 ай бұрын

@@TheLovelyGrind thanks for replying. Your videos on benzo withdrawal are full of positivity and hope for better life.

@angel_2022M

10 ай бұрын

​@@TheLovelyGrind Now it's about 3 weeks since I am off xanax, initial two weeks were really hell but I was hoping to get better with time. 3 days ago, due to the iching problem, I applied candid b cream ( betamethasone,a steroid) over my neck area( I applied it 3 times) since then, I am feeling terrible dizziness, severe anxiety, fainting feeling, blurry vision, couldn't read at all, spinning type feeling etc . Do you think that using topical steroids can increase the symptoms? Will they stabilize with time? I am so scared and frustrated.

Thank u!

@TheLovelyGrind

11 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

I've no choice, Mylan the company that manufactures Flurazepam/ Dalmane, Discontinued Flurazepam. I was taking 4 - 30 mlgs of Flurazepam. When i heard they were discontinued, i went from 4 Flurazepam 30 -mlgs to 1 - 30 mlgs. I feel brutal! I'm on them for 24 years. The doctor gave me Zolnods, no use my breathing was shallow, then they gave me, Zopiclone, still felt poxy! I still have 86 - 30mlgs of flurazepam tablets left! I bought them off my cousin. WTF! Will i do when they are all Gone! And being from the republic of Ireland it's impossible to get any. I rang up Hundreds of pharmacies, and They Gave the Same answer, they are out of stock. Mylan should of warned people about the discontinuation of Flurazepam. I'm screwed! Big Pharma Don't Help! Just Like the Quacks in this country.!!!

@dmaraj007

10 ай бұрын

Have you found any alternative meds?